I can't understand the women who are willing to be the mistress. The chick from the first story knew the pos was married with a child on the way and she STILL WAS HIS MISTRESS. She even had the audacity to scream at op and call her heartless when she was the other woman, KNOWINGLY.
Those are the people you're allowed to s*ut shame and blame for being a homewrecker. She knew she was the side chick, and has standards lower than the Earth's mantle. But knowing cheaters, he'll cheat on her dumbass too.
I can only imagine that the ex was in a sense "preparing" for op to have another still birth, ready to leave for Anna if op "failed" to birth his child again. Its sad but a lot of men cheat on their wives if they're having fertility problems because an "heir" or a "legacy" is more important than love and respect to them. It was only a "mistake" because she was able to burth a healthy baby. The whole lie about splitting 7 months ago and spending time with Annas family as her boyfriend just screams "back up plan" to me.
Not gonna lie, my immediate reaction to the second story was to look up "Eva Brown" mid-story. I ended up finding nothing particularly interesting. It was basically all just social media stuff. I added "history" to the search, however... and it turns out that Hitler had a wife? Eva Braun. "Wow, she must have had _insanely low_ standards..." • my exact thoughts That being said, that mother to be is being legit unreasonable and outright asking for antisemitic bullying.
As an Eva Brown myself, the second story hit close to home. The second I found out that I shared a first AND last name with a maniacs wife I was so upset but my situation may be more mild as Eva is just a nickname for Evangeline. I was never really bullied in school and people don't usually make that connection though
Funny, my daughter's birthday was this weekend, and a woman I'm into asked me out. I turned her down, because, OBVIOUSLY! (We can reschedule, just like that cheater could have) And my daughter is already born, I don't even want to think of how uncaring you'd have to be to not show up at your own daughter's birth just for a hookup.
My friend was in the hospital giving birth to her baby prematurely because there were some complications. Her husband was with her at the beginning, then said “this is going to take a while, so I’m going to run some errands and go home and let the dog out.” At around 10pm. Not long after he left the doctor said she needed an emergency c-section. We tried holding off and we all tried calling him, but he didn’t answer. My friend was really sick and was crying for him. He showed up after the baby had been born and in the NICU for several hours. Thankfully the baby was fine aside from being a little bit small, and once they were separated my friend got better quickly. Well, long story short, he had gone home, invited his mistress over, and while they were there they let the dog out and the dog dug out of the yard (he had a habit of this and was always supervised when outside. Except this time. We suspect that the dog was barking at the mistress, so they threw him in the backyard.) and no one noticed until my friend got home from the hospital days later and the dog wasn’t there. Every day that she was in the hospital, he’d say he was going to feed the dog, but he was going to his mistress’ house to hook up, so he never noticed the dog was missing. And he would leave his wife and baby after an emergency c-section 4 or 5 weeks early. When she found out what was going on and confronted him, his excuse was that she had been on bedrest and couldn’t have sex the past couple months and wouldn’t be able to have sex for 6 weeks after the baby was born. And a man just can’t handle that, so what did she expect him to do? Any “real man” would do the same. Some people are just trash human beings. Absolute garbage.
@@kranberry3318 Yeah, to him the dog was just an excuse to get him away from his wife. And they never saw the dog again. We all hope that someone took the dog and kept him. He had a microchip, but it had her husband’s phone number on it, so I hope some nice family found the dog, called him, and he said to just keep it or something, and then never told my friend about it. He was vile. Thankfully he’s no longer in either her or the kid’s life. They’re both better off without him around.
RSlash didn't mention this, but the OPs job is a HISTORY TEACHER in the UK where WW2 is taught. OP also clarified that it be pretty much impossible to keep the name of his child secret as he has a cousin who is a student at the school, so it would most likely get out to the other students. This is why his job would have been on the line, OP was not exaggerating
Neither can I, I can't believe there would be mobbing over a completely different person decades later sharing a name with ONE bad person that not everyone would even know of. I certainly didnt.
I've never even heard of Eva Anna Paula Braun Hitler, History never mentions the women, and I don't really go out of my way to learn more about his home life, so I was taken completely off guard. But yeah, if there's even a zero-point-a-googol-of-zeros-one percent chance that the kids in school will find out that you named your kid after _a_ Hitler, it's not worth the risk. You'd think any sane person wouldn't want to name their kid after anyone associated with Hitler just on principle, not only because someone _might_ tease you... but that's just me.
