r/Trueoffmychest My Wife Cheated on Me, Then Laughed at Me 

Story 1: I don't blame OP for lashing out at her mom like that. OP has been lied to for years, she still has the gall to act defensive despite ruining OP'S life and letting Hank bully and abuse OP. Stand your ground OP, don't let Hank bully you anymore.

So a few updates for first story: - OP is going NC with her mother, and seems it's the second time (she went NC before due to her mother don't respecting her boundaries and trying to get OP to 'reconcile' with Hank, but broke it due to the pandemic), but seems this time it's for good; - She got her own lawyer who said her parent's cease-and-desist (yeah her mother co-signed that crap, another of the reasons OP is going NC with her) and possible lawsuit are bogus, and they don't have any leg to stand on. And OP also lives in a state with pretty good sunshine laws, so if they sue all of the stuff they pulled will be in public record, so even worst for them; - She's trying to get CPS records and also the police arrest records, but she's getting into brick wall after brick wall with CPS due to how old they are, and she thinks the records probably gotten 'taken care off' since Hank has a friend who's a police officer; - She found out one of her friends have Hank's lawyer as a friend on Facebook for almost a decade, even though they never met irl, and that's probably how they got her post's screenshots (Facebook being Facebook, since even being friends with her friend, Hank's lawyer shouldn't be able to see her posts); - She also found 'interesting' that Hank's lawyer friend went to a HBCU, but Hank is a raging racist (as if there wasn't any more reasons to find him a disgusting POS), even dropping the N-word multiple times at the table during dinner.

Story 4: Honestly, I can imagine myself having the same confusion. I end up unintentionally revealing that one of my neighbors is cheating because they're being too loud in bed, and I can't tell who exactly is on the other side of the wall. But then again, it's the cheaters fault for being so loud that it alerted someone

My ex-wife cheated on me and then rubbed it in my face. Then she wanted to act shocked when I demanded paternity on the kids. She has refused paternity on all three and has refused me any contact with them, so I haven't payed a penny in child support. As per the courts, I am not obligated to pay for children that aren't mine. If she refuses to provide said proof, that's the same to the courts as an admission. It's cold and callous, and it hurts me to no end, but that woman ruined my life and stole eleven years and hundreds of thousands of dollars from me, already. I'm not letting her get away with her shit anymore.

Story 1: OP’s mom definitely picked up a few of her abuser’s tactics to use against OP to deflect all the accountability and responsibility for the damage she allowed/inflicted. I hope OP can forgive themselves for lashing out at their mom because everything they said is what she needed to hear.

Story 1: when she was being beaten she let a child stand up for her, then had you take her place, even ran away so you and your brothers could be taking the CPS in hopes of being a better life. There is nothing you can say to that woman that will ever put you in the wrong, the fact that she tried to say it was for your own good mean she's even a deep state of denial or just want you to stop blaming her, probably both. You have every right to find your bio dad, also so long as you can prove he didn't abuse you, which you can wear all of the police report and CPS calls over your entire childhood, you'll be fine. He can't control you anymore and he knows it so he's looking for other way to do it, and it's not going to work he just try to use intimidation, I know it's your trauma making you afraid but he's a worthless old man now, he can't do anything.

Last story: dude this isn't even the problem, it's not her money and it makes way more sense to pay off your debts then to add more to it. And she can kick and scream all she wants legally she has no leg to stand on.

Story 5: I think OP found a real life cheat code, took an unhappy marriage and reaped all the benefits without the negatives by steering into it.

“What’s worse, an abusive stepdad or a mother who lets her kid be abused?” I distinctly remember moments in my HS years where my mom would get mad at me for messing up and getting my stepdad mad. When he got mad, we both suffered. To her credit it was because she’d try to defend me but still, you do things you wouldn’t normally when you’re stuck in a marriage with an abusive POS. The stepdad is beyond worse in this case.

Story 1: I'd contact the law office directly. There's always the chance that his letter is a fake, and they'd be *very* interested in a fake legal letter being sent in their name. Just heard a story where the in laws sent a letter from a law office demanding a paternity test. The letter was fake and the lawyer is suing the inlaws.

