r/Bestof HELP! My Wife Spends $300,000/Year! 

I like this subreddit. Do you want to see more r/Bestof? The stories tend to be longer and more in-depth because of the updates, and the videos don't have a "theme" because the stories come from multiple other subreddits.

The update on the third story was so refreshing. Sometimes people just need a wake up call and this seems to be what he needed. I love that although it might seem like a small trip everyone's reaction obviously was his kick. Depression is a killer and can kill any desire or drive. Glad he got the help he needed to one prove his mom wrong but two step up and be a good father and husband.

Story 2: She wasn't just a gold digger, she was a gold mining machine that'll only respond when divorce is the conversation.

Depression does so much more damage than people realize. It can LITERALLY leave you unable to function. Depression isn't about being sad, it's about not able to feel anything.

Story 3: Ok, I was willing to call that dude a lazy idiot, but after hearing about the torment his mother put him through, no wonder he was such a mess, I'm glad OP's husband was able to recover, and I hope things continue to go good for them.

As soon as OP had said that her husband struggled to wake up on his own, even when she would shake him awake, I had a feeling that there had to have been an underlying medical issue. I’m glad he’s gone NC with his mother and started receiving help.

Grandparents: *"We'll be taking the next flight home in the morning if you don't give us the villa!!"* OP: **Actually pays for their flight** Grandparents: *"You weren't supposed to do that."*

Little tip of mine: if you want to leave someone and they says "let's make this right" just say you are then leave don't fuel the gaslight. I'm glad the op in the second story is finally free from that leech

First story: Op should just forget them, if they’re going to whine on Ops and her husband’s honeymoon about a room that they don’t need to pay for that’s on them for being Choosing baggers.

"I can't believe reddit actually had a positive impact on someone's life" You and me both, rslash.

Last story: Wow it's crazy how all the guy's stress and depression went away after going NC with his own mother, it just shows how SHE was the problem in his life. I can only imagine how his childhood was with a mother like that

Story 2: Wow, what a toxic person that OP married to. I'm just glad that OP still has the confidence to find his true love.

The update on the last story was absolutely brilliant. When he saw things from other people's perspective he paid attention, and used it as a springboard to be more open and honest and to remove as much negativity (ie his emotionally abusive mother) from his life as possible. What a story to end the episode on. I couldn't imagine being in the positions of anyone in this video. My grandparents grew up with nothing and asked for nothing other than a hug and a visit every fortnight. My partner grew up with nothing and asks for nothing, although sometimes she wants name-brand foods. I grew up with something but don't ask for anything other than the medicine that keeps me out of hospital (God bless the NHS). My parents are as supportive as they can be, but nowhere near overbearing

for the second one, I'm sad it happened, but am so happy for OP. sounds like the 'simple life' in the apartment with the ikea furniture is just what he needs. hope all goes well with the barista!

Story 3: He really needs to set a better example for his kids since he needs to wake up on his own. I'm glad that he is at least aware of his mom's manipulation and finally went no-contact, despite the mom's persistence.

I think I might actually know who the OP in the first story is. She’s an awesome athletic fashion designer and influencer who’s main goal is making cute but comfortable items for anyone to wear, regardless of size or shape, to help promote body positivity and confidence. She recently had two different yoga and Pilates item(like water bottles, mats and bags) collections with Target as well.

I'm sure you get this a lot, but I sincerely appreciate your videos. Not only are they high quality entertainment, but they are so consistent that I find myself looking forward to them every morning. I'm counting down like "ok, 20 more minutes until rslash posts, so I have time for coffee, etc." Lol. It has also become a way to bond with my husband, who also loves your videos. We love discussing our opinions on the stories and speculating who is really in the wrong. Thank you for providing this daily little activity, hope you're doing well. ♡

As I read the third story I was like “oh that’s a depression thing but he’s still being a little over dramatic” then the update I am so glad he is getting the help he needs and I hope things continue to go well for the family. I still struggle with sleep and my depression but thankfully I take meds and have supportive people around me unlike OP’s husband must have had for years with a toxic mother.

I like that bestof is like a grab bag of all the best subreddits with the best conclusions

In the 3rd story, when I heard he needed to be woken up multiple times I shouted at my computer he needs help. Hearing that update is amazing. I am so happy that he got the help he needed. If you know someone the same way its a sign of depression.

I couldn't help smiling through the second half of the third story. It's not every day that you read a story about the AH improving their behaviour, especially not after reading a reddit thread and getting influenced by strangers!

Story 1: Sounds like it's time to go no-contact with the grandparents if they're so ungrateful about the room they got for their free vacation. Poor little babies.

