I hate to say this but women can learn A LOT from men. Most men are about themselves first and foremost. Women especially mothers usually put themselves last unless they learn better. Men will leave or look for what they need elsewhere so quick, while most women will suffer for years out of some fake ass sense of loyalty. We need to mean more to ourselves than anyone else does.
This works when you dont act too emotional ( going off on him) in a relationship. It messes with a mans mind when you dont act dramatic. Stay calm works everytime
My friend always tells me "be selfish." Those two words of advice is more than enough. 🙌 she's right and most men are simply that (selfish) they don't care about anyone not family no kids no wife no mother nothing
You are 100% right about controlling your emotions. I have been one of those women that has been too emotional and bothered and truthfully it has gotten me no where. The real issues get lost in my reaction and outburst and basically I am giving my power away. Most men keep their cool and don't get pressed about much and women are ranting all the time - it is truly not cute and I have decided to stop the nonsense.
La Leona: I am female with good emotional regulation. IME, women GENERALLY are more over emotional, but men can be real doozies, too. The toughest part of dealing with an “emotionally overloaded” person is that s/he doesn’t want to address serious issues. Instead, everything revolves around “how s/he FEELS” and if I don’t engage then I’m “mean and uncaring of how s/he FEELS.” Here’s the thing. I actually DO CARE if someone else is suffering negative feelings. I’m a compassionate human being and I don’t want ANYONE to suffer. But neither I nor anybody else can ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY for someone else’s feelings. Positive or negative. Obviously I’m not including situations where people deliberately and maliciously verbally and psychologically abuse others.
I was married 19 years and only heard him say he loved me once during the courtship. So, after 19 years, I asked him why he never said he lived me and he replied....wait for it..." I am here aren't I ." So funny that you said that. That is how many men think.lol They ARE different from us in many ways! You are right on!
Love is not about words is it’s about actions! If he SHOWS you that he loves you that’s enough. My ex-bf used to shower me with the sweetest words and I love you and all the drama to just overwhelm my heart to believe him ...in the end he was a lier selfish cheater! Peace
Jaber Martini sure words have power! But some men they don’t know to demonstrate their feelings through words, thats why I said if his action is speaking that is more powerful than empty words.
Omg you don’t know how many times I have to go back and listen to these non emotional videos. Whooooo feels like I have to watch em once a month. Thank you SheRa
What I find so ironic is how a man can draw you in emotionally over time (by being ALL about "deep feelings" and rushing YOU to develop strong feelings for him in return, love bombing you, playing victim/martyr), and once he drives you crazy with HIS emotions, then you finally hit a breaking point, you put your foot down and call him out on his emotional instability and being overly sensitive to EVERY LITTLE THING he hangs onto that you ever said to him....BUT now he's just manipulated the situation so that YOU look like a crazy, out of control woman by voicing yourself AFTER he finally drove you to the edge ?! And then he drops YOU like a hot potato. SMH . Sorry but that's just flat out hypocritical and pathetic on the man's part. There are definitely men who are slaves to their feelings and emotions just like women, and can be even worse since men have fragile ego's. I'm a Taurus female and this man I'm describing here was also a Taurus, btw.
Yeah I feel you there they know what there doing. Some people are more sensitive then others I think a lot of times it just sinks me further back into depression when they just label us crazy or gaslight us for trying to make a point. It's okay for them to vent but not us. That's just how I'm seeing it from my angle. Most people I deal with just think I'm there shrink. It gets depressing after awhile and feelings are apart of what makes a woman. It just has to be learned to be controlled. I have a different personality i have to use at work. It's hard to do but retail is a good place to start maybe sell make up or work at a salon hear there stories and give yourself breaks from work when needed.
Thanks to your videos I've improved by 100% percent. I'm able to control my emotions A LOT better and it has positively affected my personal and professional relationships. Instead of being the problem, I'm the solution and the source for advice. People are viewing me as a balanced, level headed person. When people see that you are in control, they are actually more attracted to you.
This gonna help me so much because I believe that I am a prisoner of my own emotions and feelings, I’m so tired of it. Too sensitive and I speak on it. I’m annoying lol 😂 It’s a new year and I am married now it’s time to change. For myself really and focus on what I need from my man and receive those results.
