Right Person Wrong Time - A True Story

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Have you ever met the right person at the wrong time? Well I have. And this is the true story. I wasn't expecting to still be hurt by telling it. Falling in love can be so painful when bad timing is involved. Relationships are hared. But I'm so grateful for the experience.
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Nathan Proctor is a story teller, author, speaker, and art curator. By weaving together his personal story with the illuminating magic of art and literature, Nathan hopes to:
► help people better connect with themselves and their loved ones
► help them be courageous, kind, and empowered
► let them know they are cared for, that their existence matters
► impel them, no matter the circumstances, to be unique, always

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@loyalarcher 4 года назад

The way I see it, if he/she really is the right person for you, then it’s meant to be, regardless of the timing. If you both meet at the wrong time, it means that you both still need to grow and work on becoming the best version of yourselves. Once you both have reached that point, you’ll mysteriously find your way to each other again.

@carissajy1858 4 года назад

Agreed. I think it's important to know that there's no point lingering or waiting by the fence but to look inward and focus on our own growth individually. Maybe the paths will cross again, maybe not

@EmilyGloeggler7984 3 года назад

That’s not always true. I will keep rejecting the right person till my death and beyond. I’m free.

@axuu22 3 года назад

i love your thinking

@preranadholakia1069 3 года назад

Amen ❤️

@demimiller794 2 года назад

I hope paths our will cross again with someone I met a few months ago but can't and won't work out now because for the first time in my life I realised how important it is for me to be single right now.

@noahhambling1080 2 года назад

“And then we were strangers again, this time with memories.” - the void

@sickbeaniebro814 4 года назад

I went through this four years ago. I am thankful for that experience but...no matter what I try, I can never shake them off my head. When I close my eyes, I can see her face, her smile, and hear her giggles. I, sometime wish, there was a drug that made you forget about the past.

@juliafit 6 лет назад

I'm going through the exact same now. I'm still having faith that me and him will come back together, but accepting the truth about meeting the right person at the wrong time is so hard for me to accept. Like what if we can get back together? Even though it might take years and we meet others on the way? I just want to keep this faith..

@briannaelizabeth5406 4 года назад

Julia Nguyen same here. Currently going through this but trying to keep faith. Did you ever move on or are you still keeping hope 1 year later? Did you guys ever come back to one another?

@ashmoney3946 4 года назад

Julia Nguyen updates ?

@ashmoney3946 4 года назад

Dear Bri updates?

@ml8668 4 года назад

Julia Nguyen updates

@juliafit 4 года назад

Both parts moved on and I met another guy and we’ve been together for 1,5 year now! Even do its frustrating asf - Life do move on and everything happens at the most unexpected time! Back then I felt like nothing would go for the better, but it did! I even forgot that I wrote this comment and searched for relateable stuff about my ex haha!

@marqwright6436 4 года назад

God I feel his pain in this video.

@deliredalice8291 5 лет назад

Same thing happened to me today with someone wonderfull. I needed to hear this. Thanks. Timing is a bitch.

@demimiller794 2 года назад

And?

@jaskaur7885 7 лет назад

This is what I'm going through now. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

Jasminder Kaur you're most welcome. It sucks so bad. Try and be thankful for the time you have spent. We often get mad at timing when it hurts us and ignore it when it brings us both joy. Sending you my ❤️

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

Jasminder Kaur you're most welcome. It sucks so bad. Try and be thankful for the time you have spent. We often get mad at timing when it hurts us and ignore it when it brings us joy. Sending you my ❤️

@Rooftopdreams 7 лет назад

I know that feeling :( but I look forward to the future! The person can some back, or someone better will step in !

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

Rooftopdreams life is always. Learning process - one of growth if you look at it the right way 🌱😊

@taceldi 6 лет назад

I lived the same story. It hurts. It hurts a lot. Thank you for sharing.

@Call_Me_Stylish_Auntie 7 лет назад

I have a similar experience with you. I met a guy in the church this February. We were attracted to each other. We had great conversations and we both enjoyed spending time with each other. I have never felt so connected to a person before. However, he will graduate in June and work in a different place. When I found out he will be living in May, I felt hopeless because I have been trying so hard to find the right person. But now, he will leave soon. One month before he left, I didn't refuse hanging out with him because I hope memories will be the gift of this experience although it is painful. I still remember the unspeakable pain I experienced in his farewell party. It is hard to say goodbye to him. Right person, wrong time.

