Similar thing happened to me (trans woman) at my doctor's office recently. The nurse came in before giving me a flu shot and asked if I was pregnant and I was just like "uhh no"
Actually, that may not be as far away as you think. I mean, I don't think it's right around the corner but, with some technology that seems doable on the ballpark of within a lifetime (almost) any two people should be able to have a biological child together. Basically, the idea is to pull stem cells from each parent and then make one set into sperm, the others into eggs and boom! There you go. There might be exceptions but practically speaking everyone who could possibly have a kid now and most everyone else this would work for. There has been at least a successful pregnancy with a transplanted uterus but that was with a cis women so idk how use for trans women looks. As far as getting (or getting someone) pregnant the free way idk of any ideas on how to make that work for trans people. But still, I'd love to see a world where any family could have a kid and who knows maybe we'll live to see that! So exciting!
@@solsystem1342 Your last line, "a world where any family could have a kid", we do have that. It's called adoption. There are so many kids out there waiting for a family to love them and give them a safe home. If anything we need to make adoption cheaper and more accessible to good couples because many foster systems are screwed. My sister's HUSBAND had to pay over 10k once all was said and done, and over 8 months to adopt her biological son. It's not like there was a battle either His biological father easily signed over rights. It's even more expensive and time consuming for couples to adopt non biological related children. And this is in Canada. I've heard it's even worse in the USA and other countries.
That last one was wonderful. A mom who was so accepting of her child's transition that she literally just forgot? Kinda rocks. If the 84-year-old lady saying "my wife" doesn't get you, you just have no heart.
Old lady with a wife... Dang, that's my life goal right there. To grow old with whom I love, retire in a nice house and be happy. But I'll probably commit bye bye myself if depression gets to me, which it is, lol
@@Catwithaknife69 Dont, please, being happy with a wonderfull woman by your side can totally happen maybe faster than you think ! And even if it's hard to find ""the one"" then it will be true one day. Life is long. Keep going on the way of hope please.
@@Catwithaknife69 hang in there. I fought with depression for years, though now that we've moved to a rental that is out in the country, and away from the people that were triggering me it's greatly improved. Mostly seasonal now. (Coming up on my worst season) I am going to hope for you to become the coolest old lady with a wife ever.
@@akitokutikabanae7010 I feel like I'm losing my mind a bit more everyday and sometimes I just wanna curl up and scream and bang on the walls and destroy my room for no apparent reason, even when I'm not angry, but I sure will keep trying!
When I was a college student in the late 1970's, I was ostracized for being in a lesbian relationship. I was called into the office and asked to leave the school. I did. Times are different now, though it can be difficult to be queer, there have been big strides. I was so pleased to see the students with the rainbow flags. How times have changed! 🌈❤
@The Werewolf of Somalia Aphobia doesn't just refer to asexuals. It also refers so any label under the Aspec Spectrum (Asexual, Aromatic, Agender, Abrosexual, Abroromantic, and many other identities as well.) It is the discrimination/hate of Aspec identities. (Also, there are ways to spread Aphobic rhetoric without necessarily being hateful or intentionally being so. Aphobia is common, even in queer spaces.)
@@junebunny0712 as far as I know, agender doesn't fall under aspec since it is not a romantical/sexual orientation. (Instead it falls under the trans umbrella.) But I like the idea of opening the term for everything a- related: I would like to add the aplatonic spectrum to the list :D (And no, aplatonic doesn't mean that the person has no friends or is not interested/doesn't care about other persons. It's just the lack of platonic attraction.) Feel free to look it up :D
Had a night out the other night and had to explain to two different guys what ace was, one slightly more successful than the other but neither seemed to believe it was a real thing 😒
The asexual one hit really close to home. When I told an acquaintance that I'm AroAce, the first thing he told me was that I just haven't found the right person yet , and the second was that if I continue saying that, nobody will want to date me. I don't think he understands that that's perfectly fine with me lol.
When I came out as ace to my partner, I explained everything I was feeling, and they reacted by saying "oh cool! We NEVER have to have sex! Good!" And then paused, eyes wide, and went, "I think I'm ace too."
