Outliers: Why Some People Succeed and Some Don't 

Probably untreated depression

filozoficka fakulta?

@@ataarono probably, im the same way, i self medicate with heroin. i used to used the common anti--depressants and anit-anxiety medicines, but the world is sick when u really open up and realize it and realize how many of these other countries are and then see how the "higher society" acts compared to the "poor man" or "lower society" people who tend to be more loyal as the rich lives evolve around lots of smoking mirrors. Some of us have the ability to blend, but sooner or later u just end up getting sick of pretending just to blend in

@@ASimpleHeroinUser hmm self medication with drugs, SSRI anti depressants are counter productive and you feel society is demanding too much of a facade. I think you might have undiagnosed ADHD with comorbid depressive episodes and comorbid ODD. Have you ever considered having ADHD?

I felt like you knew me reading.. I don't know who you were talking about. But thank you for being aware enough to see that in someone & expressing it. Means a lot & gives me hope.

So very true!

Spot on! I came from a working class background with 2 alcoholic parents who’s biggest aspiration for me was to be a sanitation worker because... it was a solid job from the city - not a doctor, a lawyer or anything related to a college education. It was a struggle to say the least. I put myself through my first year of community college by saving. To this day, I still struggle internally with a lot of my parent's “decisions“. It can be very difficult for a child in a position like mine because many people around you are jealous if you try to pursue a better life. You’ll hear the phrase: “You think you’re better than me?“ Sadly, you hear that phrase a lot with people who are stuck. (Not to get political, but I’ve heard that phrase a lot from Trump supporters.) Allowing a child to flourish with encouragement is probably the single most important factor for anyone’s life.

is it more of too poor or too rich? I see how too poor can affect a child's moral and potential in life but I also see it in rich children as well. No motivation and too rich to want to do anything.

@@houdinididiit You are to be commended for envisioning more for yourself and making it happen. I, for one, applaud your success.

@@houdinididiit your problem wasn't poverty, it was shit parents. Ben Carson, Walter E. Williams, Thomas Sowell all came from poverty.

This is kind of a shallow argument though. Most people are fully aware that the paper or the social indicators are not the success itself. They are just indicators and tools. Sort of like how most people are fully aware that plumbing and door hinges aren't a house, and its entirely possible to build one with neither. But they are pretty common features of houses.

@@homelessrobot You've met most people? Cool beans

@@gregoriusmike "Most people I have met" then. Another shallow argument. "You haven't met most people, so you cannot say anything about how people think and behave in general" Yeah OK.

Capitalise... that's all.

Success is a feeling.

Now go watch Gary vee

I was denied a high school diploma when I returned from a senior year in England. I got a Master’s Degree in spite of it. Open admission to community colleges is a good idea. I had a very successful and enjoyable career as an elementary school teacher. Great memories.

Or you could just buy the book.

because your definition of success is "college" or "university" what about these guys: 1. has barely finished high school. Now he works on buildings and drives $70,000 in a BMWx6 2. Graduated high school, dropped out of college, drives a Porsche and has several apartments 3. has a secondary vocational school and now employs about 20 people 4. For all of the above, people with a college education are working, and the top success will be to pay off the apartment in 30 years

It's right that we define success as professional success or some form of societal achievement which comes with a degree of wealth.. And it's right that this should be main life lesson. The lesson of life is not all about success but happiness should also be included but not as your main theme as it may end up as an excuse for not living a fulfilling life.

Yeah, this is common. But for some reason, as someone who comes from a rich (not so rich anymore) family, I, as well as my father’s side growing up had lots of childhood trauma, and many of the families of the friends my brother and I have and had were also toxic, well-off families with very dark secrets and this is part of the reason why I can’t take those Netflix TV shows about rich families with dark secrets seriously because they dramatize the shit out of them with things that are hardly even close to what reality holds and reality is unfortunately much darker. Sometimes you wonder why you have the friends you do, and often times it’s because of shared trauma and socioeconomic factors. Well, we had a bit of both. And to contrast your last sentence, I can understand why people would take one look at me and my family and assume everything is perfect, but no one would understand if I were to explain any kind of stress I’m experiencing due to the power the illusion of having money holds over our world today. Rich family ≠ safe or healthy. Power is dangerous in the wrong hands

When you realize what you just said it becomes even more obvious that culture and knowledge is gonna save us

Parents with money tend to shelter their children from the realities of life , and most of the time , when these realities of Life come knocking , these poor kids are ill-prepared to deal with them. That kind of trauma can be very hard to deal with.

