My biggest takeaway got MUTED 😭😭😭😭😭. But it was, "sometimes the internet is good." Lol...when you get to that point in the video, you'll know what I mean. Also, me endorsing Reesa's success is not me saying I want to put myself back in the hotseat lol. She was blessed! But I know my limits. Anyway, thanks for watching :)
@@kandacewalker848 I don’t think she has… when I see her responses, she seems at peace. This is compared to other creators who make response videos crying, cursing people out, or taking down their content (I see that a lot on TikTok and I’m guilty of some of that as well). Also, it’s easier to focus more on the positive when you’ve got major brands in your dm’s, free trips loading, and an entire platform acknowledging that you broke the algorithm, expectations, and did something that may never be done again. Hate happens, but as long as the love is louder that’s what matters. When exposing your low moments to strangers you gotta wonder, “what will the pay off be?” If it’s worth it to you, and brings you closer to your goals, keep going. My goals were, more professional opportunities, community with like minded creators, and financial gain. Telling my business did not earn me that, so it wasn’t worth it in the end, at least not the way I did it. Again, it’s easy not to focus on the hate as much, when you are accomplishing your goals and getting what you hoped for.
@@hellostephco84 Great analysis as always 👍🏽 I was also wondering why folks were on the whole so nice & captivated 🤩 even tho I saw all 50+ parts, including updates (@ 2X cuz dannng lol). She was very likeable and honest.... so yea, sometimes the internet doesn't sucky suck 😊
And she remained accountable and transparent about her own part in the mess. That's what people appreciated - she didn't try to breeze over it like a lot of people do.
I think that’s what drew me in, everything made complete sense - I could see myself as her going through that situation and I was rooting for a triumphant outcome. Also, I got the feeling that she learned so much about herself and where we are as a society in terms of dating, it didn’t seem like she would ever be in a situation like that again.
Not to be a downer: the internet (and people by extension) love a good underdog story and a good tragic backstory, BUT they don't like to see you stay down and also don't like to see you rise too high (especially women). It's just one of those things. That being said, I personally have always loved your storytelling and relate to a lot of them! I also appreciate learning about TikTok thingies from you too as I refuse to download it lol.
Funny you mentioned that since her social media success, some ppl are saying she doesn’t deserve brands deals for being (and I’m quoting what they said) stupid”
Her story was masterfully told. I don’t even think she realizes how good she is at this! Her ability to be objective, vulnerable, and take accountability all while truthfully recounting details of such a traumatic experience was extraordinary to watch. She shared everything, even the parts that weren’t favourable to her and that’s what I think people were most drawn to.
Also, being that she is a plus sized black woman! I was holding my breath waiting for those comments about her weight and was shockingly and happily surprised when I didn't see hardly any comments mentioning it.
I’m happy, for the most part she was well received. But I also saw many comments insinuating that she should’ve known better b/c a VP would never be into plus size women.
@@Rene-cn4jc I heard someone say they seen that same comment as well. Nevertheless, she and her story was received very well overall. I could care less about that comment or any negative ones chyl 🌻
This story had me HOOKED! She’s a fantastic storyteller. It’s crazy that some people took it upon themselves to expose her ex husband but she handled it *SO* well. I was astounded cause I would’ve needed to take a couple of days. Also, the ex husband speaking and the stepson. And she got a happy ending where she’s going to London??? This has been the most satisfying storytelling I’ve seen on the clock app.
You know…I would agree. But as a storyteller, as someone who walked that line, I believe there’s more to it. When I told stories where (in my mind) I took accountability by prefacing the actions within said stories as being the direct affect of a previous experience I was still dealing with, and I acknowledged that I made mistakes, and was relaying my story as not just entertainment, but as a lesson, not just something I was proud of, but something I learned from, I was still insulted, and criticized. So I have to disagree. It’s not just accountability, you have to be liked too. Audiences will not like you if they feel you consistently acted out of your best interest, if your mistake was avoidable, or if they feel you are an embarrassment to yourself and others like you. And let’s be clear, ReesaTeesa received that feedback as well, she did not escape that criticism. What brought the masses, were several other factors. For example, the packaging of her experience in a digestible series. The fact that there were no major movie releases the weekend her story was put up so people had time and were looking for entertainment. And finally, the clear, calm sound of her voice and the eerily specific attention to detail. She came across as objective and rational which made her easier to listen to. I’ve listened to a lot of analysis of her success and as someone who attempted a similar route and did not achieve the same success, these are the factors that stand out to me when it comes to why she had such a powerful impact. Taking Accountability is such a grey area because for it to count, the person on the other end has to want to give you grace. Without that, it doesn’t matter. I speak from experience. In the absence of that grace, your delivery, and your content will really decide your impact, and that’s what I saw with Reesa.
