That dude did something right with his step daughter. He set a good example of what a girl should have for expectations of how other people treat her. Good on you.
She blasted hime and gave him and ultimatum in a family dinner where she had backup for and issue he tried to solve in private, yea he was wrong but imagine bringing an insecurity to your partner and she/he decides to give you and ultimatum and then kicking you out of they house .-. You don't treat guests like that and you don't give ultimatums to solve people's insecurities, that never works, that's toxic behavior
@@toonyrhythm3173 talked in private, express her opinion in a respectful way and not give ultimatums, she could have talk with him in other setting and see if there is any merit to what he says, if she finds that there is not, then she dumb her ass, but that was an ambush and a disrespectful one. And yea I get she's 14 but that doesn't make it less toxic, it only excuses her for not knowing better, but in reality the stepfather should talk with the mother about how her daughter doesn't know hosting decor and how this kind of things are not okay even if you are right, because you don't ambush the people you love/like to get them do what you want, that's fucked up
@@rene280195 dude, she did talk to him in private about the issue before bring it out in public. weren't you paying attention to the story? 4:26 is where she explains that she did talk to her boyfriend about this before. also she's 19 not 14.
He may be a giga-chad but he’s also a giga-dad. It’s gonna be hard for any boy she dates to get past the fact that her dad is the Nordic God of blacksmithing. 😂
Not sure why a young guy is going to think ANY middle-aged guy can hold a candle to him. Dad is just rationalizing giving in the BF's manipulation after initially doing the right thing.
My dad’s a big 6”6 Danish guy, I have one too lol I remember shopping with him when I was little, and women would flirt with him even in front of my mom 😂
"There's apparently two people at this table who think my dad is hot, and it's really weird that you're one of them." OP's daughter may not be a blacksmith, but she certainly knows how to handle fire. DAT BURN!
"She was wrong, there's THREE people who think I'm hot. I do, too" {paraphrased} pure gold. Although I'm a lesbian, I can definitely agree this guy is a catch
I strive to be a stepdad like that I have my own daughter too so there's some underlying jealousy between the girls but they get along mostly I just do my best to show them love equally they are also still young 5&8 and adjusting
Extra props to the wife from the first story, because aside from "winning at life", she got there after crashing and burning TWICE, and then rising from the ashes
Honestly, I don't know if I would have done it again. I'm about as old as she was when she met OP. I'm a dude, but one failed relationship is bad enough for me that I don't really want to try again.
@@Nerobyrne It took a few for me. 1st boyfriend, we were 11, and he was already a perv. #2 just didn't work out, but #3 cheated on me with my friend that I'd saved from an abusive situation. #4 was an insecure, homophobic man-child (I'm F and my BFF is a gay M whom #4 insisted just wanted to passionately hug me) who threw a tantrum anytime I wasn't up to passionately hug him, and #5 just looked for every reason they could to say the relationship wouldn't work. I'm done actively dating. If I find a guy, then great, but at this point I've decided to just be content living with my BFF and his partner for the rest of my life. We're practically family at this point anyway
@@Nerobyrne there are very good people out there and I'm right there with you on the trauma. I'm a gay guy who has had a bad track record with abusive exes but I eventually stumbled upon one of my best friends who has been there through a lot and we started dating after I accepted his date request
Last Story: Can i just say how refreshing it is that MIL was actually NOT on her son’s side and had no problem calling him out on his stupidity. Op you dodged a bullet with this guy, maybe keep in contact with MIL though, she sounds great.
Yeah, it's weird that the ex fiance was holding on to that for SIX YEARS! It's also weird that he somehow believed that wedding guests expect a couple in their mid/late 20s to date for six years AND be virgins. 🤣🤣 Um, absolutely NOBODY would assume that!
@@fdm2155 Yeah, super weird. I was expecting some religious nutjob, but his mother put paid to that idea. The idea of the groom wearing red to the wedding is amusing, though. A strong scarlet color, maybe with sequins. And a matching top hat. Red shoes, too.
props to the MIL, but i really don't understand the value in maintaining those relationships. If you had been married, maybe also had a grandkid, then sure.
That was great, lol. Not all MIL's are monsters, thankfully. But I loved the very short update to that last story. Good thing her ex-fiance showed his true colours before the wedding.
i love how this guy is apparently so attractive and wholesome that even r/slash is falling for him based on the description alone. OP should make a romance novel with writing like that.
Honestly the way it's written so well makes it really sus to me. Like he's literally just a writer and made up a story lol. It was a little unusual... But if it's all real, then it's definitely wholesome.
