OUR TRAUMATIC BIRTH STORY... 

Hi Blanca and Jonathan!!! Nurse here 🙋🏻‍♀️ and I encourage you both to please contact compliance office at hospital and submit a grievance, you will make a difference for others to come! Providers and HC workers are responsible for their role in their job & must be provided dignity respect compassion! Please please do it!!!!

Blanca. Please contact your hospitals Patient Relations department and tell them about this. You most likely are not the only one to feel this way. And hopefully you can stop someone else from having to go through this as well.

She only apologized because she got scared yall would report her. REPORT her, what she did is not ok!

Girlllll as a nurse hearing your experience with that doctor literally infuriates me. Specially when she said to bring in the Fentanyl. Jonathan is 100% right, if you plan on being in the healthcare field, you can’t just do it for the money. You have to genuinely care for your patients.

As a nurse at a hospital, we tend to ask All patients about there experience. But especially if we noticed some kind of mistreatment against the patient because I can speak for myself I love what I do. And if someone is only there for a paycheck and isn’t treating you with respect we want them gone or at least spoken too. As a nurse our goal is to make you feel safe and respected the whole time there.

Please open an IR report (incident report) with the hospital. I also had a really really bad labor and delivery experience and almost lost not only my daughter life but mine as well. Although, we are blessed and okay it could have been preventable. I agree with Jonathan sometimes they do need a slap on the wrist so that they don’t rob another mom of her experience in the future. I’m glad you have a very very supportive family & friend surrounding you Blanca. 🤍 congratulations mama!

As a Mexican woman I was not taught to advocate for myself. No molestes a la gente they always say. We need to overcome that

Bed side manners are sooo important from doctors and ESPECIALLY for labor and delivery. It’s already so vulnerable and painful. Also, please don’t let the comments of “just get the epidural, we’re in the 21st century” get to you. I’ve had both and my natural delivery was so much more intuitive and the healing was 100% better.

I highly encourage you to voice your experience to the hospital. There is research that shows provider racial bias in pain assessment and treatment recommendations. In other words, research shows that providers assume women of color have a “higher pain tolerance” and typically get bare minimum treatment. So sorry you experienced this.

Working in the medical field for many years this doctor had horrible bedside manners and needs to be reported. Blanca and Jonathan you guys need to file a complaint against her, it’s not fair the way she treated you and who knows if she was being racist or discriminative against you guys. Whatever it was she needs to be reported so that she’s held accountable for her actions. I’ve worked with many doctors and you see so many things. Some doctors can be the best and others make you question why they’re in the medical field if they act a certain way. Even if she did apologize to you guys she does need to be reported and have a complaint filed against her. Trust me, this will let her know that she can’t be acting this way. I really hope you guys do. If you need assistance with filing a complaint I can help you guys too. It seems that even the nurses and other medical staff noticed this about her too. Please file a complaint, it will help many women in the future so that they don’t go through a similar experience or even worse. Doctors are people just like you and I and as that there’s going to be good and bad ones but as a doctor they need to have a good reputation. They should never make you feel bad and should never make you feel like they’re better than you or anyone. I’m sorry you had to deal with a doctor like this but Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl Belen 🩷 she is perfect and so adorable! Dios los bendiga a todos siempre 🙏🏽🫶🏽

Omg Blanca, you really need to report that doctor. Most likely she does it all the time, and the nurses know but cannot say anything because of work etiquette. I know cause I'm a nurse. We know good and bad doctors and wish I could tell my patients about the bad ones. Here in TX they send a survey after hospital stay, idk if it's like that in all states, but definitely say it in the survey if you get one. But I am happy for you guys. Congratulations on the new edition to the family. Report her!

A Karen is someone who complains over ridiculous things! You are not being a Karen for sticking up for yourself for, like you said, your birth experience! You can’t have a bad day when you are a doctor and peoples lives are on the line! Stick up for yourselves so nobody else goes through this. PS. Congratulations on baby Belen, she’s beautiful and reminds me so much of my baby.