I think the main reason in here case was her constantly taking accountability and really painted her state of mind and emotions as each account unfolded. I genuinely felt like I was there. But, there are some people who think she's foolish, thinks she deserve what she got, and talked about her looks. But they are drowned out from the people who are on her side.
BTW, there are still some of us who still root for you and empathetic to your stories as much as we are empathetic to Reesa Teesa's story. I think you both are great storytellers and truly come from the heart. It might be the Aquarius in her that allows the negativity to roll off her back so easily.
She also got a big payback very soon. The large platform, the trip offers. I think when we look at negativity we also have to consider the positive that came out of it. If the love and opportunities are louder than the naysayers and negativity, it's easier to let things not get to you and look forward.
Aquarians do feel the hurt that comes with negativity (we have a heart lol), we just don't show it. We tend to have an air of ambivalence to cover the fact that we feel everything so deeply.
It took me 5 days to watch all 50 parts (shout out to "Real Talk w/ Yanie" because I don't have Tik Tok). Additionally, you're 100% correct, Reesa was/is a stellar narrator, because the way I was steeped into this saga!! I was unable to turn away I had to watch to completion.
I think it’s because she shared her story like a novel. It was engaging and filled with suspense. She took us step-by-step through the deceptions and how she got wrapped up in wanting to believe so badly that she could make things work with this man.
She is dancing with risks, exposure, and opportunities and of course she has concerns and apprehension like most of us but shes doing the damn thing ❤❤❤ 😘 her refinement is the blueprint to my alterego
I think it comes down to knowing that the world is big…and there are so many people out there who like me (bc we live in a digital age now) will have the same reality. So it will be more of a surprise if people don’t have some sort of footprint, and between you and I, I don’t actually hate anything I’ve said or regret anything I’ve experienced, so if the record exists, let it be so! It’s proof that I lived and I was brave enough to do it publicly and when I ran into obstacles, I learned the necessary lessons, retreated and rebuilt. So I’m ok 😊
I think Reesa was really authentic- which was a huge part of her appeal. I mean she talked to us while driving, in her pjs, makeup, no makeup, etc. It really felt like a friend telling a story. Like others have said she also took a lot of accountability and like you said, her story was level 10 crazy. No one would expect their partner to be having one sided phone conversations and to fake bank documents. There were just elements no one could blame her for because they were batsh** insane. I really wish the best for her and read someone else’s comment say that she’s going to take her London/Paris trip now!? 👏🏽🎉💪🏽 so happy for her 💕
You're someone I would consider to be a success story from being vulnerable online. Your Pretty Privilege video gained a huge following despite the backlash and you have a lot of supporters because of so. We're always camped out in the comments lol
I’m only 7 minutes in but I wanted to say, StephCo you are a NEED in this community💗 I haven’t taken my time to watch the story or any recaps cause idk I just can’t honestly… But because YOUUUU specifically YOU, STEPH, are covering it I’m like “well it’s StephCo so I gotta watch it!”
I am glad that Reesa got compassion but, sadly, she had to tell the story, in its entirety, from start to end with all its details to receive the internet's compassion. There's something to be said about society and our selective compassion toward victims.
Honestly Stephanie you were one of the FIRST people I came across online that was doing storytime before it was storytime. You were a new creator just telling her story in no specific format with no specific goal in mind other than the sharing of a story…I say that to say…unfortunately now there is a formula to doing what you were already doing and people are finding out how to make it work to their benefit. Because you weren’t looking to benefit and the algorithm didn’t quite exist on how to tell the perfect story…you got the short end of the stick.