Story 2: While Op is NTA, i really can’t blame his wife for her actions. She lost the person who she was closest to, having that happen plus being pregnant would make anyone not think clearly. The update brought tears to my eyes :) i’m soooo glad it worked out.
While I understand the grief that comes with losing someone close to you coupled with pregnancy hormones, I can't agree that she is free of accountability for her actions. But I am glad that everything worked out for the couple in the end. Having a child can be such a beautiful thing.
I don't agree. She sounds bratty and like she thinks she has all the say in their baby. I'm thinking she's used to getting her own way with her husband always doing the bending. Surely anyone with more than an ounce of consideration and awareness would understand that out of the tens of thousands of names that both parents should find a name they both agree on, and there are plenty of other ways to honour her friend.
Good drama will always be an exciting listen, but my absolute favorite moments are those rare times Rslash completely breaks character due to a story being utterly adorable and sweet. ❤❤❤ Calling all internet! Please direct all good vibes stories to Rslash! He deserves all the positive sweetness that the world has to offer! Let us join forces and make his voice forever be high pitched and his heart over flowing with cuteness! 😂
@@lordshaxx4693 I agree she did not a lot of bad (which is why the name Eva is still around while Adolf is not), but with that last name it still would raise a lot of eye brows.
@@lordshaxx4693 At worst they would have named her after Hitlers wife, at best after a severly mentally ill women who tried to commit suicide multiple times until she and Hitleer succeeded. That's still not good.
Story 2: remember couples, name your kids after dead friends so those friends can "live on" so your kid will always have impossible expectations to fulfill
Actually some people don't have issues. I was named after aunt and great uncle. I have been told about them lot. But never have I been compared to them.
@@kp2223 What exactly is the difference? Not like I really have that much authority here since I wasn't named after anybody in particular, but I can't imagine a child feeling pressured to live up to any huge expectations if the parents are just casual about naming them. As long as they don't constantly compare the child to whoever they were named after, what would the issue be?
@chillycat1925 do you honestly believe that this mother, who has explicitly said by naming her daughter after the friend that she will live for the friend, will not constantly compare the baby to the friend?
I’m named after both grandmas(they are both alive but this still fits) most people who name their kids after family or friends don’t except them to be just like the person they are named after people who do that usually aren’t fully healed from the trauma losing that loved one
“The brother was in critical condition“ AND OP WASN’T? OP 2:50 WAS NOT, NINE MONTHS PREGNANT ABOUT TO POP? THAT IS NOT A CRITICAL CONDITION? Hope he looses his wife and his parental rights as well.
"Critical condition" means the person is likely to die without medical intervention. While death in child birth is a possibility, it isn't a critical certainty. Notice how OP and child went to the maternity ward and not ICU and NICU. So no, nine months pregnant on the due date is not critical condition. However, it is critical that husbands be at the birth of their children if the relationship is to survive.
@@IsYitzachThat point is all kind of moot considering that shes had several miscarriages and a still birth. Which literally puts her at a high risk for another still birth or a whole host of complications. It COULD have been critical and because he took forever to answer his phone, finally did, heard he wasn't going to make it for the birth and then just went no contact for another 5 damn hours, both her and baby could have been dead and he just wouldn't have known.
And the guy just had some arm and leg injuries anyways. Also like, it's not HIS brother, it doesn't affect it. He chose Anna over his wife, even if he wasn't cheating, that would be wrong and weird
The Eva story reminds me of one rSlash did about a year ago where the expecting father's dad passed, and he wanted to name his son after his dad, but would have ultimately resulted in the kid basically being named "Teddy Bundy" (different spelling of the last name, but same pronunciation as the serial killer). I'm glad to see that both stories were able to come to a happy resolution! Day fourteen of asking for a return of Tales from Tech Support
If I had a nickel for every time a person asked if they were the antagonist for rejecting their spouse’s idea for a baby name (after a dead loved one) because the baby’s full name would phonetically match that of an infamous historical figure whose last name started with the letter “B”, I’d have two nickels. Which isn’t a lot, but still kinda stupid it happened twice.
Because it would be terrible for someone to share a name with ONE bad person. This is sarcasm. In both cases, it's just a fucking name man. I don't get this mentality that a name should be taboo because of one person. To hell with that person, recognize that this is a different person, & worry about shit that actually matters. Goodness.
