Enneagram Type 9s Explained - A Complete Guide 

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To explain what being a "lazy" 9 is, imagine it's really hot outside but you didn't know and went out with a sweater. Well now you have a sweater on and there is no way in hell you're going through the trouble of getting it off and then carrying it. You are just going to leave it on and suffer the sweet pain. Except the sweater is probably a person or a group of people

When you began describing 9 with 1 wing... I felt personally attacked. 😂 So spot on, I'm glad I found this channel!

Best video I've seen on 9's and you nailed every single breakdown. There is no doubt whatsoever where I land even down to the specifics of 9 life and existence. WOW! Thank you for putting your work out into the world. The way you nailed the childhood experience and the wings is continuing to blow my mind. 🤯

The 9w1 does sound a lot like my wife. We've been married for 14 years and knew each other for a couple of years before that, so I've come to get to know her fairly well. One of the things that we enjoy doing together is daydreaming out loud about shared ideas and how we could realize them. Sometimes, we even manage to attempt to make one of these ideas come true. For example, we've started a garden at the school where she teaches. We combined her amazing ability to turn anything into a teaching tool with my horticultural training and experience to make a garden that all of the classes at her school can use to teach the kids from kindergarten to fifth grade. The way she deals with feeling really frustrated or angry is just like what you describe here in that she'll start crying rather than yelling or lashing out. Even when she's upset, she always seems to find the silver lining. I think she's more of a self-preservation instinct than the other ones. She's pretty easily entertained and has few wants. I think some of these aspects of the nine are partly how my wife and I get along. We both can become introverted and introspective so she understands that aspect of my personality too. The nine's ability to fit in with other types is probably why she's so willing to join in with my hobbies and spend time with me through them. I tell my friends in the videogaming, collecting and tabletop gaming social media groups I'm in that I'm lucky to have a spouse who actually enjoys my hobbies rather than just putting u with them. So many of the guys I know in those groups find that their hobbies are a source of friction in their marriages. Though I'm not predisposed to expressing my emotions and feelings towards others, I do think sometimes to let her know how much I appreciate her interest in my hobbies. I try to take an interest in her's as well. She's really into volunteering at our church and helping with youth programs, so I join in with those things when I can. I have trouble coping with rooms full of kids, especially for extended periods of time, so most of my participation is behind the scenes with helping her prepare lessons, craft projects, activities etc. When I do spend time with her grade school or church students, she often reminds them ahead of time to be on their best behavior and to use their inside voice even more than usual. Loud, rambuctious, noisy kids kind of drive me nuts. I don't see how she has the patience for it.

If you don't give up, this channel will explode sooner or later. Amazing job. Well done.

I recently started couples counseling and the therpist gave us the test. I found out I'm type 9 and this video makes so much sense. I'm always told that I dont care but deep down I care so much. I just struggle with expressing myself because of fear and wanting to keep the peace. Thank you for this explanation.

As a 9w8 yeah I’m confused as hell, a walking paradox 😂. Good video thanks, I’ve learned some insight.

This is amazing. Now I just got to figure out what my dreams were because I forgot. I was to busy being everybody else

Ouch, unhealthy 9 here. This video was... eye opening to say the least. Now, I know what changes I can make to my life to improve it I guess. Wow. Thanks!

I listened to 4 or 5 of these complete guides, mostly as a tool for character writing because it seemed like a useful tool. Though I wasn't sure how valid I felt it was to real life. I never really gravitated toward any of the types. Then I watched *this* video. And I felt like I was punched in the gut from start to finish. Like I was having a session with a therapist and they had to sit me down and explain a hard truth I'd been avoiding. This series is excellent. Thanks for your hard work!

I always described myself as a 3 but my friends keep telling me I am a 9, the childhood story described me very acurately and now I understand, thanks

Great video! I’m a 9w1 studying enneagram for about 2 years. I laughed a few times because your description was so accurate. The enneagram has been an valuable tool for me to move past my ego and live my authentic self. I think adding karate back to my life decades of no body connection started my healing process. In the past 2 years I’ve lost about 100lbs and am truly awake and active to be my best self.

