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The phrase "draw a bath" comes from the days when we didnt have plumbing and had to draw out the water from the well.

I wore a red dress to my wedding. I found out years before that each of my friends had different favourite colours, and I thought “if we each wore our favourite colour, we would be a rainbow” so that’s what we did for my wedding.

I'm disabled, and a "portable urinal" is what my male friends in wheelchairs use to go pee. It's basically a plastic container, and then they pour it in the toilet after.

“I WANT TO SEE SOMEONE DIE” is hands down the best part of the intro 😂

The robe story ....was such a karen moment " Your husband being a pervert , its not my concern"

First story - I freaking hate busybodies. That's what that woman was, a busybody. Her neighbor running outside for a minute in a robe is not her business. She was fully covered, not indecent. I'm really disappointed in OP's mom for not supporting her daughter. OMG. OP should totally make the apology while wearing a bikini!

If the girl in the bathrobe is a literal teenager and the neighbor's husband is leering at her then absolutely NTA because I'm tired of adults being so fucking weird about teen girls' bodies

Dude, I'm 51. Her age isn't the problem... bodies aren't taboo! I agree 100% about her marrying a creep.

An ice cream bucket is a plastic gallon-size bucket. They have a plastic lid and a plastic handle and can be cleaned completely. Most truckers (even without medical conditions) usually use soda pop or water bottles and throw them in the trash; using the bucket, particularly if he is washing it out between uses, is just a more sustainable option. Now, if he's going home and washing out the bucket in the same sinkful of water with the dishes you eat on, maybe there is a conversation that needs to occur about that... But either way, yeah... She's definitely the drama. Nothing at all wrong about having a pee bucket if you sometimes don't make it between stops, regardless of how long that is.

For our wedding we did a Doctor Who theme without it being overt. We used drinking glasses etched with the Tardis as the vases for the table centerpieces along with different quotes from Dr Who about relationships. The ring bearer carried a little terrarium with a Tardis inside with the rings. It felt like our own personal touch without it taking over the whole wedding.

Vicks contains: camphor, menthol, spirits of turpentine, oil of eucalyptus, cedarwood, nutmeg, and thymol Several of these tree oils can cause irritation in sensitive skin (or membranes) and are common to have mild allergies to.

Shaaba and Roly are such a chaotic duo I love it

i feel like with the red wedding dress story, 1. yeah the cousin is totally just trying to get out of going to the wedding, but 2. it feels like they're the AH because, okay, it can be argued that 4 weeks isn't that much notice, but also... there's a difference between going "oh, my dress is red. would it be possible for me to wear it anyway as it's short notice?" and going "omg you F-ing AH how dare you not give us more notice" like.... the reaction is just not proportionate with what has happened. so OP is NTA because there's a difference between being annoyed at plans suddenly changing and literally refusing to go to a wedding and making a huge drama over it without even trying to sort the matter out peacefully first.

The bathroom story - there's plastic buckets of ice cream in US stores that do have lids and handles. There's also portable urinals for men and women. Finally, as someone with bladder and kidney problems myself, holding isn't easy for everyone.

In the pee bucket story, it could be a plastic gallon ice cream tub. Also screw that girl, I also have to keep constantly hydrated for medical reasons, and while I'm used to holding it, it can get pretty painful after awhile.

I believe that the mints are what we would call, "Cold Spicy." lol

Im a disabled person with vulva and have a urine bottle with attachment in the car for moments when i am caught unawares and am nowhere near a toilet. It does have a lid though and i always empty and disinfect when home. (Nb. You might consider it a car urinal) Ableism successfully detected i think.

An AITA video NOT on Monday and with Roly?? Shaaba is truly spoiling us.

Telling someone to go pee in a field could potentially be very bad advice in the US. In one of the most asinine laws in this country, you can be put on the offender registry for peeing in public in many states.