Oh, damn!! Yeah, that increases the "yikes" factor by x100! 😮 I'm glad he stuck to his guns, while staying sensitive & considerate of his wife's emotions & runaway hormones. That can be a tough edge to balance.
Eva: I think it would be a very bad idea to name your baby after your dead best friend regardless of anything else. That's a lot of deep emotional pain to attach to your newborn. 🙁
*1st Story:* Here's to hoping OP put her now ex-husband's name is on the daughter's birth certificate so OP can get child support to show him the 18-year-long consequences of choosing his mistress!
Depends on the country, and how the daughter splits her time. In a lot of countries, if the mother went for sole custody and didn't want the father to see her (which outside of America, is almost impossible to do), plenty of countries will then waive any child support payments.
If she can't get child support, then she should at least sue the mistress for breaking up her marriage and emotional distress. You can do so in NY but I'm not sure about other states.
@@1mol831 Yeah that's true. I guess her best bet is to talk to her lawyer to see if she can get full custody of her kid sense the "father" as already proven that he'll prioritize his mistress over his kid. edit for spelling.
Abandoning your pregnant wife as she's giving birth to get balls deep in your mistress is one thing. Abandoning your pregnant wife as she's giving birth to get balls deep in your *ex* after you mutually decided it's best to just be friends is a deeper level of messed up.
Story 2: "Remember her by her name", sometimes a prophetic dream is more than just the most obvious solution. You can believe in prophetic dreams or think its a hot load, but its sweet to think that the spirit or memory of Eva wasn't talking about naming Lou's baby after her, but that Lou should let Eva help pick the baby name. Ultimately, thanks to Rose, that's just what happened, in a way Eva named Lou's baby and will always be remembered, but not overshadowering, her best friend's child.
Ya everyone would make the connection on the babys name. As soon as he said his last name was Brown I said to myself OH NO. Glad to hear that they were able to work it out.
Ig I'm not part of everyone then cuz to me its literally just a name. Idk who "everyone" is but people who make big deals out of names really confuse me.
I mention this whenever r/Slash does a baby name story so people can get into their thick skulls how important it is to not play around with names. I knew a guy in college who was never taken seriously, had job applications and resumes thrown in the trash, girls were walk away thinking he was taking a joke too far. He finally committed suicide and in his note he "thanked" his parents for ruining his life. We tried convincing him to change the name but the parents threathened to disown him if he "dishonored" the family. The parents ended up divorcing and the mother a few years later took her own life. The guy's name.........Donald Duk (no c). DO NOT PLAY AROUND WITH BABY NAMES!!!!!!!
That's beyond devastating right there. And we know that some people will say that "it's just a name. What is the big deal?" Kinda bad enough when so many people call your name incorrectly every (mostly on purpose). But now we have naming babies in the worst way possible where it follows
People need to understand that they are not naming a baby, they are naming a child, a teenager, an adult. Horrible to curse a child with a bad name, that goes for joke names as well as horribly written ones.
Story 1: Missing your baby’s birth is bad enough. Missing your baby’s birth because you were knocking boots with your side piece makes it soo much worse. I hope OP takes that POS to the cleaners! Story 2: If OP had gone behind his wife’s back to register their baby with a different name, it would have hurt his wife. The update was so sweet and wonderful. I’m so happy OP reached out to Eva’s sister!
“That’s a big burden for young shoulders.” Yep. My little brother was named after my mom’s dead brother, who died in a scuba diving accident when I was like… three or four. (My brother’s 7 years younger.) My mom’s parents were really old-school and I always got the feeling that if one of their daughters had died, they wouldn’t have been as devastated as they were losing one of their sons. My brother got told stories about an uncle he’d never met and I know it annoyed him. (I have a large tattoo on my upper arm that has flowers to represent family members, as a sort of memorial to family I’ve lost, and to celebrate family I have. )One of my mom’s sisters came for a visit and saw the tattoo, and after rolling her eyes at ‘marking my body’, she asked “Where’s your tattoo for Terry?” “Oh, I asked him and he’s thinking about what he wants to represent him.” “….no, *my* brother Terry.” It boggles the mind. I think there might be a picture of us together when I was a toddler but I have zero memory of him and no emotional connection to him whatsoever. (And my brother goes by Terrence now to separate himself.) Don’t push that kind of emotional weight on kids. I think what OP2 and his wife are doing is a really beautiful way to honor Eva without putting that weight on their daughter. (Honestly, the story reminded me of the one where the husband wanted to name their son Ted after his grandfather and insisted that their surname Bundy wouldn’t matter.)
my sister was named after our uncle who died before she was born, but our parents made it the middle name, so its less replacement and more honoring and its less burden because its the middle name.