As a 9 I realised i was at my lowest when i was saying goodbye to my friend who was leaving for college,i just broke down crying it wasnt fully because of her leaving but because our old friend group had broken apart a few months ago because of a fight between me and another friend.It broke me so much ,seeing them hang out without me was so hurting.Thats why i just broke down when i saw someone from the group.I was down for an entire year with that so i dissociated and isolated but went out enough to maintain social quo and also because im quite extroverted.This year i promised myself to work harder and focus on myself and get my grades up. My main focus is me!

"You see yourself in every type" is such a damn relatable thing, and I have problems with it even in MBTI 😂 I should not be confused as to whether I'm a certain type or the polar opposite of it, but here I am, constantly! If I'm a 9, that makes so much sense considering that!

Type 9 here. The 9w1 description is me 90%+ of the time. And then I hit my breaking point, my temper flares up and Type 8 rears it’s head. And once the volcano erupts I’m back to whistling a happy tune 2 minutes later, while whoever I blew up at will stew for hours or days to come. It’s been like that my whole life.

"We are groot" is my favorite quote ever

This was full of jaw drops for me and I know I’ll be re-listening to this over the next few days to take notes. I’d been thinking for awhile that I was a 9w1 but as you described the 9w8 it was like hearing all about myself. As my wife will attest to my outbursts of anger then being “fine” later, leaving her confused. 🤦🏽‍♂️ And I definitely see how my 9-ness has played into my long-time job, and my desire to live elsewhere yet never leaving home…

I was struggling between being a 9 or a 2. I haven't watched the "2" video yet, but this makes me lean heavily toward 9. Thanks for all of the helpful info!

I feel attacked 😂. I thought I was pretty healthy, but I have completely blocked everyone out, but family and 1 or 2 friends, that I text only. I tell everyone my best friends are my dog and horse. I also had this great idea to start "Sunday dinners", so my kids had to come home and visit.😂 🤣

Excellent video! This is the best short summary I have seen of Enneagram type 9.

Best explanation of the enneagram I've seen on RU-vid. Well done!

wow thank you so much. I am in my early thirties and i have struggled with my identity for such a long time, been so stuck in my own head. I was always pleasing others from friends to parents just to fit in and avoid anything that will make my parents angry but deep down i have chosen wrong career paths and divorced once and I have been sitting down hating everything about my life, my choices and i realized I need to find who I am coz I will never be happy with anyone if I don't know who I am a person. Ever since I was a kid when i asked for money for things my dad would just shout a BIG NO! at me and I never asked for anything from anyone ever since. I have taught myself to be content with any small thing i have and don't deserve anything extraordinary to a point that I was in a relationship with this amazing wealthy stable man who wanted to help me change my life and I left him for someone from a broken home like me as I didn't feel like I deserved anything that good. wow thank you at least now i know how to change my life.

I just discovered your channel, I’ve read many enneagram books and enjoy listening to enneagram videos. I’m glad I have found your videos, very informative and great ! Keep it up !

Love the way that you shared all of this info!!!

I already knew I was an unhealthy 9w1 but this just like slapped me in the face with that knowledge multiple times. Every unhealthy trait is something I do lolllll

Great one. Just disovered your content and as recently (last 3-4 months) discovered that I am 9 - it's great. Look forward to more of your content.

Just finding this video. As a 9w1 and a (dang good) therapist, you described it all very well. This video is clear, to the point, and interesting. I'll be checking out your other stuff too. Nice work!

I love love love your channel! So illuminating! Just started working with the enneagram types through my studies in music therapy and honestly would love to do a minor just on enneagrams. Thank you for your great work, it’s very inspiring!❤

looooved the video! best enneagram explanation!

I was just in awe, you just call me out so much! I can relate with all of this. I’m a type 9w1! Thanks for the information video! 😊

Wow! I learned a lot and, with your help, realized I’m a social 9 with an 8 wing. Very helpful and clear while also being detailed. I listened to all… thank you!

I'm on 9 wing 8 and have recently figured out that if I'm having this feeling inside of me of feeling like someone is manipulating me, that I don't need to settle and suppress my needs just to make others happy. I can lean on that 8 wing and I can say what is bothering me but do it in a calm way, like 9's like to do. I can be a diplomat and still stand up for my needs. I feel like I've been in a much healthier place once I've realized the power of asserting my needs but doing it in a calm, kind way. I do love the countries and celebrities you associate 9's with and it made me feel happy and empowered that I'm in such great company. Thanks for doing such a great deep dive on 9's!