@@noemita494 just fyi, I took down my videos bc people in them were being doxed, I was being harassed and responded to negatively by my “peers” (fellow content creators online) and I noticed that when I had my most viral content, it did not bring millions of followers nor did it bring creative opportunities en masse. You know why? Well, for the reasons I outlined here that made Reesa successful. The majority of people who saw my content did not like or trust me as a narrator (this is based on a simple analytical observation on my views vs overall subscribers which is something I refer to in this video). Next, I was not respected due to the sheer amount of unfortunate situations I shared and I was seen as someone who never took proper accountability bc of that no matter how many times I stated “this is why I did this” when ppl don’t respect you, they do not care lol. Finally, I didn’t like people looking at me and associating me with a brand that was built on a foundation of chaos. I didn’t want to be known as a “messy” woman who couldn’t figure her life out. VERY draining and unsustainable in the long run. In the end, after all of that exposure I did of my personal life, the pay off was simply not there. What you call self sabotage, I call redefining how to exist online on my own terms without the stress and added pressure of being “vulnerable” for little to no professional or creative gain. If my experience had been different, I’d have made different choices, that’s for sure! But it wasn’t, so I didn’t. Self sabotage no, self preservation….absolutely.
I just wanted to say, recently I've watched several of your videos, and I really enjoyed your honesty & vulnerability... It sucks that you received so much negative judgment & stupid hatred, and now what makes You - You, You can no longer truly be, rather You can no longer share who You truly are... But yeah, I totally totally get You. Protect yourself, it's not worth it. My point in short, I just wanted to say, I really enjoyed You & your authenticity & it sucks what happened. Sorry 😔💔.
ACCOUNTABILITY is KEY. Reesa accepted responsibility for her part in the story. She understood and admitted to her "desperation" as well as the reason for it. Moreover, at the end, she shared what she learned from the experience that may cause her to do things differently in the future.
Stephanie also used to do the same thing, she took accountability and acknowledged her mistakes but people were so horrible to her. I wonder why to this day
@@acceptinglife6491 yes. Also we should investigate what accountability to strangers on the internet means. People should take responsibility for their choices and be accountable to themselves and those they’ve harmed. But why do the collective we feel some kind of way when they don’t show accountability for people they don’t know.
@@acceptinglife6491 This!!! But, if I could take a guess, I’d say it had to do with how they felt about previous things I shared. We didn’t know Reesa before this and this is our only story we have about her so far. I came on the internet with a “sob story” (pretty privilege) then went on to tell story, after story, after story of my nightmare dating life lol. In people’s minds, the only way it would make sense for this much trouble to be in someone’s life would be for me to be the root cause of all of it otherwise none of these things would have happened bc bad things never happen to good people especially so often, right? Wrong! Lol. But that’s how the internet thinks. People function better when they can put you in a clear dichotomy. Good vs bad, villain vs victim, there is no shade of grey and no nuance especially when it comes to trying to understand someone else’s consistent misfortune. And so, I believe my accountability was glossed over by the sheer volume of stories I had to tell. I lost the audience’s trust as a reliable and therefore valuable narrator, so they lost empathy for me as a storyteller and titled my explanations for my behavior and my acknowledgment that I understood I’d made more poor choices as banal excuses, and subsequently labeled me a self saboteur extraordinaire thereby canceling out any accountability I might try and take. How can you trust the reasoning of a person you don’t respect? I see this a lot with tv characters specifically reality tv. If the person is respected, people say “well they know they made a mistake so it’s ok.” If not? “Stop making excuses!” And my favorite phenomena is the unacceptable apology. If someone is disliked, any apology is deemed ineffective and substandard, but if someone is liked, they may never have to say a thing. It comes down to respect, and in the end, I faced a harder time, bc many people who heard my stories decided early on that they could not respect me and that’s hard to come back from. If I could take a guess, that’s what I’d say anyway lol.
I normally like your analysis but I feel like you’re taking it too deep because you wish people would show you compassion. Her story was abnormally dramatic and there were 13000 parts. TikTok hit the heat button and then other creators wanted clout so they started offering her stuff. TT is not a good gauge of things. In fact, it’s the worst gauge cos most of the content is garbage. 😂😂 that people don’t give your stories grace. But you have to understand that your videos typically involve trying to make broader social points that trigger people. Esp triggers black women who want to “prove” we are all pretty and happy and valuable. Reese had no larger point, she’s just told her story. I don’t know why you think people truly care about this lady. They think she’s pathetic.
