It's crazy that a man will literally tell you he doesn't want a relationship and women STILL go after them.. Lol he's literally telling you what it is upfront. If you get caught up in that, you can only blame yourself
That is exactly why I do not entertain men who have approached me because if I'm not interested I do not want to have them have high hopes of a future relationship with me. The best thing is to make it known that you are not available and that they should be pursuing somebody else instead.
As women we need to use wisdom to discern when we should walk away from relationships that would not benefit us. You are a young woman obtaining a postgraduate degree yet here you are pining over an incarcerated man, who will no doubt be limited in his job options which will make you the primary provider in your household. Do you genuinely believe that this is the best you can do? Or this is the spouse God has in store for you? Its so important to break soul ties to avoid confusion and attachment. Please remember that God is not a God of confusion and the mere fact that you have to wonder, should be answer enough. Close that door so God can open a new one.
Well said this women need to look at the big picture. GOD is not for mess and this will be messy. Also there will be issues with who the head of household will be because this woman will have to be the provider not a good look. Women got to learn that if ain’t right it’s not right and let it go.
“When a woman really loves a man, she’ll give the world her butt to kiss.” I can totally relate, as I insisted on marrying someone with significant baggage, and that brought on resistance and skepticism. But you couldn’t tell me anything about it at the time. The naysayers were right in the end, but still, their judgment was neither here nor there in how I handled my relationship with him. Plenty of reasons not to marry a man who is incarcerated. Other people’s feelings about it aren’t really one of them *if* she really believes he is worth marrying at all.
I'm sorry but that's not love.. it's stupidity and delusion.. if everyone is telling us the man ain't 💩 and our intuition is firing off red flags brighter than Forth of July.. than some is wrong with us and not them or the man.. something is wrong with our logic.. and men who ain't 💩 bet and bank on that.. not that we shouldn't embrace our emotional feminine nature, but there should be balence in embracing our masculine logical side by trusting our instincts.. this will keep us from staying in situations way longer than we ever should.. that is when you know you're truly trusting and speaking with God because he speaks thru our intuition and gives us strength to use discernment.
@@DivaDivine88 I think that you misunderstood. Love and marriage are separate things. Choosing to remain in relationship with someone or to marry them is a decision that can be made with or without love present. The point was not that she would marry him if she loved him, it was that her preoccupation with others’ opinions shows that she has little if any love for him, as their opinions about her relationship weigh more on her mind than any hope or potential she sees in a relationship with him.
@@AriD2385 nahh I understood everything he said just fine.. sometimes u should worry about what others say bc they are supposed to be neutral.. if they are trustworthy you should consider their opinions in some sense bc they aren't emotionally involved and they don't want the shame of their daughter being married to a criminal convict whose destine to likely provide nothing but struggle love and riticule to her.. yes u can marry someone without love and nice versa but she end of the day sometimes it's best to make head over heart decisions. Just bc I love someone doesn't mean they rt for you and just bec they "right for you on paper" doesn't mean you will love them ever.. love is objective and a fleeting bc it's a feeling.. more women need to move with logic and reason (especially black women) BC going on feels has gotten many women nothing but baby mama status and no generational wealth.. But thanks for your reply.
That’s RalTalk TG you broke that all the way down women needs to understand if you don’t truly like/ love that person don’t play with their hearts because women is good at telling a man don’t play with their heart but forget men have feeling too it most definitely go both ways.
Mr, Gaskins! No man will do what you are doing! God surely will reward you! I'm proud of you Sir for helping us women! You're a caring man! Be blessed!
Well Tony, since I'm 53yrs young, you are my young internet brother, whom I listen to & soak in all informative advice you have to offer! God is definitely using you as a vessel, flowing through your heart, to teach women of all races & ages. May God continue to strengthen & keep you and your family covered in the precious blood of Jesus!
Tony can you do a video explaining the difference between “trying to change a man” vs allowing him to grow in certain areas (weight/ eating habits, communication, career advancement)
The emotional stress animal but he’s a human being.. Took me out! I was in my car listening and almost had to pull over.. I was crying laughing 😭😭😭.. Keep up your work Tony.. We appreciate you ❤️
Just joined the Blessed tribe, I’m working on the three B’s and reading a womens influence. I’ve been watching your videos all year, I have a story, and you’ve helped me heal. Haven’t yet watched this video. But THANK YOU ! And thank GOD for what you’ve done in my life!! I just came to say that!
We do love hard. She may truly love that man. I was head over heels for a man I ran away from, simply because of my own up bringing, I ran when it was great too. Raised by a single mom who never dated while I was growing up. So I ran scared. Her worrying about the judgment is completely understandable as our society truly judges others harshly.
I listen to you and a couple other motivational speakers while working or cleaning and never stop to respond but had to stop in my tracks to say we appreciate you so much & yes the lord is so pleased ... you are one of a kind giving us your time on a Sunday away from your lovely wife and children & especially with FOOTBALL going ! 🙄😂 May you are your family be blessed forever more ! 🙏🏽
I appreciate all that you do Uncle Tony☺️💕🙏🏾 the “grease fire” part took me though😂😂 your videos really brighten up my day. May God continue to Bless You🙏🏾💕💕💕
Your videos..your videos 😂😂😂..I know this is draining but the way Mr. Tony makes it look easy is amazing. I just know it's the funny part of him that makes him do it.
How can parents accommodate their children's girl or boy friends? This doesn't make sense to me. Parents should never do that, specifically when their kids are so young. If you cannot afford to support a family, don't move together. This young lady's parents are also to blame.
Love the "talks with Tony" all three letters were great! This was so funny, I couldn't contain myself 🤣🤣🤣 What ever happened to the list of quotes we were writing down and saving? Are you still going to do something with that?
Yea sis practice or not. Dont entertain someone telling u what it is. Pointless , our time is to precious fr. You said u watched the videos but it didn’t sound like it 😂
Have you dropped your phone in water lately? If so, it's probably got some water damage and is ghost dialing. Put it in rice (it works for me) or take it to a cell phone fix it place.