The poly story reminds me of how I discovered the difference between being lonely and being alone. I love hanging out with myself. I think I’m pretty cool.

Story 2: this is how private citizens become private investigators, either personal tragedy or happenstance 🙌🏽 fantastic job, OP!!

Cheating: The real person claiming “rules for thee and not for me” is the wife. Doesn’t matter what her reasoning was, she didn’t communicate it. She could have asserted that since she can’t trust OP, she’ll only take him back in an open marriage. But she didn’t, so now she’s a cheater too. So either she can take the 1 conversation of grief he’s entitled too (she did the exact thing she did) and they move on, or she can admit the relationship is dead and move on separately.

Story 3: based on this, both of them suck. Like he sucks for cheating, duh, but she sucks for the lack of communication. Cause if they communicated then this would have been delt with long ago and either they could be monogamous or have an open relationship or just outright divorce Story 5: Good for her, honestly

Last story: my father told me years ago not long before I start my life on my own that a man with no debt is a free man. I'm still holding onto those words and try to focus on paying off all my student debts

story 5: polyamory is not the same as polygamy. polyamory is supposed to be based on mutual communication and consent

The cheating story really makes me angry for a few reasons. 1. OP cheated 2. He's blind to the idea the marriage can be saved 3. The wife for sleeping with others while still married 4. The wife not filing divorce and moving on In conclusion, both of them suck and should have separated after the cheating, not sleeping around with others while the husband tried to rebuild the broken and shattered vase that was the marriage.

Cheating husband finding out about cheating wife story: what OP did wasn't right, but neither is what his wife did. You know they talked about the cheating and he apologized for doing it. There's no way she really believed he was cheating. She just stopped caring.

"YOU'RE SO UNGRATEFUL!" FOR WHAT???????? BEING BEATEN CONSTANT AS A CHILD BY AN ABUSIVE FATHER AND ENABLING MOTHER?

Regarding the cheating story: Yes, he's in the wrong initially. But that in mind, she took him back, reconciled, and part of reconciliation is about communications..... which she just flat out didn't do. She didn't ask if he continued the affairs, she didn't give open marriage as a condition for reconciliation, she didn't do anything other than do exactly what he did, which while wrong, yes, that doesn't make her right. One time, sure, okay, maybe a single person for a few years, okay. But an ongoing parade of guys for 4 years, without so much as saying anything is just as bad, if not worse, especially when considering the risks of STDs. Should've had this discussion in family therapy. She should've just divorced him and saved the trouble.

Friendly reminder that one person going outside of a relationship to do whatever is not polyamory.

Story 1: This whole story was a bloody mess. Hank was abusive to both OP's bio mother and OP, as well as a pretty bad liar, and the mom seems to have some serious resentment to OP's bio dad and is taking it out on OP when she was asked about him. I doubt Hank can really do anything, since OP isn't lying about the abuse. Hank's just an abusive coward

First story: Golden Rule: If a lawyer needs EIGHT pages to reason why someone should put down a social media post, then it's hot air. Your lawyer should have an easy job here. ^^

A Cease and Desist has no real weight in and of itself. It's used for one of two things. 1: To warn someone to back off if you have a legitimate claim, so you both are spared the time and expense of fighting it in court. Or 2: To try and scare someone off when every lawsuit you can think of would only get thrown out. It's basically a warning shot, and nothing more. Whether or not the warning can be backed up with action is another matter.

Story 1: The mom was like, "Well I'm not getting beat them anymore so it's all good." Seriously fuck her. Story 2: This is just a humble brag. Story 3: As you said rslash, "Fuck around and find out." Story 4: OP did right. Story 5: OP's husband played himself so fucking hard and he doesn't even know it. Story 6: GF just trying to dig into OP's pockets. He better be careful with her.

When my mom was married to my first stepdad and she caught him abusing me, she would join in. When she was married to my second stepdad and she caught him abusing me, she would punish me and kick me out of the house. It's been 2 decades since the second stepdad, and I'm still bitter towards my mother and both stepdads.

