Prioritizing Safety: Would You Choose the Bear or the Man? 

Tysm for talking abt this. I had an actual similar experience to this, me and my friend were walking down the street to a park near her house and a stray dog came up to us and the dog showed no aggressive behavior so we kept walking with it following close behind, we felt safe. Abt 10 mins later with the dog still walking with us, an older man drove by VERY slowly so we called the dog up to walk with us because he was being kind and we look and feel safer, WITH A STRAY DOG! Anyway we turned into the next driveway even though we didn't know who lived there because to the outside world it looked like we lived there. Thankfully it was an old lady and she made sure we were safe and we found the dogs owner. But it's important to note that with my friend, and with knives and pepper spray we felt safer with a stray dog turning into a strangers driveway.

I am a grandmother and hate that my grandchildren have their pictures on the internet. I am NOT the one who put the pictures up. I always saw the risk in putting their faces out there for everyone to see and be able to identify. I would also never put up a picture that had someone else’s child even in the background. The world is just way too scary a place and this puts kids at risk.

A bear won't hit you in the face with a brick if you won't give it your phone number. A bear won't stalk you if it told you you're pretty and you said you weren't interested. A bear won't pretend to be kind to get you to lower your guard. A bear won't lock you in a basement for months to torture you. A bear generally won't bother you if you're not bothering it. If you encounter a bear, it will almost always retreat slowly because it means you no harm. If you do get attacked by a bear and you say so, people will believe you. No one will ask you what you were wearing that made the bear attack you. No one will ask you how much you had to drink. No one will ask you what you were thinking, being in the woods. No one will ask you if you even tried to fight back. No one will ask you if you led the bear to believe you wanted to be attacked. No one will condemn you for not fighting back harder. No one will arrest you for harming the bear. No one will say you deserved the attack. No one will ask how many bears you allowed to attack you before. The bear won't say you were asking for it. The bear won't say it was consensual. The bear won't try to convince everyone you're lying. The bear won't get his buddies to maul you too. The bear won't threaten you to get you to keep the attack a secret. If you survive a bear attack, you don't have to worry that the bear might be good friends with medical staff or the police. You won't have to hear that you're making it all up to get attention. You won't have your reputation called into question. You won't get called a slut. Does anyone need more?

Not exactly safety issue, but definitely a vulnerable and common thing here and related to some things you said. I live in an area where there are SOOOO many MLMs and people working for them. Last fall was a very hard time for me and my family for a variety of reasons. Well, I was at Target, I think I was buying things for my daughter’s birthday. And a woman stops me to compliment my old Disney T-shirt. Which led to a conversation just about Disney (huge Disney adult here). She was super nice and friendly. I thought I was making a friend. She then asks for my phone number to meet up sometime. I said sure and we exchanged phone numbers. Well not 2 hours later she asks if I would like to join her “team” and I immediately went through the conversation and saw all the red flags I didn’t see beforehand. Given they were more hidden than anything but after asking if I would join her team I knew it was a MLM business attempt. I started crying and was so upset. I thought I was making a new friend and turned out I was being taken advantage of for business. Well I told her I wasn’t interested and have not heard from her since, thankfully. Months later, on a local FB mom group, I come to find it is common at our local Target for moms to feel like they are making a new friend only to find out it is a MLM move. So gross. And now I am more hesitant to talk to people, even to compliment someone or tell someone they dropped something, which is sad.

Thank you for posting because it reminded me to check to make sure my garage door was locked. Its the only door i forget because the garage is always closed

I've worked with animals, one of them being bears. Animals are more predictable than humans. Animals also do not attack without warning. If I was attacked, it is because I have pushed and made them feel threatening. Body language from you and the animal is key when dealing with wildlife

Bear vs man in the woods topic: I’ve heard a man say “I understand the sentiment and I’m sorry women feel this way but take emotions out of it choosing the bear is silly the obvious answer is the man because you have a better chance of fighting him off than a bear” I proceeded to give other predators vs the bear they got a bit out there when he chose the bear over a vampire. When I asked why he said “they have a frontal cortex so they think like a human but they would be faster and stronger and can hunt me” I actually laughed after this because he still didn’t see that those are reason women pick the bear over the man.

So you can use a apartment lock to jam your door shut if your in an apartment or a shared rental. You can carry a super bright flashlight that helps alot. You can take an airhorn and tie the push down part to the doorknob so if door is opened the air horn goes with it. A Whistle, LOUD one. I'm from chicagoland so.... Metal softball bats are real.... Motivating. Have one in your car or house. First Aid kit. Multitools can make great protection devices. Don't forget the ol jamming a chair under a door knob.

I’m literally so skeptical of any emails I get that I reported the invitation to my CEO’s retirement party as a phishing attempt to corporate IT because it came externally and I wasn’t expecting to receive it. My friend in IT laughed at me.

The think with the closed doors and fire: I actually, since I was an almost teen, used to close my door, almost at all times, because I was extremely paranoid. And recently, after ten years, my dad came up to me and said that it was actually clever and quoted the statistic. Wasn’t my intention but sure.

So... one time a content creator was posting about a particular issue a lot, and she had her email on her RU-vid. I assumed that meant she was fine with emails, so I emailed her my thoughts about that issue. I wasn't trying to befriend her, it felt more like a letter to the editor, so to speak.... now I am second guessing.

If you look at statistics of people killed (not mauled) by bears vs women vs men. Statistically say you’re better off with the bear.