I remember when a bisexual woman (at my old job) demanded to know if I was queer. I was strongarmed into saying I was asexual and without pause she started talking about wanting dick. Luckily, I'm not sex replused. Also, at the same job, a gay man point blanked asked if I was a lesbian and once again, I told him and his response was "Is there something wrong with you?" So, uh, yeah, that asexual tiktok spoke to me soooo much. Edit: Just an edit (because people asked) yes, I am out of that job now! I was made redundant and left with a decent redundancy so I won in the end! :D I have a different job, and I was asked and didn't say, but the woman who did ask, I knew she had vibes from me, and she started speaking about her gay son. But no one there knows, but I know they know I am Queer because I've spoken about a few women that I, in my own personal asexual way, find attractive. (she/her here.. i think but that is a whole different story)
Man, that sucks. I'm really sorry ppl are assholes. I don't "get" being ace myself just because that's not me at all lol, but that's no excuse to erase how someone else feels
I'm sorry that happened to you. Intracommunity discrimination really sucks, I'm glad you're out of that environment and hope things got better for you. - a fellow ace! 💜🤍🖤
I’m not ace but the worst thing I’ve heard people say to others is “I take that as a challenge” as if human beings with complex thoughts and emotions are some sort of game to be played…
As an ace spec person with a bi partner we absolutely have a wholesome romantic relationship. I honestly don't think I could be with someone so perfect ❤️
I’m 57 years old, and I grew up with two ladies living in our road. Everyone has always known them as The Girls, and fully accepting them as a couple. My mum used to be a legal secretary and she was the one who suggested to them back in the 1980’s that they get married in a civil partnership, if only to protect their home and assets from the family if something should happen to one of them. I have literally grown up not giving an iota what sexual orientation people lean toward. It’s their business and as long as they are happy, that’s all that matters. We are all human after all.💞🇬🇧
@@frostfirei There were always family suspicions that my late uncle was gay, but it was never openly spoken about or actually confirmed by him. He’d had a very close best friend in his childhood, but was devastated when he suddenly married aged 20. This really upset and embittered my uncle, and after serving in WW2 he emigrated to Canada, and very much kept to himself about his life there. He passed away two years ago aged 94 and to everyone’s knowledge had never dated anyone. My brother and I feel quite sad that he felt unable to be who he wanted to be, but was obviously held back by staunch old family values and the pressures of an unforgiving society. If he had eventually come out to my family after my grandparents died, I really don’t think my parents would have been that at all bothered, just as long as he was happy.
@Bruh I have always felt that as long as you’re not abusing a loved one, it doesn’t matter who you fall in love with. To actually find your soul mate is rare, so who are we to judge if that person doesn’t quite fit into what a minority of narrow minded people term as ‘normal’. When my nephew came out as gay a few years ago, we were all patiently waiting for it to happen. Everyone that loves and knows him for who he is have been expecting it to happen since he was a small child. For some reason he felt he had to break it to me while he was very drunk. My reaction was to tell him I kinda already figured that out and as long as he’s happy, so am I. 💞
@Bruh I too kind of have a family more accepting of me here on RU-vid. I’ve been severely disabled and housebound for nearly 6 years now due to chronic osteoarthritis and acute Lymphodema. I lost my hair due to alopecia, stress and vitamin D deficiency. It’s very stubborn about growing back. My parents are long gone now and my siblings have always been opinionated about their slightly kookie free spirited little sister. I only deal with them when I have to, the brother I do get on fairly well with is the other end of the country compared to me here on the south coast. I just wrap myself in my happy cocoon on planet me, and if people don’t like me, we’ll it’s their loss I’m afraid. There’s too much bad in the world to judge those who are doing good whoever they are. Happy Christmas sweetheart.💞
Jamie mentioning he wasn't born yet when the bi manifesto came out made me look up his age. He's only a year younger than my older brother. No wonder he gives me supportive big brother vibes! Before I started watching his videos, I was scared about being aroace and now I'm a proud part of the aroace community. I even found the courage to explore my gender identity thanks to Jamie showing me it's okay to not be cis and now I'm comfortable identifying as agender
Me too. I had heard of asexuality a few years back. Learning lessons from Jamie, I knew I was ace. Now I am proud. (Not out to my whole family yet. Still in quarantine.) Now I know that I am AAA. 🙂💜
Wow, he has the same age as my older brother xD I firstly heard of agender through a meme but he gave me confidence to resist my internalized cissexism and be open minded in my self discovery. Before, I couldnt identify much with anything but now I wear much pride related stuff (festival ribbons, a dog tag) and an Ace ring with, well, pride :D ~ a fellow AAA
omg the lady who was able to say her wife for the first time in a telephone call 😭😭😭 in her lifetime she might have gone from not able to have a solo bank account as a woman at all, to being able to acknowledge her wife to the bank during normal conduction of business 💗
the bisexual is so important to me, as a bisexual i have often found it so hard to explain to people that is not just men and women. i usually say that i can fall in love with basically anyone, its true and some people thinks that is weird and then they leave me alone so its a double win in my book
Okay but the bi manifesto is specifically by an aphobic, panphobic TERF who only updated it to be inclusive of trans and nonbinary people to convince them to follow her transmedicalist and otherwise bigoted ideas. It's literally called a manifesto because the author read The Scum Manifesto and mein Kampf while writing it and she cited them as inspiration. If you want to be represented by someone that screwed up, you should do some soul searching.
