Sexual Escalation Without Being Creepy? 

Obviously this is a question I get asked often. How to escalate without being needy or creepy... so I'll let the video speak for itself... but I'd like to make the point that often the creepiest thing is to want to escalate and just beat around the bush about it. I found from personal experience in my early days of game, that when I started escalating it made girls a lot MORE comfortable than they had been when I was hiding my intentions and being ambiguous. Hope this video helps a lot of you out massively!

Sexual escalation is creepy if you feel creepy doing it. Evaluate, calibrate, and then escalate. Great advice Todd. -Kushtrim

Could we have an extended version of this, really digging this

Glad The Toddfather is addressing this. The vast majority of pick-up material only appeals to newbies (i.e., how to approach and how to number close, lol). Getting pulls and busting through LMR aka how to turn pulls into lays is a major issue for intermediates that ought to be addressed far more often.

One point to add is to not take it personally if she isn’t particularly receptive to an incremental escalation. For starters, each girl’s “dimmer switch” works at a different pace. Her not being receptive just yet doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t like you, she just might not know yet. So like Todd said, take a step back (not necessarily literally) for a bit if an escalation attempt doesn’t work then give it a bit and try something else.

*That handshake tip is literally gold! Thank you!*

I'm into this bro, I hope you made it a bit longer .. a lot of good stuff and well explained in this video. Take things slowly and don't be too obvious..just be normal in front of her. As always bro, great video!

Todd, I don't know that I have ever heard you talk about how to master eye contact. I would love to hear you embark upon an exposition on this topic!

I like how what youre teaching makes the experience better for all parties involved. Being more respectful, gaining interest of others and learning to value yourself more. There are no downsides!

Very interesting, but i would like to hear a explanation on slow escalation over one night vs long time escalation. :)!

Hey Todd, wanna let you know you're the man! I had my first real kiss last night and I was damn close to getting laid if my logistics were better. Thank you for all your fantastic content!

Hi Todd. I also have difficulties in escalation. I " feel" ( and that's why i may be wrong ) that there is a difference between holding hand in the context of greetings, or side hugging because you said something cockyfunny , with going for the kiss ( or some creepy parts of evolution phase shift , like arm biting! ). Like these may work on girls in clubs , already high in buying temperature. But will that work in ...let's say university! It just feels creepy to go for it.

What should I talk to girls about? I can be fun and I have a good sense on humour, I’m a great conversationalist and can talk about anything however I never know which way to take the interaction and I end up doing none of them and being awkward what should I do? I personally like day game not night game. - Thanks Todd. 👍

Hey Todd, love your content. Thanks for taking time to answer community questions. How do i go out and approach being 20yrs old? i feel as though i have to be 21+ and have a a successful job to be confident going out. What are some smaller things i could implement to improve my game without going to clubs?

1) dont go too far too fast 2) escalate really really slowly with small moves *(dancing handshake) 3) handshake and slowly pull and evaluate her reaction on the spot 4) 2 steps forward 1 step back -> calibration *(girls attraction is a different switch)

I feel like I should have more than enough reference experiences to know that I can attract women, but every time I am out I keep battling with the stories and doubts that play in my head. Taking action feels like I am just putting a band-aid over it. How do you get rid of self-doubts at the core of the issue?

Hey Todd, I was wondering if you have done pick up in the Caribbean, specifically in Trinidad and Tobago.

Are there certain things you say, that show intent and escalate but do not sound creepy?

Can you explain how to game in smaller social groups where there are mutual connections throughout? Like a college campus or the typical town bars?

This is awesome, Todd. Tho may I ask, how do you keep things sexual in text, when she diverts the topic of conversation towards a different direction?

Do you have any advice for someone doing daygame on his own college campus? Will it be as bad as I imagine, as far as getting a bad reputation and possible harassement complains.

Should game change with the age of the woman? Should you approach attraction differently depending on their age?