I would've doubled down and said "I know, I asked him and he's thinking what he wants to represent him", and creeped aunt out by pretending you can talk to the dead :D But seriously though, that's terrible to place such a burden on a literal child.
@@darkunykorn404 I think I said something like “He was important to you, but he didn’t mean shit to me.” (It was especially weird since one of her sisters/my aunt, and her mom/my grandma had died recently and I had flowers to represent them, but all she could focus on was that her brother wasn’t represented.) I’m basically NC with my mom’s side of the family now. It sucks. My aunt who passed was the best one.
I remember that story too. I was named after my grandmother. She died over a year before I was born. It was hard for my family to say my name for the first couple of years so they called me by my Hebrew name, which my whole family and friends (from school) called me. I go by both my English/Hebrew interchangeably. I also never got compared to her but have heard stories about her when I want to hear about her.
For story 2, both parents need to completely agree on a baby name. And it's absolutely bonkers to assume no one will make the connection. It doesn't matter if the children don't make the connection AT FIRST. The teachers and parents would make the connection. And they would judge the parents. Which would destroy their personal communities, their child's life, and their marriage. I'm so happy Eva got to name the kids and OP reached out to his wife's sister. Otherwise the situation was building into the worst possible disaster.
Considering I instantly knew where the Eva story was going when OP mentioned his last name is Brown, it’s likely that kid will catch some flak being named Eva Brown
I always found the idea that you can't use a name because some evil person in the past had it incredibly dumb unless it's a famously evil person (like the failed Austrian painter). Also, idk if it's just me, but if I heard someone's name was Ava Brown, the idea of hitler's wife would literally never cross my mind.
I literally started crying during the last story. That's ADORABLE. I lost my best friend in high school to cancer. Until I decided I was child free, I was determined to name any kid with his name as a middle name.
If i had a nickel for every time a grieving spouse wanted to name their child after horrible people in history, id have two nickels. Which isnt a lot, but it's weird that it happened twice.
That name story... At first i was like "ah why not eva" And he started telling us about their marriage and how she took his name.. Brown And i just went "NO!" I'm happy they found a way to fix this mess And all i could think about was that ted bundy Story. Bundy as last name, and one of the parents wanted to remember their grandpa pr some relative who's name was Theodor
4:54 funny thing, I was expecting to hear Rslash say “This is why I don’t like to give 5/5 AHs because I like to save them for people like your ex-husband”
I liked an old post where the husband did something like this, but when he finally called, her brother told him they (baby and wife) didn't make it!! It was awesome!!
Wow, people really forget that you need to take the last name into account when naming babies. If your last name was Bundy you wouldn't name your kid Ted
At first I thought everybody was the buthole in that first story, but GODDAMN. First I learned that the guy wasn’t in critical condition then, learned the “husband” only went there to cheat?? Jesus
OMG! The first story is wild! No matter if they were broken up or not he should have never missed the birth of his child. I know of so many situations where even soldiers fighting on the front line would still be on the phone with the mother of their child while giving birth because thats what matters.
Umm... I hate to be the one to say it but does anyone think OP's ex in story one wanted his child to die or at least was thinking "they are going to die so why bother"... I hate to think like that but if the baby didn't make it he could have divorced OP "cleanly" and moved onto Anna... BUT if the baby survives he can keep Anna as a side piece while he has his "happy family"... Could also be why he was so negligent leaving her like he did so if something did go wrong (worse then it did) help might not arrive in time... I'm sure he saw those calls and knew what it meant at that time of night and still ignored them! Probably muted it after the first one! If it is like this he is the biggest POS there is...
I have to say, hearing Daphne getting emotional about the Eva story really brought a smile to my face, like hearing good news from an old friend. I hope that you get to read us more stories that bring you such good emotions.
That last one had me tearing up. I have lost close friends and that is as close as you can get to her coming back and telling you her opinion. I love it. So sweet!
