Um no. That's how u get into fake marriage like this women here. Have boundaries and self respect yes but don't play these petty games. This woman is insane. Look at her
Bingo? How is manipulating someone back with false intentions a bingo? Men are simple, if they giving you the bare minimum that’s what you mean to them, if you wanna admit it to yourself or not. They will be where wanna be and make sure okay if you the right one to them = plain & simple! Too many ppl caught up in their own pride & ego, thinking deserve the world with the mindset of be strategic. Think they can’t pick up on “fake” back same way we do???????
Or when you're on new medication and or switching to another form of medication. Be weary of trying new birth control and meeting people because once you're off of it, you might not like the person you picked. LOL When I was on medication, I was attracting all kinds of bums and then as soon as I stopped taking them - I got rid of them ALL! There are still some trying to linger around for my attention
So many people hate on this woman but she speak truth when it comes to bettering yourself and shaking off these low life ass men ...really listen to what she's saying because 99 percent of the time she's right ...you don't have to like her...but atleast admit she's not a dummy and she knows what the hell shes talking about.
I fell in love once and gave my everything. I gave all i had and all i didnt have. Then i was left alone and destroyed. That one time i fell in love was also the LAST one. Thank you Ashera xxx
I agree. And sadly, on the flip side this is also why all these men label us as gold diggers and damaged goods and worthless. It feels like a lose/lose scenario. Maybe I'm wrong.@@TheScentConnoisseur
@@aurelisilva7962 I don't give a sh!t anymore about what the dusty, delusional, broken, need-a-momma bum ass dudes think and you shouldn't either. They want mothers. They want a woman who will break her back for them, give her all, work like a man, etc....I don't want or need one of those...they take and keep you out of your femininity.
I’m very serious about it, this woman is like some kind of genius, she’s only teaching us how to fight back against patriarchy and capitalism, listen ladies we are not doing anything wrong, we are using their weapons against them. Take your power back!
Except the cheating part. If a man decides to be evil behind your u shouldn’t do the same. That makes you as evil as them. Just cut the ties and do better!
@@mariellacarolina5767 it depends... Sometimes you can't detach. So it's better to be with this man and cheat and then slowly you'll catch feelings for someone else and leave.
you thought you said something profound lmao 😂 😂 cheating is cheating. just because the man is a farm pig, doesn't means we have to deal with him in the shit sty @@helloworld7818
3 years later and this is still solid advice. Shera, you are a true gift to all women. I'm so glad I received the message at 22. I will not be falling for the okie doke! Keep your standards, set your goals, and live your best life. You only get one!
My plan B is what I am doing now...Self-perservation being single and celibate for 7 months, I'm too busy building my business and being learning to be happy in my own company.
Already earnt my hard days money, how about you not so cool chicka? Oh right yea you are broke and on here looking for a no rich man haha love this place for the laughs
Shaun Boulton we not broke because we have a gold mine between our legs and that's why you slave at work so we can eat your money but since you can't afford us you fake laugh
Shaun Boulton Quick question: Why is it considered acceptable for a man to seek out women for sex. But it's deplorable for a woman to seek out a man for money?
Ladies when you treat these men like ish and your heartless. Trust me they chase you. I’m going through it now I have a few ex’s losing they damn mind over me and I don’t care 🤷🏽♀️
Elaborate? I treated this guy like shit. I had to apologize. I shoved the door in his face while I was on the phone with another man. At first I didn’t feel horrible but after it sunk in, I did . He’s African 🤦🏾♀️🤣
@@777lilcutie Africans for me are the easiest to treat like trash lol 😂. I don’t like them , but want their money. There’s no emotional attachment. Other than that , to treat a man like crap = Go into the situation with a plan and end game. Don’t catch feelings but make him believe he’s the best thing on earth. Cancel dates , ignore calls and text. Then when you do decide to spend time with him , make it the BEST THING EVER he won’t forget and will be chasing you for more. Again , go back to treating him like he and the situation wasn’t a big deal but most importantly DONT CATCH FEELINGS and stay EMOTIONALLY DETACHED
Just make sure whoever you're dating or marrying is more into you than you are into them! Keep yourself busy not giving him too much time lol He will chase you, that's how I got my husband
Every women in the world needs to hear this message. We have suffered enough with our broken hearts whilst being so emotionally involved with men. Thankyou so much Shera you are the silver lining to our dark clouds . God bless you ❤️❤️❤️
SheRa, this came out so much on time to me, I've almost got emotionally attached to a guy who went on a business trip this Monday, and I thought I missed him, but when got a dinner invitation from a dude who was actually far more successful. So i'm going to accept it and upgrade my plan A!
Stop having expectations and start having goals. You can't become emotionally attached if marriage is not your ultimate goal cus ur gonna let a lot of things go if you're desperate. Get him to spend time alone with you to fall for you. Be unsure. Never be the girl liking all his pics or commenting and worrying about him all the time. Never say you were hurt. Say you're not ready for a relationship and that you're gonna think about it even after you've had sex.
