Retracting your energy (to re-attract your ex) 

I had an ex that i thought about incessantly for three months while he was totally no contact. Then one day i hung out with another guy and had the best time and developed a crush on him. For the first day in three months i didn’t think about my ex once. That night he called me.

Well, I don’t know about other people, but I managed to do that and move forward (and actually some of these videos helped). My ex never wanted to come back. But thanks to that excitement about the future I’ve met the one who’s a better match for me. So moving forward is always a good thing. Life’s too short to spend it on wanting someone who’s over you.

Not only does retracting your energy work to reattract your ex, but as you begin to be present and look around your perception changes and you begin to see the bigger picture....which means that your ex becomes smaller.

My ex and I broke up 5 months ago. I was so, incredibly devastated because we still loved each other. The first few days of heartache, I turned to your videos - NOT to get him back - but to get myself back. (I was a shell of my former self which also led to the break-up.) Fast forward to the present, 5 months later (and lots of crying in-between), I am in a MUCH better place. I turned my energy inwards, allowed myself to heal, dealt with my issues, and tried to move on as healthily as I could. It was NOT EASY. In fact, it was HELL. Especially letting go and allowing that cord of attachment to slowly disappear. But I had to keep one foot in front of the other... until things got easier. NOW!!! Two days ago, he texted me out of the blue (he would test the waters from time to time, but I had put my foot down with maintaining healthy boundaries for myself) and finally said he wanted to talk to me about 'us'. It took me by surprise. But more than anything, I've never felt more in my power at the present moment. Thank you for your guidance, Susan. ❤ Your wisdom saved me more than you know.

1. Be present - where am I, what am I doing right here in this moment, am I hot, am I cold, what am doing now, what can I get excited about? 2. Have your eyes forward, not with your energy leaking backwards. Be conscious and excited where you're going RIGHT NOW! Plan forward. Envision forward. Mentally discipline yourself.

This lady is amazing. She gives sound advice in a calm and polished way.

And just earlier this morning I adopted a new motto "the future starts now". I'm going to say that to myself every time I get out of bed. No more frustrations for me....it gets old!

I dont want my ex back anymore, but the hardest part is the good memories keep playing in my head every day that kills me, i just cant stop its so hard 😭

This woman is wise. WOW! I did a coaching session with her and was amazed at the speed with which she grasped and understood my situation and then was able to give me life changing thoughts, advice, opinions, and practical tasks. It was immensely beneficial. I carry her advice with me everyday. Thank you Susan from the bottom of my heart. You helped heal me and I'm eternally grateful.

It's SO HARD to do this as an empath!!😑 I'm always more worried about other people more than myself to a detriment! Smh

I don't care if you're going to Whole Foods, get excited about it!!!. Yes ma'am, this is so hard, but I am going to try my best to be present and close the portal to the past. Rejection means go in another Direction!

Very valuable advice. I tried this unknowingly when my heart was broken by someone who I had been deeply in love with for long. I decided for my own sanity to completely shut him off my mind. It was very hard in the begin but I succeded. Mind you the last thing I knew was that he was moving in with his long time girlfriend. He had told me to quit basically (it had only been platonic). 5 months and a half later he called me to ask me out. I was in such a shock because I had worked hard at forgetting him I replied "sure, call me back next month". Like in, you know I have a life, I am busy, you're not my priority anymore. In truth I had moved on from him so nothing ever happened after that, but it was an invaluable lesson and the satisfaction of giving him that reply after all the pain I had gone through had no price.

This may be hard to fathom until you experience it. He decided to leave me. It was "all too much for him". I was devastated. But 2 days into the breakup, I deleted him as a contact, focussed on my work and enjoying my weekend with friends. Literally 15 minutes after deleting him, he called. I answered but said I was busy "so talk quickly". He wanted me back he said. I said give me space, I need time. He is pounding down my door and still my door is not completely open. I'm not playing games with him but I made plans to travel and attend conferences. So if he waits he waits. If not then not.

Though I do hold some degree of skepticism against concepts like these, on Christmas day recently, I woke up feeling like I would be okay without my ex for the first time since the breakup. I didn't have that ache in my heart that I usually did. And then that night, he texts me for the first time since the breakup.

