She Cheated 6 Months Into Marriage

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@ka06745 7 месяцев назад

Dude needs to get a DNA test, that kid might not be his. And, agree with others, cut your losses now and divorce her immediately.

@williamjohn8633 7 месяцев назад

i can't believe John doesn't encourage DNA testing. It's the elephant in the room, but i really don't get why he doesn't want to address it. Life destroying advice, especially from somebody with a professional background as a therapist

@williamjohn8633 7 месяцев назад

The child is 1. You still technically have time to disestablish paternity. If he waits longer though, he's most definitely screwed@@lipsticknista5319

@aurelikoja6414 7 месяцев назад

Good thing he's getting those 3 jobs

@ButHearMeOutTho 7 месяцев назад

@lipsticknista5319 the system is really messed up. DNA tests should be done before signing birth certificates.

@williamjohn8633 7 месяцев назад

the baby is 1. He still has time to disestablish paternity if it turns out he's not the father. Obviously he needs a lawyer, but the longer he waits the more screwed he is@@lipsticknista5319

@pinkfairydust83 7 месяцев назад

John massively missed the mark with the first caller. I was screaming at the TV! How did he not even acknowledge this guys pain....why tell him get 3 jobs!! I'm a therapist and this was hard to listen to. He blamed himself at one point and John should have caught that and told him that she's responsible for her own choices!

@maiaheiss2991 7 месяцев назад

Yes that blaming moment… not his fault: she broke the vows not him! I couldn’t listen all the way through, made me too sad for this guy, like made my heart actually hurt. And to hammer on his dreams too… ouch ouch ouch

@B00tchen 7 месяцев назад

They don't put the entire call on here, they condense it down for time. You don't know what else might have been said.

@maiaheiss2991 7 месяцев назад

@@B00tchen I imagine that’s the case. But I am surprised they aired this, or aired it with this edit (however the case may be). Part of their job is to know how it looks from their audience perspective. The broader intention of the show has been to educate the audience. At this point their audience is pretty well educated and is calling them out. Maybe not John’s fault? But this call didn’t go right as far as we can tell.

@blah7694 7 месяцев назад

@@B00tchen Thanks I forgot about that makes me feel a little bit better.

@genelewis2481 7 месяцев назад

@@B00tchenfor John to tell him it’s not all his fault is something that the viewing audience should hear!

@zitroanor 7 месяцев назад

1st caller is going crazy with emotions and we're talking about 2-3 jobs and why being a book author is hard? Then he gets tickets to this conference? He's got a baby, no money, 3 jobs and heartache I don't feel like this kid's issues were addressed.

@cc3822 7 месяцев назад

"John- get another job," I say. Pump the breaks. No need to pay this nasty woman more alimony/child support. If it has more income, it doesn't, he will be screwing himself. Crappy advice, so much for sound therapy. ha

@judybaker3196 7 месяцев назад

Any chance to announce you’re a 2 time New York Times best selling author or have lots of degrees can’t be passed up.

@maiaheiss2991 7 месяцев назад

@@judybaker3196 yeah that kinda made me a little sick to my stomach to hear in that call, I honestly haven’t been watching since…

@bananarama480 4 месяца назад

True. I agree with Dr. John quite often, but this first caller he failed. I really do hope that the young man is doing okay and found a good person to turn to and to be supported by.

@chattaville4250 23 дня назад

It’s another pro woman anti-man sentiment that Delony has. If a woman called with the same question he wouldn’t tell her she should work more.

@omgurheadsgone 7 месяцев назад

What the heck was John going on about with the first caller? This guy just told John that his wife cheated on him within the first 6 months of their marriage and John was like, get a third job! 🥴 So your never home and your wives got even more time to cheat on you behind your back!

@BP-xe7dw 7 месяцев назад

Very strange admonishing on the scale of priority.

@cc3822 7 месяцев назад

+ Increasing her alimony/ child support if it doesn't work out. Wow, he really wanted to destroy this kids life.

@arthurshat7793 10 дней назад

Yeah, sometimes I wonder wtf he’s thinking. He really seems to side with women

@moony-_-. 7 месяцев назад

I would have immediately asked for a DNA test no way this was the first time she cheated

@criticalreality5361 7 месяцев назад

I guarantee that the kid is not his!!

@pcguysoffgridcabin 7 месяцев назад

That was my first thought

@user-tt9cg2le1s 7 месяцев назад

Victim blaming on 1st story? The guy called asking for advice about getting cheated on and got told to work more jobs. Kinda sounds like he’s being told you’re a loser and that’s why she cheated. Weird take tbh

@DJRiyzen 7 месяцев назад

Telling him to get more jobs, after his wife already cheated, is going to bring more infidelity

@DJRiyzen 7 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor562 yeah, she will feel he is ignoring her, and use that as an excuse to cheat again.

@cc3822 7 месяцев назад

John didn't ask if he was working full-time. In addition, she sounded like she had way too much time on her, hence cheating. He needs more time to clear his head, and not her getting more time. I can't believe the advice here. John would have given different advice/implementation if the rules were reversed. "Bad Advice"

@willjean1614 7 месяцев назад

John blows 😢on this one, not good advice at all, the guy state he didn’t make time for his wife and John told him to get 3 jobs, well I be damn

@mr.fettesq.7705 7 месяцев назад

Seriously!! John does my head in with how female-centric he tends to be some times. I listend to one where a wife called and spoke about how mean and cruel she is to her husband to the point of him being so beat down he's growing grey hairs. And John just placate her telling her how much she's been "neglecting herself" and not once not even once, called her out for being abusive to her husband for what was 18 years. It's made me sick.

@dinajones2761 7 месяцев назад

He always caters to women even if they are carrying on like hookers

@tmi4507 7 месяцев назад

This is really strange how John talks about his age and reality hitting him or his finances. Like every other person he immediately goes to “do you and her/him want to do this?” Like this is reality: 1. Get a DNA test for your kid 2. If it is your kid then figure out if you and your wife want to stay married which is going to require therapy and conversation. Biggest thing is to find out if this really was a one night stand (I don’t believe it was) 3. If it is not your kid I’d highly highly recommend divorcing her and leaving Like come on man. Where the hell did John go with this one? It’s really strange.