I think Reesa is amazing and I thank her so much for sharing her cautionary tale because it can definitely help others. I will say, I would not have moved a man in after 2 weeks. I didn’t think was any reason for it. She saw where messed up and took accountability. that’s so important and healthy. I do definitely understand that she shared she had low self esteem and really wanted it to be her turn to be married. I’m so glad she’s now getting doing the work on herself and she’s protecting herself and picking up on red flags more. She’s about to get plenty money for her story and God bless her. I do feel bad for the first wife because with Reesa telling the story and ppl finding Legion, I believe ppl also found the first wife. She seems upset, rightfully so, because she didn’t want to revisit this. I hope everyone except Legion is safe and well :-)
She moved him in cos she didn’t want to quarantine alone unfortunately. I think desperation and Covid played a huge part in everything she went through . Really sad
@LimitlessBloom yes, I do understand her self esteem was low and she was desperate. I’m so glad she acknowledged it and taking steps to deal with this and with the post trauma of Lesion. I didn’t know that lack for self esteem could effect your self preservation because absolutely am I moving a man in after knowing a man for two weeks. But yes, I completely understand why she did. It was just her mental state at the time. It was really sad to hear, and I’m glad she’s doing better today. God forbid, that was her mental state one day, it could be me or another person the next.
Hello all! It's clear the from a storytellers perspective, I learned a lot from this creator, but what was your favorite part about Reesa's viral weekend? Also, please feel free to talk about any standout lessons from her story if you would like. Thanks for watching :)
I hadn't watched any other commenters' perspective on this and Im glad I waited... I wanted it from my favorite insightful source. I love you and how you tie in daily situations and experiences to bigger themes, lessons, and takeaways that can be held to ground your viewer into mindfulness. Your character is sound ❤❣️😘
Her story really scared me. The guy, legion, was terrifying. But it was also scary to watch this womam expose her self so openly. Yes it get that it was to raise awarness and help other women, but...... yikes. Oversharing is overrated, and sometimes more trouble than its worth. I hope other girls and women dont sacrifice their privacy and image in hopes of going viral like her
I think my takeaway was don't lie to yourself or hide from your village. The village should have people with different strengths. Your investigator friend, your smell a lie a mile away friend, your "I say this in love" friend. Your praying mama and Granny, who can not just get prayer through but HEAR BACK from the Lord, can caution you with a good old, "He don't set right with my spirit." Date safely, ladies.
She wasn’t a victim and she didn’t act like one. I think that was the key. A lot of people are participants but go out of their way to tell a story in a way that makes them look innocent. She didn’t do that. Also the story was just dramatic. People love drama. That’s why I watched lol
Reesa Teesa’s goal of sharing her story was clear and consistent throughout the fifty parts: “If this story helps just one person…” She was also prepared with the response to her story and had a plan! She still had a lot of detractors but she acknowledged that she made mistakes and the way she owned them were refreshing. Even though a lot of people have never experienced a Legion to that degree, they recognised how easy it was to get caught up especially when you’re faced with someone presenting as if they could meet all of your desires! The next part of her journey is a healing one…..if she came out with another crazy story about a Legion v2, people would be turned off.
I watched Ressa's story, it took me 3 days, and yes it was compelling and captivating. Mainly because she was so detailed and her recall was almost flawless. I think the internet took to her because she came across as so gathered and composed in such an atrocious situation. She'd make a good detective for sure. I wish her nothing but the best and from the update she's coming to London and Paris. I love that for her.
I also think many ppl are followers as well. If a story goes viral, it peaks curiosity more, and ppl will support it based on the overall feedback being positive. If many ppl thought the opposite, many of the same ppl who support her would not.
Her story was sucessful because she is really talented in storytelling. Just because someone has a story doesnt mean their delivery in telling the story is good. She went straight in with all of the good story grammer elements like a good book, she didnt give us too much explanation or backtracking, and her vocal and face emotions/presentation matched the tone of the story making us feel it with her. She wasnt attempting to sway the listeners opinion with podcasty commentary, she was just delivering the facts and her experince.
