I totally agree. A man will accept some from of sex from any woman. There’s nothing special about that kind of attention, but to be respected among men is much more special.
Yes honey!! But not just someone who goes to church because a lot of shady ppl are hiding behind religion. I want the man that truly fears the most high because he'll move different & carry himself different
@@teahreese1833You absolutely correct. However, this is where you ask God to give you a spirit of discernment to be able to identify the sheep and wolf clothing. You will know his sheep. God send us warning which we call red flag. I understand what you coming from because the person I was talking to was right in the church and living a sinful life. Matter fact, a leader in the church. God showed me all the red flags about him. Thank God I was able to get out of that relationship.
@@boochi7087I get what you saying and I’m not feeling no type of way about another woman I’m feeling some type of way about how they are treating themselves…… because ok yeah I get what your saying but if we all come together and stop settling for men just wanting to sleep with us and treat us like cars…. These men wouldn’t have nobody else to go too cause we all won’t be playing with them!
@@hellothere8347that’ll never happen. best to just let people be who they are. if a man you desire, desires a woman that you think lowly of, then why desire him?!
That’s how they end up with multiple children with different women cause they take the easy low hanging fruit… then they want a good woman with probably no children to entertain them… 😮😢
What folks don't often say is how difficult it can be to wait for a Godly partner. Often, being a respectable woman or man means it will take time to attract an equal. That is why so many give up. But remember, it just takes one person. It is difficult, but it is worth it. Take it from someone who was raised by an outstanding father and mother (parents still married).
theres no waiting judgment is a sin do not label me godly because we're more complicated than that. Our community doesnt know how to uplift something from nothing not our children, not our homes, especially not raising these little black boys into men. stop the pre judgement and treat things how you would like them to be not how you think they are in the moment. you might even find that godly spouse...but how are you going to keep them that way???
@Rachel-hv5im I completely agree with what you said! It is not discussed enough! I hate to see people who claim too be godly and they break up! Because it makes God look bad! I am waiting for the right one and it seems like there are no decent men out here. I try to not throw myself at men. It's hard, like you said! But if it's God's will, it will happen in his timing! #Sarahhadababypasthertime
This is 100% correct. You will often wait longer when you are living correctly, simply because the world does not encourage people waiting, carrying yourself respectfully etc. Sad.
@@KFontLabI feel much better now 😊. I thought something was wrong with me. Just turned 29 still single, all the men that I have tried dating just want sex 😅. But I will wait
Yeah exactly. But I think he did it to make an example. He put it out there in the world how women are around him, and what he truly thinks of them. I think he did it, to get the attention of those type of women, on LARGER SCALE. Which, to me, it’s a truly ingenious plan. 👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 ❤❤❤❤ because it’s definitely working.
That video was so disgusting. We have to do better as women. We can't expect men to respect us until we respect ourselves. We also have to keep in mind that we are setting an example to the younger generation. Shumake I love your videos and that your spreading the word of God! He is using you in so many ways. Keep doing what your doing!
I watched the full video. In my opinion I feel like they could had their standards, know who they talking to, and keep it classy. I felt second hand embarrassment for them because I’m here like, Damm y’all could have kept it classy and casual💯❤️
It's sad but they came the way he presented himself. They know who he is, what he raps about, & how they perceive him to be. Crazy but it's not just about the women & how they carry themselves. Men have to carry themselves a certain wait as well.
Also the type of Girls he’s chosen before. And all of the comments kept saying he’s respectful and a good guy but he doesn’t seem any different than his peers, just not as loud.
Yes sister. What has the world come to!? This is disgusting, and then they wonder why they are always heartbroken.....they dont value themselves, and neither do those disgusting guys. They must go to God(Allah).
@@pangeleta1967 Yes dear sister, I said Allah(God) because I practice Islam, and because some people may refer to Him as Allah as well, but I also put God in parenthesis for those who say God, or don't know what "Allah" means.😊🙏🏾 Also, thank you. 😉
A rapper puts this energy out and these are the types they attract. They are never interviewing quality men nor putting their matches on these platforms
This felt evil! She obviously haven’t been taught, talked to, maybe abused or m*lested. This was diplorable. Her whole family will see this if she has one. This was truly a cryable moment! 🥹🥲 I felt so bad for her. How could you even stand there and expect to be halfway respected. Quavo was floored, he was turned off and could hardly respond. So Sad!