@brightpage1020 7 месяцев назад

Yeah DNA and STD tests for sure. Take care of the physical realities 1st.

@betomaze4954 7 месяцев назад

Seems like John was more worried about flexing his own accomplishments as a writer rather than helping him.

@blah7694 7 месяцев назад

I think the caller did sound a bit like life was just sort of happening to him but I agree that maybe he should have focused more on the main cheating issue.

@konye618 7 месяцев назад

The caller wasn't really focused. We have hindsight but during the call the 22 yr old seemed more worried about what he was providing in the relationship

@treeyellow4627 7 месяцев назад

Agree. 🤷🏼‍♀️

@calebburghardt3391 7 месяцев назад

Bro first dude needs to leave and take his wife to court for child support. Cheating within the first year of marriage is absolutely insane. I have no idea what John was even talking about on that call 😭

@pinkfairydust83 7 месяцев назад

The way John spoke to the first caller literally makes me want to unsubscribe. What's his problem? He just literally lecturing this poor young man for the whole call about how he's not good enough. Wow!

@Coco_Calls_OutBS 7 месяцев назад

exactly wtf

@parkerjohnson8225 6 месяцев назад

Big fan of Dr. John, but he spoke more about himself as an author than he did about what the caller needs. One of the worst calls I’ve seen him handle. Still a fan though. Just a bad mishandle.

@GodessIsabelRaina 5 месяцев назад

Kid is only 22yo. His 20s belong to him for finding him. His wife is disrespectfully finding herself. He needs a DNA TEST❗️ 2-3JOBS gives her the excuse of, "i cheated because you're never home"🙄

@karenkelly7907 2 месяца назад

Totally feel the same . Also he repeats the same help advice too much for different problems

@jennam8401 7 месяцев назад

first caller was wanting advice for his very difficult relationship situation, and did not receive it at all. Plowing into him about his dream about becoming a writer was not helpful right now, and took further aspects away from him when dreams and positivity could be useful right now. I am published internationally at 26 - it absolutely can be done. I wish John would have asked him important questions like - is the wife sorry and wants to continue? Does he think the relationship is worth saving or do you see her doing it again? Could the baby be someone else's? So much information needed here - very unfortunate and I hope the caller has a good support system to ask these questions since John did not.

@RPisa2416 7 месяцев назад

John just wanted to talk about his writing journey

@sunside7 7 месяцев назад

Completely agree with your comment. John seemed to get sidetracked to say the least. Also, congrats on being published internationally by age 26, that's awesome! What do you write about?

@betomaze4954 7 месяцев назад

Exactly! I felt bad for the guy, the entire call was just John making assumptions and telling him how hard the "real world" is - without actually dealing with the direct complaint.

@jeffanderson8099 7 месяцев назад

Agree, I think John was half asleep on this one!

@gasstationbathroominnevada 7 месяцев назад

He answered that one like Dave Ramsey lol

@teoshaetuk3616 7 месяцев назад

It doesn’t make sense for him to get 3 jobs when his wife just cheated on him and he doesn’t know if the baby is his. He needs to take a time out and get some answers and heal. To be cheated on in his first 6 months of marriage is a lot.

@vinnys7514 7 месяцев назад

Remember 'Along came Polly'?

@marievr7283 7 месяцев назад

Dr John, news flash it's not always about you.

@kimberlyharris2774 7 месяцев назад

His wife cheated!!!! Why are focusing on his financial situation

@israelortega1722 7 месяцев назад

He is young enough to start over. If id be him id take these steps. 1. Dna test 2. Get a lawyer 3. Devorce 4. Plan to build myself up for the best of my potencial daughter or my future.

@matthewchw770 7 месяцев назад

What kind of advice was that on the first caller!?!?!? His wife cheats and you tell him the solution is work 3 jobs? Wow, dude needs to get a second opinion from another therapist. Insane advice.

@lonniejolly5882 7 месяцев назад

He should leave.

@slappadabass7901 6 месяцев назад

John was smoking crack before that call lmao

@Girlgonewise 7 месяцев назад

She’s cheated before this….Get a DNA TEST!

@brooke9847 7 месяцев назад

First caller, he needs to leave her. He deserves better than being gas-lit into thinking it was his fault she cheated. Edited to add: it would not be him throwing away the last four years; she did that when she cheated.

@greenAbbot 7 месяцев назад

I agree. The last four years are gone. Leaving her would be choosing NOT to throw away the next ten years.

@MisterNightfish 7 месяцев назад

Correct. Nobody is responsible for the cheating except the cheater. If you're not happy with the relationship, work on it with your spouse and if they can't or won't do that, you just break it off. It's not an excuse to cheat.

@williamjohn8633 7 месяцев назад

John's encouraging this guy to put more chaos into his already chaotic life. Very vicious advice and will potentially destroy his life, especially if he gets divorced 5-10 years down the line

@BarnzTT 7 месяцев назад

@@williamjohn8633John panders to the female audience.

@williamjohn8633 7 месяцев назад

he gives good advice on many fronts, but i have to agree that he's gender-biased. I wouldn't trust him to look after my back@@BarnzTT

@oliviashondeff6407 7 месяцев назад

The response to the first call is just bizarre

@christinat2175 7 месяцев назад

Yes, i feel like Dr. John missed the mark on that call

@3roachkidsdhe 7 месяцев назад

Ikr

@hunternichols6273 7 месяцев назад

I'm also a 22 y/o who's been cheated on. My circumstances didn't involve marriage and a kid so I'm mostly fine now. But I really think Dr. John missed on the first call. I can't quite put my finger on it but I think what's bothering me is that he seemed to be pushing the man in the direction of trying to make the marriage work when we all know how unlikely that is at this point. Also, just seems like there weren't enough questions related to him and his feelings and how he feels about what happened and where he wants to go from here.

@maiaheiss2991 7 месяцев назад

I so agree. It made me really sad. I was cheated on at age 22; it was devastating. I’m so glad no one told I asked told me to get more jobs without listening to me.

