r/AccidentalAlly - So... just LGBTQ? 

“If she wears a backpack instead of a purse then she’s gay” Students, apparently: 🏳️‍🌈😌✌️

A fun fact: the acronym “LGBTQ+” has changed a lot over the years, at least in English! During the AIDS crisis, it was changed from “GLBT” to “LGBT” to honor the work lesbians did in taking care of AIDS patients. When “A” was added to the acronym, for a few years it meant “Allies” before the asexuality spectrum was rightly recognized as being part of the community.

I've also heard of women posting their pregnancy pictures under the hashtag "ftm" because they thought it stands for "first time mom" and they were so confused when people were commenting on their post wholesome supportive shit like "ur still valid, king"

I also got one that was "You'll NEVER be a woman" and when I clarified they said "Well I mean if you're a trans woman you'll never be a woman. If you ARE a woman then you'll never be a man" Like "OKAY so we can't always tell, but whichever one would offend you, please assume I said that one" (anyway I'm nonbinary)

I knew a homophobic person named Ally once

If a woman wears a backpack instead of a purse you can always be certain of one thing: She has too much stuff to fit in a purse.

"I am not a uterus owner", well I sure hope you don't just have a uterus lying around your house, that'd be kinda weird.

Funfact, that "transphobe makes a trans person's money raising campaign reach the goal" happened in Poland too. A transphobic politician retweeted a trans man's gofundme or something and within days it was 200% over the set goal.

I (cis female) am often misgendered online, usually in a spiteful way. The "we can always tell" guys are my favorite to engage. My go-to answer is "Ugly women exist"/"women are allowed to be ugly". It takes away their power without throwing trans women under the bus. If I'm perfectly fine with being considered ugly, they have no idea how to strike at me. It shuts them down so fast it's hilarious.

My biggest problem with the statement, "God didn't mess up on your gender", is that they are always the judge of who is what gender. By their own claim, they shouldn't question it because they would be going against God. Also, Click mentioning "God works in mysterious ways, unless it's about your gender/sexuality", is golden.

At my school gay is still used at an “insult” so many gay kids get called gay and we are all like “yep! How’d you know? Haha” and then the kids who are using it “insultingly” go “oh…UGH!”while stomping away angrily

My favorite is when I write comments in support of trans people and the transphobes automatically assume that means I must be trans too because they’re so full of hate for others that they can’t fathom the concept of someone being kind to anyone who is different than them. And then they go into my bio and see my pronouns are she/her and call me a man. I was born a biological woman. My pronouns are she/her because everyone uses pronouns even when they’re cis, and I include them in my bio to prove a point.

I once had a guy tell me that I shouldn't say I'm AroAce, because nobody would want to date me. I explained what AroAce meant, but he just repeated that nobody would want to date me if I said I'm AroAce, so I just said "I know" and he asked when I would choose to say it than....... Some people just insist on being ignorant

My FTM little brother once bought some 'womens' clothing from a salvation army store for a cosplay. He told me how hard he tried to not smile when the bitch working at the register kept saying things like, "are these for your sister or something?", "You know these aren't made for you right?" Classic.

One of my weirdest gender-affirming experience is the time I was going in town to buy some bread, feeling like shit, wearing some jeans and a hoodie but no binder, when a dude about my age but way taller than me came to me and asked if I was taking coke, because one of my eyes was kinda red and both pupils were extra dilated. I explained him they were messed up because i am disabled and got a few number of surgeries as a kid : then he said, giving me a manly pat on the shoulder "keep it up, bro, you're one of the real ones !" It made my freaking day.

"Of course their surgery went wrong! They're trans" SO CAN KNEE SURGERY WHAT'S YOUR POINT

We truly needed the second disclaimer

"We have a customer that uses they/them in *their* email signature" "That pronoun is grammatically incorrect and I would not use them" you just did you dingus

watching people on twitter trying to be transphobic by saying a trans man will never be a woman is one of the simple joys in life

Some people get their periods in actual primary school. It’s so scary when you suddenly start having pains and bleed even when you know what’s going on! This should be seen as a basic human bodily function, not a shameful thing.

The guy ranting about steaks on a trans flag background even called a cow a "he", so supportive of transness across species 😂

Missed opportunity: They could have called it r/AccidentAlly.