Reesa's story was longer than the Titanic but I watched it on YT on 1.5 speed, it deserves a lifetime movie lol. Her story was inspiring and a good reminder: - In a little over a year her life completely changed -She said "God told me He didn't want me to marry him, He showhed you signs, but I said God I want to get married, you're taking too long, I wanted it to be my turn" - Reesa cracked me up when she said "he said I'm a private citizen", "he could quote the Bible like nobody's business, but so as Satan" - I'm so glad she kept her house and didn't have a child with him! so as she wasn't tied to him in any shape or form. - "Singleness is hard but being married to the wrong person is another type of hell" Reesa said that right!
I remember the internet comments gaslit you when you shared your "pretty privilege" insight video. Like they tried to spin it was all in your head and no idea what reality.
*STEPH, THE HATE COMMENTS AREN'T YOUR PEOPLE, THEY'RE TROLLS PASSING THROUGH, THAT DO NOT KNOW YOU. PAY THEM NOOO MIND* *BTW ILY THANK YOU FOR YOUR CONTENT* ❤ 🤟
I work night shift and those long stories come in handy, gets me through my shift. There is one content creator I watch who used to do extra long lives and one stream would almost get me through my entire shift, it was the best! 😂
I completely missed Reesa's story but now I'm seeing recaps. I went sort of viral once from an article I wrote about a woman's right to choose and geesh it was almost enough to keep me off of Beyonce's internet lol. It's still why I haven't really gotten serious about TT or RU-vid. I admire women like Reesa who have the stomach for it. To Steph, I hate that you had those tough experiences going viral. You didn't deserve that but I'm glad you're still making content on your terms!
Its not worth it. Just dont do it. Being vulnerable is only admirable if you have compassion, and empathy for human beings. If you are a predator which is a large percentage of the population, it is just cause for more bullying and abuse. Your vulnerabilty will and and can be used against you by the wrong people.
I first got wind of Reesa's saga through another RU-vid creator (Real Talk with Yanie). There were some things which definitely stood out to me. For one, there were certain characteristics of Legion that reminded me of my ex-husband (the pathological lying, the gaslighting, playing the victim, and even the unsanitary substance in bottles -- although that was due to my ex-husband being an obsessive gamer not an injury). I also noticed that Reesa kept mentioned that this occurred during the time of the 'demic. This could have given some additional grace in a situation where she would have garnered more heat and more scrutiny. The beginning of that period garnered a lot of uncertainty and prompted people to do things they believed they had plenty of time to do (date, get married, get into situationships, adopt animals due to feeling lonely, etc.) at an accelerated rate. I understand and I do get it. It mirrored that people can be selective what the grace one will hand out and what amount of vulnerability one is willing to accept based on time frame, accountability of the person, the way the story is being conveyed, and relatability. Reesa was very relatable, and when you were doing your stories, the way you told your stories spoke to me and echoed some of the feelings I felt in the dating space, which is what made me subscribe to you. I don't agree with the exposure of Legion, simply because Reesa didn't reveal his name. If she had, that would have been different, but like others have pointed out, it has taken the focus off of Reesa and now we are in the weeds of the side tangents (re: Legion, the stepson, the ex-wife, etc.). It was part of Reesa's healing process, and I hope that her story serves as a benefit to others but that she can get the insight that she needs to move on. I really miss your stories, but I understand the impact they had on you. I honestly believe you were truly ahead of the curve and ahead of the time. Maybe it's the writer in me but I always appreciate a good story time, no matter how long it is. Thank you for sharing a different perspective that was not a reaction video. Take care.
I personally LOVE your stories. You have a way with words and I respect your capacity to be honest and self aware, even if the story doesn’t necessarily paint you in the best light. You’re definitely one of the most relatable people in this space. In regard to the length of your videos I prefer long ones so I say continue doing you!
