Q&A: Is Premarital Sex a Sin?, Divorce, & Dating for 8 Years (What does the Bible say?) 

I actually enjoy you being blunt and it seems like you are still expressing yourself in love. Sometimes the truth hurts but I understand that God is not trying to hurt His children but help us to continue to live in His glory and basically, I think, steer us in the right spiritual direction(s). God never said life would be easy but focusing on Him and having faith in Him gives me peace.

Sex before marriage will ruin your marriage. I’ll never do it again. Obey God. His commandments are not burdensome.

I was tired of waiting. I was 23 and said eff it. Got into a relationship with an unbeliever and she got pregnant. It’s been 10 years and she is no where around. I raise my child alone. There is no happy ending when you don’t wait and your partner is an unbeliever. Be patient and wait on the Lord.

God loves us and wants the best for us. It isn’t easy I must say

Mark, your passion about this topic is so clear 😊 and the knowledge you hold to support your conviction is inspiring! Thankyou 👍

I remember being at church and overhearing one youth leader tell another that "no, he didn't find in the bible that premarital sex was wrong". I was floored. I hope he found it!

Your channel is so awesome!! Thank you so much for taking this courageous step in discussing things that aren’t usually talked about but need to, while being so humble and loving about it. Keep up the great videos! :)

After my marriage failed I was not saved. I literally gave myself away for a few years. I had several meaningless encounters that really damaged my heart. I find it so hard, actually almost impossible to control my lust. I was with my wife for 22 years ( it was mentally abusive to me) before I became a sleaze bag. I found Christ who saved me but I miss... I crave the touch.

Confirmation from the Lord for me..thank you!!

I use to think in my younger less immature years that it wasn't really a big deal. Now as I'm older and really have thought about why and what reasons I would marry a person I believe that it's always better to marry. I think marriage is vowing to be there for someone until your old dating allows both people to not really commit it's like I want my cake but I want to eat it to. Marriage glorifies God and sets a good example for those around us. Good video your advice is great.

Excellent video and I agree. My male friend has pursued me for nearly 8 years and I thank the Lord that our relationship is long distance. This has certainly given us time to get to know each other, through communication.

My Ex - Husband was mean to me and he cheated and walked out and divorced Me. I'm 65 years young and have Been Divorced for 17 years and single for 17 years. I am waiting for My Boaz. I Am A Christian. I Believe GOD'S Word.

Everything you're talking about makes total sense especially for me currently. I've been dating a guy for almost 2 years this February and I told him I did not want to move him just as a girlfriend but something more. I would have never thought in a million years I'd want to ever get married again but I was always told that you should date for a purpose and I want to serve the Lord properly. Being in a past divorce was hard enough for both of us in our current relationship that we have now. I love him and he loves me and I told him I want to pursue marriage not just stay dating. Our conversation about 3 weeks ago has come up again about this and it's hard for me to release and I think it is due to us not getting married. Having sex before marriage is wrong and I totally agree to that and we both want to do this right but we've done it wrong since. We both are aware we're both Christians and adults who want to do this right. Do you think this is the reason why I have a hard time and I'm struggling to feel complete after sex? I know this information is put out their public hopefully this can help the next person. As a female in my first marriage I could be completely comfortable and have my release during sex and now I'm so in love and wanting to pursue with this man and it's a struggle to feel fulfilled afterwards. He's not doing anything wrong technically we both are but in everything that we are doing maybe this is why I cannot feel complete after and we are trying to make this work since I have moved in a year ago. A friend of mine recommended that I should move out right before marriage, somebody said to sleep in another room until we do. It's really hard for both of us and we want to do this right. Do you believe that this is why I'm struggling personally and how we can go about this? Thank you for your podcast I absolutely love hearing them and blessings to you.

Soo when exactly does a marriage take place in God's eyes.

Its alot of things about this message when i was younger i didn't' understand i wish i did more when i was younger reading my bible more i understand and learning and growing now. Thank you God and Thank you Mark for your honestly and breaking down this message. God bless everyone.

I learned love via my grandparents and my parents Both of my grandma and my mum were virgin brides Their men were contempt with spouses and had great marriage life From what i learn love is only natural when love is for love, not for gaming And keeping virginity till the wedding day is personal preference The religious belief involved is also very personal I am a buddhist and i love men much Love is deeper than sex

Real love is self-sacrificing. You want the highest good for the other person and it develops through the practice of the virtue of chastity. You're willing to get to know the other person and love them for their own sake not for how they may make you feel. The initial passion that happens when you fall in love is great but it resides on the emotional and sensual plane. To go deeper, there must be a permanent commitment between two people in such a way that it reflects how God loves us in a permanent, exclusive, committed and fruitful way. When you practice chastity, respect for self and the other grows. I really wish more people understood that.