@vinnys7514 7 месяцев назад

Tbf getting married between 16-25 is mostly a crap shoot. Both partners not fully mentally mature, almost never good finances, infatuation more likely than love. Start from square one; either leave or try to make it work.

@MHSMagicLuver 7 месяцев назад

@@vinnys7514yep. My mom got married at 18. And she wished she hadn’t gotten married so young. I’m 32, just got married in April and had been with my husband for 10 years before we got married. Also to the OP of this comment, I was cheated on by my boyfriend before my husband.. I was I think 21 at the time.

@andreawilliams4977 2 месяца назад

I could be wrong but I often feel like since he is Ramsey affiliated they almost never ever recommend divorce. Unless the spouse is incredibly abusive. Make it work at almost any cost seems to be the usual message.

@theworkingmanpodcast 7 месяцев назад

John gave this man advise on how to make more money so she can cheat more and take it. This was a horrible take on a young man in a traumatic moment.

@og666 7 месяцев назад

i was dumbfounded when john said you need three jobs. i expected him to say something like "being a father, husband, and your current job". guy didn't even say he was struggling financially. he said he makes good money 😵‍💫. thinking it over is good but i hope he thinks his way into divorce

@MisterNightfish 7 месяцев назад

He's very biased and if you listen to a few episodes, someone will call in with a similar situation, genders reversed, and john will give completely different advice.

@theworkingmanpodcast 7 месяцев назад

@@MisterNightfish almost always🤣

@alluringbliss4165 7 месяцев назад

Hopefully he reads the comments. It wouldn’t be cool if it was a guy who cheated 6 months into a marriage.

@SweetEssie 7 месяцев назад

It's cuz she cheated on him with someone who earned more than him. 🤭

@ashleysalazar2012 7 месяцев назад

The caller tells you his wife cheated and you tell him to make more money? Everyone needs more money. What does that have to do with his call? So now he has to feel bad about that too. How about helping him with the problem he presented you instead of giving him new ones. And giving him crap about wanting to be an author, he didn't say he was going to not work to pursue that dream. John really missed the mark on this one.

@roathripper 7 месяцев назад

at the end of the day it's just a subjective opinion based on what he has learnt about psychology (a 'science' which is primitive and largely unmapped territory) and a bit of woo-woo thrown in and packaged as a mass entertainment product. common sense suggests he should get a DNA test to confirm the kid is his and boot her the f-ck off of his porch.

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

He did. I feel so bad for this kid!

@ashleysalazar2012 6 месяцев назад

@@nt3833 John was in a stank mood.

@calibrial 7 месяцев назад

I really think John adds context in his head that isnt there. Trying to fathom a new mom calling in that her husband cheated and telling her to get busy. Also, I'd bet money it wasnt a one night stand. Not if she was looking for affection and attention.

@Jennifer-fk8kb 7 месяцев назад

Yes. He pulls things out of thin air trying to make the call “deeper” than it is. Starting to get frustrated listening to him recently.

@helianabanes4875 14 дней назад

Or, it is possible that this guy wrote in, and he already has context.

@2daFull 7 месяцев назад

If you switched this situation, there is no way John gives this advice. He would ask her why she is putting up with this, followed up with a rant about how the guy is a loser idiot and he is a child. In this case its a man so John basically tells him its his fault because she is stressed out. So he should get another job (3 jobs total) so she can spend more time with their kid, and he needs to ask her how he can love her everyday. This is the worst advice I've ever heard. I hope this guy doesn't listen in this situation. I hate this double standard he has for guys

@AgaKirchner 6 месяцев назад

If a therapist talked to me the way he talked to the first caller, I’d get up, leave and find someone else

@adur4801 7 месяцев назад

Second caller.... I am 32, going to be 33... My mom also has favorites, and I am not one and never will be. They make it a point to make sure we know we are not their favorite but telling the world they do. She has never once in 32 years told me I am beautiful and refuses to. As a young girl she always made it appoint to tell me " I love you BUT.... I wish I would have waited to have you"... That "BUT" has always killed me. That is narcissistic parent. I am very accomplished in my life, thank the Lord and hard work. But she will never praise me for it. Because I am living the life she could have had... "BUT" ended up having me....... The hardest thing to move past, is the little girl inside me who cries and hurts for the love her mom NEVER gave her..... BUT I am slowly letting that dream go and slowly learning I will NEVER be enough. And that is her loss, not mine. I always thought that, that "BUT" was the end of me...... BUT I am now learning to love myself and happy that God loves me too with absolutely NO "BUTS"

@mmkvoe6342 7 месяцев назад

That's what kills, is knowing even when you don't want to that not only your parent but the wide world doesn't love you, especially with no buts...not only the world but your own parent doesn't love you...I am working on believing and understanding that God loves me...and with no buts...

@dawnflorio8388 7 месяцев назад

Congratulations on the mental health you’ve earned! I can’t imagine overcoming that messaging; you’re an impressive person and SO very loved by the One who created you!! 💜💜

@charlesdaubner1017 7 месяцев назад

I'm a 68yo man. My mom had this dynamic with her mother. My older brothers were oblivious but me and my dad were well aware of the hurt and damage. It made me so angry. Please, you and 2nd caller, please take action and do not let these ladies continue to hurt you. This can go on for a lifetime, I can attest to that (my mom was 90 when she died; within the last few weeks of her life she was reliving an encounter with her mother, it wasn't pretty)

@TheNewMailLady 5 месяцев назад

I am so incredibly sorry my friend!

@maiaheiss2991 7 месяцев назад

Hope the first caller reads the comments.

@williamjohn8633 7 месяцев назад

First caller, if you're reading these comments, get divorce papers and a DNA test asap. John's advice completely betrays his professional background as a therapist. Your wife broke her marital vows and has chosen to end the marriage. Go into a co-parenting relationship. It doesn't matter if she's a single mother and that your child will be raised in a broken household -- that's all on her. Do you know how much premeditation goes through someone's mind before cheating? John wants you to put your life into even more chaos by working 3 jobs. If the genders were reversed, he would be encouraging the woman to tell the husband to move out of the house

@flashthecorgi2053 7 месяцев назад

First how did John’s advice completely betray his professional background of a therapist- he said get on stable ground and see a marriage counselor? Also, you completely missed the point of him telling the guy to get two jobs. It’s to help him get on stable ground. I mean heck the guy even said he was thinking about getting a second job to help provide. Third, this guys wife blew up everything and HE gets to make the next step whether that be try and reconcile or leave… it’s his decision and he needs a clear mind to do that! John gave him over $200 dollars of free resources to help him and also told him to meet with a trustworthy guy (his dad) for more advice and wisdom. It wasn’t bad advice at all!