Once you’ve had sex with them, you’ve already lost. The ball is no longer in your court. The best way is to never give them sex first. The reason why so many women are attached is because women have sex way too soon
Carefully watch the mind set this women has. Because if you don't have this mind set or a similar one the tricks in these videos will blow up in your face in the end. These tricks do work, but if inside you are still feeling desperate and having expectations and doing these tricks because of that..it may work for a bit, but if in the end if it blows up and it very likely will if you have desparate mindset, then when you do these things you'll have exerted way too much of your energy planning these tricks and putting your efforts into them and so when he leaves you'll be a mess. This women has wisdom, but you need to see exactly the mindset she has and use it
Let us not pretend many men love us well. Some of these men running around and punching loyal women in the face and cracking their ribs. These are not isolated situations. Women's shelters are filled because so many women love love love... some hateful man. If some of this video puts the brakes on the" imma gonna give it all i got" then praise. Women need to look out for themselves or else.
Brittany -LYNN yaaaaasssss sis this woman right here got it test yourself first then try it but not until you are ready I used to be a savage but I slipped up so it happens Guard your heart and your mind
The (not very good) comedian George Lopez' wife donated her kidney to save his life. You know what he gave her in return? He divorced her. At least she probably gets some substantial alimony as she's been married to the scoundrel for many years.
Cersei Lannister once said the following to Sansa Stark “The more people you love, the weaker you become. You’ll do things you know you shouldn’t do, you’ll act the fool to make them happy and keep them safe!! Love no one but your children! On this front a woman has no choice!” I know it’s merely a tv show, but I live by this motto! Love and emotions will weaken you! Stop crossing over oceans for ppl that won’t jump over a puddle for you! 😉😘
Do not have sex. If you do. Don't do it more than once. You don't have to show a real man your worth, period! That's stupid. A woman's worth is her vibe, an essence. Men are too busy to get emotionally attached. And too stupid. Not enough attention span. They either want sex, girlfriends, friends with benefits, or a wife. Or a combination.
31:20 Shera makes a REALLY good point here. Honestly a man can be nerdy, awkward, ugly, fat, whatever, but if he properly treats a woman and takes care of her, she will become emotionally attached if she wants him. So damn true! Broke guys mean nothing to me, but I’m okay with ugly if they have money ☺️
You're Point On!! From EXPERIENCE guys Chase/Pursue when I have been DISTANT/DETACHED. They REALLY prefer a CHALLENGE. Made MISTAKES in the PAST never Again!!Thanks for Sharing👍
Disney movies ruined generations of women. I'm one of them, because by nature I'm very sensitive, humble, self-mocking, forgiving, and emotional. So growing up watching these just reinforced my already-vulnerable nature. I really wish I could have seen videos like this decades ago. If I ever have a daughter one day, she's not allowed to watch any of these fantasy movies (Disney) that convince her that there is this Mr. Right or The Right One. As for myself, I am not sure if I will ever be able to change my personality though. I've gone to therapy and read too many recommended self help books. I still can't change. I suppose the only way to truly protect myself and my emotions/sanity is to avoid men because I get emotionally attached. I don't see a way out of this.
Aureli Silva Aureli Silva today I learned something, don’t have a victim mentality. So I share his with you. Read Eckhart Tolle. Meditate, we have a pain body and that’s what makes us think negatively. Peace will come don’t worry!
I agree with you. If I have a daughter she'd only be able to watch certain Disney princess movies like Moana and maybe Mulan. The rest give girls the false perception of true love and teaches girls to be weak airheads who lack a backbone and settle for dusty men who bring nothing to the table . Princess Jasmine and Rapunzel were two princesses who settled for dusties. Unbelievable 🙄🤦🏾♀️
I can understand you, i am like you iam also a Vulneruble man. people prey on me ,its something that is visible i can't hide women see right through me they want to manipulate me Ive seen alot from them. I have tried the self help and tactics but they don't get you anywhere you have to be the type of person that can get the results you want authentically . Truth is , you cannot manipulate your way into something good you have to be good enough for what you want. Like you i want to change my personality , self help cant change you. I know somethings and i want to cross over to the winning side but There are things thag i have not understood
The more I watch your videos I realized i USED to be on point. N always get what I want. But people used to call me heartless and make me feel bad. It's gone take a while but I'm going BACK
I just want to cry 😭 because I’m so happy i found you. I’ve always thought like this deep down but was always ridiculed and shamed for it! By other woman and society friends ect. I told my mom why couldn’t you teach me thus!? Funny thing is she’s watching now too. Ty so much. I know you must of been my teacher in a past life 🤣
SheRaSeven, I think you'll like this story. Do you know who Gracie Allen and George Burns were? "Once, in the early 1950s, Burns indulged in a single night of infidelity. He was so guilt-stricken that he rushed out to buy Gracie a silver centerpiece for the table and a diamond ring. Somehow she learned the truth, and he knew that she knew, yet neither said a word. Years later, Gracie joked to a friend, “I wish George would cheat again. I really need a new centerpiece.”
