Postpartum Care: Things No One Told You! My TMI Experience 

“Yes I sacrifice my Vagina” 🤣 “No need for savage fenty the only thing savage is the pain in your vagina” 😂😂 “Graduate from your mattress (pad)” “every size on deck “😂 “Vagina hammock” 😂 “Padsicles”😂 “Hmm that wasn’t there before wtheck is that”😂😂 “Barely B”😂😂 “Adults wiwi pad” Lmaof at this vid thank you 😂😂😂

If you're reading this and you're pregnant right now, don't worry. You're going to be fine ❤

I’m a soon to be dad for the first time and this is very knowledgeable and helpful for me, to help my wife as best as possible during those tough times. Thank you

Ok but can we take a minute and appreciate how funny and light hearted she made this serious talk. This is all a LOT to take in but she made it tolerable

This needs to be in every sex education class.

I'm entering my second trimester and while everyone is planning baby showers, I'm planning my postpartum care.

I’m pregnant and now I’m more scared of post partum pain than the actual child birth😂

19 years old and boutta be a father... scared as shit but I’m 100% ready for everything that life is gonna throw at me. Wanna make my gfs pregnancy/postpartum experience as painless and bearable as possible.

Cesarean post-partum here. A couple of my things I think people should know: In case you're wondering, yes, you still bleed afterwards. Your body has to get rid of the extra blood from pregnancy, lining, etc. I never did need the super big pads, just the regular size (could have just been me, not sure), but after about a week with those I was in liners for six weeks. Ugh. Bowel issues are common from all the anesthia and the surgery. I'm 11 weeks postpartum and just now starting to go regularly on my own. Before, I had been using Miralax, because without it I had rock hard poop that was soooo painful to pass. The soreness lasted for a while, and even once you feel better on the outside, it's going to take you a year plus to heal on the inside. Stairs are not your friend. Be prepared to camp out on your main floor for a couple of weeks if you have stairs and don't want to spend most of your days in your room. This may seem like common sense to some, but if you're breastfeeding, make sure you also eat and drink at night. I was so used to eating during the day only, and this was a no-no for breastfeeding. You have to drink a ton of water b/c you use up even more feeding your baby, and you can find yourself dehydrated (no fun). Not intaking enough calories will make you really tired too. Which brings me to another thing - breastfeeding can make you sleepy. FYI. Also, don't be surprised if your libido takes a hit, and surprise! Even though you didn't give birth vaginally, you may experience vaginal discomfort when you return to having sex due to hormones.

I’m 9 months pregnant and I couldn’t decide if I should laugh or cry during this video! My favorite was comparing the pad to a mattress.

Adoption is looking like a very real possibility after watching this.

Lol. I had my baby yesterday. He was 5lbs 14oz. I had to get 2 to 3 stitches. I have to be honest..the past 24 hours haven't been that bad. Yes it stings a bit l when I pee. My first bowel movement came out pretty easy. It wasn't that bad. I bled pretty heavy for a few hours, now the bleeding is just like a regular period. Not really cramping that bad in my stomach but every now and then I get very mild contractions where my uterus is trying to shrink back down. Been taking ibuprofen and that seems to help. Your video was so funny and I enjoyed it. Good luck mama's❤❤ It won't be so bad😘😘

I have desperately been looking for a video that goes this in depth about post birth! Why don’t more women talk about this?? Thank you for your video!!

I’m due in 3 weeks with my first baby... please pray for me 😂 (edit) 1 year later and I had my beautiful baby boy with a very easy birth! Feeling so blessed ☺️

Girl, I have so much respect for you, NOT ALL HEROS WEAR CAPES, THEY WEAR PADS! Lord, now I’m definitely more scared about the postpartum experience than the actual child birth😂

I'm 1 month PP today. Vaginal delivery and an epidural. I had a minor tear that required 3 stitches. I was pain free basically a day or 2 later. Peeing was weird and I was scared to poop but stool softener helped with that. All I'm saying is sometimes it's easier than you're expecting so don't let this video scare you!!