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

IRIS LO it's hard to say goodbye to someone you connect with so much. Particularly when you've had great difficulty connecting with anyone. Part of the pain has to do with him being gone. And the other part of the pain has to do with you feeling lonely. You can't control the first kind of pain, but you can the second. You don't need anyone else to feel complete. You don't need anyone else to feel like you matter, like this life matters. I know it's hard. But take comfort in the time you had with him. It was a gift, not a curse. Sending you ❤️

@urvashibhansali282 Месяц назад

Does anyone know where Nate is now?

@BernicePuleng 7 лет назад

Lovely, heartfelt story. In that moment, she probably believed that she couldn't be with anyone but then, with time, she must have realised that that wasn't the case anymore after learning and growing on her own. It wasn't you at all. She just wasn't ready. And when she was, she was in a different place physically. You basically said all this though. As a creative, it's incredibly easy to idealise people and situations and memories, but when you think back, was there no fault that would have affected your compatibility? Perhaps it is a blessing to have such fond memories of an almost instead of what the relationship could have been. Writers are consumed with what if's and you seem consumed with "what if she chose me" on some level, which justifies the resentment. She didn't choose him over you, she chose herself. She chose her healing, her growth and her journey. You seem to actively be choosing this for yourself in your everyday life right now so your great love seems due. I recently meet a lovely human at my last poetry reading. Hopefully it's right person, right time. Or wrong person, wrong time. Right person, wrong time is really difficult to deal with.

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

Bernice Mosala what a beautiful, insightful, and emotionally intelligent response. You're obviously a wonderful writer! Thank you so much for the time you put into this response. I agree with you completely. I especially love how you said "she didn't choose him over you, she chose herself." Well put. Sending you my ❤️

@acjohn6995 6 лет назад

Then she should have gone back to Nate. If you really love someone, when your heart is open, you go to the person you are meant to be with, not with who it's convenient for you to be with. If someone isn't willing to make an effort for you, to fight for you, then they don't deserve you. It wasn't meant to be, and she wasn't the one for you, that should help you move on.

@v4vendetta37 6 лет назад

We connected immediately and were inseparable, nonstop conversations about anything and everything. Our first date was amazing and wasn’t awkward at all. Our conversation flowed and we got along great. We talked about our past and we made plans for the future, what we were going to do in the next couple of months, planning dates After several weeks and I thought everything was fine until he had some kind of sudden realization that as he was feeling so connected to me he was still not completely over his ex Left me pretty shellshocked and devastated I’ve never felt so connected to anyone not even my ex but our timing wasn’t right He needed to grow more as an individual and he needed to let go of his ex and just be happy with himself

@deannab4175 4 года назад

v4vendetta37 this is me now

@v4vendetta37 4 года назад

Brandi clemons sorry to hear that ): It gets better through and you will find someone who will love you back as much as you love them Don’t lose hope!! 💛💛

@v4vendetta37 3 года назад

Mokana nope never came back but he ended up dating a girl who looked exactly like his ex a couple months after me and I ended up finding the love of my life, funny how life works out

@dameionduran1272 6 лет назад

this just recently happened to me and i feel everything youre saying deeply... She showed me something so pure and beautiful and it changed my life forever.. now im stuck with those great memories not knowing if ill ever be able make more...

@alexisortiz8335 5 лет назад

this is amazing thank you for sharing your emotions and your deeep thoughts. so nice to see how you were so vulnerable. so thank you.

@waakkeuppp Год назад

Thank you for sharing. I’d love to hear more of your stories. Your vulnerability is refreshing.

@jonodesilva 3 года назад

I feel your pain in this video. ❤️ hopefully paths can cross again at the right timing

@deathdownbelow 4 года назад

my heart hurts but I’ll be okay, thank you for this amazing story

@austinwallace118 2 года назад

Brother your story just made me really feel for you bro. You can not only hear how much you love her, but you can also physically see how much you love her by your expression and tone. I am going through the same thing right now. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I feel like Im hearing your heart break as you speak. You should let us know if it ever works out for y’all one day or if you two end up being different people over time and staying apart.

@Saraljinx 3 года назад

Dear Nate , I’m finding this video 3 years later. This video makes me feel less alone in my experience . I fell in love for the first time with my best friend last year. We dated for 4 months but split off , didn’t talk for 3 months , reconnected with each other and we fell in love again. But both of us knew it couldn’t work out . We were both in school and trying to find our careers, and find out who we are. I saw him yesterday and he was different, it felt different. The romantic , accepting love that I felt from him for so many months was gone , and all that was left was a platonic friend. My heart is breaking right now and I have to pick up the pieces. But he would want me to be strong so I’ll try to be. Thank you for this video and I hope you’re in a better place now , as I hope to be.