@jackdeniston59 7 месяцев назад

Therapists are all about ´men are things to be used for the benefit of women. ´ Things only. So, he is actually 100% professional.

@flashthecorgi2053 7 месяцев назад

@@jackdeniston59 lol not sure where you got that narrative but that’s 100% wrong! Therapists try to help couples reconcile! Ultimately, he gets to make the choice on whether he stays or divorces! Just like Dr. D said choose your hard!

@FrankS111 7 месяцев назад

@@flashthecorgi2053next time I hear a woman upset that her husband cheated on her I’ll just say “go get more jobs” hahahahahahahahaha just spectacular 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@flashthecorgi2053 7 месяцев назад

@@FrankS111 You know why he said that though right? He’s in survival mode, I mean heck HE even said he was thinking about getting a second job BEFORE Delony mentioned it. He’s not thinking rationally right now due to financial insecurity. It’s also pretty telling you are refusing to even hear Delony’s other piece of the advice which is to get a trustworthy man to talk to, a marriage counselor, and he gave him over $200 in free resources. At the end of the day his wife blew up their marriage and now he’s faced with an awful gut wrenching decision does he try and reconcile or leave. It’s awful and heartbreaking and my heart goes out to this guy!

@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027 7 месяцев назад

Delete social media, buy dumbbells for a home gym, hire a good lawyer

@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027 7 месяцев назад

cough hide / spend / etc the assets cough

@ethan4048 7 месяцев назад

He’s not gonna be able to get a good lawyer, working in security lol probably makes under 20 an hour😅

@mysterio1570 7 месяцев назад

No reason to stay in that situation. By the time one gets married. Thinking about another person outside of a marriage should not be in ones thoughts. So it’s time to move on. No way does the man or woman who is cheated on will look at their spouse as the greatest factor in their lives. The innocence is gone. If can’t be faithful don’t be in a relationship with anyone.

@sasoriko 7 месяцев назад

What? Yo people are people the one thing you can count on is for the brain to acclimate to the environment and tune out usual stimulus. So what makes your spouse different? Eventually the new spouse smell will wear off. If you're married you gotta work on that joint. Otherwise it's inevitable that they'll at the very least think about someone. It's an unrealistic standard I don't want to set people up for failure.

@amethystfeathers7324 7 месяцев назад

The advice: I've been writing and didn't make it until I was in my 40's so I'm crushing your dream, you're wife cheated so you must go to work more (bad advice John, she'll be more lonely and feel more unloved)....this advice is so out of order and this young man deserved a lot better.

@MrPretends 7 месяцев назад

Idk how getting 3 jobs and the spouse having 1-2 aka 4-5 jobs within one couple is going to help a rocky relationship

@MrPretends 7 месяцев назад

Side note - dr John is fire with the advice in general , just don’t know about that one

@johnlanier3616 7 месяцев назад

@@MrPretendsFire? The guy is a complete idiot

@whitecandaceowens 7 месяцев назад

Here’s an actual “good approach to a marriage”: don’t cheat on your partner

@Devin1993x 7 месяцев назад

I had to turn this episode off halfway through the first call. Riley was calling being completely vulnerable and seeking true advice on how to move on from his wife cheating. I'm not sure why John starting going in on the caller talking about jobs and finances. You can tell the caller is stressed, and it felt like John just kept harping on what he needs to do, rather than the steps they need to take to move on from what his wife did.

@zitroanor 7 месяцев назад

He gave him a Dave Ramsey answer not a therapist answer. 😒

@flashthecorgi2053 7 месяцев назад

He did. Later into the call but he needs the guy to get out of survival mode so that he can make a rational choice instead of being impulsive. The guy even mentioned he thought about getting a second job because he needed economic security.

@Jillygirl-yn9to 7 месяцев назад

My thought exactly. As soon as he heard he was working security, he’s advised to get 2 and 3 jobs. ?? The guy’s trying to sort through a deep betrayal. Address that first.

@kellykirk4244 7 месяцев назад

I don’t love that John seems to have double standards for men and women. If a woman had called and 6months in the man had cheated, I think he would immediately recognize she was in an abusive relationship but bc this was a young man it’s like John immediately focused on his earning power. It was weird. He’d never tell a new mother who was cheated on 6months in “get 3 jobs today!” What? This man is going to have a breakdown. He needs his own therapy and he needs to take care of himself a little too.

@josiahsmith66 7 месяцев назад

Dr. John, I'm a huge fan of you & your work. But I really can't help but feel that you absolutely dropped the ball on the first caller. His dreams & finances are another conversation for another day. This young man is being gaslit into believing it was HIS fault that SHE committed infidelity. She made that choice. Not him. Still love you, man. Keep rocking

@blah7694 7 месяцев назад

So so rare that someone says still love you.

@acnaa77 7 месяцев назад

It feels like John had a lot more context on the first caller who might be a young, lazy, no ambition, aimless man who only says “I love you “ but doesn’t participate in life or marriage. Too young to get married, not having been in another relationship before , married before he went to school or sorted his career etc etc. The dude will be cheated on again( by his wife or other women), best for him to pull himself together, get on his feet, build a life for himself first, gain some experience and self respect. John probably sees this every day and got fed up ? No excuse for him , I’m just thinking it’s a lot more there.

@alycewich4472 3 месяца назад

@@acnaa77 To me the first caller sounded depressed. Not surprising there, but IMHO he needed to find someone who would help figure out the here and now, rather than go and get more jobs. This is a relational issue first. If she cheated this soon after getting married, there's something wrong...

