Big thanks to everyone liking, commenting, and of course, subscribing! This series has been a huge labor of love and it's been so great to see your response 🩵
There’s nothing like listening to a type one describing type ones. You get us!!! Plus, being a type one making RU-vid videos means you do it the right way (LOL) and your content is a pleasure to watch and not annoying (unlike videos by others who are not so organized, etc.)! 😊 Thank you!
I appreciate it, Claire! Definitely tried to "do it right" hence it took 6 months to make em haha but I'm so glad to hear they stand out amidst all the other enneagram content out there 🙌
Yes!! Total agreement here as a fellow 1 😊 I also agree with the quality time love language. And I truly appreciate how that and acts of service were grouped together as the top possibilities! I saw someone else approach it as if acts of service is the only one that matters to us with no explanation whatsoever. It irked me SO much. So thank you for including ALL of us in this explanation!
Productivity is a compulsion! Yes! I had a stressful day at work and I couldn’t relax at home until I cleaned. I washed a sink full of dishes and THEN I could veg out with Netflix
I’m a strong 1w2 and this is so spot on up to the love language. I’m a Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch was a close 2nd. I’m wondering if that’s the case because validation of who I am and my decisions are so very important to the appearance I try to uphold.
I identify as a 1w9 type with sx/sp dominance. The love languages bonus was a pleasant surprise for me, as I had never considered making this connection before. Your conclusion perfectly aligns with my situation. My primary love language is quality time, and acts of service come in as a close second. Words of affirmation never held much appeal to me, as I have always perceived myself as a confident individual with a healthy self-esteem. Gift-giving is my least preferred love language, undoubtedly because possessions and wealth are not something we can take with us to the grave hehe
Thanks! I now recognize a couple of 1's in my life :) Really appreciate the suggestions on how to best work *with* the type and avoid some common landmines.
@@YouveGotaType I am a SP 2 and a 2w3 (he’s a 1w9). It’s a great pairing, but definitely comes with challenges too. The Enneagram is such a wonderful roadmap to help navigate our bumps along the road!
Mannn, your videos have been scarily accurate. I feel so exposed lol in the best way. Thanks for articulating these traits in ways that hold me accountable and aren't isolating
Good description! I agree with quality time as top love language, for me, that is followed by intimacy emotionally + spiritually and then physical touch which also is a form of intimacy.... gifts is the absolute last and irrelevant... and as a 1 I never get angry but I relentlessly focus on improving everything according to my spiritual and moral ideal (which is self-crafted and continuously evolving). Been angry once or twice a year at tops and mostly towards collectives and the whole world... only get angry when an abuser commits the most blatantly ill-willing and relentless acts that are unjust and intending to hurt - then I tame their dragons by overpowering them with righteous wrath because no one has more power than me when I feel righteous and my extreme patience and forgiveness and peaceful 9-ishness runs out. But it only happens in real time attack from them as it is happening, and only if they go on and on. Never after - if I need to adress a severe wrongdoing from someone after it has been done I talk diplomatically but firmly about it like a psychologist or counselor seeing both sides but firm on addressing the harm and immoral injustice involved. Next step on my list is to get more in touch with my anger because it is so subterranean and never seems to emerge - I need it more present and active in my life.
I am a 1 in a relationship with someone who views words of affirmation as their love language. If you give thought to the issue, I honestly don't find it hard to give compliments, however, the compliments I give are smaller, and from the heart. Its is hard though, sometimes I want to add "but" at the end of every compliment I give
@@YouveGotaType I've taken multiple tests, paid for and free, I always seem to get 1 or 4 as the highest, depending on what mood I'm in, but the score is always very close. Feels like I'm 50 50 a 1 and a 4. Is this normal?
@@D0land0_94 1s almost never type as 4s - they have such different core motivations. Ironically, people I've worked with that have 1and 4 high end up being 6s because 6s are a mix of the moral responsibility of 1s and the emotion instability of 4s.
Another issue: I have observed that the love language one expresses may differ from the love language one craves (e.g. being of service towards others as the fitst resort and to express love but needing quality time to feel loved). I'd like to hear what you think about this!
Yup that's the way the love languages work (the love language you speak vs. the love language you receive). For 1s, I felt both were pretty much the same, but in future episodes, I speak about it in this give vs. receive framework.
What an amazing channel, such a useful resource for writing. Thanks you. Do you have any material on common pairings for dramatic effect? I read that 1's and 7's are usually a good pairing.
Well, I now understand why my dad and I didn't get along when I was in my teens and twenties. I'm a 9 and he's a 1. He's super hardworking and critical. I'm chill and passive. He always has to be right and I just want to be heard, lol. (We're cool now but man!!! We used to be very tense around each other.)
I agree with most of this, I’m definitely one with a two wing However, I don’t think of sex as a reward, but part of improving relationship through closeness. Also, expressing love language I use touch and quality time. I like to receive quality time, and words of affirmation. As a one that’s done some work on myself, I try to give words of affirmation, because I know I can be so critical.
Thought I was a type 8 but turns out I’m a 1. The scorched earth thing during conflict was what solidified it. This was 10 mins of being really uncomfortable lmfaooo
I legitimately laughed out loud when you said “criticism is a love language” bc it’s TRUUUE love these videos, in both content and appearance! I am truly delighted by the clean, consistent, yet colorful aesthetic of your thumbnails. As an artist and a 1w9 I am so pleased to see this channel, literally and figuratively! 🫀🧠🪞
My giving language is gifts (feels virtuous and rewarding), while I prefer my partner give me quality time (vacations) or acts of service (ok, cleaning 😂).
I am new to this, type 1 has been spot on for me, except for my love language. Physical touch is very important to me ... as long as i am happy with my partner, otherwise physical touch can be repulsive. That kind of makes sense with everything else type 1
Thank you! I have one question though as I feel that a friend (type 1) is not prone to criticise others so much as herself. In fact, she is always hard on herself and lets others her away with almost anything (up to a certain point. Then she "snaps" and goes to warmode). Could this be because she is sp repressed? Everything else is spot on though!
Hard to say as this is your experience of her, not her speaking for herself. I don't prefer to throw out guesses about someone's type with just a few superficial observations.
@@ronjar.747 The 1s criticism starts first with themself, no matter their instinct. 1s with a 2 wing tend to be more extroverted, and therefore will communicate their criticism more directly to their peers, whereas 1s with a 9 wing tend to internalize those critiques and only share them with trusted loved ones. Broad generalization though!
I consider myself a SX 1w9 and my love languages are physical touch and quality time followed by acts of service. “Actions speak louder than words” and all that 😂
I’m a 4… but just realizing some of my 1 tendencies, especially with anger. 🤔 But also, my mom is a 1w2 (dad is 8w7), so I definitely know I have some of that influence. 😂
