Guys, open your eyes, pay attention and listen to your intuition about intergender relationships.
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Here is the comment I read in the video:
About four years after my divorce I (43m) met a woman (40) and after a year of dating we started talking about marriage. She had a son who was 13 years old at the time. While having dinner after ring shopping one evening we started talking about her son's schooling and where we were going to live. I was still renting a house after my divorce but I wanted to purchase a nice new home for us.
The following day she sends me a text saying she wasn't going to compromise on sending her son to a private Catholic high school which is the second most expensive school in our area ($11k a year). This woman made $32k a year before taxes at the time.
I tried to have a conversation with her about how she was going to afford this school. She became irate during the texting conversation. I wasn't completely opposed to the school because I was raised Catholic and also attended a private Catholic high school. My issue was that after we started discussing marriage she was already making financial decisions on her own that were going to affect me. I thought that was completely wrong.
The argument escalated to the point that I told her to come to my house (we lived separate) and get her shit. I was done arguing with her. Now she wants to talk about it. She comes over and I explain my viewpoint, and I tell her. What if for instance, a week before our wedding I show up with a new $125k Porsche? How would that make you feel knowing you were about to marry me and now WE had to pay for this expensive car loan?
The light finally went off in her head.
Guys, I'm sorry to tell you this, but many women won't love you. Not the way you want to be loved anyway. They are incapable of loving you the way you love them. They love the idea of the life they will have with you.
There are good women out there but there are also a glut of vampires. When you are younger and find love you plan to build a life together. Once over 30 too many are looking for a fix for their failed life; an upgrade to the life they feel entitled to and one which they are not willing to work for themselves.
To briefly wrap up this story we got back together. We got engaged and after she had the ring on her finger she thought she “had me”, she had won.
She changed, our sex slowed down, she became argumentative during the house shopping and generally became irrational about where we were going to live and about the small wedding we were going to have.
She had issues about the house purchasing and the wedding which made me realize this woman was in this relationship for what she could get out of it.
I finally broke it off with her two weeks before the wedding because she hadn't seen me for the prior two weeks because she “didn't want to fight about the wedding.”
These women are out there in vast numbers. They have an internal monologue that differs from how they act. They have a mask on and if you don't see through it you will pay an emotional and likely financial toll.
Also in closing, through a twist of fate my ex-wife ended up working in the same building as my ex-fiance shortly after we separated Those two started talking. I need to mention that my ex-fiance lived with her parents. They had a large home and it just made financial sense for her to live with them. Anyway, my ex-wife sends me a photo of a text message where my ex-fiance tells her that I was just a means to an end. She wanted a house and I was getting us one. WTF right?
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