@@robertamoyaw1979 I really wouldn’t say it’s naivety in my case. All of us are pretty well-seasoned, well-rounded for life. It’s the emotional component that’s lacking. You could almost say it’s too extreme for the level of superficiality of the subject matter. I think also, we don’t care about the same things as others and that skews our perceptions about what values to have in life. It can really turn a good person into a not so good one.

@@2322zelda Yes it can , n at that point a person has to decide what kind of person they want to be. It's our FREE WILL AS HUMANS , we just have to make that decision n go for it 🙂

@@jazmine9570 it is actually

intelligence and discipline together 👌

Its also sad to note that most intelligent people don't want to get their hands dirty😄

Wisdom will defeat discipline n intelligence combined- e.g.King Solomon

@@robertamoyaw1979 CHUCK NORRIS DEfeats everything. Case closed. Checkmated.

In Genesis GOD said "let there be light " & There you are .!!!! 🌎 🌏 🌐 🌍 🌎 🌏 🌐

MVP 🏆

How gracious of you. Thanks!

Thank you

Clarification, the stupidity referenced, is an inbuilt stupidity of the system rather than of the students.

True, also having an open mind and constantly asking questions

@@martinm6108 9ooooooooooooooooooooooooopo

Psychologist Angela Duckworth named this grit, the most powerful success factor based on her evidence based study.

I feel like this really points out how important it is to know what resources you have available to you in any given situation and to actually utilize them. Perseverance can be one of the biggest factors overall though, I'm sure.

Watch the long version of the video documentary called, 'FALSE GODS OF OUR TIME' by Jeremiah Films.

jordan peterson said it, but in his way "Be humble enough to understand that if you can't order your own life, you shouldn't be trying to order anything more complicated than that."

Only time in life we don’t have a problem is when we’re in crisis‼️

“Necessity is the mother of invention”

You are absolutely right! The reading and writing skills are important. But, problem-solving skills are essential.

In life, I was always bad at reading comprehension, good at math, poor memory for what I wasn't interested in ... so welcome to abcd tests! I had to problem solve. So...yes, our negatives help us sometimes. Now mine aren't crazy emotionally driven (although, they could be if I really dwell on them). But...life goes on, so we gotta adapt, and change, and figure things out even more...and sometimes, in my problem solving brain, letting go and just looking for beauty and positives, brings me happiness...lately, I had this idea, popped in my head today...if you are on a plane and it's unfortunately one of the few that's going down...and you know you're done for and this is the last few seconds...who do you wish was sitting next to you? Now...think for a quick second...how do we become that person that we are sitting next to? It transcends everything...we're all here together, and cheering each other up and being there for others is where it's at. This idea that we need to figure out how to be happy is great too...but if we can bring happiness to others in the process, that is something.

I am having to fight the same war too. With a cGPA of 2.0, I gotta get myself out of probation. I have no other choice but to study as efficiently as I can. I am and still an avid stutterer since 2nd grade.

You were gifted one of most important assets for succeeding in life- Tenacity. You never gave up.. You refused to fail. You never gave up and did let your "disabilities" interfere with your desire to succeed. I am blessed with ADHD which actually can be great asset because I process solutions very quickly. The only problem is that sometimes people cannot understand how I got to the solution. You were accepted into an incredible school. You have been blessed by Heavenly Father to help in others you did with your research paper

@@wannabe_Hacker have you ever had any experience with acting? I had a horrible stutter around k-2nd grade but the very first time I was put on camera (I was supposed to speak for a doll I held in my hand), I think it may have been that I was lending my voice to a personality that was not my own but the first time I spoke to the camera was literally the last time I stuttered. I can't imagine it's a fool proof fix but it couldn't hurt to try 🤟

@@wannabe_Hacker one more small piece of advice from someone who also had problems learning in school: do you read for pleasure? if not I highly recommend finding a series of books on a subject that holds great interest to you and that has no other practical use. your brain is a muscle. if you use it in the pursuit of pure enjoyment it will get so much stronger so much faster than struggling to get by because you must. that route is uphill in all directions in a dang blizzard! have you read Harry Potter? it might be the perfect thing... assuming you can get into the story. best of luck to you 🙌💙🙌

@@marpafranzoni9536 James Earl Jones (voice of Darth Vader in Star Wars) advised the same successful strategy. Thank you for sharing, I love to see people win! ✊🏽❤️⚡️🙏🏽

I have flat feet. That's why I don't run. =P

How the fk do you master persistence and patience? Don't they contradict each other? teach me.

@@ex-x7079 patience and persistence go hand in hand.

