As soon as that guy at his birthday party described his friends as “brutally honest”, I knew which way the story was going. I’ve learned (from these videos, actually) that “brutally honest” basically means “asshole who has no tact and no regard for anyone’s feelings but their own”.
Same here. "Oh my friends are brutally honest!" So important to mention that up front, but not so important to mention that your gf arranged this celebration until much later in the story? She should leave that whole circle of jerks alone to brutally honor each other and find someone who actually cares for her.
I agree, 'Brutally Honest' would be say 'I think you used too much makeup, (and, if you really wanna joke, but might still be jerkish) I can't see you under it' You've told her your honest opinion, and added in that you think she's prettier with less makeup! But no, the 'friend' went with a giant insult, then tries to cover it and make himself the victim by saying 'It's just a joke/prank bro!'
@@Kontaro431 She's a makeup artist. If you don't like "heavy" makeup you don't date a makeup artist. You can say that you don't think two colors she wears go well together or that a different shape would have looked better, but if the problem is that you like light makeup you're the one that messed up. They didn't just say she's ugly (which is bad enough as it is, even more so because he didn't defend her), they insulted her job. The literal job that is paying for that birthday meal.
Not only did the makeup story guy not defend his wife but "admitted that she overreacted" as if she's not allowed to have her own feelings. What an ass.
I mean...in my language we have a saying which would roughly translate to "By me I judge you" meaning that I think you will take something in one way bcs I would take it that way. For example if I was in that story and they made fun of me for, well absolutely anything I wouldn't give a crap and without deeper thought would assume nobody would bcs why would they. And I assume op is the same in that regard and he doesn't see it as he let them insult his wife bcs he doesn't see joke insult as insult. I am the same way in that regard and I am trying to tone it down a bit bcs some people let themself get insulted by jokes for whatever reason but I would lie if I said that it doesn't annoy me.
@@zlyboby5317 I like to make these kinds of jokes as well. I've made it a rule though if I make a joke at someone else's expense and they give any sign of taking it negatively, I will immediately apologize. I want everyone to have a good time. I don't want to laugh AT anyone. I want to laugh with them.
@@Jcod_ On one hand yes, on the other hand I usually just stop talkig to that person unless I have to. Like my cousins gf that doesn't get those jokes so I stopped but now I feel like walking on eggshells around her which is extremely annoying
@@zlyboby5317 I've found that usually with my friends it is fine. Every once and a while though there having a bad day or it hits a sensitive topic for them. Someone who can't handle it at all would make me feel like I was walking on eggshells around them as well.
For the nickname story: can we get a round of applause for OP‘s boss, Dave? The moment he started seeing the whole nickname fiasco escalate, she immediately tried to put Megan in her place. He warned her, she ignored it, and he punished her properly. I love getting to see when bosses/managers actually stand up for and defend their employees. That’s how a workplace should be; not this weird, vitriolic battleground of trying to get one up over your coworkers.
As a makeup artist who loves heavy makeup looks myself, OP is 100% the asshole. It's literally her job to do makeup, and even if it wasn't he should support his wife.
I love how rSlash progressively makes OP in the second story sound more and more childish as he read it. Like dude couldn't wait ten minutes for his wife to do what she needs to for her job.
The whole nickname part was so disrespectful. OP was not in the wrong. What Megan did was just harassment. Just address people by the name/names they say to use.
Story 1: I don't understand how anything has changed just bc he's now broke... you're paying 100% of the bills and then making sure hes taken care of if/after you die. Now he expects you to leave his grown kids inheritance too?? No.
Yoyo story 4. Remember how Rslash read a story about.his wife and his Dr husband and his friends? And how she arranged for the party at. Restaurant? She also walked out on him. I think....this could be the other side the husband side of the story and yes he's an asshole hahah
100% agree, they signed a prenuptial and they kept finances 100% seperated and now its only an issue bc he wagered all his savings on his failing business and lost.
What has changed is that he no longer has money and he wants to have a lot of it. He lives off of her, and has the audacity to threaten her with ending their marriage if she doesn't change her will to benefit his kids. Good riddance, I say.
Just gonna say this, but in the U.S. depending on what state you live in, intentionally calling someone by the wrong name is outright illegal. This is considered a form if harrasment.
@@starfieldgames5976 My theory is Cassiopeia. It'd make sense for OP to then pick Pia as a nickname and "Bessie" would then instead be "Cassie". It fits, but naturally I don't know if it's the actual name
The gender reveal appointment is so much more, its were they check brain, heart, spine, kidneys and loads more and it can be a devasting appointment if they find something is wrong. I remember being terrified going to my twins 20 week scan. There is so so much more than just finding out the gender. What an a hole.
That’s where the first gender reveal party came from-a woman who’d suffered multiple miscarriages celebrating the fact that this child had survived and developed enough that those organs were distinguishable.
I was looking for this comment. It's disingenuous to call it the "gender reveal scan" when really that scan is the "hey buddy, do you have all your organs and are they all inside your body?" checking scan. My fiancé and I aren't planning to tell anyone about kids' genders until they're born, and you bet I'll be calling it the "organ checking scan" every time. Prioritize the important! I don't care if there's a girl bum, a boy bum, or a bum of indeterminate gender -- healthy baby I can take home with me is the goal every time.
Exactly. I was pregnant with twin girls and they had the misfortune of having teo malformations on the placenta. At 19 weeks we operated on the placenta but saddly the smallest girl passed away. I carried her momified little angel body untill the birth of my amazing fighter daugther by c section at 32 weeks. She is a perfectly healthy 10 months baby now. These ultrasounds are lifesaving, helping doctors perpare the route of babies. Left to nature I would have lost both babies
There's nothing wrong with friends viciously insulting each other, pretty common. However everyone involved has to be good with it. You do not roast someone unless they're a part of that dynamic, and even then there's boundaries that you must respect.
For sure. I'm the kind of person who'll roast my friends and have them roast me back as we all act super, overdramatically upset. However, not everyone is ok with things like that and it took me a while to understand that. I hurt more than a few people I considered friends before really learning my lesson, even if it wasn't intentional. Once someone makes it clear something made them uncomfortable it's time to acknowledge that you were in the wrong, apologize, and make an effort not to do it again.
I'm all for roasting, I think it's a form of endearment that is seriously underappreciated. That wasn't roasting, it was straight up humiliation. I hope for her sake that she left him by now.
Im just confuse. Didn't she know how they act? I admit the guy could of done something else. And if she knew that's how they act why invite them as she planned it?
@@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954 This is true. I also don't think certain things are appropriate to roast someone over (but that's just my opinion). One such thing is a person's looks. I get it's supposed to be fun and playful, but if you're roasting someone over their appearance that can be really damaging. Also, these people aren't HER friends. They're her SO's friends. Sure, they could also be her friends, but from her response of them being forced on her because the SO is friends with them I would place a bet on her not considering them friends (let alone close enough for something like roasting).
