If you find out a man is dealing with another woman or other women, get out of the way! Don’t put yourself in that foolishness! Because the most dangerous thing to be in, is a love triangle!
Breann, can we plz be best friends? Lol I see your questions to Tony and all your comments and I am like "girl.....stop living my lifeeee" it is hard out in these dating streets 😫
I agree with Tony. Know what you want and look for that. Hey 35 in a minute you'll be 40. And if you want kids the clock is ticking. You can't wait around for a man, he should have what you require at 38 years old. It's rare to find a man over 40 that wants to be a daddy.
This girl is smart. The thoughts you have when someone is sleeping with your partner are unhealthy and vindictive. If you aren’t being humiliated publicly by her gossip she may very well want to stab you or run your lil ass off the road. Women in pageants are vindictive and sometimes want to kill each other! The right man could have you wanting to hurt the other woman
Hey Tony! A guy at my job said to me that if I don’t start listening to “ the man in the dark”, I’ll never get a husband. So I told ask him “ then why are you single at 45 with no prospects? He did not know what to say. Needless to say I walked away from the table with his mouth wide open.😂🤣🙏🏿👌🏾. That’s emotional intelligence…🤣😂👏🏾
Yep she’s the gf she’s the fiancé and she knew this and still going on dates dinner and I’m sure sex ….. is sad wtf 😳 he’s only I love with Her cause the fiancé left him
Deep down every woman knows when she's being used but they refuse to leave because i assume going no contact requires strength. Not every one can do that especially lost women who have not found themselves yet.
You can tell she gets a kick out of this. She’s like low key enjoying and getting a ego streak out of the fact that he was cheating on other women with her and that he came back to her and said he was in love with her. But she don’t know that he truly has no respect for her and is using her for her body and cuddles. He doesn’t love you. that email ain’t what love look like
Right. Cuz all of this just makes her sound hypercritical ASF. She says one thing but does another?!?? Seems like she’s loving living with insanity. He keeps running circles around her on repeat and she’s just standing still not going anywhere
I’m 51, mannn I am sooo glad that I am over this hump! You came in this world alone and that’s how you leave, so why be so desperate to have someone who will not be there in the final analysis. I taught my daughter that “love” is a second hand emotion. Romantic love comes and goes even when you’re married. Nobody is feeling the same at the same time. If you happen to meet someone… cool. I’ve never heard of someone dying from singleness. I have/had men asking to date me seriously because this is my approach. DO YOU!… SAY NO SOMETIMES
Amen sister👏🏽 I'm 36 and I swear this has been exact mindset lately like why be worried about finding someone to grow old with to the point where u end up acting out of desperation and settling for just anybody when 1. We still gone die alone and 2. If we both old neither one of us can take care of each other anyways, we still gone need a caretaker to look after us at the end of the day. Since I changed my mindset, i stopped being desperate and worried about a relationship instead I'm just living and enjoying my single season. If he comes along great if not life goes on.
I don’t understand why she called the fiancée because she seemed just fine being a side chick UNTIL she found out he had a “NEW” fiancée. That must have made her realize her true role in his life and who he chose to escalate. So why call her now that she’s the fiancée vs just being one of the other side chicks just like her? Sounds shady to me. A case of get back and she probably threw that part in about the guy listening to the man in the dark because she knows how Tony feels about him so she knew Tony would clown him just because of that. Sounds like she’s scamming and butt hurt. Who agrees to be in a relationship with someone that’s seeing multiple people? That’s just desperate and crazy.
I don't listen to idiots in the dark.. LoL. I listening to you Tony and I got myself respect back.. took my rose color glasses off.. kicked my 6 years sorry old boyfriend out and moving forward in my life.. I'm not stressing anymore.. now I can be successful without feeling guilty.
For the life of me, I don't get why women skip completely over the man that put them in the situation and go to his girlfriend, fiance, wife!! Handle it with him, not with her!