Don’t feed the beast. Feed your soul instead. LOOK FORWARD!

Quantum Love: In some alternate universe we all have the ideal relationship we desire.

This is the best motivational video for getting over an ex I've ever seen. For the past two months I've been dwelling on what was and what I've lost. You have triggered a breakthrough. I've been watching this at least a couple of times a day to keep me on track and I finally feel like I'm reclaiming my head space in order to get on with my life. This has helped me so much. I cannot thank you enough for this Susan!

I'm dealing with this on a level that is so deep it's like digging my soul out of the ground. The advice is very practical.

It’s crazy. I binged watch your videos two nights ago and became resolute to keep my energy and my love with me after 8 months of heartbreak and no contact. Yesterday he reached out to me, and again today. So strange.

This is so accurate! My good good friend and lover of many years hurt me and in the aftermath I withdrew from him. He immediately sensed the absence of my energy and came running

1. Be present ( where am i, what am i doing, what are the colors around me, what's the feel around me, goal is to be here. 2. Eyes forward not with the energy leaking backwards. Be conscious and excited about where you are going now. GET EXCITED! Look forward, invision forward, Mental discipline as soon as you start thinking go back to number 1. Focus on your future plan,

I always did find that whenever I was happy about my life, busy and productive that all my old boyfriends wanted to come back. LOL No contact for me just meant pushing everyone aside so I could focus on me so that the rest would later fall into place. Being happy with yourself is key.

"you're repelling their need to come to you" wow, you're amazing ❤️❤️❤️❤️

"I don't care if you're going to Whole Foods," lol.

I love energy, law of attraction, awakening! Please do more on these topics. The path of least resistance free your mind from mental bondage! I am all!!!!! Even if they don’t come back the Universe will deliver better😃

I'm not a person who wants any of my x back. I've always cute the cords and took my energy back once I booted them to the curb. Letting x's have your energy just feeds them and drains you. It's not healthy for you to keep it going. I call my energy back every night before bed & when ending a relationship with anyone. I deserve my power for me. Not letting others piggyback on my energy its, so draining. Thank you Susan Good question Emily

I stumbled across this 3 months ago when I had just separated from my partner. And I’m watching this again now and feeling so much more empowered than I was before. 🙏🏼

You can't just "get excited" when you're grieving. It's an illusion that we have any control.

2 days ago Im on no contact with my ex for just over 2 weeks. There has been a shift in my energy and Im looking forward to my future and see it, then she texted me that same night, then called. They feel that shift, unfortunately mine is a narc lol

oh no, I want my ex to disappear. We need to know there's always someone that's a better fit for us.

You have to close that door and accept what is. Keep moving forward with all your energy focused on you and yourself ❤️

This was helpful, even for the sake of not bringing anyone back - it's just a healthy way to be present and look forward. We should totally learn to be present as much as possible by default.

A very important video and not only in reference to an ex, but in general. I struggle with it over and over, again. I will come back and watch it over and over to remind me to be present, focused and being centered. Thank you once more, dear Susan for your great work. It's well appreciated. Greetings from Switzerland.

Just saw this video. Finally someone who understands energy and spiritual connections. Fell “head over heels” in love and poof he’s disappeared. Devastated. Did practice your energy thoughts process. The day that I got the strength not to think or direct any energies towards him, he came into my dreams. Every single time. Not sure if I’ll ever see or hear from him again 😢

Susan, thanks for being an authentic and empathetic life coach.

This is the video I’m looking forward to seeing for months and finally it’s here !!!!!!! Thank u god !!!!!

So helpful and clear. Thank you, Susan! Lots of love to you ❤️

You're a blessing in all our lives, Susan - endless gratitude.

Just wanted to say your videos are so good for ones heart. They soothe and ground me.

Empress rising! Thank you!!!! 🌻❤️

i love these videos where you talk about energy and connections

So so amazingly said: to be present, so so true.

You acknowledge your subscribers so beautifully. I wasn't a subscriber, but I am now!

You have a true gift and I am so grateful and blessed to have come upon your video!

I love this woman; Susan is one of the best in propping up our spiritual consistency.

You’re the best Susan!