My mother and step father did the same thing when they got married. Both sides of the family got an all expenses paid trip to Mexico (Isla Mujeres is beautiful, go there). We just had to pay for food and any extras since we didn't go all inclusive. No one complained, everyone was just happy they got to go to Mexico. Not a rich family, but it was literally a $2k wedding. An officiant, mom, step-dad, me, my kid, my sister, her fiancee, his son, his sons wide and thats it. Dinner was at a fancy restaurant and we all paid for ourselves. They specifically did this so they could surprise us all with plane tickets and accommodations for everyone at the wedding, and extended family too! Aunts, Uncles, cousins, etc. They booked half the hotel. It was amazing! We stayed for a week, mom and step dad stayed an extra week by themselves. My step dad unfortunately passed away from lung cancer a year later.

The woman in story 2 kills me. "we can work this out" "we can go to therapy" blah blah blah.. not a singular "you're right" not one.. Grats on op for dragging himself out of that situation and upgrading his life

Loved the last story, I was thinking "this man's either a child or needs to see a doctor about sleep apnea or something" aaand it was depression dang, good for them making things work

Story 2: If I were OP, I'd make sure the barista knows she isn't the reason for the divorce because no one should think they are a homewrecker.

I can relate to the last story as some who suffers from depression and anxiety. I nearly lost my family because of it! I'm still working through it and very happy that OP's husband is doing so much better! Life is far too short and kids grow way too fast to waste it on anything that keeps you from enjoying it with your family (the non toxic ones that is). Prayers to all who are dealing with mental health issues and are able to work through it! 🤘

I was fully ready to go off on the husband of Story 3 and there's good reason. I also have issues getting up in the morning but effort makes a difference. However, depression and emotional manipulation can greatly affect your health and actions and I understand to a point. I'm glad he decided to get help and shifted his life around for his family. That shows how much he really cares.

I feel sorry for the man with the toxic mother. She's made him a depressing sleepy head and then dares to chew out her daughter-in-law for not waking up her son when she's at fault for him being that way! Misery truly loves company! 😡😤 But I'm very happy the man has made a swimming recovery! 🤗🥳

that last story is such a heartwarming story. parents can really fuck up your brain and it can take years to fix it or to even notice there is a real problem. While it was harsh it sounds like he really needed the rude awakening of being called out by strangers, it does take an outside voice sometimes. I am so happy for both of them but especially for him at finally seeing the problem and getting help.

As a Caucasian man married to a Chinese woman... (I feel ya rSlash)... I have experienced some of this as well. My MIL would constantly get upset with something petty and threaten to go back to China. my wife would always cave and think she was a bad daughter and that she would need to be nicer to her mother. I kept telling her that her mother was guilt tripping her. I told her that next time she says that, to say something like "Ok, we'll go get your tickets tomorrow". I was never so proud of my wife when she actually did it and the stunned look on my MIL's face was priceless. That threat stopped for many months. It still happens from time-to-time but nowhere near as often.

The fact that he actually read the reddit thread, took it in, digested it and made changes.. THAT makes him a man. THAT makes him a good husband and father. Good on him 👏👍

As someone who has also been a mess due to mental health, dead end job and manipulative family, I really relate to the guy in the third story. I'm glad he finally managed to see he needed help and he engaged with it. I really hope he continues to engage with mental health professionals and his family. Mental health is such a huge issue and it can cloud you. I am so glad OP did an update on that one

The twist in the last episode made me go from angry to sad and sympathetic I too live with depression and honestly I can see myself in the dude. I struggle to get out of bed at weekends/days off. I find motivation so so hard. I'm normally getting out of bed 5 minutes before I go to work. I feel so sorry for OP and her husband in the last story. Guys and girls out there. If you're struggling with your mental health. Please. Seek help It's worth it. Trust me

Third story: It was leave him or wake him up with a taser. OP has an extra-large, unruly and immature kid. With the update: Well, would you look at that. He was actually compared to a kid. But it was good that he's now trying to improve and rejecting the sith lord that is his mother whispering garbage into his ears while he sleeps.

Ya, for the last story a depression alarm bell was ringing in my head the whole time. I'm glad that OP and her husband are finally away from the toxicity of his mother.

Wow the 3rd story was amazing. The husband woke up to the terrible situation he was putting his family in. However, my hat goes off to his wife being an absolute awesome person. She tactfully helped her husband see his error and got him away from his toxic family. I hope they can stay happy.

