Richard Grannon Exposed | The Truth behind Narcissism Expert 

Ah this is a heartbreaking story, truly - partly because despite his experience he has this beautiful desire, talent and ability to help others, its so hard to feel the heartbreak of ones own story under the layers of denial, shame and indoctrination.

"I'm not really here". Powerful words. I love that you risk everything to be vulnerable. Your words over the last few years have helped me tremendously. I'm a work in progress, just like you. Best wishes to you in everything you do.

The struggle is real. Both beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time.

I love the music, by the way. I agree that a healthy relationship is where you feel safe. Where we codependents get fooled sometimes is when something feels safe because it feels familiar. When you grow up in traumatic, chaotic and/or abusive homes we create coping mechanisms that make us feel safe to be in those situations. Then we think we’ve found the one when it feels safe. But eventually you realize it’s the same pattern. You must “love yourself” first. Which means you have to put your own needs first to truly have a safe relationship. The payoff is that you will always be loved.

Lots of respect for this man.

It's the codependent in me that adores this man! It's so parallel our journeys and couldn't be more pleased to have found your channel. Two and a half years ago one of your videos literally saved my life. I had been married to a covert narcissist for 24 years and began to realize my entire life and family had bred me for that relationship. I've been working so hard on myself these last few years recovering from the knowledge and pain of it all. Thank you a million times over sir. This knowledge was like finding gold in a pile of shit🙏

Richard you are a beautiful soul.Thank you for your service.

Thank you for the glimpse, Richard. You've helped me change my life so much in the last couple of years. You're very important to a lot of us and you really matter. ❤️

RICHARD. Watching on a loop so I can process each stark light on MY ghost. Same story as yours. I have all of the attributes that we adore in you, and they mean nothing to myself because the self was “ scooped out” of me. I have never been ok, but everyone thought I was strong, so I got pushed into leadership, all the while longing for the one who could lead me. I see my walking in avatars for others now. Wanting to scoop you up and give you a hug is probably as much about my wanting that hug and pat on the head. Ooo! Turning my compassion inward! Nah, there is no one there.

Individuating is so freakin' hard, but you're 100% correct about it being foundational for everything else. I saw a house I thought was really cute the other day that I knew my husband would hate. Then I felt sort of awestruck that I could love something my husband didn't. I wasn't feeling guilt for having a personal opinion, nor was I feeling fear of the repercussions of such willful deviance -- I was just naturally allowing myself to have a perspective without outside approval. And it was MIND-BLOWING! It's taken me years and years of intense, obsessive healing to get to that place. I'm making progress! But it shows up in things like "OMG I HAD AN OPINION!!" When you have no historical reference for what health and wholeness feel like, this stuff can be life-changing.

Thank you for choosing to heal. I resonate with much of your words around choosing to “BE” while still healing.

“I’m not really here and I’m not really fine” is one of the most powerful and helpful things I’ve heard you say, out of many. Sometimes I feel like the biggest failure, the only one unable to reach the goal of healed autonomous personhood. Sometimes that leads to feeling hopelessly broken. You made me realise that it is really hard but every step is still worth taking. On another note, I found the music a bit harsh and intrusive and could not hear the conversation with the interviewer. But thanks for this video!

Another wounded healer and I am one. I worked 28 years as a counsellor. I would have said (and clients did say) that I was empathetic. Understanding the various kinds of pain they brought to me. But when my husband died last summer, my grief swept me off the rock that I had stood on for all my life. Suddenly I felt grief - for him and I. I had been trained not to express grief or pain, not to even acknowledge it. That's when I realized what my childhood had taken from me. Finally. At 72 soon to be 73. I am retired now but I can still live out my life being a more awake person. As my counsellor said, when I said that I had never grieved before, had never cried, but just endured..." This might be the greatest gift of all that he gave to you. Now your heart is opened."

Thanks for being so honest and REAL, I feel like so many of us have been there but few know how to deal. My childhood wasn't awful but it was dysfunctional enough - lots of parental fighting and never knowing when it was okay to hug my mother (or not) due to her emotional inconsistency. My dad was always gone to not have to deal with her. It took three failed relationships to realize I was co-dependent and seeking help/love from men who were also not well emotionally. Fast fwd, I haven't been in a romantic relationship for 7 years - not because I wouldn't like one - but because the level of peace I now have is too important to compromise with anyone not on the same path. Your videos help stay focused on these issues and you are appreciated, good man!

