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Stuart, I had no idea you ever felt this way. I think we all have this fear, but to acknowledge it, and share it…being vulnerable openly, that’s HUGE kudo’s to you, my dear. I can’t imagine anyone asking to see Lizzo, and saying NO! So glad you powered through

It took me having to fight breast cancer to overcome my many fears, because I realized how much I wanted to live... really live! Thanks for opening up and sharing your struggles with us Stewart. ☺️ It's never to late to be brave, because I'm in my forties y'all. ❤️

The list of things that I could have done but never did because I was too scared is way too long. I'm trying to change that now. Happy that you are too. Hope you had a great time. PS: I'm thoroughly enjoying these little talks too ❤

I love that you found the courage to ask! Inaction will ALWAYS keep you still.. I think the saying is 'if uou don't ask..the answer will ALWAYS be no'.

Thank you for sharing this, Stuart! You are right - fear of rejection shouldn’t stop us fron doing what we want to do. Besides, rejection really doesn’t have anything to do with you, and often it is more painful for the person who has to reject someone and miss a fun event because of other commitments. I’m happy you went to the concert, I hope you’ve had a great time!!! Your outfit looks amazing 🙂

This is a really great place for you to be in. We have to find that bridge between being OK with being by ourselves, and being ready to be with other people. And that bridge is reaching out and trying to make connections. It is daunting, it is scary. You are stronger than you think, you’re braver than you think, and you are more OK than you think. This is very relatable. I am no less proud of you though. .

I'm glad you shared this, Stuart. It resonates with a lot of ppl ❤

I love that we're talking about this! As someone with major social anxiety, I love to hear people learning and growing from their fear of rejection! I'll get there someday.

This resonated so much. The number of experiences I missed out on when I was younger for the same reasons is too large. But I’ve changed (and still am changing) that. I’m so excited for you to be at this stage, being content in solitude but still pushing outside your comfort zones, taking risks, and making connections. It’s a scary process, finding that middle ground. Proud of you! You looked fantastic, and I hope you had a great time 😊❤

This was absolutely beautiful. Thank you so much for this message. I could have used these exact words for pretty much the entirety of my youth & 20’s. I’m so sorry this is something you’ve struggled with but I’m so glad it’s something your overcoming and made a message of strength & perseverance for generations to come. I appreciate you. ☺️😇

First, your outfit was cute. Can’t go wrong with the basics. Second, I’m happy that you took a chance, branched out of your comfort zone, and ended up having a great time. ☺️💚

Stuart, I hope you have a wonderful time. I feel like everthing you said so resonates with me. That fact is that rejection is awful but I hear you, once it happens you're not locked into the fear anymore and it gives you an avenue to move forward. So I'm proud of you and again, I hope you have a great time at the concert.

I feel the same way! I hate the feeling of being rejected and you have given me the confidence to ask people to do things with me, thank you Stuart. ❤

I'm happy for you that you found the wisdom and the courage to overcome the fear of rejection. 👏I agree that inaction is worse than fear of rejection. The regret of not having tried something gnaws more than the idea that the other does not appreciate us because we are disappointed in ourselves.

I'm so glad you're finding your confidence. I hope you enjoyed the concert.

You are such an inspiration Stuart. Watching you push past your limits makes me want to be better. Thank you for sharing 🥰

😖 - this is WAY too relatable... I had the courage to go to a concert by myself exactly ...once (& I had even met a couple people there before). It's terrifying! So happy & proud you did it! Hope you had an amazingly marvelous time 😊

Man, I have to remind myself everyday that rejection is ok and occasionally it's good for us. It helps us learn and grow. Hope you have fun at the concert, Stuart!

I am so impressed and proud that you shared your vulnerability and pushed past your limits. 👏👏👏👏👏

I am SO proud of you for pushing past this lifelong 'limiting belief' to grow and to experience greatness! This is such a testimony for us to see we can all do this. How many things have I missed out on due to fear. Thank you Dear Friend ☺️

The fact that you have overcome a fear is a huge accomplishment! Congratulations, and have a great time at the show😘

Damn you for being so right. The paralysis comes from the not knowing. The only way to move on from that is to know and the only way to know is to do.