But what is sexual immorality? Isn’t this defined in Leviticus 18? I don’t see where premarital sex is listed in the sexual immoral laws.

Amen, great message given and conformation to what I've been talking about for quite a while. I thank God first and then your ministry. We dont know each others and God has use you amazingly to conform things to me. Keep the good work for God. God bless you.📙

Thanks Pastor Mark for dissecting this topic! 🤙🏻

God bless you and your ministry. I'm in agreement with you on this topic

It's called fornication. They are not married. How much more simple can it be... This is the reason why so many Christians in delusion about their salvation. Do I sound judgmental? Read you Bible...

So far I know one man out of hundreds that will not have premarital sex. It’s insane

I'm a 37 year old male and still haven't had intercourse. The first and last thought of every single day is "I still haven't had sex." I'm Christian so from an early age decided it's best to wait for the right person but I never thought I'd still be waiting at this age. I've had some relationships, been on countless dates and had some sexual experience but just not gone all the way. I feel I have missed out on one of the greatest joys in life - true love and sex. It may not be too late but I haven't even come close to being in a relationship for years now. Maybe marriage is not in God's plan for me because a suitable partner seems impossible to find. Yet at the same time I have such a strong desire for one.

You're correct mark

Lord I thank you for Restoration. For the Love you have for us

I have studied the subject of divorce and remarriage for 14 years since my husband divorced me, and the Lord was constantly telling me to fight the divorce and to stay faithful to my vows. Basically people like to look for exceptions, but there is no allowance for remarriage as long as your first spouse is still alive. 1 Corinthians 7:11 (from the Lord) says that the woman can leave but she is to stay single or else be reconciled to her husband and the husband is not to divorce your wife. I have a playlist of over 80 videos about divorce and remarriage adultery. God makes the marriage permanent until death. This why God hates divorce, and we are in a covenant to create godly offspring. Remarriage is Adultery Unless? (dead) is a great book by David Pawson and is a top video on my playlist. I have gone against people's advice to obey God as a covenant keeper for over 10 years of being divorced. There are a lot of us who are doing the same things to obey God's Word and Jesus in Mark 10 and Luke 16. God bless.

Thanks for this video, Mark.

Very important message.

Yes any sex before marriage or with a person you are not married to is a sin

God didn’t permit divorce, Moses did, out of the stubbornness of israel’s hearts. God never permitted divorce Jesus said in the beginning it was not so

Is premarital sex a sin? Does that even have to be asked? Ofcourse it's a sin. The only people who are excused to ask this question are children and individuals who don't read the Bible. This question is for the author of these videos.. "How long have you been a born again, bible believing, Holy Spirit filled man of God?"

My fiance and I have been assured by God individually and as a couple that he has brought us together for the sole purpose of holy matrimony. But because of our families we are unable to perform the actual wedding ceremony until later this year. We have committed ourselves to each other and to God in private and publicly. We've already fallen into sexual temptation. We feel no remorse from the Holy Spirit. Are we sinning?

I stopped this at 13:30. I wish to express a perspective; but, am leary of inadaquately presenting it; so, please don't assume that your interpretation of the following is what I intended to convey. Marriage is a commitment to each other before God. There's the human institution or ritual of marriage that has historically accompanied it. In this case the woman has experienced that deficiency of it's veneration. There may exist a commitment between her and the guy, before God, to each other that suffices for the relationship to be seen as marriage "in the eyes of God (which is what, really, matters)." Going through the ritual can amount to no more than inconvenience and subjugation to unjust legal oversight (government meddling). That the divorce rate is so high "in these days," I feel that it's not, really, expressive of God's glory anyway. I agree on the matter of remarriage. Otherwise, how is there a closure of the previous- marrital- status?

Wow. Thank you Jesus 😊

you can separate but you joined to that person for life, you commit adultery if you get anyone else

Amen thank you

Are Christian men okay with waiting until marriage to have sex? Also, how do you know if you're sexually compatible?

God bless you so much

Was thinking the same thing!

Regarding your response to divorce and remarriage....what about 1 corinthians 7:10-11. Seems pretty clear to me in the absence of adultery?