This is the most comprehensive video I've seen so far on my enneagram type. The childhood part made me cry

Kia Ora from New Zealand.. I am an 8 married (well recently separated) to a 9w1.. This video explains many things I didn’t understand. Thank you so much.. Morgan Freeman would have been sick but you do a great job. Nga mihi Aaron.

Just recently i figured out that i am a type 9. my tendency to avoid conflicts is something that i am so used to that i honestly stopped noticing it. basically my whole apperance is the opposite of provoking (very unobtrusive). you've mentioned that unhealthy, isolated nines can look like 5's and i can totally confirm that this is true. i might gather lots of information like this type but in my case it's strictly psychology-related. this is knowledge that i use to get along with different personality types and understand myself better (because obviously that is something 9's tend to struggle with) and not like type 5's only to be competent and knowledgeable. the best way to figure out ones own type is really by looking at the core fear and desire. at least that's what helped me the most. also a healthy and mature 8 in my life helped me to stand up for myself more often, which was another step torwards growth.

Great information! Thank you for sharing!

cried before continuing on personal growth chapter. this was basically my introduction to my type)))))))) very informative. didn't know i was in denial THAT deep :""""""""""") incredibly helpful. now i know why i started having internal anger blow ups and that it is a 100% anger issues i need to work on (a lot of info on the internet talks about anger issues that go outwards; it's hard to find info about anger that doesn't "hurt your loved ones" - i know now that i just need to keep looking). thank you. we are groot :""""")

5 minutes in, and this is already resonating with me. Thanks for this video. I'm quite new to this and I'm excited to learn more.

Thank you for this video 🙌🏾. Super spot on

Wow! I'm a 9w1 and I definitely have some 5w4 traits. I've enjoyed investigating unconventional topics long before the internet.

Dang! That was the best breakdown of me, a 9w1, that I have ever heard. Even the childhood stuff - how did you know??!! Crazy accurate. Thank you!

Thanks for all the time and effort / research / filming editing… that goes in to these vids man . I just wanna give props to you for helping others understand themselves and partners / family. I will be sharing this channel to everyone I know who knows what an Enneagram is

Damn this video really called me out 😂 Super informative, thank you!

Famous 9 wing 1 include Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly and Kate Middleton. So much in common: famous for their pleasing regal yet minimalist style, graciousness. Very successful early in life (integration to 3?), then they seem to withdraw into a family role and curated image, perhaps burned by the harsh world, they settle into a quieter, more private domestic life.,

Great video! Spot on and explained so clearly.

Thank you so much for putting these videos out in the world! I find you very easy to listen to, it's educational and I appreciate how inclusive and nuanced you are around a topic that clearly is near your heart. And I also like the graphic design work you got going, it really ties it all together in a very nice way. Really well done!

What a great video description for 9s...so this is me! Looking foward to watch the other breakdowns since this is so accurate.

I've spent the last 3 years studying enneagram and this is the first video I find that explains the two extra triads. It completely helped me understanding why I resonated so much with 4, despite not having any direct connection with it. Awesome video!!! Fantastic approach. Thank you. 😊

I am new on my enneagram journey. I thought I was a 2, but after some coaching I think that I am a 9. My guess is that I am an a 9w8 sx/so. I have been working a lot on my tendencies to codependency in different relationships. Now I am working at being better at conflict. I absolutely love yoga and I also love cooking, nature and animals🥹

Beautiful video! 🤌👏😍

Thank you so much for this! It really helped me understand myself better and come to term with my inner mechanisms. Wonderful video, thank you! ❤️

I am trending towards 6 and 9. Loved this video! The Marvel references at the end spoke to me the most. thank you for this!!

Best 9w8 vid I've seen.

9s see a part of them in every type is also very accurate. The first time I heard about the enneagram and heard about each type I thought that I fit into the 9 😂

Incredibly helpful. Thank you

I just recently came across this personality typing and this video made me so happy and sad. So happy that this fits me so perfectly and sad that I feel so common that a personality type fits me like a glove.

Wow. You are really informed and did a wonderful job. I enjoyed this video!

Really interesting and simply explained. I watched to the end thanks

This is sooo crazy precise. For someone like me looking into Enneagram after looking into MBTI, I am stunned this helps sooo much to sort things in life. o_O

This is too accurate!amazing analysis!I would love you to make 4 and 9 in a relationship🙏🏼

I really enjoy your videos. They really help me to understand the different personality types. I am a self-preservation 9w1 and can definitely see myself in your description: some unsettling truths there 😬 and thanks for the tips at the end: noted.