For the "Bessie" story, what they could have done is replied with: "Yes moron, what do you want?" "why are you calling me moron?" "that's your name, isn't it?" "no, don't call me moron" "don't call me Bessie then"
Wrong nickname? LOL. I'm the same way. I don't answer to either of the common nicknames for my name either. It's not my name, so I don't answer to it. I do answer to the Spanish variant of my name though (it is similar enough) as I grew up in Texas...
On the last story: The “gender” scan is an anatomy scan. Ppl often over look the fact that this is one of the most important scans because this will reveal if there are any major health issues with your baby. While most people just think of it as “oh yay I get to find out if it’s a boy or a girl!” It’s much deeper than that. She could’ve been by herself finding out that their baby is incompatible with life or will have life long issues. And no rescheduling is not easy. I found out I was pregnant recently and my dr wanted to see me in 3 weeks to get a date since I am a extremely high risk pregnancy, but they are so booked up I have to wait 2 months. That’s 2 months just wondering if my baby will even make it. And he wants her to reschedule a super important scan that could push them back weeks or months to get important info? Definitely a 4.5 AH score in my book.
@@kanebernier7692 you find out their objective gender you pansy. Yes maybe they will change it later in life but you find out their gender at the scan.
The story about the guy eating his wife’s food went completely different from how I was expecting. I thought it’d be like, “oh every time we go out to eat my wife spends 10 minutes at the restaurant taking photos and showing it off on instagram etc etc and by the time she’s done the foods gone cold.” But nope he was 100% the asshole in that scenario
Last story: the 20 week appointment isn’t just where you learn the gender. It’s an entire anatomy scan where they make sure the fetus is growing and developing properly and all of its organs are forming properly. It’s where a ton of things are done and where some people find out their child is going to be born with major birth defects. It’s super important and really hard to reschedule.
I found out at 16 weeks then had an anatomy scan at 20. Some countries do it differently but yeah he's still the asshole even it was solely for the gender reveal. My partner found out he had the chance to go to a really important work conference the day of our gender scan and I changed it cuz I he wanted to be there so much... but that was for his career not a birthday party
Literally a family member of mine found out her child was going to be born with their intestines OUTSIDE of the body during the 20 week check up. So much planning and preparation went into the immediate surgery the child would have to endure shortly after its birth. The 20 week check up is not what should have been rescheduled. Dude is already starting out putting his child last.
When i was pregnant this appointment were like little dates to get a glimpse at my budding baby The highest of happiness for me even though I had gestational diabetes and everything
OP clearly doesn't understand other words too. He said he's not "'prioritizing" the party over his baby, but that they should do the baby thing another day. LOL, that's the very definition of prioritizing something.
I had the sound off reading and was expecting the opposite. I thought that he’d be like op you need to get your wife some help for her social media addiction. And say no one’s the asshole or something. If this is the marriages one point of friction tho just make a second plate that doesn’t have to be in a photo shoot. If she was even a halfway decent photographer it wouldn’t take a long time as she’d just take about 50 shots in 5 minutes and check them after tho.
Plus, RSlash wanted to give the guy 5/5 AHs, but let him off because he saves those for his own reasons. RSlash may be forced to cut this guy some slack, but I sure as hell won’t. What an immature, overgrown brat.
@@masterstylez6960 for 2 meals a day, for how many years? you'd get annoyed eventually eating room temp food everyday too. how many years do you think you would last before you get annoyed?
Story 2: At first I thought OP was going to think that the pictures had already been taken and start serving himself, then his wife was going to come down and get upset. If that were the case, I'd say no buttholes, but geez OP. He was explictly told that the pictures hadn't been taken yet and decided to NOT JUST take food from 1 bowl, but INTENTIONALLY ruined every single dish.
And he just had to finally cave into not waiting when it's a full feast and not just a single dish she'd likely have more servings of to replace? What a disrespectful excuse of a man.
Yeah, very intentionally cruel. Just keep some snacks around, jerk. And it sounds like the jerk never even told the wife he was having trouble waiting for food
tbh, I thought the story was going into the direction of "So hey, I cooked food this time and didn't feel like I have to wait" but no, she cooked everything and he is complaining that he has to wait for a couple of minutes, what a child.
You know how that part did not make sense? that is how you know it is BS, so many people use reddit to practise theyr fiction writing and to see if people believe it, sometimes I think English professors or teachers are setting writing a reddit post as an assignment.
Yeah, same here. I used to introduce myself with legal name, then preferred name. Nobody called me preferred name. So I dropped it to actually be respected. Annoying.
His key qualifier is, intentionally calling the wrong name. I am very much against this as well, but am equally against people getting upset when it's an honest mistake. I was brought up to be very respectful, and often visit cultural settings where sir/ma'am are obligatory. So many people get upset when, as a reflex someone says sir or ma'am because, at a glance, or that's the clear birth gender, that's what they look like to them, or because that's what they sound like on the phone (this has even happened to me over the phone, actually, it happens a few times a year). This is basically punishing someone for trying to be respectful. When someone calls me ma'am on the phone, I simply say, it's sir, which given this happens after I give my name, really shouldn't be necessary, but it at least doesn't disincentivize respect.
I love this reasoning: It’s selfish of you to go to a scheduled doctors appointment without me while it’s not selfish that I go to a birthday party even though I said I’d be at the appointment. “I have no choice,” is usually a complete lie too. You almost always have a choice, you just don’t like one of the choices.
The Nickname Story - Play a stupid game, win a stupid prize and that’s exactly what OP’s coworker got! My full name is two syllables, but 99% of the time my family/friends call me by a nickname which is one syllable (think Stephanie to Steph), but no one especially not a work colleague has ever done this to me, if they ever did I hope I respond with as much grace as OP did! NTA in any way, shape or form OP! (And if that coworker is so deadset on you just answering to something that annoys you so much start calling her Prudence then insist it’s way cuter and ‘she just needs to get used to it’) 😏😏😏 Thanks for the new vid rSlash, been a while and I got some catchin’ up to do 💙🐱💙
If OP's coworker isn't going to call her by her preferred nickname, then OP doesn't have to dignify it with any sort of response. That's what got her on the hot seat, NOT OP's non-response.
The third story: what the fuck OP's co-worker is on about? Megan was the one being unprofessional, trying to force a nickname on OP she didn't liked, and she was the one who got herself into trouble, first by shouting in a office, and them when Dave told her to stop otherwise there would be consequences, she kept doing it; And it's not even like OP ratted her out after Dave's ultimatum: he just happened to walk in the break room the moment she decided to call OP the nickname anyway. Also the whole "if you left Megan call you 'Bessie' (or whatever offensive nickname she was really calling OP) she'd let it go, but you made it a challenge" is BS; If OP left her use that nickname, she would KEEP using it. Her insisting on it wasn't because she felt challenged, it's because she couldn't accept her being challenged and not allowed to do what she wants, because she's the niece of one of the owners; She was being disruptive, disrespectful and annoying. Also one thing I noticed: Lisa was the only one of OP's co-workers that told OP to let Megan call her that. All others just told Megan to stop that. I feel Lisa was trying to get in Megan's good graces thinking she could get some brown-nosing with Megan's uncle being one of the owners.