A reoccurring theme I've noticed in us women (I say us because it's important to address my past self in a woman's present self) is our ability to make excuses for a man, to then be proven wrong with their reality and the truth Tony is making us privy to. It has almost become somewhat of a mental illness - the denial and the female ego is having a hard time. May we accept the truth.
Not the “foldgers send me a check”😂😂😂😂 God this was my situation and I wasted 5 years pining over a man that did the same to me. I embarrassed myself became a door Mat became depressed lost my business lost my self value and heee left!!! When I was left to nothing he left .. with no second thought abs I was destroyed!! Devastated! Left to pick the pieces of MY CHOICE TO TOLERATE AND ACCEPT SO MUCH DAMN DISRESPECT AND NONSENSE There is no “but”!!!!!!! THERE IS NO EARNING TRUST BACK ! There is only recovery and moving ON TO WHO AND WHAT YOU DESERVE EVEN IF IT MEANS A SEASON OF BEING SINGLE AND NO LISTENING TO A TWICE DIVORCED MAN IN THE DARK ! You get your life self value and damn sense back because in your quiet space YOU KNOW BETTER SO LADIES LETS ACT LIKE IT!!! Tony thank you so much for your real heart and help! I missed the way you taught realness w a touch of comedy.. it def makes it easier to soak it up. We all need it men and women! It’s up to us however to listen learn and apply..
Seems like the lady is a liar. She wants to pass as a classy lady, who follows TG's words concerning dating, but she isn't. Tony is right, both of them are a reflection of each other, that is to say, insecure liars.
I was saying the same thing to myself. How does a man claim he wants marriage and have the audacity to say that Tony is pandering to women and he's the married man? Then the man goes and listens to the man in the dark and agrees to everything he's saying, and the man in the dark done failed at two marriages? If this is not the most twisted psychology, I don't know what is...smh 🤦🏾♀️
So because someone failed twice at marriage, he cannot give advice? Maybe they are vetting they future wife to be and be more careful on picking the right person for themselves. Some times people do not pick the right partner. Tony pick the right partner that why he is successful 👏 Many so call happy married people are putting on a show of happiness so beware of falsehood. Many people are not good at something but are good at teaching or promoting eg Simon from Xfactor can't sing but is critical of people who audition on Xfactor. No one says anything about that?
@@spiceisland7221 Hi sweetheart. Anyone is free to set up a RU-vid channel and give advice, so I'm very aware that messengers can come from all walks of life. I'm very aware of falsehood. I only serve one God. Someone who can't sing can still have musicality and/or an ear for music. So yes, someone who has been in two failed marriages can give advice as well because that person has valuable information on what not to do. If you resonate well with the person who has two failed marriages go ahead and keep listening. Does this message align with God's word? If the answer is YES, then that's what matters to me. Until I find a reason not to listen, I'm good. I put God first either way, so if whoever is delivering the message is not who they say they are, God's word still supercedes, so I'm good.
I’m 28 and an older man who is 42 told me that I had “too much sense” he didn’t say it nicely but wouldn’t tell me what he meant by it. I think he was mad he wasn’t gone be able to manipulate me 😂
Tony I’m almost 60 and I’m learning on every one of these videos! I really appreciate your honesty and passion on these issues! I see this grown boy syndrome even in men older than me! Thank goodness I can recognize the signs and red flags!!!
“He want to be fondled”. TONY, TONY, TONY. That’s the problem with these grown boys thats coming up now. SHOUT OUT to the REAL MEN, that understand what it is to take responsibility for your life and your choices.
