No Mercy! If She Flakes On You DO THIS 

Realistically, any woman who wants a man won't flake, and if she cancels, she will do the most to make it up to you. When she cancels, she will apologize and make several offers to reschedule. If shes not doing this, she doesn't want you. If she doesnt want you, let her wander. Find a woman who does want you.

She flakes on you? Be happy! Thank the universe. Seriously. She filtered herself out. Imagine investing time, money, build something, or even get her pregnant and later finding out she is a flaker!? You would be is some serious trouble. You dodged a bullet, she spared you of herself.

When I was dating, I would always take girls to a pool hall for a date. That way if she didn't show up I still got to play some pool. If she was late, I didn't notice I was busy playing pool.

The worst thing is thinking that is your fault. Flaking on you is not your fault!!

Women have endless amount of options to choose from. No point in trying to reschedule after she flakes unless she offers a counter day. Remember if a woman really desires you she’ll make TIME FOR YOU

ok but the fact that you sent pictures with another girl back to her is kind of iconic and hilarious 😂😂😂

Narcisstic women don’t feel nothing.

When they say they’re busy that’s only a front. It can be those 3 things 1.She wants you to pursue her. 2. She wants to raise her value by appearing « busy ». 3. Her interest is not high enough to go on a date with you yet. Everybody has free time it’s only a front guys.

Everyone who is flaky, shows lack of respect for your time. Not only women. Put the ball in their court and be willing to walk away. If she contacts you, make no effort to go on flashy dates.

Never give a woman the opportunity to flake on you twice. Counter-offers maybe but on her dime not mine.

Regarding the first example, I was literally just about to say the same thing while i was watching the vid... and then alex said it first... ‘If she flakes on you, she just done you a favour’ This is exactly why i watch your content. You literally speak my mind and what i already know so well in almost every video. I wish you so much more subscribers man... But yeah its true. If a girl flakes you on a first date, return the favour by forgetting she exists. Not out of malice or spite at all. But simply to show her that she isnt the only one whose valuable. Regardless of her being the female and having more dating options because of the way our society is structured around men chassing women and not the other way round. If she flakes on you. She done you the ultimate favour by showing you with her actions that shes a rubbish girl. She just saved you a world of bs. now keep it moving to the next chick and forget about it. Youre a man. You dont have a body clock that expires in your 30’s. So you have waaaaaaayyy more time to enjoy the dating world than a woman ever will. Embrace that, and enjoy your gift. Move on to the next girl.

Text her this: Why didnt you come? You dont care about me? Because i really care about you, and i really want to be with you, because i like you so much. ---Rejection guaranteed LOL

As a woman, it's honestly shocking and embarrassing, that a video like this has to be made. What happened to common courtesy?? Its just plain rude to flake people, no matter who you are. Texting people isnt hard jesus.

If she flakes she's done, don't try to spend time with someone who doesn't show by her ACTIONS that she wants to spend time with you. Simply ghost her and move on.

It's telling how they always look at each other before answering. You will never get an honest answer on any question while another woman is around.

The current dating culture is the real problem and as long as you participate in it, you are part of that problem.

I'm very glad to have seen this now. I have currently landed myself in a position where I am finding myself consistently asking a girl to hang out with no reciprocation so far. I had a great first date with an old love interest which seemed promising, and it's been about a week & a half, and she has been claiming that she's busy since then. ( I have asked to make plans 3 times so far ) I feel very much like asking her straightforward whether or not she wants to continue so I can move on, but after seeing this I think I'm going to leave it be. I have been placed at a position that isn't worth recovering from because it would end in a relationship I'm not happy with. Thank you for your content, Alexander, I recommend you to all of my friends.

A female will often put you on her options list, even when she's currently in a relationSHIT. Their goal is to Trade up but if you leave her then she just checks her list. This is why females seem to have moved on so quickly, it wasn't luck it was planned

if she flakes i'll put the ball in their court and send a text saying "no worries, let me know when youre free" and then go on about life dating other women. if shes genuinley interested she'll get back, if not then youre already on to other girls anyway so no biggie. Never get angry, some girls get a rise out of that.

"Walk like a man, talk like a man. Walk like a man my son. No woman's worth crawling on the Earth, so walk like a man my son." -The four seasons

When a girl cancels on me, I ghost them right away even after we had a few dates. I move on quick and they beg for me back. I still don’t give in. Too bad, no time for low quality women.

That "How are you going to make it up to me " got a reply of "Don't contact me again "

The woman that gives her phone number (without intention for the dating) does that for Validation purposes. The more texts she get, the more she is satisfie, as in her mind she thinks being a higher number - this is validation.

This guy is like a low budget Jordan Peterson .

I could have learned this way earlier. I've done all the wrong strategies which led to my loss of the high quality woman I met before. It was a big pain in the ass but it eventually led me to watch this kind of content. We are now awaken. Just move on. Thank you very much.