Hooo i feel called the fuck out on a few things in here. I already knew I was a type 9 before thia video but i couldnt narrow down the wing nor did i understand how I was a type 9 when so many other types aspects aeemed to make so much sense... this narrowed it down SHARPLY. Type 9 wing 1.

Loved it!!

Great video . I keep getting confused and wondering if I might be a two but after watching this I definitely think I’m a nine . My past even lines up with the typical past of type 9’s. It kind of made my jaw drop when you said that because I’m in therapy currently, discussing such things . I can definitely see the 3 in myself to at different phases of my life.

Wonderful video! Learned a ton. Great reference to build character arcs for Asran, an undead diplomat character of mine.

I have recently been struggling with the type I got after taking a free enneagram test, type 2w1. this has given me so much clarity and I resonated with all of the 9w1 traits. thank you so much for this video!

Thank you. I never quite knew my type until I hear your descriptions. Boy....it is spot on! (9w1)

Thank you for helping me figure out that I am DEFINITELY a 9 🤣 I've only just discovered enneagrams and have taken a few different tests that have mostly come back that I was a 5 or 6, but when reading about each of them I only related on some things with them. The last one I took came back a 9 and it felt a little more accurate, so I searched RU-vid and yours was the one I clicked on....I have to say that I'm glad I did because you described me to a tee!! And I can say with 99% certainty that I'm a 9 with a 1 wing. Everything you described, right down to the childhood experiences and the dissociation was spot on! The last two years I have been doing a lot of self healing and rarely dissociate anymore and I'm also becoming a little more outspoken. It's funny you say about the sense of humour of 9w1 because most days I just sit back and go with the flow with my friends but every now and then I somehow flip my personality or something and I'm really quick witted and can come out with good one liners that I normally couldn't think of 🤣 Thanks again for helping me understand myself more ☺️👍

Good video!

Thank you so much for helping me break down and understand my true enneagram type. You are very intelligent, insightful, and knowledgeable at what you do. I'm definitely an INFJ 9w1 self preservation instinctual type.

Thank u ! That was awesome

Ok so, I have never been crying and laughing that much while watching one and the same video!

Thank you so much for making this video!!! You shared some very insightful information! I am in a journey to figure out who I am. Taking an enneagram test and learning about my personality was my first task. I resonate with 97% of things you said for 9W1. Now to figure out where I go from here. Open to recommendations in more videos or books to help!!

I’m wobbling on enneagram 2 and 9, and your videos are a lifeboat!

This is the most comprehensive and easily relatable breakdown of type 9 I have ever encountered. Every aspect of the video hit a nerve and prompted me to pay more attention to my wings along with the pitfalls and healthiest parts of our personalities.

Awesome video. So on point. I just asked my son what type he thinks he is and he said electric...hes 8. I had to share

Very content to be a 9 (w8). Getting used to discomfort in others as I become more assertive.

great video!

Finally took the test out of curiosity and watched this video to figure out wtf being type nine means....can confirm I live in dulululand whenever experiencing discomfort or negative emotions.

I was “diagnosed” by two different tests, one unpaid for one paid for, but both came up as type nine and I remember reading the description on it, and being so disappointed because I had spent months in therapy, trying to access my ability to like create boundaries because I had such a hard time with it and I also had to work on a lot of anger issues That I never had before that just like popped up randomly or three months of like the most intense anger that you can imagine just overwhelming sense of like rage, and it was so frustrating for me to handle this cause I hate being angry, and I don’t know how to describe better that like I hate being angry more than most people like I don’t know how to put that into context but when I was told I was a nine I was like oh that makes sense and now it’s a topic for me and my therapist frequently. Thanks for your video. This was voice text so apologies for the weird comment.

all of these videos are incredibly well done - I’m so surprised you don’t have hundreds of thousands of subscribers!! I was pretty sure I was a 6w5 but I felt caaallled out in this video. Childhood things, codependency issues, suppressed rage, etc. I thought I was a 6 because I want security & safety but peace gives safety? they are so linked. Curious to know if you have tips on questions I can ask myself to figure out if I’m one or the other.