"I'm not really here" you simply verbalized the way I feel ... You're vulnerability regain my faith in humanity ... Thank you !

Me too, trying to be loved by men that can't love to resolve the love I never received in childhood. Strange how trauma works, reliving abandonment on repeat. I'm sick of being codependent so I stay alone rather than be a slave to another tyrant who dominates,controls and hurts over and over not once but a few unhealthy relationships.

I love how you recreate yourself time and again as your message gets stronger and easier for people to digest. :)

Thank you. Your vulnerability and message of “no golden chalice” is beautiful - resonates 💯

I have been through all of what you have spoken in this video. I see a lot of me in you and your childhood and adulthood. When I see you standing in front of that carnival merry-go-round it reminds me of my childhood…I have a photo of myself on a merry-go-round in Germany (my dad was a military man) I was afraid to ride any rides they terrified me. So I felt safe on the merry-go-round. I still look at that little girl at around 7 years old with a look of darkness and sadness gripping tightly on one of the poles hoping to get the ride over with. Now in adulthood I say to myself get off the merry-go-round of narcissistic relationships. My parents were both hardcore narcissistic personalities. I was abused verbally, physically, and sexually throughout childhood. You are helping so many people by being transparent and brutally honest as if you were telling my story and the similarities are spot on. I am sure others feel the same way. Thank you for helping me to see I am not the only one . You speak truth and that is so refreshing. Keep doing what you were born to do and that is helping me and others to learn to live a life worthy of love and respect. And please don’t be so hard on yourself. You are a beautiful spirit and have a wonderful heart and you deserve to be happy. I am an intuitive and I feel you will meet someone who will finally get you and your own intuitive self will know she is the one. September is the month for you to look forward to🌹

none of us are fine. Grateful for your honesty here. Blessings on you!

Damn man...I been tuning into you off and on since 2017 and you continue to be right where I need you to be to affirm me...if that makes sense. INDIVIDUATE. It's not that person A needs to fight the narcissism in person B. It's be a person and then you won't tolerate narcissism. You won't supplant their own desires, their own self for the needs of another. Your life will be full of YOU and you won't have room for crazy! Amor Fati!

Getting a cuppa. Your a lovely guy Richard been watching all your videos for the past few years. I know who you are. ❤️

The Purpose of Life is Self Love. We live in a Love-based Universe. Following what's put in your path IS the pathway the Universe is offering to reach the goal of Self Love. Actualization. Richard, you are an incredible example of how to follow the clues and put in the necessary action to reach the goal -- through identification, energy, and individuation. Providing us validation that this is the way to Become. Thank you for sharing your journey & pulling together necessary steps based within the critical framework of philosophical understandings & practices. You are a Bright Light on this Journey ⚔️❤

"I'm not really here" Wow! Very profound.

Thank you, Richard, for your honesty and transparency. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am currently taking your 30DC and it has made a huge difference. May you continue to heal and find peace. I pray for you often.

Very relatable on many levels. Thx for sharing. Good advice at the end...fill your life with you.

"This is where I am, so I assume this is where I'm supposed to be. Because the belief that's where I'm supposed to be, keeps me sane." 🙏

I'm not lying if I say this gentle, kind man, helped save my life

I met my ex husband when I was 30. I had been in some unhealthy relationships before that and I thought I was smarter for the lessons I learned and that I was making the right choice. I wanted to be married and have children sooo much, that I realize now, I ignored the red flags because I wasn’t about to give up on my dream. My biological clock was ticking loudly and thats all I was focused on. He was love bombing me pretty hard at the start though, and I totally bought into believing who he said he was and who I WANTED him to be instead of who he actually was.

That makes perfect sense to me. Grow yourself to know yourself. Then you can relate as an individual to others.