@@lawrence208 It does not mean just two, it means your own gender and not your gender. There are all kinds of genders that aren't my own. The laser focus on bi meaning just two is a product of the internet age, from people who are maybe not aware of the history of bisexuality. For sure read the bisexual manifesto, but also there was a magazine that ran through the 90s called "Anything that Moves" lol which might give you a sense that bisexuality means more than just 2 genders.
I'm at the point where I define bisexuality as being attracted to members of two genders: any and none. As a gendervoid femme, the none matters to me a lot. I'm always aware that Latin arose in a culture whose mathematics had no concept of zero, so "pan" for "all" rings to me like "only people with one or more genders." I know that's not how it's being used. And has never been used that way. It still kind of leaves me twitchy.
the old woman tiktok reminded me of when i saw two elder gays being cutely together in the old town i lived in time ago during pride month, both having rainbow and looking on some pamflets about LGBT+ events they were doing around. It was so sweet and i felt so happy for them, because they could be gay in public,when they were kids were forced to be sth they weren't,as how they prob were under the spanish dictatorship,and gayness was banned... :( My neighbor is also gay, he is a gay elder man as well. But he lost his couple some yrs ago already. They were together for like... 40 yrs. My uncle told me because when he lived here,he talked sometimes and visited that old man
The reaction to my asexuality that sticks with me the most is the guy who assumed I was automatically much more genuine and focused in my various pursuits, because not wanting to have sex meant I was only doing stuff for my own sake and not to impress anyone. Which There is a whole lot to unpack there
@@OdinsSage does it? Or does it rather just show how sex focused our society is that people think asexuals are more serious in pursuing a relationship?
Loved ❤️ the 85 year woman who had to share her happiness by calling her partner her wife. I finally figured out that I am ace when I was 66.💜 The times now are so much more open to us as older people.🏳️🌈
Younger ace here! There are like 4 phases that typically happen for asexuality. 1) What is asexuality? 2) People are faking their sexual attraction. I’m not crazy! They are! 3) Oh GOD. What’s WRONG with me? I feel so alone and BROKEN. 4) Nothing is wrong with me! Not everyone goes through all the phases. I didn’t go through 2. I just was repulsed by the thought of sex. I’m sex-repulsed aro/ace and I found it out at 22. I’m 24 now, going strong!
step two has the same energy as "im not gay, but (insert same gender here) bodies are just objectively more attractive and anyone who denies that is lying.
@@bbear2695 you are right about beauty. I'm an artist and do look at people as beautiful or quirky or most often interesting. If I mention some actor is so good looking, it does not mean that they are sexually attractive to me. I was always wondering in watching shows where in some dangerous happening, two people just have to have hot sex.
The 85 yo "my wife" one did make me cry. My dad passed at 70 last month and he was bi and demi but never had the words for it until I showed him what the internet is like two years ago. Just... Damn.
I told a guy that I was demisexual once and he said we'd stay friends and never spoke to me again and is now terrified of running into me in public 😂 I kind of enjoy the power to have grown ass men see me and just... run.
My partner is Demi-gray and I’m so happy to see more people coming out about it in the community. He always thought there was something wrong with him and it ruined a lot of his previous relationships because his former partners would just nope the fuck out. He was afraid to admit it to me when he realized it. He came out in front of a huge crowd only two years ago. I am so proud of him. And of you! Congrats on taking your power back!
