In listening to your video, I was very disappointed that no one offered to help you, or at least ask if you needed help. Personally, when I feel overwhelmed, I disconnect from everyone, til I can get my composure back to normal. Then I resume with life.
My mom did ask to help when they got there - but there was nothing she could really do to help make supper - I had it all prepped and just needed to focus on cooking and getting everything on the table. And I hear you on getting overwhelmed and needing to disconnect!
This resonated with me so much. This overwhelm happens to me quite often. I especially tend to get frustrated and overwhelmed when I have to get everyone ready for school, pack lunches, etc and there are too many other things going on. I really like the way you phrased this- I’m not available for that right now- please don’t ask me for anything until this other task is done. I will have to practice this. Thank you. Your videos are very helpful.
I am now trying to be a step ahead of those situations....I would have told my friend that it was not a good night for her to come and stay at my house. Great video!
Thank you for sharing such wonderful insight. It's important to understand it's ok to have these feelings. It's incredibly powerful to recognize them, take a step back and addressing our own needs without giving up ourselves. (Without giving away our own powers or taking "someone's head off") Very point on!!
I am definitely a "Time optimist..." haha. Some really big projects lately have probably led to me feeling some ongoing overwhelm. I'm trying to slow down and set realistic expectations and enjoy the process. Thanks for this video Julia!
Thank you for your video Julia. I felt overwhelmed at work this week . I had paper work that I was checking over and over to make sure I wasn't making more mistakes. I couldn't think straight. So I took the day off yesterday. I needed to relax and clear my mind.
I think u right, u have to let people know, that u have things to get done at a certain time.i agree with you on that.cause I would be cooking dinner,my kids need something every one is asking for something, and i would get mad .then start yelling at, everyone iam busy with dinner.they realize,so they stop asking for my help.
Loved this one on overwhelm. Been really feeling it alot lately, however how do you manage it when you're the one overwhelming yourself with a billion tasks that needs to be done at once?
in my IT tech environment we have the same concept in oder to prevent a server crash..... LOAD SHEDDING run only tasks with the highest priority and only to a defined maximum of load, all other task are thrown away, sometimes with a notificaion to the clients (here your family)😂😂😂😂
Hi Julia! Senior Shifter Chris here! Let's see if my comment stays or disappears. Lol Weird that has been happening lately. Here is my take-away and my notes on today’s RU-vid video: Feeling Overwhelmed? Do this 1 Simple Thing! For me, I had been feeling overwhelmed (at first) recently by getting rid of stuff. It is a combination of getting rid of my stuff, helping mom with her stuff, and my uncles with my late grandparents’ stuff. I think I am like my mother and have a hard time getting rid of stuff, but we have been doing it and I am proud of both my mother and myself. To feel less overwhelmed, we just pick an area in a room and just go from there and eventually it gets easier. There can be some things that you think you either really need or still want or have emotional/sentimental value to something but afterwhile it gets easier to let stuff go. I think these tips still apply to what I am doing here because I can tune into what I am feeling if I see so much stuff and clutter, take a deep breath, and then set parameters - which in my case, tell myself I will only work in a certain section or room. Here are my notes: *Tune in what you are feeling *Take a deep breath *Set parameters clearly and calmly for what you are available for *Emotional intelligence is not always having the perfect feeling, it isn't about never letting anything bother us, stress us out, overwhelm, hurt our feelings, it is about tuning in, and getting curious about what's happening inside of us, and why. Then we decide what to do about it, respond instead of acting out emotionally immature way, reacting or avoiding. *You don't have to say yes to someone.
This is good. However, what I'd say regarding this particular example is that many people would love to have this feeling of being needed by so many. I've lost both parents and would love for them to need me. Now, my kids are grown enough to where I long for the days when I felt needed by them. Now they only need me when they want something 😅😅
Sending you love in the midst of this. You are right - being needed by loved ones is a gift - I would just prefer it if they didn't all need me at once! ;-)
Not only that, but you also had to move the garage to the other side of the house, LOL. Great video. The human brain cannot multitask the way a computer does. I hate feeling overwhelmed. I now try not to take too much on at once, but of course this is not always possible. I have indeed exploded a couple of times, but now I am more able to compartmentalize things. My parents never evolved beyond toddlerhood in terms of emotional development, so the family roles became inverted. As a child, I was unwittingly playing the role of parent to my own parents. Of course I did not understand what was going on at that time, since I was still a child myself.
Read ESSENTIALISM. He says only do what is essential. When you try to be a people pleaser- you please no one. Learn to delegate and say NO. They will respect you more. Glad you tapped into your feelings and took control. Don't let them take advantage of you.
Thank god, I already thouht I was maybe authistic ? I am totally stressed out, even sometimes „a little unfriendiy“, wenn people or orher distractions pull me aeay from what I am doing….absolutly dificult for me, to multitask. Working as a teacher, I am regularly in such situations….even though, I really like my students (kids), I am totally exhausted after school. Tune in to oneself sounds good, what I need is a simple trick….I started to just take e veeery deeep breath and the say clearly, what I need. Thank god, the other people‘s reactions is also „not my job“🌹👍🏻
Hi Julia ❤ I totally relate to your story 😂 a great one speaking to any woman here I guess … One thing (and please forgive me for coaching a choch coach 😉) your Dad is a grown up and capable of making himself a drink 😜 He should not have had ask you for it, especially in such busy circumstances. There is a need for the proper boundry 😎 YOU taught me that 😉😉❤️🙌
STOP. Take a step back. Allow yourself to rest your mind and body. And start over. If you are overwhelmed, your approach or perspective is off. Make a tangible list of everything you need to do and break it down into as small steps as you can. And just DO them. Stop waiting. Life is NOW!
I'm sorry if this sounds rude, it might be helpful if the children are taught to do a few things for themselves. Also quickly prepare dinners with a few ingredients might help too. 😊
My honest opinion is that there's too much going on before the event. Need to delegate and simplify the activities. Everyone should have help out..have some sense to do that...not put it on you.