Blanca, I appreciate you for sharing the good and the bad especially for those who haven’t had kids yet. You did amazing girl! Belen is BEAUTIFUL

I got an epidural with all my 4 kids and recovery was EASY and I haven’t had zero pains. I feel people take alot of pride having a natural birth and don’t get me wrong respect to you but I for sure ain’t going through that awful pain! No wayyyy

The way Blanca just makes motherhood and influencing look so graceful 🥹😭💖

As a labor and delivery nurse I’m so sorry this happened to you 🥲 Wishing a speedy recovery ❤️‍🩹

It’s not about being a “Karen” it’s about standing up for yourself. This is your health care, it’s super important! And not only standing up for yourself but other that can be prevented from having this exact experience. There is a time and a place for everything, this is the time to BE A KAREN!

You guys have to put a complaint on that Dr. Save future mommy's from going under her care! She only apologized to keep you from speaking up!

I think all of us who have had unmedicated births can completely understand your pain. I’ve had 2 unmediated births and they were HARD those contractions are no joke 😢 and when you were explaining how you kept moving your head from side to side I was laughing but I felt your pain!! You weren’t being dramatic or “doing too much”. You’re literally giving birth it’s a pain like no other. Im so sorry your doctor was awful and insensitive but gracias a Dios que Belen nació bien and she’s so beautiful!!! Congratulations!! ❤

Belen may be catfishing you lol my second boy was so calm as a baby always smiling so chill in general pero ahora he’s a tornado! But he brings so much joy to our family we always joke how boring our lives would be without him!

My delivery doctor was so gentle. When she first came in the room to introduce herself she kneeled down to be at my eye level 😭 so thankful for her and all the very sweet nurses that were there that day 🫶

Some people do not deserve to be doctors at all being smart isn’t enough

As a Hispanic working in the medical field this was NOTHING shocking to me sadly😢 I’m so sorry that Dr took your spark away during your most vulnerable time! WHEN YOU KNOW YOU KNOW that the vibes are off, never be scared to ask for what is right! (Of course it was hard durning that time) but for future reference 😊🫶🏼💕💕

Felt this 10000% once you tell yourself “ I can’t do this anymore” it’s over ! Your mind/brain is SO POWERFUL. So actually I told myself myself those words the last 2/3 hours of my labor & delivery and I’ve never felt so negative & tired in my life !!

that’s crazy! my husband & I watched your labor video & we even thought the vibe was off & something wasn’t sitting right we just sensed it so hearing this I can’t even imagine how you felt in that room! thank god you’re okay and baby is too! 🤍🫶

I’m so sorry you went through this, thats literally a person who hates her job. I’m glad you are doing so much better ❤️

Ive never heard anyone say they had a rough recovery after getting the epidural i dont think its the epidural but who knows i had my daughter without it and my 2 sons with the epidural and recovery was the same with the epidural i actually got to enjoy seeing my sons being born without having to worry about the pain

I truly believe babies can sense everything when their in the womb. If the mom is relaxed,happy, and loved, the baby will be calm. Belén is precious and the way you two look at her is so cute 🥰 she definitely will have Jonathan wrapped around her little finger. I have had 2 un medicated births and it’s no joke. I also went full exorcist mode but I could care less what people thought. The entire l&d department could hear my screams 😅I feel like doctors are used to most moms getting epidurals that they forget to be gentle when you don’t and that’s why she was so rough

She only apologized cause she was scared of you guys reporting her and you guys should most definitely report it because nobody else deserves to experience the same situation 💔

You did amazing Blanca !!! Proud of you!! Praying for a smooth recovery and for your beautiful family 🩷🥰

Yes! the pain puts you in a negative mindset! No one knows how to describe them unless they go through unmediated births ! Love you 🤍✨

I so admire you guys. Jonathan you knew not to start a confrontation in middle of labor because your wife did not need an extra burden & Blanca you are truly a fighter and have such a good heart. But please, if you can, file a report. Nobody deserves to go through a similar scenario. I couldn’t help but cry hearing your experience, especially knowing the facts Jonathan shared about labor mortality.

So sorry you went through that. This was literally one of my biggest fears with going unmedicated. But I never hear anyone talk about the aftermath of stitching after birth.