that’s why men truly mean it when they say “she was ugly anyways” or “she was fat anyways” because they only wanted sex. Women can do the same with men but they don’t, we feel hurt because we are more choosy and pick men we like. But Shera is saying meet your goal, if he’s not meeting it, it’s easy to walk away because we only wanted our goals anyways! it’s kind of like buying shoes, you don’t feel sad if the shoes are the wrong color because it’s not what you wanted, bye yellow shoes !! (emotional unavailable or cheap man) thanks for your time but I was looking for red shoes (a provider)
Whitney Houston: "That's the problem. I loved him too much; and when you LOVE them they become "unattracted" to you." ("Same script, different cast" by Deborah Cox & Whitney Houston). Women are emotional creatures, and this goes against our nature. However, it is a skill that must be learned in order to protect ourselves and guard our hearts. Men use this against women, and play with our feelings & emotions to use, subdue, and get what they want; then leave.
You should seriously do a video interviewing a man about these topics. It will be the perfect collab. This is one of my favorite videos. By the way you are looking younger and younger. Love you.
Females HARDWIRED to be emotional from an evolutionary perspective, but I see the rules have changed societally. We as females need to take so pages from the MALE playbook🖤‼️💯
Moe Louis Eveything I learned I learned from men. But the only women I listen to is Shera because she’s not like these other annoying women who give that “follow your heart” advice bull crap.
Even from a evolutionary perspective women in the past knew when to switch that off. So, not hardwired just expected and solidified by outside forces to women. Men are also emotional(mostly resort to feelings like anger) but we all have the ability to learn how to manage ourselves and work with logic
She need to do a video on how to reverse emotional attachment. I too am in a relationship, I really like him and he is a good guy. But I think I have set the bar too low in our relationship. I never told him what was needed of him and basically went with the flow. I want to continue, but this emotional dependency makes things so difficult.
Y’all can turn the tables! If you are feeling some type of way that’s your fuel. Also put into yourself. Get a life and a plan b. Get busy. Do things that you love and enjoy your life. Things are guaranteed to change!
Shera is sooo on point with this! Theres actually a scientific term for what shes talking about and its callled emotional thinking! And it clouds your judgement more then anything! Keeping ur emotions neutral is a must when dealing with men cuz its the only thing that will have u moving logically and with your eyes and mind on the goal!
3rd heartbreak. No way I’m allowing myself to ever feel this way again.. especially if I have the power to control the situation. I was so naive. Not anymore. Ouu I wish I could go back in the past and fix it! Thanks Shera, I always find my way back to your videos lol Edit: to the women watching this who want to apply this knowledge to situations where you find a person who likes you how you like them. Disregard these comments. These comments are from ladies who have been hurt over and again and don’t believe in love. Love is real and there is a partner for everyone. Just use these techniques to PACE yourself into a healthy commitment. Do not close your heart off to love. Love yourself and find guys who are interested in you to practice these techniques on, to prepare you for the men you actually like.. have self respect with the guys you actually like, have your goal in mind, and pace yourself accordingly.
This guy I lost my virginity to played me bad and left me... a few years later I was with another guy and for some reason he wanted me back sooo bad.. (because he couldn’t have me) anyways he got me then treated me like a queen, gave me everything but I was so uninterested. Moral Of The Story: shera is right the less interested you are, the more they chase... Then i left him for a better guy in college :)
Lmao wow. In my early 20s I was dog walking as a gig out of college and a guy looked at me seriously and said "I wish I was on a leash being walked by you" So you're not lying!!!!!!
I think this is the most important video, it all starts with this, not getting emotionally attached to men, ever! If we can't do this, everything else won't make sense, it won't work. Shera thank you for inspiring us to become better versions of ourselfes and knowing our feminine power! 💋💋💗💗🐞😊👑
Sometimes I think something is wrong with me, because I feel like I have no emotions when it comes to guys. Like they be dead in love and will do anything for me, but I feel nothing 😩
So so so much of what you say is aligned w law of assumption/manifestation. You’ve helped put a few pieces in place for me and I’ve been studying it for years!!! Ty
You are talking facts! I didn’t realize that as I was younger I was doing all these things and men was falling over me. When I got grown I wanted to be different and let my emotions take over and been loosing ever since.
OMG.......your wit and the way you phrase things is so true an funny. Don't know where I learned it......but when a really young girl ( 9- 12).....I knew what men wanted an NEVER fell for all the bullcrap lines, saying how pretty / beautiful you are, being extra/ extra nice, saying how in love they are with you, etc. I was a virgin till 18.....I thank God I never fell for ALL lies!! Peace / Thanks!
I just got dumped by my ex a week ago and the last text I sent him was " I want you back". And now that I'm watching this video I regret it. We broke up because he was too involved in hanging with his friends and work. He is younger than me early twenties. This video is really helping me.
SheRaSeven1 It's amazing. Once you switch up you can see these changes in a man within a matter of days. Thank you so much for posting this video. I just saved to my favorites.
PREACH!!💚🙌🏼 I do hope a lot of these younger women take heed to what Shera... is saying. It's about increasing your time and value for longevity and potential for an improved quality of life