I suspect Lisa has an (unfortunately common) mindset that ‘letting things go’ and ‘not causing a fuss’ are the appropriate behavioural norms in a situation like this. A lot of women are socialised from birth to be peacekeepers (often by sacrificing their own preferences for those of others) and subconsciously expect the same behaviour of other women. It’s very possible that Lisa does feel that OP, at a basic level, was behaving improperly by stubbornly refusing to bend in order to ease the social situation.
Honestly, I know she wouldn't have pushed the issue so much if she wasn't related to one of the owners. She thought she could waltz in, push others around, and not get into trouble. With people like that this is just a show of their power and if she won the name game she would have just moved on to someone else to show her dominance in the company. She though she wouldn't get into trouble because of nepotism but OP shot that down fast! No one should be disrespected with their own name...
@@DeadDancers Yeah… extreme metaphor, but my first thought was, “You should have just let him rape you instead of making it a challenge, then he would have gotten sick of it…”
That's what I was thinking. The bit when Dave went to fire Megan after hearing her keep calling OP 'Bessie', it's not like OP finally had enough and went to tell Dave about it like a kid telling on their sibling to their mommy, he just heard it when he was walking into the room. Also, I agree with the whole challenge thing. Even if OP had left her completely, she would still keep on going with it. This is the case with stories about people's ex-lovers still being clinging about the person and still being unhealthily obsessed with them. Or most commonly, men sexually harassing a woman and the woman rejecting him, saying she's not interested. Or this same situation, but with the gender roles being reversed.
I’ve never seen my partner so heated over one of these. He’s a cook and the cooks pictures one sent him on a 10 min rant on why the guy deserved 10/5 AHs 😂😂
I was pregnant during 2021, so I had to go to EVERY appointment alone, including the sonogram where we find out the gender. My husband was really upset he wasn't allowed to be there with me. I asked them to write it down and put it in an envelope so I could find out with my husband and we could still share that moment. OP missed out on a crucial moment in their pregnancy journey, I feel bad for his wife. Imagine how unsupported she feels
My husband and I have been through 4 pregnancies (3 living), and he would get upset when he had to work during any of my appointments even after 4 pregnancies... so this guy is just narcissistic and selfish.
Tbh by the 2nd story the husband was acting I assumed the wife was just a influencer, but the fact that she was a photographer who specializes in food photography 😂😂
I thought this too! Totally would get it if she was just taking photos to show off on Instagram and letting the food go cold, but if it's a career? Totally different scenario!
What the hell is wrong with these 'husbands?!' Destroying a food photoshoot, not defending your wife from the abusive and hurtful 'jokes' of your friends, choosing a birthday you almost forgot about over being with your wife during a life-changing event?! I'm either the single most out-of-touch husband on the planet or something because I just can't imagine hurting my wife's work, allowing anyone to insult my wife, and certainly NOT being there for her during all her doctors' appointments no matter what those appointments are for. If she wants me there, then there is no question, I'm there. Jerks!!! All of them... Jerks!!! On a different aspect... I cook BBQ and all things related. Over the years I pride myself on coming up with alternatives for my vegetarian/vegan recipes so everyone enjoys the gettogether. I would be furious if someone preempted my serving up of the food. There is a reason NO one is allowed near my BBQ pit or kitchen when I'm cooking a mass meal. If I wanted to take photos of my plates before serving it, I damn well should be able to do that before anyone messes up the plates. Selfish jerk! Oh, and someone insults my wife. All hell would break loose! Spineless jerkwad.
who said anything about abusive and hurtful jokes? I assume you don't mess with your friends then?! It's not clear from the post if the wife is close with the circle of friends but we only have OP's POV and because she was the one who invited them we can lean towards they all go along. I honestly don't get how this is abuse. You must be one of the people that assume that humour is always flowers and rainbows because it makes us laugh, when in reality most of the great humour comes from darker and more personal places, like the wife's obsession with makeup. That's what makes a good joke. I understand if they were complete strangers, but the post itself suggests otherwise.
@@anna8328 - My married friends, single friends, the kids, and their spouses pretty much feel the same as me. Probably because if they didn't, we wouldn't have ever become friends and the kids know better than to be jerks to their spouses or they'd have to endure "A Lecture" from me and they dread those with a passion.
@@somedude6733 - Oh, trust me... I know the difference between jokes intended to engender laughter and those intended for pain. Here's an example of a funny joke to me. I'm a longtime wheelchair-bound guy that am the nemesis of all arches. I make jokes about my chair and situation all the time. However, when I was shopping for a vehicle, I told the sales guy what I was needing to load and unload my chair and the price range. He thought it was funny to pull up in a Ford Festiva and suggested that I load my chair in the back and I could just crawl from the drivers' door to the back of the car to get my chair. While I make jokes, this guy made a mean-spirited joke and that was the intent. In reference to the story specifically. Yes, I do joke around a lot with a lot of people, but I am very careful with their relationship partners as I do not share the same level of relationship with them as I do with my friends. Not realizing there is a difference is massively immature. Now, personally, I do not like makeup in general but would never comment on someone else's tastes unless I knew them very well, which is not the case in this story.
@@somedude6733 1) She's a MAKEUP ARTIST, it's her literal job. 2) From the post it was clear she invited them because it was his birthday but that they didn't get along. 3) A joke is only a joke if the target also laugh, otherwise it's bullying/verbal abuse.
In the last story, OP even mentions how his wife specifically said that the appointment has to happen in a certain window of time and then OP just ignored that fact for his own narrative. OP is, ideally, an adult who can tell his friend that he’s sorry he has to miss the party, it shouldn’t have been difficult
And couldn't they just go to the party later? These appointments don't even take the whole day, I'm sure he could've still enjoyed his oh-so-important party. This sounds like just the tip of a huge, toxic iceberg.
@@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954 Yeah, that kind happen to me althought wasn,t a gender reveal but it still was an important appoitment, I didn,t remember the appoiment so I was going to hang around with now a former friend, I stiil hang around with him (we were friends back there) but first I went to the appoiment.
Really an adult who forgets, then remembers, a friends birthday party, couldn’t have been that important if he forgot in the first place, plus his friend will likely have another birthday next year! OMG what happens if another of his friends has a birthday party the same day as his wife is giving birth, honestly this man needs to get his priorities straight before this baby is born!!!
5th story: OP lied right from the get go. He said the gender reveal "was very important" to him, yet he decided that his friend's birthday was even ,ore important. OP is the B*tthole. I had a boss that gave me a ribbing missing work to be at the birth of my son. Oh well. Family before work/job. Wife needed my support more than work needed me. The pay proved that.
