"Never Seen Something So Horrendous" Brutal Feedback Affects Bride Confidence | Say Yes To The Dress 

@@noamergi1464 oh wow! Thanks for the fun fact!

You can still say 'laid' "ugly" in French.

@@noamergi1464 Uh? I'm french canadian, and seriously I've never heard unpretty before and it's not something that any of us would have the reflex to say. The word ugly is way more well-known, everyone knows it. Still, unpretty was a nice way to put it.

@@ndisfoshiz French is my first language and that's not true lol

@@Evy2526 Same.. I agree lol

It's really a matter of designers. Sometimes they don't make some dress designs in all sizes. You can see a picture from a dress that won't be availible in your size. Most of the time it's because they are made for a specific silhouette and body shape. Finding the right designer for you with the style you like can be very complicated.

Agreed. Wedding dress shopping was a horrible experience for me. I went to 3 different shops and left empty handed feeling like a deformed Troll.

Agreed. She has a beautiful & healthy figure, so double disheartening. Shouldn’t “Sample Size” be a national average at the very least?

They bloody should!!

She'd a killer body ?

I hate that dude lmao

even if he was the one marrying her, it wouldn't have been appropriate

Friends don't let friends wear ugly dresses.

@@CATsissta same here 😐

@@maiaallman4635 the dress wasnt ugly he just didnt like the fact she likes to show skin

Yeah, I just feel like the style she was going for doesn't fit her, like the mermaidy thing (idk what exactly it's called) The issue is that she if focused way too much on hiding her insecurities, instead of focusing what actually suits well with her hips and enhances them 😐 But hell making fun of her won't help with that

I think if you are paying for your wedding dress you buy the dress that you love and don't even think about no one's opinion after all it will be you waking down that aisle in the beautiful gown that you picked out

@@brathwaitelisa that is true but many people doesn't see it that way they want everyones approval and then complaints because they didn't wear what they want, that have this as a very sentimental family issue and it shouldn't be like that because many relatives are just control freaks and don't really think about the bride's or even the couple's happiness even if you don't pay for the dress that is not a reason to control the bride's preferences right?

Legiit, that first girl is drop dead gorgeous, she looked stunning in every single one of those dresses and i cannot believe the audacity of her sister and friend to talk like that to her.

@@Crow23346 her family acts awfully here

Ya it was a genius tactic that payed off

Right?!!

Yeah I had to do that too... I don't always know what I like, but I am pretty confident with what I don't lol

when i was looking for a wedding dress that was exactly what i did... just said i don't want short, one shoulder, strapless or ballgown. so we narrowed the choices a lot. it's the smartest thing to do.

Haha yess

Right?! :/

I thought the same thing! That was 100% on the consultant

agreed, it's just a sample size it doesn't have to close

@@shireads2954 And also when the bride then said move onto another dress, the consultant just didn't look like she gave a crap about the bride at all, her feelings, her journey here, especially after her already saying like 4 times how conscious she is of her hips!

I agree 1000% My granny would’ve died of a heart attack if I had walked out in that Pnina! I mean seriously DEAD. Right there in the store. 😳

That dress is appropriate for a strip club, not a woman's wedding. Are you insane?

@@paulascott5701 that is your opinion and that is fine, but not everyone feels the way you do.

@@paulascott5701 shut up

@@paulascott5701 it’s not your wedding, it’s hers. if she’s happy what does it matter? stop being so judgemental

@@gracestjean I have every right to an opinion. That is the sleaziest wedding dress I have ever seen. It makes a mockery of the ceremony.

She especially loved the see-through though. It looked tacky as hell.

I actually thought her sister was very supportive. I would much rather shop with people who are honest, and they were both honest about the dresses while remaining positive toward the bride. What is the point of bringing other people if you don’t want feedback on the dresses?

They weren’t one iota brutal. Yeesh.

They weren’t brutal, but maybe they could’ve pointed out that second dress made her figure look amazing! A little sugar helps the medicine go down better.