@acnaa77 7 месяцев назад

IMO John had the best advice for the first caller. Most comments here are an emotional first response, but John nailed it. The “poor” guy too young to be married, never been in another relationship before, married before finishing school or choosing a career, probably irresponsible or insecure or absent in his life and marriage etc. We need to take his cheating wife out of this, as she’s as immature as him. The guy cannot afford a divorce , cannot afford raising a child on his own. Neither of them can. And they are so young, they can grow up together, get a career and a life together, raise a kid together.

@aar0n709 7 месяцев назад

Wtf, he needs to leave the fake marriage and then work on his damn career.

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

He can still address the hurt this kid is experiencing. And who are you to say he was wrong to get married when he did? There’s no one right way.

@racheltarentino3314 4 месяца назад

I agree

@racheltarentino3314 4 месяца назад

I was looking for this😂

@theworkingmanpodcast 7 месяцев назад

This isn’t her first time. Get rid of her NOW!

@lukek9033 7 месяцев назад

CALLER:: I'm married to a gaslighting 304 with a kid that's possibly not mine. JOHN: Get more jobs to support your family!..... Dudes gonna end up getting 3 jobs and be on the hook for even more child support and alimony when she cheats again.

@SweetEssie 7 месяцев назад

At least then, he can afford a good lawyer

@AG-rc2np 7 месяцев назад

His wife is going to leave him, it’s just a matter of when.

@kaylacombs6254 7 месяцев назад

First call was a failure. Why are you making it sound like it's his fault? He should leave her

@meesh1002 7 месяцев назад

First guy… run. More than likely she cheated this whole time with you…

@Julie-uq9pk 7 месяцев назад

That felt more like career advice… not much about the marriage. Maybe there was more we didn’t hear? Did the wife even want to stay in the marriage? Did she tell him she cheated or did he find out.. don’t think the caller ever said. So many questions… lol

@emeraldwaters8028 7 месяцев назад

First caller: I wonder if John would call this (almost) kid back? Most people here, including me, feel terrible for this young man. John could you rethink your response and do better? Reach back out to this guy.

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

Yes I’m heartbroken for him. And I’m worried that John just placed more weight on his shoulders and hurting heart.

@marciasophia9647 7 месяцев назад

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@bellaflorence 7 месяцев назад

Hello how do you make such monthly ?? I'm a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 🤦of myself because of low finance but I still believe in God

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@SriLankanAuthority 7 месяцев назад

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@ThailandAirPace 7 месяцев назад

I am surprised that this name is being mentioned here, I stumbled upon some of his clients testimonies on CNBC news last week..

@PrincewillMile 7 месяцев назад

I'm from Canada, I and two other of my friends tried her immediately we testified, she's performing wonders. I know she can't see this right now but she is changing people's lives.

@casiemcinnis4069 7 месяцев назад

This episode could not have come at a better time because I am literally starting therapy with my mom for this exact issue the Los Angeles caller is having with her mom and sister. I feel very validated right now.

@matw20519 7 месяцев назад

I normally really like Dr. John’s advice but I just feel like he really missed the mark with the first caller 😪

@3roachkidsdhe 7 месяцев назад

I agree

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

Yes, from the get-go he seemed like he was in a bad mood on that call and took it out on the caller.

@maiaheiss2991 7 месяцев назад

I think John forgot what show he was on with that first caller.

@Whatorwellsaid21 7 месяцев назад

She has no respect for you, and if you forgive her she will have even less respect and use you as a doormat.

@lazyakers 7 месяцев назад

How are the problems that he and his wife are having going to stand up to the next 40 years ? They’re barely into their marriage and it’s already on life support.

@archangel5991 7 месяцев назад

I dont really understand Johns advice to go work more to save his marriage.. seemed like odd wisdom

@Girlgonewise 7 месяцев назад

If it were a woman that was cheated on…He would tell her to leave. He tends to side with women.

@archangel5991 7 месяцев назад

@@Girlgonewise yeah, i’m kind of thinking the whole “be a man, grab your bootstraps” thing may not have been the best advice here. He also basically told the kid not to even bother working on his dream. Seems like the better advice would have been “keep the dream alive, fortify yourself in case of divorce and see if your wife is even willing to work through things and then decide if its worth it”. Not “work harder and forget your dreams buddy”, lol

@RichObiQuan 7 месяцев назад

@@GirlgonewiseI don’t like that he sides on women like that either

@larissaalcorn3406 7 месяцев назад

2nd caller: ma'am, I was a middle child with a baby sister who had brain cancer. You want to talk about having a mom who has a better relationship with your sibling, I was DEEP in that. Take a breath. Stop comparing your relationships. Start enforcing boundaries. If she criticizes your home, then she's not allowed at your home. If she puts you down at family functions, you leave those family functions. Start focusing on what YOU want. Not what your sister has with her. Because all that will do is create resentment between you and your sister. You can't control your mom. You can control your response.

@kellyturner4571 7 месяцев назад

DNA test and divorce immediately dude. I’m sorry.

@jasminebaby3375 7 месяцев назад

Dr Delony, I’m your number one fan and I’ve been here from the beginning. You are completely wrong with the first caller. I hope you can call him back and give him advice on his marriage and NOT on writing a book and his finances. ❌❌❌

@molly5262 7 месяцев назад

1st caller - John proceeds to tell him to get a 3rd job & his wife a second job, but is sending out 2 of his books to Riley to read & 2 tickets to one of his shows. How the he** is he ever going to have time to read or go see your show John??!!! The advice should not have focused on what work he’s doing but on his wife cheating! The actual reason Riley called in!!!🙄

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

I was thinking the same thing. This poor kid doesn’t have time to read. He needs sound advice right NOW.

@gessrinky9129 7 месяцев назад

Glad John took this opportunity to make it about how hard writing is….

@elliotsteeves112 7 месяцев назад

The hell? He doesn’t need job advice. He needs to figure out whether his marriage is worth sticking out. Based on what I am hearing, likely not. Probably worst advice segment from John out of everything I’ve heard from him.