@Dreamz Every appointment in pregnancy is incredibly important and have to be taken through every trimester. They need to check to see if its brain, organs, heart are properly developing and so that they can see birth defects or any complications during the pregnancy. Also, if they were to reschedule they would have to wait for MONTHS before an opening would be available because there are hundreds of other people getting those same appointments and checkups done; so if they had rescheduled, they would have had to HOPE that nothing was wrong and that there were no complications with the fetus. OP chose to go to a party instead, Wife did nothing wrong
"Bessie" is a very common name for cows, especially in books and cartoons. I think that's the reason Meagan wanted to use it so badly: So she can bully and insult OP, without anyone being able to prove it.
Story 2: that guy is either somehow married at 6 years old or it's a troll post. There's no way a grown man would excuse ruining his wife's job because he "couldn't wait to eat". Dude you're not gonna starve you're a grown ass man wtf
My ten year old cousin will go make himself a meal if his mom can't give him lunch right away. And he keeps his little sister away from mom's work if it's left out. Story 2 guy is less capable that a ten year old.
broooo the make-up story-what the fuck does that “joke” even mean? she looks like she came from a cancer ward? is her foundation too pale, is that what he meant? can he come up with a better joke that doesn’t insult people who have a debilitating disease or someone just having fun with their look??? damn.
Thats why its a joke. Who are you to be the humour police in regard to whats offensive? Guess you're one of the "tOo sOoN" kind of people after a tragedy. Cause me saying a joke about cancer pacients in my circle of friends will magically cure them.
@@somedude6733 If you wanted to make an actual joke insult, here, I'll show you. I'll even explain the jokes after, since you apparently don't understand what jokes are. "I dunno, she could lool great, is she still there under all that makeup?" (Feigning ignorance) "She looks like a treat. Specifically a cake." (Makeup is caked on. Its a play on words, wit, basic intelligence.) Now, once more..."you look like you belong on a cancer ward with all that makeup". The joke being...that she looks like she has cancer because cancer patients wear a lot of makeup on the ward? No, that doesn't scan. Hell, if you want to make that tasteless joke, at least link it to someone being bald. THAT would be an offensive joke, one with a basic train of logic to it. Being meaninglessly offensive is not why it is a joke. It is why it is either a bad joke, or not a joke. I can only assume that the idea that "haha aids" is a joke and punchline in one is because you and your friends are 13 and haven't quite captured how language works yet. What it is, is a tasteless insult. Insults can be jokingly said between friends, this is normal, good fun. But they're still insults, not jokes, by definition. There's a reason you say them amongst friends...because you know its OK. That they'll take it. That doesn't give you a blanket assumption that it will be OK everywhere. If you make that assumption, you have the responsibility of dealing with the consequences. And if someone takes offence and knocks your teeth out, you don't get to be offended.
The last one is even more stupid than it sounds. A pregnant woman needs to do certain kinds of ultrassounds in each trimester, to look for diferent birth defects and possible complications during child labor If they delay it a few weeks (what would realistically happen if it was rescheduled), they would miss that window, because then the baby gets too big for the doctor to get a good look at certain things, and REALLY important shit could go unseen for some birthday party. It's not just that he really should be there for his wife, delaying an ultrasound a few weeks just isn't a reasonable option
He never said to delay it a few weeks though, it could well have been a few days. I do agree that OP is 100% wrong if there was no possibility of rescheduling it, but I dont think the option should have been dismissed so quickly. People inevitably miss appointments for various reasons, so I think they could have at least tried to see if it was possible. If the story is accurate it kinda just seems like the wife cut communication without actually addressing a possible solution.
@@seb3209 appointments like this are really hard to re-schedule, it's not like they could just go on the next day. Doctors have appointments like this booked in advance because it's not something quick and easy to get done. Ops wife and the baby's health is far more important than a birthday party, so his wife was absolutely in the right to shut it down immediately and go to her appointment as scheduled
@@KuroAlis It probably depends on how important the party was to OP but you cannot say it was impossible or very hard because you objectively do not know. My problem is she didn't even consider it. Sure, if nothing came of it then OP would be the asshole for the way he reacted. Even if it was too much of a hassle, and his wife knew that it was going to be impossible, then she should have made that clear to OP instead of just not talking to him about it.
@@seb3209 as other commenters have mentioned (also mentioned in the story) these test have to be done at specific times, putting it off could mean not being able to get certain tests done well or at all. Appointments like this can take multiple hours and doctors often book up entire weeks in advance, so unless somebody else re-scheduled as well, it's entirely possible she would have to wait more than a week. More importantly as the mother she has every right to just go through with her appointments as she sees fit and feels comfortable with. She's the one growing a human, if he doesn't want to come for some birthday party, that's a him problem. Pregnancy is stressful in general, trying to dance around ops 'fun time' that he remembered last second would be frankly stupid.
In my high school cooking class, whenever someone wanted to take a few pictures of the food everyone in the group would wait for us. And most of our ages ranged from 16-17. It's pretty sad that a grown adult can't even wait ten minutes for his wife to take a picture of the food she cooked, yet a group of 4-5 teenagers who haven't even eaten lunch yet can.
You don't get to pick what people are called, even if you think there is a version of their name that you like better. You call them the name they tell you they prefer. Sure, it's fine if a nickname comes up naturally. But if they tell you they don't like it, you don't use it. Simple.
I always make it clear to people that one of my nicknames is only reserved for family/very close friends and that calling me by it is not appropriate. I feel for OP.
Also, what is that coworker's logic? "She would have stopped if you hadn't challenged her!" No, she wouldn't? She would have taken it as an okay to keep doing it regardless!
I had a teacher who used to call me trouble (I was a shitty kid) while was in middle school and she still did even after all the drama, so every time she called me trouble, (she was ms. Nikki) I always responded with Nicole, didn't even get in trouble
Exactly. I sometimes like to use nicknames for coworkers and friends, but I ask them if it's ok first. Like I have a coworker named Daniel so I asked him if he prefers Daniel, Dan, or Danny, and he told me Danny, so I call him Danny. Meanwhile, this girl would probably start calling him Dan.
It's one thing if you happen to come up with a nickname that they hadn't thought of before and they end up liking it. You're more than free to pitch a suggestion and see if they like it, but if they tell you "no, I don't like that, please call me 'nickname'", then back off and respect their wishes.
3rd Story: OP is 100% NAH here...She was clear with Megan that she did not want to be called "Bessie" and even told her what she wanted to be addressed as. It begins and ends there! You can't just change a person's name/nickname just because you don't like it. I've had to deal with this kind of thing too, my name is Remy...but at a job I had a guy would call me "Rem" which I hate...after telling him 3 times to not call me that, and use my actual name, I stopped responding...2 days later he got the message! Too bad Megan was too much of an AH to realize that she was in the wrong here. Lisa gets 1/5 AH for trying to put this on OP that Megan got in trouble Megan gets 2.5/5 for the constant harassment with a name OP hates!
Really? I mean, it's just two six years old arguing about nothing. The "nicknamed" woman literally put the responsibility to "name" her into her hands and expect her enemy to do something about it instead of actually sending enmity back at her. Why not just simply name her something back? She just had to name her back Robert or Rex, or something, and not give that madwoman a reason to continue her bullying.