All ppl want is to be loved, accepted and valued at the end of the day. When women are generally objectified and over sexualized all their lives (from childhood), they then see their value in being sexual and seductive. We can’t expect behavior that deviates from a sexual nature when that is what’s glorified and broadcasted.. THAT BEING SAID, ladies, please be mindful of the things you consume. Songs, shows, podcasts… Please. You’re adjusting your worth and value on what you witness being applauded. Take accountability for the ppl and media you surround yourself with. God is the only one who will heal and fill the deepest voids you have. And then from there, you’ll receive everything you want/need and then some. ❤ Edit: just wanted to add…Quavo got a lot of nerve. I don’t listen to all of his music. But I’ve never heard a mainstream song from him that reflected he was looking for a women with morals and integrity. Just sayin.
Wellllllll said!!!!! Those women are trying to be chose based on what he’s portrayed! Not saying it’s right, but they are matching the energy they have seen him give!
Well I just listen to music from Charles Aznavour and italiano 70s music but men only chase the 20s years old Instagram copy carbon models😂 Even men in their 50s that are divorced only wants younger girls that go to clubs and listen trap and that kind of garbage.
That clip was disgusting. Im glad I disconnected from the world. I’m waiting on my husband to find me. Keep educating these “men” and “women” Shumake 💪🏾
Unfortunately, I do everything to be noble, and the men who are interested in me ALWAYS treat me like I am cheap even though I demand respect. It doesn't matter how I dress. The men who approach me are psychotic and narcissistic. Even when I do everything to be decent. I don't dress scantily, I don't swear, I try to be decent 100% of the time, and the men who are interested in me are always promiscuous and debauched and drug addicts. It might be because of my zip code, but every man who is my age in the area are all drug addicts or debaucherous in other ways. I don't want to date younger because I don't want to rob the cradle, and I don't want an older man, ESPECIALLY if he is married or in a relationship.
I’m loving the way you present yourself and I want you to keep it up..There’s work you still need to do on you, and when you’ve completed it, things will open up. You are meeting the casualties of the dating war, the leftovers and NOT at all real MEN. These are broken a grown boys. This is also to test YOUR resolve in discipline and standing your ground. The devil is trying to make you fold…You are worth what you seek, keep standing in God’s grace…❤
I cannot relate .. whenever I date I never feel they treat me cheap and if It gets to that stage I drop them before I add him to my rooster and describe as "men always treat me cheap" 😅
❤ It’s your energy, if you think that is all you think attract these kind of men, you will. You have to filter out the unworthy men quickly and keep the good. Have fun… remove expectations from your interactions. Pray for God to help you remove limits and improve yourself
Just work on your discernment it can possibly be an aura you are carrying narcissist men are great at spotting the vulnerable I was the same way but now I can spot them at hello before they waste my time
how often do you run away from your responsibilities? if that was your daughter would you still run away (like so many of us do) or would you just...idk raise her properly??? leaders dont run... treat ppl in the way that they should go...otherwise she has no incentive to change her life.
I think the misconception is these women are trying to be wives. These women are here for a good time and a few trinkets. A lot of celebrities are not known for their loyalty, not even to their friends.
Their INITIAL intentions may just be to have fun and get wined and dined. But trust and believe, they quickly get bored with that and start to want more. Reality starts to set in that they’re just a jump off and that the men they want to have a serious relationship with don’t take them seriously. Believe me, it fucks with their ego and then they want to be seen as girlfriend material. Especially as these women start approaching their late 20s.
Yesss, I’m barely on social media because I just can’t relate to the “whoaaaa culture” the “I hate my baby daddy culture” I just can’t. Being mostly naked for no reason! I’ve been married for 9 years now. I even go to brunches and don’t even talk cuz I can’t relate to the conversations, I just go to see my girls and eat
You must realize that women of substance never make it past the casting call. Too boring. Only outrageous people are put in front of the camera. Ratings.