To this day, I can't believe people gave you so much hate and negativity. I just don't understand why because you were just telling YOUR stories. I loved hearing your storytimes cause they were RELATABLE 😢😢
I don't even know the story in question (I think I saw it pass by on another RU-vid channel), but I agree with what you said. I think people seem to care more about events if there was a clear environmental or outside antagonist. If it's left up to whether or not it was "just your perception," people do not care. To me, that's been one of the hard things about depression, depressive modes, low self esteem, etc.; if your brain perceives things negatively, people will see that as your own personal human failing. So I know how you feel about sharing things. I literally just had someone tell me I need to stop rehashing the same past events, especially when they didn't see them as extreme enough to rehash. Now I am guarded. To me, it seems people truly don't care unless you are bleeding out on the front lawn. Which is weird because people also scream "mental health is so important," especially in response to someone hurting themselves. Idk, I'm rambling lol. Thanks for the video : )
@@Morenita570 Yes, I considered that. The only thing is that therapy is not easy to obtain sometimes. There are long wait-lists nowadays. Some aren't very affordable. Also, when I was in college, I spoke to a free therapist (a therapist in training). That was a terrible experience as she was just as annoyed as everyone else; I'm sure she thought I was trauma dumping as well. But I'm sure it's because she was unprepared. It's just sad when you don't have the right mindset to fit in with other people. They only tolerate constant unbridled happiness, unless you live in a war-torn or extremely impoverished country or you face extreme physical abuse. Then people give you leeway. Otherwise, you're just whining. So this year I'm trying to work on just processing things alone. It's not been going well, but it's only February.
@@diandriasmith889 my heart goes out to you. I can relate to what you say. Nowadays people think you should basically share anything vulnerable only with therapists when that's not accessible for most nor necessarily best. Therapists are people and many are not even fully prepared for that career path. People have forgotten about community and how important it is. Extreme individualism and positive vibes only mindsets are making people lose touch with their own humanity and everyone else's.
@@diandriasmith889 since you’re out of Uni, you should try again with new eyes and with job insurance to continue looking until you find a therapist that works for you. Think of it like this if the people around you are not capable of giving you the bare minimum emotional support you need, you’re definitely not giving them any support at all being depressed. You’re asking others around you to give what you’re not capable of giving either and then getting upset at them. You have to be the change you wish to see in others.
@@magicalgirl7903 that’s not what individualism is. You want to share trauma with those around you not capable of helping you in the way you need. And also you’re not helping them back at ALL in that trauma state and it becomes one side because they don’t have the tools to lead you out of the trauma. Family, relationships, friendships get stuck. Having an outside party sometimes helps and you can maintain your attachments to your family and community without needing to cut them off. Cutting people off because they’re incapable of healing your one own pain is individualism.
#1 Rule of the internet, nothing is real unless proven it's true. This really helped with comparing my self-image and career. Pictures? Photoshopped, Videos? Edited. Stories? Fictional or HEAVILY modified. Lifestyle? Faked. Salary? Inflated.
I’m soo glad you made this video!! I will be honest and say when I say this series go viral I instantly thought about you and how you felt you could not be free to do storytelling with excessive criticism. Storytelling is your gift…I really think you should try again if it’s sustainable for you. Lovely video 🖤
When I first started watching her tiktok I immediately thought of you. You are an amazing story teller and I miss hearing all of your stories. I understand why you took a step back though.
What kept her story relevant is along the way (of the 50 part series) she admitted to not paying attention to the red flags. Now that she’s from under the spell she is able to clearly understand that it was all desperation of it being her turn. It really spoke to me bc I have constantly wondered when will it be my turn BUT I don’t want it bad enough that I will accept anything. She didn’t ask enough questions and didn’t meet none of his family members, she walked passed many of the basic dating rules because covid made her think the world was ending.
I feel a little sad watching this. Your voice sounds shaky and I'm not sure if that's emotion or nerves, but I hope you know we are in support of you as a creator even if it comes with some natural disagreements!
I think Steph is traumatized by everything and I think when she films now she is extremely self-conscious, so she makes sure she speaks more indirectly about issues because she’s trying to avoid being attacked like she was before. I think she also has a lot of regret and hasn’t yet forgiven herself for sharing so much of her personal information to the world because I think she feels foolish/disappointed in herself for having done it, even though her videos were comforting for so many ppl.
The way the world works can be weird. How some people do the same thing, but get different results 😢. Especially when you are honest and vulnerable. It shows how life isn't fair just based on how we also look. Sad😢
I'm happy for her, but also afraid for her. When people rise that fast, I'm always waiting for the fickle internet to turn their backs on her. Hopefully, she has good people around her.