How do I teach myself about ambition? I think I don't have any, and I'm looking inside me around 3 years now.. and nothing... Actually still think that ambition it's a way of get your ego Even bigger

Those values and methods of success are taught all the time... I don't know what world you live in but plenty of teachers and parents and coaches and community leaders are all about these and more

What a proactive and wise decision, bravo! Unfortunately for my line of work I must use social media. It is however a curse and a huge drain of energy that could be spent on self improvement. Like you are doing.

@@corneliusparkin2401 then change it, go hustle

He's an excellent lecturer and an amazing intellect.

Don't sleep on sleep! It's crucial

@@Sadvey ok but if you are a musician you have NO choice

sorry but you.re right. Mental illness, my parents thought we were nuts. Well, they got it right. there is a moral code on a parent to do their job. They may be teaching what was handed down. ABUSE no one deserves that. Truth is, my opinion, jail. You trust these people with your life. How the hell can you feel any safety, trust, love. You start out just you and wind up with the Andes on top of you. Fight hard.

I agree that mental illness is an issue. My wife is bipolar. Money cannot fix this situation. All i can do is provide my kids a safe outlet.

@@MrTodayistheday Well, that's nice, but I disagree. Money can buy medicine, counseling, perhaps a nanny, and respite for your wife, and you too. Just saying. I wish your family the best.

@@krmccarrell My wife is a practicing medical doctor (MD). I am an experienced management consultant for Fortune 100 companies. You would think we would have everything. Twelve years into my marriage she was diagnosed as bipolar. No about of medicine or counseling will make her "normal". My kids and I must endure her moodiness and depression. Counselors are useless. As their parent, I can only provide my kids an example, stability, and a safe place to express their emotions. Life is not fair and money cannot fix the dearest things of all. In the end, we can only do the best and hope our kids will do their best.

another reason to hate this world

you watch everything on tv 24/7 don't act like it took. more than a 4 months old boys penis to capture your entire motheers an. childrens families lineage

@@pabloherrera7210 dislike cause dumb.

Yeah, gee, I never would have guessed that persistence and determination were important to success. I figured successful people sit around playing video games until there's a knock at the door.

I was able to earn my Bachelor’s degree after having 6 children, being a high school dropout and having low self confidence. I just persisted and really wanted it. Also, success is different for everyone. We all have losses, failures and successes. To me , success is growing and being responsible. And in giving oneself the same grace we give to others.

@@veronicaherrera7586 Your reasoning is excellent and so is your accomplishment, well done Veronica. Your children must be proud of you. More people like you and we can all look forward to a better future.

Makes all the difference in the world.

I’d say at risk of being misunderstood, that it takes a lot to run away from tigers and lions.

As does race. (See: coloreds.)

Which is why colleges should consider household income when it comes to the admissions process.

Having a supportive family that encourages education, good work ethic and morals has a huge impact. You can come from rich dysfunctional family or a close knit immigrant family where everyone works their tails off, and see these poor immigration family pass dysfunctional rich and dysfunctional poor lazy welfare types by.

No matter what domain

Idk, not to toot my own horn but I think I’m pretty good at math. Can’t focus for shit though.

Such a simple task could be used to evaluate the mental health status of kids. (As if anyone cares for simplicity.)

@@timfredrickson3889 You, sir, are what we’d called an Outlier ;-)

@@kirstinstrand6292 I think you’re on to something. And what are the odds that my word for the year (2021) is Simplicity!

They are Microsoft employees, so they are pre-screened for ability to pay attention, conform to expectations, engage in intellectual curiousity. Also, they are "on the clock" at work, and being viewed by their peers.

@@Allen2 interesting. Tks

@@Allen2 Kind of a pessimistic view. Successful people are naturally more curious and are driven to up their games. Granted, peer pressure is a factor.

@@Allen2 100% assured that they are being evaluated as well

Those people are already the top, they know how to behave and the talk was marvelous anyway.

Way to Go, man! gotta to do the same thing!

Not the point of this video or his lecture but OK...

@@ADifferentVibe The video was about social evolution. His point was that outcomes are determined by conventions and values of society. Therefore by modifying conventions and values, we can achieve greater equality and improve outcomes. Values and conventions are essentially what we approve of. So if he's saying that values and conventions determine success, then what it all boils down to is social approval determines success.

Work smooth and smart, doing the right things, even if it's slow. Hard may not be right

You watched this vid then decided to work harder are you joking

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the empirical rule...careful when the specify one or two sided on the standard deviations away from the mean.

Its a trade off, though. How many people have I met who made these sacrifices during their youth, only to regret later in life that they missed out on some amazing times with their friends, and being in their 30s or 40s, its hard to recreate the same experience in their latter years. It all depends on what your values are.