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@@AndyRock1, just because a man happens to look good and take an interest in blacksmithing doesn't necessarily mean that he's incapable of expressing himself in writing. Sure, it's possible that it's all fiction but that's true for any story you encounter online. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
First story, the dad is a greek god and the daughter is amazing. When she explained the story about the book, I instantly understood why they were so close. The boyfriend absolutely deserved to be dumped lol
1st story: If my boyfriend called my healthy supportive father a porno relationship, there'd be no second chances. Disregard the trauma, no empathy, sympathy and trying yet succeeding to control another's relationship is selfish, hell no. If your father has set the standard for what healthy and supportive is, why would you settle for less? It's OK to not give a first boyfriend or date a second chance, if your alarm bells are going off listen to them.
How she handled that was so healthy. She kept his issues private until he made them public. It's okay to feel intimidated, but to try to hurt relationships because of your insecurities is a no go. Indulging that toxic trait is a no go. Hell, it may even make the other person better. Edit: Didn't realize they got back together. Can't comment on that.
@@CajunReaper95 Yes, THEY. She went back into an unhealthy, borderline toxic, relationship, and caved to her bfs demands about how she interacted with her father. I stand by what I said. They both have a lot of growing up to do, in different ways.
Sometimes alarm bells are false alarms. Her bf is a bit insecure and not used to seeing a family dynamic where they actually care for one another beyond just coexisting. He needs to learn to accept them for who they are and learn to discuss concerns with her and accept what she has to say. So he has some growing up to do. She does as well, because a relationship is a two-way street, and making an ultimatum like that so quickly without enough of a reason is immature. He felt he had valid concerns and in a way he did because it was something that seemed unusual to him and no one was to blame for that. She went nuclear instead of trying to work things out by giving him a chance to learn more.
@@Wolfie713 she's not obligated to give him a chance while he's learning and growing up. I think her only mistake was going back to him after she broke up AND giving into his demands. The fact that she changed her dynamic with her dad is going to make her bf think he was right all along.
The first story husband might rate 8/10 for others but he's a 10 in my book. Number one dad. He deserves the high quality number 1 dad mug they custom order at far away companies.
He honestly sounds like he's desperately trying to sound more humble with his 8 out of 10. 😅 He sounds like a character pulled directly out of a corny romance novel.
*Last Story* I love that even his own mother thought he was being ridiculous. I literally laughed out loud when OP said he "burst out crying" when told *he* should wear red. Holy double standards batman!
use google translate sorry. I thought it was a pity for the poor man in the last story. It is said that he is autistic, so his work colleague must have said something to him that he has taken very literally, which is why he reacts so strangely to her wanting to wear a white wedding dress. His mother or someone else should explain things to him instead
Not to mention how did he come up with red? This sounds like some "you should be in the house of SHAME" red tent business. Non "pure" brides for centuries have worn cream, pastels, and other pretty colours. Not "my dress symbolizes the blood I shed for another guy" red. Hope this guy reads some medical texts before his next GF, because this shit is bad enough now. It'll be incel territory next time.
the fact that she could instantly set up boundaries against a boyfriend being stupid, without anybody having to talk to her about that actually was wrong, just shows that the dad succeeded and raising a strong independent woman. they won't have to worry about her getting into a situation like her mother. edit: i made bank off of this comment lol
I don't think the boyfriend was being stupid, he just doesn't like that family dynamic. And it doesn't necessarily have to be because of porn. Some of us just aren't fit for some kinds of people. And that's fine.
Yea but it was not the right way, she blasted her infront of her family, it was not the way, not the moment not the public to give an ultimatum, that's some toxic thing, putting your boyfriend in that position
@Rene Navarro bf put himself in that position by opening his mouth in the first place. You can't try to control family dynamics, it's step one in the abuser play book (not saying he bf is abusive, but it's one of the red flags you're taught to look out for). Especially since he did it off to the side so that the daughter wouldn't know why her dad was pulling away. There were so many red flags, the post may as well have been set in Russia.