Don't forget that lochia (the bleeding and discharge during post partum) might smell like something has decayed inside of you. Apparently it is normal. Made me freak out a lot, because I was afraid of an infection. Also I was in too much pain in order to realise whether anything else was going on besides the pain I was anyway feeling. Couldn't have survived without ibuprofen.

1) I can’t stress how important that squirt bottle is when you pee 2) use that donut to sit on a chair 3) sitz bath with epsom salt 2-3 times a day 5) take that extra strength Motrin for the pain!! 4) as a first time mom, I was guilty of not going to sleep when baby went to sleep, I felt like it was the time to get chores done around the house plus I was the typical worried first time mother. 5) I had mood swings like no other, one minute I was happy and next minute as I’m feeding my little dude I would break down into tears, gotta love the postpartum blues. 6) ask for help!! Ask. For. Help.

I’m 30 weeks & sitting here giggling bc you’re funny but crying in the inside 😭😭 #ripmytutu Update: gave birth to my baby boy Logan on 6/19.. got a first degree tear with abt 2 stitches I believe. I’m still walking funny ! My tutu definitely died but it’s on its way to redemption. I say in another week the pain should be bearable for me. 😂 take these tips !

The hubby and I are talking about starting a a family and watching this has me freaked the F out. Holy 💩. My mom did this 7 times! she’s crazy.

I’m a mother of a toddler with one on the way (in like 2 weeks), and I just want to say, to all the new mamas to be out there, please don’t let this video scare you. Everyone’s experience is different. My postpartum experience with my son wasn’t half as bad or traumatizing and I had a 2nd degree tear (also not that bad). I had a natural, unmedicated, birth center water birth (which was amazing btw). The cramping during breastfeeding was so minimal, I hardly notice them. The supplies she suggested are helpful, but please know that there are more holistic options for you. Long story short, try not to allow anyone’s traumatic story stop you from enjoying such a phenomenal, transformative moment in your life. Pregnancy, labor/delivery can be beautiful, it’s all in your mindset. Embrace it, revel in your superpower and trust the process. You got this 💛

This is the best all inclusive postpartum video ever!!!! Why don’t people tell you this stuff????

I’m literally 16 lmao, so I’m not sure why I’m here. However mad respect to all mamas out there, women are tough as nails.

Facts! After having my 1st I was so confused as to why literally NO ONE ever mentions postpartum care. Pregnant with my 2nd now so get to do it all over again. Fun times!

I didn't feel like this was TMI. I felt like this was detailed/ thorough, which I really appreciate. I feel more prepared knowing what all to expect. Thank you for sharing your experience and for being so real and practical in your videos!

I’m not pregnant or have kids but this just makes me more terrified to even think about having kids. My mom has 10 kids and she never told me any of these things. God bless all the moms out there.💕

Great video! My husband and I were watching this video and he made pancakes for me afterwards because he felt so sad about everything my body would have to go through to bring forth our child. 😂 Thank you for your detailed video.

Love this video 😁. On my 4th pregnancy and a lot of this info is useful. Yes everyone’s experience is different. But one regret of mine was never being 100% prepared. People always tell you how beautiful and wonderful pregnancy and motherhood is but they miss out on the ugly truths. With this pregnancy, I want to be ready for everything because I’ve experienced a lot of what she has throughout all of my pregnancies, so I WILL be buying a lot of these items. If you have a great support system then you can take it one day at a time but if you don’t being prepared for it all is best. Thanks for this, literally had me laughing! 🤣

I’m a mama (she’s 3 now) and I approve this message. I always told people that labor was a walk in the park compared to the recovery.

I gave birth 5 days ago and I am suffering, I thought I was dying and I am grateful for this video coz all the new moms show the nice videos but never such truths. Now I will just breath and ride the wave coz IT'S NORMAL

i didn't know anything about this and i'm due in 2 weeks 😅 this is very helpful.. wish i can afford all of those stuffs.. and pls pray for me for safe delivery ❤

I love the honest reality!! My mother passed away before I had kids and everyone around me just told me about the fun parts of being a mom.

Twenty seven minutes and sixteen seconds of birth control.