Story 1: some parents REALLY need to be told that they never should have become parents, and most often that needs to come from their kids. Too many grown ass adults think the sun rises and sets on the fact that they chose to bless their children with a shitty existence.

Story 1: to be fair, anyone in Ops position would lash out at they’re mother, I mean she’s just letting Hank bully and abuse Op and she has the nerve to act defensive like she didn’t know.

As a person in a poly relationship of 3 (a guy, a girl and me, 32/31/30) the couple in the story is in an open marriage and they are only married for the children, NOT polycule or polygamy. The difference is that our polycule is closed and if one of us is interested in a new romantic person, we have to discuss and agree just like a monog couple would. It's important to explain the difference because many people don't know and people assume that, since we're poly, we can just go run around with anyone which is disrespectful to my relationship. Will answer any poteltial questions, have a good day

Idk, that whole infidelity situation in story 3 was a mess. OP was an idiot for cheating in the first place, but at least he put in the work to rebuild the relationship after he realized what he did was wrong. Meanwhile his wife was lying to him the whole time that was happening. If she didn’t want to get back together with him/assumed he would cheat again anyway, why go through with getting back together and going to therapy? I’m kinda more upset with her than I am at him. I hope they finally get divorced though-toxicity abounds in that non-marriage.

Story 1: Cease and desist letters are a warning letter telling you that their next step is a lawsuit if you don't stop. If you stop, the lawsuit goes away. But if they sue anyways, you can have the lawsuit thrown out. So, C&D letters do have legal weight.

3rd story: OP cheated and that’s messed up but what’s more messed up is that he took the steps to get better even going to therapy with his wife just for her to cheat with not 1 but multiple men. If you never intended on fixing the relationship why not just get a divorce tbh in this case the wife is even worse than op

Story 5: I’d recommend OP get a degree or whatever she needs to stand on her own two feet, because I guarantee her husband will get tired of sleeping around and when he tried to get back in their bed, OP isn’t going to be down lol

That first story hits so close to home, it’s almost a mirror to my own experience. I wish nothing but good things for OP. Fuck abusive parents.

Ive said it so many many times, but if someone pushes to open up a relationship thats already been established as monogamous, theyre either already cheating or want a get out of jail free card for cheating. Especially if theyre pushing that hard for you to change your mind

For the guy who cheated on wife, he def should've communicated expectations b4 getting back together. But yeah his marriage was ruined long ago

Inheritance story: USE THAT MONEY TO PAY YOUR DEBT!

Story 2: that's awesome and it's great what you're doing, but be careful. So many people can get really dangerous and you need to watch your back.

Story 5: That's not a polyamorous relationship at all- that's an open marriage. What makes it not polyamorous is OP doesn't know the women her husband is with. He could be with anyone. Polyamory requires knowledge and consent of all parties involved, meaning OP would have to have, at the very least, met with the other women, and maybe become friends with them. But, by the sounds of it, she hasn't and doesn't know who her husband is with. On top of that, what if OP's husband is lying to all these women about being married? That definitely doubles-down on the marriage not being polyamorous in the slightest, and (IMO) is a big red flag. I'm glad OP is okay with her life. I just wanted to clear up the confusion of terms.

That second story, thank you OP. You're doing an amazing service And to all the "I cheated on my partner to but I love them SOOOOOOO much" just shut the hell up. If you actually loved them you wouldn't have f*cking cheated on them. Stop playing the victim for f*cks sake

The guy who cheated on his wife and then felt hurt of being cheated on... Come on man, you should have seen this coming.

Story 3: Please don't take me as me defending OP. Cheating is a horrible thing to do. While OP did regret it and tried to build that relation back, his partner decided to stoop down to his level multiple times (since apparently she cheated with multiple people). Think of the message this is sending to their children. that "it's okay to cheat if your partner cheats". I feel so bad for the kids I hope they never take after their parents, both of them suck.