I'm so, so glad OP's partner was able to see his mother was toxic, go no-contact and ultimately turn his life around! It sounds like their family is going to be so much better off now!

“I can’t believe Reddit actually had a positive impact on someone’s life!”- Rslash, who makes a living from Reddit content

The third story was actually really wholesome. He just needed a wakeup call to help him realize he was despressed and struggling. Now it sounds like their life has changed for the better

Story one: Girl, good for you! You seem to have a really nice life due to your own hard work, you treat your family to fun things, AND you KINDLY stood up for yourself??? What a role model. 11/10

Dude: Hey mom, I'm going no contact because of all your gaslighting. Mom: responds with more gaslighting. What the hell did she *expect* would happen after that?

Story#1: OP was so generous to give this gift. The grandparents are entitled jerks.

300k a year? Sell her kidneys ¯\(°_o)/¯ trust me... It'll work out... Every year she can sell a organ and she can get all that... I'm kidding you will only get about 100k for both kidneys

I’m so happy that the 3rd story wasn’t just him being a lazy douche but rather it something deeper that could be treated. I’m so happy he got the help he needed, mental health is a huge obstacle to overcome.

First story: I haven't heard the update and I know they are asking for more than they deserve. They are in an all-paid vacation and they demand more. Screw them.

That last story is a perfect example of how it feels to actually have depression; not just "I'm sad!" but "I'm worthless, why try if it won't go well? People don't expect me to do anything, and they don't trust me". I also had a wake up call for my depression and anxiety. It wasn't as strong as this one, but a small question: "why am I always sad and angry, even in moments I shouldn't be?" As someone who has healed from long term depression and anxiety it makes me happy to see others, like the husband in that last story, to come out on top of their depression and anxiety. Don't let anyone stand in your way to healing, you can do it!

I hope that everyone is having a good Friday!

I literally LOLed when you said "OMG I can't believe reddit actually had a positive impact on someone's life". I 100% understand that with some of the threads you post. However reddit has made my life SOOOO much better. I've learned sooooo many awesome skills there (and youtube). Just remember between reddit and youtube you can learn sooo much, enough that if someone really tries they can (IMO) get a 6 figure job.

That "I cant believe Reddit ACTUALLY had a positive impact on somebody's life!" was deeply hilarious to me lol

*First OP:* older people don't give a f u c k. They have no filter and no shame and expect people to respect them just because they've been on Earth longer than others^. Good for OP for standing up to her grandparents respectfully. And good for her for finding success in her dream career. ^ Obviously, not _all_ old people are like this, but _enough_ of them are. *Second OP:* And _that's_ why you should listen to your gut. Best of luck to OP. *Third OP:* If it weren't for the update, I would've suggested that OP divorce her husband. I'm glad OP and her husband had a heart-to-heart, and I'm glad OP's husband is cutting off contact with his mother. To answer the initial question, OP is NTA.

I hate the idea of respecting your elders. Respect people who deserve it. Age has nothing to do with deserving respect. You have to be worthy of it.

That first story, just tell them to take the flight home, and wave goodbye to them as they cut their noses off to spite their faces.

These are the stories I enjoy. You get to hear the main story then an update so you know how everything turned out.

I can just feel the weight being lifted off the Dr hearing his story. I always feel so bad for people who get manipulated into relationships and find out the person who they really are is much different then who they pretended to be. I've known girls in the 20s who did that kind of thing like pretending to be into stuff the guy likes to get into a relationship because they didn't want to be alone but I wouldn't expect that out of someone older unless she just thought his money would make her happy enough to stay. Idk Anyway, you can tell she was obviously emotionally abusive at least and clearly stressed him out over the finances. I can't imagine trying to push the person I love to do a job they couldn't stand doing just to have more money ( for whatever she was spending all his money on). I really feel hopeful for that guy. I bet he is living his best life and is happier then ever. And probably shocked at how much money he can really spend when he doesn't have to pay for his expensive wife. He could probably afford a nice long vacation after all is said and done. Good thing he had a pre-nup. That makes things so much easier on him. I always try to tell my friends to do that but nobody ever listens. Sorry, its a long comment. I just feel really happy for the guy.