2nd story sounds exactly like a story that's been covered on this channel, where a set of parents were trying to honor the wife's grandpa by naming the kid after him. The issue is that the grandpa's name was Ted and the couple's last name was Bounde (pronounced Bundy)
As a German, I had no idea who Eva Braun even was. Then I asked another German who is better in history class than I was, and she also had no idea. So I honestly don't think it's that bad of a name. Other than that I guess OP is in special circumstances that would make the name not very acceptable, and generally the wife's attachement to the name is because it belonged to her, and I don't think it's a very healthy thing to name someone after someone else, especially with this heavy of emotional baggage.
I don't know where you go to school, but it definitly came up when I was still in school when we covered WWII, or it might be what grade you're in and it's not covered yet.
@@TemariNaraannaschatz Ich weiß nicht ob das ganz am Ende drankahm oder so, weil einmal hatte ich G8 und kein Geschichte mehr gegen Ende von meiner Schulzeit. Kann sein, das die Person, die ich gefragt habe das auch noch lernen wird, ich weiß aber nicht ob sie Geschichte weiterwählt. Jedenfalls kann ich mich zumindest nicht daran erinnern, das wir Eva Braun jemals besprochen haben, es ging bei uns mehr darum wie es bei den Weltkriegen zu was gekommen ist und warum.
@@Ammiteur9 Ich hatte G8, wir durften Geschichte nicht abwählen, war aber zumindest damals schon von Bundesland zu Bundesland verschieden. Aber wir hatten auch schon seit der 9. Klasse nur 2. Weltkrieg in Dauerschleife. Wir haben zwar nicht ewig über sie diskutiert, aber zumindest vorgekommen ist sie.
@@TemariNaraannaschatz Ich denke es kann auch verschiedene Gründe haben warum gerade ich nichts davon wusste, vielleicht waren die Lehrer auch gerade verplant wegen Corona, oder in meiner Schule hat man sie tatsächlich nicht als wichtig angesehen, oder ich hab sie vergessen.
@@Ammiteur9 In all den Jahren seit ich mein Abi gemacht habe, hat sich das Schulsystem so oft geändert mein Cousin hatte wieder die Abiform meinter Mutter. Ein Freund von mir hatte damals ein Jahr vor mir Abi, aber in nem anderen Bundesland wo man praktisch alles abgwählen konnte, man brauchte nur genug Kurse. Dieses System muss man nicht verstehen. Ich denke das Problem bei solchen Namen für Kinder ist eben auch: es reicht wenn es eine Person merkt die dann einen damit aufzieht. Also während du den Namen nicht kanntest (und ich mal annehme auch nichts tun würdest) und ich niemanden wegen seines Namens ärgern würde, gibt es eben immer jemanden der es tut, oder noch schlimmer annimmt, dass es sich bei der Person um einen Neo-N*zi handelt. Offenbar ist OP Geschichtslehrer (laut einer Antwort auf dem original reddit post) sein Kind da Eva Brown zu nennen ist nochmal was anderes, da man da den Namen kennen sollte.
OK, even if the family's last name was Purple, the moment the wife asked 'how can Eva live on if I don't name baby after her?' the name Eva should have been off the table. As OP finally noted, that is a terrible burden to place on a child. And yeah, naming a child after a loved one (living or dead) is one thing and one that holds that risk. But, giving a child a name explicitly so that a lost loved one can 'live on' is just so very wrong on so many levels.
@Nekogal21 Ok, but rslash wasn't referring just to OP's family/social circle. He meant EVERYONE. So I'm just making a joke that my living under a rock makes HIS statement false, regardless if it actually affects OP
The Eva story, at first I was like "Eva is not a bad name. My sister is actually called that." Until it was mentioned that OPs name is actually Brown.... which directly translates to the german "Braun".... So yeah.... The moment the kids have history lessons about WW2 they would instantly make that connection
Here's a quick story. I promise it relates to the second one. In high school, when learning about WWII, we were told what Hitler deemed to be a perfect person. Blonde haired and blue-eyed. I kid you not, every single person in class turned to look at me, and it was so embarrassing being singled out like that, having been the single blonde haired, blue-eyed kid in that class. That's what would inevitability happen to that baby if they're named Eva Brown, but like a million times worse.
Couldn't help but laugh at the 2nd one. Apparently OP's wife was expecting the whole world to forget WWII ever happened. Reminded me of another post where a parent was determined to name their child after the grandfather, OP's last name was "Bunde".