@@transsnack mate your parents really didn't teach your Hosting decor did they? You don't treat guests that way and even more and worse you don't start given ultimatums once your partner talks you about insecurities, that makes you an emotional abuser too. Even if you are right, cornering people and giving ultimatums in family dinners is just awful and more if people tried to deal with it in private. She broke several rules in hosting, relationships and being empathic
@@Farhan_049 nah that dude has a completely porn rotted brain and can’t see step parent-step child relationships that are loving and close as anything else expect exactly what he already implied, the whole “he looks like the what are you doing step daughter”. He should lay off the porn for a while and he might actually be able to see healthy and loving relationships as not being sexual or some disgusting shit like that
There's one thing that I want to point out in that last story that just adds to the weirdness for me. The fact that he wanted her to wear RED at the wedding. Traditionally, in marriages where the bride isn't a virgin or that it's her second+ marriage, she'd wear off-white or cream. Not that that even matters anymore these days. But it just adds on to the strangeness of the guy's feelings towards the matter for me. If he was supposedly going the traditional route, RED is NOT the traditional color. He either was ignorant of this, or there's some other agenda going on. (Like maybe he was trying to embarrass her, or make himself look good?) Who knows! OP dodged a toxic one, and I hope she finds happiness.
Even then, it's a made up tradition. People wearing white for weddings copied Queen Victoria, and it was a sign if wealth. Cream type colors were prefered until the 30s. Like a lot of Americana, it took off in the 50s with mass production. Thats when it began to have that association, but likely because white was already being associated with clean at the time and used for purity in the Catholic church.
Saw this particular story on Charlotte Dobre channel the other day. Apparently white wedding dresses only really became a thing when Queen Victoria chose white for her wedding gown. Otherwise brides chose their best dress and wore that. And red is a traditional color for some Asian weddings. So wtf was going on in that guy's mind ?!?
I was thinking about this as well. Isn't red supposed to be for women who have already been married and divorced? Makes it seem even more like he was trying to make her look bad.
@@lynneconklin917 Interesting thing too, is that Queen Victoria chose white not to represent virginity. There are a few theories about why she chose it, but one of the theories is that she wore white because of its representation of innocence. She wanted to marry Prince Albert not as a queen, but as simply his wife. After that, white surged in popularity, and became a symbol of innocence and romance.
The dad in the first story is a straight up treasure. I miss my late Step-father Hamish, he would teach me about cooking, boating, more morbid topics like autopsies (I was a weird kid and he was a former medical examiner, he left after being ME for the Piper Alpha disaster), he loved that other people would be creeped out but not me, I found everything he had to teach fascinating. We also shared a love of 70’s and 80’s rock/metal music, he taught me bits about photography (I’m a professional photographer who does celebrity events in my country now!), he encouraged me exploring photography, we cared for our Degu Scabbers (type of rodent) who only let us handle him as he would nibble everyone else, he’d help on gaming levels I got stuck on, he was a really cool dude. I miss the guy, he died at 56, the PTSD from the Piper Alpha case never left him and it was something he spoke of on occasion, and I would ALWAYS trade that relationship over any insecure wee boy who is threatened by a father-daughter relationship. Like how insecure do you actually have to be?!? VERY proud of OPs daughter, he has raised a fine young woman who isn’t afraid to stand up for herself!
After reading your comment, I miss Hamish too! What a treasure of a (step)dad. Hearing weird Reddit stories so often, I can sometimes forget that there are wonderful families, blended or not, who have each other's backs and earn the trust of adorable animals and can tell you ten fun things to do with formalin.
@@suitov right?? He had these really cool medical books, huge shelf of them, and he’d be trying to creep me out as I’m holding Scabbers like “go on…” Everyone else is horrified, I’m sitting there with my small furry baby like “this is so cool!”
Thanks to you (and Hamish) (and Wikipedia), I now know what a degu is, as well as more stuff about rodent taxonomy and anatomy that I'm much too tired, sick, and not-a-biologist to understand. (｡•̀ᴗ-)✧ …ᘛ⁐̤ᕐᐷ
Aw, that guy sounds great. We love a parent who will nurture their kid's interest in creepy topics that aren't hurting anybody. (I can also relate on a personal level--I remember doing the frog dissection stuff in my study hall and happily showing the innards to the willing but freaked out participants. Fun day!)
@@ArcanineEspeon very lovely pets to have, Hamish would bring Scabbers new pipes to add to his massive play area, Scabbers could go through plastic piping pretty easily even when it was the really strong stuff, he researched it beforehand to make sure the piping was safe for Scabbers (like household piping). They’ve very strong teeth, and love bathing in sand, just cute wee happy animals!
*First story* you can’t blame him that much “dad I’ve broken up with my boyfriend” “oh ok” *pulls out sword Edit this was mostly a joke but yes the boyfriend can definitely be blamed for telling the dad to tone it down
@@destinedtogame to be honest, i don't think you can blame him, most men are insecure to some point, and with a step dad like this most guys would be intimidated. And it's not like he demanded to completely stop it, he just asked to tone it down when he is around.