1:20 THAT'S EXACTLY THE POINT!, the ascendants must suffer for the youngers comfort, imagine one day saying, "Us parents shouldn't be made to buy our childrens toys because we want beer"

I love it when rslash does bestofupdates

1st story: The amount of BS old people can get away in Asia is way out of line. There are even videos of old people purposefully, no they ain't mentally disable, making trains late just because they know they can get away with. Honestly, better cut those old parasites out of your life. Alongside whoever want to simp for them. 2nd story: Consider the fact there arent kids a good things. Never. Ever. Marry due peer pressure, and if your gut feeling is telling you "We need to run", you don't run, you get into a cab and bail. Not saying she is a gold digger, but sure she ain't dating broken n. Also, they have been married but haven't had s.ex in years?... Yeaaaah, call me cynical misogynistic, but I wouldn't be surprised if she met her needs on the side. I hope OP is happier now. 3rd story: Hey OP, are you sure you count right?, sounds like you have 6 kids. 5 kids and a manchild At least he is open to try and change. I hope he does change for better. And to NOT let the kids alone with MIL who is a sociopath. If he did that to her own kid, you can bet the grandkids ar enext

Story 2: the guy shouldn't be surprised that he isn't sad. Happy marriages don't end in divorce.

1st story: OP's Asian family does have a very "don't rock the boat" mentality, which is familiar. If you're capable of appeasing someone, you're sorta expected to. This goes double when someone's older than you. I can really sense the exact family dynamics that are going on with OP's grandparents

Entitled parents: Give us (insert object here) or we will leave. OP: No problem. Entitled parents: Surprised Pikachu face.

The first story it's more "Malicious compliance"; about the last story... sometimes the butthole it's just a damaged person...

2nd story: I agree. How is it possible to spend $300,000 in a year. I would have to buy a house in one payment, just to spend anywhere near that much in a year.(I don't buy designer stuff. Last time I splurged money on myself was on a $500 Air Conditioner earlier this year, which I need for this month.)

Said this before, and I'll say this again. I so wish I had Reddit, all of this when I was a teenager and in my 20s. I think it would have called me out on certain behaviors I had back then that took me far too long to break.

That last story, man. I've struggled with depression and anxiety since I was a kid. I'm 34, and I remember even as a five year old I was screwed up. I'm in tears. I'm so happy for that guy!! He got a HUGE wakeup call, and now gets to enjoy time with his wife and girls. It's easy to isolate yourself, put your head in the ground and hope your troubles away. So happy for his wife and kids, and of course him. He got the kick in the ass he needed, in the way he needed. This would've ended in a divorce if the wife didn't make that post, then show him the comments. He needed that.. I'm gonna listen to this one again. Haha.

RSLASH: "Oh my God! I can't believe the Reddit actually had a positive impact on someone's life!" Me: "....OH SHIT! HE'S RIGHT! THAT USUALLY NEVER HAPPENS!"

Story 3 went from making me incredibly angry to making me tear up, I'm really glad that the two of them are healing at that he's getting help

The 6 greatest words on AITA sub posts: "And then OP posted an update" 😁👍

3rd story, shout out to the wife. As someone who has suffered from depression my entire adult life a partner who can give me tough love and snap me out of a horrible mindset, give me a shove when needed to get my life together, and FORGIVE her husband and believe that under all the mental health issues he is a good man who just needs support..... WOW, that is the kind of partner you dream of. It's good to know good partners are still out there. Sometimes when you are in a funk, you can't see yourself or behavior clearly. You lose confidence and direct negativity at the wrong people. Sometimes you just need a little extra help to see things clear. Then you man up and make necessary changes for you family and partner. That is the kind of love story I can get behind.

Last one: People are people and that means everyone has different reasons for the things that they do in life. What might look like laziness in one context is actually depression in another. People will assume and label you, especially when the one providing the context is frustrated and doesn't even think toward any other possibility. As someone with depression, I have to force myself to get out of bed everyday. Sometimes it doesn't seem worth the effort. I have to tell myself that it is worth it, that there are things that need to get done and people to see. I am so happy that I have people that support me and make getting up worth it. I also guess one positive aspect to anxiety is that I literally worry too much to stay in bed for long because their are things I HAVE to do.

I'm sure this will be mentioned in more detail, but those Bora Bora villas cost 3-4k A NIGHT 💀💀. That trip had to have cost like 100k+.

I haven't been on holiday in 5 years. If someone gave me a free trip to a paradise, I'd be making it up to them everyday of my life.

I'm glad that the last story is having a good ending. Sometimes it does take a outside view to change.

First story : Yeah, your grand parents are batsht crazy. NTA. They looked for trouble and found it. Good on you for standing up for yourself.

Story 3: After hearing that update, it is nice to hear that OP's husband turned over a new leaf. He realized that he was being verbally abused and manipulated by his mother and took the steps to cut her out of his life forever. He also talked it over with his former boss to get in some vacation time and then quitting that job soon after. Then his FIL steps in to help him find a job that he enjoys and it allows him to work from home and spend time with his kids.