Shabba has such warm kind energy and Roly is chaotic and unhinged 🤣 perfect dynamic The way they interact reminds me of one of my friends and myself 🥺

For the last one I can understand not wanting to pee in the fields. Having been caught squatting with my skirt hoisted, you never know how quickly & quietly people can appear. He may be worried about people who live on a route he has to use eveyday seeing him & even possibly getting in trouble for public indecency (possibly by someone who loves to complain refusing to listen to his explanations)

When I heard "Ice cream bucket" I imagined the gallon sized plastic buckets that you can get in American grocery stores. My parents always got those because being a family of 5, we could eat a lot of ice cream in the summer. We always kept the buckets for various uses. some for cleaning around the house (holding soapy water) some were used in the garden to protect plants on frosty nights, some became sand box toys, some became storage for things. they were really handy and sturdy. I would hope that he'd give the bucket a wash after emptying it when he had to use it, but if it's one of those plastic buckets with a lid then it's not that bad of a thing to use in emergencies IMO. Also in America it's illegal to pee on the side of the road. If you get caught you would be charged with indecent exposure, so it is more common to pull over and pee in the car into some sort of container in emergencies.

In the US, especially the south, it's considered rude to wear red to a wedding - almost as rude as wearing white - because of an old idea that red meant you either want to or already have slept with a member of the couple/were the groom's mistress, etc. Nowadays, it's considered rude because it's too eye-catching in photos. My own mother wouldn't even wear burgundy for her mother-of-the-bride dress even though I, the bride, picked it out for her lol

As someone with abdominal prolapse from childbirth which has led to urinary incontinence, as well as a currently 6yo kiddo, we absolutely have a pee bucket in our car. It does have a lid, and it does get washed out after use, but 🤷‍♀️ It has never seemed like a big deal to me.

Vicks uses menthol as the active ingredient. Some people are very sensitive to it. For instance, I am not and I have often used horse liniment for a muscle rub. My husband, is very sensitive and can't stand Vicks or anything with menthol in it. It actually reddens his skin and feels like a chemical burn. On the other hand I can't use an ointment with capsaicin (from peppers) at all. It feels like a chemical burn.

To explain ice cream buckets: idk if everywhere has them, but in the States stores sell big plastic buckets of ice cream for parties and larger families. They do have lids that supposedly seal good.

I'm sorry but i didn't know this guy and I was literally like "wow Jamie's had a makeover"

Shayne Topp, will give YTA badge for how people will write stories, like you aren’t the AH in the situation, but how you wrote the story makes you sound like one.

Also, re: the pee story, it's NOT healthy to hold in pee when you have to go. Like, you can get a UTI, or even Kidney stones. Like, if you gotta pee, you gotta pee. Constantly holding it in and forcing yourself not to pee can lead to heath issues.

Yeah, one of the key rules of pissing in the wild is that you go somewhere people can't see you. Like, hide behind a tree. Don't do it near people. The field could well have been too open. It would only work if there's a wall, bush or tree that he could go behind. Wild wee etiquette, people.

29:10 I always said that if I got married, it would be a Halloween wedding with everyone coming in costume. But even with the clothing being non-traditional, I would likely ask people not to come dressed up as whatever myself or my partner were going to be dressed as.

actually with the peeing in the car, in some countries like usa you can be put on sex offenders registry for peeing on the side of the road. its considered exposing yourself in public.

Roly!!! Love this combo. Precious Shaaba and chaotic Roly!

I love Jamie and Roly filming but Shabaa and Roly is something very special 🤣 her sweet and unproblematic language and nature compared with Roly’s dark humour and chaotic energy is like whiplash and it’s hilarious ❤️ Despite their differences in nature they’re also still similar

Love Jamie‘s new style ♡ although getting all these tattoos and piercings all at once must have been pretty painful

*Definitely sounds like the guy sat on an undissolved crystal in the bath. *I agree with you on the red wedding dress one. *Y'all are so much fun to watch! 💜

I feel bad for the guy who needs to pee alot. A "icecream bucket" does not sound great. You can buy things like pocket toilets (basically a folding bottle you can pee in) , travel/camping toilet, you can even just buy sealable sick bags that can hold alot and be disposed of safely :) I have alot of health issues and have looked into emergency toilet needs alot. The best seems to be a sickbag type thing , they can be slid into your pocket or your glove compartment or under your seat or whatever until you need them and then you can seal it safely so nothing gets out and then you can bin it once your at the other end. I hope they don't feel ashamed or anything ♡ Also a kids travel potty could be useful. I definitely think they need to find a more hygienic way to do this but the fact they had something even if it was a icecream tub shows that they obviously can't "just hold it in" and it's something they are trying to handle. I hope they don't feel ashamed, they literally have a medical condition ❤