Riding bareback (on a horse, don't derail this pls) has always been possible. Its not as common, but a lot of people still do it. It's also painful, but really cool. Yes, she has to have a pretty good grip on the flag and the horse to be able to do that.
Less painful if you do it more. Yay No Saddle November! Did you catch that she was riding without a bridle, too? Looked like maybe a neck strap, but not much of one. That woman had skill, is what I'm saying.
@@Amanda-C. I didn't catch it no. I was really young when my parents tried to get me into horse riding. And, I only rode bareback once and was extremely painful for me. I don't ride anymore and haven't for a long time.
The one with the graduation the guy accepting the flags seemed genuinely happy about getting them. He smiled warmly about the little wave of the flag as well. The one lady in the background however was eating sour grapes.
Thank you for your shout to us older queer people…I always thought I was bi. Thanks to all the information available here on YT (and specifically thanks to YOU and OT) I now know that what I’ve always been is pan. I’m a grandmother now and my kids and grandkids represent several of the letters in our 🌈 rainbow with all my love and support. I’m so grateful for your content. Helping to create the world we want to live in.
Aha, as an asexual myself, I had someone who was trying to ask me out react to that information by asking if I'd been traumatized. Straight up. I barely knew this man. He followed it up with "What about your maternal instincts? How will you have kids?" I don't know, something about "I'm asexual" seems to make people feel entitled to ask awkward personal questions in the same way that "I'm trans" makes people feel entitled to ask about what's in your pants. On a lighter note, hard agree on how wholesome it is to see older queers expressing so much relief and joy to be able to just live their honest lives in public. They walked a long and hard road that paved the way for our generation to run.
I've gotten that traumatized comment before in high school. The guy was homophobic too and acted like he was being so civil and polite. He also asked me how could I know if I've never had sex? (I'm sex favorable anyways) I even had a partner at the time, and he knew this. So, I asked him how did he know he wasn't gay if he's never been with a guy. His response was that it was somehow different.
As an asexual woman in her 70's, I can totally relate to the lovely woman in her 80's, who just made an assertion of her marital status. Speaking for my (Boomer) generation - we didn't have (positive) words for many of the sexual orientations or basic information when we were younger. I didn't know that there was a designation for my total lack of sexual interest until a few years ago, about the same time I understood that I have dyscalculia, which is related to dyslexia, but involves only numerals. There's lots to catch up on, and a lot of validating info on the internet - I'm just so glad I live in a time & place where I can do some exploring, and put names to some of the aspects of my personality and brain function.
you are really lucky to have come this far as a trans guy.I feel very happy and grateful to you I'm planning on coming out in 5 years (yep very shortly) cus that's the safest for my existence hope everything goes well
Be strong and safe for yourself and remember that we are here for you. If you need a laugh or something heartwarming visit here and we will help. Just let us know in the comments if you need to talk. WE SUPPORT YOU 🏳️🌈💜
The lesbian penguins reminded me of a new fact I learnt recently... they tried to start a captivity breeding program for Whio (a native New Zealand duck) in the UK and it failed because the two male ducks they had ended up in a relationship with each other!! It's kind of become my favourite fact 😍😍
In high school any time I said I was ace (this was over 11 years ago btw) a boy would insist I wasn't and that I didn't know what asexual meant, but was perfectly fine with my other friends going from straight(thought they were) to lesbian (realized they were) or straight to bi. Like being ace was impossible, especially because I hadn't had physical relationships or a recent "boyfriend" as I only had one, 1 week relationship in middle school because I thought I had too and when the kid forced me to kiss him I literally wiped off my mouth walked away and spat on the ground a few time, (it was unwanted, gross and I just didn't like it.) I'm still ace and I still don't like mouth to mouth affection. Cuddling with croissants however, is good.
I also called myself ace in high school 16 years ago (has minor panic attacking realizing that time is a weird soup) but wasn't actually aware of asexuality as a thing, I just used it to try to describe myself to people because it was the closest thing to explain to my friends that my lack of interest in sex wasn't a prude thing, I just wasn't interested. It was my LGBT+ friends who told me ""asexual" isn't a thing humans can be" and "it's not that you don't like/aren't interested in sex, it's just that you havent had it yet" etc, etc. Being that my friends were sexually active already and I was not, I just kinda assumed they must be right. Ah, if only I could go back and scream at my 16 year old self not to listen to the haters who didn't know any better, would have saved much drama later down the line... Long story short, don't let anyone deny how YOU feel about your sexuality! You know you better than they do.