Last story is the definition of letting insecurity ruin your relationships. He'll always take his insecurities out on her. Is he going to be asking for paternity tests when it comes to kids? Will he be tracking her phone and messages next? Glad she got out of there.
I actually do not see the issue with paternity tests. If a guy is going to sign a legally binding document he should be able to ask for a paternity test before signing it. But besides that point, I do agree. Last dude seemed really hung over on something that, on the grand scheme of things, is not bad. Assuming OP is telling the truth, one partner before marriage really is not bad.
@@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd there is an implication that you don't trust your partner if you ask for a paternity test. that is a huge insult, and can be seen as a projection. after all, if your partner didn't cheat or display suspicious behavior where did the idea of her cheating come from unless you are the one who is cheating? honestly, just use the justification of worrying that your baby got switch in the hospital and ask that she take a maternity test too. if she doesn't want you to take a paternity test if she takes a test, then use the story of the woman who got a maternity test done on the baby she birthed only for it to turn out that she was a chimera and in the slim chance that happens what are the odds that both of you are chimeras?
@@abiean222 So I agree there is a social perception about paternity tests. However, a guy should still ask. Why are we, as a society, taught and told to be as thorough as possible with legal documentation? Why is getting second and third opinions on life-altering decisions always encouraged? Why is informed consent encouraged (not just sexually by the way)? Yet, as a society men that want a paternity test are chastised? This is how I personally see it. A guy is allowed to ask for a paternity test. This is him making sure that the legal documentation he is about to sign has been signed to the best of his ability. That he got a second opinion, is informed of the status of the child, and has been thorough enough to ensure this life-altering decision is understood. As such, any woman that throws any fit about this or feels any way shows how she feels. By giving a man flak for wanting to do a paternity test. The woman shows she wants the man to make a choice that is not informed, not thought out, and she rather him be ignorant. That is a red flag in the highest form. So, yes, there is a perception of paternity tests. I think that perception is wrong and those that follow it are making themselves out to liars and manipulators. Why? Because if a woman truly understood what it meant for a guy to get a paternity test and she has not cheated; she would not feel or act the way a majority of women do in that situation.
@@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd dude, it all comes down to do you trust your partner to not cheat on you? if you say no, you don't trust them to not cheat on you, then don't have kids with them! its not about making an informed decision, its about how you don't trust your partner to be faithful. if you ask for a paternity test you are admitting that you don't trust your partner. you'll need to deal with the consequences of that action, so don't be surprised if your partner leaves you.
@@abiean222 The fact you say it does not come down to making an informed decision demonstrates we will not agree on this topic. As such, I will agree to disagree.
Everyone in the first story lucked out. OP got an amazing family. OP's wife for a trophy husband who genuinely loves her and wanted to love her daughter. OP's daughter got an actual father and someone who loves her.
Story 2: It took *FOUR MONTHS* to turn that thing into an absolute trainwreck? Geez, I don't think the sister and boyfriend are ready for a car if they easily wreck it.
It's good both sets of parents are stepping up and taking it seriously. Two idiots are lucky they didn't kill themselves or someone else on the road. Also any of my brothers would have MURDERED me if I did that to their car. 🤣 So really, sister got off lightly!
*First OP:* OP sounds like he stepped out of a romance novel, lol. I want OP to post a photo of himself ... for science... OP's stepdaughter sounds like she's got a good head on her shoulders. Hopefully she'll find a decent guy who isn't intimidated by her relationship with hunky blacksmith OP I agree with rSlash: Shout out to OP's wife for escaping her previous relationships, making bank, raising a great daughter, and landing a decent man who's also a hot POA. She's living the dream! *Second OP:* OP's sister showed disregard not only for OP's car, but for other people on the road. OP was NTA. Looks like Emma and her boyfriend faced some serious consequences. As Nelson would say, HA-HA! They're lucky they didn't face legal consequences. *Third OP:* At least OP's ex's mom was on OP's side. I hope things went well on OP's date, and that she didn't wear white /j
#1 is kind of a teachable moment for the boyfriend. If you're going to enter into a serious relationship with someone, that means you're going to need to accept their family as well. The guy doesn't seem malicious, I mean he did take it directly up with OP in private so it's clear he's not trying to cause trouble. But if this is how OP's family acts, and he's serious about the relationship, he's going to need to come to grips with how affectionate OP's family is. It's unreasonable to expect an entire family to change their behavior because it's not how you grew up.