@benj2535 Год назад

I relate to this. I don't know the ending yet and I'm scared. I also fell in love with my best friend, I always had feelings for her and she was my first love as well. We started talking very regularly back in either October or November of last year. We had a friendship where we could go months without speaking but would always be able to reconnect in some way and always get closer. But this time was different, We were talking consistently almost everyday for a couple months, and started to see each other somewhat regularly as well, then we went on a camping trip together. This wasn't out of the blue, we did one the year before and had planned to do it the following year. During that trip (which was in January), we ended up getting extremely close and I ended up telling her how I felt after some encouragement from my mum, from a mutual friend who went on the camping trip with us, and a weird question from her... She ended up reciprocating my feelings and we started dating, we didn't get to see each other for a couple weeks after we told each other we liked each other though since her and her family were moving. The dates were magical and we just clicked. Our friends who saw us together said that she was the happiest they ever saw her, and she always called me perfect and "the one". But then University started... she was already struggling with having free time, and now she had even less, she got overwhelmed with her parents, her job, her studies, and her past trauma... and she ended up breaking up with me because she was too overwhelmed with everything but still saying to me (and others) that she loved me, cared for me, was important to her and didn't want to breakup with me, but felt it was the best decision and that I deserved better as she thought that she was no longer mentally, physically, or emotionally ready for a relationship as there is too much going on in her head, and felt like she couldn't maintain our relationship long-term. We kept in contact for daily for a few days post-breakup before she asked for space, then it turned into weekly, until a month post-breakup when she had a birthday party where I wasn't invited. A mutual friend asked what happened between us and she (according to the mutual friend) only said positive things about me and said it was truly because she got too overwhelmed. After the party though, she ended up deleting our Spotify playlist we made together full of romance songs and we haven't spoken since... it has almost been 2 months now since we last spoke... We haven't unfollowed each other from anywhere, sometimes I still see her listening to breakup songs on Spotify and if I post something up on my Instagram story, she would view it, sometimes immediately, but she hasn't replied to the 2 messages I sent her, the last one being sent over 3 weeks ago... She promised me that we'd remain friends, even the last time we talked, she said I don't have to worry about us not being friends anymore and that she is sorry that she hasn't been there for me since she knows I'm going through a lot (not just the breakup) but she has been really busy and has a lot on her place. Maybe she needs space, or maybe she thinks that I need space... I don't know, but she is just ghosting me. I love her, I really really do. but I just want my friend back. I don't want to lose that as well... I don't want to lose her entirely. I believe I'm capable of just being friends with her because she is so important to me.

@flyingwhales1991 2 года назад

It hurts watching this. I can tell you’re a huge empath. The way you remember things in detail. It hurts much more when you’re an empath. I was looking for some wisdom on RU-vid. I came across this old video of yours. Instead, I want to wish you well. I hope you’ve been taking care of yourself and those feelings. It may or may not go away, but we’ll always remember what happened. There’s a silver lining somewhere. 🌹

@ronins.8084 4 года назад

Tbh this is fricken true i have gotten into this problem 3 times and now idk weather or not to just give up, thanks for your story and i know that i aint the only one that is going through this

@seb.evidente7328 7 лет назад

Hey Nate. Your story really inspired me and kinda broke my heart at the same time as well. I'm currently having trouble keeping the girl of my dreams from being taken away from me and your video just really touched me. Keep doing these type of videos. You have no idea how much help these are to people going through hard times like me. Bless 💕

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

Sebaszchan Evidente life can be so tough. Im so grateful for all that I've been through and am humbled that my Stories can comfort people in someway. If you don't mind me asking, how is she being taken away from you?

@shomst7904 2 года назад

This helped a lot. I feel the same feelings as you and its only been 3 weeks since she left.

@collincoogan7296 3 года назад

This video is amazing thank you for posting this I’m going through the same damm thing and it’s killing me but this video helped me a lot thank you soo much!!!

@armesheen9185 7 лет назад

Thank you for sharing your story, Nate.

