Many times people who are dating their avoidant partners are blindsided by their partners when they shut down. They may be so gobsmacked that this person has been feeling uncertainty for a brewing relationship for a while yet they don’t often have the skill set for communicating this to their partners.
Whilst their brains often involuntarily shut down, they are still responsible for what happens after the fact. Many of them know that something is wrong with their minds and many will try to deny that they have a problem and will project it on to their partner. Others will recognise that they have an issue but their brains are very good at rationalising their way out of a relationship and it’s almost impossible arguing with them in the height of their anxiety.
At the end of the day, it is their responsibility to seek help and to overcome their anxiety over commitment and intimacy. Even though this process might limit their executive functioning and cause them to behave badly, it’s not an excuse to leave hurt people in their wake.
Much of the time, avoidant attachers know exactly what they’re doing when they create distance from people they’re seeing so one of the bravest things they can do is be humble enough to own their deactivation strategies.
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26 июн 2024