If I was involved in the 1st story I would be more interested in the dad than the girlfriend anyway. Blacksmithing is so freak'n cool. Also I've actually had something like that happen a few times my friends meet my dad realize he cool af and are more interested in being friends with him then me.
Story 1 is just wholesome and adorable and honestly pretty refreshing compared to a lot of the super negative stories that we see on here a lot. Story 3, holy crap she dodged a bullet.
1) She blasted her in public for a private manner in her house with her family as backup, that's toxic mate, and given ultimatums that way, "you can accepted or get the fuck out" that's not how you solve issues and insecurities in a relationship 3) they both dodged a bullet, they both were okay breaking a 6 year relationship for a wedding dress color in a wedding that was for both of them
@@rene280195 "They both dodged a bullet" Really dude? She obviously didn't break up with him because she wanted to wear a white dress, she broke up with him because he was unable to put aside his weird insecurities about his sexual performance and misogynistic ideas about her "purity."
@@olivergregory5093 no, she put her desire of the wedding she imagined over the the desire of him to deal in a bad way with his insecurity, she wasn't empathic with the person she supposedly want to expend the rest of her life with, she let an issue to break an 6 year relationship. Him being wrong doesn't make her right is not a plus 0 game, is an adult relationship, adults have flaws, some are bigger than others, some are so bad that you need to run away but everybody has insecurities, this one is about sex and may be stupid but if you cannot deal with the stupid one, just wait to see how you deal with the big ones, childhood trauma, religion bias, familiar curses, etc. None of them were ready to marry the other, the difference is that she painted herself as a victim and him as an asshole (that he was), but again, imagine letting 1 issue to stop you from marrying the person you have been dating for 6 years and that you should know already, so either you don't really love him or you don't really know him and both are mess up if you are engaged
@@rene280195 Just like he wasn't empathetic about how he practically wanted to shame her on their wedding day for not being a virgin? It's not her place to have to deal with that shit. It's not her job to fix his insecurities, that's all on him. This is COMING FROM A GUY, and I'm even saying that dude is just a sexist pig. It's okay for a man not to be a virgin, but apparently a woman must always be a virgin until they're married? This isn't the 1800's anymore, and any woman has the right to break off a relationship with someone who still views them as some prize to be won, or a piece of property that must stay pristine.
Rene is an incel that hates women. He's made other crap takes under other comments wheres he's been rightfully blasted for his women hating views. You don't see him complaining about the sister in the truck story having to pay back a lot of cash for damages, because she's a woman, so deserved it. This guy gives off so many red flags.
First Story: Yeah I think OP should take this up with his step-daughter. This sounds like typical father and child affection and nothing more. Would the boyfriend feel the same way if they were blood related? Lmao, wow this guy needs to seperate fantasy from reality. Either that or he needs ease up on the porn. Well hopefully this guy doesn’t mess up again Second Story, NTA: So OP's parents are mad about OP taking the truck away but not mad at their daughter drunk driving and hitting a mailbox?! First off, OP didn’t take away her form of trasportation, she still has the car the parents gave her. Second, she shouldn’t be on the road if she is that bad a reckless driver and that irresponsible. She had only 2 conditons to follow and she broke both of them. Ah I see, she lied to her parents about what happened and then threw her boyfriend under the bus...nice Third Story: OP needs to leave this man. He isn’t religous and is worried that OP wearing white would trick people because she isn’t "pure"? I think he is just mad that he didn’t take OP's v-card. Lets not forget about the blatant misogyny and sexism. How is it different for a man than it is for a woman (I’m a man asking this)? Good thing he showed his red flags before the wedding. Welp, I’m glad OP got rid of that walking red flag. Like don’t get me wrong, I wish I was my gf's first in that regards but I’ve become her first for a lot of other things including sex
1st story, she blasted her in public for an issue he brings in private, that's toxic mate, yea he was being insecure but you are allowed to be insecure, imagine doing the same with other issue, she brings a private issue to her boyfriend about a problem with his mother and he decide to blast her and give her an ultimatum in the middle of a family dinner, that's some broke up material, anyone who is okay with blasting you that way is gonna do it in other moment for less and more. 3rd story, the both sucked, she was okay with breaking a 6 years commitment for a dress as was he, they suck
@@Ikajo White always signified a virgin bride, it was just that they would wear something like a white Scarf over a regular dress. Then it became bragging rights for the rich to have a full white dress and that's what it still is.
@@patrickkeller2193 Nope. People would wear their Sunday best at most. White fabric was expensive and got dirty easily. For poor people, it was not an option. So no, white has not always been associated with weddings.