OP in the first story is a fuckin G. She stood up to her abusive dad (meanwhile her cowardly mother let her volunteer as punching bag) and grinded until she could say she was independent.

Inheritance guy needs to cut ties with that gf. She wants access to that money, and buying a house together will do just that.

For the last story, I bet if the girlfriend was the one with the inheritance, it would be her money and hers alone.

Anytime someone uses the phrase "my truth" it leads me to believe "their truth" isnt what actually happened but how they want things to be

At first, I thought the mom in the first story was just as much a victim as OP because that does happen. People in abusive relationships are often afraid to leave because the abuser's fearmongering tactics that make them feel like they're stuck there. I believe this was the case with Judith Barsi (the original voice of Ducky on the first Land Before Time movie). When her mother finally built up the courage to leave, her father killed them and himself.

Story 1: OP is entitled to feel how she does after being lied to and abused her whole life. But one thing I'm interested in that she never mentioned and you didn't question is what about her brothers? Does she have any kind of relationship with them? How did they turn out, are they like Hank? edited to add: when I was a kid our next door neighbor (who lived in a single floor apartment next to our house) would occasionally have very loud passionate hugging at various times of the day. My older sister knew his girlfriend and finally asked her if she could keep it down. My sister said the GF said "that isn't me, he must have that b***h over there!". I think they broke up, lol.

In the last story: If they do split, depending on the state,most likely the girlfriend will get the the entire house and alimony. It pretty suspect that she's pushing do hard. Do not put her name on any houses. Inheritance money will always stay with OP, even if it stays as cash. Once it's used to purchase any joint assets it now becomes joint property and OP only has a fifty percent voice in that asset.

When his wife said she'd want a divorce with him because he took issue with her cheating, I'd just gladly accept the invitation. Good riddance.

Third story while OP screwed around and found out, quite literally in this case, it shouldn't have been used as an excuse by his ex to sink to his level. Not saying OP doesn't deserve a nice dose of karma, but she went pretty far with it. They have two kids to raise and they need to be better people for their sake at least. Edit: I can't believe I have to add this but cheating is never okay. Cheating in revenge is even less okay. No one said anything about forgiving OP either and he's a piece of shit. His wife is just as much a piece of shit because instead of dozens of other options, including leaving, she chose the one option sank to his level.

Story 4: This reminds me of when I accidentally through my friend under the bus at work. There was a day when our manager was trying to call us in she called me and I was busy she called my best friend he told her he was in the mountains with his family when he was actually at a concert. He never told me that he told our manager about being in the mountains I knew he was at a concert (this is important). The next day I was at work and my manager asked about like “I tried to call you guys but you were busy…” and I said “yea and Steve was at a concert” she goes “he was where?!?” I look at her and go “ohhhh shit” she leaves while taking her phone out of her pocket. I text my best friend immediately like “yo bro Z is gonna call you and she is mad af”. In all honestly he should have thought that she’d talk with us about it and he should have had his story covered.

I don't know how pissed I would be if I was the OP in that first story. Not only did she hide OP's biological father, most likely because she didn't know who it was, but on top of that she allowed the man she married after that to abuse her children. This is something worth cutting contact over. If I was OP, I would also tell his siblings just in case there are more lies with their biology, if she cheated on her high school boyfriend she likely also cheated on her abusive husband.

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Why do so many of these husbands insist on having to go poly/open relationship right after the wife gets pregnant or gives birth???

Story 3: Tough luck OP. You opened your relationship by cheating and you should be glad that your wife apparently loves you enough to stay together with you. You simply cannot expect your wife to close it again, that boat sailed the moment you dropped your pants. I mean, you claim that you no longer sleep around, but why should your wife even believe anything a cheater says? She accepted that your relationship is open now and warmed up to the new reality, so get used to it or f*** off; you have no longer any right to expect her to stay faithful to you.

Story #1: OP is in the right. She needs to post all the screenshots of his arrest record and get her CPS file. Her mom and Hank are trash.

That first story has a crazy amount of updates, i hope there is a follow up.