I can totally relate.. It took Me 52 years to realize and finally start to heal from My Co Dependency and My willingness to "Help" and "Fix" and "Tolerate" people that were abusive toward Me.. I was the one with "Problems" and "Issues" so I was told! Finally only after I learned that My Fiance was a Covert Narcissist and what that was all about. (My Dad and Also My Husband of 15 years) Thanks to Your Video's and several other's like You..I learned to Love Myself 1st !!How Self care is sooo important and Any Kind of Abuse is Not Ok! Thank You Richard for what you do..I hope We both continue to heal. God Bless

I'm inspired by the stance of being able to say 'I'm not fully here and this is not a real person you're talking to' and yet also 'I'm getting better.' I can accept where I am and the see the unhealed wounds clearly. But I'm not turning that into an identity or choosing to stay unhealed. I'm doing the work to get better.

Exhalez slowly... eternally grateful... thank you Sir Grannon... Humbly ~&~ Respectfully

Watching youtube the other day I thought about how correct you were, when you started telling people to stop watching videos on narcissism and personality disorders (once they had an understanding of it) because of how the terms were becoming overtly used in pop culture and it was getting easier and easier to come across nonsense and spread nonsense. Even the mainstream news at this point is accusing one side of “gaslighting” the other side - narcissism is the culture now - you called it brother.

You prove yet again that perfection is not required for one to become an excellent teacher. Your ability to be authentic is what keeps me watching. Well, that and your track record of giving advice that actually works when it's implemented.

Thanks for everything, Richard. 🙏

I'm so grateful for your videos. Wish I knew you some years ago. God bless you! Wish you all the happiness!

Respect for putting this out. You have enlighten so much for so many people. Big hugs

It takes courage to be so honest with yourself and with us. That's why I follow you. Thank you!

Thank you for sharing yourself. I for one do not feel so alone. Especially the childhood physical and sexual abuse.

Your honesty is so powerful. You help lots of people. Im not sure if you have addressed this topic before --i have to check--but I would like to see you delve into self sabotage which is a common trait of those who have had these injuries

Thank you. Wow! I can relate to the being scooped out and not really 'here'. Partially in existence. I'm sorry for all of us who were raised but not by the common definition of parents.

Loving yourself is the only way out .....took me 50 years but I'm a slow learner. Love ya man 😁🙏❤

stop the nonsense Richard, you look amazing in this video, and in general, thousands of healthy women would love you as as you are, empty and all that nonsense... you are one of the most brilliant human beings to ever walk down here, that's you, not a shell... ever thought about what your experiences moulded you to be, on the good side...you are rare... go on and have a freakin joll you've achieved a lot out of all of this, some of which specifically happened because of your experiences, that's alchemy , would love to have a chat with you one day on the alchemical process of the wounded psyche ;) love to you brother, thank you for all you do

May God to continue to shine his light upon you. Grateful to have utilized your methods to do the work. Namaste.

Thank you, Richard. For this. For everything.

Thank you Richard. You are so fantabulous. Good luck.🍀

Richard's sharing through storytelling, knowledge, and wisdom helped compel me to see myself and my stories. I am able to recognize my and others' patterns to be able to use introspect and deviate from my inclination of codependency. Through Richard I recognized it is worth the battle to see the changes happening, however painful they were to accept. I move through the remembrance of abuse. I carry on above the patterns as I chose differently, ...and the patterns are starting to fall away.

This resaonate so much with me, I feel like I am coming back home to myself at 50!! Took me this long... 🤮

Thanks for sharing this Richard

My highliest respect to you, for your openness. Knowing, that I‘m not the only one with dissociation really helps a lot. And martial arts of course ;) Good work!

Thank you Richard. Your work has helped me immensely and opened my eyes. I can't thank you enough. I wish you calm and serenity. We are works in progress. Thank you for your presence in this world we are navigating.

Very synchronistic, I was wondering if you were going to share your version of your history and your diagnoses... and this was crossing my mind a lot about 12hrs before you posted this. Thank you for being authentic.

“Trying to win love from the unloveable”!!