You just empowered me! You're awesome! I left smiling :)

This video is evidence why Susan is the very best! I will replay this several times until it sinks into my cranium!

Thank you Susan! Your energy is so healing and amazing. Stepping out to the sun right now instead of having my energy leaked to my ex 💕

Susan is the best person to learn about the energetic side of romantic human experiences. Thanks, Susan.

Ohhh😍 I didnt want the video to finish.. thank you for all the help ❤❤❤

Susan, that lady was absolutely correct. You are the VERY BEST coach out here! Thank you!

Susan..I watch many of your videos, you are truly an inspiration..I logically fully understand most methodologies, but sometimes I need that reminder. Thank you for the incredible work you do. You appear completely authentic and truly caring regarding your work..

Thank you Susan for more of your insights. Sealing one's leaks is a major part of sacred warrior practice. Grief, obsession, guilt and fear all create internal leaking sites. Seal them by seeing them and no judgment of self. No denial.

Your videos make me feel stronger. They make me feel like it is finally possible to move on. Thank you so much!

Thanks Susan. I didnt know this phenomena existed until I saw another less detailed video by you. This is such a great explanation.

You have helped me immensely. I’m taking my power back. Thank you so much.

Great advice again Susan , and you are the best ❤️🇨🇦

youre an amazing woman so empowering now i understand ive been the toxic one for myself and now ill be the one who changes my life for good thank you so much i love you , god bless you and i hope the universe has only the good for you and nothing else may God be with you now and always ps youre really pretty like damnn

Wow. You are amazing. Thank you for bringing me back to presence!

I love how your straight to the point and make it easy for me to understand these emotions and how best to navigate this difficult time for me. I want to be respected and these tips help me. It definitely works. Am trying to learn the power of attraction to benefit me

Thank You Susan! I love you. Self displine is want i need. When its all said and done its his lost because im a great catch destined for big things!

This helps me in so many ways. Susan, you are beautiful in so many ways. Thank you!

Great, practical advice. Thanks Susan.

This is really good! I like how you’re teaching people that an easier coping mechanism that will help keeping you on track is by focusing on the Present moment. Looking back always carries negative momentum and doesn’t achieve anything. Your words and coaching is soothing. - Thank you! I subscribed today xx

You are an angel. I wanna hug you 💖

Wow ! Such Valuable info. One could learn a lot from you. Some people take a lot of time to understand simple things but this is the way to go and reclaim your energy and power.If you do not take control of your life, someone else will and you would be a back seat passenger, while they take the wheel and choose the direction. Bounce back ! Its your life. Love and Divine Blessings from a Spiritual worker/ Energy Worker.

That's so wise and just great!!! Thank you so much, dear Susan

This is one of my favourites. It can take time and a lot of mental discipline. I'm getting there post break up of 12 months. In the early days i thought I'd never be happy again but clichè as it sounds. Time is a great healer. You always look amazing Susan and i wish i had your brain 😁

I needed this, just as I decided to let go of someone I've been trying to manifest, they have just been feeding off my attention liking my messages with nothing back . I let go last night and said you know where to find me I'm done. . This Susan just helped me see I'm doing the right thing thank you xxxx

Susan this is brilliant! I don't want them back I just found myself giving away my energy constantly and didn't understand how to retract it. This is so good. Thank you xx

You are wonderful Susan!! Can't wait to see you reach 100k and beyond. ❤️💐

We are all energy and are all connected. Be careful what you think. Stay positive and believe the universe is guiding you exactly where you need to be...

Honestly I've never been very satisfied with other coaching here on RU-vid like I am now Susan's channel. She's just soooo on point every time. 🎯❤️❤️💯

Great video once again Susan!! 🌼 Thank U for sharing ur wonderful insight and ur Radiant, Beautiful energy w/ us all. Ur the Best!!! 🌬🙏🏻💗🤗🙌🏻✨✌🏻

This advice is as good as it gets because after using the method Susan taught us here, two months later, my stubborn person reached out to me. I was so amazed! Thank you, Susan! I love you and you are my idol!!!

My ex who I’ve thought about and cried over every day for six months suddenly reached out the day after I woke up one day with feelings for a new guy I’ve been on a couple of dates with. There’s no way he could even know about this new man because I post nothing on social media and we have no mutual friends who would relay the information. They pick up on it on a subconscious level.