It’s harsh but young women need to hear this because so many have been lead astray. A lot of women these days aren’t being taught to value themselves outside of worldly possessions. So many women deserve so much better than they are subjecting themselves to.
While listening to what you were saying starting around 8:30, I was reflecting on my own past. I wasn't acting like these young women in the clip, but I'd have sex in the early stages of getting to know someone. And honestly, it wasn't because I wanted to (in my heart, I didn't want to), but I thought that's just how things went. Looking back, I understand why those situations didn't result in an actual commitment. Regardless of my character, I presented myself in a manner that was indistinguishable from a promiscuous woman. And even though they'd say I was a good woman because they eventually got to see who I truly was, that didn't matter. To them, I didn't value and honor myself, and if I couldn't do that, what good would I have been to them? Keep these conversations up. You don't know how much they are needed!
So crazy because men would want to marry the woman that has good character and is wholesome, because it makes HIM look good, yet will still keep two or three of these birds in his phone😂 this is why women should date/ marry strategically. Meaning make sure he is established, has security, and likes you waaaayy more than you like him. So not if , but WHEN he messes up, you not sliding down the wall, but at the mall, at peace, looking good, with plenty of options to choose from. ✌🏾Never make these men the prize.
This!!! Marry the noble woman for the look while still sleeping with the hypersexual woman and spending on her. Make it make sense. And then end up having a kid with the woman
Good points. But I’ve dated men and the ones that needed to wait for any sex left me after three months or so. It’s sad because I always wanted to be a virgin before marriage but in reality these men go after the easy ones. I waited until I was 36 to date with sex. It’s awful out here and I guess it’s because women lowered the standards and men don’t have those strong guidelines to follow when dating like they used to be taught?
It’s also just different times too many people are spreading misinformation on how sex works so you have a bunch of people walking around with entitlement and lack sexual discipline
I understand what you're saying. I told myself I was gonna remain a virgin until marriage. Unfortunately I didn't understand the depth of what it meant to God and and what it meant according to His covenant and what it tryly meant to be a Godly woman. I truly wish, even in spite of culture and this world that I still was.
Same here, waited but decided to do it thinking I would fit in or whatever I was telling myself at the time. Was nobody fault but my own but I do wish I had waited for my husband like I always thought it would be with. But I talked myself in thinking that day would never come and I was foolish since nobody around me including adults were married and that I was living off movies I saw and it wasn't going to end up how I hoped, so I let go of all the things I believed in. Waiting seems cute when you are young but when you past that stage it makes you feel as if you did all that for nothing.
@@WhyteNight1_1AM times are different if this were the 1960s marriage was valued most of us would had been married by now at least every ten years with generations it gets worse Also I’ve noticed it’s encouraged for men to sleep around and not wait but women are required to be chastised 24/7
As a woman I can say I'm different and have been told by multiple men. I have saw women acting desperate over a man that has a woman. I'm also quick to not help a man cheat on his woman. It's like morals have gone down the drain.
This is soooo sad, it makes be disgusted because I am a black woman and would never...this is tragic. The sad part is you can see that they are disposable to him, they are less than nothing to him. He will end up a man that can't connect with a woman because he will likely only see them as these type of women...out and proud whores.
They’re saying what Quavo raps about. Think about it…a male rapper who is debacherous and brags about it, expecting top tier respect from a woman in the same lifestyle? Like pls be serious. Quavo met his match. Regular people don’t act like this bc they’re not dating/sleeping with celebrity rappers
I’m going to say this as a thicker woman myself a man can tell how youre built without you having to twerk and shake and clap your cheeks in front of everyone in broad daylight There were times when I had on jeans and a t shirt and had men chasing me because they could see what I was working with without showing it all!!! I’m sure quavo has slept with fifty million people built the same way this is so cringe worthy to me
right !! like i don’t have to put my body on display i can be wearing the exact fit u described & would get looks. i don’t have to be half naked for my figure to be noticed. these “women” make their body their identity.