15:09 Click, i don't think the guy even realized the character is FtM lmao literally thought the guy was buying tampons to pretend to be a girl 😂😂

1:38 reminds me of that one time i was on roblox with a trans shirt on my character and some dude came up to me and said “you’re a man” i told him “i know” *he immediately said i was a girl instead*

My trans friend said that she doesn’t care if she’s going to hell bc she thinks that heaven is too prissy for her and I couldn’t agree more.

23:15 I love how all the transphobes are like, "they is plural. Make a new pronoun". But when enbys tried to use xe/xim 10 years ago they said "you can't make up new words."

14:35 I’m a cis female. I have broad shoulders and large hands. Not to mention my feet. They’re too wide to shop in the women’s section 99% of the time. So I usually have to go to the mens section for shoes. I’ve had to do that since I was 10. It doesn’t help most places near me don’t have a huge selection, mainly different styles and what not. It’s hard to find a variety women’s shoes in sizes 10/11 anyway, not to mention wide shoes. I’d imagine some of the people in the video would assume, ‘oh women only wear women’s shoes’. Hell no. I know others who every now and then half to go to the mens section.

9:04 "Pretty much everyone has a gender identity." I love how Click affirmed the agender squad.

I absolutely love it when people are actively using the singular forms of they/them while simultaneously arguing against using singular they/them. They have to be some of the dumbest people alive.

i love people trying to misgender jamie but the beard is so naturally beutiful they think hes a pre-transition transwoman and they just affirm his gender even harder

26:28 fun fact, as a trans man who is also Christian, I've basically come to the conclusion that God made me both male and trans, because if I were cis in either direction I'd probably be just as obnoxious as the rest of my homophobic family lmao

I have a teacher who uses bathroom passes, the pass has a male female and alien character on it, and says “I don’t care just wash your hands”

i love when "we can always tell!" people end up accidentally affirming someone, they tried to be transphobic but it ended up in an accidental ally moment

the irony of a computer program saying theyre "Non-binery" is the funniest shit to me for some reason

9:57 I sked ChatGPT what its name would be if it were a person and it chose Elysia. I think it works quite well.

2:18 I can confirm that uninformed hate is in fact a thing, as a furry our haters are nothing but uninformed.

I'm a trans man. One cool thing that happened a few days ago when I was on vacation is that I was waiting to use the bathroom in a gas station and a stranger referred to me as a man. That felt awesome.

I'm pretty sure Jamie made a video of people failing to be transphobic. It's beautiful

19:36 - Ah yes, my favorite genders: - Woman - Non-Binary - Tiny Man - Tiny Woman - Tiny Non-biny(tm) - If you see a person who looks identical to you, run away and hide. - Disabled - Mermaid - Sasquatch - Alright who’s seahorse is this - Is this guy disposing of a body? Dude you can’t do that here - Rock-climber - People with bad scoliosis - “No babe I’m not adding more stickers to the Gender-Neutral toilet” send text - C y c l i s t - S w i m m e r ? *- N E M O !*

14:22 need i add that tampons are also in turning red since the entire movie is based on puberty shown through the idea of the “red panda”

Hear me out, the trans version of a Gay-dar should be a Trans-mitter

There are 2 things you can always count on with transphobes, 1 They'll assume that trans man/woman referrers to their "original" gender ("original" in quotes because that's not how it works) and 2 Forgetting that trans men are a thing

i was arguing with a guy on tik tok why he shouldn't date 13 year olds and he said "at least i don't have a pronouns kid" 😭

the story at 12:00 just makes me want to create a fake transphobic twitter account that shares trans peoples gofundme all day in the hopes that people fund them out of spite 😂

best thing my mom ever did was that after years of saying that she hated gay ppl my sister came out lesbian. Her answer to that was: "Welp... Seems like I can't hate gay ppl now anymore." She is a horrible mother but at least sometimes she is decent

Funny story: One day back when I was in middle school, I walked into my homeroom class. Two of the boys told me to "don’t sit down or you’re gay". I ended up slowly sitting down while staring at them. Cue me coming out as ace a few years later.

25:23 also it’s super funny cuz a lot of the “girly” alcoholic drinks have more alcohol than the “manly” drinks

Closeted trans-woman here, was at a hospital recently and my doctor accidentally called me "Ms." all the time because she had a patient a week earlier with the same surname as me. Felt very good.

