"She Needs To Lose More Weight!" Mum Says No To Bride's Tight Dress | Say Yes To The Dress Atlanta 

THAT is narcissism at its worst. Truly.

While this is not the mother I would want, saying “these old ladies” is insulting. It’s not about age, it’s about attitude.

@@TobileyP Oh, there's a definite type. And they are "old ladies" living their youth through their daughters, but behind insanely hard on them and unsupportive in the process.

so true...

@@Briael with you there

exactly... 35kg that is a lot ... and she was in normal weight range /or close anyway by the way she looks ... so to put her down like that is an abomination

Imagine your mother criticizing your appearance while she sits there with the skin of an alligator purse.

I don’t need to imagine it, unfortunately it did happen to me. I went from a size 7 to a size 16. Both my parents couldn’t even stand looking at me. In there eyes I was some sort of monster that had eaten there child. It took 3 years and I went down to a size 12 I was so comfortable in that weight, but that was never good enough! Over the years I came to be my biggest at size 18 and now I’m slowly creeping down to a size 14. I do not own a scale too scared to even look at the weight number. Told my parents to kick rocks about my weight. My husband of almost 20 years has loved all my sizes. That is what counts for your partner to love you unconditionally! This bride is absolutely gorgeous and I hope her day was filled with magical moments. I hope that mom realized how awful she was towards her daughter!

@@carolinalopez1761 I'm so sorry you had to deal with such a toxic family. It's good to know you have a husband who loves and supports you!

@@hannahbass8458 your too sweet, thank you!

exactlyy. she looks gorgeous her mom is definitely jealous 🤦🏽‍♀️

are you kidding ? she has done a good job starting out to control her obesity and morons like you undermine her confidence in implying she looks Perfect. How in the hell did we get to the point where so many young women in the richest society ever known think they are good looking with layers of fat ? agree this conflict should not play out at Kleinfeld but her mother also too fat is in the right certainly at a time when the consequences of being overweight have become known as a medical risk factor. It is not only aesthetically assaultive but compromising her long term health remember the 7 deadly sins or have you never heard them. ? Yuck assume they agreed to embarrass themselves for some financial considerations YUCK

Not true though she just wants her daughter to look good ,even sometimes their children need to understand their parents

@@ananyabansal85 i could not agree with you more

The nick of the mum to be commenting at all......🙈

and even if she did, i think she would still be totally within her right (and could look gorgeous!) in a form fitting dress. her mother's a complete asshole

She is plus size tho, saying she doesn't say she looks pretty honest sounds backhanded. She is a BBW and is still beautiful either way and I can totally see why she's a daddy's girl

@@xohoneyvee She doesn’t even look plus-size though. She looks like any other woman.

@@ruthbtpar She is tho, saying to someone who is that “You’re not fat, you’re beautiful” implies more that being fat isn’t beautiful and only skinny ppl can be beautiful. If that’s her body type then that’s who she is but it doesn’t define her

​@@ruthbtpar Well Plus size starts at like a 12 or 14

Agree. She looked great in that gown.

Her mom's a witch? That's the only thing wrong I see. LOL

@@karencarlton9113 yep - agreed.

@@karencarlton9113 Yess! Her Mom was the only thing wrong in this picture.

She was beautiful

Exactly!! Losing nearly 80lbs is no small feat….She looks absolutely amazing & I hope she knows it ❤️

Ikr!!!!!!

Yes it is. May God continue to bless and keep her in Jesus name.

Major accomplishment.

She looks great!

Hello julie How are doing today?

Too much sun would be my guess. One of the bridesmaids has dark tan and she better watch it so she don't end up like mom

REAL

Omg yes!! 👏🏻🔥 This comment is pure gold.

😂😂😂😂

Hello nell c How are you doing today?

True

100%. Mom can do damage their daughters and it becomes generational. We gotta break that shit now.

it’s not like her mom is a freaking model..

@@evelyncortus1274 well of course because the daughters always look up to their moms because the moms have to teach their daughters how to become a woman

@@kathym322 naa

Yes she did

Yes

Definitely

I bet you ANYTHING the mother picked out the dress she wore to her first wedding. Heck, I bet that mother controlled the whole dang thing!

