@ that's her husbands niece. Her niece. Her family. But you clearly got a problem with someone you don't even know. Says a lot about your waste of existence
@@ScottD_ I dont think shes implying that shes not talking to a professional. I think shes just offering up her advice because Tam is clearly hurting. No need to turn it into anything else
Adelaide Agbozo I’m not turning it into anything , it just seems that she assumed that Tamera isn’t speaking to someone when before she has stated that she has seen therapists before
Regardless of how long the break, the tears will still flow every now and again and it's ok. I hope the tears i shed become less frequent, but if they spill from my eyes till my dying days..it's OK because that's just another from of love.
@@nobodynobody3182 Do you know what a freaking joke is? Do you think an intelligent woman like Tamara would allow a "backstabber" in her home and around her kids? Get a brain.
Me too im from London, UK. I've been doing this since the late 90's. The first time I ever took my lil bro clubbing like 18 years ago I taught him the exact same thing plus we always had a secret look between us should we feel that something was about to kick off and a meeting point away from the venue should we get split up. He still does this with his boys to this day. Got to always be prepared and be aware of people and your surroundings
I said what I said because their is no such thing as a safe city EVEN if it’s “ranked”, it’s Dosent make it exempt from evil. that’s why it’s good to always be aware and cautious of your surroundings because anything can happen at any moment
Tamara do not ever say sorry for crying. Your emotions and fears are raw. .. I know it was probably your turn to talk but it hurt my heart to hear you say sorry so many times. Hug! ❤️
Tamera has been through a lot. :( (edit) Her niece was taken by gun violence She lost her Grandmother who she loved so much She knows Jussie Smollet and is super concerned for him and his situation
Her niece was murdered in a mass shooting in November, her grandmother passed away in December, her friend Jussie was either the victim of a hate crime or he attempted to pull off a hoax of a hate crime in January. If it wasn't a hoax that means its awful, if it was a hoax its just as awful (worse IMO) so she must be feeling disillusioned about everything. Worrying for her children's safety. It may not be a lot to some but pain shouldn't be compared since pain is pain. How awful would it be if people showed some compassion for her and also each other?
@ what a stupid person you are to open your gob without knowing nothing typical moron much mike carter more like in sensitive knows f all dumb carter;)
She had me in tears. It’s still too fresh of a loss for her and that’s perfectly understandable. The pain of losing a loved one never really goes away. God bless you Tamera, my heart is with you. ❤️
Thank you Loni for saying it doesn’t matter if it’s in Compton or in Jeannie’s case Watts or in the safest city in the world, you can still get shot. Cause Jeannie made it seem like since she was in Watts, it made it more likely to get shot.
A person can get shot anywhere but in some places shootings are more likely to occur. Here in Australia shootings are much much rarer than in the US, so obviously people in America are more likely to be shot, and then you can break it down further, the risk would be higher in Chicago than Wyoming. Nothing Jeannie said was wrong
Nicole McP-- It's certainly way more likely to happen in the hood than a safe area. Let's not play these politically correct games! Statistics don't lie.
It is more LIKELY (statistically speaking) that she could get shot there. But I see what you’re saying. Because regardless of the “times” we’re in, it would still be dangerous to be out that late in Watts, so it was kind of irrelevant to the discussion.
When my daughter was 4, several years ago, we were in a public bathroom and she actually looked at me and said "if a bad man comes with a gun, we have to stand on the toilets like this so they don't see our feet and know we're in here." it absolutely crushed my heart that it was something that she was already being taught in school but i understood it was absolutely necessary because of today's social climate. There were two or three days out of the year where the active shooter drill scared her so much, that she cried at school and as a parent that hurt me and brought me to tears when discussing with the teacher. I hate that I want to protect her at all costs... but its clear I can't. All it takes is being out in public on the wrong day at the wrong time for something like this to happen. There definitely needs to be stricter gun control. Just look at Friday's Illinois workplace shooting. That shooter had a felony domsetic conviction for beating his girlfriend and still managed to get his gun license, AND buy a gun LEGALLY. Somehow he passed background checks with a felony conviction. My prayers are with those victims and their families. Edit: nowhere in my above comment do I say that I believe guns should be illegal. I am pro second amendment, however after getting my gun license I saw how easy it was to have access to such a powerful weapon and we should value our citizens to know that a change should happen to make it SAFER.