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

Arme Sheen you're most welcome. I hope it moved you in some way. Thank you, in turn, for existing ❤️

@TheVelvetkitn 7 лет назад

Ok. I'm crying. .... and can't stop. At work and don't even care. My heart goes out to you Nate. You're such a beautiful, bright, inspiring soul with so much to offer this world. It kills me to see you in this kind of pain. If I could reach through the screen and hug you, I would. Please promise yourself that you will bounce back from this. There is no way but up, from this point. 💕 It took so much courage to make this video. Your truth and honesty and humility makes you the incredible man you are. Grow from this experience. Keep looking up. Know that you are important and know that you have 30 million people loving what you do and who you are. ....you just haven't met them all.... yet. ⭐️

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

Ang Ela thank you for your uplifting words. Sometimes we must rise up and admit to repressing feelings. It's he only way to pass through. This video reflects how I felt on that moment. It gave me great strength to be honest in that way. Thank you for the virtual hug. Here's one back 🤗❤️

@rjthibodaux3011 3 года назад

It’s true to some people and isn’t to others so at the end of the day always do what’s best for you and don’t listen to others cause they can bring you down and overthink alot. Social Media is a dark place sometimes trust me

@iPhone23 4 года назад

I am right here in this mist myself. How do you feel now, Nate? Is it easier? I'm so woefully scared she's gone for good and I don't want to move on- tell me this gets easier.. such a beautiful tale, thank you!

@andrewclaassen9595 11 месяцев назад

I'm hurting too man, so bad. She's still in my life but the chances are null. She's 31, I'm 20. We connect deeply, spiritually, and she's amazingly beautiful for a lot of the reasons you said about yours. I'm trying to cope, but I don't know how

@joycehewitt3633 6 лет назад

ME TOO MEET THE RIGHT PERSON NEVER FORGET RIGHT WE HAD

@itsmeblare3472 4 года назад

I felt that way too.its hard and looks like a mistake but you can help it😢

@stephenhughes1862 6 лет назад

OMG what a romantic story!!!

@jacklalonde3335 5 лет назад

God this hits home right now

@power2274 3 года назад

A bar called "Twin Peaks"? I'm crying 😭😭

@mikyl-fo8rh 8 месяцев назад

The love you experienced was your love for her. She enjoyed receiving your love.

@Flufero23 10 месяцев назад

So sorry for your loss. It appears she had not healed from the loss of her husband. Unless one heals, he cannot be truly present in a new relationship. Unless she has dealt with her pain, her new relationship will not last. The cycle repeats itself over and over.

@damonteforney8076 Год назад

I felt this way a few weeks ago. I met someone we went on one date. One day I told her it wasn’t working out because she was always busy and the communication lacked. She told me that a situation with her friend was taking a toll on her. That it wasn’t the right time. I still don’t know what to think now but I’ve left and tried dating others but no luck.

@yoncabagdat3059 Год назад

I don't know how did i come across to a video that i would relate in ways that are so hard to accept. I once had a relationship where i felt something so strong and different inside of me that i didn't know was going stay with me even after four years since we said goodbye to each other. Until that time I have never ever seen anyone like him before and even after those years my thoughts are exactly like how they were before. He was one of a kind. We never cut off our communication but he has someone in his life and I have someone else in my life for a long time. We had to say goodbye because he was going to study abroad and it would be hard for us to have a relationship that far away from each other at that age. So we broke up respectfully. It has been 4 years and he still has a special place in my heart, i would never wish her girlfriend and him to separate but i can't help but wonder if we are ever going to be together. I know that i would never respect his girlfriend and the relationship they have or my boyfriend but still you can't control all of your thoughts and our minds are complicated already. I know that it might sound wrong but i cant stop but wish that one day we'd get back together.

@thelusher907 7 лет назад

I have a crush his my classmate I told him I like him but he rejected me and said he can not love again but time has pass he had a huge crush on someone I know... that made me feel so hopeless and broken.. Just sharing my own expirience :) Thank you for giving us your time to tell us a story a true story that we can relate on and learn from it. Thank you very much!

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

The Lusher thank you so much for sharing your story. I know how that is - I've been through that exact experience more time that I can count. Focus on being the best version of you possible. Authenticity is so attractive. Fill yourself with love first and love will come to you. Sending you ❤️

@Rosetta62044 4 года назад

Last year I met a guy on tinder. We said our relationship would be casual, that we didn't want a label, we didn't want commitment. For months we talked like we were in a relationship. From the moment I met him, we had a connection I have never had with anyone. I still didn't want a relationship though and I knew he didn't either. I wanted to keep what we had, our relationship without a label. But yesterday he told me he needed to be alone. He needed to learn how to be alone. He told me he wanted to cut everyone out of his life, start again. I didn't understand this, and I still don't. But I respect it. I think if both of us were in better places, we wouldve had a beautiful relationship. And maybe we will in the future. But for now, it still hurts that I had to let him go, that I can't be mad at him, that he will always hold this place in my heart. And I hope that one day we will meet again. Thank you for everything. I'll miss you a lot and I hope I see you again soon.