Not really

That is what the mom wants.

Oh she knows that well. All she wants is destroy poor girl's self esteem. Because that is what narcissistic mothers do. That is their game. They cannot stand another person, especially their daughter has the spotlight. They have to punish them for it. No children of a narcissistic mother has a functioning self esteem. That is a constant fight for them believe me. I know that from first hand. I have one those mothers and I have many friends have those too. All same strategy, all same attack pattern. That woman will make her cry in her wedding day you can sure of that.

Sounds like mine 🤣

Mine was the same. Even when I was underweight she still had to make me feel like that wasn't good enough. You could see she was enjoying tearing down her daughter.

That second dress was mom refusing to acknowledge the daughter's weight loss!

She's like my mother

@@invincible5278 Mine too, sadly. That's how I identified her. Lol...

Yes. Especially with her having a second wedding after losing weight says a lot than it should.

I remember saying something similar. It wasn't about insecurity. It was about wanting to see that look in his eye & I did. I wasn't happy with the first one, and I'm glad we did it. He says he thought I was beautiful either way, but since I wasn't happy the first time, I just didn't think he did either.

I’m glad I didn’t say it, unfortunately true

Yeah it’s sad she’s really pretty too💔😢

I was about to say you don't need a dress to know if you made the right decision, but the look on her face when Monte put on that veil was encouraging.

Same, I hope nobody has made her feel Iike she didn’t look good enough for him then.

With a mother like that, it’s easy to see why this poor girl’s self esteem is so low. She looked beautiful in the fitted dresses, and she should kick that mother to the kerb.

Poor baby. The couple seems not yet ready to get married. Having a second wedding, no matter how perfect it was, will never solve the issue🥺

My Dad said negative weight comments my entire life. It was hard to believe my husband when he said I was pretty. Parents comments can do a lot of damace

Especially since he looks like such a dork.

So agree! Think mother picked it on purpose!

Yes! Mom is clearly jealous of her daughters new shape and it seems she wanted her to look big again-and that second dress mom liked made her look larger

I also agree she looked amazing

The 2nd one looked like a quilted bed spread and made her look bigger. Mom is soooooooooooo wrong.

My mother cried like a hysterical fool at my first visit. Next appointment I went alone and pick the first dress I tried on.

Yes, THANK YOU! My mom projecting her own BS and putting me on a diet at age 7 was absolutely a huge reason I developed an ED

@@shellyberndt791 OMG 😱😱🤯that's just horrible You poor thing I'm so sorry this happened to you No shit you developed an ED 😟 I hope you're doing better and just know that everything you're born with is right and you are beautiful 😊❤

Right??? She is SO beautiful

@@shellyberndt791Sorry to hear that. My mom and others in my life were the same. It came down to me not eating a healthy number of calories and developing health issues (while putting on weight). It wasn't enough to be an ED, more unintentional from the stress, but I know what you mean. A dietician I spoke to told me that I need to try to eat more, despite my mom's protests I need to eat even less. Years later, I feel I lot better about myself as I implemented the dietician's changes. It's a work in progress, but I'm on the right track and I'm healthier than I was.

I agree. She didn't even need to lose weight the first time. It's probably the mother who made her do it.

A thousand times this

I get the vibes that since the bride lost weight her mother has become nastier. She probably liked the fact she was bigger than her and now she’s thinner, she wants her daughter to cover up and hide her figure so she doesn’t look better than her

I know for a fact, this is what her female biological unit said: "Oh my God, look at you. You are so fat. Just look at you."... (over & over).

She is a terrible mother

definitely! she is so rude :(

mom said "people like US can't wear clothe like this" she didn't body shame the girl, she was just saying her daughter wasn't a model and therefore couldn't wear sexy clothes, it's about her worldview and you body shaming her is exactly why she acts like this? i really can't with people sometimes

Exactly!! How dare she say one word about her daughters weight, when she needs to lose some herself

@@Faboostic Well, I can't with people like YOU!! Are you too blind to realize that the mother was being emotionally abusive to her poor daughter? We are allowed to shame that awful witch. Her daughter's self esteem is in the gutter because her mom can't shut her big, fat mouth. Who cares about her "world views"??? She should be supporting her daughter COMPLETELY, not telling her what she can and can't wear. How would you like it if someone criticized YOUR body and told you to cover up??