Even with the epidural I had the worse contractions.. also FYI Jonathon, no woman during birth is worried about anyone judging them 😂 we don’t care about anything but the pain and the baby during that time.

I had a doctor check my cervix so rough, I cried! And she snatched her gloves all aggressively, and was like “I’m not doing this!” And walked out. And it did not hurt as much when someone else checked! I don’t understand when they come in with bad energy

I’m so sorry for your experience Blanca. Thank you for sharing! I would 100% encourage you to file a grievance. The reality is that things won’t change until there’s a record of this doctors mistreatment to patients. I don’t want to imagine any new moms having to experience exactly what you did. Sending you and your newborn a big hug ❤

"This is not necessary. Let's get back to work. " hahaha ahh I'm dead 💀

Blanca I’m so sorry you went through that! Please be the voice for other mothers. Especially the ones that are afraid to speak please open a report. Que diosito te bendiga siempre 🙏🏼❤️

I watch you guys all the time and never comment, but I want to say that please advocate for us. You both have the platforms to get these issues known and for other parents to know it's okay to speak up.❤

Omg Blanca girl! I am sorry that you went thru that, but someone beautiful and precious came out from all that experience, you are truly a strong one, I look up to you 🫶🏼💛

It’s crazy you go treated like that. I heard a myth that men doctors are better than woman doctors when in come to deliveries. I had a guy doctor for my second delivery vbac and he did amazing! Talk thru pushing and even gave me props for my delivery since it was my first vaginal. So sorry! Congratulations to your little family for the new baby! ❤

The situation you talked about is what I live, im by myself with my 2 under 2 and my husband always at work . I appreciate his help so much when he’s home but it’s so hard I wish I had a village I only have one friend 😕 you guys are so blessed 🫶🏽

Jonathan biting his lips, asking to himself ," do I go get the doctor or the priest, is this labor or exorcist.. yeah now it's funny but at the moment pain are really something.. congrats for babygirl and muchos muchos blessing. Never had an epi and yes I think is better recovery, mom is right .👍🙏🥰💐

I am so sorry you guys went through that. I am currently in medical school to become a doctor and my biggest motivation was to serve the Latino community. My mother, being from Ecuador was always treated less than during her medical visits. Just know there is a generation of Latino/a doctors wanting to make a change

You guys are amazing for posting this early!! 😭😭♥️

That sounds very traumatizing, I would have been reporting her before even leaving the hospital and i hope you do so. I would not want another expecting momma to go through that or possibly even worse, Please think about other women that will have her as a DR for their labor. I encourage you to report it. Thanks for sharing! wishing you a fast recovery

girl I am so sorry this happened to you, I experienced the same thing with my first born my doctor broke my water without even telling me he just came in and went in there and popped it didn’t guide me through it or nothing, my nurse was so nice that she told him that I did not want him close to me other than when he’s going to deliver my baby I feel you 100% ❤️ you’re so strong! Till this day I am so thankful for my nurse that was with me through everything!

Congratulations to you all!! Belen is so blessed to have amazing parents. Blessings to her and the fam. Franco is so sweet. He is a great big brother. 🩵🩷

Thank you for sharing. Belen is so beautiful. She is literally Franco’s twin. Franco is the best big brother 🥹🤍

Girl I felt every single emotion while watching your birth video, I was crying in the streets of Atlanta, You are an amazing and inspiring woman!

All your feelings are completely valid I sometimes feel like doctors can try to degrade you just because you’re in their eyes considered a “young mom”. Similar situation happened with me and I felt because I was young the doctor thought she could do what she wanted with me but once you start advocating for yourself then it shocks them! I would definitely voice the experience this could potentially help future mommas. Congratulations to you both she’s beautiful 💕💕

Good morning!! ☀️😃 can’t wait to listen to this on my walk! But congratulations to the both of yall! Blanca you are soo brave and such a wonderful mother and Jonathan you are such a great father! Keep up the good work may God bless yall🙏🏻❤️

Thank you for sharing this!! I have 3 girls and i can say my second daughter was the easiest to take care of. She was so calm hardly cried, and 12 years later continues to be chill. Good luck and God Bless! Also you co sleep! Most of the world, mother cosleep. The USA is the greatest promoter of babies sleeping on their own and yet have the hightest mortality infant deaths compared to co sleeping countries!