I remember I was so tired and the nurse was trying to help me pee after birth and I said “I don’t remember how, I can’t do it 😂”

Thank you so much for this honest, raw, vulnerable video!! I am 24 weeks and trying to educate and prepare myself for everything birth/postpartum. Knowing what could/will likely happen is so helpful. Really appreciate all your videos. Women are warriors!!!

I really don’t know if it’s my hormones, but I was literally crying for half of your video. I’m currently 3 months, first time pregnant, and I am scared. But you did great at explaining every detail and I appreciate it.

I wasn't expecting to lose my mind. Literally. Not all wounds are physical, and postpartum depression and psychosis are real.

*Ladies, not only water. Hydration you can get in many forms. I loved the soups I made, infused water, watermelon, etc. That helped a lot instead of plain water.*

Had my baby last Friday, 4.09 Kgs in Nairobi 🇰🇪 Second baby, this time I had a perineal tear & I'm still on my menses. I was scared of going to the loo, the nurse took me as I'd bled heavily. I think my gynae is really good & I'm lucky, don't feel pain down there and had a natural bath. Using the tips from the nurses, keeping clean and taking it slow. I'd like to share some non-US perspective videos since the approach is different.

Shout out to all the first time fathers here. We just trying to get an idea of what to expect in a couple of months. Praying for my wife and all the moms of the world 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💞💞💞

I'm not even pregnant and I'm terrified. holy cow I'm gonna call my mom now and say thank you for all that she went thought

I feel like when it comes to postpartum, we are living in the Victorian Era. Remember how women had to learn about the birds and the bees from their husbands on their wedding night? That’s exactly how I feel about postpartum. Thank you so much for this video! I’m terrified lol but I learned a lot and now have an idea on how to prepare.

You are hilarious lmao! You had me dying with the Tempur Pedic mattress pads! I'm currently 26 weeks, and after seeing so many "fairies and unicorns" unrealistic postpartum videos - it's nice to see a REAL one. Thanks for the laughs lol

As a first time dad, looking for ways to support his dear wife on our pregnancy journey, (we are 8 months pregnant), I am I incredibly grateful for sharing your experience. It’s wonderful to know these things beforehand so that I know the little big things I can do to just help. I love your tip about the haemorrhage cushions. The stories I’m hearing about postpartum are nuts! I respect women even more man! My wife told me about her work colleague who said peeing for the first time after delivery is like peeing blades. At the time, I thought it was crazy, but I recently had to undergo cystoscopy, and the recovery took 48 hours but that was one of the most challenging 48 hours of my life. Now, I can only imagine how much more painful it would be for a woman who just birthed a human! So I think God gave me my experience NOT to trivialise any reports from my wife about pain and discomfort because it can be easy for someone who never went through it to think “surely it can’t be that bad”. Overall, I’m immensely grateful for videos like this because I need to learn to be sympathetic, empathetic, and just supportive during this period. It only saddens me that I can’t be on maternity leave with my wife due to work as I would love to THERE, simply to just serve my wife and my child without having to worry about work but God willing, we will he fine :) Love inputs from your hubby as well-he’s a funny guy. Love from the Uk

I'm pregnant now and will be due late October early November. I learned a lot from this video. This might be my only baby, lol.

No one warned me about postpartum hair loss... I literally lost the whole front of my hairline in clumps! And it wasn’t my Primary or OB who solved the mystery but a nutritionist... I was “malnourished” from Childbirth and nursing. So please eat right and continue your prenatals after delivery especially if nursing.

thank you this is so realistic and helpful! love your sense of humour as well. i’m just approaching my second trimester i can’t wait

Thank you for being raw and honest!! We all want to know these things and be prepared! ❤️

This definitely cured my baby fevers. I have being worrying my hubby and family for a baby, to the extent of watching almost everything child birth, from 1st trimester to after labor. That alone wasn’t fun and knowing I will go through this much pain and discomfort, I think I will go ahead to finish my Masters. The baby can come later when I’m done with school. I’m just 25

Finally someone who is actually telling it like it is. Everyone tells you how “sunshine and rainbows” it is to give birth. They neglect to mention the giant mesh underwear you’ll be wearing for weeks due to your non stop heavy bleeding. Or the fact that you’ll need that squirt bottle on every trip to the bathroom.