Well , I attended a special school with the students being like the best from their individual schools .What I learnt was that they would party like the people you mentioned and still have a 4.0GPA with half the time u spent studying

GPA oft grades homework too frequently to be an accurate indicator of aptitude or success. There are plenty of people who achieved near-perfect GPAs, studied constantly throughout secondary school, and went on to college only to drop out of college. Personally, I did roughly 10% of my homework, blew off any opportunity to study, and my standardized test scores remained far above average for my entire academic career. Why was that? Because I took notes and tried to maximize my own engagement while in class. That way, I wouldn't have to waste my time reiterating on previously-learned information. Then, when the ACTs rolled around, I spent two nights cramming formulae into my head. If you don't love homework and studying, don't do it, because you're not going to an ivy league school with that kind of attitude anyway. Get your diploma, go to community college, and find out what you want to do before committing to a 4-year university, if you even want to do that.

@@tayokarate this is a redundant statement. You are basically saying ''yeah well, my high iq/best brain genetics crop friends got to party and still do well''. Of course kids who attend a special school for what i assume is catered to 'gifted' young people are going to have to put less effort in than someone of maybe more middle of the road intelligence.

Yes, this is an example of the old Ant and Grasshopper story. Many are not willing to put in the effort necessary to secure the rewards; and only later, on seeing the rewards manifest in their betters, instead of regret and change in their behavior, they seek the service of the State to redistribute wealth and resources.

yep

The discussion of dyslexic people becoming billionaire business founders suggests that it is more complex than that.

Most of the time, yes. But also some people born disadvantaged or in disadvantaged environments can also acquire skill sets that turn out to be advantages later on in life.

Period.

@@jimbaker5110 but they are a vanishingly small minority

You mean, lik, slaveowners?

Very true

@@J3unG Very funny. That's too many past tense descendants. Its about what you are doing not your great grandparents.

No voodoo but generational curses are kinda real

@@J3unG lmao you talking romans and jews? or blacks and blacks?

The number of 33% blew my mind

I worked with Stephen J. Cannell. He was uber successful, and he was dyslexic. Also a very nice man. In any case, he managed to write a novel a year on an old IBM selectric, despite his challenges. Not to mention his TV and movie career.

I'm at that point right now. Very interesting.

I won't say he's 💯 percent, but he's right, because I have a brother who is dyslexic and a also know a few more people who as well. And they are all successful so his research is definitely on to somthing.

I was about to move away, I have ADD, and jump from one thing to another. Thank you for this comment. I will go back and hear this. U made my day!

Successful people keep on going when people stop.

The rich become richer by spending like the poor and investing non stop, why the poor stay poor by spending like the rich yet not making any investment

Investment are the ones stepping Stones to success, investing in what create wealth.

I invested in both stock and crypto but currently I believe crypto is doing more better !!!

NOTE:Money is always eager and ready to work for anyone who is ready to employ it.

Exactly, and like he said its even harder for someone who never experienced it to understand how powerful it is. Thus, the people who never lived in poverty are the intellectuals who go on to write and discuss the role of poverty in success. All the while not knowing what a profound impact poverty has on success. its fascinating really.

yes yesyes provide internships, give all decent healthcare. If my brain is screwed, no rx drugs, no roof, you will use more. All humans have to have basic needs. Im 72, white, part of the 80%. Doesn't mean I haven't used to get high, speaking for this bag of goo, drugs work and it was fun. But I knew to escape poverty look up Kensington Allegheny, Phila. My neighborhood. I had to work hard, even when I didn't to

Or in my case what a powerful motivator it is.

@@networth8754 we get it. your badass

@@gregd.6920 As much as I think the words "lived experience" are lame, it is an extremely important concept, and I think it should be a requirement for any kind of civil service job.

Facts. Your ability to accomplish something isn't enough for people who hire; they have to have a good reason to let you earn your salary; they are not willing to give you their money unless you belong to their direct families or to a close group of friends that they really know. The goal is to keep the money closer to themselves with very little fear to losing it! . That's one of reasons why you may 'fail' at the interviews despite your obvious intelligence and potentiality. Exceptions to that unfairness may apply be large organizations that always need targeted practical knowledge; even in that occurrence, selections for interviews are pretty scary! Finally, an individual or family should be able to have ownership with the intent ro be free of injustice and abuse, and trive for growth.

sounds like you got a victim mentality if you knew all this time that its who you know why didn't YOU go out and network, so what you weren't born into a rich household you were born in a fist world country you make the most out of your life

You nailed it.