Us women gotta do better 😩 I’ve been in situations just as chaotic so I understand why she made the choices she did but we have to be more logical and look at situations for what they really are 😔
I fell out of the chair the same exact time Tony did. Who in their right mind would repeat such ignorance; “the man in the dark helped save my marriage and Im allowing him to sleep with other women” what in the cotton picking sense is this??? What world are we living in? Have women become so desperate for a mans love and affection, that they are willing to sell their souls and compromise their self worth, value and dignity for it? Needless to say, the respect and and sanity is out the window too…God help them. It’s a sad day in America! Tony G, you definitely have to be called to do this work. God bless your heart; smh…I’m appalled and taken aback by such nonsense! Ladies, we’ve gotta do better…
You are so hilarious but even beyond that your maturity, integrity, and truth speaks volumes. I appreciate these Talks with Tony segments, they are so real and situational. Please don’t stop what you’re doing. The world is trying to silence the people of God and we cannot allow that to happen. I know without a doubt that at the sound of your voice demons will run and hide. Please don’t stop! God bless!
Everytime brother gets tickled I find such joy because this ministry is nooot for the weak and laughter is good like medicine!!! Love to see it! God bless you!
I like the grey hound race analogy! Very good visual.. the last fool standing..🤦🏻♀️ And further in the video (even after watching u for two years, viewing hundreds of your videos) I’m still empresed at how u read this man left to right and broke it down! You are a blessing and gifted in the way you can read the psychology behind the situations for both parties involved. Thank you for taking the time to go this deep with us in teaching. Forever grateful!
I’m 32 and I just want to thank you so much because you are the reason why I have my wonderful husband through your teachings. I left him for 10 days because he couldn’t get beside his grown boy ways. (Didn’t take 2 weeks) he can back with a ring!!! I knew he was my husband!
“If it’s closed, why you need closure?” Lol All facts. Great video though no laughing matter , these really are dangerous games that will end in severe emotional and spiritual damage that you’ll have to take years to recover from. Save yourself from wasted time and having to recover from poor low vibrational relationships that don’t have the spirit of God in them. Always look for the Holy Spirit, if it’s not there it’s not for you. A husband should or Man looking for a wife should be treating his wife like the church and loving himself as he does God which should be a reflection and exercised in how he treats you.
The analogy Tony made about the healed wound is so profound because it´s true that you can´t expect closure from the person that hurt you and caused the wound to begin with. Thank you for these Talks With Tony - we love them!
Tony doesn't pander, that's ridiculous. Any man who listens to "fanny pack" is not going to respect women. Steer clear, 🏃♂️ 🏃♀️. With a letter like this, not getting married is the best outcome, neither seem ready for the level of maturity, commitment and trust that comes with a long lasting marriage. I pray for the woman who ends up "winning" this dude.
Tony get's me with his stares and when he gathers his things (purse, hand sanitizer, water) to leave. I almost feel out of my chair when Tony slid out of his. That was the 1st time I saw that. Hilarious!!!!!
1:12:12 "yall didn't have no relationship, yall didn't have nothing built" 😂😂😂 hollering!!!! TG want all the smoke! This delivery is top tier! Straight no chaser! 🥃
Shoulda just stopped reading after she said he was with her in a relationship dating another woman. Sweetie that's not a relationship, that's a situationship.
Tony! You never disappoint. You give us the real, raw truth! I appreciate it. It means a lot. You’re touching a lot of lives. Keep doing what you are called to do! Bless you!
Such a good word! A lot of MEN can learn from this man. Ain’t no pandering. This is the real deal! A lot of these guys are blinded by that man in the dark (who likes men) and they so busy getting fondled that their missing the whole picture of them actually losing their happiness, stability, peace and when you look around they end up having no love around them and they are so closed and shut down and honestly it’s really sad. I’ve seen it in real life with couples. It’s really bad. And what’s more sad is a lot of what we have to deal with is followers of that man who is leading our men into a very dark hole, which in turn puts the Black family in a very dark hole even more than what we are now! The moment I sit and LISTEN to some of these men that show interest in me I can see exactly who they get info from and it’s like they want you to take mistreatment and compete for them because since they got their hands in a little bit of money they feel they are a “High Value Man” but their character is so crappy that they look exactly like pigs rolling in the swamp. They think they look cute with their clothes and chains but they look like complete filth. I know I have to leave my city but it appears that other cities are the same and maybe worse! I will stay single for however long it takes cuz ain’t nobody got time to be settling for all that mess! I want peace and prosperity and love too!