I have a friend I've known since my early teens, so around 20 years There was a spell when they would call me by a nickname. I don't like nicknames attached to, my name isn't very long to begin with and most nicknames tend to be rather... unflattering. Eventually I managed to make my friend stop using the nickname. But we were friends already and basically kids. Not grown ass adults who were just introduced.
@@FlorestanTrement Any trans person will tell you that you can't do that. I'm nb and use my given name, but I have friends who deal with dead naming, and it hurts. Even as revenge, false identifying isn't okay. It's just a knee-jerk reaction.
10:16 - She got HERSELF in trouble. She was repeatedly yelling the same unwanted nickname. That's what a school bully does. And speaking of acting like a child, the second story. Holy shit. Yes, it WAS sabotage. He outright admitted to taking a piece of EVERY dish that was prepared, specifically after she left to get her camera, specifically to 'get back' at her asking him to wait for a whole TEN MINUTES.
The nickname story gets me. I have a relatively uncommon name but it happens to be very similar to multiple other, more common names. So since I was very little I would be called by these more common variations or a weird mispronunciation of my name when it's honestly very simple. As a kid I would get EXTREMELY angry being called the wrong name. As I got older I chilled out about it, but now I'm back to being angry when people I've been working with for months STILL get my name wrong. After correcting them repeatedly. My name may be uncommon but it's not hard to pronounce, it's only six letters long, and it's pretty straight forward as a name goes. People can't even spell it right 80% of the time! It's gotten to the point if someone can say it or spell it right first try it makes me unreasonably happy! That's how bad it is. I've even considered legally changing my name but that's just too much of a pain. So yeah, in conclusion our names are tied very closely to our sense of self, so people getting them wrong, especially on purpose, just shows how little you respect someone. I'd say it's even worse than forgetting someone's name entirely, but that's me.
*Regarding the last story:* So OP says his wife is selfish for going to their *preplanned doctors appointment* without him yet he doesn’t find himself selfish for putting his friends party over his literal soon to be child? The 20wk scan is VERY important, it’s not just about gender but it’s also about if the baby is forming correctly, it’s a full anatomy scan! Also he said she “went behind his back”, but she didn’t, he literally says in the post that she said she was going no matter what, she told him beforehand so how did she go behind his back? OP seems like a manchild.
That last story pissed me off and also broke my heart. My partner has gone to every dr appointment with me this whole pregnancy and I couldn’t imagine him telling me to reschedule our ultrasound because of a birthday party. That poor woman must be wondering who the hell she married
Honestly, the last story made me wonder if its too late for that wife to get an abortion. This is a big red flag of the times to come. I'm just saying to the OP, do you really want to give birth to this man's child? Think about it. Its 18 years of his personal whims being prioritized over the kid.
Not to mention, how long is one of those appointments? An hour or so? How long does a party last? Usually longer than that, and unless they’re happening at exactly the same time, you could probably come in for the tail end of the party. And even if you couldn’t, just face time the friend! If he’s an adult and good friend, he’ll understand that you can’t make it! Hell, use the call to tell the friend what the gender is! Good lord.
Doctor's appointments especially related to pregnancy are like THE PREMIER get out of jail free card for social events. Everyone understands immediately when they hear the words "doctor" and "pregnancy" Maybe the only events that would be tied are if you were a pallbearer or going to a close friend or loved one's funeral or you were the best man at a wedding.
Welcome to being a parent where sometimes you're going to have to miss parties. That your children are always going to have to become first before you and before your socializing.
I feel this so hard, my partner has come to all my appointments, even the simple check in one where they mostly just ask how im doing and if i have any concerns. It would break my heart if he suddenly told me to reschedule just because of a friends birthday. I cant even imagine how deep thats got to cut, i feel so bad for this woman
The funniest thing about the last story is that the guy says "I said I had no choice" , he chose to go to the party but he could've chosen to skip the party and go to the appointment, two distinct posible things he could had done 🤣
"had no choice"??? Nope Appointments like that are notoriously hard to get, he could have gone to the party afterwards, and let his friends know the gender into the bargain.
Story 3: Trying to force a nickname onto someone that they don't want is one of the trashiest things to do to someone. Don't be surprised when they don't respond to the nickname you want to give them.
It wasn't just trashy, the way it went down it was an obvious power play. The coworker basically said: "What you want is not as important as what I want."
Megan: I'm related to the owner, so I get what I want, no matter what. Owner: I need you to stop calling her that. Megan: No. Owner: Megan: I wonder if the owner had to yell at her parents as well.
She was shouting it loudly across the room in a *sing song voice?!* Where does she think she is, fucking middle school?! That’s middle school bully tactics! The owner should have fired her for not being mature enough to handle herself in a professional environment!
You’re such a great guy!!🥰It’s so refreshing to hear a real gentleman talk about his wife like you do! Thanks for that!💜 Some of us ladies are luckier than others!❤️
story 4: sometimes mutual insults are baked into a group's social dynamic and are not meant with malice, with that said that particular one was incredibly tasteless
@@reevarwow245 From the way she responded afterwards, saying that she felt his friends had been forced upon her because they were together, I doubt that this is the first time she's expressed being upset about their antics. Plus, if she's not ok with it that should be the end of the discussion. Jokes are meant to be funny, but if the person you're making jokes about isn't laughing along then you're just being mean.
Yeah, even if that was the group dynamic, Austin should have apologized when he saw his comment genuinely hurt her instead of acting like she just couldn’t take a joke.
This wasn’t even an isolated incident too. He started off the post by saying his friends and family usually make these types of jokes. He literally lets his friends and family insult and humiliate her, and when she tries to defend herself this time he disregards her infront of everyone, at a party that SHE organized. That’s another level of entitlement
If the person targeted by the "joke" doesn't find it funny, or even worse finds it offensive/hurtful, it could even be considered as a form of bullying. If you feel bad after a joke at your expense then call the person who made it out on it. If someone is truly your friend they will understand and be more mindful.
Exactly. It's not a joke unless everyone laughs. It's not a prank unless the victim is smiling too. If the only person laughing is you, you're a jerk. If the victim is the only one not laughing, you're bullying. Pretty good rule of thumb
I've heard this called "shchrodinger's douchebag" online. Where the jerk in question makes an offensive remark, then based on the audience's reaction will decide if it was a joke or not
@@gokuxsephiroth4505 a joke is only if "everyone" laughs? No it's not. If I have a different taste of humor than Person Nr. 3 and he don't laugh but everyone else I'm a jerk? If the person who's in the core of the joke not laugh or find it amusing than I'm the jerk.
I once had a coworker decide it would be funny to start calling me by a completely different name that had one syllable in common with my real name. I told her that it's not my name, bet despite all of my other coworkers also correcting her, she insisted on calling me the wrong name. It got to the point that I would ignore her when she used the wrong name. Then she would say my correct name in a mocking tone. But once we were done interacting, she would say "Thanks, !" One day, we were in a meeting with a high-up manager and about 20 other coworkers. She called me the wrong name in front of the manager. The manager looked right at her and asked "You've been working with him for over a year, and you don't know his name?" in a tone that implied "why is this idiot working for me?" There were a few titters of laughter, and she turned beet red. She always called me by my correct name after that.