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My friend and I were literally in a situation the other night that could have potentially have been very dangerous. It was very dark and late at night and in the middle of nowhere. We had slowed down to turn off to go back to the main highway from where we were and someone, a female, came running up on the car trying to flag us down and waving at us. I instantly told my friend not to stop and she was like what do you mean we have to go this way...I said Did you not see the girl trying to run up on the car? I called the Police and told them the location where I saw them. I noticed a second person in the distance. It just felt like a semi sketchy situation.

the basement thing is interesting bc I live in a ghetto in Quebec and the basement has an outdoor entrance that the outside bit has no key but to actually reach my basement and the communal segment of the basement you need the key and the doors are heavy...that being said I'm always terrified when I'm home alone and get nervous about what if there's someone in the basement

49:00 I think reasonable strictness is a good balance. Not too strict/authoritarian and not too loose/laissez-faire. It'll show what responsible adults/role models are like. Because these kids are still developing. They vaguely know right and wrong. Their experiences, education, and exposure determine the kind of people they grow into when they become adults.

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In some countries (Like Germany I believe) it is actually illegal to for parents to post pictures and videos of their children on social media as children own the rights to their own image and likeness at birth so those images cannot be posted until the child is old enough to provide informed consent. Of course you can still make private pages for family to visit. Honestly a lot of child content goes viral because it caters to predators which is important to keep in mind. Honestly, there are better systems out there which we could integrate into our own society if we could just keep and open mind.

1:17:34 when it comes to kids on social media, personally like what Ashley Crosby does and post a weekly photo of her kids together. That is probably the most that I post of my own kids when that time comes

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I feel like the bear or man thing should not be looked at from the perspective of what is the beat choice, and like getting to the bottom of which one is realistically more dangerous, and more from the perspective of how sad is it that we instinctively want to say bear. Like it's not about resolving the conflict. It's about acknowledging that it's sad that women/afab/feminine presenting people are so sceard of men that we want to instinctively pick a bear cuz we anticipate it's gonna be less dangerous then another human

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I know what to do if you see a bear. Humans are more unpredictable

Why does the guy in the thumbnail look like PewDiePie though?

What kind of world are we living in where you have to worry about seeing your pictures on WikiFeet or something strange like that? I really worry about humanity.

Okay so I will advise you put a reachable phone number on your deliveries. I'm a delivery driver and legitimately we sometimes have to call a customer for not being able to find a home or dogs outside etc.

I think I would choose the man lol I have a better chance of out running the man and possibly fighting off the man. I can’t out run a bear lol I mean what if that bear is hungry… I’d be screwed. If I saw a bear considering I spend no time at all around them I would terrified. But a man… I’d immediately be cautious but I would instantly be in fight mode. That bear could slap me once and split my scalp open… I’d have a more fair fight with a man. Now if the bear meant me no harm and wasn’t hungry then obviously I’d choose it but again this is with have no information on either. In that case I’ll take on the man… this coming from someone who has suffered trauma from a man for many years. I have learned that in a stressful situation I go into fight mode. I’d rather fight and stand a chance than not stand one at all.

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I am would choose the man. Because yeah the bear is there because he lives there... and yeah a lonly man an the woods maybe weird... but a woman lonly in the woods is also weird xD i dont no the acctual Prozent of man that are a danger but I think the chance that i wandering in the woods meet a dangerous man the chance is in my head so so low that i would choose the man before the bear .... and when i must fight.... I am sure my chances win over a man are higher then win over a bear

The bear and hope it was a black bear or sun bear

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I bet you that those women who choose Bear over a Man would be the first people to RUN from a Bear if they saw one coming for them.

There’s a documentary called grizzly man. Some people need to watch it. Bears tend to eat their prey alive. They on them down and take chunks out of them while they writhe in pain and agony.

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Bear. The bear i can avoid and scare off. The man ehhh

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Unpopular opinion, I'd rather see a man than a bear. Yes, a bear may just leave me a lone, or it may attack. And yes a man may attack as well. At least with a man, I know I'd have a chance to survive. With a bear attack, I'll be dead. And with a man, I'd also have a better chance of getting out of the woods (assuming I'm lost). No disrespect to the women who chose bear because of situations they went thru to choose that, their feelings are definitely valid. But I hate this question because it just puts ALL men in such a negative light. Not all men are inherently evil!

Bear. Consistently more civil than man. Easier to avoid.

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If you leave it alone, there is a good chance the bear will leave you alone. If you leave a man alone (aka ignore or don’t respond) there is a chance he will become violent. A bear will kill you fairly quickly (probably less than an hour) with no animosity because it is hungry or protecting its cubs. A man might be friendly and helpful - or he might take you to his secret forest bunker, chain you up and use you as his sex slave for decades. It is impossible to tell which one he is when you first meet them. Also, if the bear attacks and you actually survive, 1. Everyone will believe you. 2. The bear will be punished 100% of the time without worrying about ruining its bright future for “one little mistake.” 3. No one will ask you what you were wearing, if you were drinking, if you told the bear no, or what you were doing in the woods. 4. You don’t have to worry about pregnancy, STDs, or the bear knowing where you live and returning to finish the job. Too many men insert themselves into the “random man” position in this rhetorical question and get offended immediately. If you would be friendly and helpful, good on you. Please understand that not all men are like you and most act like a “good guy” at first until some perceived slight. They will go from “you’re the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen” to “you’re a fat, ugly slut” in the blink of an eye if you don’t answer his text as quickly as he would like, as if you exist only for him.

You can't talk a bear out of eating you.

I'm choosing man, just cause you have a 50 50 chance he won't be a murderous creep lol

The bear. The bear. The bear. The bear. All y’all men in the comments are telling on yourself for being predators and picking the man.

Honestly. Just have the bear. I dont care anymore. If men are that scary to you, then you can have the bear. Id just say its probably all the criminal minds that make you say that.

The man, because there’s a good chance he’s just an ordinary guy that doesn’t want any trouble.

The man

Men vs bear is such an odd conversation because women attack women as well

Bear Always the Bear