I am so happy for you! There is something amazingly freeing about being able to enjoy something on your own! I had a lot of the same fears as you about rejection & awkwardness. I finally worked thru them in my late 20s & early 30s and my 30s have been an amazing time of growth, affirmation, love and joy. You have such a wonderful skill of expressing yourself, with both your words & your face. I hope you find/continue building your tribe of people who see how awesome you are!

I love this videos and how the simple thing of you uploading them helps people like me, and a lot of your followers to know we are not the only ones feeling those things, it really feels nice to see these kind of fears being talked about... I really hope you have fun on that concert ❣

This resonates so much. These past few years I've been trying to live my life with the thought that if you don't ask the answer will always be no. Thank you for sharing ♥️

I’m sure a lot of us needed to hear this today in some form or another thank you for sharing and I love it that even though we’re not the same age we are still been through a lot of the things that you portray that’s good I don’t feel so alone even though I know logically I’m not alone in this that doesn’t mean that like emotionally I don’t feel alone, but mine was the opposite. When I was younger I was out, going on to full and bright, and you know all the things, and it was easy to make friends and now as a 39 divorce mom it’s so hard to try to get out there due to rejection issues so it’s like I have to try to reprogram how I see things now the weather in the 20s 30s late 30s as mine. This gives me hope and I won’t be alone an old cat lady I know I am and I’m proud of it but you know me lol or the Mimi with the new mail all the cats America colors ha ha. Hope you had so much fun. I love you to pieces much heart keep up the great work you’re inspirational #Truth.

First of all: Really cool look!!! Love the little braid. 😎 Second: Yep, inaction is way worse than being rejected. I feel you, for many years I tried to avoid unpleasant experiences without noticing that those experiences are important too, to live and learn.

I understand that fear. I'm older now, but when I was younger I sometimes was crippled by it. I was bullied at school and that is why I had confidence issues. I hope you have a great time and the Lizzo concert!

Concerts are such a fantastic experience

You got this Stuart. Go have fun and have a great time. 😊

You're an amazing human being, Stuart. I hope you find joy in this messed up world. Thank you for sharing your challenges and talent. Hope the concert was a blast!

Proud of you, boyo. That shows real emotional growth to not only realize that other people's time is as valuable to them as your own but to also realize that being scared into inaction is worse than any rejection that you might get.

It's very similar to fear of failure in that way. It stops you from trying new things. Extremely common in people who were raised by parents who expected perfection

This is relatable on many levels. I used to always quietly pine for people I quite liked because I was afraid of them rejecting me (partially because a few did so in very hurtful ways), but I have learned to just say something. You never know until you do and I think the things you make up in your head are 10x worse than what they will say.

I'm gonna steal from SJM here and say 'Keep reaching out your hand'. I'm happy you get to go to the concert, I'm excited you're growing past your fears and I absolutely love those little talks! Have a great rest of your week and take care 🤗

Your calm, casual words of advice and encouragement are alway just what’s needed! I think I’m stuck somewhere in between working through fear of rejection and anxiety over any kind of social situation. Which is tricky. It’s nice to have someone go somewhere with me for the anxiety but then there’s the anxiety/fear of asking someone to go. It’s hard to pick which anxiety battle to fight sometimes.

I am constantly scared of rejection in many forms, and I am at the beginning of learning to deal with rejection so if you can do it, we all can. We’re rooting for you Stuart! You’re amazing and you’re so good with opening up about your mental health as it seems to help you and many others (myself included). Have a good day Stuart 😊

I don't know how anyone could reject this sweet and handsome man! If so their loss!

We are always told, to not be afraid to say "No.", yet it is just as important to learn to accept a "No.". It took me far too long to realise that..

I can really relate to all of this! I have so much social anxiety... I literally can't handle it sometimes. But I was so bad, I would reject friendships and relationships before they could reject me. I'm better sometimes but still really bad. I wish I had the bravery you have. Keep sharing your experiences with us. You are amazing

Stuart, truthfully I have one person whom I'd love to spend time with but he's busy now. I found that I could remember little things like how it felt to hold his hand or walk with him or just look into his eyes in order to go out in public places that were crowded. He was with me in spirit and that was enough so I wasn't scared anymore. I hope that helps you and that you are never scared of being alone.