She may enjoy the perks of the open relationship now, but when he comes home and kicks her out because he's found "the love of his life," she won't be ready.

Last story: even if they have joint finances, they would still both profit off of OP paying off his debt and then using the 70 percent less that goes to his bills and saving it up and then buying the house if they both want to. Especially since basically all debts have huge interests.

First story : my bio mom abandoned me at 2 years old, fully adopted at 4 years old, I knew that I was adopted my whole life, I’m 30 now… I never knew my biological father ether, OP, but I didn’t have the identity trauma that you did…. If you ever need to talk, I know an AWESOME PTSD therapist!

4th story: It's not your fault op you didn't know that the husband was cheating on his wife until she told you both her and her husband haven't done it for years until you told her. At least the hotels walls are thin or else op wouldn't be able to tell the wife that her own husband is cheating on her while they are in vacation.

Guy with the cheating wife opened Pandora’s box and is shocked that he can’t close it again.

Story 1: the phrase "scorched earth" should be applied here.

NAL, but a cease and desist is basically a warning letter telling you to stop before they sue you. OP is fine against a lawsuit of slander or lible as long as she can prove she was telling the truth. The only thing is defamation of character. Depending on where you are you can get sued for this even if you are telling the truth, if it hurts their ability to make money.

Story 1: This is almost exactly what happened to my Dad, and he ended up physically and emotionally abusing my biological siblings and I. We have, for the most part distanced ourselves from my grandmother because of it, though she was always a pushover, especially after the drug abuse/sabotaging by M. My father's/grandma's abuser.

This weekend I will turn 53. I am a white man (Don't let the account name bother you, it is a long and unrelated story). I have a B.A. in social work (BSW), a Master of Divinity (M.Div.) a Master of Art in Christian Education with a specialization in youth ministry (MACE), and a Doctorate of Ministry (D.Min.). I''m not pumping my resume. I have one simple sentence for you: *Family is what you make of it, not your genetics*. Some of us have amazing genetic families. Some of us have amazing adoptive families. And some of us have very cool families that we have created and are adopted into. Humans are a collective. We form families whether it is by birth, by adoption, or by finding a place to be. I hope OP in the first story, that you find some sort of peace and a place to belong.

2nd story. HE cheated, then he had the nerve to have a go at her! HE was in the wrong, for cheating. He took no responsibility for his actions, offered no apology, did nothing even to try to make amends, then he gets all high and mighty when she gave him a taste of his own medicine.

Last story: PLEASE don't waste your money on a house yet! Pay off the debts , it will benefit you in the long run. If you have to, break up with the GF but I hope it doesn't get to that point.

Last story : It is YOUR money. She's just a GF, not a wife. It's not hers. And even if you were married, IT'S STILL YOUR MONEY. An inheritance is sole property of the person it was ended to, even in a marriage, even in the event of a divorce. Pay off your debt. Even as a down payment, no bank will loan anything to someone who already had $45k in debt, for which 70% of his expenses goes toward that. You will then be able to save that 70% toward another house if you want or toward upgrading your existing one. That GF can work if she wants a downpayment, no free handout.

Oh, you just an exposed an affair in your neighbors apartment?😂😂😂

If they haven't been intimate in YEARS, you didn't ruin anything. It's been ruined for YEARS. Sounds like they were only together for the kid

People need to stop saying "my truth". Anything that isn't "The Truth" isn't true. It's true that OP's adoptive father abused her, but calling that fact "my truth" makes it sound like she's lying.

Story 3: The number of people in these comments failing to see how the wife's behavior is objectively worse than OP's is baffling. Just because he's a man and she's a woman for many, just because he did it first for many others. Everyone ignoring that he actually regrets it and has done what he can to fix and move past it. Meanwhile, the woman lied about fixing it, lied about accepting his apology, assumed the worst of him for no actual reason, and is intentionally cheating with multiple people, laughing in his face, etc. If you see OP as worse, or even that these 2 people are on equal footing, then you're unhinged yourself.