Hey tod your contet is amazing. Please answer my question. What about 9s and 10s , some say that you should see them as other girls but they have different mindset, don’t they? So there should be something different

Hey Todd, Rod here. I have a particular circumstance I wanted your advice on. My girlfriend and I are thinking about starting an open relationship together. It’s all new for me and yea i know it seems like something normal. But the thing is we have been together for 2 and a half years now. I’m deeply in love with her, but I also feel that I should explore and date other women, especially as a guy my age(19). Do you have any tips leading into this transiton? I feel like I’m gonna get too jealous if she’s with another guy, she’s only been with other girls until now, but she’s saying if I can be with other girls then it’s not fair if she can’t be with guys. Anyway, what I’m asking here is if you can give any tips on managing open relationships

Hey todd, a video on how to control one's emotions (keep your cool), particularly during moments of escalation or approach would be awesome. Thanks

How long does it take to get to a really good level? Of course differs from person to person and with the amount of action you take but most people talk about years and if it would take years, why would anyone go to a pick up programme which is a month at most...

Hey Todd. Quick question: What do you think about lowering my standards? should I not go for a girl that is a 6? Isn't it ok to just have fun and enjoy sex with a decently attractive girl that isn't a super model? I know the dynamics are different but still... Pretty much every college student guy that I know that approaches girls does this frequently. Thanks for the time and the video.

Can you explain the difference between having a “boyfriend” and “player” vibe? but with examples of how each are conveyed

Hey Todd, here's my question. I'm a pickup theory nerd meaning that I have a profound understanding of game theory which gets me results every now and then (thanks to you btw). However, my results solely end up in number closes and kiss closes, but I'm not able to move further because i tend to move towards provider / friendzone frame. How do i maintain the sexual tention I created during first approach on the 1st and 2nd date? Bonus questions: How to best react to texts like "I've got so much stuff going on in my life right now, I actually don't feel like dating at the moment" (Happens after 1st or 2nd date). Thanks a lot friend !

How to deal with a negative approach? Also it could be very helpful if you covered tinder game. Best regards from Denmark.

How to bring back a set when it fizzles out ? Or rather how to prevent a set from fizzling out ? Thanks brother

How do I calibrate the positives and the negatives that I give to the girl in set. I have a lot of sets with 9s and 10s, I do a lot of push pulls, I devalidate them, I do a lot of pushing, they get attracted and then I start asking questions about them to make them invest. But I have lots of sets were I push too much and the set ends there. She is giving me positive, she's investing, but I still give them pushes. How can I calibrate this? When do I know to stop giving pushes and letting the girl "to win me"?

I'd rather go too far, than to not make a move at all.

Todd, re: practicing game, what are some of the best areas to focus on on a per-session basis specifically in day game vs night game and as one progresses from beginner to intermediate to advanced?

Todd - let's be honest, flash-blowouts can happen to anyone. How do YOU deal with them and is there a way to turn most of them around reliably?

What is the main difference between advanced game and good game (above average). Thanks Todd. Come to Brazil.

Hey todd, a question about the 'really beautiful' girls: you usually say that the really hot girls are approached constantly and that they give dudes a hard time because of that. However, there is also a notion out there, that really beautiful women are quite lonely because most guys are too intimidated to actually approach them. Is that BS or can you somehow reconcile these seemingly conflicting statements?

Hey man, i'll try to keep it short. My question is how to keep interest/act after a first date, basically whats the transition for the second date? Because I know the first went well, we keep texting but I can notice that the girl is getting gradually cold until it's over. Thanks!

Todd how do you disqualify without getting blown out? A lot of times it makes no sense to continue interacting if you disqualify the girl.

How to develop a confident frame and fake it while you’re working on developing it

Question: Every time I go out on a date, girls put me in the boyfriend category instead of a lover category. I am having difficulty finding the right balance between comfort and high value. How to find the right balance?

I'm a beginner but I want to avoid pulling 6s or 7s. Is it worth to game without closing until I'm able to pull higher value girls? Or I need to start with girls I dont like?

What are more examples of physical escalations besides handshakes ?

Why do girls have it set up as /prefer a dimmer switch? Do they know that we are escalating on them?

Is escalation explained in the system?