Last story: OP: "Finding out the gender of my firstborn with my wife is very important to me." Also OP: "BuT I wAnT bIrThDaY cAke!!!1" Dude, birthdays happen every year, it's not a big deal. Really agree with rSlash here; was it really that important if he forgot about it?
Also what adults birthday party is the same length and time of day as a doctors appointment? They could have easily gone after surely? Likeappoinment at 5 meet friend at 7?
*Story 1:* Oh so finances are seperate until hubby's precious babies loses their stuff? That's not how it works, he wanted his kids to have the business, and his kids only. But now that his business is gone, OP has to share? NTA *Story 2:* Dude, patience is a virtue. No one stopped you from getting up and having a snack if you're 'soooo starving'. Who the hell loses appetite from having to wait a bit?! Also wut? "I ruined your pictures take that!" Wow he sucks, YTA. To add insult to injury, this wasn't her delaying the typical dinner for photos, it was a PROJECT specifically made for pictures, that just happened to be eaten afterwards, honestly his wife should just cook the meals, take her pictures, take some for herself and drive the rest to the nearest shelter *Story 3:* Hmmm I must've missed the part where OP specifically said 'Please asign any nickname you think I should have to me', oh wait they didn't? Yeah, NTA. Like...I can see my friends asigning a nickname to me and calling me that, sure fine whatever. This lady ain't OPs friend, relative or anything, she's just a coworker. Also, wow. The audacity. "You're so awful because my harassment of you got so loud I interupted someone's work and got in trouble! Waaaaaah" *Story 4:* "So my friends and family sometimes makes fun of my wife", yeah Imma have to stop you right there. YTA. I swear I hear 'just brutally honest' ONE MORE TIME- *Story 5:* Sometimes you need to pick what's more important, working overtime one day so you MIGHT get a promotion, or taking your daughter to a concert she's waited an entire year to go to. Or in this case, friends birthday party or the gender reveal of his kid....One of those two only happen once. He doesn't get to pick his buddy and then throw a fit when the rest of the world isn't put on hold for him. This is not Harry Potter and there are no time turners, he made a choice, he doesn't get to whine about it having consequences. YTA. He was selfish and neglectful, she didn't make him look like anything he was not
@UCtBzlAaFuGvuYx8677iRXPg Yeah it won't last bc of the hubby. He literally chose a party, that he forgot about, over going to the appointment. Prenatal appointments are so scheduled and strict that she most likely couldn't just cancel the day of and reschedule it anytime soon afterward. Now without a big fee attached. Besides, he knew about the appointment for awhile beforehand, so it's not like she went behind his back. And after he insisted he had to go to this party rather than **learn the gender of his own child** she went with her mom. I don't see the reason why she's the bitch of the situation.
The last story, there's an even more depressing image of this story. Before the child is even born, OP prioritizes a birthday over a life-impacting moment with his family. Who knows what he'll prioritize after the child is born? She'll more than likely be neglected by him, given that he is such a stubborn AH.
10:33 Wtf is the coworker on? OP was not making any deal out of the nickname lol. Megan was the one who resulted to SCREAMING ACROSS A ROOM and ANNOYING OP INTO SUBMITTING to the nickname. Like wtf? Literally who cares. It’s OP’s name, they choose what they go by
Story 4: The "insulting" friend relationship is between OP and OP's friends, they can shit on OP all they want, as soon as they start ATTACKING OP's wife they are in the wrong, and OP too for defending them.
@@aarongoodrich6903 She asked her husband how her makeup looked. That's not something strange at all, especially when makeup is literally her JOB. It's not like she was asking his friends what they thought.
@@aarongoodrich6903 How is asking your own husband to check and make sure you didn't overlook a makeup or wardrobe malfunction, deserving of getting herself and cancer patients insulted????
If he can wait hours for her to cook he can wait 10 minutes for her to do her job that’s bringing them income. He should just treat it like part of the cooking process and stay away.
It's not her job though - the way OP describes it, it sounds like just a hobby. Rslash assumed it was a business, but there's no indication of that in the actual post.
@@GoldenSunAlex even then 10 minutes is part of the process of something she’s doing for herself that he gets to reap the benefits off. I agree with rslash that it’s probably a troll or the wronged party writing from the other perspective to prove a point because things like the way he described eating from every dish instead on just one sound to self aware for someone who thinks they’re in the right
@@GoldenSunAlex He could have omitted the part of it being her job to try a pathetic attempt to make himself look better because he knows he was in the wrong and wants his audience to validate him
@@morgandouglas6014 That's speculation though. All we know is she has a website where she posts pictures of the meals she cooks. That's it. Even if we ignore the fact that it's a) pretty common for people to do that and b) those don't make good businesses, rslash just assumed it was a business. Assuming he omitted something like that it making a supposition ontop of a supposition, and when you do that, you only end up with crazy.
@@GoldenSunAlex doesn't matter. If someone says wait you wait. He didn't cook it so he doesn't get to ruin it. All she asked for was just a few minutes to take some pictures and he couldn't even respect her and her efforts enough to do that. Also if her blog or insta is doing really good she could be making money from it.
“Bessie” isn’t the actual nickname-OP changed it to maintain anonymity. However, one can presume that it reflects OP’s feelings about the actual nickname.
There is SO much wrong with the makeup story. First of all, partners should *always* support each other. Period. Secondly, what the heck did that joke even mean!? "You look like a cancer patient with all that makeup"? What does that mean? And lastly, that's insulting not only her, but people with cancer. Absolutely an unacceptable "joke". This *isn't* being "brutally honest," this is being "intentionally hurtful and a troll."
I agree with everything you're saying except "partners should always support each other". If your partner is being rude to someone and asking you to back them up then you should do the opposite of supporting them, you should be telling them to think about how they would feel it they were talked to in the same way.
Exactly lol I’m a two time cancer survivor, we are going through chemo which kills all cells in the body and we get really sick, so yeah, we tend to not look like a supermodel during all this 🤦🏻♀️what does that even mean? 🙄😂
The Gender Reveal Story - so OP decided to attend a birthday party (that he FORGOT) instead of going with his wife to an ultrasound appointment. Wow. WOW.
Why do we have to bend the knee to assholes so much anyway?? Story 3 infuriates me because we’re all taught from childhood that being polite and respectful is a fundamental lesson of life. Yet why do we, the civilized human beings of the world, have to constantly bend the knee to these stunted amoral rude and narcissistic loons? It’s not fair, and I’m tired of this “rules for thee and not for me” crap. OP is DEFINITELY innocent without any question, that co worker and the girl that called her Bessie are just idiots. The former is a coward wanting to “keep the peace” and the latter is a mean spirited and smug bully who can’t accept she was wrong.