Rejection and fear can cause us all to not go outside our comfort zone. BUT once we bravely go out and do something different it becomes a moment of joy and triumph.... great job Stuart ❤🎉

There was a lot of things I avoided in order to not feel rejected or that sense of loss. I never wanted to feel that again so I never had any expectations or plans anymore. But I didn't like living that way after a while and I finally found someone when I was in college that helped me feel safe again to open up and experience new things. So happy for you that you're learning to understand and grow. Keep being awesome!

Well done. It can be very liberating to face a fear and the anxiety that can come with it. You have to keep moving forward and growing through every time you face and overcome a perceived obstacle.

It’s crazy that I used to have so many fears when I was young. Now that I’m older and learning how to embrace the fears…I realize I don’t have many left. I’ve come to understand that you can’t ever get ride of fear, but you can embrace it. Make the weakness your greatest strength.

Thank you for generalizing the rejection. A lot of people concentrate on rejection only as it applies romantically, not concerning all types of relationships! Genuinely proud of the effort you put into overcoming it!!

the self awareness and personal growth are admirable.

I used to be like this too. I'd miss out on all my favorites because of exactly what is mentioned here. It takes some time and strength but you will get there.

Thank you, Stuart. As someone who has just started to recognize that I have Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, this sounds like something that will help a great deal!

It’s so freeing once you choose to either just go to things by yourself or just ask people to go with you! 😄 Hope you had an awesome time at the concert!

Okay, I am a new subscriber after seeing your last short about mental health. Really loving this content! Thank-you so much for daring to raise awareness and empathy on behalf of those of us who are fighting similar battles in our extremely private lives.

Okay, 1: you look fantastic. 2: people will make time for you when they are able to. 3: I'd have absolutely gone with, but I'm an ocean away And 4: hope you had an awesome time at the concert!

I love your content so much because it helps me realize that others feel the same way as me. Thank you for normalizing mental health struggles.

I was like you. Now I’m like fuck it I’m gonna go on my own and it doesn’t bother me now! Seen many theatre shows and ballets because I no longer had that anxiety of going alone. Proud of you King 💜

I didn't really start living until about 25-26 because before then I was so afraid of doing the wrong thing, making a fool of myself, being rejected. I think it gets easier to care less about it as you get older, you have experience and the sting of it dulls once you take into account that the lives of others are as full and vibrant and full of things to do as yours are.

You're such an incredible person, Stuart ❤️ I stumbled across your content mindlessly flipping through reels on Facebook, and have been blown away by the content of your character. Keep being you, love. I'm cheering you on!

Thank you for sharing this. It really makes sense to me because I have struggled with this and have missed out on some fun things because of that. I am so happy that you pushed yourself and letting us no we are not alone 🥰 Glad you had a great time!!!

Oh my goodness it's like your talking directly to me. I needed to hear this so much. ❤

Such a beautiful realisation. Rejection is all about where they are. Nothing to do with us 💖 Hope the concert was amazing! You looked sharp!

Wonderful to get to understand a bit of your your inner world, Stuart.

Valoro mucho cuando alguien valida así las emociones y además ayuda a entenderlas, gracias por hacer llegar el mensaje a los miles que lo necesitan ❤️

So very well said.

I went to my first concert *solo* when I was 29 bc I got so sick of being afraid. It was a band I know well & though it was at a new venue & I didn't encounter anybody I knew, I had the best time. I was able to hang out for as long as I wanted after the show & get to speak w the front man. It was an AMAZING feeling. Also, you're a stud. 💜 Fit looks good! 💋

Yay you! It's so freeing when you have realizations like this. Hope you enjoyed the concert.

2:50 I hope that you had a wonderful time and you looked great as always. Social anxiety can be paralyzing and completely overwhelming… your fears are valid and resonate with many of us around the world. I’m so glad that you made the decision to take action and go regardless of others to make yourself happy and gain this experience. Luv u always, Stuart ❤

My kid used to be so scared of being rejected himself that he'd say 'yes' to every request. Yes I'll play, yes I'll give you that pokemon card, etc. Now he's better at saying no, but I have to teach him to say 'no' with a little bit more grace (but I'm already so proud that he can draw that line now). Thank you for sharing your journey in this. I think it's important for others to see they're not alone, or to understand why people react the way they do - especially young men struggling with concepts like masculinity etc. Thank you ❤

It'll be fun. You'll have a great time. Although I do understand the whole rejection thing, and the fear of doing something you've never done before. The advice I was given for such events is to just take a step back and breath, even if your entire body is telling you to run. It also helps to tell those you trust and going with how you feel too, so they can give you support. Having said that, courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