@carissajy1858 4 года назад

I hate to say this but I went through very similar situation and both of us were blindsided and avoided the "red flag" right from the beginning, that is we are simply looking for different things, regardless how we behaved, held hands, hugged, kissed, or spent all the weekends together. Eventually the pressure from discovering oneself would surface and one of us realized that we needed to, sound cliche, focus on the self and define our own truth. We needed some time to clear the head and let go of the habits and expectations to maybe launch a new friendship, because both of us valued each other so much and we both had kind intention and good will for the other person. I'm sure we'll cross paths again in the future, and be delighted to see the growth that the other person has made from all these time alone. You got this, Rachelle

@AspieGamer1986 6 лет назад

My problem with love is that it doesn't come when i want it to.I have to wait for the game i'm excited for, but at least i can pick it up day 1, and enjoy it. Love & Relationships aren't like that, they require all that time. Love should come when i want it to, alas it never works that way. A bro like me don't have time for that shit.

@KiffenBeats 6 лет назад

*(exhales deeply)*

@rayalls3736 7 лет назад

I became friends with a girl whom I would eventually have a strong liking for over time (2yrs). Because I have forced myself to be interested in those whom are interested in me, It didn't bother me that she didn't show the same feelings. However, in midst of my depression she reveals her fondness of me. I was in disbelief in fear of being hurt, and eventually ruined what could've been. Does this count?

@sahanijayakodi3043 7 лет назад

i'm going through a similar experience. I know i won't have him this life. It's really painful. However i'm trying to be a friend to him forever..admitting the fact that i won't have him. It's truly hard though. cz in our hearts we know we are the soulmates. In my next life i will never let him down. Somehow after hearing your story i wanna tell you pls don't be sad and everything happens for a reason in our lives. we get to learn something yet we have to soar on the wings of time.

@briannaelizabeth5406 4 года назад

Were you able to stay friends? Currently going through this and trying to decide if i should be friends just to keep this person in my life

@strawberryjpeg6000 5 лет назад

I’ve just met someone at the wrong time and it felt right but it didn’t feel right on my part. Like it felt so so right but he was just the right person at the wrong time. We went on so so many dates and he met my parents and we basically fell in love but it started to not feel right and I don’t think I was ready

@alicechang3967 7 лет назад

I'm going through the same thing but on a smaller scale. We're both in grade 12 and he was in my Math class during first semester. I didn't really notice him until literally, the last day of the semester when he talked to me. Second semester, we didn't have any classes together so I didn't think much of him. But then, in April, I saw him again at a party. I got his contact info and we started talking non stop since. We would message each other for hours every single day. We hung out a few times and the furthest we went was holding hands and him wrapping his arm around me. All of this was undefined and I knew that he was leaving for university overseas over the summer. So I asked him. And we confessed we wanted something to happen. But because he was leaving in literally 2 months, there just isn't enough time to build something important. So instead, he wanted to just have a fun and a good time (physical stuff). Me, not being that type of person, I just couldn't give him what he wanted. We tried for so long to find a compromise but it just wouldn't work. He is undeniably going to get on a plane and leave. We ended whatever we had and stayed friends. What sucks is when we hang out with friends, you can just tell that we want to be with each other. But because of the stupid time, we have to restrain ourselves. Because of the stupid, stupid TIME. He hinted at me that he noticed during first semester. I wish this had started earlier. Fuck you, time

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

patatespourries I hear you. I yelled at Time on more than one occasion. So much so that I'm probably on her bad side though. Whenever we experience any kind of abrupt loss, it's so normal to think of what could have been if there was any more time. I have days when I find comfort and gratitude in the time we spent. But I have my bitter days too. Do you ever regret not spending more time with him before he left? Did you ever talk about long distance?

@alicechang3967 7 лет назад

Nate Proctor To be honest, I don't want to spend more time with him. I mean, I do. But it will only get me more attached and it will only make us realize that we want to be together even more. We are so young. 17-18 year olds. Long distance relationship is just not going to work, especially at our age. We still have so much to see and discover. Being tied down to one person at such a young age is not what either of us want. He hasn't left yet. There's still roughly a month. But because of our different schedules, we never have the chance to cross each other. So, US, me and him, we're completely out of the blue. If I had never asked for his contact info, this would've never happened. I will regret so much not doing so many things with him but I don't want to get attached just to be heartbroken in the end. And it's just so FRUSTRATING! We both like each other!!! But it's just the wrong time. Right person, wrong time.