They weren't brutal at all. "Why are you naked?" was a perfectly appropriate question. It opened her eyes to the foolishness that was that dress. That wasn't sexy, that was trashy.

On one hand I think you’re right, on the other hand I’m pretty confident It’s partly scripted. I find It almost impossible to her to so upset with dress not fitting when she’s an average size. Does she never go shopping or sth. I'm size S or XS but even I find clothes that are too small sometimes

@@everythingsfinett3903 i disagree because no matter what size someone is you can always feel discouraged and self conscious if something you like a lot doesn’t fit. she also pointed out how she felt like her butt didn’t look right and how she felt that she had a belly, she was uncomfortable in the dress.

@@everythingsfinett3903 as someone who is EU womens size M/L or 36/38 (and somehow still fits in children size 170/176, which should be more around 34) most things that don’t fit me are children sizes (yes I can still wear the S, XS and XXS shirts, not pants because I got hips and thighs, in fact I got this cute turtleneck sweater which apparently is an XXS and fits me with room to spare…)

@@everythingsfinett3903 nah no matter who you are you can still be self conscious about your body. Your thinking is really dangerous.

@@everythingsfinett3903 Partly? Kleinfeld gets a greater commission with one designer over another. The first one was pretty but the consultant didn't do her right.

Many people feel better, if people give them their honest opinion. That is why they bring second, third and fourth opinions on the shopping trip. Honestly, that is much better than everyone tittering at the wedding, as bad as it may seem. If a bride doesn't care about anyone's opinion, she will just buy the dress she wants anyway.

It depends on your personality. Not everyone wants to be surrounded by Yes Men. Part of the value of having contrary opinions is it can help you broaden your perspective. You don't have to let it completely change how you feel or what you believe and I never got that vibe from her, seems like they were used to him being opinionated and it was an ongoing joke to them. I would personally rather someone was honest and it helped me in some way than pretend they felt something they didn't because they thought I didn't have the strength to handle it. Who knows what their friendship is like? Maybe she likes that about him.

If we’re best friends ima tell you straight up if something your wearing is ugly (if you ask) if you don’t ask I’ll stay quiet. There’s ways to go about it in a nicer way obviously. Literally went to the mall with my gay Bestfriend yesterday, he picked out a fur lined coat he liked and I just straight up said no. He asked why (Key part) and I told him, “too long, washes your skin out and makes you look like a woman, if you’re going to pay $200+ at least make sure you look amazing” I picked out a dark dark navy neck fur coat and an olive green coat that he absolutely fell in love with as soon as he tried them on. And he looks bomb. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I guess it all depends on how close you are that you can just straight up say what your thinking

@@melanie3247 As long as they ask for an opinion it's fine. A lot of people like reassurance. If you do it in any other situation you'll just come across as an asshole

@@melere777 I understand that but I always feel that family/friends can be so bitchy. It is possible to say it is not flattering without causing the bride to cry.

You shouldn't be embarrassed about buying a dress 3 sizes bigger then you wear. Who cares what size it is. First off, you're not three sizes bigger, and if it looks great that's all that matters. I take a size 6 in Jean's, well ,once they turned everything into the skinny jeans, and I couldn't get regular Jean's anymore, I take a 11 in one style, and 13 in another. Doesn't matter. I'm still the same size.

What I don't understand is, regardless what size a bride usually wears, if the consultants know bridal samples are "cut really small", why do they try to force the bride into a sample in her regular dress size, which will almost certainly be too small for her? Just fetch the next size up and then maybe there won't be the whole "Ooh it won't zip" drama, making the poor bride feel fat when she's not.

We use vanity sizing now, as in the average size of women has gone up, so they make the sizes bigger as well so we don't all feel like we're whales and the very slim girls now have 00 sizes. The bridal industry has not followed suit, so while Marilyn Monroe's 12 is more like today's 8, it's still a bridal 12. Wedding dresses are simply not changing with the trends. Just like if you buy a dressmaking pattern, you can't go with your high street size. You will end up making a dress that's far too small.