I think the 2nd owner's daughter has that mentality of "my father is the owner of this company so I can't get in any trouble and can get away with anything"
False idea that bullies do it to get a rise out of you, so ignoring them means they'll stop bullying you. They don't. They'll just hit harder and harder because there are no consequences for their bad behavior. It's also easier for bystanders to tell victims to put up with it than it is for them to discipline the perpetrator. They like it because they don't have to do anything, and bullies like it because they don't face consequences
Story 2 was so frustrating! OP: "She thinks I did it on purpose to sabotage her photos, but that's nonsense!" Also OP, just moments before: "I made sure to take heaping scoops from every dish, ruining the way they looked" Sure, OP, total nonsense.
Yeah I feel sorry for the wife in the second story. She wanted to be a business woman and wife with a husband not a mama to a big spoiled whiny manbaby.
Last story, 15-20 week ultrasound/anatomy scan appointments are scheduled WEEKS in advance. There is no “we’ll get you tomorrow, baby!” Because most ultrasound techs are part time or used by multiple offices/hospital they are limited of which days they can do them unless it’s an emergency (most of those are done in L&D or ED) so yeah op huge AH!! You literally gave up time with your family for a birthday party you yourself forgot about. Your wife is by no means in the wrong for feeling hurt or still going. She respected the doctor’s office’s time and did the right thing by not canceling on them. Get your crap together and be more responsible with your engagements!! You’re about to be a parent where you will HAVE to juggle so much more than if you’re can go to a friends birthday party or not. My goodness. Grow tf up!
for the make up story, i feel so bad for his wife.. it's not just make up or her face.. it's her job!! so for all the time she got to hear that not only she's ugly but also bad at her job.. her self esteem must be very low after all that(mine would be for sure) You could say that this is a form of abuse totally TA
Honestly if your self esteem gets damaged like you said in your reply after a friend of yours jokes once... You should consider theraphy cause thats not normal. What kind of friendship is that where you dont joke about your friends or roast each others from time to time or even daily... who cares, you're friends for a reason And I love you saying that this is a form of abuse. It shows and I honestly hope you never go through actual mental abuse. Saying that this is abuse is the same as saying that getting a gusp of wind in your face is the same as being rammed by a truck.
@@somedude6733 whoa😂😂 chill down.. i understood it like thats going on for years and that it's not some joke that friends make but that "his" friends made about her not with her.. i don't think someone gets that offended about one joke.. and like i wrote i would say it goes in the direction of abuse because it's not okay to bring someone down all the time in an relationship or to do nothing about it if others do it
If you had accepted her calling you something you don't like, then she would have given up on it? No! What kind of logic is that? She would have just kept calling you the name you don't like. I do not understand why people think that it is OK to call people things that they don't like to be called. It's your name, you get to choose what it is not other people. And for her to blame you for getting into trouble is just narcissistic behavior. And for your coworkers to side with her over you is just plain disrespectful.
"I fought her, so it became challange" - this is description of how CHILD would behave. Why ppl in workplace are defending other coworkers by treating her like a child?
As a trans guy, the name thing is very relatable to me. That coworker is a b*tch. Your name is *part of your identity.* Someone not respecting that is a major AH.
Yeah thats where my mind went, its that same kind of disrespect on a basic and human level that someone doesn't even have the decency to allow another person to self-identify.
@@Nekulturny my sister is trans and I would be SO pissed if someone did this to her. Why do people think it's necessary to tell others who they should or should not be? My dad sometimes still uses her dead name and I make a point to very annoyingly and slowly correct him everytime, especially when he does it in front of other people.
@@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954 I love this!! After 2 years of being out and my grand mother still not respecting my name, I also decided to use humiliation. Her narcissism did not like that and she stopped really quickly. Some people's dedication to assholery is astonishing to me, especially when being decent is SO EASY.
@@soulgazer11 right? Being nice is just so much easier. My sister got kind of lucky with my family though. Both my grandmas told her they'd love her anyway and one of them said "she was always beautiful, but she's going to look gorgeous now. Like a model". I was so relieved they didn't freak out or something because of their age... But yeah, my dad is also a narcissist lol so I guess that's why it works so well!
I helped my son change his name as a gift for his 16th birthday. My brother would still insist on calling him my daughter or saying to my daughter, where is your sister? I asked him nicely not to do that. He said I have to use the name because you changed it legally, but I will not refer to 'her' as a 'him' until she has a D in her pants. Some people are just small-minded and hateful. We don't spend time with my brother any longer. I won't have people in my life who don't respect my kids.
I helped my son change his name as a gift for his 16th birthday. My brother would still insist on calling him my daughter or saying to my daughter, where is your sister? I asked him nicely not to do that. He said I have to use the name because you changed it legally, but I will not refer to 'her' as a 'him' until she has a D in her pants. Some people are just small-minded and hateful. We don't spend time with my brother any longer. I won't have people in my life who don't respect my kids.
Story 2 : bruh if it was just liek for clout iw ould understand but HER JOB!? cmon dude she takes HOURS to make the food but you cant even wait 10 MINS
*Third OP:* Why is OP the AH for getting Megan in trouble for _Megan's_ actions? NTA. Shoutout to Dave for getting Megan together. *Fourth OP:* I think OP's wife should surprise OP with divorce papers as a belated birthday present. He and his friend are AHs. *Fifth OP:* I'm noticing a theme here. The title alone got me thinking, "B*tch WHAT!?" OP is the AH, and I feel sorry for his wife and daughter.
I agree to an extent. We had to move our doctor appointments at an extremely busy doctor and had no trouble at all. While a birthday party does not sound like something I would cancel the doctor for it doesn't say if there is a reason why it was important. And if the wife knew it was important to him she should have moved it. She didn't move it and went strictly out of spite for the guy. Guy = 3/5 AH GIRL= 1/5 AH
@@aidahuman I would normally agree and it is definitely still a pain in butt, but after having a few kids we've had to change ours around for work a few times and if something important was happening we moved it to make sure we were both able to be there. I think if she wanted him to be there then she could have moved it.