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

patatespourries I was faced with that same decision. I knew she was leaving. It was going to happen. I knew if I stayed and explored an us that I would be hurt. And I was. But I don't want my life to ever be dictated by my fear of being hurt. I tried. I experienced. I lived. As painful as it was (and clearly still is), I learned so much about what was possible. And I'm forever grateful for that pain.

@enjysaeed7084 6 лет назад

Alice Chang I literally just went through the same thing, except we had 10 months to build something up and I’m the one who’s going overseas, but he just couldn’t do it. Can’t begin to explain how shit it feels

@MsLoveart 5 лет назад

Alice Chang and

@elyselewis18 3 года назад

I met my partner when I was 15 and now I’m 17 we just broke up two days ago and he was my first ever live and my life and soul. We were meant to be by the connection we had and the spiritual meaning if our relationship it’s just that I was young and he was too. He broke up with me to sort out his anger and himself, I’m thinking in my head if we could ever get back together?😕

@vedikaagarwal2768 7 лет назад

Hey, Nate. I have been through something similar. My bestfriend left me a year ago on 1st April. But she started texting me a few weeks ago. I, being an introvert, don't keep many friends and I don't let people in but I let her in and at the time, she meant more to me than a relationship. I know how much it aches to see someone you love so much leave and not look back. She just left me and she didn't care for once. When she left, I was broken, completely shattered. I built a huge wall around me. I don't get close to anyone or let anyone get close to me. She completely ruined me. But maybe, it wasn't her fault. Maybe, it was mine. Maybe, I loved her too much. Too much of anything isn't good, even if it is love. Maybe that's the issue with being an extremist. Extremism is like cancer for an ideology, it carries out its mission too well and doesn’t stop when it should. When she left, I pretended like it didn't matter. Though I was engulfed by a intense feeling of betrayal and pain. But I realized that she doesn't care what I am feeling so why should I? This betrayal made me numb. I don't feel anything when I see her (she's in my class) or talk to her. And I don't know which is more miserable, to feel intense pain or to feel nothing at all at all times. Recently, she has been texting me because she is in pain. The guy she has been in love with him for about two years left her. They were just friends but she loved him. Now that he left her, she is in a lot of pain and she could only think of me when she wanted help. And me being a fool, I am helping her. I can't help it, I want to help her. Because I know her and I know the pain and the betrayal you feel when someone you love and trust so much just leaves.

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

Vedika Agarwal wow thank you so much for telling me your story. You and I have similar sensibility. I want you to understand something. It's not your fault. It's not because you feel things intensely or that you loved to much. It's just not. Have you read the book The 4 Agreements? I think you should. Stop thinking about what you may or may not have done for her to leave. It doesn't have to do with you. It has to do with her and what she was going through in her life at the time. Keep doing you. Don't change. You're a blessing. I promise.

@vedikaagarwal2768 7 лет назад

I haven't read The 4 Agreements, but I surely will. Thank you, Nate for your kind words :')

@jeremiahjones2460 7 лет назад

listen to jay z big pimping

@archyvist 7 лет назад

I felt what you felt. Although im the one who called it quit because i can see that he was not ready to commit to me after a bad divorced. I have to protect myself so that's why we stop contact each other. But deep inside i love him so much.. in a short time i knew him, we really had good times and all the memories still lingers in my mind 😢 and i think he already moved on from me

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

atikah rosli I hear you. I feel your pain. As hard as it is right now, try and be grateful for the time you did spend. Can you do that? We're lucky to have those magical experiences. And while we want hen to continue, it doesn't take away from what did happen. And if you're being honest, you can't get mad if he has moved on - being that you broke it off. That being said, I think you made the right decision. The magic of any relationship is bound to where off and when it did, it sounds like wouldn't have been able to commit in the way you needed. And your needs matter. Sending you ❤️

@archyvist 7 лет назад

awhh thank youu

@deborahnadolski5036 6 лет назад

Sweet story, but forget about her and soon as you can. It will save you more pain down the line...

@AspieGamer1986 6 лет назад

True love doesn't last if it doesn't happen then it never will happen. I have only had one girlfriend, she was the right person, but life plays a cruel joke on Goodhearted people like me. I haven't dated a woman in seven years, and never will again. there will never be another woman like Stephanie. I don't want to get hurt due to a breakup, and that's why i'm convinced true love exists for many people but not for everyone. I'm leaving California to move down to Arizona, i'm done with this life here i have lived. I couldn't be the best person for her, i was too afraid to screw up at the time. Thank you Stephanie for the time we spent together, i wish you knew that there will always be a place in my heart for you. Alas true love doesn't last at all.