My friend was talking to me, and mention that there was a kid in her class with extreme Christian beliefs. He told her “you like girls *and* boys?” And she said “yeah..?” So he said “I personally don’t think that’s right, but that’s no reason for me to disrespect as a person.” Be like this kid! Don’t be a d!ck because people disagree with you.

I remember when I was a kid, my cousin (we're both afab, but I recently came out as trans) came over to me one day like "my butt is bleeding" and I was like "??? are you dying let's go find your mother". We literally panicked, and all that had happened was that she had gotten her period before me despite me being older. Educate young girls about their periods, for the love of all that is holy and unholy in this world. I was lucky that I got mine late and had a mother who explained it all before it happened, but I know so many girls who got theirs and had no idea what was going on.

16:01 They just really wanted to carry the tuxedo/suit-dress tradition. It's the outfit types that are their OTP.

21:22 as an aroace (aromantic asexual) I relate to this so much- some bully at my school called me the f slur and it made me feel so accepted

“Derpression doesn’t exist, it’s just a faulty perception” has to be one of my favorite takes on depression. If only there were some term that could be used to describe a brain’s diminished perception of the self/world!

Fun fact about asexuality, it's not about not being able to have sex necessarily, but more about the fact that there is less or none at all sexual attraction. Being a spectrum some can have intercourse but it doesn't start from the sexual need, but from somewhere else (be it you want to make your partner feel loved or some other thing like that). Now, there are aromantics as well, which don't feel romantic attraction, and just like asexuality, it's a spectrum. Soo depending on where you stand on both of those spectrums you may or might never have intercourse. I myself am on the asexuality spectrum with a pretty steep inclination to the asexual side, but romantically it get's a little weird, cuz every choice I've made till now was purely based on the vibe I have with a person (swinging both ways btw). And by vibe I don't mean it in a basic white girl witch wanna be way, but in how I click with that person, can they make me laugh? Can they get me out of a dark place? Can I make them laugh? Can I take them out of a dark place? Can I feel comfortable with my past around them (wich for me at least it's a big problem)? If any found it a fun read, keep the convo going and tell about your experience. PS: Love your content man!

If god assigned us our genders, then god must hate me, a gender fluid. Constantly switching, and they're just like, "Finally! He switched to what I assigned him! WAIT! NOOOOO!" Also, whenever I wear my pronoun pins, because I'm way to lazy to dress accordingly, people just call me the opposite pronouns. So I'm debating whether I should just where the wrong pronoun pins every day so transphobes think they're misgendering me, but they're not.

As a fem presenting transmasc person, people automatically assume I'm mtf and say shit like "you'll never be a real woman!" Tysm sweeties i hope you have a nice day ✨😘✌

Wait... I just realized something. Do transphobes think the saying, "trans women are women" is anti-trans? 😆 🤣

6:39 it literally reminded me of that 1 person who said "god has no gender" or "god can be referred to as he or her" so you're telling me god's non-binary? Then why hate on LGBTQ+ if your "lord" is the part of it?

Friendly reminder to teach your kids about periods EARLY. Around 8-10 depending on your family history of periods (it varies between families when they start), earlier if your family has had them start earlier. Periods usually start on average of 11-13, sometimes later, sometimes earlier. You can teach them s‐x ed later when they're around 14-15, but teach the girls about periods early because they START early.

As Mark Twain once said: "Go to Heaven for the climate, Hell for the company."

As a trans person, I am genuinely so excited for the day someone just walks up to me or sends me a dm online that’s similar to these “YOU’LL NEVER BE A WOMAN!!!” “…Thank you so much :’D”

15:33 They hate it so much *because* they don't understand it.

I'm genderfluid, and i just love people trying to missgender me because they cannot comprehend that there's more genders than just man or woman. Also i really like your videos, keep going, you're an amazing person, take care.

Someone was a accidental Ally and then I thanked them and started teering up because I really needed the support at the time, I didn’t know that it was unintentional A week later, they apologized because they seen how happy I was. I guess they started to feel bad

*Am a trans man* I constantly get comments about how “I’ll never be a real woman” and I’m just like 🙂 YES.