Story 2: If i had a wife that made amazing meals like that, That i didn't even have to cook, And the only price to pay was to wait for her to be done taking pictures of it? I'd wait for as long as i needed to, Because i don't act like an impatient 10 year old. (Also not to mention that what she does LITERALLY pays the bills)
Megan is 25?? She acts 15 but that's what nepotism leads to 🙄 "This a appointment is so important to me! But not as important as a pary! Yolo!" Omg lol
10:49 Yes, thank you for this. I never knew how to get my point across but you summed it up so well. I've always had issues with my name. Name calling and stuff but the worst one is when people flip my name. I live in a multiracial country and I'm Chinese. Usually people who are Chinese would have an English name and Chinese name. My parents decided they wanted my English name to be in the Chinese name format('Surname' 'First name') instead of the English name format('First name' 'Surname') So all my life, I've always had people calling me 'First name' 'Surname' and this always pissed me off. I go to the doctors and they would call me 'First name' 'Surname', even though my official name is 'Surname' 'First name' and my documents WITH my official name on it, is IN THEIR HANDS. I've had teachers who think they suddenly have the authority to change my name to what they want it to be or what they think it should be. It feels so hurtful but no one ever thinks it's an issue. They just assume it's a "me" thing and call me over-sensitive. Someone even said my name is just wrong. I don't care if it's "wrong". It's the name that's written on my birth certificate. You don't get to decide what it "should" be. I've tried explaining in my own words why their actions are very hurtful and disrespectful, but my point never gets across to them and I've always questioned myself like "Am I overreacting? Am I just too sensitive?" and feel bad for even pointing their behaviour out in the first place. It feels so much better to know I'm not the only one who think this behaviour is rude. Thanks rSlash :)
Story 2: 10 minutes. *10 freaking minutes.* Patience you must have, OP. 10 minutes you can wait. Seriously, it's not like OP had to wait 1 hour or something. I can wait *20* minutes, or *30*
@@Twinklethefox9022 "I was hungry and unwilling to wait around *10+* to eat" Might have not been 10 minutes that time, but him writing "10+" implies that the wife spends at a minimum of 10 minutes taking pictures, which means that if he can't wait that much, his impatience is unbelievable.
LOOOOOL Jack: If you don’t leave my kids your money, i’ll leave Me: and go where…? you don’t have any money to support yourself… NTA OP, your husband got what he wanted, he’s just mad that it doesn’t benefit his family.
Story 3: I love how this coworker is blaming OP, when this “adult’s” was rightfully called out by the owner for screaming and disrespecting OP, even though one of the owners are her family.
Wrong owner. the other owner, Jeff, is Megan’s uncle. I still agree with the point though. Edit: apparently I can’t read. Megan is his niece, not his daughter. Dave still isn’t related though.
Story 5 could've been reworded: "I chose a shitty birthday party that I had forgotten about over an appointment concerning my unborn child... am I the butthole?" God, what a clueless manchild. My dad cancelled an appointment for a surgery when it became clear they'd have to do a c-section to get me out. He had kidney stones, but chose to be there for the c-section and after instead of having surgery himself!!
The story about the wrong Nickname, I know how you feel. And I feel that the boss should get a negative score for not only being there at the right time, but for standing up for the OP too. Dave sounds like a great boss.
I think that making a joke about someone's appearance isn't necessarily being a jerk. My friends do that. It's fine. But if you make a joke that insults someone just apologise. It's not a big deal. Say you're sorry and make it up to them. Nbd
I totally agree with this. I am a roaster. Its kind of how my friends and I show our love for one another. If we are mean to someone we like them. I ripped a pair of jeans and bought a Walmart pair for a quick fix as I didn't have time to run home. My beastie at the time laughed her butt off because I'm tall and the ONLY pair in my size was a short length. They looked like "high waters" and she suggested rolling them up like capris. We had a good laugh and I actually wore them several times as capris! I still have them but they're getting old so I use them in the garden or working around the house. She roasted me good tho! LOL if I liked them and told her to please not make fun she would have stfu right there and laughed when I wasn't around instead lol
@@Buck_Fiden658 Sadly, these guys are not her friends and don't care if they hurt her feelings over a "joke"... The BF really should have stood up for her even if that is how his friends joke around. Not all "jokes" hit and that is when you should apologize and move on not tell her that she is in the wrong for getting hurt feelings...
@@SailorMya We dont have enough information in the post to assume if they are friends or not. But taking OP's POV into account and because she was the one who invited them we can lean towards they go along but again... We can't really tell
@@Buck_Fiden658 I had a disabled friend from the old Usenet newsgroup days. The regulars migrated it to Facebook. We always traded barbs, because we are both disabled. Th first time I relied to him of Facebook, a bunch of people PMed him, asking if they should get me banned for him. He told me that he told them that I was his best online friend, and the fake insults helped both of us cope with our problems. Sadly, he died of a heart attack a couple years ago. There aren't may people that laugh when you tell them that reality has taken out a restraining order against them.
The nickname story has the added level with Bessie being, at least where I’m from, associated with cows. Like the nickname in and of itself could be interpreted as an insult
Last Storry: No the most important part is that the doctors can do your checkups and see if the baby is healthy. The fact that you also can determine be gender is just a sideeffekt. That's why you CAN'T cancell it.
I love making fun of ppl that make photos of food in restaurants, I think it's super annoying. But making photos of food you make is something completly different and I didn't even hear that it's her job. Man, just beeing proud of what you made and snapping a pic of it is completly ok and should be waited for
I think rSlash just assumed it was her job based on the idea that she posts it on a website and Instagram. I still think we’re missing information about the wife’s thing because OP is too self-obsessed to supply that info. Maybe he’s so self obsessed he doesn’t even know himself.
The stories about the husbands in this video (apart from Rslash himself) really got me SEETHING. How can you claim you love your wife, if you cant even defend your wife after someone called her ugly? And instead of comforting her and assuring her it wasnt true, you SIDED with your friend that INSULTED your wife? Unbelievable🙄 And an adult who "CANNOT" bother waiting to eat when someone SPECIFICALLY said to wait, since it was for her job and you can still enjoy it later? N not even feel remorseful for ruining someone's work that was worth hours upon hours that she wont even get back?? That guy sounds like a literal child 🙄 Lastly that guy was legit neglectful and was just annoying to me, how can he be a good father if he can even go to a dr's appointment for the sake of his wife n kid? I know friendship is very import to guys but this is your LITERAL child??? 🙄 Just more reasons for me to not get married i guess🥲
you speak the truth, especially the seething part, those people made me disgusted, because they deigned to think THEY were in the right, 4.5 out of 5 buttholes for sure
Story 3: Compare using the wrong nickname to misgendering someone or deadnaming someone who is trans. It is the same principle. Megan didn't respect OP enough to use the right name that they preferred. Fundamentally, using someone's name wrong after countless times being corrected IS a direct attack on someone's identity. Full stop.
That's EXACTLY what I was thinking! I was hoping to see someone else picking up on that! Someone tells you what they want to be called, that's what you call them, end of story.
@@kanebernier7692 Right. Wrong nickname is less of an impact, but it is the same principle as I mentioned. I've been, and am still, deadnamed somewhat often. It sucks all the time. It's a good test as to who I should avoid though!
@@DarkusZarvix yeah. I never get deadnamed luckily. Probably because I live in Sweden and it's not as common to be ignorant here (except some parts, like the country sides) and also because I have cut every person who doesn't see me as a man and realize that I have always been one, out of my life. Tbh, no one really didn't understand that. My family didn't have to cut anyone out. And I haven't been deadnamed for years. I might have been less than 10 times in the beginning, when I had just come out. But not by my family
I will be honest. Alot of these stories are waaaayyyyyyy above Reddit's pay grade. Some things just need more help than a bunch of internet stranger's opinions.
@@jonathanhowells7864 my sister is brutally honest, which is why i like going clothing shopping with her. My horrible half-brother does the insults and says he's being honest. No Jeff. U r being a jerk