Along with what others have said, bridal gowns fit a much smaller range of measurements then street clothes. A size medium shirt has to fit many different body shapes and a range of sizes. Wedding gowns are based on your bust, waist, and hip measurements, and depending on the style you must use the biggest measurement and alter down the rest. For example, if you want a mermaid style and your waist and hips fit an 8, but your bust is a 10, you have to go with the 10. Size is a number that only you know unless you tell everyone. However, if you buy a dress "true to size", they will notice how ill fiting it is.

Gok wan in England knows exactly what suits brides shape and he has lovely dresses too. There is a shop dedicated to all sizes in Lancashire some beautiful dresses..

I just think it’s because the models that wear them are a size 0 or 2. Which is still a problem today. At least at stores like this. Smaller bridal branches have more sample sizes for everyone. When I got my bridal dress, it had my size in everything, which is a size 10 to 12. I agree with you 100% about everything!

They are trying on Samples. Samples in the clothing industry are usually a Size 8 (Australian). Shoes are a size 6½ (Australian). They are standard throughout the industry.

Fatphobia

It was literally said that the artist/designer cuts small so no shit it fits only small sized women.

For smaller size they need to use less fabric, so producing samples is cheaper.

In the same what a waste of money

Am glad someone mentioned it

Absolutely! When you think about what $10k could have bought!

If the person is so rich it would be like us spending 1 cent, then it is justified.

@@barbarahedges1791 she said she was saving money.

in this case, it was more to lose than to have.

and she’s so beautiful!

Amen. She’s lovely

I thought the same! Seems like she has a tranquil personality!

Down south Gals are usually more bubbly and humble.. 😊😊

She's a Southern Belle.

I know right! I was just gonna say it , it's absolutely gorgeous!!

youre kidding me. it was ugly and trashy

@@buzzyso never heard a different opinion before eh ? #calmdown

@@buzzyso you must be mad you wouldn’t look half as good as her

@@buzzyso I agree. It was awful.

a wedding ceremony is a public performance, a ceremony for society, so it's not something you "do for yourself". So you are already lying to yourself. Secondly, this bride who seriously wants to wear a hooker dress is in dire need of counselling.

Agreed naptown. Unfortunately some woman don't have a mind of their own and rely on validation or approval from others. So sad. But that's life it seems ....at least on these shows

@@reginakniprode246 Absolutely nothing wrong with a sexy dress, if that is what makes you feel good. Also it is NOT a public event, it is your wedding and you should dress how you please. If someone else doesn't like your dress - hard luck.

@@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat Some women are not sociopaths who make their brainwash their personal style and ruthlessly enforce it. Values are important to some women. They weigh up whether what is sold to them as sexy and hip is really worth making a fool of themselves.

@@reginakniprode246 The dress that YOU WEAR is entirely for you and no one else. A WEDDING is by invitation so NOT a public event OTHERWISE anyone can join.

Her hair is awesome!

She is adorable. Seems like she'd be an awesome friend.

All three of these sisters are so pretty, their mom is too. Good gene pool! Handsome groom!

Right! Pretty and having such a sweet personality🥰

Shame about the 1983 hairstyle though 🤣🤣

You think our accents are beautiful??? First time I hear that about the Québec accent in english.

​@@milo_7294 the Québec accents are beautiful

it was really unfortunate that her supporters were tearing her down instead of building her up. I thought she looked stunning

Yes, absolutely she was stunning! But aren't we all our own worst audience at that age? When I was in my 20's my figure was (looking back at pictures) absolutely perfect! But back then I only looked at the things that were in my eyes 'not good enough'. I'm 41 now, gained a massive amount of weight due to health issues, but my mindset is different so I am more happy in my skin then I was back then. What I've learned is that it's not about the number on the scale or distance on a measuring tape. The first lady in this video could have been twice that size and still look beautiful ♥

If trying on a dress destroys your confidence... seek a therapist immediately.