I think you missed the 2nd post's title, OP just said "what he did" and "got him arrested for it" and "found him in underground chatrooms talking about this" I'm not the only one who noticed this right?

Story one: I know people are mad at Rslash for his comment about the mom but he's right. She IS just as bad as Hank, especially considering the updates and the fact that she helped Hank get away from CPS. Op got put in that position because she was a child wanting to protect her mom and the mom practically threw her to the wolves to save her own case. Like, come on. The mom is STILL with him and literally told Op "you were an ungrateful and difficult child" to defend their abusive step dad. The mom was a victim too but let's not sit here and act like she didn't become an enabler at best, an abuser at worse. Both are equally as bad though. Hank is still trash for what he did to both of them and Op. I hope Op actually charge them for something for goes completely NC with her mom because at this point, the mom is a toxin in her life that she needs to cut loose.

3rd story: If OP didn’t cheat after that one time and they got back together, he is not the problem anymore and I would not say that it “was well-deserved Karma” The karma would be the wife leaving. But she came back

Story 4: Of anything you saved the wife the rest of her life, and now she can leave that a-hole. Cheaters always get caught, this isn't even the very uncommon way they get caught, next time you should be more quiet.

PSA for story 5 y’all, that shit ain’t poly, that’s just a dubious open relationship. poly relationships get a bad enough rep as is. poly does not mean a loophole to cheat, it’s just more than two people in a relationship. a loving relationship. forcing someone into a polycule is terrible. good for OP for making the best out of her situation though, absolute queen

Story 6: So, you're already in debt. You then inherit a good chunk of cash. And now her idea is to use the money to... get more debt? That has got to be some kind of record in financial stupidity.

The last story: I don know why (girls especially) think that just because the person they’re DATING got a bunch of money that they have a right to it. They don’t. If your bf happened to come into some money, and you’re reading this, this is for you. Unless there is a very real chance of getting married, like you and he have had discussions and your basically just waiting for him to buy the ring and pop the question, you have no rights to their money. There is still a very real chance that you all will split. In fact it’s a pretty common occurrence. If you’re engaged, they are the fiancé and not bf/gf. The title makes a difference. If you’re not tight enough for marriage to be a discussion, then you’re not tight enough to be entitled to any bit of their money. That’s just the honest truth. There’s even a chance that if you are engaged that everything could be called off. Basically, what I’m say is, unless you’ve said I Do, you have no right to anything they have. Of course that’s excluding common law marriage. I think if you’ve been with someone for 7 + years, you’re pretty much married whether or not you’ve signed the paperwork. Too many people see dollar signs instead of the person. And she’ll probably break up with OP after he pays his debt off. Obviously she doesn’t like his house or thinks she needs her name on something.

Story 5: that ain't polyamory but I'm happy she's having fun lol

Story 1: my husband recently went through this. When I met him, his mother was putting him through a 3rd last name change. When he married me, he took my last name because my father said it was cool (sadly, he passed 5 years before we got married) and my last name sounded better than the last name my MIL saddled my husband with. In order to do this, he had to bring tons of documentation to the DMV. He discovered his Step-father adopted him when he was 16. Not my husband - THE STEP-FATHER was only 16!! My MIL preyed on some poor kid that got emancipated and turned him into a abusive hateful jerk. He was only 8 years old than my husband! My husband really feels for OP in this story.

We need an update to story 1. Story 2: So eone buy OP a case of beers! Story 3: "I love my wife!" Then why the hell did you cheat? At this point, you have no right to complain or feel betrayed. No shoukd you be mad at your wife either. Story 4: Nah, OP. Ur in the clear.

Op honest got more than enough in the third story. Obviously he deserved to have something as karma, but her just leading him on. Thats low. She should have just gotten alimony off of him, majority of the stuff she can, and left him and took the kids. Bam he yas nothing, kids hate him, and has trouble getting back to a life. Now, she just became that. Ignoring therapy, leading him on, and giving him false hope. Assuming the guy did feel actual remorse and tried to fix things, then yeah she needs to get personal help and he does too.

