Retroactive Jealousy: What is Thought Rumination? (And How You Stop It) 

I've been listening to/watching your material for a couple weeks now and it is honestly saving my mental health and my relationship. I've been transparent with my girlfriend about my retroactive jealousy about her past and she has been so wonderful throughout this process. She has helped me to set effective boundaries to avoid triggering a trip down the rabbit hole, she has reassured me time and again that her past is meaningless compared to our present, and she has been so patient during my episodes. These videos you put out spurred me to have the courage to actively speak up about it. It was hard. I told her "I hate myself a little bit more every day" in relation to my mounting anxiety about her past. Her reply was "I love you a little bit more every day", and that acceptance and kindness brought me to tears and helped me feel even closer to her and more secure in my relationship with her. Without this material I never would've had the backbone to actually open up about it. Thank you! And to anyone reading this that's struggling, just know that if you really are with the right person, with YOUR person, then their past really can be made to stay in the past, and that they can and will accept this obsessive dysfunction and still love you anyways.

Your a good good man for what you do. Your time, energy, effort, knowledge and caring for others is very appreciated!

Bought your course(1 week mind retreat). Didn't get to it yet,things been getting much better just by following advices from your videos. As one of the comments mentioned would love to have a chat over the phone just to thank you personally. Thank you for all you do brother. Much more meaningful than most stuff on RU-vid.

Hey guys. I’m a psych and an RJ OCD sufferer. One thing that helps me is to have a dedicated book where I write down all of the questions, answers, facts, snippets, troubling details, etc about my partner’s past that are not remotely important (but feel life-threateningly critical to me) and then, importantly, close the book and put it away. It tells my mind that I don’t have to store this information up, that it doesn’t have to be at the very forefront of my thoughts and that it doesn’t matter if I forget some detail, because it’s all recorded. I can read my book if I need to, but I don’t.

Matt, do you offer phone calls? I feel I need to have a call to discuss some barriers for me in the recovery and get some advice.