Dating, a step by step manual: 1) think about if you wanna procreate with a person. Decide if this is biologically a viable option. 2) Have fun (Step 1 might be optional if you are currently not planning to procreate)

I love how this persons intro and outro always make me happy even when I’m sad or feeling shit about myself, thank you.

17:06 There´re 10 kinds of people: Those who understand binary and those who don´t understand binary.

Fun story: I was assigned female at birth, but am trans-masc. I fully realized this relatively late in life (I'm still at the early stages of transition in my mid-30s). To be clear, I always had the sense that something was up, but I was raised in a conservative family and didn't even have the appropriate vocabulary to describe how I felt until my mid/late 20s, which was when I started putting things together. That being said, I was androgynous as a teen and young adult, always behaved more masculine, and always had an inexplicably low voice. There were frequent occasions where people would accidentally use masculine pronouns for me, and it confused me only because hearing myself referred to in those terms felt so good. That should have been my first clue. Then years passed where I tried SO HARD to be the 'woman' my family saw me as. Wearing a dress or skirt, make-up, etc. to go to formal events always felt more like a clown costume than anything else. I have a positive outlook on clowns, and I enjoy a good costume party, but being the only one in a costume was terribly uncomfortable. After weight gain, widened hips, and breast growth ruined that accidental passing, I've still had people refer to me as a man. But now, it's mean-spirited. People try to insult me, but they accidentally affirm my identity. I've had people tell me that, no matter how hard I tried, I would "never be a true woman." Makes me smile every time I think about it. But honestly, I do look forward to a future where I can at least SOMEWHAT pass again. I also mean to fight for a future where people don't have to be resigned to a long and painful path like mine, but can get to know themselves on their terms and access care well before certain anatomical developments happen. There are younger trans members of my paternal family (not the conservative maternal family I was raised by) who have already had it much better.

Fun fact about the left handed thing: My sister was left handed but in kindergarten she was forced to write with her right hand, now she’s ambidextrous, using her right hand to write and draw, and left for everything else, so yeah.

J.K. Rowling really said “lol jk” to that quote 💀

you gotta love when phobes throw rocks at groups they hate and are confused when they crack a few eggs

The 'no migration, no gender, no war' thing is actually from a backwards thinking politician! Specifically, Hungary's prime minister. I'm Hungarian, and believe it or not, that infographic makes about as much sense as anything else he does. The migration part is about boycotting refugees mostly from Africa and the Middle East. It's been a big thing in his policy. It peaked a few years ago, but they still find random things to blame on immigrants, and nitpick every single crime one of them committed. The no gender part is because he's transphobic as fuck. That's it. It was about two or three years ago or so that their party passed a new rule that makes it impossible to legally transition. He's also homophobic, and a more recent clusterfuck they did was pretty much likening everything homosexual to p*dophilia and banning the two together. Because it's aparently p*dophilic to show two men kissing to kids. Of course there was an international backlash, they just didn't give a damn. They don't really give a damn about a lot of things, to be honest. Like the ridiculous amount of protests with hundreds of thousands of participants. It's like none of it ever happened. And then they push through some new bs rule or loophole that just makes it easier for them to steal more money. Many times, it doesn't even really need to be approved by anyone else. And of course they complain and get offended when someone calls them out and says there's no real democracy here. Oh, and let's not forget the 'no war' part. It's about Ukraine. Guess which country sent no help? Which country voted against every single sanction the EU came up with? Yes, it was us. He keeps saying he's on the side of peace, but we all now he's just too cheap to do anything. I'm pretty sure he's just been metaphorically sucking on Putin's dick this whole time, it can't be too far from the truth. There're so many blatant lies they keep feeding us, it's ridiculous. And the sad thing is that some people actually believe it. A lot of us are against this whole fuckery, but it's not like we can do anything about it. The best chance we have is ditching this country and moving abroad. It's a shame. I like this place, but it keeps on getting more and more unlivable.

9:31 i love how the ai model is actually making an oc, at this point ai are just real human brains

19:31 Oh yeah, that joke! I'm still wanting to fall off a cliff for that one time I didn't know it was a transphobic joke and commented it under a video and found out a few hundred comments later that it's a transphobic joke, but I would struggle a ton with finding that comment again in my comment history and eventually burst into tears after 30 minutes of going back and forth between comments from 2 years ago and earlier that day, and I was kinda trying to save the last shred of my mental stability, so somewhere out there that comment might still exist and keep me up at night.