@ThePlayCommunity 6 лет назад

You won't find a woman like Stephanie, but, if you'll be willing to, you'll find someone, as good as her, but in her own unique way. Hope it else my friend

@Izr6ael_ 6 лет назад

couldnt relate any better

@ArkoDesign 2 года назад

Same i was struggle at my new work and were we apart and the connection lost and i feel empty that time i was struggle because of i want here to see here always i was struggle all the time when we talk only so far and i can take care of here inside and hug her tight but i struggle financially to save more dime to get what he want in marriage but its gone we broken up because i dont have enough time

@ki777__puravida 4 года назад

I am so sorry 😔

@miguelcasino9871 3 года назад

You we're into her more than she was into you. You probably chased her a lot based on you saying she denied that one more date. Get the book 3% man by Corey Wayne. Sorry bro but sounds like you chased her out of liking you. Shout out to to Coach Corey Wayne. Change my life man.

@salonigovil4807 7 лет назад

Hey, Nathan. I have been following your Instagram handle and this channel for quite some time. I am an introvert myself and I don't know if what I am about to say helps: Pain has its own life and it demands to be felt. As you said in the video, it's now going to be a part of your being. It's also pretty amazing of you to own up to what you feel without fear or doubts. Do not, please, do not let a couple of experiences take away all the progress you have made so far. You've created a community of people who, to be honest, love you. Take some of that and move ahead. Try and interact with people whom you love and trust, they will pull you out of it as long as you make the first move. Lots of love and all the best to you. -Sal :)

@NateProctor 7 лет назад

Saloni Govil what kind and thoughtful words. Thank you, truly. I believe I'm better for the experience. I also think it was important to be honest with myself - that there are longer feelings. Too often we try and convince ourselves that we're fine when in fact we're only burying the pain deeper. Thus the video. It's important to have the courage to admit to something yuh know isn't the best response to something. Thank you, again. I appreciate you so much! Sending you ❤️

@khairoo1841 3 года назад

I feel the same broo ..😢

@713lea3 4 года назад

Does it matter what age this happens to you? Or me in my case.

@aaron_shore 3 года назад

Im going through this right now. Im due to move to Australia from the UK when the boarders re-open. I only met this girl because of the pandemic so its complete fate. Shes literally the perfect girl and we both love each other and said she'll even come to Australia with me but I dont think I'm ready to settle the way she wants to settle, i want to live life on the road for a few years but she want so settle even if its in Australia. Id love to force myself to settle but i cant take the risk of hurting her further down the line. I've never been so conflicted in my entire life. I'm usually so head strong and but im doubting my whole world now. I dont know what to do....

@adventureisland7049 9 месяцев назад

What's the update my friend?

@gglin5595 4 года назад

sighs..💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

@elaineyeh2532 4 года назад

I honestly think you are too good for her. I think, it’s because she was honest, that’s why she forget about the emotions spending with you faster. If she really cares how you feel, do you think she would have posted that picture on the Instagram?

@laliloli5895 10 месяцев назад

Ich vermisse doch mein pandachen une ich liebe all die erinnerungen an dich. Alles gute dir mein pabo. Auf dass du glücklich wirst

@urvashibhansali282 Месяц назад

Does anyone know about Nate's whereabouts?

@i_am_ray 7 месяцев назад

Am I the only one crying ? 😭

@xfiles6801 5 лет назад

Shit hurts

@josephari5370 Год назад

So here is my Story...this girl and i have been best friends for years. Shes in a relationship...that never bothered me cause we were strictly platonic...7months ago she started acting weird around me...flirty...cuddly etc...and we hung out every weekend holding hands til 8in the mornin...at one point i approached her...told her i developed feelings...and whatever it is we're doin is weird and wrong cause of her bf. We agreed to be just friends...then she went to her dad for 3weeks. But Texted me almost everyday. she came back and immediately wanted to see me.she got more flirty than ever...she got drunk and told me she missed me every single day she was gone. Then we hung out even more until one night where she (after drinkin a lot) she kissed me.the next day she told me she was so drunk that she cant remember anything.i told her everythin.and she confessed her feelings for me ...WE met...kissed but she said she doesnr know whether or Not she can Break Up with him.long Story short ...she ran away from her feelings for me cause they scare her -they make her vulnerable...and now we havent spoken in 2 ...i do think shes the right Person ...she told me i can See through her like No one Else. We clickes as bffs and even feel attracted...but shes in a abusive relationship that shes not ready to let Go yet.. i Hope Ill have her again in my life one day.... even If that means that we Just Go Back to being Friends... cause I didnt Just lose my love Internet but my best friend ... I recently have fixed even rockier friendships. But it took time - alot of time

@muzzammilkhan2336 3 года назад

I’m coming here now broken let’s see how I grow as a person

@angelic7855 2 года назад

how's everything buddy?