*Fax*

Fact but when u work for it, u will get it

luck has a huge component to success. there are millions of ppl trying to succeed but their arent enough spots for everyone so someone it going to be left out. You can change everything to reach your goal yet you dont reach it depending on the goal. Sure being a surgeon or lawyer which have more objective measurements are easier to reach but some goals depend on others opening a path.

Wow!

Lol literally the whole talk is about how much outside factors make or break success. Youre extrapolating an entire belief system from one outcome of one scenario.

Science: top 0.1% IQ means little if you are born to poverty. Poverty is the problem. It's poverty. People in the comments: Just like don't fear success, man.

Did you even listen to anything he said?

How did you learn this?

Agree but with one thing. Don’t connect a goal of completion with a reward. Finishing should be reward by itself. Another thing is that in life sometimes there will be no rewards though great effort was invested. (Not saying never reward )

That's one out of the 3 things he said that give you a chance at being succesful and he said there are many more in his books. He also said no matter how hard you persevere and try to become succesful it can still backfire in the end resulting in depression. Life is all about luck.

@@yannickclaes90 that sentence is very discouraging. It’s like an excuse. Someone doesent give all effort possible then blames it on the luck factor. That selftalk is a killer. It is however not easy and not without a danger to be completely honest with self. Not easy because sometimes we are not aware of lies our mind is comforting us with. When we see through our own self limitations and we see the truth it can be tricky to accept it without being hurt. Like I had to admit to myself what I did wrong and what I could make to prevent my bankruptcy. It’s a hard cake to chew on. But only way to became better is to recognize weaknesses and acknowledge the pitty old me patterns. Hard work beats the crap out of luck in 99% of the cases.

@@nevencuca1680 Einstein quote: “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” You are only looking at life in an anecdotal way. Someone with down syndrome will never be "successful". Someone who dies in a car accident at 16 will never be "successful". What's the definition of success? Hard work? Work a lot? Work smart? You aren't giving any answers to this by just saying hard work will be the way to what our society perceives as being successful.

PREACHHHH

@@rachelo9804 I guess that puts me in the big legumes

You're not wrong, still, better late then never

Many people end up in the bleachers.

@@zoltannemeth8864 Everyone watching this video is in the bleachers, trying to learn how to play the game with the professionals.

what? teachers care. Care about their pension, their time off, their union protection, their tenure...

Also,... The English spelling system is so flawed that it delays learning to read by 2 years compared to languages like Spanish (Seymour, 2003). The less educated families have it worse. Every single linguistics' professor knows this. Teachers should. Tutoring agencies know. Everyone of them will find excuses to keep the status quo. The system favours the status quo. It is the Fix It Again Tony (fiat). The flaws create opportunity to make money at the expense of the whole society. People are so focussed on their own success, they cannot think f the whole and to be sure governments are often bought off by industries that benefit from the chaos. They have lobbyists to keep the golden goose alive. If one were to keep the old generations using the current ststem and raise a new generation with the new system, it could work. Which dialect? Make one. Unify. There is a lack of vision and the anglosphere is declining. Mark my words.

Yeah but lets not act like all Asian countries have great school systems. The difference in attitude is one key element here. In the West it depends on your parents making you open to learning or nurture anti-intellectualism and make you fail.

Remember hanging out?

that's sign of a great speaker

Malcolm is always easy to listen to. He is low ego.

it's an excellent tactic of the Marxist left; against all pressure and facts, remain calm cool and collected then the masses will follow you ANYWHERE.

@@brad349miller Maybe Fox bloviators should take note of the style, but I didn't see here any Political leanings expressed that were Marxist or any obvious untruths.

Is that why people say you only fail when you quit?

What's best for the collective is best for all members of the ecosystem.. its a social system ! Metaphors.. all words are just data. Thinking in probabilities and staying adaptable is so powerful

@@goldnutter412 probabilities of the unknowable?

@@TeaParty1776 What's your problem? Example: Probability that extraterrestrial aliens visited Earth in the year 1521 = ~ 0 %. See how easy that is?

@@markplimsoll I cant tell if thats serious or satire.

@@TeaParty1776 When I taught, I came across Stanford University's one page advice to new students. It assumed everyone's family had intellectual discussions over meals.

I also come from a small farming community. I got lucky - our school bought some computers early. The first computers were labeled as A/V equipment and put in the library. It happened that my mother was the school librarian, and she brought one home over Christmas break to figure it out. I spent more time on it than she did. I was hooked, and probably put in 5,000 hours of programming and using programs before I graduated high school. Without that, I don't know where I'd be. I didn't know anybody in the tech field. Many of my friends became farmers, loggers, maybe work at or own a small business. You learned how to do that from your parents, not from a college. A third of the girls in my class dropped out before graduation.