If he was a felon, he obtained the gun illegally. If guns become illegal do you think the bad guys will stop getting guns? No. Ever heard of the black market? Making guns illegal will only keep the good guys from being able to have guns for protection. The bad guys won't stop.
Aletheia Backs actually he obtained it legally because his background checks came back clean although he was convicted for the felony. When he applied for his carry license they took his fingerprints, realized he was a felon and asked him to surrender the weapon which he never did. He then went on to kill 5 innocent people because he was fired from his job. All of this should’ve been prevented because the gun should’ve never landed in his hands.
D while that is true, the shooter was mentally ill and this was known and documented. That is why my comment states gun control should also take into consideration mental health, a huge issue. When I applied for a gun license, they ran a background check and that’s it. I could be insane with no record and a gun would be easy to access. That’s dangerous.
That bout made me cry reading that. I have a 4 year old niece in America and I don't think she understands that sort of thing yet (and they do at that age too), and I hope she never does, but who am I kidding? There's too much going on.😔 Kids these days have even less time to be innocent and carefree, as they should be.
@@kisha4040 depending on what part of San Jose she is from, she may have grew up in the hood or near it, she isn't new to being in those types of area. Growing up in the Bay you are exposed to it.
I didn’t like that Jeanie used a “hood” as her excuse. I mean I get it but that’s not the topic at hand. We’ve always done that because that’s what we were taught. The difference is now that danger can be everywhere and that wasn’t always the case. Also why would they make them talk about something that hits so close to Tamera’s home? That’s to insensitive of the producers.
Because it's their job to discuss and report. Do you remember when J had to read the prompter about divorce or breakup and she was like...I think it's low-key shady that the producers had me read this. Lol
Jasmine H I feel like it's the stigma also the news sometimes puts out there... " don't go to ... because it's dangerous " I think that's where she was coming from but I do appreciate Loni diverting it to the point of it doesn't matter if you're in the hood or not , it's danger everywhere now
yes, even movie theaters I check where the exits are. when I buy something off fb marketplace, I meet at public places and screen shot our meeting place and take a pic of what I'm wearing and send it to my family. it's unfortunate but it is the new normal.
This shouldn't be our new normal, please God no, because it shouldn't be. It's not healthy or safe, especially mentally and emotionally. And most if all physically. It's like people can't just simply live and do simple everyday things now. This can't be the new normal.
For me I was taught when i was little (im 31 now) to look for all exits everywhere hotels, restaurants everywhere not just because of guns or people that could hurt you but because of fires or natural disasters. My dad wanted me to be prepared he said cuz if you are at a restaurant and a fire breaks out you need to know all possible exists cuz the one you know could be blocked so you need to know in case. So for me its always been a thing to be aware of where you are and how to be safe not just because of people but because other uncontrollable things. So this to me isn't "the new normal" because anything can happen not just a person with a gun and it's not being paranoid it's just being aware so that of something does happen either a fire, earthquake guy with a gun ect you know how to get out quickly. This to me should just be something you do for safety in general
People in the hood come across gun violence everyday for years. We are pretty much desensitized to this. This is just new for the “nicer” neighborhoods. Now because it’s affecting them people want to push for changes.
I dont really sympathy cry, I feel sympathy when somebody cries but I usually dont cry when they cry. but when I saw tamera's face tears came out. I can't even imagine.
Gun violence HAS always been a concern but now that it’s happening in the nice neighborhoods, something must be done 🤦🏾♀️ tragedy is still a tragedy but children in inner cities been experiencing traumatic experiences; where’s their outcry for change 😩
Honestly when tamera started talking I could see in her eyes and by the pauses she kept taking to try to talk that she couldn’t think and that she wasn’t feeling right..it’s so sad to see her like this especially sense she’s a sweet, happy person. Then the fact that she keeps apologizing for crying is heartbreaking, like noo don’t apologize, it’s ok to not be ok and she needs to take all the time she needs. Much love to her and her family🥺
you don't need to apologize Tamera love it is so innerstandable and beautiful that you are emotionally moved! this is what we need more of! Compassion, care and love ❤️
it's hard but it's not impossible. if you're scared today that's okay (especially for those who have been in a traumatic situation) but the key is to work on not being scared for the rest of your life. it doesn't benefit you to do so in no shape way or form. it only hurts YOU.