Actually, no, I think I am more of a 6w5 than a 9w1... I just have very bad ADHD while also having mostly enemies instead of friends. I live in a very conservative area, and the small leftwing activism groups I tried to form were too fractious to work with. I also find bosses and coworkers impossible to please.

I think this is me. Feeling attacked haha! Thank you for your dedication to this channel. I hope you get the recognition you deserve cause your content is really great

hey there, today I finished the whole compelete guides of enneagram types , I'm studying Enneagram for a personal project and you have done a fantastic job teaching and explaining it. I want to thank you for all of your efforts and I am sure that I am going to watch all of your videos and also rewatch the ones that I have watched before. thank you thank you so much and I wish you the bests , hopefully will see hear from you more, bests💗

Great vid. I've never been sure of my 9w8.

DANG!! This was insightful, and your method of delivery was eloquent. I feel like I have a name and a better understanding of my physical and mental responses...smh. lol called and supported with knowledge.

Wow, the description of the childhood took away any questions I had in if the test was accurate.

This is insane! My friend said she was studying enneagrams and I took the test to find I’m a 9. I’m doing more research and this explains me so well, even the childhood stuff.

I've super loved it. ❤

"In their unhealthiest state, sexual nine's just find an equally codependant mate, and together they go down with the ship." Wow! This hit hard after finally ending a 20 year relationship with a unhealty two. I always knew something was off, until I did the work. So much time lost, but I definitely came out much stronger.

I am a 9w8. I feel the constant internal struggle.

9w1 Dreamer from São Paulo, Brazil, who happens to be a huge fan of both James Taylor and Jack Johnson :) thank you for sharing your insights!

I've got two sets of song lyrics playing in my head now: "You may say, I'm a dreamer... but I'm not the only one"; and: "I'm just a soul whose intentions are good, oh lord, please don't let me be misunderstood." :- 9w1

Ha. You've got me nailed. I need to read a book but based off this video that 9-1 combo is calling me out hard.

The fact that 9s commonly go through childhood sexual abuse, broke my heart. My mom is a 9 and she endured this at a very young age. ❤ 😢

Thank you! I am a 9, and every variation you describe all seem like me! A friend of mine who is an Enneagram buff, said that may make me a pure 9

This is amazing but yet frightening! I am 31 years old and never before have someone described me better than you, I am definitely a type 9W1, but except for the sexual part it doesn't resonate with me, but everything else? WOW!🤣

Thanks for this! I love your explanations and they’re so helpful.

I was always super confused as to whether I was a 4 or a 9 and all the tests I took told me I was a 4w5 eventhough I was never truly convinced because I never agreed with their motivations and while I felt out of place when with my emotions when it came to my family, I certainly never thought I was special from the rest of the world nor did i want to be. But when I'm in a bad place I was very similar to 4s in the sense that I can be very emotional, moody, and be prone to sudden outbursts of anger and resentment because I supress what i really want to say and make alot of people (including myself) confused about why I let out everything over something so small. Which I hate. So overall I related to type 4s only when I was on my bad days lol. Now after watching your video, I am 100% sure I'm a type 9 lol. When you described the childhood. I was SHOCKED at how accurate it was 💀 and the fact that you said I would never describe my childhood as traumatic I had to stop and stare at the screen for a second 💀💀. However now I'm confused if I'm a 9w1 or a 9w8. I relate to 9w8 because I feel I have a more practical look at life, feel I can socialize a bit easier than most 9s, and I definantely like to pull my own weight at work. I can be a little more aggressive and defensive on certain aspects. And I'm Definantely more like a 4 when im in my lower points in life. However, I do quit easily, I dislike sports, and competition stresses me out. But based on your video, I can definitely say my primary instinct is self-preservation, so maybe that explains why I'm less competitive and ambitious than most 9w8s cause I really like the simple things in life. But what really makes me doubt I'm a 9w8 is the fact that they are so rare for type 9s 💀also I feel I was more similar to a 9w1 as a child and am told by people I can be pretty philosophical and "deep" when I give advise (I cringed writing that down 😭)and when I'm feeling my most peaceful I relate to 9w1 more. Overall though thanks to this excellent video, my confusion over my enneagram has finally vanished! Amazing job! You can definitely tell how much research and time went into the video. Also the way you explained it was simple enough that people new to the enneagram would definantely have no trouble understanding! Amazing video!