Question from a previous vid's comments: How do you know if a girl is friendly vs into you

Establishing intentions / playing dumb is a common conundrum that trips up guys/girls on a pickup. Let her hand rest on yours. The longer the handshake the better!!! 20sec establishes a social bond - psychologically.

I always go 8 steps forward and 6 back... it works sometimes

Great points, however there are exceptions...I had a woman compare me to Bret Michaels, at that point I threw the dimmer switch out the window and turned on the torch (and it worked out great).

Heres the ultimate question.. How to frame FWB/Mini Relationship/Not Long Term..

What you say is so practical todd

Is there a way to approach a girl again if the first approach went bad

How do you make women comfortable enough to approach you after eye flirtation?

Todd, you are the best when somebody needs to understand logic and all theory! Thank you. But when it comes to "good vibration", quantum mechanics, subconscious, etc. that can ruin the GAME, you quite ignore it. Do you recommend any regressive psychotherapy or you think it is a crap?

Hi Todd. What is calibration? How to calibrate? Can you give an example? Thanks!

Oooh the handshake thing is tricky! It would totally work on me.

Can you explain how to make a low-sex-drive/shy girl to escalate on you? Or how to deal with them?

Which hand is put under?

Escalate in tiny steps and stack positive reactions.

What was the grammar mistake?

where was the grammer mistake lol

Escalate really really slowly and in really small moves.

Take your time, go slowly, but get it all done in a few minutes. Go slowly and gradually but do it quickly.

Todd our lord and saviour, giving all this free advice he doesn't get aknowledged for...

Is it possible to become good with women, without learning all those game teqniques and prescripted push pulls etc. Just with unleashing inner charisma??

Do you know any books, courses or lectures that cover human sexuality and sexual relationships that is relevent to game. It's pretty hard to understand the female perspective and emotions if you've always been a dude.

Great video.thanks

Hey Todd can you make a video on how to practice game in a 20k people city without being seen as a weirdo

1. Meet the girl; 2. Spark Attraction; 3. Build Connection; 4. Physical Escalation; 5. Sex! Thank you so much for uploading this video Todd always presenting great content x

That's NOT A GRAMMAR MISTAKE, that's the intellectual British way of wording it.

thanks

How to create man to women vibe?

Can someone review The System for me? Is it worth buying?

Haha , so I'm trying to help my Grandfather out with trying to make a step forward to living a good life as an "70 Year Old Elderly Man". If you have any other possible suggestions for me to relate to him, then please please please send me something. Lol thanks Todd!! 😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️😳😳😂

TODD Is the best

Magical!!

How would you Handel a situation where the girl knows your playing game? Where it doesnt matter your level of game, she just knows your playing it.

Your A Genius

this is probably gonna get someone metoo'd

Works.

Absolute fking Banger

Do the man to woman handshake like i am leading a dance.

What to do if a girl says you’re cute??

Im curious what women think about this post , if some had have watched this ,talking about them like an experiment of some sort ?

You should listen David X, he teaches exactly what you are trying to avoid. You teach men to be worried an afraid of women and what they THINK. David X teaches you, "who cares what they think" and that's better i the long run, makes me feel better even if I have to be rejected, I tell women the truth of why I am talking to her and if she doesn't like it I leave and when I meet a woman that likes it I gain something. You just waist people's time and money.

I am confused as fuck!!!! Long time ago i stard as fast i can to escalte pretty quick! Sucess was and still is elite

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How to pickup women at the GYM?

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The answer: Escalate very slowly, and in very small moves.

What if she's into something I like and I send her that "load size large" meme? Lol

i knew a blonde guy who was huge would just go on the dance floor start dirty dancing with the hottest gurl, then take her home...he was like dimmer switch Da Fuk you talkin about.

I keep giving off so many alpha vibes that women are hitting on me everywhere I go and it's becoming a real chore. Could you please do at least one video on how to be more creepy instead of less?

Without creeping girls out ? Is it just me or girls get creeped out by almost everything a guy does these days. I say god help those guys inc me !

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