God bless your beautiful family Currently on almost two months with a 1 and half month old and a 2 year old With no village 💔 just my partner who works 3am -2pm Feels so lonely but thinking positive and cherishing all this moment with my babies👦🏽👦🏽 Mom guilt is real never knew what it would be like until the moment I came home First month was rough but getting back into routine helps a lot I admire you guys so much ❤️❤️ Wishing you guys a healthy postpartum 🫶🏼

Congratulations! She is beautiful. Thank you very much for showing your baby to us. Bendiciones para su hermosa familia🙏🏻

Belen is so beautiful 💕 Thank you for sharing your experience.

The Dr knew she fucked up!

I’m sorry you went through this trauma Blanca!!! You are a very strong woman ❤ enjoy your princess 🎀 and being a mother of two ❤

Blanca, you’re a bad ass for giving birth unmedicated! I’ve had 2 epidurals and both of my recoveries have been smooth. I don’t have any back pain and my kids are 4 and 14 months now. I honestly think we have genetics to thank for our experiences with birth and different medications. Every body is different, literally.

This is why it’s so important to advocate for yourself !!

I’m very blessed that both of my medicated births were so smooth and no complications afterwards my recovery was smooth and easy it really all depends on our body’s not all of us are built the same. Don’t be discouraged about getting epidurals.

I’ve never had kids but I cry when I get horrible cramps. Everyone’s experience is different every delivery is different. You only know your pain tolerance and how you deal with it. Don’t be embarrassed of how you handled your pain girl. You did the damm thing. Congratulations on your new blessings 🤍

It was so soothing and precious to see baby girl on the podcast 🫶 thank you for sharing her with us 💕

I hope you put in a complaint so no one else has to go thru this with that Dr. what a horrible Dr. ! Sorry you had to go thru that 😢🤬

Blanca, I am so sorry for your experience. This is why it is so important for us to encourage and support our raza in getting their education so we can make a difference in the medical field & provide services to our gente. WE have to break barriers and be in these spaces to provide a better experience to our community. 👊🏽

Blanca!!🥺 The same happened to me! It is very traumatizing! Your doctor apologized but my doctor didn’t🥺 These were her words because I was crying when she was sowing up my 3rd degree tear… “This is why you get the epidural, to not feel pain after birth”😭 My heart literally shattered to hear that🥺

Hi guys Congratulations on your baby girl 💕 I heard your podcast yesterday on an app loved to hear you guys such a good vibe blessings to your family ❤

Blanca, you are truly an inspiration 🩷💞 Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story with us. Loved this podcast. ❤

I can relate so much to this!!! My second L&D was a lot like yours, except mine was medicated lol. But I remember how rough the dr was! How she didn’t take into consideration what I was feeling. God bless you for making it through this traumatic experience, and congratulations on baby girl 🥹🩷🩷🩷

Stay strong girl. You're an amazing woman who's had two natural births, and you're an amazing mom! We're cheering for you & i hope God blessed your family every day & watches over you guys. Congratulations on your beautiful family❤ we love you!

the nurses probably knew how this doctor/provider is & wanted to follow up & make sure your experience was great.

I had an epidural... Best decison ever for during labor and postartum recovery was great. But i will not lie! I 100% have back pain.. has some during pregnancy since i am super tiny but damn. These back pains now will shoot randomly thru my back and leg and they definitely have made me cry. Will i gwt another epidural if i EVER have another baby. Yes yes i definitely will lol

Girl!!! I find it so different how they let you get up and be active in your labor even though your water broke 😅 My water broke and they told me to not even sit up because I was prone to infection since my water broke.