"But you're so pretty!" Yep. Throughout my 20's I was told I was too pretty to be single. (I'm old, so this was before the word aromantic had entered the lexicon, but I definitely knew that being single was the life for me. It was just a lot harder to explain without the right vocabulary.) People also told my sister she was too pretty to be lesbian. Because if you look a way that cis-het men find attractive, then obviously you should be dating them. The thought process is that all women are really attracted to men because men are so awesome, so if a woman is dating another woman, or dating no one at all, it can only be because she can't get a man. The idea that some of us just don't want to is inconceivable in this kind of mindset. One time some guy (who was probably old enough to be my dad, just for an extra layer of gross) asked me why I wasn't dating anyone and I said, "Because I don't want to." He responded with the classic, "But you're too pretty to be single." I was in the mood to challenge it, so I asked him, "What does how I look have to do with what I want?" And he literally said, "It's about what men want." I was at work, so I figured I couldn't get away with pushing him much more than that, so I just gave him a look and walked away. I always hoped he might have thought about it afterwards and maybe come to some better conclusions, but I doubt it.
Thank you for sharing your experience, I'm very sorry you had those encounters and I hope the world continues to improve the inclusion and acceptance of all people.
5:04 Bless her! That was so lovely! It brought tears to my eyes and I'm happy for her! It's so sad when anybody feels they need to live a long life hiding who they really are!
Hi Jamie, trans guy love as always! I look up to you so much! I hope to be like you one day! 💙💙💙💙🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ I feel dysphoric for no reason and this made me happy! Thank you!
My mom absolutely would say “you’re too pretty.” I’ve basically been telling her my whole life before I even knew what asexuality was that I wasn’t interested in relationships like that and she’d say exactly that. Because ya know… I exist for sex appeal🥴
yea, we give off “the vibes” i figured i’m ace and people have said “ you sound like an asexual” or “what are you? an asexual?” i also have explicitly said i’m ace after both of these and they still don’t suspect a thing somehow. it is magical and sometimes i feel like i am the only person i know with the common sense to connect the dots, like how they act, who and how they act around people, and then explicitly tell me their sexuality.
I recently came out to my mum as AroAce and at first she did say that i just haven't met the right person yet (no :) ), but after I pulled up an article online explaining it, she turned to me and with tears in her eyes asked "So I'll never see you in a wedding dress :(?" She's supportive tho hahaha
The catholic school board in my area is pretty anti LGBT so our city put a rainbow crosswalk right outside their office 😆😆😆 something like 95% of people in a poll were in favour of this crosswalk
That reminds me, the town I grew up in had a small tunnel for cyclists under the railway that all the trafic was funneled trough there, but a lot of bullying and sometimes even violence happened there and it became a scary place to be. The gouvernement of the city solved it by placing a giant rainbow flag mural across the span of the tunnel with the Dutch law against discrimination written out of it. One of the coolest things they have done and it was actually effective. No more nasty people hanging around there.
@@laartje24 The abusers [accurate term for "bullies"] probably thought they would "catch teh Gehy" if they were in that tunnel with the rainbow. And let's be clear: "bullying" is a nice little euphemism for _psychological and physical _*_ABUSE._* It's long past time we call it that: _Abuse._
Hi Jamie, I really needed this today. I just came out to my grandma a couple hours ago, and it wasn't good, but it wasn't bad, per se. She accepted my name change, but she didn't acknowledge my sexuality. All in all, I really needed some wholesome gayness today. ❤️
I don't know why, but I lost it at your astonishment that the eye makeup was done on both eyes, and then the realization that of COURSE they did both eyes 😂😂😂
2:23 I came out in the 1990s, and my generation just expected hostility from The Straights when we came out. We just expected them to hate us or act bigoted towards us as a reflex - because that's usually what happened to us back in the 1990s. We LGBT-folk just treated it as a basic fact of nature: The sky is blue; Water is wet; Heteros are going to treat us as not fully human and react with hostility towards us.