Thank you for being real about postpartum! I feel like I didn’t know any of this stuff and I’m 24 weeks pregnant!

I am so grateful for you and other moms that post these videos! Keeping it real is the best thing woman can do. Thank you for sharing your journey ❤️ I hope you and all the mommies out there are safe and healthy!

This is why I can't understand Michelle Duggar having 19 kids. Thanks for the info.

When she said mattress I legit screamed from laughing!!!😂

Thank you so much for the honest advice! It helps so much knowing what you may be dealing with and hearing it from a mom, sometimes doctors aren't that nice so this is amazing thank you!

I'm so glad you made this. I swear you covered EVERYTHING! I feel so much more informed about what to possibly expect

“No this is not a mattress” I SCREAMED 😂😂😭 i was having baby fever but you have definitely slapped it out of me thanks🤍🤍

My legs are numb watching this. Why isn’t this taught in school? Oh god i feel unprepared now 😂

I love how honest and real this is and I'm not pregnant. Praying for baby dust

OMG! I’m 25 weeks and no one tells you about these things. Thank you! You are so funny yet honest!

I think frozen pads with aloe and witch hazel saved my life - def recommend!

I’m only 7 weeks along idk why I’m scaring myself with these videos right now 😂😂😂

Omg I love you for this video !! I'm expecting soon and this is the big sister talk I needed. You're brave and kind to share. So funny too.

Life saver. Thank you. I'm 28 weeks along and starting to shop for all the essentials for nursing and postpartum. This video covers so many things that pregnant women need to know about and no one wants to tell us! Helping me along the road toward feeling more prepared and confident.

When u pulled out that pad.. I screamed!!! Your humor is amazing. Btw your curls are poppin

Based on our experience, I could imagine how scary it must be for teen moms and single moms or moms without an active partner to assist with the aftercare.

Omg thank you for this video 🙏❤️ It's really helpful knowing what worked for other mamas, and it really sounds like you had a rough ride!! Thank you for sharing with us!!

Thank you for that, just never understand why no one talks about this part of it! Just about to go into my 2nd trimester and feeling a little more prepared for what I need to buy for after

Ohhhhh Lawwddd, Why did I hit the play button. 🤣🤣 I'm 37 weeks and genuinely freaking out. I was scared of delivery, but this postpartum is another level....🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ Send prayers please 🙏🏽🙏🏽

This is the realest postpartum video I have seen.

14 + 4 weeks over here with the first bean on the way. THANK YOU FOR BEING SO REAL. A lot of things I didn’t know & now will get to be a little more prepared !!!

I’m 6 months & so nervous about labor and postpartum.. please pray for me guys!!

Wish I seen this before getting pregnant 😂😅😂. the baby fever deffo would’ve took a quick exit

No it’s not a mattress , it’s a pad 😂😂

Great video, love that you so light hearted but sharing something so important. I'm an expecting mum and I know that this isn't everyone's experience, but you made me feel prepared for the worst.

I just realized b4 I was pregnant I watched your curly videos too! Love them both. This was so helpful I sent this to my husband two separate times.

The unused post-partum box would be a good giveaway item! (Not pregnant lol but this video gave me more info than anything else ever has!)

“So you grab your tempur-pedic mattress” 😂😂😂

thank you for this video. As someone who lives far away from their family and doesn't have any friends that recently gave birth it's VERY helpful to hear all those tips from another. woman

THANK YOU! I LOVE how much you over-shared! My best friend just had a baby, so I knew some of this, but she's very reserved and I just don't have all the right questions right now. I'm expecting in June, and because of you, I have a BUNCH of stuff to add to my baby registry! Thank you for sharing and being absolutely candid. You're amazing.

Geeeeeez so you’re telling me after all these months, weeks and days of carrying this child it’s not over when I give birth! 😩😩😩

I’m not a mom yet, but after watching this how do people have 2 under 2 😱. I will definitely remember this video in the years to come for help.