@@malloryg4251 well that's ok if you don't like people like, it's your right, i try my best to be understanding of people and that include even people like you who are rude with me, i care about her and the people around me world view's because it's what make the act in a certain way, if i can't understand and respect them i can't ask them to the same for me. no i'm not blind, i'm pretty aware that she was projecting in her daughter and being rude, but calling her a abusive narcissist is to much when none of us know their relationship behind the camera, the only issue the mother showed was about weight wich is really usual in today's society, i'm mean aren't you also fatshaming her? so are you a abusive narc because of this? aren't you just angry? i honestly find this quite offensive towards people who actually go through narcissism abuse, i don't know your life but would you like people assuming shit about it without knowing you? that's basically what you're all doing. parents SHOULD do a lot of stuff, but they're human just like us and have a lot of issues they project in their kids, that doesn't equal abuse, it means they're trying to teach their kids ways to survive. what would i think if somebody told me to cover up? i would think they have a reason to do so, like they don't want me to go cold or they can't handle seeing me because i'm really disgusting, but that doesn't mean they're right, i don't have to agree because they don't know what's best for me and i don't have to comply to the needs of those who don't care about me, but i also don't have to hurt them since they're already hurt. a eye for eye is not equal if the other person was already mute to begin with, so yeah you may not care for what i have to say but i say it anyway because there are people out there who need to know this. i'm a fat person, have been all my life and saying i'm that you fatshaming the mother is exactly why she's telling her daughter to change ther dress because she doesn't want to see her daughter be fatshamed like her is being in this comment session and was probably all her life and she doesn't realize that by doing so she is also enforcing the idea that there's something wrong and nasty with being fat, because she truly internalized this idea, just like you and everybody in this comment session are doing right now.

Exactly

Facts.

Her mom wants her to disappear or something 💀

The mom needs to lose a lot of weight herself and please for the love of God get a new hairdo!

Mom seems like a jealous hag...

LOSING!!!!

Oh, she knows.

Video aside, yaasssss get it girl!! I’ll bet you look fierce in anything 🔥

I am afraid the mother knows exactly what she is doing unfortunately. She looked stunning in the first dress.

My mom is like that. It took me 20 years to finally feel comfortable in my body. I would wear t-shirts and shorts to go to the beach because she would constantly call me fat and "full of cellulite". I am 1.75m tall and weighted 56kg back then.

@@glitchzilla I had to google your measurements lol....honestly that sounds pretty average for a young girl/teen at least from from this modest American's view. I'm 5"10 200 pounds. Yeah google that shit LOL

Exactly. Meanwhile, mom looks like 100 year old handbag with a cheap ass Party City wig.

Well from the full length view of her mom's weight situation 2:14 - her mom is hardly in a state that gives her the right to be insisting that her daughter needs to lose weight.

@@kyliepechler Could not agree more!

Very abusive

I agree 💯 percent. If that were my mother and she was said that to me I would ask her leave immediately.

She is the one who doesn’t get it

​@@camilaribeiro9191 ikr mom doesn't get it

​@@little_luna9521fr

I wish I was as lucky 😔 you sound like you did amazing. My mother crashed my wedding. Now I’m getting married at the court house, completely cut her and my blood family off.

The way it should be. Bravo ❤ My Mama did the same for me 💜

@@SpursandRainbows awe, I'm so sorry!! ❤

i wish everyone's experiences could be this amazing, great job!

Then that makes you an AMAZINGLY wonderful Momma, thank you for that!

Her mother is a narcissist. And yes 💯she's jealous. It's sickening

That’s what I thought too. Jealous.

🎯🎯🎯

U are right.

Mom’s Just Jealous.

ikr

Who's paying get the final say.

Exactly and if her mom call her fat ..i got nothing to say , she got such a nice figure

So if mom looks good she can speak?