There wasn't a lot I liked about high school, but one thing I did appreciate was the district-wide dedication to LGBTQ+ rights. They were required by the district to have signs posted outside every classroom saying "This is a safe space for LGBTQ individuals." Individual teachers or students might be homophobic jerks, but the school district policy was very supportive. And this was from 2000-2004 that I attended high school.
I'm a trans girl and my girlfriend is asexual, so it was really surprising to me that she was worried I'd be upset that she's ace because I didn't know how much shit they get even in the community. I think it's heartbreaking and I want nothing but happiness for my LGBTQIA+ brothers, sisters, siblings and any term between and around. Thank you for showing support to every kind of person who exists under the banner of pride!
The school at 6:30 is Seattle Pacific University (for those who can't quite read it), and while *he* might not be homophobic himself, the school (a Christian university) has a policy prohibiting LGBTQ+ faculty from holding positions (or maybe just full-time positions) at the school. Washington State Attorney General Robert Ferguson has sued the university over their homophobic policies, and the university countersued over the same.
I can confirm that Pete is extrememly homophobic. The policy applies to both staff and faculty. The AG office didn't sue the school. They are just investigating. The Board, including the interim President (Pete Menjares, the guy in the video), are being sued by a group of current students, staff and faculty.
Yeah, when I was a kid we went to the rodeo every year and my favorite part was near the beginning when a bunch of women on beautiful horses would come flying out in to the ring carrying huge flags representing the nations of all the participants in that year’s rodeo. They’d go around the ring in these circles swooping between each other like a dance, but so fast that when they went by it would literally blow my hair back and people would have to hold on to their hats. It was soooooo cool. The strength and control was amazing, plus it was just beautiful.
No joke, in the run up to the most recent local election, two Tories were going door to door in my street. They saw our pride flag bunting in the window and didn't even knock. I'm not sure whether to be glad to have escaped or very, very worried.
4:41 i saw on pinterest a post where there was written "my sister is lesbian and I'm gay, but our parents are anti-gay. So I "date" her gf and she "dates" my bf. When they sleep over they sleep in the opposite rooms. Joke's on my parent."
The woman talking to the bank made me tear up. We must encourage our elder queers to be as visible as possible (even when they're not dressed as super heroes, I love those guys). Also, please read the bisexual manifesto and do a video about it! I wish I'd kept my copies of Anything That Moves. It was a great magazine. I even tried to volunteer for them but could not get my act together. In every issue I had there were multiple full page ads for Ani DiFranco. I think she kept that magazine afloat.
Regarding the penguin one, there's actually a zoo where two gay penguins stole an egg from two lesbian penguins bc they wanted in on it (Next year the zookeepers gave both pairs eggs)
3:44 Anyone else her ancient enough to be hearing the horse level music from Shinobi 3 in their head? Someone needs to loop that clip of the girl with that song from the game for, like, ten minutes at least.
4:00 when Jamie said “is that how you came out” I completely forgot about closets and thought he was insinuating that this person was BORN riding a horse and holding a rainbow flag 😂
As an asexual aromantic demigirl I totally laughed at the asexuality one because I’ve definitely been told more than once that I just haven’t met the right person yet but the jokes totally on them because as an aromantic person I don’t really care if I ever do 😂😂😂!
Sounds like you’ve got the right attitude. Why wait for “the right person” when the probability of them even _existing_ is so low as to practically be zero? If people you’d find attractive existed, surely you would have met at least one such person by now?
Always enjoy your videos!! I loved the eye makeup one… that was so well done, I had seen the woman mentioning her wife for the first time… that got me all teary
A little context on the graduate pride flag video. That is at Seattle Pacific University, a local college, so it's been on the news a lot. They have admitted to not hiring LGBTQ+ staff. Within the last month a lawsuit has been filed against the school board by staff and students. The school is asking a federal judge to protect its right to hire who they do or do not want to base off their religion. Along with the flags at graduation there have been numerous protests on campus by students, other staff members, and the community.
Ok I cried, I laughed and I am just smiling rn. Can't tell if it's from the crazy amount of hormonal changes in the last month or this video but Jammi my dude you gave me the feels on this rainy Sunday afternoon
Had a rough day & this was the first thing to make me smile, & the sun happened to come out during the video as well. So now I'm chilling w my plants & my cat & letting myself breathe. Thanks Jamie