@@Perfeccionista89 When you're comfortable about your size, but then go on to try a dress you think is beautiful and the person has to wrestle with the zipper to close it up, im quite sure you would be insecure.

@@mmiaxyz Absolutely not. I'm very secure. My tummy is bigger than this woman's one. I wear it loud and proud. When you're confident, you'll will get it. Don't let the industry profit off your insecurities and put you down.

The first bride was defeated in her head, before she came.

@@Perfeccionista89 not everybody is you though.

I agree

Yeah, I can't believe she left without her dress. She looked amazing in the 2nd one and the 1st one never should have been forcefully shoved on her by the consultant The sister and friend sounded jealous!

Yes but it's a bit staged, he's supposed go be the gay "sassy" friend

What is that?

I find that not traditional dresses make the bride stand out!

I agree. It wasn't even that revealing, wearing low rise pants and a crop top like the current trends would be more revealing. I found it elegant

But the second dress was GEORGES on her

I agree! Preferably, I wouldn't want the cut off that is at the hip but it fade into the dress which is just my preference, but oml ma'am looked gorgeous.

my dress was super super low cut and had vs on the sides. it was a princess cut and I felt like a sexy princess. it doesn't matter what anyone else felt about my dress lol

Yeah no one does it like the Atlanta crew 🥰

No I adore randy but yeah the way this version is produced is very professional and curt. With the Atlanta version they got to have more freedom I think because it’s a spin-off

The consultant should have put a panel and clips instead of making the girl feel fat by working on the zipper for so long

@@shireads2954 yeah, I'm sure it's staged/edited for TV but the consultant seemed really unprofessional. Tugging at it and yelling "I know it'll go"? I would have felt humiliated too, and wanted to get out of the situation. Shame because it was a gorgeous dress

I just don't like lingerie being worn as a wedding dress.

@@saradecapua3264 it’s not a lingerie.

I've seen many of her dresses but haven't liked a single one. I prefer something a bit more modest. She's a little trashy for me.

Why did they not offer to line it?

@@angelbulldog4934 don’t say trashy, just say unique.

More expensive can mean more tacky details. Less is more sometimes. But not too much, or it looks cheap.

It would be soooo much nicer if there was a lining.

Yes, cheap and tacky should not be the look a bride wants to go for on her Wedding Day.

💯

Second dress on the second bride was drop dead gorgeous

Same. I hate the Panini dresses with a vigor and not just because of how they look. Unfortunately 'overpricing makes more desirable' works quite well as a marketing-tool. Which is basically taking an advantage of people with low self-esteem. In my eyes that should be restricted by law.

It's her day. If she wants to spend $50000 then so be it. Her money, her budget, her day

@@Reese493 they're saying that just because a budget is 10k doesn't mean the dress has to be spot on 10k, you could find the perfect dress for 4k but not show it because it's not close enough to 10k for their commission. Shop for the bride not commission

@@amemelia then that's the assistant's fault, not the bride. The og commenter is blaming the bride,"the first bride should have left her options open."

@@Reese493 I'm not blaming the bride. She came in with a set idea of what she wanted based on magazine photos. She left because her vision didn't match her body or personality. It had nothing to do with her budget but it had everything to do with her mindset. The second bride had a larger budget than the dress she finally chose. The difference between the two is that the second bride allowed room for suggestions and guidance. The first did not.

I think it's ridiculous to pay $10k for a dress you wear one day for a few hours. Spend it on furniture, part of a down payment on a house, put it in the bank, etc.

We don’t have that culture in Quebec of parents paying for a wedding. The couple getting married pay for everything, so I definitely think she did save up the $10,000 herself.

The size of the sample is determined by the designer who sends it to the store. It isn't to the store's decision.