I used to think it was sinful in God's eyes, but my views are beginning to shift based on the world around me. Celibacy, virginity and chastity are non-existent among Christians, even for those who have never left the faith. Christians are lying about the importance saving themselves for marriage, they do not believe it, nor do they practice it. If that was the case, most Christians would be virgins when they got married. I have come to realize, by not having sex before marriage you will be loosing out on gaining experience necessary to please your mate. In today's Christian world, if you marry as a virgin and your partner is not you will be a disadvantage. Every time you have sex with you non-virgin mate, they will constantly comparing your sexual performance to the previous sexual encounters they had with other people. This will be demeaning and humiliating experience for the inexperienced partner. If you try it out before marriage, both parties can decide if they like the sex enough to stay together or go find other people. No humiliation, no sexual frustration to deal with. I'm not saying that I am going to run out and start bed-hopping, but If i find a willing partner, I am not going to hold back either... Its just not worth the wait.

No where in the Bible does it directly say premarital sex is wrong or a sin. Have to read between the lines. If the entire Bible was written in a straightforward manner like Proverbs and Ecclesiastes; people wouldn’t have so many questions.

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Mark, I have a question about being equally yoked.. if a person has said they accepted Jesus as they're savior, but you don't REALLY see any fruit or evidence of that in their life except that they are willing to go to church with you, and say that they are just very private about that part of they're life.. how can you know the heart.!? I can't call him a liar... Maybe a baby in Christ and has never grown, idk... What are we to do cases like this?

1 Corinthians 7 verse 2 is about prostitution

We sin a lot, is this okay? "

My ex tried to kill me. I hope that is a reason to divorce plus I wasn't a christain then .

please pray that the god will make a way for my fiance and I to get married.

There are using each other.Very sad.Why are they not married.??

I have a roommate who is having sex before marriage will God except this yes or no

I love your videos. I’m a 30’s gay guy and you give me hope. We all straight and gay need to follow god and the best way is to only have sex out of love in marriage only. I’m slowly changing other young gay guys thoughts on this. I’m single still because I’m old fashioned I don’t sware don’t like tattoos don’t drink don’t smoke and won’t have sex with someone I don’t love. I pray to god i’ll find a man I can marry and obey for the rest of my life.

Is any sex before marriage a sin some say yes some say no what is the truth

Is it as long as both have good intention of getting married they can have sex?

When can I see you?

I dnt think dating for 8 years is wrong. there maybe very practicl reasons to wait that long example my sister was 19 when she met her husband , and he 21, They were in college and didn't have money to start a family... so they waited for practical reasons to marry ( she got through medical school and her husband through Law school) then they got jobs and then married... they dated nine years for purely practical reasons they married. I disagree about just marrying to have sex. good heavens just think if you married the first person you had sexual feelings for that would be unwise and you only knew them 3 months.. there has to be more to it( spiritually compatible, testing character, and being friends I think is best first)

What is the big deal? All of my friends got pregnant first then enggaged and get married. It's almost like a thing here in where i live. They all called them Christians and all the parents support that kinda things. Im 27 single and tired of waiting.. I have that desire to be married and to be having sex, but i almost give up.. I might just do it like everyone else. They all are happy looking Christian couple. I don't get it.. Why is it so easy for them do it, and hard for me. Helpppp

Mark, I really like you channel, but I hope you have adjusted you few on Divorce and remarriage! Remarriage: God only allows remarriage when the spouse dies. (Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. I Corinthians 7:10‭-‬11 NKJV) and again later on, (A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. I Corinthians 7:39 NKJV) To me it is as clear as daylight, that remarriage is only allowed in case of death. Otherwise it will be adultery. Cause for God a husband and wife are joined together, and remain that way until death do part them. Divorce: You got straight to the exception. But in Greek you see a different word used their. Porneia instead of moichatai. It's used for fornication, pre-marital sex. The case in Matthew is that Matthew wrote his gospel for the Jews and so for Their customs. Just like the case with Jesus's (human) parents. To be betrothed back then, was different than it is in our time. Why divorce, in my opinion, isn't allowed by adultery as well is seen at the response of His disciples. (His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” Matthew 19:10 NKJV) Why would they react that way if they could divorce for adultery? Its more likely it's not allowed. Furthermore, the only reason people would divorce is of their hardened heart! Divorce always originates out of hate, cause love is seeking the best for the other. (I'm not saying that by abuse or ongoing adultery you need to suck it up. You could than separate for a time.) I believe we should focus on what God does and follow His example. He never "divorced" His people, and we cheated alot on Him! He always forgave us and accepted us back. Just like Jesus and the church (same marriage like) Jesus will never abandon us, though the church is living an adulterous life. What God joined together let not man(kind) separate. I can say boldly that people who want to divorce not know the grace of God. My wive cheated 2 times in the last year and wants to divorce me. I still love her (through Gods love and Grace) and dont want to divorce. Cause I have encountered His grace. But if we divorce, I will not search for another or start dating. Cause the bible isn't allowing it.

Nope, absolutely no mention of it in the Bible.