Jeannie, you lost me. It seems to me you checked for the exits because you felt you were in a dangerous area? I don't think that is the same as people being afraid because they are in places they think are supposed to be safe.
@@ida5067 But being afraid of being shot in a club you know may be dangerous, is not the same thing as being afraid you're going to be shot at church which is supposed to be a "safe place". It just isn't. Which is why Loni made the point she made at the end.
@@MajesticMyronn But are we not taught that we should be aware of our surroundings in dangerous areas? For instance I grew up in New Orleans, which has some dangerous areas, but I always felt safe at school until Columbine, when one of my safe spaces no longer felt so safe. The thought of something potentially happening in a dangerous area is always there, the thought of something potentially happening in a place we feel is a safe place, is a new reality.
omg this broke my heart :'( no one should have to go through this, especially a kind soul like tamera :( i'm so sorry for your loss and my love, thoughts and hugs go out to you, The world needs to stop with violence there is no excuse for it! :'(
Honestly , this is a really scary time for our country ! And to see the amount of crazy things happening regarding shootings in general , you feel small , you feel defeated , you feel like you can't make change because you're overwhelmed because there's so much more to fight for than just " shooting " we have to talk to each other , help each other out and resolve issues like this ASAP so we won't have to go through troubling times like this anymore! We shouldn't have to walk in fear everywhere we go , expecting something bad to happen
Myronn Coleman this is coming from a person who lives in the UK but this could be hugely resolved by getting rid of that gun ammendamnt you Americans have but then you lot are so stubborn into having the right to have guns but then complain about innocent people getting shot up all over the place the world looks at this and just thinks America could get rid of this problem by getting rid of the stupid gun law you lot have
Scrimpy Gore Actually bad guys would still have access to guns. Obtaining illegal guns is just as easy for some as it is getting illegal drugs in America. So although I know from the outside it looks easy to just say "you know what no more guns! We have taken away everybody's right to bear arms." You know what will happen? Someone that really wants one and is planning on criminally using it will get one. Just like when they made it illegal to sell or drink liquor or to have an abortion. People found ways around it. The same goes for guns. They will find a way. So then now you will just have crazy deranged people in the possession of a gun and others without. Don't get me wrong I HATE the fact that people can get a gun LEGALLY and cause havoc on so many people's lives. What I do believe should happen is the laws need to be more strict. The background checks need to be more thorough. You should not have mental issues and be allowed to get a gun LEGALLY. Again it won't stop them from obtaining one necessarily BUT it would slow down the process of getting one. AND that person would be on a HIGH ALERT status as a threat. In the situation where the man shot up his former workplace that should have NEVER HAPPENED! WHEN he didn't turn over his gun, the police should have been at his residence within a couple of hours with a swat team. That could have saved lives.
Oh Boy Jeannie that Watts story was a fail. First of all what are you doing there lol?Second like Loni said the location is not important it happens everywhere.
The things you guys have to think about is crazy. As a Canadian, I have never had that feeling of fearing for my life much less having to scout out exits when I am out dancing with my friends in fear that a shooting might occur. Why cant Americans just get rid of their guns?
This comment really made me pause because I immediately started thinking about other countries with high rates of violence. Unfortunately, it takes these moments for me to realize how easy it is to ignore the thongs that don't happen to you.
My heart still breaks for Tamera and her family, as well as all the victims and their families of these mass shootings. I'm legit terrified of hanging out anywhere in public whether it's at night or daytime. I much safer in the confines of my own room and that's sad to say as a 23-year-old.
I love my nieces and nephew with all my heart and especially if you have a child you knew all their life. You can fall so in love with them ❤️ breaks my heart. Blessings to the family and I pray for comfort and restoration of peace and joy
Ashley Noneya you don’t have no idea how sad it made to read your comment ! And I’m a Libanese living in Germany ! I pray for you American brothers & sisters ! It’s just so sad ...
I’m sorry for the surface level comment (I commented on this topic on a separate video) Loni looks amazing with minimal makeup. You can tell how hard she’s worked to live a healthy lifestyle and I’m really happy for her.
I am crying watching this and its sad but it kind of is a new normal. I mean as a child you're always taught to be aware of your surroundings and people and the way they move. It's sad that you actually have to live that way everyday of your life. I just try my best to get through the day with prayer and not live in fear just live alert. I know that at any given point and time something out of my control can happen. sigh. Tamera girl I am praying for you and your family. Im praying for us all. XOXO.