@@Ikajo Sunday best often included a piece of white scarf or ribbon to signify eligible women, and of course it was an option. Maybe not bleached white, but cotton, some wool and linen are naturally white.
The longer i hear about the first story, the more i want to be the wife. 8x salary than my throphy husband?? And he's hot, kind, respectful, love my child like??? This girl is winning in life and she absolutely deserves it
First Story: The wife is fucking WINNING AT LIFE. She has a very good career, a great kid, and most importantly She has a 9/10 6'5 blacksmith husband who's affectionate, a great dad, an awesome person AND does the cooking and cleaning GIRL YOU LUCKED OUT
Last story: My Dad's BFF's wife during their wedding (to the BFF) was wearing white with her two kids, two stepkids and unborn child in attendance. NO ONE was making a fuzz about her wearing white or claimed she was deceiving them.
The whole purity symbolism isn't even a big root, it was queen Victoria who started it and everyone wanted to copy but felt that they needed an excuse better than "I'm copying the queen" lol
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@@debymello4756, yeah, that's what I've heard too... and be that as it may, these days the white dress is just tradition regardless. If the bride's a grown woman, I'm assuming she's not a virgin! And if she's _not_ a grown woman, I'm calling the authorities.
Oh good lord, my step-dad is 14 years older than me and it's not a big deal. He's been around since I was six. I've told him that once we turn 60 and 74 I stop calling him dad in public, lol! We'll look ridiculous! 🤣 Edited the years, sorry it was 6am lol.
My dad is 87 and I'm 41, I have a teen daughter, we both take his hand or hug him, we call him by a pet name, people around us think I'm a young trophy or purchased wife 🤣🤣🤣 I love to hug him or hold his hand when they look weirdly at us. I never thought people had so many roaches in the head that they would dare to asume that. We have heard whispers and talks and then my teen will call him Dad on purpose. Affection and love have no age and knows no boundaries, if you want to call him Daddy go ahead. Just Dad sounds amazing and wholesome, sure he loves it in the inside
Story 1: Now *that’s* a dad! He showed his daughter by example what to stand for (and not stand for) in a relationship, and she rose to the occasion beautifully. And, from the sound of it, mom’s a lucky duck! Nice to hear a wholesome story like this every once in a while! 😁
Second story: My uncle's fiancee and youngest sister were killed by a drunk driver. The wedding guests arrived and ended up attending two funerals instead. I have no sympathy for drunk drivers, and the sister and boyfriend deserve more punishment than they received. OP is NTA and possibly saved lives by taking the keys away.
The first story made me laugh uncontrollably in all ways But seriously though, the dude is a giga chad, has a loaded wife and can focus on his hobby, and has a family he loves, congrats to our dude here 👏
My wife told me about the white dress for virgins thing before we got married. Apparently, most of the white dresses in the bridal shops are ivory, or cream, or off-white, or I don't know, "White Adjacent" or "I can't believe its not white" or other nonsense colours. They all looked white to me.
Story 3: ok I'm so sick of this misconception! So brides wear white because Queen Victoria started a trend when she wore white to her wedding as a power move over the wealth of her empire sense in those times white was the MOST difficult color of fabric to maintain
Not only is the wife winning, she's not even intimated by the fact her husband had his daughter in his lap to cuddle with him. That this woman doesn't think he's not gonna give her a good hammering to run off with someone closer to his age.
"Look there's apparently 2 people at this table who think my dad is hot and it's really weird that you're one of them." Has to be one of the coldest lines ive ever read
That first story , Wow regardless of his looks he needs a dad of the year award and the daughter needs the daughter of the year award! As some one who sees his stepharther as more real than my actual father you raised her right and I don't think you have anything to worry about.
Learning a Trade is quite the giga chad move so I honestly I actually like the dad in the first story he basically the definition of a DILF with everything and I understand being close to your dad I’m close to mine and my girlfriend understand
Good God, OP in the first story is like the Prince Charming everyone wants at the end of the rainbow. He's a 10/10/10. 10 as a dad, 10 as a husband, and 10 as a man.
S1 That's, what, a 15 year gap? I've heard of kids having kids at that age. It's not unheard of having a biological parent that's only 15 years older than the child. Sounds like BF might have a Daddy fetish, though, since he's that bothered. I wonder if he's mad because he secretly wants GF to do the whole "Harder, Daddy" thing with him, but is now uncomfortable with the idea of this imaginary competition.
i'm 36 and have a 16 year old son, over the past year i've had a few of his female friends hit on me, one actually throw themselves at me. this has made me install cameras in every room of my house except for bedrooms. teenage hormones are wild. for reference, i am 6'4 and my son is 6'3, and are both around 220 lbs. we look very similar; though he is 25% black.