@RPisa2416 7 месяцев назад

Yeah terrible “advice” if he doesn’t wants to call it that. It included pouring “shoulds” all over the kid

@NickRaeff 7 месяцев назад

Adding to my “reasons to not get married” playlist

@RepentImmediately 7 месяцев назад

😂😂😂😂😂

@greenAbbot 7 месяцев назад

If you’re determined to create a playlist to justify that choice (or any other choice), you can do it. The world is full of stories, and you can go seeking out the ones that validate your feelings if you want. But I can tell you from personal experience that you’re missing out on the potential for some amazing stuff.

@scratch57 7 месяцев назад

when Riley shows how John was dead wrong about the history of his relationship John pivots with INCREDIBLE speed away from relationship advice into career advice instead. He ran away from that so fast, realizing immediately how he'd messed that up and wanted ZERO accountability for it because it just might reveal his female bias.

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

My heart breaks for that first caller. And I’m disappointed in Deloney’s lack of empathy and proper questioning. I want to give the kid a hug. He has the weight of the world on his shoulders and now he finds out his wife cheated on him. Cheating on your spouse is so so messed up. I feel like John glossed right over that fact because of their young ages as if that gives her a pass. I sincerely hope this young man gets some good advice and looks out for himself. 😢

@Whatorwellsaid21 7 месяцев назад

Get divorced while the marriage is fresh. If you wait long you will have to pay alimony. She has no respect. There is no love. DNA test the kid.

@RepentImmediately 7 месяцев назад

"Get divorced while the marriage is fresh," made me LOL 😂😂😂. I know it's not meant to be a joke but it's a funny statement 😂😂😂 Needs to be on a T-shirt.

@RepentImmediately 7 месяцев назад

"Are you a newlywed?! Now's the time to get divorced! Don't wait until the marriage is old and stale. Do it NOW, while the marriage is FRESH, with our simple, three-step plan." 😂😂😂

@SLRagen 7 месяцев назад

First caller, Riley. Keep writing. Iowa City is the right place for you. I'm actually going back there myself. When I was your age, I was in the same boat. My life has changed ten different ways since then. Lots of ups and downs. The writing thing most will not understand. But it has been my constant for over 20 years. Keep your head up. Keep writing.

@davidstorck9368 7 месяцев назад

do a 180 and run bro definitely get proof that you are the father

@mentak2593 7 месяцев назад

“Don’t show up for an ass-whipping “ is the best advice my Dad ever gave me. She doesn’t need to put up with her mom’s toxicity.

@NinjaKiwi12058 7 месяцев назад

This is crazy on Dr. John’s part. If the caller was female he would tell her that he is awful and think about leaving. He would never say to the woman, get three jobs and stay with him. This advice is mind blowing. Get a DNA test now and divorce her she broke the #1 covenant of marriage which is sexual fidelity

@blingman78 7 месяцев назад

Classic John Delony: Woman: My husband cheated on me 6 months into our marriage. John: He's a child! Are you safe? Can you go somewhere? Man: My wife cheated on me 6 months into our marriage. John: The thought of throwing away 4 years of being in a relationship with somebody is pretty brutal too right? You love this woman? 8:57

@johnlanier3616 7 месяцев назад

Don't forget he now needs a total of 3 jobs.

@lms2379 7 месяцев назад

The suggestion of having a total of five jobs between them will leave them with no time together or with thd baby. Marriage will likely not survive the 5-jobs path.

@Lab757 7 месяцев назад

How Are 3 jobs going to fix the infidelity ? He’s literally broken . That bby is probably not his.

@RepentImmediately 7 месяцев назад

I would argue that committing to a romanticized idea of marriage and family at 22 is way more fantasy-based than wanting to follow one's passions. Kid just dive-bombed his life for no reason. He would have been ok being a starving writer if he had stayed single and depending on how talented he is, he could have been a published author before 25. I established my writing skills in high school and by grad school my professors were encouraging me to publish. Don't put your dreams and passions to the side for the sake of a relationship when you're young. I stopped playing sports when I was 16 because I wanted to spend more time with my boyfriend and I regret it. What I want to know, though, is how he found out she cheated 🧐

@DJRiyzen 7 месяцев назад

I know someone who married at 21, and is still married 15 years later, with three kids. It can be done.

@RepentImmediately 7 месяцев назад

@@DJRiyzenlots of stuff can be done that shouldn't be done. And marriage is not more important than professional satisfaction. I know plenty of miserable people who have been married for decades. And I get hit on by plenty of married men. The length of a marriage is not an indication of the health of the marriage. This kid made a bad choice and in general, the younger you are when you're married, the more likely you are to divorce.

@Carolinefdq 7 месяцев назад

@@RepentImmediately you are applying a huge generalization. Plenty of people have married young, and while there were bumps on the road (which happens in EVERY marriage, let's be real), they have made it work. My own parents are a testament to that example. I know several people who also married young and are still married to their spouses, years later. Married people can still follow their passions, even with kids, even with marital issues. Congratulations on establishing your writing skills btw. It's a great achievement. However, most people who enjoy writing and would like to be published someday are not able to make a living off of it and need to look for other professional avenues in order to survive. It's also really difficult to be a published author by the time you're 25 years old, especially if you're hoping for your book to be published through a traditional publishing house.

@mystiquevening 7 месяцев назад

Yes! I’ve been married for almost 9 years and 4 kids, we were married early 20’s. It has been absolutely difficult and painful. Our own lives and desires and needs are completely pushed to the side every single day. I tell women not to marry early and to wait as long as possible to have kids. We’re struggling so much and no one will ever care because it’s our fault for having sex and having babies. And that’s okay. Just know if you choose to have a family it’s only on you. It’s unusual to get any help or support. Be very careful with your future, this is the only life you get to live.

@Jennifer-fk8kb 7 месяцев назад

@@mystiqueveningthen end up $50-100k in debt from IVF and potentially no kids at all. This advice is why women in their late 30s are absolutely miserable in our world today.

@agnieszkaglennon5698 7 месяцев назад

What the..? She cheated and John is asking him to work 3 jobs? 😮 Once a cheater always a cheater. I can’t imagine she cheated after having a baby. She probably continued the affair, who knows who is the father. Move on while you can, young man. I can imagine an older, life-tired woman cheating on a husband of many years as a one off but this one started so early, to me it only means she doesn’t love you one bit. RUN.

