Me also. I'm wondering why Bob went all scorched earth on everyone, not just the cheating wife. I think there's details being left out bc I'm getting weird "defending the cheater" vibes here.
To all those saying Bob couldve had charges pressed for revenge porn, he couldnt. The law came in 2015, this story is most likely from way before then (“before smartphones were everywhere” being the giveaway)
@@jlnger149 It probably only really counts if you sent it to people who aren't one of the parties for the sake of hurting them rather than exposing cheating
Oh for sure, in the infancy of the Internet posting public pictures of people online was an easy form of blackmail because there were no laws against it yet. Especially with digital photography where no actual film or physical media was ever used. There were a TON of loopholes early on.
Very satisfying to see cheaters get karma. Though I think the first story might be the only time we got one of these stories where the cheated actually doesn't have a possibility of a good ending.
Poor guy sought to get justice, but ended up destroying himself, too. He became jaded, bitter, and from what I can hear, developed "incel" behavior. I don't blame him too much, though. I just hope he finds help.
@@herooftime1000 Uhh I blame him.? He doesn’t get an excuse for becoming a giant misogynist. Man, some of you men DESPERATELY find ANY way to defend each other, ANY little ways you can. It’s truly pathetic.
you are just hearing the bad ones, there are plenty of people who have healthy and happy relationships. just use these stories as warnings. its like going diving in the ocean. you can't just get on a boat and jump in, you need to be prepared and know what not to do and what to look out for. if you are careful and look out for danger signs, you will have a great time.
i mean cheating is one of the most common ways for couples separation but most of this cases are invented or the %0.1, getting into a relationshipt is worth the risk (except marriage imo)
It's real simple. Don't be an a-hole and don't put up with a-holes. That doesn't cover every problem you may encounter in a relationship but it covers the vast majority of them.
No romance scam will ever be as legendary as the woman who sent thousands and left her husband because she was convinced she was talking to dacre Montgomery (Billy from Stranger Things)
Story 3: Wow, so not only was he cheating on his wife, or at least trying to, but he was also basically trying to leech off of OP in the process under the guise of "Sugar Mommy." That is evil right there. Basically hurting multiple people at once for his own selfish gain.
I honestly always thought the whole Sugar Mommy/Sugar Daddy thing starts with the M/D in question approaching someone with the proposal, cuz I imagine rarely anyone's going to want to give access to their credit card in exchange for romance.
2nd Story - That whole encounter is 100% the mom's fault. Picked up a man from jail, enabled him for years, and (surprise Pikachu face)... he turned out to be a scumbag?! Who could have seen that coming?! Everybody. Literally everybody.
@@loganblackwood2922 Because men never pick terrible partners? 😆😆 It's not a woman or man issue. It's a human issue. We don't always make good choices. We don't always value ourselves. We sometimes invest in the wrong people. Most of us learn from such experiences. Some of us NEVER learn...
@@loganblackwood2922 haha, the guy generically blaming "women", complains we supposedly "blame *all* men", if we have a bad experience. the irony lol. dude, grow up. heeding fdm's comment ^ would be a good start.
Story 1: If you think about it, this feels like a "Don't mess with the IT guy", dialed up to eleven. I just don't understand why do people cheat on your significant other and potentially getting caught. Honestly, this is a smart way to expose someone.
Cheaters are terrible and they deserve terrible things. But revenge p*** is illegal. In Canada It's 5 to 10 years in jail. And up to a $50,000 fine. It is considered one charge per email that he sent the link to. So it would be sent it to 10 people. That's 10 federal charges. So he'll probably get the max. I'm not sure but I believe in some states like California. It's illegal. All of the European Union is illegal. If you sent that to someone who was in a state where it's illegal, they can still press charges. Then if they go for custody it'll be a really good case for her to get full custody. It was really stupid. I get the need to have revenge against somebody, but sometimes you have to be smart about the revenge. Make sure it can't be linked back to you. As somebody who does IT in systems. You should be better than that. You should be smarter than that. Real stupid
Are you a child ? Because no adult with any common sense would consider posting a revenge porn smart . Not only would he lose any sympathy but on top of that his wife and her love have an excellent legal case against him
@@transsnack Yes, the guy himself was a complete a-hole. However, what you do in that situation is GET A DIVORCE! Honestly, I think they were made for each other, because they both seemed like massive douchebags.
It’s stories like these that make me thankful for the relationship my wife and I have. They remind me that no matter what minor gripes that may come up between us, it could be far worse. Find someone that you can find a way to laugh off whatever troubles arise. Don’t try to change one another. Be with someone who you can be yourself with and loves you the same way that you love them. Have a good day y’all. Be kind to yourself and to those you hold close.