I'm at work crackin 😄up watching this video. Tony's facial expressions and hilarious calling out tickles me.😂🤣 One thing for certain, Tony Gaskins will make it make sense.💯👏🏾👑🤎 Thanks for sharing and God Bless you and your family.🙌🏾🌻🙏🏽
A man being fondled by a grown man. Wow. I don't think I could have said it any better than that, as I've always been a bit....suspicious.... of men who will listen to some dude telling him how to behave toward HIS woman. Thank you for another great video, Mr. Gaskins!
Tony this has got to be one of the best talks with tony...and this is one of many just thanking you brother 🙏 bless you and your family keep up the good work
I can't figure out for the life of me why these women listen to the man in the dark. Some say low self esteem, yes that's probably part of it, and it's just sad and very puzzling.🤷♀
I found an old video from the man in the dark. It told me exactly what I suspected. He was skinny and passed over as a young man. Now, I suppose he is making up for the lost time.
@@xxwoman I would need to search for it. It is not an embarrassing video of him. He is speaking in one of his older videos and says this about himself. There are older pics of him that show how thin he was. He says he worked out to improve this. He was pretty honest.
Thank you Tony I’m learning so much and getting what I already know “reinforced”!!! I love to learn from other peoples mistakes. One day I plan to make a donation for this valuable information.
Tony Thank you! For speaking out and being a mouthpiece for God's righteousness in this generation. Thanks for taking an open stand against the foolishness and outright wicked, selfish, downright evil ways of men who have fed off of the weaknesses and ignorance of us women. Thanks for inspiring us to become what we're looking for. May the Lord BLESS YOU and cover you and your wife and kids under the Blood of Jesus!
This is the craziest letter I have ever heard! I'm sorry she doesn't understand the part she's played and is still choosing to play. Not that he doesn't have a part , but you get to decide when you exit stage left!
First of all, he definitely not in medical school 😂 that takes soooo much time to study, dedication, he nearly 40 yrs old talking about some med school 😆 There were so many red flags, staying in another women’s house 🚩 driving her car 🚩 . His passed relationships! 🚩 Come on now! Don’t ignore questionable behavior don’t be afraid to ask questions, learn to read between the lines. Get your purse 👛 your charger and go, like Tony always say.
Now this was good cuz I felt tony was talking directly to me cuz I went through something similar as what the lady in the letter did and I was glad he was sending this message out. I look forward to hearing more letters.
Big bro, Every time you throw the Charger across your shoulder as if it was the purse. It Take me out every time😩 “oh ok let me grab my purse”🤣 great message TG
This analysis is on point! TG took apart all the delusions in the letter writer . The actions taken by the writer did not match the words she was saying.
When you have a mature relationship it grows beyond just “being in love” that is having real love and being committed to the (only) one that you love!!!
Tony, it is so refreshing to hear a man such as yourself tell the truth as it relates to relationship. I am 57 and when I listen to some of these youtube channels my stomach just turns when I see these younger generation look up to a certain RU-vidr as though he's God. I refuse to name this man because I refuse to give him any credence. What's scary is that he has so many followers who is in agreement with his reasonings. His perspective is not in line with the word of God. He makes women feel less than, you need to wear a certain dress size for a high value man, and other lies. What's crazy is that a lot of the young ladies agree with him. I'm sure you're referring to him as "Man in the Dark". You and pastor RC Blakes are one a few that I listen to who makes sense. Ladies, if you only knew how to hold on to the power the Lord God has given you, men wouldn't have no reason to believe they are the prize, and you would get more respect. I really feel for this younger generation when it comes to relationship.