Thank you so much, trying to learn eveyrthing I need for my pregnant wife :)

Thank you so much for this video! I am 7.5 weeks pregnant and I love that you let us know what other don’t!

I had my first baby last Wednesday and let me just start off by saying I had NO pregnancy symptoms.. no nausea no food cravings or dislikes no better sense of smell no cramps no Braxton hicks. Now when I was going into labor this is what happened, I woke up at 3:50 am with cramps and the sudden urge to poop and it was not solid.. I went to lie down and then at 6:45 am, I slightly moved in bed and i felt a tiny squirt and i thought i just peed a little so i was UGH ok lemme get up and go pee. I put my hand on the bed and I felt a wet spot and I was like fuck did I leave the water bottle open, so I proceeded to get up and I felt more liquids start to come out and when I stand up amniotic fluid just came down. I felt small little contractions until I was probably 3 cm keep in mind I was planning on skipping the epidural I made to 8 cm without it but as the pain got worse I wasnt able to control my breathing meaning the baby wasnt getting enough oxygen so I had to get the epidural to calm down. Pushing was hard only because I didn't know if I was actually doing anything. When my baby came out, all I felt was like a super wet tampon being pulled out. I DIDN'T TEAR!!🎉🎉 but peeing kinda did hurt bc of the catheter they had put in my urethra. I was scared to poop but it doesnt really hurt maybe it felt a little sore. Yes bleeding is very heavy the first day. Idk if other women have heavy bleeding after but my bleeding has been very light even more now 6 days after giving birth. Cramps eh but BACK PAIN girlll, I think it's the worst part about all this.

Thats y children must respect their mothers and never neglect them....bringing a child into the world and raising him or her take sweat, pain and tears, plus ALOT of unconditional love.

Omg love this video!! I am just a couple months away from having my baby this is exactly what I needed to watch!! I have been asking friends with babies but no one gave me the exact details i was wishing to hear to be prepared. Awesome video!

The most transparent video on what to expect, thank you so much for sharing!! & sorry your experience was so painful 🥺

I was so shy about being undressed in front of people but its so true as soon as your in labor or even after labor all that goes out the window! My nurse gave me a whole sponge bath in the bathroom after I pushed my son out and I was so comfortable with it and thankful

No where near being pregnant or having a baby but I just love Bianca and all her content. This is super informative. Thank you Bianca 💕.

Such a great informative video for a first time mom to be in March. Your personality made this video less scary to go through postpartum. Thankyou!

Thanks for the honest advice! Now’s the time to buy all those things and get prepared.

“If you aren’t really good about drinking water you will get a lot of headaches” *reaches for my half full 32oz water bottle and gulps it all down*

Currently 5 months pregnant and I appreciate this so much!!

Bianca, I saw your video when I was like 12 weeks prego and it has stuck in my mind. I’m now 31+2 and coming back to refresh my memory. I’m a first time mom. Thank you so much for sharing this! This is great information and I feel so much more prepared.

Pregnant with my third baby and I still learned a lot from this video. It’s been 6 years since my last child. It’s funny how you forget. 😅

This is the ultimate cure for baby fever 😷 and careless fornication 😂

Thank you for making this video! I’m 6.5 months pregnant and I’m glad I’m being told this now rather than discovering everything after and taking it day by day. Great video! I’m going to put together my little boxes soon now!

Your energy in this video got me to follow! So contagious and real! Currently 39.4 weeks with my second baby! Loved this to help refresh me on what I’ll need!

So, I am 7 months pregnant and I had done my research on post partum. It was affirming to hear the words I read be reiterated in your conversation. My favorite part was every product and tip you gave for every leakage we can expect!!! Very very very helpful. Thank you! I don’t like the comments on the video though, lol. Seems like many people are deterred from pregnancy because of post partum. Look, it ain’t easy, but it’s apart of the process. I trust that, like you, our bodies WILL heal; and, we go through all of this to bring our baby to this world. I’m not jumping for joy over the hardships but this doesn’t deter me! I feel better prepared watching this.