@FrankS111 7 месяцев назад

Hahahahaha next time I hear a wife upset that her husband cheated on her my response will just be “go get more jobs”. Hahahahahahahahaha spectacular 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@jez5855 7 месяцев назад

Wow, im surprised how many people didnt like Dr John's response to the first caller.. No wonder why the divorce rates has skyrocketed these days. My parents are separated because my dad was unfaithful to my mom for many years. And as a child that grew up in that environment, I will say that I actually love his tactic in steering this young man away from divorce talk. Cheating on your spouse is absolutely unacceptable, but you dont automatically throw away years of relationship because of that. I really do hope that he works it out with his wife. Many years from now, both they, and their children will be thankful that they worked it out.

@miketoth7000 6 месяцев назад

Wouldn't the person that cheated be the one throwing all the years away?

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

I’m not saying he should rush for a divorce. I was just disappointed in John’s handling of this call. He didn’t show any empathy, didn’t do his usual “I’m sorry”. He didn’t correct the kid when he started to say it was his fault. He barely addressed the actual cheating part and just put pressure on the guy to get more jobs.

@sleepyjoeb.8726 7 месяцев назад

Isn’t “For richer or poorer,” in your marriage vows? So your advice to this guy who’s wife cheated on him is… Make more money. I’m surprised you didn’t ask him how much debt he’s in.

@starlingswallow 7 месяцев назад

Second caller: your self-worth is still attached to your mothers approval. I would suggest working on your self-esteem and self love and not keep attempting to get it from your mom's approval or actions. I know this because I have been here my whole life with both of my parents! It's called radical acceptance. Last year I went no contact with my parents for six months in order to work my stuff out and cut the apron strings from my parents. I learned how to love myself, I learned who I was, and what my identity is apart from anyone else, it was the best thing I have ever done for myself, and that includes leaving a 14 year long, abusive marriage to my ex! Your mom sounds like she might have a personality disorder? Your sister kind of sounds like the golden child and you are the black sheep or the scapegoat. It's no use trying to convince your mom that these are the things that she's doing, you can't control what other people do say or think. All you have control over is your self, how you see your self, and who you are attached to that you're getting your self-worth from. you sound like an amazing woman and I totally get that child wound deep in your heart that keeps getting stabbed by your mom! It sucks! I am hoping and praying that you see this comment❤❤❤

@AvalonMagique 7 месяцев назад

I thought no one was going to address the second caller, when I saw how upset many were about the bad advice the first caller got. Yes, I am the black sheep of the family, not because I'm a terrible person, but because I was not born a boy and because I don't look like my mom's side of the family. My sister is considered much prettier than I am and because of that and because she looks more like my mom's side of the family, she is favored by my mom, my dad, and my mom's and dad's side of the family. To the point that she and brothers got the better Christmas presents, and they did not have to struggle to get my parents to agree to buy them whatever they wanted when we were growing up, and were and still are fawned over. I was told to be the bigger person and not complain when my brothers and my sister got nicer things and were favored in many ways. I am professionally, socially, and marital-wise (nice successful husband) much more successful than my siblings, but that does not matter to my mom, my dad, and my mom and dad's side of the famiy. After years of being a triple A personality trying to get some kind of appreciation from my immediate and extended family, and ending up getting sick, I realized that my existence was not the problem, it was my parents and extended families who were the problem. My siblings and I are the victims of my parents and extended family craziness and stupidity. I now look at them with amusement, and can even joke about it. The way I see it their craziness and stupidity is what make great entertaining comedic movies and books. I guess the good therapist and appreciating my success have helped me. Second caller: You are worthy. It's clear that you are kind, intelligent and have carved out a great life. Live and enjoy your great life and let the mental peons live their silly little lives.

@Jerichojet 7 месяцев назад

My friend's wife emotionally divorced him 15 years ago. He has been having an affair with the same woman for the last 10 years. So everyone is miserable and I think his mistress left him.

@elyse443 7 месяцев назад

Sad 😢

@RepentImmediately 7 месяцев назад

Too bad he didn't leave his wife and go be with his mistress.

@annbow4064 7 месяцев назад

Your friend should have divorced his wife not take the easy way out and blame her then sneak around with his mistress for 10 years,he is wrong.

@brightpage1020 7 месяцев назад

Dude, 6 months and she already cheated?!? This either shows her commitment level or her maturity level or both… or it would if it weren’t Deloney. I’m sure there is more than meets the title here

@kristinaherrejon7181 7 месяцев назад

Oh wow. Dr Delony saying “your marriage is holding on by a piece of dental floss” had me laughing a deep belly laugh. I needed that. Thanks so much to the producers of the show! And of course Delony.

@nt3833 6 месяцев назад

I’ve only listened to the first call so far, but was Dr. John just in a bad mood? He didn’t even start off the call very nice with that young man. He didn’t show him one ounce of empathy and proceded to tell him to get 3 jobs and basically mocked his dream of being a writer. I really hope this kid gets better support/advice from somewhere else. I wish I could give this young man a hug.

@xavierhuerta879 7 месяцев назад

John that was Terrible Advice on the first call. Guy was seeking advice on his disgusting partner not telling him to get 3 jobs lol

@David-wo9un 7 месяцев назад

I am guessing she cheated while they were dating. I wonder if there is a chance the child is not biologically his?

@ashleysalazar2012 7 месяцев назад

Is John serious? His advice is so bizarre sometimes. That first caller needed the push. He needed someone to tell him to leave his wife and and do a dna test. I'm sorry but how does he even know that's his child?

@sarah.j.777 5 месяцев назад

Cheating is seriously wicked. Not only did you hurt them, but you have permanently changed (and maybe destroyed) their ability to connect, trust, bond, love themselves or someone else going forward. That is a horrific thing to do to somebody.

@brightpage1020 7 месяцев назад

6 months reveals a lack of commitment, character, or maturity. This person I'm guessing off the title alone maybe should not be married at this point in their life. Glad they are reaching out for help now and clearly recognize that.