Omg I LOVE YOU GUYS!!! ❤ CONGRATULATIONS 🎉🍾 🎀

I’m sorry you guys had to go through this! This makes anyone feel more discouraged to go through pregnancy because you’re stuck thinking what if we get stuck with a bad doctor 💔 Baby Belen is so adorable 🥹🥹🥹 I love you guys always

Listened to the podcast yesterday at work but here to see baby Belen! She’s so precious 🥹💕

Literally baby slept the whole podcast !! 😭💗 im sorry for your trauma blanca😭❤ i hope ur recovering well !

I have two babies now, they’re 14 months apart my second was calm y the contractions are for real and I was the same shaking my head, apachurrando el control❤❤❤ I’m so glad that both of you are doing better.

happy friday guys hope you guys have a blessed weekend 🩷

Im so sorry you went thru that.. I had a similar experience… for my birth I only had one nurse and she was so rude, and the doctor did not come in and check on me at all, she wasn’t even at the hospital.. so the nurse was the only one checking me and was so rude about it like your experience & I didn’t have supportive people with me that it led me to just giving up because of my negative mindset and having a c-section. To this day I regret it so much because I know I could’ve went natural but the nurse was putting me in such a bad headspace that I gave up… we deserve better experiences because this is the most important/vulnerable times of our life’s.. I’m glad you are healing very good and that baby girl is here and healthy! Congratulations to you and Jonathon! 🥺🥰 Franco is such an amazing big brother already! Love you guys🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

my daughter/2nd born was the exact same way & now she’s wild but i hope Belen remains the same 🫶🏼💓 wishing you all the luck in the world & i’m sorry you went through this Blanca! you have your beautiful baby girl 🎀

Clicked so fast, lol. I'm so glad you guys are back, blanca your a trooper. Love you guys, baby girl is so beautiful. I love her name. Congratulations ❤

I’m sorry you had to go through this Blanca , I went through something similar with one of the nurses I had during labor

Listened yesterday on Spotify but watching for the vibes and babygirl🥹🤍

I’ve always heard male OBGYN doctors treat you more gently than female doctors. They are more empathetic with the pain and discomfort you’re experiencing.

Omg Blanca, I’m sorry you experienced this. I had a similar experience in my second labor. I tore and felt every single stitch down there , I was not numbed or anything. It is PAINFUL ! !

Hi guys !!! 😁 Girl you talking about the whole doctor situation got me so mad because I also experienced the same with my birth. You literary want to cuss them out or fight them 😂I feel like doctors should be more understanding and be a little more gentle, we already are going thru a traumatic experience we don't need to be arguing with them. Hopefully you guys can report that because that is not ok. But I'm glad baby girl is here healthy and that you got thru it, muchas felicidades a los dos ! your baby girl is so beautiful ! 💕💕

she’s so beautiful awww 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

Currently at work listening like every Friday! 🤍

Girl i’ve had my 2 babys at university hospital and thank god i didn’t have to experience that with that doctor but thankfully you and baby are doing well🥺

Lmaooo im cracking up 😂 i can imagine you looking all crazy 🤣 im happy everything turned out ok at the end of the day 🫶🏻

Muchas felicidades a los dos🎉 está hermosa Miss Belén! I’m so excited for her little outfits!😍😍

Please do something about this I was at that same hospital and my experience was not it I honestly regret not doing anything about it now that I hear you experience. Specially when they come and apologize like if thats going to erase what happened or what you already went through like you will remember that forever 💔

Listened to your podcast on Apple podcasts & my blood boiled when Blanca told her experience. I wish you nothing but a great recovery ♥️

i feel you! my contraction’s took over my soul, i was possessed 😂 i was screaming and moving my head like you lol! you’re feelings are so valid! i had second had embarrassment on myself and still do years later 😂😭😅

Listening while at the gym! ❤

She’s perfect 🥹💖

One thing my professor taught me when i was doing medical assisting is when doctor's dont allow filming its because they dont want to be caught being liable if something goes wrong. And she said the pattern she saw the most is doctor's who dont allow it were ones who either had issues in the past like they way the handle the medical part for a patient or they have shitty attitudes with their patients and staff.

Blanca you where not over reacting 🙏 glad you’re doing better and healing fast congrats love 💕

Love you guys!! Sending love and blessings. Wish I could hug you Blanca. I love you guys.