@Be yup. they are. They are supposed to clip it. If I was the sales rep and I knew that was the exact dress she wanted from that particular designer I would’ve told her look don’t worry about the fact that it’s not fitting perfectly because nine times out of 10 the dress doesn’t fit perfectly because it’s a sample, and you’re not a mannequin. Let’s just clip it. I would have told her how amazing she looks because she did, and encouraged her to go outside and show her family. she looked dropdead gorgeous in the dress that she originally wanted.

I wasn't crazy about that consultant

Also, if she's saved 10g for this dress that probably took a long time. She probablt had a strong idea of how she wanted to feel . Why not go the gym for a few years if your willing to save for years?

because it's expensive to stock extra dresses or samples use more fabric and are less likely to sell.

@@LS-im6uc Some women can't get down to a size 0 without being seriously underweight. In spite of what the Duchess of Windsor famously said, you *can* be too thin. Medically underweight is a real thing. So are physical disabilities.

Unless they are getting massive discounts for all those dresses, that’s just not happening.

Exactly, they rope you into and alteration already because they don’t have average sizes, that first woman just had some booty and poor girl felt too big after.

Bingo! My thoughts precisely.

I have yet to see a mermaid style dress that I like.

@@saradecapua3264 Same here

Agree. Her entourage were not on the same page with the bride. I do think they were right though. That dress and shape did not suit her. You have to have a very specific shape to properly pull off a mermaid look.

The mermaid shape complements curvy hips. Feeling self-conscious about a body part doesn't mean you have to hide it!

I don’t think it was necessarily that. The bride basically said she liked everything which is too general to pull dresses. The reason she put her in that first dress was to help narrow down aspects of the dress that she did like so moving forward the next options would be more what the bride wanted. That being said the consultant could have just asked more questions like what do you want to feel like or whats your vision or the vibe of the wedding

@@kjmontrope The problem with asking those questions is the bride still doesn't know how she feels in those items, she can't picture it. Putting her in a dress with everything was what helped them narrow it down to the point they literally got it right next dress. She also didn't say 'no to beading' she said she likes a little beading, she liked everything she said.

I have to agree with them. A slight move and you'd be seeing things you shouldn't be showing in a wedding or in public, come to that. If it was lined, it would be pretty but unlined screamed stripper pole rather than wedding.

@@ChrisAndCats isn't a wedding supposed to the happiest time in person life I don't recall it being something to please other people's tastes and opinions

Yes, it screamed confidence like a cheap nightclub outfit that you laugh about later on in life seeing pictures from your wild party years. What is more, the bride clearly had body insecurities and was trying to over-compensate with this kind of dress. Her friends seem to know her enough to question her motives and love her enough to try to prevent her from making an awful choice. It's not like they are calling her ugly, just the dress that is making her look bad.

@@shadowreaper3562 in theory yes, however it isn't generally a time to show off parts that are usually reserved for private!

@@shadowreaper3562 Then don't bring people dress shopping. Why have your friends there if not to help you find a dress that suits you? Good friends tell you the truth, and they did... that dress was terrible.

You might enjoy Curvy Bride’s Boutique. Two ladies specializing in plus size bridal.

Exactly after seeing all this and MANY episodes similar to this from Say Yes To The Dress, I would go by myself too to get pick my wedding dress.

BEST COMMENT EVER!!!

Friends don’t let friends buy the wrong dress without letting them know. The first dress was horrible - Cabaret swimsuit was the perfect description

@@katarinawikholm5873 the bride's happiness is what matters. If she wants to get married in the nude, they need to support her, or stay at home. There's enough stress going on. Her friend was just being negative. It's the bridal party's job to keep rainbows and sunshine in the brides life during her wedding. If you get what I mean. Not to bring her down.

@@jenniferspencer6454 She can be happy and be married in the nude If she wants. That’s part of being a bride. But she still needs to be told she looks like 💩 and not like a 👰‍♀️ If that is the case. Friends do not lie to friends.