I had the unfortunate fun of applying an icyhot back patch over a lower buttcheek spot. What was originally diagnosed as 'unknown back pain/possible sciatica' was actually a pilonidal abscess. The icy hot patch felt like I sat down straight on a fiery pike. Do not suggest.

rolys grandma's advice about running burns under warm water is actually correct!! you typically want to run burns under luke warm or room temp water

On my first visit to England, they gave me a bottle of squash and I drank about half over half an hour before they noticed and told me it's concentrate haha Truly a how to spot an American without them speaking moment :D

I'll never understand why a parent wouldn't back up their kid however old they are

My best friend and I were not warned about the need to water down squash when we moved to Ireland and then the UK (from Canada), so the first drink of that was certainly intense.

Story 3: NTA, their wedding, cousin is being very difficult and is the AH. They have time to pick another dress: cousin has supposedly been to plenty of weddings recently so probably has other options.

🤣 So for "draw a bath", I'm pretty sure it's the same "draw" as "draw something towards yourself" - people used to have to draw water from a well to get the water *for* the bath, so "drawing a bath" likely stemmed from that.

6:54 lol I moved my car in my pajamas this morning, just couldn’t be bothered to get dressed for that

For the first one, I once drove past a house on a very busy road. Old lady (at least 70s), she was chilling on her front porch in a dressing gown/robe and nothing else. But it was open and she was wearing absolutely nothing underneath and I saw everything...I feel like this is more of an issue than someone dashing outside for a minute in her completely covering robe.

The second poster certainly has a way with words.

i also have unpredictable needs for the bathroom. i recently purchased a camping toilet for my annual beach trip, and the difference in panic and physical pain levels are night and day.

Aerosolizing the Vicks in the hot water of the shower is super helpful for opening up clogged airways .. buuuut I'm sure there's a scale here of healthy amount vs.. too much in the bath tho? I feel like she'd have been better off with some lavender bath salts or sumthn

12:30 Back in ye olde pre-plumbing days you would literally draw water from its source to fill your bath. As in drawn from a well, the same etymology as a horse drawn cart. "Draw" = "Pull"

I trained myself to eat excessively spicy food (Indian, Thai mostly) but I got sick of my flat mates eating my food so I made sure it’ll hurt them and it stopped 😂 I eat really hot curry with ice cold water everyone looks at me like an alien, I’m thirsty not trying to dull the burn thank you 😂

If I had been invited to a wedding (or any other party) and I have an outfit sorted out, I would be pissed if they would suddenly inform last minute change of the dress code. Considering that the outfit I have, would now be a no-no and I wouldn't have anything suitable at home. I don't like shopping clothes and don't like using a lot of money to clothes I might not wear again. So if I'd be forced to get a new outfit, I wouldn't be happy about it. If planning to have a dress code in a party, should state that in the invitation.

There's biodegradable pee bags that all genders can use and when you pee in them, it goes onto a powder that crystallises and then you can throw it out and again, it's all biodegradable. These are used a lot at festivals. Great for kids abd adults alike for trips or like that story for medical conditions.

Seeing Roly try to reign himself in just enough 🤣🤣🤣

Anyone else gaging for a 1800 Drama/Gag Of The Millennial Podcast crossover???

somehow i never expected this duo but i am SO here for this dynamic their energy works so well together

Oh! Listerine Strips! I remember those, they made me gag because spearmint is so spicy.

As someone who has been completely mortified anytime I've ever had to pee in the potential sight of other people, I completely understand why someone would use a bucket instead. I know this is usually less of a big deal for guys than for women, but not all guys are the same. Honestly I'm a little annoyed that neither of them considered that desire for privacy might be a factor here.

One thing I am noticing is how much longer european people think an hour drive is compared to north americans. And how much less distance they get in that same hour. I was temping at an office here in Oregon and had to cover for a coworker. The manchester office absolutely refused to believe that I was covering for her because she and her husband had both taken long lunches and drove a hundred miles each to meet in the middle for lunch.

On the clothing topic, I'm going to play devil's advocate for a minute: I'm physically disabled and don't have the energy to change out of the clothes I wore to bed every morning. Sometimes I go to out in unwashed clothes, sweaty clothes, or slept in clothes because I just don't have the spoons to change. Many other physically disabled folks are the same. We have to pick and choose what we spend our energy on because we cannot do everything.