It's less to do with actual education and more to do with social connections. Rich kids who make friends with other rich kids and their families have enormous advantages within that network and they will take those with them throughout their entire life. You don't have to be a genius to work as a corporate executive, you just need to know someone who generally approves of you and your family.

‘1 out of a billion’ is coincidentally the exaggerated same phrase I used on a South Korean online chat messenger few years ago when I rarely exaggerate not to lie false words!😮/😹Maybe why a gal I thought who was not envious had introduced me this author’s book which was a pop bestseller was because she knew something else along with granparents who gave her a logo dialed Bvlgari watch while I had been hating logos until I had to use and fashion logos to ward off retarded abusive people. In short you might want to exchange your individuality with financial support and zombie parents and granparents who choose and shop your clothes and not only gifts while you may never even realize spirituality or how further some other people had pursued in spirituality and growth in character without ever having really worry about calories because youre busy doing something or warding off envious lunatics who cancel your cheapo Ruelala order because theyre the retards who complain during work to random clients while you think the retarded complaining in store British female clerk will probably never understand true work ethic and how you will work humbly with every moment in servitude and good intentions while never even thinking of talking to customers outside guidelines. You might realize you would want to actually be reading conservative religious beliefs and considering ditching all farm occupation people and most population as maybe retarded and some untouchables due to their lack of character and immature disgusting envy:you will want disgusting hypocrits at academia become ashes as soon as possible and realize how overrated doctors or so called people who wrote medical journals and papers and lab reports and even AI researches IF YOU ACTUALLY READ THE STUFF. Your dre** will come true more quickly with a higher probability if the evil corrupted South Korean Catholic doc passes after the Catholic abusive doc cursed the word ‘dre**’ few years ago in a city with the same name as a South Korean arrow shooter scumbag who i wondered had been simple tools. The Catholic doc who has passed or is waiting to have his corrupted head taken by a statue of Mary **-which might had been shedding blood tears in his dre*-* has the same name with a male South Korean singer contestant who lost at a singing contest to a male singing contestant named ‘hero’ the same name as an American Eskimo’s name listed on a South Korean vet’s PC. Wow i am so brave like 1 in a billion:lesson: *YOUR LIFE CAN BE GLORIOUS IF YOU DONT GET EXPOSED TO ENVIOUS CREEPY KOREANS*

@@toddmarshall2726 everything you just said is SPOT ON!!!

All great points, environment is probably one of the biggest factors i agree with. If you're in a community where everyone is highly educated and has high paying careers more likely you will try to do it too. Also having the social connections from the start, teens getting part time jobs at legal offices because their parents friends work there instead of fast food places.

Lots of agriculture is like that. Fruit trees, even dwarf varieties (which yield more fruit per hectare than traditional trees) take about 5 years to grow and they produce fruit, sometimes every other year, for about 15-20 years. I know...I farm.

It's fascinating to think of how profoundly agriculture shapes societies. Thanks for those insights.

I can relate to this sad story

Also way more humble.

I’m just the opposite. Grew up in a small town but moved to the city. I’m very ADD compared to many of my friends who would stick to a task until they figured it out. Now my daughter I see is the same as me. Wasn’t until later in my 20’s that I decided hard work was more beneficial than leisure time and though not rich I managed to own a home and provide a good life for the family. Just don’t know how to get that message to my teenager.

I too grew up in a village, and have a different outlook on life then many of my friends.

The Thinking Man my husband was a transplant surgeon and program director at an academic centre who trained many residents and fellows in the course of his career. He used to say “give me a kid from a dairy farm who had to get up and milk cows as the first thing in the morning and the last thing in the evening 365 days a year over the kid who came from an upbringing with a silver spoon in their mouth.”

Well said.

Not unless your parents are narcissists. It wasn't until I was an adult until I heard some people's parents told them, "If you fall down, just get up and keep going. That's what's important." My dad said of failing is that's because you'll amount to nothing. Mom's POV of failing is "because you aimed too high. best to not even try or else you'll keep being disappointed." Most of society isn't like that.

hw you feel affects how you think...and how you think affects how you act...and they WAY in which you ac, always affects the whole- PREACH

@@C.Church it’s weird when your parent doesn’t even say anything about failing. I think all I learned from them was that life is going to be super hard and nothing good will happen for you unless you put it into motion. And the government won’t help much either so don’t count on that. Failing isn’t even an option. Failing is a blank space.