@@L.Spencer not so much that but because the mother is so judgmental she needs to look at herself in the mirror

Her hair has more bleach than my sink

Best comment

@@L.Spencer Ok, you missed the point. Mom’s critical of her daughter when she doesn’t look good herself.

@Frozen Music ♪ shut up

I mean I'd just uninvite mum to the wedding after these comments 🤦

I would never have taken my mother with me to shop. For a wedding dress. She would have ruined the day.

@@glancycorner7425 so sorry to hear that. 💔

Not all moms are like that. I went dress shopping with my daughter, and we were laughing the entire time. We pulled all dresses that she liked. Unfortunately, she didn't like any of them on. So, I pulled one I thought would look good on her, and she fell in love with it. I would never have pushed what I liked on her, but sometimes moms can be a help. She was a beautiful bride.

Amen to THAT!!

You are the type of friend everyone needs

You made your friend feel amazing, and she saw what you did. Mama hates herself, and that is what that jealousy is about. My mom and dad died before O ever got married. I doubt they would have liked my choice of husband even then. Trust me, I looked horrid on purpose. I hated myself then, and still struggle with it, but I am always happy that other brides can feel amazing, even if they are BBWs. They should.

2lbs or 21lbs?

Rip. I know you can't reply because you said you died but anyway rip.

Can’t lie she had me tear up right with her in her moment.❤️

Yeah ik it’s makes you so emotional when they say “yes!” To the dress :D

​@@hangkhuongmurderedvi5510yea, R.I.P to the OG commenter 😞🕊️🕊️🕊️🙏🙏

"Died"??????...seriously???

I think mom still sees that 77 lbs the daughter lost. My mother was on me always about my weight. It hurts.

Some of my female family members, myself included, have broad shoulders, plenty of belly and no hips with skinny legs. We would kill for hips and ass.

It is. Even when you lose 60 pounds( like myself) you get all kinds of hate

I lost thirty last year and I've been thinner and somehow even when I was under weight with an ED i still felt fat. I an learning to live my body as it is. I'm the heaviest I've ever been but I'm at a healthy weight.

I started my ED journey when I was 15 and became a severe bulimic. I lost half my body weight and really was skin and bone. I am 5'10 and my body dysmorphia was so extreme it has been with me for my entire life. Even when I was a AU size 8-10, I still saw myself as a giant blob no matter how many people told me I was too skinny. This bride looked amazing and her mother is just a jealous old woman who needs a good long hard look at herself in the mirror as she is ugly on the inside and out and could do with losing a good 100lb herself.

Yeah for her to feel good about herself is amazing so that was really shitty a lot of people do still feel their old weight which there is absolutely nothing wrong about either -_- everyone has to look like a barbie i guess with a 1 inch waist

I had to giggle because of these toilet roll dolls, it's exactly as you say.

She does look great! It's a shame her own mother doesn't see that

@@natashabaker7275 Yes ... despite people saying that mothers always think her sons and daughters are the prettiest and the most handsome ones. 😆

@@gi.l.5043 Lol I'm guilty of that too tbh but beauty comes from within 🤣 pretty sure the mums jealous of her daughter lol

She looks beautiful in that dress.

Agreed! She looked GORGEOUS 😍

The first dress was beautiful!

But if the person is paying for the dress, maybe that person should get an opinion. If they think a certain style or silhouette would look nice, maybe it can change the bride's mind. If the bride brings people to her appointment, she is WANTING their opinions.

@@catladyfromky4142 an opinion, yes.. not telling the bride what THEY want.. there's a big difference.. a bride wants support for THEIR choice, not someone telling them what they wanna see on someone else's body.. and paying for the item doesn't mean they get to pick it.. you CHOOSE to pay for an item but a wedding dress isn't a community decision.. last time I made a garment decision it was for my minor child, not an adult getting married 🤷🏽‍♀️

Preach! Say it louder for the people in the back! 😁🙌🏻

@@XenilaVanilla i love your opinion!!!!!!!

This wouldn’t be the first time she said these things though. That’s the worst part. Her mother would be the voice in her head constantly!