@riyakalra9322 4 года назад

I'm just 18 but i met my boyfriend like 2 years ago... And ik that I'll have to leave for studying abroad in about 1 year or maybe 2...but knowing that he isn't gonna be mine for the rest of my life has been the most difficult thing.. He helped me find my lost self back.. He is the first boy i told my family about... He is my first kiss and preety much my 1st everything... I really don't wanna go but my dreams are big and staying in india forever would mean that I'll be giving up on my dreams... But if i go... I'll loose him.. I can't imagine the day I'll find out that I'm finally going and I'll have to tell him... He'll be shattered.. And so will i...i would be hurting the man i love...i can't imagine him being with some other girl someday but at same time i want him to just be happy for the rest of his life even. If it means that he will be with someone else...Going to an unknown place with no one by my side and also loosing him forever... I have no idea how I'm going to survive... I just feel like someday somehow we'll meet again and that time will be the right time cause this is not😭 Ps- sorry for just ranting out.. I've had this in my heart for so long now and i don't have anyone to talk to about this because everyone seems to think that we r too young to actually be in love and this is just me overreacting 🤷🏻‍♀️

@indianinitaly3722 3 года назад

Hey I hope you're doing well. Okay, I know a lot of time has passed since you posted. But I'm in the EXACT same position. And you spoke my mind. I will be moving in a few months and I feel so guilty because I will be hurting him, making him sad. My heart is breaking too but what hurts me more is hurting him. I want him in my life so much. He is the purest soul. But I can't be with him. I can't not leave for my future's sake. It's so painful idk how I'm going to get through this💔 I told him about me leaving and he said that we should stop seeing each other as it'll only get harder to move on as more time goes by. I just can't see how he won't be in my life.

@Shellie95 4 года назад

♥️

@EmilyGloeggler7984 3 года назад

Nate - you made the mistake of lusting for a divorced/married woman. Let me tell you - I reluctantly left the mutual healthy love of my life whom I prayed for and I miss but I never will go back to the ex. despite the fact I do pray for him and God wanted me to be with him, he is over. God also gave me the right to reject and I did. Now, I’m learning to live without them and move on, despite wanting to go back. It hurts like agony but I never will return and it is a blessing I didn’t marry the ex. Yes, I’m cruel, a liar, a hypocrite, selfish, ungrateful, unloving, am nothing, worthless, deserve to be destroyed, and evil but God is best and His holy agape love is perfect.

@Sunshine-ms4ih 2 года назад

Timing wasn't the problem here. The real problem was that she was not feeling you enough to make it work. Maybe she needed 6 months to get over her divorce but still, she had the free will to contact you after the 6 months instead of getting with the other guy. So with this said, I don't believe in right person wrong timing, because the right person makes the timing right, no matter the cost.

@graecm4565 4 года назад

I'm so sorry for your heart break. Move on is a key to forget everything from the day you met her and until she left you. I hope someday you'll find the right person for you. My advice, you should know the girl first better before you go into a relationship. It's not easy to forget everything she was done. But do it little by little. Leave your worries, doubt, pain all to God. He will help you, I promise.

@demimiller794 2 года назад

Have y'all since met up again?

@taylorthompson6092 Год назад

This is kinda creepy. It’s a lot less romantic From a third party perspective.

@morenofb1026 5 лет назад

😕😞😞😞

@TheRealShaanSolo 7 месяцев назад

Stop torturing urself. There's someone better out there 4 u

@TheRealShaanSolo 7 месяцев назад

You gotta embrace the bs and learn yo lessons

@ricoparadiso 13 дней назад

It is not right that you still struggle with the pain of the loss while she seemingly moves on to another. Obviously this person is idealized in your mind and I wonder how stable this woman is, being so willing to attach herself to another in less than a year. You should see your infatuation in the sense that she experienced those same things with you yet is not in this place. May it be a lesson that you are worth more than being an eternal fan of this woman. This could be insecurity on her part, rebound relationships trying to distract herself from the pain of that initial failed marriage. You should be upset after her actions dont match her words, stop trying to justify her unpleasant actions. Forgive, but dont excuse what is clearly wrong here, or else everyone you love will receive the benefit of the doubt in order to stay on that pedestal.