AFAIK, the rule to not wear white at a wedding is because that's the color that the bride is wearing. So it makes sense that the color changes depending on whatever the bride decides to wear. I'm not understanding all the "YTA" verdicts either. The cousin is a guest. As a guest to a wedding, I tend to just raid my closet a few days before. 4 weeks is MORE THAN ENOUGH TIME to pick another outfit.

I had a last-min military wedding, in a public park, during a HOT summer day. My partner was in a blue/red uniform and I chose to wear red. We wanted people to come casual, with a bit of red to match our group (only 10-15 ppl even showed up)... The Best Man was in shorts and tank top ffs. So glad my partner and i cared so little about the wedding itself. It was sweet and we were both too giddy to care. Pictures were cute too! F wedding monsters.

I think for the dress it's not really a question of tradition, but more about "stealing the thunder". Like, you don't wear the same color as the bride, to let her shine by making her the only one in that specific color maybe.

Damn an nearly 2 hours of shaaba and roly shenanigans split over the 2 channels ♡ this is gonna be an evening full of smiles and laughter I can just tell. Not even started the video yet but I always love the way you bounce off each others energy so I'm looking forward to settling in for an evening of these 2 videos ❤

The ice-cream bucket - as someone with an unreasonable bladder capacity, I have never had to, but on many roads (e.g. UK motorways) it is a lot easier to find a layby where you could pull over and subtly fill a bucket or bottle than get to accessible field to offload. Also possibly he is using receptacle when stuck in stationary traffic?

Regular reminder that you're all awesome, beautiful and valid little peaches, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Love you all ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

The Wedding One: My rule of thumb is “if it doesn’t go out on the invites, it’s too late.” I know the bride didn’t choose her own dress by then, but (I mean in the kindest way) that’s her fault, not the people who may have already purchased clothing. If I was the bride in that situation, I might still ASK people not to wear the same color too, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking. BUT if someone already bought/planned a similar dress, I would accept that as the consequence of making such a last-minute request and harbor no hard feelings! The cousin is weird/the main drama in this story, but objectively, the couple can’t expect perfect wedding etiquette from the guests when they aren’t displaying their own as the “hosts”. It’s not about tradition, it’s about being considerate of people’s time and money. Asking is fine, but I would add a caveat to the request for the people who may have already chosen red. The other alternative is not being upset if anyone shows up in something not up to dress code because they didn’t have time/money to go purchase something else. When I’m a guest, I choose my outfit a month or 2 ahead of time at minimum, usually as soon as I get the invite and see what season it will be! I don’t own many dresses, most of the ones I do have were purchased for weddings specifically, so it’s not true that everyone just has alternatives sitting around in their closet. And while there may be time, that does not mean there is money. “just go buy another one” is not considerate of people’s various financial status’. I think if they wanted to be strict on this rule, they should’ve taken responsibility for that desire and figured out the dress much earlier; pre-invites.

Story 2: love the story telling from Roly. NAH. He’s in pain and worried, she hurt by his reaction when she was trying to help.

Peeing on the side of the road: I am not sure, but if he gets out to pee, he may be at risk of a public indecency ticket. Also, my drives on roads that go through fields it’s going 80mph with no shoulders on the road. I would not want to pull over myself 😅

Years ago, I pulled my groin muscle and the Bengay (another name for Icy Hot) burned me I eat A TON of ice, I need to pee at least twice every hour….

Draw a bath is from the days when water was drawn in the sense that it was pumped or supplied in some way that didn't rely simply on water pressure.

13:17 OK no actually these people totally exist. My papa T makes so many not OK jokes and says so many not OK words. But at the same time is the most accepting and loving person on the planet.

I have to say that 1) Shaaba is gorgeous. 2) Roly has BEAUTIFUL eyes. and 3) I appreciate that you look at each other while talking to each other.