@@aliciawilliams2503 you can tell those kinda comments spout from her mouth daily 🤬 she has no problem saying them in front of other people either 😡🤬

WELL SAID, 👏 👏 👏 BRAVO!

It's her own weight.thats causing the problem here not the daughters

Mom's weight is immaterial. Even if mom was pencil thing, it still would not give her license to be hateful to her daughter. She came to criticize and control, not support. She should have just stayed home.

Hey, guess what? You're perfect exactly as you are 💕

Exactly! like people really should start minding their business. I've been called flat, pencil, shaped like a wall, put on some meat etc. and it hurts. like weight is something you can't control at times and everyone should understand that. weight shouldn't matter as long as we're healthy, we're still beautiful and unique in our own way!

Right?! I have a love hate relationship with this show. Love the dresses, hate the humans. Lol

@@shayshay66 Yh and I’m glad u mentioned shaming for being thinner it works both ways and I’m so sorry u went through that

She needs to LOSE her mom.

I hope she's doing better. This is heartbreaking

I hope she is better now. ❤

Exactly, her daughter is the prize 🏆

Her mom could cause her daughter to have a eating disorder. The mom is a sick person.

I can...my mother was a hateful person to me my entire life, my aunt raised me.

My mum said all that and much more. I don’t speak to her any more.

I can. My mom was incredibly mean to my fiance and me throughout our engagement and wedding day. All she cared about was herself, and then she nicked some of my wedding presents.

@@AB-mx1de I’m so sorry that happened to you. No one deserves that, absolutely no one

Yea moms can be pretty mean under the guise of “just being honest”. In high school my mom told me when I started to gain weight and would raise her eye at me and say “you’re eating a muffin AND a bagel??” I’m 5’7 and weighed 140 lbs 🙄

I think you're missing the point. In this particular episode, it seems that the daughter was FORCED to have a rushed wedding because she was pregnant and the conservative families didn't want her to have a child out of wedlock. No doubt, this young woman wasn't ready to get married just yet, and the fact that she had to suddenly walk down the aisle was very traumatizing. Plus, I can't imagine all the horrible, shameful things her mom was saying to her before the first wedding. This goes much deeper than just finding the perfect dress.

Definitely agree that there is a lot more going on here from a family dynamic standpoint and that this whole thing goes deeper than finding the perfect dress - but I guess my point is that folks often seem to anchor a lot of their emotion and expectation on the physical items that go into the wedding (such as the "perfect dress") with the expectation that this will secure meaningful happiness/stronger relationship. While I think it is likely that you are right and she was pressured into something she wasn't ready for, I am still disturbed and saddened by her implication that finding the right dress will help her husband feel like he made "the right decision". Maybe what she means is that she didn't look happy because she didn't feel beautiful and was pressured, causing him to doubt if this was the right decision - but the way she phrased it sure made it sound like some of her feelings were because of the dress. Did her family put this into her head that he would feel this way because she didn't look a certain way? Probably, but I also feel that there is a lot of subtle and not-so-subtle messaging in our society that pressures brides to feel this way as a whole.

“Why when you do that your eyebrows move” 🦦 that ladyyy mannn 😂😂💞

@@xxxlilxmeggsxxx7683 😂 what part was that ?

@@xxxlilxmeggsxxx7683 Monte: “That’s not the only thing moving, honey.” 😅😂😂

@@aoifekennedy9004 it’s in the same part like right after he was singing 😂💯

@@xxxlilxmeggsxxx7683 ok thanks

That is exactly why I am not a fan. Although the ruching and satin are nice, I would have liked to see some other styles.

Is taking in her 1st wedding dress too complicated? They look the same, how fun that would have been..!

Exactly my point 🙏🏻🙏🏻 it is exactly the same

I thought it looked very similar too. She’s beautiful in both.

@@catladyfromky4142 Usually, I am not a fan of the ruched, fish tail dresses, but I have to admit that the first dress (her pick) looked beautiful on her ...... if for no other reason that because it fitted her body and accentuated all the positives. Mom's dress made her look heavy.