"i remember gay being thrown around as an insult" I'm in my third year of college and it's still being thrown around as an insult every other day by students. We study about LGBT+ folk in the second year. It hurts me whenever people I used to think were my friends are openly honophobic

You know gender envy is intense when you wanna look like a fake description that an AI gave of its own appearance

Well, my mother argues about the fact that I'm an introvert when I literally have social anxiety and want to live alone for my whole life.

i love watcing your content because its so nice to see someone who really understands and supports our community who doesn't act awkward or treat it like a hush hush topic when talking about it.

As a trans guy, I've found out that the only upside to not passing is that I can use the women's restrooms if all of the men's stalls are taken up. I don't feel super dysphoric about it, because as I love to say, "Every bathroom is gender neutral if you have to piss bad enough"

I wear backpacks as a female, and am also gay. So you now have a sample size of exactly two people! Must be true

28:28 I like the way the idea of gender being a ‘personality trait’ is spoken about here and the metaphor Click uses with introverts and extroverts. HUMANS ARE COMPLEX. I feel like Click’s little rant was a little wisdom nugget and needs to be heard by more people.

Yo. At 22:07 I wrote that comment as a joke in the hopes of getting into an accidental ally video 😂 I'm a trans bisexual woman. I am so happy the plan worked!!!

This subreddit reminds me of a sketch I saw on RU-vid where the villain was so bad at being evil that they actually ended up helping everyone.

So if a hater comment in LGBTQ+ pages in instagram, Instagram will never stop to recommend LGBTQ content for them xD Ironic

Jamie was the first trans RU-vidr i watched and he helped me figure out that I’m trans and it pulled me out of my depression! Thank you Jamie! Ik ur prolly not gonna see this but oh well

Hahahaha lmao Jamie cameo had me in tears. 🤣👏 Also that no migration no gender thing had me thinking how beautiful it would be to have an androgynous society, or rather a society that doesn't impose gender roles on people based on their birth anatomy. Wouldn't that be nice if everyone could express themselves freely and was able to present themselves to the rest of the world the way they want to be seen without any fear of judgement or ostracization? 🥲 Straight people would benefit from this too. No impossible gender standards anyone has to live up to, tear it all down and just be happily authentic... 🥹 Edit: that asexual ball joke near the end nearly killed me I laughed so hard omg. 🤣🤣🤣

What's so funny about those "I'm a woman, I'm not a person with a uterus" posts to me is that they clearly understand that those two are different things

My transphobic mother made me question my gender when she first called me "son" as a joke after getting a haircut 😂

30:45 "saying trans women are women is like saying h20 is water. its just not true." Actually, yes - *h20* is not water. I have no idea what 20 hydrogen will make but, yes, it's not water - *H₂O* is water. Maybe the guy meant to type h20. Maybe he meant to type H₂O. Either way, lol.

I sometimes pretend to be an accidental ally, so some might be allies like me trying to be supportive in a funny way.

I wear a backpack over my arm and I'm bi. The science checks out i guess.

14:52 when my grandma first got her period, she thought she was dying 💀 She walked 5 miles to go home and was crying the entire way. Shit like this is why we need to introduce and normalize this stuff in things like books and cartoons.

My first exposure to you was under the not best of situations, but I am so glad this video got recommended to me just now.

Jesus Christ, what an... INTENSE video I cried from laughing SO MANY TIMES. Ah, it was glorious

As a Finn, I'm immune to hell. It's just a giant sauna!

Some kid called me gay the other day and I just told him that he had a very good gay-dar and that I am in fact bi. “Well that’s weird.” “Yes it is weird that people can naturally love someone of the same gender that they can’t reproduce with, from an evolutionary standpoint it is strange. does that make it the bad kind of weird?” Sometimes being overly nice/informative can piss someone off

28:34 whelp why u gotta make me question my gender

19:49 "Ah, that's DOOR-able"

the other day I was out buying groceries and a kid was bothering me while waiting in line to pay, the kid's mom told her ¨leave the girl alone¨ and I just felt so happy because it means I pass and I am not even on HRT yet accidentall ally missgendering :D