Story 5: I gotta applaud OP. She's not taking any real advantage of it. She let her husband dig the hole. She's just...living her comfiest life now that hubby decided he wanted to go have his fun. And if he's happy, what's there to change if she's comfortable and happy? She can move on when she wants because of that very same agreement. Full, absolute, honest-to-god kudos ma'am. I raise my pepsi to you.

Story 1: I'm also a victim of identity trauma. My mom cheated on my dad with not just one other guy but two. We only found out about the 2nd one when I matched as a half sibling to my brother and sister during a DNA test when I was 25. I've never had a relationship with my mother, she decided to let my dad have custody over us. My sister routinely danced over the boundaries and constantly tried getting her involved in all of our lives again, from our childhood into adulthood. You don't realize how much of your identity is rooted in your family. Even though I luckily have a dad who is extremely understanding and still sees me as his son, that woman could have easily stolen my entire family from me. Its taken the past 4 years to rediscover who I am and how to fit that truth into my identity and I still feel lost sometimes. I've met my biological dad and he's a lot like my dad. My dad actually encouraged me to speak to my biological dad if not to know where I came from, then to at least know medical history. However, this has caused some strain on outside relationships.... My grandma keeps thinking that talking to my biological dad is doing harm to the dad who raised me. I believe it's everyone's basic birthright to know their roots and to know where they've come from, but I can't help but feel as if my grandma is kind of gaslighting me on the whole situation.

For the first story: The reason OP needs to take the Cease and Desist seriously is because a Cease and Desist is the formal, documented version of someone screaming "You'll be hearing from my lawyers!". If someone issues a cease and desist, they are more than likely prepared to go to court. But yeah, if OP is telling the truth, OP has nothing to worry about. Truth is an absolute defense against defamation claims.

The story of the step daughter getting between the abuser and the mother brought up this extremely recent news story I just read. The dad was beating on the mother and the daughter stepped between them to protect her mother. After hitting her he then grabbed a knife and stabbed her over 100 times (even after she bled out). Eventually they called the police to show her body and he said I killed someone. Not that he killed his step daughter, just someone. They know what happened because apparently it is on the household camera. What do you want to make a bet he was on drugs and selling them, which is why he had a camera in the house. I hope the doctor has a very good security system and maybe a gated community or something besides an alarm system for protection.

As soon as someone cheats, it’s over. There is no unringing that bell.

Thanks for all you do! Its always a joy listening to reddit stories early in the morning after work

Just the fact that the cease and desist letter in the first story was EIGHT PAGES makes it sound like it was from the adoptive father's letter and not a real letter from an attorney. I'm not an attorney, I just married one, and this sounds bogus.

Story 3: I feel bad for the guy. Cheating is terrible, but people change, and he really was putting in the effort. Then it turns out his wife probably was looking for an excuse to cheat herself and she finally had it. IDK OP should leave and find another woman who will be just ad loyal as he has become

Story 2: This OP is a hero. The irl Punisher! (Says someone who’s barely read The Punisher and has only seen the game lol)

I hate deleted account stories; they almost never have updates and I love updates.

The last story about op who inherited some money from his uncle needs to keep the money but dump his girlfriend because she is being greedy and really don't care about op himself

Story 5: That is the most hilarious version of "polyamory" I've ever heard. "My husband fucks off and lets me have time to myself whenever I want" lmfao

Mr. r/Slash... A C&D "order" MUST be certified by the courts in most jurisdictions. Anyone can send a letter asking to stop, but an actual C&D comes from the court. The key word there is "Order". The court issues orders, and it serves as a temporary injunction, will have a case number, etc. An order must be followed. A letter threatening legal action is not inherently a lawful order, and if it's misrepresented as one, that is going to bite the sender in the ass, big time. Do not send such letters arbitrarily without consulting an attorney.

Story 3 There was a story like this a year or so ago. Tbh I think that it's a pretty good way to stop a divorce in a way The wife in that one made it clear that "You cheated and thereby opened our marriage. Why are you complaining? This is what you wanted"