@@katarinawikholm5873 it doesn't matter if anyone else doesn't like her look. Her happiness is all that matters. It's her wedding. If they don't like it, they don't need to look or participate.

I disagree. She brought them to the fitting to help her decide. She wants their opinion. Thank God they were truthful with that see through dress. It was hideous. Why bother going to the fitting with her, if you're not going to tell her the truth. Isn't that the point?

I don't know this show. Do they only get to try on a limited number of dresses? I was hoping they would look at some more and I feel they would eventually find something that would satisfy them all... But I guess maybe the bride was not in the mood anymore...? Still, I feel if they tried a couple more after that third one, it's possible her spirits could be lifted back up, enough to forget how down she felt with the reaction to the see-through one. In any case, I would also disagree about 'if you see she likes it but you don't, be quiet'. Or something like that. 🤪 You're not really being a friend if you see something off and you keep quiet about it. Think of it this way: if the sister and the close friend has that reaction to the dress, then it's probably not far off to expect that other wedding guests (family and friends) would have a similar reaction when they see her. Maybe not all, but some probably would. And I think that's what the sister tried to say, though she maybe worded it differently or incompletely... She said I wonder what you would feel at the day of the wedding. In other words perhaps I wonder what you would feel on that day when people see you, or when you see people look at you...

@@suepost9026 Really, what they're there for is emotional support. Everyone's taste is different- I'd rather the bride get something she enjoyed wearing but maybe I wasn't so keen on than something I liked and she wasn't comfortable in. Again, it's about reading the room; sometimes you just have to have tact. No point breaking the bride's heart over a dress she loves because I don't like it when I'm not the one who has to wear it. And even if it's really bad, there's better ways to bring it up than the way some on the show go about it.

I also thought she looked amazing in the see-through dress, which surprised me as I usually do think it looks slutty. But, to me, she pulled it off in a beautiful classy way that I don't usually see. Because usually the brides attracted to those dresses look fake from head to toe, but because she looks naturally beautiful from head to toe, great body, natural hair, face, etc, to me, that was her dress. I don't know why the consultants didn't stand up for her more and also, her entourage needs to get that this is her wedding, not theirs.

@@jujubeethatsme I know, right? She looked so elegant! I don't see how her companions could see her so happy and just shoot it down like that.

It's sad because I paid an arm and a leg for a fabulous Swarovski statement necklace and now I have nowhere to wear it and it is gorgeous.

@@saradecapua3264 nowhere to wear it? wear it wherever you want you just need the confidence

@@saradecapua3264 Maybe you don't know how to style it? Try to dress it down and you could wear it on a daily basis by pairing it with a white t-shirt, jeans and nice shoes. Hair up and fresh face. Good Handbag and you're done. Just a suggestion. Or what's the matter?

Was it 10 years ago. Oh dear. And I have just brought one. 😂

@@saradecapua3264 I have brought one too. Absolutely gorgeous. And actually plan on wearing it on every available opportunity, even a trip to the local supermarket will suffice.

That is cheap for a Pnina dress.

@@arribaficationwineho32 Most of the time the craftmanship of the weavers, seamstresses, lacemakers and embroiders isn't valued enough. Sadly people shop for dresses like for junk food.

@@retineshilares2497 You pay for what you want and get. This dress is worn for a few hours, and that's it. Lots of fuss for something that is bagged/boxed and probably never looked at again.

I'm amazed too...I don't personally like it.

I agree completely!

It’s only those thing depending on your tax bracket unfortunately 🤷🏾‍♀️ if her dress was 10k I’m sure her wedding was a quarter mill

@@alexajay6896 That's a whole house, not just a down payment! Plus, I've seen a lot of people (friends, family, etc. get married, and in general the ones who threw the biggest, glitziest weddings had the shorter, less happy marriages.

Her money

It was a gorgeous corset style and she looked beautiful in it

I was thinking the same thing. I would straight up ask the bride well where's the dress?

Benoit is horrible