Great advice. I think I needed this In order to properly realign my Priorities and values.

There were so many flawed assumptions in the first few minutes of this talk that I didn't see the value in continuing. As you pointed out by your sentence, success is not the same for everyone. By his definition, only holding a prominent position in society is having successful life. To begin with some people excel at jobs that aren't prominent in society. Such as nurses, who are not given the same value and attention as doctors. He is branding fulltime mothers as failures, etc. What you wrote can be applied by most people. From someone who wants a career, to someone who is disabled and has different goals each day. We all have our various limitations and values in life. As far as I see it, success about quality of life. That is my definition. Many people value their relationships with loved ones more than awards and accolades from their careers when at the end of their life. Yes, success is up to the individual's interpretation. From what I have listened to thus far, and gleaned from the comments, you have contributed something far more useful and valuable in your succinct comment than the entirety of the speech. Thankyou!

Seems as though kids these days are taught, not how, but what to think. We have been homeschooling our kids for 10 years now. Aside from their Biblical studies, I believe their classes in "logic" have been the most important. They know how to work through discussions, and problems, in a way so few people, it seems, know how these days. Really glad to have clicked on this. So good.

Wow! And the family probably could help, but wouldn't. I made a lit of sacrifices for my kids.

Kind of a copout. If he had really wanted to go, he would have found a way... hitchhiked, begged for bus money, etc. A lot of the things we blame on poverty is actually our belief in own limitations and not the lack of money.

And I didn't have a car.

In 7th grade I got the computer programming bug. Except my family couldn't afford a TRS-80. I'd ride my bike 30 minutes to the nearest Radio Shack, where they'd let a little kid sit for awhile on weekends and try to get his ASCII Space Invaders game going ("look, even a little kid can use it!" as a selling point...).. 2 days out of the week the school library let me use the TRS-80 iii for *15 minutes* after school. Meanwhile a friend had a TRS-80 at home. He's a programmer today, I'm not.

Gladwell will increase your IQ just by listening to him. Read his books/lectures/interviews and I have learned a lot.

1 in 100 actually finish a novel

@@rickspalding3047 bitter truth

I thought that too but after reading two books and skimming a third I realised that he is another Dan-Brown-type author with a repeatable formula. Serial writer, a journalist that never gets deep into a subject. A fantastic marketeer but only superficially grasps at any topic he deals with.

@@clichethinker 3000% agree. But, I'm saying he has popularized the trend of looking at things mathematically/probability-wise. I think that is important.

Most people never heard of blink, I liked listening to it, but he hasn't revolutionized anything, politicians and teacher unions are a massive wall that no one is breaking down

Why are you named after my favourite hotel lol

@@born5094 We been thier few times as well when we stay at NYC, I see you got good taste ;)

@@citizenm9590 Likewise ;) Been to the London, France and Amsterdam ones so far, still many more to check off

I bet he's still successful in his personal life though; as in having many friends and popular with the girls. Being successful at school isn't all it's cracked up to be.

You should have asked your dad to support him until he could stand on his feet.

I wish someone had explained that to me 40 years ago!

Correct. Many talented people or fantastic concepts don't take off or succeed simply cos they don't get popular with the masses or the masses just don't get it. What a bummer...

It’s called marketing

You could also say it is a measure of their persistence combined with the efficiency of the results of their productivity.

Its called sales and marketing. There is a reason why these 2 industries alone are massive. Applies to companies also individually.

your dog is very wise

Good Dog!😂

Just let your dog select all your videos.

May the paw of your dog guide you through the internet

That's the problem.. from what I've observed entertainment business are very lucrative let's say if you're likable even a newcorner can even earned $10,000 by just sitting in talkshow for less than an hour (in my country they loves to show their earning) and earned much quickly than any scientist or highly intelligent people ever combined same goes with sports world you mentioned since it's still entertainment show for most people

Blame the popularity of sports. Throw in future celebrity & endorsement deals. Sports "hero" vs. nerd. It's the tragic world we live in.

Panem et circesnes

kind of explains why China and Russia are running laps around the cucked west, biting and slashing

As a man who’s been in NYC for many yrs *spot-on

Being a good musician in 2021 is like being a good horse and buggy maker - an antiquated skill with limited demand as technology replaces the need for that talent (note, I didn’t say any talent, just THAT talent for making music from standard or makeshift musical instruments).