It’s called drawing a bath probably because you have to draw water up from a well, or at least you did if you wanted a bath back in the days before indoor plumbing. Nowadays I hear some people say draw a bath and some say run a bath

YAY WHAT A CROSSOVER 🔥

Roly brings such chaotic energy whenever he appears on collabs, it is pretty fun and infectious, I love it Also, man I love your eye color so much here

Swedish perspective here. I live in a suburb that's fused with a by Swedish measures larger city. If you're on the motorway there's no place to stop unless you leave the main road. As I understood it, the problem arises when traffic is backed up and when that happens, the back road clog up with people trying to get around it. Even trying to get off the main road can take 20 minutes but you also can't really know in advance how long it's going to take.

I agree we need Rolly needs to read bedtime stories

My guess for "drawing a bath" is that it probably comes from "drawing water from a well" for the bath (when you had to hand fill a tub with buckets of water)? IDK where "drawing water from a well came from unless that's a shortened form of "withdraw" So I don't actually know and don't quote me but I'm hypothesizing that it went withdraw water from the well -> draw water from the well -> draw water (from the well) for a bath -> draw a bath

I went to a gothic Halloween wedding and it was so much fun! The bride looked gorgeous in her black gown & veil. They had a flower plague doctor, a witch officiant and a Viking escorted the bride (nice costumes, not the typical Halloween ones). While it's not a theme I'd choose for my wedding, it was lovely and suited the couple perfectly.

I agree with you and Roly about the red wedding attire. They are NOT the drama. I don’t understand so many people saying otherwise. It appears to be a ‘nice attire’ function but not formal at all, so how difficult would it be to substitute the cousin’s chosen outfit for any nice business attire. A nice pant suit? The wedding couple are NTA for sure.

Placebo luckily has been shown to work, even if you are aware its just placebo!

On the wedding one, for a conventional wedding female presenting guests aren't meant to wear red anyway. So that dress wouldn't have been appropriate even without the dress code. There's significantly more rules about wedding dress code for female presenting people: not meant to wear white, black, or red is just the colour rules.

Gonna call my haemorrhoids my "mannequins" from now on. Thank you Shaaba!

Hey i just wanted to say be careful of storms in Milwaukee! We've had a few tornado scares recently!

my tea, Darjeeling and Lapsang souchong were not ready for vicks booty guy lmao

Ahhhh!! Gonna finish watching the collab on Roly's channel and then I'm coming back over here! Shaaba and Roly have such a great vibe together; what a delight to get two videos of them in one day!

I have IBS & one time I had to pull over & shit in the bushes because I for sure wasn't going to shit in my car. I'm sure I'm not the only one. Solidarity with my IBS comrades! Crohns & celiac included!

No one tell the 50 year old neighbour in the first one that I quite often walk around outside in me pyjamas. Monday was my RDO and I was doing stuff around the house, stripping my bed etc so didn’t get dressed till after lunch but I was out hanging washing out

1 - NTD for running out, but her mum never said that was what she should apologize for. Mum pointed out the remark about the neighbour being a creep. 2 - NDH I think. As for aftershave, the idea is that it pulls the edges of the wound together so it stops the bleeding. 3 - NTD. Like you said, this sounds just like an excuse. 4 - YTD totally. As someone who drinks a lot and also tends to get upset stomachs a lot, it ain't easy to hold.

Love you two together!!

The instructions on Vicks Vapor bath say to use two rounded caps full in a bath, so she definitely could have used too much by accident if she just poured it in.

"Vick's vapor my hole"... I'd joke about making an out of context compilation, but I think it's enough of an experience to hear these things in context 😂

It's funny that shabba is the wild one in her and Jamie's relationship but she's quiet compared to roly lol.

To be fair you can be charged as a sex offender for urinating in public. I wouldn't risk it with all the Karen's out there

36:00 I will admit, I did this with an old bleach container. I felt okay because it was decently discreet, I'd clear it every time, and no one would ever even open it. It always just looked like a bit of bleach in the side cup holder.

I love when u and rolly colab! Also, Im in the US, so it might be different, but its absolutely fine to go out to ur own driveway or curb in a robe! people do it all the time. Who cares?! 50 yr old is crazy

You and Roly have such incredible chemistry, this was so fun to watch❤ and I agree, Roly is God😂

When I was a child my childminder wore a red velvet wedding dress, and had us flower girls in white silk with red sashes. It really suited her, she was a redhead that always wore bright red lipstick, red dress was beautiful for her. As I was a kid I'm not sure if they had a dress code for the guests though