This actually happened to me in my first marriage. I was in labor with our second child, and he left for several hours to use drugs and cheat. So happy that i have such a loving and kind husband now.
So let me get this right. In the second story, the wife repeatedly states she wants to name her child after Eva throughout their relationship. And at no point does the OP discuss his worry about her obsession with naming her child that/"resurrecting" her dead friend with a name or getting her mental health support. He knew his wife wanted the name Eva when they married and she took the surname Brown (which *isn't* pronounced the same way as Braun, but okay). So he waited to bring up his issues with the name Eva and instead of talking about his cousin or worry about his wife's grief, he brings up an obscure historical figure who was only married to Hitler for around 36 hours. The wife initially compromises and, when her desire for this name overwhelms her and she expresses it, he STILL doesn't bring up her mental health? He just says "oh, yeah, while she's passed out from shooting a kid out her nethers, I'm gunna NAME THE BABY MYSELF" as if his grief-stricken wife is gunna still be married to him after that. It takes him posting on Reddit and talking to Rose to finally bring up actually valid points that would've gotten rid of a lot of this headache. He seriously lacks communication skills. I really hope that as his wife gets therapy for her grief, he gets therapy for his avoidant behavior and trash communication skills. This situation could've gone very, very badly.
No, she didn't. She had a dream while she was pregnant to name her Eva, they already had previously agreed on another name. A similar name to the one they had previously agreed on was taken by another family member and they then wanted something different, when the wife had a dream and pergnancy hormones took over, insisting they name their daughter Eva. He then brought the issue up with her, she was not receptive to it and then went to talk to someone else about it he believed she might listen to due to the connection with Ava. This is a very short timespan not years or months. And as a native german speaker: Braun (the german word for brown) is pronounced very similar to brown. I could hear it through the screen before he said it. And her name is not obscure, if you had decent history lessons she does come up, she was his misstres for years and died with him.
“my wife wants to name the baby Eva” So? Eva’s a common name. A lot of my friends have Eva as a nickname- “our last name is Brown” OH HELL NAH. Do NOT name that baby Eva.
I was doing homework as one does while listening so i didnt make the connection in story 2 right away, so i was like "whats so bad about being named eva brown?" Cause i didnt know a historical figure with that name verbatim so i looked it up (i had not gotten to the point of rlash verbatim saying what it was lol). And behold eva braun popped up. And when i tell you my jaw dropped. How do you not see how fucked up it is naming your kid that? Man im glad the story had a happy ending
I prefer how the Eva story ended but for half of it I was just wondering why they couldn't just change their surname. Then she could name her daughter Eva. But the reasoning about burdening the child made more sense. Glad it worked out.
1st story, I would put money on the Husband justifying it to himself that this is probably gonna be another stillbirth, and that "OP can't give me a child, so what's the harm in fooling around?". Probably some "When the baby comes out dead, I don't wanna be there to deal with the waterworks" sprinkled in, which is why he didn't come back asap. Only for him to get the call that the baby is alive and well, and suddenly everything comes crashing down.
Story 2: I wish rSlash mentioned it, but OP said in a comment that he was a high school history teacher. Most high school history teachers end up having to go over WWII in depth, so having a kid named Eva Brown would be a _really_ bad look for him.
That last story was really sweet. I'm glad that OP and Eva's sister were able to steer the wife away from using Eva's name and using one of the girl names Eva was in love with to honor her instead. As OP said, it can put a burden on a child to live up to another person who they will never meet and who people will always compare them to, knowingly or not.
The moment kids start learning about WWII, their daughter would be chased out of school if they name her Eva. Her friends will be fine, but the acquaintances who don't know her, and feel nothing for her will bully her just for something to do. They won't even have to not like her, just be completely indifferent, and they'll tease her because it's fun. Props to OP for supporting his wife through this, even though he was in opposition to her.
You know what’s crazy about story 2? I was thinking to myself naming a child after a terrible historical figure is probably a bad idea like what if someone named their child after Hitler. Would it still be fine if it’s honoring someone else. Then I googled “Eva Braun…”
Story 1: I'm kind of relieved to hear that the husband was cheating. It seems sort of tragic for a relationship to be over for one "mistake", since presumably everything else was fine. You are left thinking "If he hadn't made this one big mistake, would everything have been fine?". The answer being nope, the relationship was crumbling anyway. There was nothing left to possibly salvage. All complicated feelings can be resolved.