Aww honey I hope you have a great time! I used to have the same fears. Still do I suppose. But then also on the flip side I get terrified when people say yes if I was prepared for a No because it means I then have to socialize and that’s hard for me . But once I’m doing It I tend to be ok. Thank you for opening up. And honestly so proud of you that you’re facing that fear ❤❤❤

im still working at it im so glad you are going for so much, i hope everything works out well , you have people cheering for you, smiling at your accomplishments & because of you realizing they are not alone in this , as always thank you for being here & choosing to be a light. " life is a dance & back steps are apart of that , remember we are meant to dance, the back steps are ok even if you have to wait a beat to step forward again" )im totally mis qouting it but it reminds me to forgive myself the back steps i take. keep moving & may your dance be wonderful , you are doing great ,proud of you

Thank you for this reminder of just trying and being brave. We've got you! Hope you had fun at the concert!!!🎉

everyone: wow thanks for sharing your experience me: nice abs stuart

This is so inspiring, I’m always so scared to do things… especially if I say things and fear rejection 😅 even if it’s something simple that most wouldn’t even think twice about… since I’m kinda alone and away from my family and what not, it’s been super hard trying to really open up and talk to people or anything… I try hard to get myself to step out of that fear but ya know… anyways, thank you for being open about this, it’s something a lot of us deal with as well♡

I hope you had a wonderful time! Thank you for being so open and honest with us.

A rejection can also mean that your guardian angel is protecting you from a catastrophe.😇😇😇

Thanks for sharing and being very vulnerable. It's a wonderful blessing to hear your spirit 💕 and of course your just so cute 🥰

So proud of you! Have an amazing experience; I can't wait to hear all about it! You'll need to give us the dance when you return too = so adorbs when you do it!

You make my heart happy. Thank you.

You are so relatable. I love your posts and listening to you is actually soothing even when you probably don't mean to be. ❤ From the US

i can relate to this so much, when I was younger I went to a lot of places on my own because I was too scared to invite people.... now I can easily do both!

I needed to hear this today. Thank you.

This is so relatable. I hope you had a great time! ☺️

Thank you so much for this advice! Hope the concert is fun!

Stuart have fun! Honestly as adult , we have more fun then as young ones.

Rejection sensitive dysphoria. Yup, I suffer from that. I miss out on a lot of experiences but still too scared of rejection lol

Something to remember is that quite often, ppl will be disappointed they can't go. And some even worry they won't be liked or asked again. Anyway, have fun! 💙

I heard somewhere that its a powerfull person that can openly expose their vulnerability xxx

Also love the hair! The lil braids are so cute

He doesnt see wat we see when looking at him that is so sad😭❤️💯

I understand the feeling i get anxious a lot to ask everyone.

I wish I were younger & knew where you are 😊 The conversation would be great - and the View 🥰 You are luscious, and share the insecurities we All do. Keep letting us into your corner of the world. You expand our horizons & fuel our dreams🤗

I am no fan of concerts but i would go with you because i beleive you are a beautiful person who deserves to go to the concerts you like to go to❤

Getting over the fear of rejection. Never been to a concert. It's about damned time

The fear of rejection sucks, but like you said inaction can be worse, whenever I don't take the risk I regret it and wonder what might have come had I gathered the nerve. If you don't ask, the answer will always be no. 🤷‍♀️

I think we've all felt this more than we would like to admit. Id go with you! But I dislike big crowds 😄

I just know you had a great time. Good on you!

Time to kick myself in the backside and take the risk. Thx for the inspiration ❤️ I’m glad you went to the concert and had a great time!

I feel you, I didn't go to my first concert until I met my now husband. My favorite band was in town and he got us tickets to surprise me with.

When you can not only acknowledge, but process, that people have their own lives and plans, that doesn't involve you - just as you have plans and activities that doesn't involve them - life becomes easier. It's great when your wishes and plans are matching, but absolutely ok, if not. Try to be self-sufficient, it helps with both fear of rejection and inaction. And have fun at a consert

When one part of your brain knows what Stuart is saying, but the other half is still scared of rejection and it's in a Mexican stand off 😖

Honestly, this is me to a tee, but I haven’t been able to get over my fear of rejection yet. Maybe (hopefully) one day I’ll get to where you are.