@@b.c.9358 of course. i almost had THAT issue when i was 21 and sat down at a diner with my date, who told me she was 16. the panic attack i had on the drive home was more than enough to make me overreact and instal more cameras than a city block of London lmao.
@@crickets4207 being our home, and having an open door policy for any of our kids friends; it's quite hard to always have two adults available. on any average weekend there are between 2-7 additional kids running around the house. my parents were the "cool" parents that always gave us a place to hang out, allowed all of the bands i played in to practice in the garage, etc. it's my turn to be that dad lol. i don't believe any of them were attempting to ruin my life, it's been a regular thing for the teenage girls to giggle and whisper about me since they were around 11. however, last year when a 15 year old girl straddled and went to kiss me on the couch, that was when all of the cameras went up. i remember my youth vividly, and still talk with the majority of my clique from high school. i really can't blame her for her actions, though i definitely sat her down (with her mom, and later alone) to make sure everything was okay, and she knew it wasn't okay to do that to anyone, not just an adult. they're all good kids, just figuring out life and who they are.
@@crickets4207 son lol, but yeah. i actually had a couple years long trist with a high school teacher in my teens. i was 15 and she was 22 when it started. so i more than understand what you've stated there. thankfully it honestly didn't screw me up, nor did it ever come to light and ruin her life. however when a 15 year old girl threw herself at me, i knew full well what the consequences were lmao. from those if she was even 36 herself, to the more nefarious reasons. i honestly can understand what my teacher did as the age gap matches that of my wife and i's, even though i was just a kid; her only fault was reciprocating my advances. it's a whole different ball game however when the sexes reverse, as much as we'd like to say otherwise. it's every high school boys dream and every high school girls nightmare.
Last story: When he said he wanted the wedding dress to red, I literally turned around and asked, "Are you really going in the direction of the Scarlet Letter?!"
The daughter telling her story about her dad reading the books to connect with her .. really caught me off guard. As someone who has never had a constant father figure or a great relationship with my own dad maybe it's a little hole in my heart I don't really acknowledge so I just unravel over my daddy issues while washing the dishes. Awesome
The first story had me dying😂😂 omg. It got so wholesome & sweet towards the end though. I'm glad it all worked out in the end & I agree with rslash, I want to see what this guy looks like!
the daughter in the first story!! so strong and amazing at setting boundaries at such a young age. im so proud of her. everyone in this story handled it so well. creepy train of thought on the boyfriend... wish they would've stayed broken up but hopefully it remains healthy.
1- I love the daughter’s response to her D-bag ex! OP might be a Fabio in the eyes of everyone else but to her he’s HER dad and she shouldn’t lose her relationship with him just because some little boy is but hurt her dad is hot AF!
Oh my gods that speech the daughter gave from the first story about her dad made me cry, that was a great story and I love how much the whole family loves eachother. That father is an amazing dad and a pretty cool and lovely person as far as I can tell from that post :)
If i was the dad in the first story, i would start hugging the bf too, so he understands that i see him as a son too. Also because maybe him didn't receive that kind of family love
That first story is so fucking adorable it drew a tear from me. That is sooooooo cute. He is a 10/10 hot dad and taught his daughter well. She's strong and knows how to firmly, but with understanding, control her boundaries. What a great happy story.
The first story is the complete opposite of my daughters relationship with my husband. She's had horrible male influences and has always begged for a relationship with him. He's very uncomfortable being affectionate. We rarely even hug or kiss. We've fought about it for years. He thinks if he speaks to her (now 20) when she comes over, that's good enough. I hope men realize that no matter how old girls are, they NEED that connection, ESPECIALLY when they have terrible role models and you're the ONLY decent one. Don't be a child. Suck it up and get to know her.
Thank you for another amazing video, Rslash! I love listening to your channel! Our cat is currently recovering from surgery, and he’s starting to get restless since he needs to stay in a certain area for a bit. I also put on your podcasts for him and he calms down immediately. ❤😅
Man...the third story. If he is whining because he can't get his way of thinking then what else will he do when you are married? Thank god she dodged a bullet on that.