The way I see it is that these men put it out there in their songs about what they like in women so the women fans want to try to emulate that so these rappers shouldn’t be upset when women act like that when that’s the type of energy that they put out there as far as what they like in women. If they don’t want that type of energy then maybe they need to change the message in their songs
Only God can change a person's character. Men and women to the most part are lost. The honorable women are treated horribly along with the not so honorable ones. If you don't have a Godly man who actually fears God and takes vows seriously then you will still have trash. I expect nothing from the lost and don't expect much more from the so called saved ones. It's a sad situation.
I think it’s just better to be friends with a man than to go on blind dates speed dates or rush into dating period I’ve noticed most men treat their friends (male and female friends) better than people they’ve met online, in person and dated right away without the friendship first
❤😢It's the Hollywood culture. (2 Timothy Chp 3 verse 1-6). Hollywood has taught today's generation to be overly sexual, sexually immoral, and rebellious. It's all about what can I get right now, and that's why they answered the multi millionaire rapper sexually upfront. They seek gain, not love. Once with him, and obtaining a small foot in the industry, they'll then dump that dude quicker than ice-cream in a bowl on a hot summer day. It's real out here.
Some men can pick up when a woman has low self-esteem. If you say you are a good woman but continue to attract a low quality man, it's time to self reflect and find out who you really are and what you truly desire.
I don’t want a man that will look at someone and place women in two different categories (play vs build with) and stick around her regardless what category he put her in. These men need to figure out which category they are in currently and find women in that same category and leave the other category alone. As a good woman I don’t want a man that comes to me as good character and respects me as someone to build with when he would’ve just as fast played with me if he would’ve put me in the other category. Figure out what you want and stop messing with people outside of that. I don’t want someone that has the potential to still play around, that shouldn’t be an option. And these same men will court a woman and have play things while courting becasue he just can’t do without s3x, but if the woman he’s courting does the same thing, she’s “for the streets”. That’s how you get a long term boyfriend that’s confused as all anything and want his cake and eat it to. Men need to go heal and stop messing with peoples lives.
The music industry has done this. First they told black men it’s okay to be 🌈and to use the n word in songs. Then they told women that it’s okay to act like a slut
I think we men have also played a part in this. Physically these women look good but the mind is REALLY sad. Even if it's just a skit it's not a good look. Today it just seems like sex work and their clients are more or less legal.
@@Maggiebenjee The gun has also been created and I've decided not to carry one so far in my life. We are responsible for the decisions that we make. From what I can see nobody forced these ladies to do and say what they say.
@@dwighthayles1226 No one forced them, but men highly incentivize this type of behavior. Let’s not forget that men created rap and hook-up culture. What we saw in the video is a direct result.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 I hear you about the incentivizing being done with men who women want. Rap was created by men. However, can you explain how men created hook-up culture when it is the woman who ultimately decides who she has intimacy with and how soon access is given? Do you think it's easier for most men to get sex or most women?
If there is enough positive reinforcement the behavior will continue. Some of these women are receiving enough encouragement from men to continue in thier behavior and dressing. Not all but some. I see thousands of men on Facebook that thrive on looking at women like these. Love thier pictures and videos.
My father always said: "don't follow the stream, follow your own current." As a kid i didn't understand and laughed at his wise words. It wasn't until i grew as a person that i understood and appreciated the value and meaning in his words. I was lucky my father was there looking out for me.
@@boochi7087you can’t read the room cause I didn’t even have to be in it to read he was looking at them girls exactly how we are……. Because anybody in the right mind know they did too much
The sad thing is everything you're discussing is not only young women doing it, it's old women too. Old women, women with grandchildren. It's like there's a dispensation of women that don't know their value and thinking that this is a way they would get the attention they need. Because at the end of the day, that's all it is attention because a man will never commit to them. He will use them. Have sex with them. And when he's tired, he will drop them like a dirty tissue and move on to the next. Then those same women want to come back and say how no good he is.
Sir, none of those types of women are watching your content. you’re saved you read Bible verses. trust me those women are not here, so who are you schooling?