"...be a person." It's nice to see you surfacing. I hope to see more. I'm still working to emerge further and more fully myself. Now, back to the continuing journey. 😊

Just love you Richard. Shed a few tears here in Ireland🤧so grateful for such honesty. A heartbreaking story about your childhood. Through the worst of times your videos keep me going. 💟

This was really insightful, Richard. You helped me see that Co-Dependence is just like any other addiction: you will forever be recovering from it, & the way to handle it best is by living a full, “individuated” life not “supplanting your desires with the needs of others”. It’s also folly to think you can “fix” anyone except for yourself. I’ll be honest, I don’t think I’ll ever be able to find a “spark” again, and then, if I do, how could I not second guess EVERYTHING against my co-dependent drives? It looks daunting down the road.

Kudos, Richard, kudos! This one’s beautiful. I appreciate your honesty. I’m not sure if there’s any value in my compliments given that I, am not a person. You’re the only other person I’ve heard utter such a phrase. Glory be! ❤️💪🤙🏼

7:54 spot on! A healthy individual won’t tolerate a Narcissist or person with BPD. Why I severed a relationship with someone just like this. It took several years but I’m stronger & healthier myself.

So interesting. I can totally relate. I came to the same conclusion that the only way out is to "individuate". But very hard to do.

Thank you for your openness.

And look how far you've come. 💚

I am so blessed to have had my Dad. He protected me and I think is probably the only man that ever did. Fairy Tales are not true

Thanks for being open and sharing.. Seems like the bpd and narc are like that split heart pendant of best friends. Go together - as together they make at least one, sadly a very dysfunctional one. See it all around.

Hard relate man. It's really inspiring to see how you turned out despite your past.

Love this, Richard thank you for your honesty 🙏💖✨ I resonate with this on a deep level but thanks to you and other deep inner work I have done and faced have overcome. We deserve love, we are lovable and without self sacrifice. Meet us at our level or…piss off. Done with fixing others when it comes to a partner 😂✌️✨💖

I am just becoming me. Took me 65 years to suddenly put the jigsaw puzzle into a recognisable picture. I have no words to express my JOY. It's such a huge relief to know that I will have my golden years full. Just full, no longer empty. No masks. No cameleon. No eggshells.

I hope they make a movie about you and you play that character. Very off topic, still within topic 😄 You’re a great mind Richard. Love how your break down all of the complexity of the human emotions.

That was very powerful!!! sounded like you were talking about me, very spooky.

trying to win love from those who won't love, trying to please those who can't be pleased. hoping it would be different this time, different than childhood definitely was my story.

5 min in and I LOVE it. Great videography.

5:50❕❕❕ Thank-you!🦋

:'-( when you spoke on the tyrant pleasing and attachment style (from absorbing the Projection =Yah - What is going on Earthwide now; is a great analogy or result of this un-worked shadow and some just are not ensouled too but that is a longer story!. Tragic and Dangerous as a Species.

Big revelatory insight at 07:50. Wow. An occasional pearl of wisdom like this one may sometimes feel more helpful than watching a lot of the regular, dense videos.

You’ve literally described my fam. I didn’t realize until I was 36..50now

Im only a minute into video,can already tell this guys legit...gonna be great.Subbing now

BEST video ever Richard 🤩!!! You GO!

I'm not really here either....... but I'm coming back.

Thank you for all you do, Richard!

You are not the 'person' that suffered - cells rejuvenate and are replaced every 7 to 10 years - therefore, after every 10 years of your life you are a totally 'new' person and all that is left of the trauma is the memory. This cell knowledge can help during therapy and indeed everyday life. x

I'm so at the same place as you x I can't pretend to not see it coming now been there done that

Jesus Christ watching this video I felt like I was listening to myself, that was chilling

Great share Richard.💝 Come to Texas. We can walk around a lake a shoot the sh!t. Being a kind and caring person isn't always co-dependent. I'm maternal, but can kick you in teeth if needed🤣 You'll be alright. We're all going to be alright. We're right on time in the universe to truly experience SELF VALUE. It's on the menu.😁❤ The strongest pass through the fire and come out the other side. From the area you're from, you'll be pretty sunburnt but good.😉

I don’t think I’ll ever heal but this was good

3:00 totally me also..red flags? what's that? can i play with them?

Do you think that social media and tv feed some traits of narcissism .