First story, I just want to imagine OP sitting at the kitchen table like 🥹 as she’s talking about her dad. AHHHH ❤️ 100/10 for cute family, cute story, cute everything
Fun facts about white and weddings: 1. Most modern dresses are actually some tone of off white as “white” looks good on so few people 2. The trend to wear white was started by Queen Victoria 3. It started off as a way to show wealth as getting natural fibers to be white is hard, and Vicky just wanted to brandish how much $$ she had. Since this garment could/would only be worn once.
Man I can't tell if I should be happy for the first OP or be sad because he sounds PERFECT! Meanwhile here I am watching Rslash eating BLACK BREAD! Maybe I should learn how to make sword's!
I love how the daughter said "its weird there are two people who find dad(op) hot at the table." Maybe ex has some attraction to op and it was making it hard foe him or ex was just trying to separate daughter from parents to control her.
When OP's daughter went on about the book and how she loves her dad, I ain't gonna lie, I cried. That was beautiful. Any relationship carying that much love and understanding is PRECIOUS and should be cherished and protected at all cost.
Lol when my mom and dad got married, she wanted to wear a red dress. Her mom adamantly objected (my mom was 17. I was 2 years away from existing). So mom compromised and wore a solid royal blue dress. I’m kinda hoping for my wife to want to wear a green dress or white with green accents, it fits a fun theme I’ve had in mind for a few years
OP's wife in the first story totally did land a trophy husband. She has a well paying job and her husband is a hot, tall blacksmith who's either toned or has a dad bod, cooks, and cares for her daughter. He patiently waited until he could be close to her and formed a loving relationship. He's the husband lottery
The first story surprised me when we got to the daughters statement; at some point I was so messed up that I almost ruined my mother and step father's relationship🥲 When I first met him I was quite young but also recently traumatized by someone close so I was clinging to just about any decent male figure as my father wasn't quite there... In return tho I ended up disturbed by plenty more men and even eventually my father leaving my step father as the only somewhat sane man I could stand and even then I was a jerk because of how many men that had disturbed me... I'm not perfect, he's not perfect, none of us in my "story" are but he's slowly become someone that I'm close with👍
I think the boyfriend from the 1st story should explore the possibility of maybe being bisexual cause...to be threatened to that level by your gf's dad??? You have to be at least a little bit genuinely attracted to him Yk, 🎶be who you are🎶 and all that
That last story made me think of this fun fact: White wasn't a symbol of purity, it was a symbol of wealth. Wedding dresses weren't formal and white fabrics were hard to clean in the old days. No brides wore white until 1840 when Queen Victoria wore white to her wedding and not her coronation dress. Brides started copying that and the rest is history
The thing that gets me about the last post is that it was only when Queen Victoria broke tradition and wore white, to marry Prince Albert, did wearing white become traditional. Those 2 were at it like rabbits, so I very much doubt she was "pure" when they married. Before their wedding, it was common to just wear a nice dress, or your Sunday best.
The first story is kinda beautiful that he's taught her to respect and love herself enough to just drop a guy she clearly liked. This just goes to show how great of a family unit she has. The dad has shown her to respect herself alot. It's sad that they got back together tbh but I do hope she realizes that she doesn't have to change herself to succeed in a relationship though.
1.OP did his damndest to properly build a real step parent relationship. Her stayed firm in trying when the kid hated him,and He didn't do the whole "I'm your dad now, You'll call me dad" thing 2, yeah I'm glad that parents did the right thing in the update. 3. Lol, OP dodge a bullet. White being a sign of purity is a recent thing ; Wearing white showed you had money and blue was the wedding color.
A White wedding dress is a Victorian tradition, where common people copied Queen Victoria when she married Albert. Where she wore a white, "simple" lace, flowing wedding dress and for possibly the first time it was done in history. Only in the mid 20th century was the whole "purity" aspect added to the tradition.
Oh my, that DAD 🤭 Attractive, hard-working and a good father figure? I wish this man and his beautiful family all of my supply of nice wishes! ♥ I hope they stay strong and together.
When chad dads daughter mentioned 2 people at the table think chaddad is hot I just imagined him raising his hand "point of order. Three people think I'm hot. I mean I do own a mirror" Edit: CALLED IT!
I can relate. My dad is 6 ft 3 in tall 215 lbs of solid muscle. He is a world-class knife maker and does his own blacksmith work. I hear from total strangers how handsome my dad is and he can be very intimidating. He served in Vietnam and became a prepper to deal with PTSD. He is kind and would help anyone if he can. Just dont piss him off! As a teen I put the look in his eye that said you are about to die. Mom can hold her own and is a retired county officer but dad is her minion.