😂 That last one got me! I say that friend should go buy herself a nice dress, have a night out, and meet someone real who won't try to clean her out for everything she's worth. Then maybe get something nice for the kids, sounds like they deserve something nice to.
1st story if it happened now this would get 'Bob' serious legal trouble from possible jail time to huge lawsuit. Posting those things is now called 'revenge porn' and most states it is illegal. In my state alone it is an felony.
@@truthseeker9249it really isn't. I get she cheated but this type of thing is one of the most horrible things you can do to anyone and it destroys lives.
@@Codemeister1105 not really, you'll get over it eventually. But putting something that doesn't belong to you in the internet without permission? I say OP's friend is the worst one in this situation. He could have done a million other things to move on with his life but he went down the bitter, hate filled road to hell and now has nothing. No wife, no kids, tons of weight gain and probably lives alone. I bet his kids hate him or will hate him in the future once they found out what he did to their mom.
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As much as cheating is the ultimate deal-breaker so is revenge porn. Which is what "Bob" did. He should feel lucky nobody is pressing charges for sharing naked photos of people without their consent regardless of the terrible things they've done
Aye. Sysadmin here, i agree. Don't get me wrong, they deserved everything they had coming, but the posting of sexually explicit content of others without their consent could have easily ended that guy's IT career. Computer-based crimes rack n stack quickly. That could have ended badly.
Ha, that’s funny: He is a part of my evening routine. I live in Europe so there is a significant time difference, so Dabney’s posts always drop at the end of the afternoon here.
Betty "Don't tell Chris where you got this info but I'm the one who caught him". Was he aware she caught him? If so, I'm sorry Betty, I don't think that will matter 😂
The guy in the first story is extremely lucky that neither the ex wife or other guy reported and sued him for what he did. While cheating isn't illegal, revenge porn most certainly is.
Many would gladly go to prison for that. They’d likely get cheered up and get standing up ovations when entering the facility. They won’t stay there for long, and soon they’d move on. Meanwhile, the cheaters would carry the shame for the rest of their lives. They’ll never recover. It’d be worth it for many.
I have no sympathy for cheaters. Getting cheated on can scarred someone heart. My boyfriend’s ex cheated on him a month after they got together. After that he had trouble opening up his heart. I was very patient for him to tell me I love you for the first time. Screw cheaters
"Take the website down before it does irreparable damage to your marriage" OP, what? I just had a wtf moment at this sentence. The marriage was allready beyond salvation before the website
I love the creative writing projects like story one. The use of Bob as the proxy no doubt came after they either realized that the website in the story would be wildly illegal, but they didn't want to throw away the story.
Yo, the comment story at the end. Something similar happened to me. I was late to work and had changed in the parking lot.(nothing indecent, my work pants over my basketball shorts and so on) but my wallet had fallen out. I had not known about it for like 2 days since I use my phone to pay most days. But I had a odd charge on my bank. So I flagged it. But as I told the bank to shut it down my account once I seen that my wallet was missing. Just right before, the person had deposited a 2000 dollar check, little had they known that account was emptied a week prior for rent, which I overdrafted. So without knowing, a had a check for 980ish dollars come to my house. Confused. I went to the bank, scared it would get me in trouble. The clerk looked into it and gave it the green light. Free money I assume, with my debt paid....and oddly enough, my credit score had gone up nearly 10 points
Call me stupid, but how exactly does putting 2-10k into someone's account end up being beneficial for the scammer? Is it some sort of confidence thing? Like, now that we've established that I (scammer) can put money in the (victim's) account, let me take out money? There's no reason that should work... otherwise any idiot could give Gates/Bezos/Musk/Luthor (insert the billionaire of your choice) some money and then withdraw a billion... or something.
@mariposa9506 well if he does, it's on him. I explained the situation as I understood it at the time. Which was a 900 dollar check randomly in my mail. And he took it in the back, talked to a manager and said it was cool.
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I personally didn't find these revenge stories as amusing as the entitled kid/parent stories. There is a r/F*ckYouKaren subreddit with 1.5m followers that I'm hoping Dabney will will discover. 😀
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It might have been before the laws were strengthened, but yeah that's what I was thinking. The hacking and revenge porn is absolutely illegal now, and will get you jail time, not just a lawsuit.