He's spot on. My g/f was jokingly talking about Valentines Day, more or less setting it up like it's a day all about her. I replied with, "you better not forget my special day, i expect rose petals leading up to a bathtub." it easily shifts the power dynamic back in your court, but she's too busy laughing to notice that she's been put on notice.

This is totally true!! When you ask "how you can make it up to me" totally works guys. Try it and you will immediately know whether it's the right girl or not

One or two hours before the date send her a text like "See you in an hour :)". If she doesn't respond she is probably going to flake on you and you can save yourself the time of going to the date location.

This is so true, I had a friend who accepted every date offer, then went through the list to decide who was the best she wanted to go with. She even asked me to call some back to tell her she was sick, which I declined to do, it was her mess.

She wants you to submit to her power, yet she wants you to be powerful. She's irreconcilably conflicted, and she doesn't even know it.

My wife canceled on me on our 3rd date. She admitted she really liked me and was scared. I just responded with " O.K." After about 30 minutes she said she regretted it and rescheduled. Been together ever since. ;-)

It’s disengenuine to just be fun cause it’s not authentic. The sexual marketplace has become a game. Control is good, but in the long run it will not work and will be stressful to have to always hide Your true feelings. Congruency is my path’

Women smiling and laughing when their game is uncovered and men know their game.

I take the advice of my hero DOC LOVE. He always says If she cancels and doesn't give you a counter offer its low interest on her part. I simply say "no worries lets just do it some other time" this is vague and leaves you as a man with self control "have a good night" erase the number and never ever ever......call her again. If only i knew this stuff in my teens, but like most males we were lied to by our family, friends, female friends about what women truly want and how to properly handle them.

If this is was a guy who flakes women be like “oh my God I can’t believe he just stood me up”

lol I know its ultra petty but I had one girl flake on me and I got her back in jerk way. She was super hot and kinda arrogant so I knew what I was getting into. She texted and flaked some excuse so I rescheduled and she agreed for some reason but the second time, yep you guessed it she just didn't show and then texted 30 minutes later about some problem. I didn't bother to respond. Then one day she shows up at my place of work looking for a job. She never saw me but I politely told the hiring manager what happened and what kind of person she was. She smiled and let me throw away her resume. Man it was petty but it felt good. She never knew but still.

I've been flaked on, and cancelled on. I always tell 'em, "Ok, on to plan "C." 😂🤣😂🤣😂✌🐸

I’ve tested the “how are you going to make it up to me many times over the year”. It doesn’t work. the best thing to do with flakes is to delete their information and move on. Don’t waste a second more of your time for someone who doesn’t respect you or your time

If you're the foreman at a job site and the new guy doesn't show up or keeps giving you excuses, would you tolerate it? Would you expect his behavior to get any better if he did continue to work for you? No? Okay, now just apply this toward women...

Has anyone ever noticed that the only girls who are flakey are skinny 20 year olds, like the two girls in video. 30 and 40 year olds never flake on you because they hit the wall and lost all their dating Power.

Just delete and move on...

It's a shame women just can't be upfront. If you don't want to date us, just say so. Be upfront and honest about it. We'll get the message and leave you alone and move on. But no....it's just cowardly mindgames because too many people are just afraid to be decisive and honest. Things would be easier for us all if more women would stop with the weak excuses and just say "No" every once in a while.

I had a date once : the girl sent me a mssage 2 hours after the time of date. She said : sorry, I could not came. Yes, indeed, I noticed that because I was there.

if she flakes without explanation,she"s out,number deleted,flaking shows emotional immaturity,not the type of woman anyone should want to date,if she justifies it,one more chance,but only one,there is always another girl

if she flakes you don't do anything, no messaging, no calling...just give her the code of silence and move on. She doesn't even deserve your words!

Okay, honestly.. I have a lot of experience and telling her "how are you gonna make it up to me? :)" mostly results in her telling you "uhm.. idk", "excuse me.. I don't owe you anything?" or no reply at all. true, some girls respond with "i'll buy you a drink" or something like that, but most of the time they act like your're a needy/rude guy if you say that.

Merry Christmas Alexander, keep up the great content throughout 2020 an beyond. Cheers

In short: Respect yourself. You don't invest time & energy into people who are not interested in being with you.

Anyone who you have to play games with is not worth it. If you're hurt and she hurt you, it's ok to say it. If she can't handle it, too bad. You cant play games for your whole relationship. Be honest and str8 forward. It's how you're going to be in your regular day to day life anyway with her. Always present who you are. You don't want them getting attached to a fake illusion that you can't sustain or can't consistently be. It just validates their eventual complaint that you've changed or aren't the same or whatever. If she's sorry and likes you, she either won't act that way, or will actually be apologetic. If not - NEXT

It's worse when you drive twenty miles to a girl's house for the second date and she won't come to the door. Frankly, I should have taken her to small claims court for gas money.