I am one of the many Richard has helped. Listening to his videos, courses and challenges helped me in a way loads of sermons, lectures, bible studies, etc., just never quite did. I needed to see someone struggling like me and still finding a way to contribute and prove we don’t have to be perfect to do so. I believed this, but seeing it really mattered to me. In particular, experiencing Richard’s generosity and seeing his commitment to help others. He is kind! We have plenty of strengths despite our struggle. It is a waste of life to suffer needlessly, but we live and learn, right? Thank you, Richard Grannon.

Thank you Richard. I walk the same, or similar, path. All the red flags and knowledge cannot help us because the wholeness of self is not there in learned armour. Integration is the only way. One has to value one's self so deeply that nothing that violates our sovereignty is allowed. Here's to healthy relationships. Thanks for your contribution to a more sane, healed collective.

“I’m not really here.” alone, spoke volumes. It takes tremendous courage to openly share such difficult and personal experiences that will, no doubt, help inspire others to (hopefully) to do the same for themselves. Although healing and overcoming childhood trauma will always be a daily process for many of us, one can see you’ve have clearly done the work. Thank you for sharing your story & much love to you 💜🌹

I’ve learned so much over the recent years from Richard Grannon. Much respect ✊ 💛

So relatable, Richard. Your core awareness and teaching about individuating is potent, thank you. Well done job on this video.

Thank you, Richard, for your authenticity and transparency, it is literaly life-saving. Your work is appreciated tremendously.

Feelz…. My mother took 4 children from my emotionally unavailable father and dragged us through one abusive alcoholic relationship after another. I grew up learning to abuse myself until I had two children with the most abusive men I dated 10 years apart and stopped dating when my youngest daughters father went to prison for drugs. I’ve been isolating, healing and raising my daughter from a new perspective of self preservation and rebuilding my life. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 You have helped me to stop taking peoples mindset personal and learning to stand on my own. I’m no longer trying to fix anyone but myself. 🙏🏼

"Bred for slavery". Profoundly accurate. As my father and all my pastors have described me as having "a servant's heart". I have been manipulated out of my own person. I don't have any grasp of who I really could be.

Good job, Richard! I grew up in an abusive family. How abusive? The state finally put me in foster care. As an adult I spent 25 years in an abusive marriage. Now? I got out. I married a NICE woman (who had previously also been in an abusive marriage.) We have been wonderfully happy for the last two decades! My secret? Stay away from people who return your good behavior with their bad behavior. Kindness and loyalty are NOT ethical or moral absolutes. They are a sort of peace treaty, and if the other party breaks the treaty, walk away from them. My current wife returns good for good. I am glad to be good to her and she is glad to return my goodness with her goodness. It really is that simple, but only if you are willing to leave the people who want to treat you like garbage.

I'm 76 and watch lots of your videos. I read a book a long time ago entitled "People of the Lie"by Scott Peck. It changed my life..and so does your work. Thank you.

Additionally, I 100℅ relate to " I'm not fine". When a person has the ability to communicate a situation calmly and eloquently, it's like no one can hear you or understand that things are much worse on the inside than what is being shown outwardly. I've literally had to argue with my therapist about the state I was in before because I guess I didn't "look unwell"? Like what?!? Do I have to strip my clothes off and run around screaming for you to understand that there is a storm raging within me? Im not taken seriously because of my uncanny ability to keep composure at all costs in public settings? Luckily I'm in a more stable place now but Jesus, if someone says they are not fine, that they are far from ok, we should believe them instead of questioning them.

Thank you for this video, Richard! I come from a family with two narcissistic parents. I married a covert narcissist. Didn't have a clue about narcissism. I left from this miserable marriage three years now. Learning about narcissism put all the pieces of my past in place. Everything makes sense now. I feel myself , I am strong and alert to protect my son from his narcissistic father. Lots of discussion on feelings, on how he must respect his needs and not falling in the traps his father always sets . Your videos helped me so much these three years.

Visually, you seem better than you had over the past year or so. Halsey has a great line: "it's funny how the warning signs can feel like they're butterflies." Every day, I move in directions that align with my values, and it's been mostly subconscious, since you released that first challenge. Agency. Autonomy. Connection. Peace. Stability. Thank you, fellow traumatized human.

yesterday in my journal i wrote: "childhood has been more like slavery".