S3: Hmmm. It’s one thing to ruin the livelihood of the scammer who is here on a work visa. But to ruin the company he worked for along with the lives of the other people who had nothing to do with the actions of the scammer is wrong.
Bob and his ex-wife are both terrible people. Wow. And OP is... proud of what Bob did? Why? Bob committed whole-ass _crimes_ in his pursuit of revenge, that's not anything to celebrate.
The story is older than revenge porn laws... Also, why do you defend cheaters to start with? They literally fucked around and have been found out. If you want your sex life to stay private, don't go sleeping around while in a relationship~
@@Robin93kthé absence of law doesn’t make it right. Also if Bob is capable of violating his wife privacy and publicly humiliate her… maybe she was afraid to leave him. Cheating doesn’t make you a monster, what Bob did does
@@Etienne.6329Wow that is the most horrible take I have ever fucking heard. Honestly I don't really care about the revenge porn. But to say cheating doesn't make you a total piece of shit is crazy. And then go on and assume Bob was an abuser? Thats horrible I hope somebody holds you accountable of the big assumptions you make.
Dudes pulling romance scams whilst he has a wife and children? Yikes on several bikes! I hope she divorced him, rinses him for all he’s worth, and gets tested for any STDs, poor woman.
Those laws didn't exist in the time before smart phones, bud. If there's no law standing, there's no crime committed. Beyond that, cheaters don't deserve the protection of law. They deserve public shame and ridicule.
@@SkunkApe407this is not a good thought process! everyone should have protection of law, because when they dont, people will exploit that to abuse people. imagine if someone wanted to post revenge porn of somebody else but first framed them as a cheater so that it would suddenly be okay. that wouldnt be good! the same thing happens with prisons and voting. since people in prison arent allowed to vote, you have people getting imprisoned to stop them from voting
Story #2: I had a neighbor across the hall who would drink three 6-packs a day! You could stand next to him (but not too close) and he literally reeked of beer. His daughter once came over to help him clean up and she toted three large garbage bags of empty cans out to her car. If memory serves me correctly he died not long after.
I would like to think that someone was watching the last woman's bank account and waited for money to be put in, THEN closed the account knowing what would happen. XD
That generous soul would be donating the banks money. Not sure why they would do that. The friend will need to repay that or face potential legal consequences.
@@Wendy_O._Koopa If the banks had so much hassle over this one account. they might have just closed it JUST to get rid of the headache, didn't he say, they wouldn't refund her anymore? and maybe some kind soul was just in the right place at the right time when the money came in?
@@mariposa9506 the way it was worded, sounds like they were using the lady as a money mule. that money in the bank would have been from scams (as scammer will use victims of scams, to launder money) so if the money was taken from a lagit account, it's tough, it's gone. it was a real transaction. and the account is no longer on their system, making it not their problem. he scammer would have to go after the woman personally, and there is no way they are gonna get police involved. and the chances of them physically going after the money are also very tiny... doesnt mean they wont harass her over the phone and she will eventually crack, cos she's already a scammer victim. but we can hope she takes the cash and runs... it's probably less than she's lost.
Uh, that first story, isn't that massively illegal under revenge "passionate hugging videos" laws? Maybe this was before those laws were established. I'm all for outing cheaters but yeesh. 😬
It seems like it was before those laws existed, based on the things OP said. Also, it may have been a factor in why those laws exist now, along with several hundreds/thousands of other instances.
Bet you the bank eventually comes after the woman for the $8k in fraudulent funds... Or the check that cashed eventually gets returned for NSF or a stop payment.
I dislike taht story where op went scorched earth and weaponized immigration against her Ex. Her actions directly affected his roommates and his family. She and her friends literally harassed his family too . Like I get wanting revenge but this is really bad .
She made it her personal mission to gather a team and destroy that guy's life just because he said he didn't want anything serious. Even though she also didn't want anything serious for the moment. Geez.
Guy was cheating on his wife, skulking to leech off well-off women, running internet scams, working illegally overseas, why give sympathy to this guy just because karma happened to come in the form of a woman scorned? I've done more for less than this list
@@HarlequinWriter because the levels she went preyed on systemic and social issues far more important than her feelings . And BECAUSE SHE ENDANGERED THE SAFETY AND LIFE OF HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY WHI HAD ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH IT . That’s why
For that third story when OP said "people say I'd be a 10 if I lost 30 lbs" I am flabbergasted, she's a 10 no questions asked the fuck 😂 those motherfuckers just bitter lol
I don't understand how you could cheat on your partner. You're supposed to be the best of friends. Story One; I get Bob was cheated on, but he distributed illegal revenge porn, and he is just a disgusting person. In my book, distributing revenge porn is far worse than cheating. Doing either is honestly the lowest of the low. Story Two; Isn't having a relationship with an inmate/former inmate as a cop like SUPER illegal???? I'm aware it isn't now. But still, dating someone who was an inmate at your prison only a short while after they get out seems wrong to me. Chris is still an asshole though. Story Three; I don't really have much to say. It's a standard cheating revenge story. NEVERMIND! She harassed his family and roommates and tried to get them DEPORTED because HE insulted her after the first date.
