Parents can be real self-centered for their own insecurities. After a certain age, they cannot be trusted. They actually don't care what happens to their children due to their actions. Parent's egos and wants are the supreme drivers for the miseries of children.
Ye sach hai . I strongly support you . Salute to your courage . There should be strict Law Against Parents . India मे पेरंट्स के खिलाफ बोलने वाले को लोग जैसे क्रिमिनल की नजर से देखते है
Yes this is very true word to word … This happened with us … exactly same what you said … I live in USA and they excluded me from my share … Finally i broke all my ties with my siblings and mother because of this unfairness …. I really appreciate your contents and the topic you r bringing out .. These toxic acts r happening in families, but No one brings it out in open … I salute your courage sir !! 🙏🏻
Indians born in 1960s or 70s, I see and introspect more and more, find most of them are quite narrow minded and completely disobeyed what the freedom fighters and the noble people in the pre independent india told or preached. But they always gave gyan citing them ! Be it openness, keeping transparency in relationship, honor of work etc ...take any aspect.
True, hmare parents ne bhi hme ghr se nikalne ke liye hd se bahar ho gye they, unki property pr paisa hmne lgaya fir bhi muje hi nikala dusre nikkme bete ko sath rkha...
Sahi baat hai.. Indian Parents har cheez apne hisab se chalane ki sochte hai.. Bacho ko kathputli samjhte hai . Shadi and education sab unke hisab se ho..bacho ko fd samjhte hai.. I am personally facing this issue at extreme level Totally agree with Amit ji I did arrange marriage with my parents consent phir bhi kalesh kaat ke rkha hua .. I am only son in family phir bhi Har baat pe property na dene ki dhamki dete h
@@rindian1562 if parents have this much trust issue then why did they have kids in the first place children should ask this also to parents that's why the intelligent new gen are happy to be DINK's so in future they do not do the same drama as their parents
Hats off 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 kadwa such humare samaj ka....or jo jo aapne bola sab mene suna hai...apne family mai bado se... But sab khel power ka hai...jiske pass power hai wo khela hai duniya Mai ...... Or parents shabd mai hi power hai sab power unme hai ... But i hope aaj ki generation in sab baato ko samjhe....or aage ka future sabhi baccho ke liye happiness bhara ho ...
Hello sir it's very very true sir. Parents apne dabbu type bachhe ko apni sewa ke ly apne pas rakhna chahte h aur jo kamyab bachha h uske gungan krte h dabbu bachhe ke samne Same story meri h sir
My parents never made an effort to put any effort to build a relationship with my brother and myself when we were young. He was the golden child and so he got all praises and I was ridiculed and ignored completely. He started doing the same when we were growing up and he still does it. We only send birthday wishes once a year to each other now. I’m glad I don’t have to deal with his toxic behavior anymore !
@@arpanmadrecha3013 he also knew,if he ask they will burn inside They treated him trash 🗑️ whole life. They are doing for 19+ years so it is happened everything cautiously with him. Thats why anyone should born second or more children if they don't know proper parenting and not able to do treat with child Life
@@sunilarathod9940 what I was saying is to such parents it should ask straight forward why did they have kids in the first place loud and clear so they realize their mistake it is their fault then
Yes, very true. Sometimes parents compel the other children to help the unhealthy or needy children. Sometimes it can be very taxing and create gulf in the family.
Sahin hain ye batein sach hain. Parents takleef de rahee hain bachoon ko aur apas mein ladva rahein hain. Main khud 14 saal se court cases lad rahi hoon. Shaadi ho ke 22 saal ho gaye hain 😥
Ye normal attitude tha 70’s k phele k logon kaa par us samay mai bh kaafi achhe log bh rahe hain Aaj bh ye attitude transfer hua hoga aaj ki generation mai Thanks for your contribution uncleji
Absolutely correct. The parents say that their assets are their children because they don't want to distribute their wealth when they're alive and they want us to be in constant conflict. 💯 percent true hain Sir ji . 🙏 . Also make videos on how parents treat two different daughter's hubby based on their son-in-law's income and job designation also 😝🥴👿😜😂😆
Yeh to hai, as a younger brother when my father left his body when I was 16 then the neglegence I saw from my mother towards me is very high. She didn't cared whether I have any voter ID or aadhar or license or bank account or anything, I have to did lots of arguments to get the same in my house. We have car and bike in my house but the keys were hidden as they don't want to give me, glad my friends helped me in learning vehicles. Overall there is a negligence for my needs, I didn't asked for money and clothes from my mother, and she didn't asked me whether I needed it or not. I only lived with 4 pair of clothes from 16 to 21, not more than 200-300rs a year and that too I get from left overs after buying groceries. I used legs for travelling mostly but sometimes public vehicle needed and that's where my money is gone to. We are a middle class family, not anywhere near poor. Mother was a MCD teacher, now ret. However, I gathered everything with my efforts and righteous demands, 27 now
Thank you uncle ji aap bilkul shi khte ho ek ek point shi hai ldke ko problem hoti hai in sbse wo apne kaam pr dhyaan nhi de pata hai grhaklesh ki vjh se aap jaisa agr sbhi sochenge to bhut kucch badal skta hai lekin afsos indian parents kbhi bhi apni galti nhi manege Or aapne ye shi kha hai k sb jhel rhe hai lekin khul kr koi nhi bolta hai Thank you uncle
This is so so true. Its the responsibility of the parents to bring peace between the siblings. I have faced this issue in my childhood. Finally, I had to take care of both the parents
Very true sir...parents in law, being old have more listeners than we have..they do many things silently to give guilty conscience to their young generation..