Oh, my G-d. First story. Girl, boy, whatever, you saved your ENTIRE generation. SO much respect.

Story 3, he should look into a sleep study. Sounds like it could be narcolepsy (my ex had the same issue and turns out hes a narcoleptic that we didnt find out until he passed out behind the wheel) And his was also stress and depression induced, caused by his mom. God this poor guy. I know what that is like.

Good job OP. Don’t negotiate with terrorists.

Second story : Never give in to pressure, you shouldn't have ignored the red flags. I just hope for OP that the prenup doesn't get thrown out, as is so common.

Third story : Man acts like a child, is mad to be treated like one. He needs to take responsibility to wake up by himself. Good on OP for showing him the thread to give him that wake up call. His mom sure sounds awful.

rSlash: "Oh my god! I can't believe that Reddit had an actual positive effect on someone's life!" Also rSlash: works at home with a wonderful wife, dog, and daughter, with his own hours to look at and read Reddit all day, all because of Reddit

This is, by far, my favorite subreddit. It's just so nice to have closure on some of these stories, especially AITA. The third story was so good to hear.

The last comment, I mean your channel is all about Reddit stories so I'd say it's made a positive impact on your life. Theres many many stories where people are saved from horrible situations on Reddit so while theres alot of bad theres alot of good too...

Doctors scrub religiously. Anytime the leave a patients room, and enter it again, they wash. Regardless of when they last washed. Safer that way.

Second story: I highly recommend to everyone to read "The Psychopath Code" by Pieter Hintjens. This story sounds EXACTLY like one of the illustrative stories from that book. Congratulations to OP for getting rid of a useless bloodsucker - too bad it took him that long to figure it out.

3rd story: The husband's wake-up call was the *lack* of the wake-up call. I love it and I hope their family remains happy and wonderful.

Respect to the husband in the last story for realizing his wrongs and tried his best to make up for it

Story #1 Why on earth would you take your entire family on a vacation? Nothing good can ever happen in that scenario. Especially with a hard headed traditional Asian old school family

At our local clinic there's a laminated paper in every exam room that says "Scrub in, scrub out" . It means that every time a nurse or doctor enters or leaves the room a patient is in they need to scrub their hands. Idk how much per year the staff makes here, but I'm willing to wager that only a few of the doctors make six figures per year. The hospital chain they work for is notorious for being a revolving door for specialists and nursing staff, because of low (for the industry) wages, a lack of care for the treatment and needs of their staff, and inter-office bullying. But, the point is that that the majority people in the medical field have to wash their hands a lot at work, not just surgeons and specialists.

Grandparents: If you don't give us what we want, we are going home 😡. OP: OK. Here's your tickets then. Grandparents: Huh?! That's wasn't supposed to happen. OP's cousins: Our grandparents were killing the vibe. Thanks OP.

That last story before the update sounds exactly like my neighbor. Every morning I hear his alarm going off for 45 minutes to an hour, then his wife starts yelling at him to get up because he's already late for work. I really hope he gets some help like in this story.

Story 1 Am very happy how OP handle the situation . Call their bluff, guarantee they're the ones that's making the vacation hostile.

I have literally never heard of anyone taking their family on their honeymoon. Those people should be so grateful that they got a free vacation at all, not to mention having their own little villas....

To be fair, RSlash, if the doctor is making $300K a year, they don't have $300K of discretionary money. First, take 50% off the top. Then take off the mortgage and household bills. It's legit possible that there's only $50-60K of money left over. Now, that's a LOT of cash to spend... but it's not $300K... and those expensive things she's buying will eat it pretty quickly. (She's totally in the wrong, and I'm glad OP is moving on!)

The third story reminds me of my mom and dad before we worked things out. My dad was different when my brother and I were babies and is better after our more developmental years.

Man that last story did such a 180. I'm so that OP's husband is not only getting the help he needs but is finally getting away from his toxic assed family. It sounds like he's actually going to be enjoying life from now on.

The last story shows... you never know what someone is feeling or going through. Communicating is key to everything in life.

I absolutely love this subreddit! Some subreddits like entitledparents or choosingbeggars are less fun to watch as there isn't always a conclusive ending since life is messy and not like a movie, but this subreddit usually has some form of closure which is a lot more relaxing for me🤣

dude sleeping in might have a sleep problem. I have real difficulty waking up, like legit someone could slap me repeatedly and i wont wake up

I love how everyone subconsciously didn't want OP in the second story to ask out the barista and they all know why.