I actually found her story left me with more questions than answers. Like a less than $1000 3 bd room townhome in the greater Atlanta suburbs area? How was he able to pay bills? How did he hurt his leg? And if the leg was hurt to the point of debilitation, how was he able to still make enough money to support her? And weekend jail…. Lastly, if he came into the relationship, all of the WWE memorabilia, invicta watches, cars and clothes, why did she feel entitled to it. ESPECIALLY since he was paying all the bills and she never had to pay why did she feel the need to essentially leave him homeless without his things he has before he met her? She made no mention of him stealing from her or leaving her bankrupt… I thought that was questionable and I didn’t see the need to rid him of his worldly possessions because he lied to you. Yes the levels of deception were insane and baffling but she played into his delusion by keeping going to those house showings and car dealers knowing damn well he wasn’t about to get anything. She kept checking on him when he was out the picture I simply don’t understand. Idk something’s weren’t clear.
I think it’s important to note that she received a ton of support but also received a bit of criticism, too. So with that being said, given your statement in your last video, I hope you bring back story time because we keep asking! Lol
Honestly I wouldn't talk about my dating life if I were her, given the amount of backlash she got for that. She's such a great storyteller and seems to have a lot of experiences so I hope she shares some of them with us. ❤
@@acceptinglife6491 Did you actually see the backlash or you're just going off what Steph says? I remember the artist video debacle. Very few people were mean. Most people were concerned about Steph's extra behavior.
@@noemita494lol there was backlash. This comment could be considered backlash for sure. Here, you’ve taken the time to invalidate what I’ve experienced and chalk it up to a “reasonable” reaction given my “extra behavior.” So, if you didn’t see backlash before, count your comment as one clear example of why I chose to rethink my relationship to the internet and the concept of authenticity.
So glad you covered this topic ❤ there are probably so many woman (and men) who have experienced some variation of this story and then there are others who don’t think this crap happens but it does! I’ve appreciated your storytelling and respect your reasons for restricting it on your channel. We need to normalize being able to tell your story without criticism.
Steph, I for one (although I 100% understand and support your situation) was saddened by you deciding to change up your content. I lived for your personal friend + love life story times as I often felt "omg me tooooooo!" Every morning i'd watch a video as I got ready for my day. You're a gifted storyteller, I applause the way you put a video together and have a vulnerable yet comical viewpoint. Your true audience rides for you. Nevertheless, I get why you changed up a bit. If you don't hear it alot, thank you... what you do is a healing to many of us. 🙏🏾
More than anything, I’m happy to hear that her story had a positive impact on you and help alleviate that shame/guilt you felt from sharing your stories. I thought the backlash you endured was over the top.
I love your stories and I was sad to hear that you removed some of them. I'm happy I've been a follower and have heard most of them before you removed them. I understand the criticism that black women receive in situations like this. I was in a similar situation where a man lied about who he was and my friends response was something like "how did you let this happen to you" and "it couldn't have been me". Like I was responsible the trauma that individual afflicted upon me.
I fell in love with your channel because of the stories you used to tell...but then I stuck around because I love love hearing your perspective on things and the way your mind works ❤
The amount of internet trolls😈 that get off on being mean just because, is crazy! I can’t believe they said those harsh things about the baby, when that had to be such a devastating experience for her. Geez 💔
Here’s the thing- you did the same thing she did. ( divulging your life/dating experiences / aside from the 50 part format) You’re also a great storyteller. When it comes down to it, you’re dark skin. She was extremely obese, unattractive to most (beautiful inside though *I’d assume*), and light skin. She’s an underdog in her class of light brights. If she was beautiful and in shape and light , there would Be less sympathy. It might sound harsh, but it’s the truth.
The internet and netizens are too scary for me. Remember that Home Depot "girl" (woman)? All she did was post a picture, and netizens hunted her down with marriage proposals, death threads, doxxing, and even got her fired and considering moving to a new apartment
Im so worried for her. She exposed alot of the exact locations of places that she frequents, and exposed how vulnerable and gulliable she is. Im praying another, more saavy predator doesmt hone in on her now. And i hope other girls and women dont sacrifice their privacy and image, just to go viral and get cool gifts like reesa is
You realy csnt shame someone who shamed themselves and healed from it. I love seeing the support for this Black Woman, i am happy she's thriving now. And thats that on that.