Wow this vid is actually so good and needed for so many men, not just to help them with how to act but the mindset it can help create. Nice work Alex.

Hi Alexander, thank you for the videos and the work you do. Much appreciated.

Chicks is dating multiple guys why would put yourself in that boat.

"How you going to make this up to me?" Thats a 50/50 coin toss and giving her the power. Not replying is also a 50/50 but ignoring her will get more under her skin and make her replay back if shes actually interested. If she doesn't then you just saved your time. Problem solved.

This is vary insightful! Never occurred to me to be spin a awkward situation into a playful

If she flakes, specially if no apology was presented, cut off ALL communication. If she sees you out in public and tries to talk to you, give her a few minutes and let her talk while putting her on ice. Women like this are most likely strong, independent, and don't need no man. And the best way to show support for women like this is to make sure that they stand by it. 😊

Being unforgiving is a red flag aswel. If you can not forgive people for their mistakes is a sign of narcisism. Read the situation, if you know she is not that into you, its ok to go your separate ways. But if this is not the case, lighten up and forgive her with a light hearted text like Alex said.

I met this girl online that lived pretty close and we really hit it off at first, when it came to actually going on a first date I made several suggestions as to where we should go/what we could do. And she seemed interested in me. Then, when I tried to pinpoint a date she would reschedule because she was busy with school/other things. Fair, she goes to Uni after all. At the beginning she suggested we'd go to a concert, of a rapper we liked, together as a first date. And I bought a ticket for myself beforehand (it was a cheap one, don't worry.) And she didn't buy a ticket (claimed to have problems with her bank account because she was getting a new card). I believed her, but still I ended up selling my ticket because I was discouraged to go alone after a long day of work.. Keep in mind she didn't even apologize or anything, just said "nope" when I asked her if she was gonna go. Afterwards, I ghosted her. And she called me out on it lmao, saying I was being childish. I was like well that's whatever, I had this underbelly feeling something was wrong about this girl, but we started talking again. Big mistake on my part. Tried to schedule to do something AGAIN, and this time I asked: Are you mine this saturday? :) She said: "well, i have a test on Friday, but i'm free this weekend, so yes." Friday comes around and I try to discuss the details of the date the next day. And she says "Oh, that was this saturday? I didn't know that, can we reschedule it? I'm kind of tired. (Haha, here's me, moving it again)". Frankly, I was irritated and called her out, saying that I felt like it was a weak excuse that you're tired the day before. And her other excuse was that "we didn't discuss anything in detail yet". Which was literally what i was trying to do at the time. I asked "Do I need to put a request in writing to do something with you?" I was already done at that point. She definitely didn't like that comment HAHA. There are plenty of girls out there that have no problem meeting up for a first date but for some reason this girl seemed reluctant. It seemed like she was more into the IDEA of going on a date with me than actually going on one. Despite acting like she was all into me. It's a shame Corona is a thing right now, because I already had a date planned with another girl.

I'm an older guy and I remember before cell phones, if a girl have you her number, it meant she wanted you to call her. Now it means nothing, even if she initiates the number exchange.

I often find how vile the comment section under your videos are. I believe many of these men have been broken as I. Though where I have retreated into a depressed state of self-loathing. I sense a wrathful state of self-loathing. There is a distinction between content creator and the content consumer here. Your self confidence and assurance in your self is fascinating. It makes me feel not so alone in my plight. Never stop improving brothers. We are in this struggle of self-value together, my friends.

BLACKPILL: *If she flakes on you she thinks you're ugly or not attractive enough to take time for you!*

Correction, 90% of the time girls don’t even message back! Even when there is a plan to do so... let alone text back’ The scales are at an all time high’

If a woman flakes, I just lose interest very quickly. I don't make attempts to reschedule, invite her again another time, or whatever. If she does nothing to correct her behavior on her own, I just don't initiate anymore and let it all go.

Perhaps starting with laughter will be better than an emoji. "Haha! How are you going to make it up to me?"

Remember, its not about her finding the time... its about making the time.

Geez, Alex, the Internet and you should exist way earlier when I was young ;) So much basic knowledge most of us doesn't even know we miss ;)

I'm happy I discovered you, I kinda learned a month ago to be myself and work on myself. Just need some guidance on the way there.

Alexander, you are truly a wealth of knowledge, mate!

Don't invest allot on first dates, just drinks during happy hour. Getting upset because she flaked is your problem and not hers so be a man and move on with stoic frame.

0:17 look towards each other before answering

How can anyone thumbs down these videos?! Your content is hands down the most well balanced, rock solid advice on the internet!

This one is actually really good and practical advice. No doubt I'll be in a situation again where I can implement these methods.