@sarahalderman3126 3 месяца назад

Sounds like me at 21... got married and six months later I had a seizure and learned I needed brain surgery, then my husband cheated, then he lost his job, our insurance canceled our plan, and my entire world blew up for a few years. It never ends. Life sucks most of the time. That's just life. The only "escape" is fantasy and death.

@scratch57 7 месяцев назад

1st caller got his problem turned into a narrative John wanted to weave instead of getting any relevant advice. Instead John blames him for his wife's choices, averting any accountability for the wife. His wife doesn't want him - when a woman cheats it is unrecoverable. He's poor and sounds like a wet blanket... AND she cheated... I promise she has zero desire for you dude. And she WILL cheat again, meanwhile you're raising other men's children. John has zero understanding of female nature, believing like most modern men, that relationships with women are Desire built on a foundation of Trust. Wrong; its the other way around. When a woman cheats she's shown you the foundation of her relationship with you doesn't exist for her.

@mystiquevening 7 месяцев назад

I don’t think John was ready for a call when the first caller came on.

@flashthecorgi2053 7 месяцев назад

He’s mentioned several times he’s been very depressed for the start of the new year! He may be a little off but I also understand why he told the caller to get a couple jobs being they are struggling financially and he’s still in survival mode!

@scratch57 7 месяцев назад

the problem is John is a hack. he couldn't give that guy any useful advice if his life depended on it.

@flashthecorgi2053 7 месяцев назад

@@scratch57 and you watch why? You clearly don’t like him, it’s pointless to watch him and give him views ( although I’m sure he appreciates it because that’s part of his paycheck!)

@scratch57 7 месяцев назад

@@flashthecorgi2053 my clicks and views are inconsequential. I'm not losing anything by contributing $0.0001 to his income. What's more, we have an obligation to do what good we can in the world. its well worth it to come to these comments and add mine to the consensus that John's advice to Riley is wrong. if John won't read them and learn from it I'm not surprised, but if any passersby gain from it, its worth it. I don't like boycotts - excluding yourself from an interaction eliminates any chance you have to effect change. If I don't like what Target is doing I will still go in there and buy what I like and not buy what I don't; its my vote with my dollar that says "do more of this. this is working". I am glad you've found his content useful in your life. If you ate a diet of pure raisin bran and it cured your cancer, helped you lose weight and all your blood work comes back clear, I'd be happy for you. I still wouldn't try it and I'd not recommend it to anyone but your results are yours and I don't need to take them from you. John has training, but he's never practiced clinically and his content is very basic and easily available pop-psychology. Don't let that take away from your success, but that also means don't let it limit you either. If you can graduate to even higher things in your life by engaging in deeper knowledge of yourself and psychology, don't let a reliance on old tools stop you.

@Ashley-ku7is 7 месяцев назад

Really rooting for this guy. Good luck, dude.

@wonder12374 7 месяцев назад

Caller #1 Caller: My wife cheated on me Advice: Get 3 jobs and be a man 😂 I highly doubt this was her first time cheating....he needs to DNA test this child. For his sake I hope that child is not his he needs to take time to build himself up he sounds really weak and unsure of himself. Caller #2 The mom is a narcissist, and like every child of a narcissist, there is the scapegoat and the golden child who are pitted against each other. This woman stays because she is constantly seeking approval, and she most likely has Stockholm syndrome because she grew up dealing with her mother's love/ trauma rollercoaster.

@KELLYKH 7 месяцев назад

1st guy - so sorry that you were cheated on. You deserve so much better. Get a DNA test, lawyer, divorce, and keep writing!!

@henrypassfield Месяц назад

Never fails to amaze me how many betrayed husbands never even question the paternity of "their" kids. Smh.

@carolcole570 6 месяцев назад

This Second Lady will do what most of us do. Try, try, try, try to eternity to get Mom’s approval. My Mother died 6 years ago at the age of 95. The DAY before she died, she told me that she loved me. It was the FIRST time in my entire life that she ever said that to me. That PLUS she got saved right before she died. Between those two things, it has been six years and…….I have not cried yet. And it is all because I am so extremely happy over BOTH of these things happening to her. But……with this lady, trying to gain her approval and acceptance is just something that will always be in her to do. I totally get where she is coming from.❤️

@megameg4 7 месяцев назад

i’m not necessarily in the same boat as the first caller, but i’ve been needing to hear the exact advice john gave him about getting out of survival mode. made it to 30 and accomplished my “dreams” from my 20s (marriage, parenting, homeownership, etc) but it just all fell apart big time. can’t rebuild without first getting my sanity rebalanced.

@brightpage1020 7 месяцев назад

Dude could be a copywriter as a side hustle for a few hours per week. Could make more money on his way to authordom. Tell him to study sales! Tell him to read and workshop! Join writing workshops at community colleges for cheap - they get some great authors sneaking in or to attend the University of Iowa's Summer Writing Featival if he can't do their Writer's Workshop MFA. He get an English Degree and go to grad school at Univ. Of Iowa, publishers will pant to sign his author work. They'll chase him down he goes there. Can pay his way with copy. It's the sleazy version of "writing" the seedy underside that makes so much more in the meantime.

@dorisharrer4857 7 месяцев назад

His advice to the first caller is not bad. He is leading him where he needs to start from

@dachater1 7 месяцев назад

Second caller - I feel her pain slightly. I have a sister who doesn't give me the love and attention she does to my older brother. Ive also had to learn that she doesn't get a vote as to my value and as to what can impact my life. Not easy.

@Nora-jt9zy 7 месяцев назад

I recognized myself so much in Jackie’s story. I had a tendency (and still have, but working on it) to put everything everyone said in my backpack, thinking it was my baggage to carry. I am now trying to the unlearn this, and I’m now trying to analyze things that are said, to assess if it belongs to me or not. If it’s not my baggage, I try to not put it in my backpack, but reject it, as it actually belongs to someone else. I can’t keep carrying other people’s bad stuff. It’s been weighing me down for far too long. We deserve to only carry what’s our own 😊 I hope she finds a way to love herself. ❤

@mikedoyle5901 7 месяцев назад

First caller - Girl cheated on him because she most likely has zero respect for him. No money, no personality and no future. Sure she is his equal too.