100% Agree with you Sir...Very Very Truee 👍. This is, the story of many many house holds in India... Bs koi khul k baat krk bura nai banana chahta.. Hr ghar k kahani h ye Sir
Rare example of my sasurji ! unhone kuch chije hum bahuonke nam pe kar di. vo kahete the ki bacche kuch bech denge, lekin dono bahue diya hua achhe se rakhengi. I am proud that unka diya hua aaj bhi hamare sath hai !
I totally agree with you Sir. Of late parents in old age are actually becoming more manipulative n selfless for their smooth running of old-age. They r comfortably taking advantage by emotional black mail.
U r right... I too have faced this issue. I'm the elder brother in the family having 20 age My yonger brother is very well in academics nd have done great in academics nd got into the top engineering college and I'm not upto that Mark. I have seen some difference in pampering nd caring by parents which can lead to fractions between the siblings. But that's the nature of human being every one praises to the morning sun.
That's why better to have only 1 child max to avoid these situations or be DINK at least you can take a decision that you will have only 1 kid and treat the kid well
Very nice and true. Apt videos for Indian families where all children are married.....Indians parents hamesha pehle apne baare main sochte hain ki meri sewa kaun karega, Jo karega usse hi mewa milega....and they pick the weaker child Jo unse hamesha chipka rahega.....ultimate one is shadi ke baad jo accha kaam ladka kar Raha woh hamare sanskaar hain jo accha nahi karaega woh to Bahu ke kahe main chal raha...warna hamara ladka to heera hain......but inside out they know how the behaviour patterns of their kids but they can't accept the truth .... Aur issi jiddh main ghar main tensions hote hain
Very true. Indian parents are very selfish and that is why my parents fought with their siblings and now my siblings are also fighting with me. It’s a viscous chain. Indian parents are breaking up families and they don’t care if they break their whole lineage. In foreign countries, every child is treated equally. Doesn’t matter if you are a male, female whatever. So I see here that since all children were treated equally, all children come to help parents out when they need. Male and female children both help out parents. I have seen people in USA who have 5 children but they all get along very well, because there are no games being played in families, no favoritism, no gender bias. People genuinely love each other then.
100 percent sach hai. Parents apni insecurity ke liye yeh adham karya kiya karte hai. Specially assumed weak bache ke chakkar me jo thik hai unhe sajaa milti hai
Parent Ke mithe bol. Sweet talker sibling versus yes sir talker sibling. Parent duty for equal stay across each child, no preference. Good Parenting Rules to follow. Signed Agreement for Siblings
Thanks for talking openly about such a sensitive and difficult topic. Immature parents employ the "divide and rule" tactic with their children to maintain control and satisfy their interests. I'll be curious to know your views on how to disengage from such family members. Thanks!
Sir, mujhe aapka content bahut achcha lagta hai. I am the cursed good boy which you talked about in one of the videos. Agree that when parents especially mothers get insecure, then try to play power politics between the siblings.
You are very right Sir. Very bold to come up with these facts of society. I suffered many years to realise that my parents love no one but them only. Most of the time they manipulate siblings for only their benefit. They painted me as villen in society even most of time what they wanted me to do in life. Thank You Sir.
My parents long favoured my younger sister.Now she has stopped talking to me completely .when I asked my parents to show me their will as I want to settle things with her on the basis of their will in the future they reprimanded me called me greedy whereas I just wanted paperwork done so that things can be settled amicably.Now I'm the bad one even more
unique topics sir, i truly appreciate your content. i guess our parent generation was doing investment instead of parenting on children and doing emotional love to their real estate/ money. i really appreciate what they have done for us but always expecting our generation to obey them is unfair. we have an environment of talking openly in our home, then have so much disagreements. i wonder what lack of communication can do. Basic flaw of previous generations is they take disagreements as disrespects. Thank you and keep making such type of content sir.