I like your response to this person who said you look like grandma. you handle that with such style class like a lady wow im impress. you taught me something thank u Shera.
Funny that any man I dumped or male family member I stop talking to was being selfish/try to take advantage or did take advantage of me... Ladies go for yours, what you want and even if you think you do or don’t deserve it. We need to balance this out once & for all.
A lot of men see it as a sport to take advantage of your kindness, resources and naïveté. Only a few good ones wouldn’t do this...Ladies be smart out there and keep high standards!
so many people I had run across are extremely emotional and they love to get an reaction out of me, then they label me as evil just because iam mostly calm and peaceful just because they have no control over their emotions is not my business to teach them, Great informative information.
Perfect subject Shera. I try my best to avoid this but need to work on it even more. But the men i drove away my whole life were dusties so I haven't lost anyhting 😂😂😂😂
A doctor who is 26 years old?! Literally impossible. Who is this guy, Doofy Houser?! People really need to think about what they’re doing and also I realize that guys are great liars!
Some men will keep trying to make you mad so you are the one to leave. Sometimes they come back (after the separation) and try to make it up but if he doesn't I dont see a loss. Sometimes you have to let the universe guide you. ✨️ Speaking a spade isnt always an emotional response but one way to let him know your requirements. We cant act like men (no emotion) and be feminine. No emotion is for the goal oriented side of dating. Some women have no emotion and they age like trolls. So there must exist a medium..he is super attracted or not. Thank you for this video Sheera.❤😊
In various situations I perceived myself to be emotionally intense until I learned that the other party was WAY more emotionally reactive than their demeanor/appearance let on. Turns out their strong emotional tension was apparently just below the surface. I’m more clever and careful now❗️
😆 told my husband my phone kept dying and that’s why i can’t answer. He bought me two power packs he keeps charged himself. He sticks one in my bag every once in a while 😆
LMAO😂😂😂hu hu aaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh hahahahahahahahhaahah oo oo i got too breath. Damm the dude channels got the same type of dumm ass questions. I think your game comes with maturity, and a balanced outlook. Hmmm?? a dysfunctional female can't do this game. For the right woman i would drive 3 hours back and forth to work only stopping for gas, but for the wrong one i wouldn't get up to peep through my curtains if i herd her voice outside. As a man i believe in totally careing for a woman without her having any game, but she would have to have some game in her natural mindset to even be the right woman.
That’s right Ms. Shera baby! I tried to navigate life on my own but it flopped lol…I’ll master this one day…I manifested better men but I started to emotionally drown 😩…im back to get my life jacket🤟🏽
yes it’s possible i used to cry at everything and stay up at night worrying about what people thought and did to me and now i just don’t care. i still have bad days but keep watching her videos and try to practice it in your day to day in any situation you can 🙏🏻 i believe in you
I'm gonna binge watch your videos. I'm learning alot about the female psyche. Brothers hate on your videos but I look at it as a blessing. Plz make more, I'm taking notes
Brandon Thomas I wanted you to say because you wanted to date a high value woman. If you keep the attitude you got you won’t have to worry about encountering these type of “females”. They ain’t going.
Brandon Thomas LoL I do the same thing on the alpha male Strategies videos. I watch so I can spot an so called alpha. If I where you I’d go there to. To pick up game so you can run off pickmisha. 😂😂😂
You need to feel your emotions. Let them be and let them pass. Which doesn’t mean putting them onto other ppl. If you have certain safe ppl when you need but don’t put that shit onto relationships allow yourself to be emotional and figure it out so you can then approach the situation with a level head and sure of what you need and want and how to go about it
There’s no such things as the being friends with the opposite sex when in a relationship. When there’s lack, your energy will gravitate towards that and that’s how relationships forms. Yeah, he may love you and may not want to hurt you, but that energy is going to gravitate towards what it wants and there’s nothing you can do about it. Be everything your man needs, so there’s no need for that “friend”. Sprinkle sprinkle..
Yeah but my ex is emotional he left me but he acted like I left him always speaking bad about me to other people...I did not respond or defend myself...then started retaliating and even stalking... it was crazy and still watching my Facebook page too sigh...it’s the men too with that over emotional stuff