Don't "put the ball in her court." That's just another way for her to put you on the back burner. If she flakes, just say, "Not a problem." She has to make the initative to keep the relationship up. Don't make it seem you'll come at her every call.

6:55 How do you respond Me: Please the is nothing you can say leave her. 7:00 So how are you gonna make this up to me. Me: Oh my gosh I think his on to something.

You've got great videos, my dude. Thank you very much for your work.

What a content you present here for free, man. Seriously, congrats. Awesome content.

Do I want to give such a person the chance to 'make it up to me'? Not really tbh. Unless there was a _good_ reason for the cancellation. I'm not into these sorts of games. Too much thinking is going into all these things. Just dont let people mess you around.

They flake to regain control of the situation. There are 100000’s of women out there, move on. On dates, every girl wants a free coffee or meal. Not every girl wants to get to know you. Ask them to join you in something you love to do. Go on a hike, bowling. And if they say yes, if y’all hang and you feel she is solid, than take her out if you want.

They gave their answer in one sentence to our every trouble . “It always depends on the type of guy”

The moment she flakes is the moment she ceases to exist. She is no longer worthy of your attention.

In a nutshell, how to pursue a girl boils down to ... Be the one who is pursued

That's the reason I ended the last relationship - FLAKING! She'd apologize and then repeat the same mistake over and over. I didn't ghost her. I simply moved on. She asked for another chance. Sorry, the door is closed!

I've been graced with knowledge. Thanks!

Bro, I love your mezzanine/deck thingy with the vines. Now I kinda wanna do something like that but I'm just renting.

You could reply with, “Aah, that’s too bad. I just had my Lamborghini waxed and polished just for the occasion”.

Perfect, thank you.

Very thorough, unbelievable accurate, can't believe he had to learn the hard way like I did.

I had a situation with a girl where I tried setting a time for a date and i could never get her to agree on a time. She only told me how long it would take for her to get to the restaurant we were planning on meeting at, so I offered a time to meet but got no response. I tried calling her like 4 times to confirm a time. I didn't leave to go because i had no idea what time to be there and out of nowhere she texted me saying she was pulling up to the restaurant 😒 she didn't communicate well at all and it pissed me off. I stopped talking to her after that day.

Another great video. I will say this though, having to say stuff like "so how are you going to do to make this up to me? ;)" and trying to maneuver around mind games and PUA stuff is f***ing g*y. I bet most men wouldnt bother trying this arduous style of communication on anybody except for except for people they really care about (family, close friends, important co-workers etc), much less complete strangers. I mean its so adversarial...holding grudges as ammunition for the right moment to manipulate a social power dynamics- its so antithetical to what guys want from women and relationships. It sounds like the things they tell high level management consultants and corporate negotiators to deal with rude clients. You clearly have more game than me so you're probably right about this approach, but you can probably see why a lot of guys would deem the whole endeavour too troublesome to deal with. I suppose it is good that you outline all of this stuff in an easy to understand video for the young men out there. Fast track is definitely better than learning the hard way.

Hey Alex. I have another topic suggestion inspired by a comment I've read here: "Guys, not complicated , if she flakes on you with no counter offer, do not contact her. " Now, I've seen many many MANY comments and even some advice coming from you that amount to something to the effect of "Just move on", see the problem is, this is a viable strategy in a metropolis where there are a LOT of dateable women. However, I come from Serbia, our capital, Belgrade has barely over a million inhabitants. Every other town, has far less (including mine) so the strategy where I just "move on" just doesn't work. So logically same strategies aren't applicable here, so would you consider making a video on the topic of how would you go about it when the dating pool is quite limited, not to mention the amount of actual quality women and you have little option of moving to an environment with more people? Love your videos!

I was just playing Groh in SC6 and this video popped up when I opened RU-vid on my browser. Weird synchronicity. "No Mercy!" indeed, bro.

Brilliant advice !! "How are you going to make this up to me?" I used this and it works !

2:37 Always keep that in mind, brothers. It feels like the problem is you, but it's not. You took a chance and stepped outside your comfort zone. 💯

*Almost every girlfriend I ever had I slept with after a few hours* 😂😂😂

Feels good to hear a guy with the right insights

this guys Patreon must be EXTREMELY EXCLUSIVE and groundbreaking i swear to god, if i had the money like that, i would sign up for THIS Patreon out of ALL youtube's content creator's Patreon this is the most RAREST content

A girl only gets one chance. Then drop her and move on

honestly what happened to common decency and just telling someone "sorry im not interested"? or Id rather have a girl tell me im not her type, im ugly, look like a loser, or any other type of insult than get ghosted/flake. Even though an insult can hurt, at least theres closure and I can move on, but if im ghosted, then im left to be like Sherlock Holmes putting clues together to wonder what happened

Good stuff, man. Subbed!

The "I am sick" excuse is a classic 😂