Agreed.....koi problem nahi hai zindagi mein bas in laws ka hi tension hai....sab pyar betiyon ko unke bacchon ko pyar se sambhalate hai...beta Bahu sirf farz nibhane ko chahiye...sir pls ek video banaiye jaha betiyon ko property me hissa chahiy....law dekha jaye to correct hai but jab inko shadi ke time haisiyat se jyada dowry di tab law kaha tha....aur ek baat jo mayake se hisse le rahe hai unhone apni nanando bhi to Dena chahiye....matlab law ko apne hisab se apne convenience se ghumalo
Thanks for discussing . These topics are really need to be discussed. With shame no one like to discuss. Mostly sweet spoken child or who show off more takes love and property. Please this is real life . Thanks for at least bringing out. Thanks sir
🙏Sir,please please please make a reverse video,situation where children are ready to take care of parents and do everything as per their needs BUT parents still create hassle and don't co-operate with children, children don't want (need)parents money nor property
Went through something similar couple of hours back and have been seeing these things so closely nowadays and your video popped up with a perfect thumbnail & the entire video is so relatable. I have been planning to come up with A podcast of my own and was thinking of talking about these issues but was scared cos it needs a lot of guts. Grt job sir!
Indian father enjoys social authority.A father is a father and always respectful for a son no matter how cruel drinkard and violent he is.If a son or daughter in law defend themselves by snatching beating rod or axe even that action is considered an attack or disrespectful by the society.Sir you have correctly said parents are not god they are normal human beings with every human errors and weaknesses.
Ye sach hai. It's like an elephant in the room.. everyone knows and sees, but no one wants to talk about it. All my close friends complain about their parents(also me).
No words to expresss how accurate you r sir 👏👏👏....Exactly ds is happening in our family ...indian parents r root cause of everyproblems ....bt some r suffering n some r enjoying the Free Pension , Free property .... Thank you sir for bitter truth ....which nobody has courage to accept 🙏🏼. ,🙏🏼Har har Mahadev 🙏🏼
Sir for parents being a bahu and beta did everything but they expect bhav and entertain their daughters, no matter they and their daughter insult us, and whatever we do they treat that it's our duty. Yes sir parents are selfish, and never satisfied with Seva and said that's why I am not giving property and father in law is proud of his pension
Sir "Meethe bol syndrome" par video banaye. I am the eldest daughter in my family and I am a very straight forward person. My father expects me to speak sweet words, he gets offended when I speak straight forward. I don't understand why people don't respect a person who is straight forward in nature. I feel he or she is the most honest person.
Straight forward people are never respected. Need to do politician talk. My brother did sweet talk only on phone while my parents stayed with me. When time is ripe they sided with him - sweet talk wins. Realized this late in life.
@deepshar027 can you clarify- did the parents stay with you or you stayed in the parents house rent-free while it was the family house where your other siblings were equally entitled to live , but because of job outside lived in another rented property in another city, while you were enjoying their portion of the family house?
Sir u have kept hand on my dukhti ratt..because this is the problem with my family ..my mother favours her son more than me her daughter as i have been an average student throughout life and my brother has been d genius in her eyes .. according to my mother he has said number of times to me that "tune hamesha naak neechi Kari hai my son has made me proud " this thing has gradually made my brother an arrogant and stubborn person in life , he dosent respects me at all ..he calls me a loser and a failure through out..i have been depressed all my life get continues hurt my my mother and brother..my father has not been a strong man he listens 90 percentage to what my mom says n repeat that and now my father is old and lost his senses completely ...i have been with my family in all thick and thin throughout life till date , given in emotionally to them , physical efforts towards them ..but i am being told always tune kiya hi kya hai and everything is weighted monetary wise ...now my brother calls me nikkama and wants all property to himself says to me to contribute financially towards parents else forget all property..he daily tortures me , calls me loser , makes fun of me , calls me failure , insults and humiliates me day and night ...never appreciate what i do for him ..even if i give him gifts he says pati k paise se diya hai ... I supported my family before marriage..financially i supported my brother , i supported my parents during hospitalizations physically taking care of them , i love my parents n brother but everything gets weighted financially.. I feel exhausted and depressed.. I have done jobs but could never earn more that 40k per month and lost interest in jobs eventually...i got married and then also i did job for two years but could not grow due to which i have left job now ...but i really get tortured thru my mother and brother for years ..
I read your entire comment and after reading to your story, I remembered myself. I would like to say to you, do not give up as long as you are alive. aap ke liye bhi koi na koi chinta karta hai 😢
exactly same thing is happening in our lives also. My father has created the gap between me and my sister. Now is not trying to resolve the issues. Despite he is talking to my sister regularly.