story 2: it’s not actually illegal. it’s dependent on which state and which jail the inmate is housed in. the one i worked at said you can’t talk to or attempt to have a relationship with an inmate till they’ve been out for like 3 months or something idk. it’s quite odd. but you can be fired if you’re having a relationship with an inmate and removed from working a specific floor if your current partner becomes an inmate
Had the exact same thought on Story 1. Cheating is one of the worst non-illegal things you can do to a person but revenge porn very definitely crosses over to illegal
I don't think Bob was in the right state of mind... being drunk and all not an excuse for him, he should have met a divorce lawyer showed them everything and go to court
@@bloodhunter3186 idk.... After distributing the revenge porn, he proceeded to become quote 'a terrible person' and I don't want to know what an OP who would support/take part in revenge porn considers a terrible person.
Nah, she sounds like a catch. You, however, sound insecure. There's nothing sexier than a pretty big girl with confidence and self-respect. Stick to the twigs, if real women scare you.
Nah the 3rd story. You’re beautiful just the way u are. There’s no such thing as “if you lost weight, you’d be a 10”. Just means you’re a 10 in my book
This might get buried, but I want to share some information about romance scammers. In addition to accessing bank accounts and pulling money, there is also a good chance that the money being sent (or requested to be sent elsewhere) is dirty money and being laundered. The victim, EVEN IF THEY DONT KNOW IT, is legally liable for money laundering.
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"He drank 12 beers a day!"... so a warm-up session for those in the military? Shit we would pound ATLEAST 12 beers and a few shots before hitting the bars around town back when I was in lol
The op in the last story is woefully unknowledgeable about scams. Their friend didn't walk away with the scammers money their friend defrauded a bank, for which they may have legal consequences or at the very least destroying their credit rating.
@@JessidafennecfoxNot even. 12 beers in a day is hardly enough to even maintain a buzz. You can drink a beer and wait an hour, and be legal to drive. If dude woke up at 8 am, started drinking at 10am, and stayed up drinking until 10pm, that would only equal one beer per hour. Depending on his body mass, and how much and often he eats, he might not even get a buzz at that rate. I've personally been on fishing trips where I have, by myself, drank 20 beers, in a 12 hour period, and barely felt anything. Alcohol actually metabolizes fairly quickly, and staying fed and hydrates actually increases the speed at which your body can process it.
1:47 I was so onboard until this. I LOVE when cheaters get exposed because screw you for messing with people. However... This reveal is distasteful. And actually illegal. The guy had the upper hand but once he shared certain screenshots, depending on the content, he basically opened himself up to a lawsuit for 'Revenge P*rn'. Especially as he added individual comments too. Big ooft if the ex-wife or her lover ever figure it out OR if the people sent the link want to take it further for 'distress' it may have caused them. Expose cheaters, yes. Get your own back in some way, sure. But don't let them further ruin your life than they already have when you're plotting your revenge.
Revenge porn laws didn't exist at the time of this story, therefore meaning that there was no crime committed. Regardless, cheaters shouldn't have the benefit of protection under those laws. Cheaters should be branded, marked, and publicly shamed for their inability to display common decency. They shouldn't have any right to decency, when they clearly lack decency themselves.
The concept of revenge porn is relatively new. Within the last 10 years, actually. Prior to the advent of smart phones, there were no such laws. Disregarding that, she was sleeping with another man in Bob's house. If she is brazen enough to disrespect Bob that way, she doesn't deserve the benefit of decency. I say all cheaters should be similarly shamed in public and ridiculed for lacking morals. Revenge porn laws should be reserved for the protection of those who were innocent of wrongdoing. Cheaters, on the other hand, should be branded and marked as untrustworthy.
i think its insane that this skunk ape guy thinks it’s appropriate to “brand and mark” another human being like at all. to the point where hes commented it multiple times. revenge porn is sexual abuse. the text message screenshots were enough to prove her guilt. no one is a good person here but sexual abuse is never an appropriate response or revenge to anything