Thank you Susan! Feel Enlightened again ! ❤️✨🙏🏻Perfect

This was amazing advice thanks so much! Taking my energy back!!! Becoming more present!

This is honestly so amazing. I haven't been here and commented for a while but I'm glad I caught this video. Also I love that dress on you. Keep up the great work Susan.

I love hearing your voice. Always soothing and wise. God bless you and your work 🙏🏻🕊️

Thank you SO much!! It’s so weird that it’s so simple (well, -ish…obviously, it takes practice!), too. She’s the love of my life, but an avoidant runner, and she has done me SO much hurt in so many levels. I don’t know why - or recently even IF I want her - after all this, except for the fact I just “know she’s it,” you know? Which, actually pisses me off, because I don’t want her to be right now… Anyway, I’m in no contact, doing ‘me,’ but she is CONSTANTLY on my mind, as are her betrayals, infidelity, and so on. So, no matter what I’ve been doing, I always find my mind straying to her. And, I KNOW that at very least within her conscious mind (but I am certain it comes forward at times), she views me as a “sure thing” option, just in case the grass isn’t greener (it’s not!), or things don’t work the way she wants them, she gets rejected, etc. So, I want to make her see what she actually had, AND that I’m a CHOICE, not an option!! But, moreover, I want to show her - and myself - that she has no hold over me, and GUVE her no hold, no energy at all!! So, reading this, reading that, then U come across your video - wish I’d found this first!! Thanks again!❤

my counselor from school told me exactly what you said but use your 5 senses. be present with what’s going on and what’s around you. it makes you be present in your OWN life and mind. continuing forward.

I know exactly what he's thinking, he's thinking its alright.. she'll text me sooner rather than later.. and its the only thing I don't want to do right now..

You're great. A breath of fresh wisdom ☺️

Thank you Susan this helped greatly, so much appreciated ❤

Thank you Susan, for all you do 💖

Whenever I feel anxious or feel heaviness on my chest about my ex I just watch these videos and I feel much better

Thank you, Susan. You help me so much.

Susan you are amazing , oh my god i love your coaching methods, you are a true star

Thank you 🙏 soo much. I should have found you earlier so that I could save myself from agony more and focus on my work. I am starting to try out your kind advices and feeling way much better than last days. You are very compassionate and I am sending love from Asia. Take care. 💓💓💓

Thanks susan....I'm feeling it already....

SUSAN WINTER. ...YOU ARE A CLASS ACT & I WANT TO BE JUST LIKE YOU (BUT IN MY OWN WAY ) A MILLI BLESSINGS FLOATING OVER THE ATLANTIC OCEAN FROM LONDON UK TO YOU .💝

You're gorgeous and so wise. Thank you for your channel!

I love this video very real and healthy advice keep moving forward and live in the present focus on ourselves thanks Susan Winter ❤

Thank you for this video. I recently had a bad breakup a couple of days ago. basically you saying live in the moment. I’ll be happy when my postmates driver delivers my food in 5 mins. I’m excited about that because I’m about to eat lol ✨✨

The advice you give it's so honest , humble , so real .. Excellent job mam...

Thank you for this. Very good, important information. Somewhat paradoxical. I want to be back with my ex, and the most promising way to make that happen is to disconnect from her energetically. Counter-intuitive and makes perfect sense. Again, thank you, Susan

Can I just say that I love this video Susan...its like you are speaking directly to me. I was dumped over two years ago now and really got heartbroken and struggled to move on. Even now i give so much energy to her by thinking of her and wishing she would come back...she has so obviously moved on though, but we still message occasionally and she is still on my social media. I know i have to move on and focus on that now. I need to stop looking back and this video helps so much. I am even feeling like dating again...I have had some interest in that area, I know now that I need to allow myself to just move forward now. Its been so hard but I'm 60 now...time passes quickly so maybe i shouldn't waste it. Love your videos Susan.

wife recently left me for a coworker. never been so hurt in my life, but am giving this a go. so tired of being down and seeing the world in black and white past 2 months. hopefully this will help me heal. wish me luck and i will report back for updates if any. Thank you Susan, your channel is great!