OMG they sound so desperate 😫🤣 I couldn’t help but laugh just from the first few questions he asked but its really sad that they wanted to impress him so bad that their default thought process was to appeal to his sexuality rather than just being themselves unless that’s really who they are 🥴
Such a good video. Growing up, my parents and older brother ALWAYS told me this… I just turned 26 and I am so glad I listened. I have a childhood friend who dresses like an IG model 24/7, wants to be famous in LA, and made a raunchy instagram account. I don’t recognize her anymore… She asks me why nice guys approach me and not her and why men don’t want a relationship with her. I nicely told her that the way you carry yourself MATTERS. She doesn’t get it… I think it may be best to be distant friends with her… 1Cor 15:33 I appreciate you Mr. Shumake. Keep up the great work. Blessings to you and your family.
He ACTING shocked and surprised but he 100% still got all those girls numbers before they left. If they didn’t already know that’s what he wanted to hear they wouldn’t have said it thinking they would get picked. Sad asl.
He's a rapper so these ladies already knew what time it was with him. If he was looking for respectable those women would've never been picked to begin with. They gave him what he wanted. Him acting flustered was all an act. The girl in black with the bbl was it for him but he knew he couldn't bring her to his Mamas table/house with that foolishness.
Wow thank you for this I’m not even a young woman. I’m in my mid thirties and never had this talk due to not having a father. This was definitely needed thank you
This generation is gone astray. While men narrow looking for a woman to body shape and size. Some women now are using those as assets to deseparately get a man. There definitely has to be a reform. Women should respect themselves a lot more. Set some noble character and standards. God help us.
This is a good opening conversation to segway into the biblical role of women as a support system, help mate and feminine side of the partnership. Once we understand this part then we can unpack the topic of submission and what it really means and how to stand on business as biblical women of God not by the world's standards. My second video of yours and just subscribed! ❤
I was embarrassed and I didn’t even say this I could never my daddy raised me to respect myself and put out the energy I want back she will never get any respect until she starts with herself
The first few minutes of this video were so cringe. 😵💫 When we as women lead with our bodies and not with our minds, we are setting ourselves up for failure
This speaks volumes, I spoke to a well known relationship coach who you have mentioned on your channel and his message to me was what you advised not to do. Long story short he basically told me to carry myself as the young ladies in the video did. That is the only way I would get a "real man's" attention. Thank you, for putting it into perspective, and keeping it real.❤
I believe it, because I have friends who were looking to settle down, who suddenly started talking like this and I couldn’t help but feel someone was coaching them to talk like this. It’s jus so vulgar and I don’t get it,
even if men disrespected y'all with clothes on or off that doesn't mean dress immodest or not try to keep your modesty. NEVER stoop to their level. that's the game. Thats how many women end up losing themselves. Thats a CLEAR vindication HE IS NTO FOR YOU! There's NO SHAME in dressing modest at all. But never change it because of "they just gon look/treat me" the same. No they won't if you walk away. You'll end up losing that battle. Wait on God if its that ugly 💕💕💕 love all yall
Black dating culture is really crazy to me. Of course I know not everybody is like this but the majority of things that I see I’m just like what the fuck lol no thank you sir .
The one in black truly has nothing going on in her life...she couldn't even answer his question of what is it you like to do outside of "sex." Both sexes want someone they are interested in to have something going on in their life. Watching that video was sickening and embarrassing!!!!
This video was very informative and so very true. As a female we must definitely allow self love and self respect lead when it comes to attracting a mate. Allow me to add in that it is NOT only the 20 and 30 year old females that are displaying a trashy disposition; trust me when I say I have seen a few 40 plus year old females not displaying lady-like characteristics. This is really low self esteem in disguise!!! True virtuous women are classy, graceful, confident, sexy..yes sexy (when the time is right), educated, intelligent, goal oriented, and leaders. In other words we have brains and beauty!! I was raised to know that brains plus beauty plus Jesus has to equal SUCCESS!! I love your videos and the content. This is very encouraging coming from a respectable man's point of view...keep up the good work and keep the videos coming!!
Women like the ones in the video make it hard for decent black women. Those same women will eventually become bitter due to being “disrespected”. Women have to realize that if they don’t respect themselves, no man is going to respect them.