Umm Jeanie I'm a bit confused.. if you feared for your life at a "reggae" club in "watts" then what were you doing there to begin with?? You were clearly trying to paint a certain picture the way you described the environment so if it made you that uncomfortable then you probably had no business being there.. you made a concious decision with your friends to go to that club and have the nerve to go on national tv acting like a scared victim after the fact.. TF
CarPedium2014 I do this all the time. Due to high anxiety. I never feel safe anywhere I go. Even at work, concerts and movies. I NEVER feel safe and anxiety is always at its high where a lot of people are.
And yet the black males yall defending would still choose her over yall. Black women need to get some damn sense. Yall in this ALONE. Your SONS and KANGZ want nothing to do with you. And yall know it. So continuing this loyalty only shows how stupid sisters are as a group. And self hating.
It’s crazy how even before anyone started talking and just the question being asked and hearing “a new normal” really triggered me because it’s so sad but so true . Everywhere you walk you have to be aware because anything can change in a second . God bless those who read this & those who scroll past . Amen 🙏🏼❤️
My condolences to Tamers Housley and Family. ...🙏Tamera thanks for sharing your grief with the world. ..just know I cried with you. ..its relatable...Thanks for staying Strong! 💪
Poor Tam & family... but thanks for still addressing this sensitive, very fresh topic.... we need to be aware & on guard and never get too comfortable.
Asoon as tamera spoke while the audience was still clapping after what Jennie said Lonnie could tell in her voice she was gonna be emotional and she looked up at her and gave her an encouraging smile to keep going. Awwwww
On a lighter note...wth was Jeannie doing in Watts??? She is REALLY hood hood. Once you've tasted black, you ain't going back😂. But getting back to serious things, yes its our new normal. Hopefully it will change for the next generation for the better
Bad things can happen ANYWHERE AT ANYTIME WE ALL KNOW THIS .... If you know you’re going into a neighborhood that is known for being unsafe Jeanie isn’t wrong it’s amazing that she was so aware because many of us know a certain place is unsafe and we’re not that aware soo I personally don’t think she is wrong for what she said or her thought process.
I used to be that person who said: i want to live there or go there bc it's too much violence and terrible things going on, but then i was like no matter where you are bad things can happen. It's like the world is not safe anymore. The only place where there's no violence or bad things happening is in heaven. Man, i just wished i could wrap my arms around Tam this episode.
Jeannie trying to be the next Khloe Kardashian : hanging in the blackest parts of towns, going to hip hop or reggae clubs. Being passed around by black male rappers and trying to grow her butt. Bless your heart !
Exactly! I hate when folks who have no business being in Watts or Compton go there just to be nosy and then act as nervous and scared when they're there.
Jeanie I love you but you can't be so naive to take yourself into a bad part of town in the wee hours of the morning. I'm not saying it's her fault that those places are like that and she shouldn't live her life and have a good time, OR that it would be her fault if something bad happened to her, but that's the reality of the world we live in now. Don't increase your chances of something horrific happening. They're high enough as it is.
I'd rather live like Jeanie. If I'm going to be shot in the back at 2 a.m. coming out of the club then so be it! I'd rather live with joy than to be in my house afraid to leave. The world really isn't that dangerous. The media and government want you to believe that!
I couldn’t agree more with Loni. This reminded me of how Saddened I felt to see schools practicing Alice drills, which is pretty much a drill on what to do if theres an active shooter in the school. They have these drills a couple of times a month at my childs school & I felt so broken because I just questioned myself how devastating is it to explain to a 5 year old what to do in these types of cases.. like how do you go about explaining this to a small child who is completely innocent to evil. I remember back it my days when there was only such thing as an Earthquake drill.
It always feels somewhat distant until it hits right in your home. In my city we had somebody come from SOMEWHERE ELSE just to massacre our hispanic community at a freaking *Walmart.* We were the safest metropolitan city in America with the lowest rates of violent crime for years. Nearly 30 killed and it'll never ever be the same. I wouldn't wish that pain on my worst enemy. Now in our city we tell each other not to ever let terrorism win. Daring to live freely despite those who would rather you not live at all is how we honor those who've been lost. Don't ever let anybody terrorize you into denying your own heart and soul ♥️ I pray every day for solutions. Much love from El Paso, Texas 🏜️