@@lexusls4305 instruments are more than just sound and without the intimacy of physical manipulation of an actual object music wouldn't exist

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@@yunnowho3225 I agree. but the audience...sigh...the general public...doesn't see it (or hear it) that way. Look at acoustic pianos....once in every middle class home. Now, you can't even give them away. The culture of live music with real instruments has been defeated (for the majority) by machines. Those of us left practicing, rehearsing and playing real instruments have fewer venues to play and smaller audiences to go before. I wish it weren't so, but the fashion of the times is machinery over humanity.

Children grow rapidly; a couple of months can make a significant difference in size- critical in basketball and other sports

Environment and 'capitalization' are distantly secondary to genetic predisposition. The genetic factor is right in front of our faces and beyond undeniable. The body structure and physiology that are ideal for distance running just happen to be more common in the East African phenotype than anywhere else, it's as simple as that. Then on top of that, yeah, add the high altitude and the strong cultural encouragement for distance running, and you get the total dominance we see. For another example, 100% of the men who line up for the 100m Olympic final are of West African descent (regardless of country of origin, crucially), and 0% are of East Asian descent. This is not a result of culture or structure. We're hesitant to recognize this obvious dynamic because of the fear of a sinister slippery slope of racism, but the facts are right there.

please quit with the growth mindset. Go back and read how Caroline Dweck tells us that this has been totally misunderstood and misapplied.

Yesss it was a big controversy at the 1968 Olympics in Mexico City because as you may know the altitude of Mexico, specifically Mexico city (the capital was founded there because it was the highest point in the entire country!)...is very high for most runners. It is actually even higher than Jamaica. Apparently people were angry about the elevation, but people didn't know how profoundly it could effect the body until that 1968 game. :)

@@rrickarr Your comment is not true. Caroline Dweck's growth mindset is taught everywhere now. Her main point was that innate ability is nonsense. For example, telling someone they did a good job is better than telling someone they are smart. Smart kids fear that if they do badly, they are not smart anymore. Whereas if they know that they will do better next time if they keep trying and learn from their mistakes, that is better. They can always learn it right the next time. Believing you can grow and improve is ideal.

His work is heavily influenced by Freakonomics. And I love it.

@@rheeryder2524 Thanks for that mention. I like the No Stupid Questions segment on their homepage.

There is this podcast called how I built this by guy nas on NPR and he asks the founders of huge companies (he's interview founders of airbnb, dell, we work, Instagram and way more) at the end of every episode- "is it down to luck or smarts?" they got so successful and they all but one saidthat you CANNOT have one without the other to be as successful as they did.

How many girls had paper routes? Is there an equivalent? I’m assuming most of these business owners you’re referring to are men.

@@o.h.w.6638 babysitting?

@@o.h.w.6638 well that’s because men and women are different, if you watch a lot of Jordan Peterson videos you will notice women are as ambitious or interested in being CEOs of big companies as much as men

@@edlerg.624 what’s the why tho

Definitely. Dedication creates talent. I can't actually name any talent that is innate. Maybe a physical ability. Worked with alot of musicians and never met anyone talented who didn't study and train. Though, having larger or smaller hands seems to have some advantages in specific cases.

@@BLACKPICTUREE People are not born with skills. Therefore, they can not have a higher level of skill in something at birth.

@@BLACKPICTUREE except every top athlete is the one who was most determined and not the one with the best genetics. There is always someone with better genetics, but we don't have any champions who have the optimal genetics. Michael Phelps is the closest thing we have, and yet : A. He's unique (obviously not the common occurrence) B. There's someone out there with better swimming features in all likelihood. So even if we could measure that theoretical "innate ability," it's never occurred that way in a single example we can draw from.

Because you can learn great life lessons without the life threatening circumstances of the grandfather, kids that grow up in environments without negative stress are far more likely to learn great life lessons from eustress(good stress), what our grandparents had to go through didn't leave them unscathed and many suffer from mental illness, etc... Malcom Gladwell is a smart guy and I'm a fan, but am often disappointed by his pesudo-profundity and oversimplification.

@@willmanning3819 Will is right. A lot of kids who grew up with hardship and poverty ended up suffering long-term effects related to trauma. This leads to a lot of mental illness, particularly in the form of personality disorders... and can perpetuate a cycle of intergenerational trauma if the grandparent isn't away of it. We want to minimise the amount of trauma our kids experience, but we also want to build resilience in them.

@@DirtyBottomsPottery what is a narrative? Has nothing to do with terms such as good and bad. It's a story. Tell me, what is something Good? Just a question

Up to a point. Toddlers really want to succeed at a lot of dumb stuff that their parents would be foolish/neglectful to allow.

How can you not especially in American society? Our entire culture is based on making a certain dollar amount, even if you don't spend it on lavish items.

Absolutely!!

Very true.

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