It’s because she is a clear storyteller and has accountability… She had a clear timeline and also stated all things that she “did wrong” or purposely ignored. She is a very honest lady, she’s a great storyteller. You’re the first person I thought of when I heard this story lol.
As the story progressed, i became more stressed and sorry for the both of them…legion clearly has mental health issues and has become a plague to the women and people in his life😢
I sat through all 50 parts. I was on the edge of my seat, bed, toilet lol. People are way too judgemental and self-righteous. And it's crazy how people feel so entitled to tell you their opinion or what they would or wouldn’t have done. Nobody asked you! She was just sharing; not asking for advice or to be criticized. But we think, "Well, she shouldn't have posted it then." So it's a lose-lose.
i think a big part of her support comes from her spirit. she seems humble, nice and composed. she also had backlash, but she seemed to handle it with grace and humility. on the contrary, for other story tellers, the underneath nastiness of some people seeps through and they are unlikeable.
Actually, the best way to watch it -- is to LISTEN w one ear bud, and go about your day. I rarely "looked at it, because you really didn't have to look at it in order to get what she was saying
People will say “accountability is key” because the elite, the rich, the ⚪️ convinced the rest of the world that they are the reason for their own suffering. So her story makes ppl feel good. They’re like hey! All these horrible things happened to her but she’s saying it’s her fault so we allow some sympathy. When someone like you says hey this horrible thing happened to me & it shouldn’t have it infuriates people. All they heard is you think you’re too good and perfect to not be deserving or responsible for the terrible thing that happened to you because if we thought anything to the contrary society would crumble.
I’m gonna keep it 💯the internet loved Ressa Teesa because she’s not too much of anything threatening…she’s black but not “too” dark, she’s overweight but not “too” fat, she’s pretty but not “too” pretty. I absolutely love her vulnerability and she’s a sweet spirit. I caution anyone who thinks they’re going to get her level of internet success because she’s real and likable and accountable…she’s an internet UNICORN…many will try what she did and epically fail…the stars were aligned for her ✨✨✨
This comment was totally inaccurate. Did you actually see her videos? She is very overweight, she is the typical skintone of most African Americans, and she is not conventionally attractive. She has a talent for storytelling, seems credible, intelligent, and has a likeable personality.
@@MT-yx5cu I did watch every single video and I stand by my comment. She’s the size of the average Black woman, in my eyes I think she’s pretty but today people don’t know natural beauty without 7 layers of foundation and a contour stick…she was successful because she was not a threat especially to other women.
@@soulmood7777 her success has nothing to do with what you mentioned. Most black women are not that big. You reached a little too hard with your original comment. Good day ma'am.
Coming back here to say telling stories about other people is very dangerous. I woke up this morning and there’s thousands of people making videos about legion having HIV.
Can we stop bestowing power on " the internet " Stephco ?Some people's lives are a movie and some people's life are a novel. This Ladies life is a novel.
To your point @17:35 she owned her sht, she wasn’t defensive and never made excuses, she said here’s what happened to me and the role I played in it….and just that alone took away a lot power from internet trolls to say anything to discredit her story because she owned it and said yes I was desperate etc etc and that resonated with a lot of ppl, plus she answered questions honestly imo and wasn’t defensive when answering said questions, she didn’t shut her audience out as the story progressed
Honestly, it isn’t this deep. No one is respecting or loving her, it’s literally just the internet, people LOVEEE drama and the fact that it had so many parts which is unheard of made it go viral and then a trend of watching her was created. Give it some time, the script is going to flip. That viral “support” will quickly turn into hate. I am already seeing negative comments about her starting to grow. And this was only one story, the moment she dares to post another story about a bad experience with a man? She’s done.
7hours and some minutes!! I think she’s sitting on a goldmine with her story! By the end, I liked her A LOT! and I dropped a tear…😢… it’s just a matter of time before we see her pulling up to the cheese cane factory in that Blue BMW Lolo… and that $799k house is not too far behind! I want these things for her! 💙🌊
I thought she was absolutely silly for moving in with a man after such after such a short time. But I have to agree with you. I felt empathy for her, first and foremost she took accountability. And she was likable.
Reesa's story was so real. I've been there. I appreciated her vulnerability and her skills in laying that out. She deserves every good thing for bringing these heinous behaviors to light.