1st story: When my youngest was born, I was gone for military training. I was balls deep in mud, in the middle of nowhere, Ca, had to pack my stuff back into my duffle bag, and I was still able to get back to my wife in about 3 hours, missing the birth by 2 1/2 hours. This dude was balls deep in his "friend" and couldn't make it across town in 5 hours? What a useless sleaze ball.
Not only is "Eva Braun" pronounced the same, it means the same. It's LITERALLY the same name, as in, if you translate it, it will just be that name. I'm pretty sure this is even illegal to do in Germany, mostly to protect the child -.-
If Eva hadn't made that list, her sister would be doing the couple a solid by inventing one... If I were named after someone terrible (say my name was Herman, which it's similar to, but my parents' surname was Goering) I would NOT thank my mother for that, nor would her sweet dead friend Uncle Herman be on my mind when the bullies chanted my name at me.
S1) OP's ex is a skeez. Best of luck Anna. How you gain them is how you loose them. But hey you two are made for each other so maybe it might not happen. Just keep your mess to yourselves please. The rest of society don't play that. S2) I'm so glad Op's wife is able to honor her friend in a way that's healthy for everyone and is getting the help she needs.
last story: my brother was NeARLY named after my grandfather, who passed twelve years before I was born (sixteen before my brother). in the end tho they put grandfather's name as part of my brother's middle name bc my mum became genuinely terrified my grandmother would steal him, or try to parent my brother over mum. even after my brother was born, my grandmother called him by my grandfather's name for years which confused the hell out of me, my sister, and our cousins until my dad (who used to be a bit of a mama's boy but managed to get out of that cloud after he got with mum) finally put his foot down and told my grandmother to call my brother by his name. she did, pretty begrudgingly, but I am so glad my dad finally said something coz my poor brother would have been a REPLACEMENT for my grandmother, which is so much worse
There was a guy at a school I went to ages ago whose last name was Brown, first name Charlie. I thought he had some issues with the teasing. That ain't nothing compared to what that poor baby would have had to endure growing up.
For the "bad name" story, i agree with op. I mean, i know someone named dylan, a relatively common name, but kids made fun of him because someone named dylan either did a school shooting or some other atrocity. All they had in common was a name and the fact that he wasn't a social butterfly. Kids are cruel and will use anything regardless of how insignificant or unrelated it might seem.
As a German, the very moment the line with the name Brown appeared I had an "ouch" moment. So I'm very much in agreement with rSlash, at least here in Germany that connection is instant for everyone that did not sleep through history class in school.
With the Eva Brown story I didn't make the connection to Eva Braun at first so the mother might not be entirely wrong that not many people will make the connection. BUT in the age of social media it only really takes 1 person to make and point out that connection and then EVERYONE will. So yea, I'm glad the kid isn't getting that unfortunate name.
Not sure if I missed the guy mentioning their surname was Brown early on, if he did mention it then, but I was wondering why he was so dead set against the name until he paired it with the surname. Yeah, that would be a TERRIBLE thing to do. I think a first name is one thing... I mean, I named my daughter Roxanne despite being told I shouldn't because of the Police song, and she hasn't been given any trouble about it because the song really hasn't stayed popular... but a name like Eva Brown would... man, I just can't even think of a word strong enough, I already said it would be horrible, I'll leave it at that.
Personally I didn’t know who she was. I was thinking that she was like the wife of some local serial killer by the way she described it, but really?! One of the worst guys in history?! A pretty famous one too. I don’t know why she would think that’s okay. When I heard who she was married to I was immediately on the husband’s side.
I just want to say this before the update to the first story I'm just happy to see that the OP in the story you know had a backbone to pretty much tell her husband no you screwed up by prioritizing somebody else over me and your child who was just born and already they're playing second fiddle to somebody else And if that's how things are going to be then we're divorcing and I'm loving that this poster is being serious about how they were neglected by their husband they had to rely on their father as an emergency contact to literally get them to the hospital to make sure they were able to get birth and then I think the thing of finding so sad is how the OP even states that she has miscarried once and imagine if that happened this man I'm just going to be like oh we lost the baby and it's like dude you literally prioritize another person over your child that possibly never could have been born again and I'm not going to lie it's just so exciting cuz I'm so tired of these spouses that you know just betray the idea of being there for these people in these situations all because you know I get it has something to do with maybe them cheating or being neglectful assholes and stuff like that but it's still not right
