Pls click on the link below to join Sango's Subscriber Webinar Info Group: chat.whatsapp.com/FSJaoGlbtCEBnmHu6sn7Gk Sango's Best Courses : Sango's Happiness Course: yqthl.on-app.in/app/oc/274119/yqthl? 07 Unique Business Ideas for Housewives by Amit Sangwan : yqthl.on-app.in/app/oc/296041/yqthl? Sango's Vedic Astrology Course Link: yqthl.on-app.in/app/oc/326112/yqthl? Sango's RU-vidr Course: yqthl.courses.store/348906
Sir ji I m government employee I m very coward I give to my parents 80% of my salary from 2018 @ the date of joining...Sir ji Me and my wife argument / fight on this in past I had 1 daughter and I m stop for children but my mother says 1 beta hona chahiye but God gives me 2 cute twins daughters last year sir ji andar se kuch samajh me nahi aata ki paap karu ya punya 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🕉️🕉️🕉️🕉️🕉️🕉️
Every child has a responsibility towards their parents. Taking responsibility for parents' food, clothing, social protection of parents, health, giving parents a good life etc. "The son will become a big officer and drive around, and the parents will use buses, trams or rickshaws to go somewhere" because they don't have the ability to drive, is that what you mean? Do you mean "son will wear expensive clothes, shoes, father will wear slippers, pajama because father is not qualified to wear expensive clothes", oh parents have dedicated their lives to make you the best. "A poor parent taught his child to study, and that child did not see his parents, the son lived a beautiful life in a beautiful mansion like a rich man, and the poor parents remained poor in a tiled rice house. Because his parents did not deserve to live in a big mansion." . Is it what you call Indian society to be? More than 50% Indian society is still poor or lower class, but 90 % of them have Smartphone, 4g and 5g internet , Have you ever wondered what message will go to them? Shame on you, 🤬🤬🤬 I think 🤔you are a test tube baby 😅😅😅😅😅 that's why you can't understand the relationship between parents and their children , and you never understand the Blood strain or blood relation between parents and children.
Sir I kept on giving money to my in laws unlimited. The moment I used to stop giving they used to throw me and kids out of the house. An spread news and say bahu karti hai kalesh. Socially all rumors. My mistake I got married in 1st Gen educated and were financially lower class family who was my spouse. Like you say rather got to say coming from a upper middle class family this was a blunder.
You're very fortunate and may god bless your for carrying such a positive message. But there are unfortunate people who are exploited emotionally, financially and socially. I hope everyone gets parents like you.
if parents hv not planned their retirement, mediclaime, upto how much should pay for their treatments esoecially after 75- 80 yrs. plz make videi, I hv seen so many people taking loan n crying bcz of it. Thank you.
I feel wise parents will never burden their children by asking for money unnecessarily and they will plan their retirement well. And wise children will always try to support and make their parents lives better (if they are in a better condition themselves). Because it's not about money, it's about the intentions. Giving happiness and comforts to parents bcoz they have been really understanding towards them and raised children with wisdom.
Yes, you should give money to parents if they really need it and are financially not secure. But I thinks it's the parent's responsibly also to have a comfortable retirement saving and lead by example for their children & not depend on them. There are cases where parents invest their whole life saving to get their children a fancy abroad education. In such cases, it's the children's responsibility to help their parents financially once they start earning. It's the youths responsibility to ensure their parents don't lose their wealth in getting them an education. And if that is the only way, they must take responsibility for that and share the financial burden with their parents once they start earning.
Yeh budda chutia bana raha hai.. iske chaaker mai aapne parents se muh mat modna... they are the one who will stand with you in your worst time..... there is a world above money...
👍🏻my straight answer - Bilkul Nahi dene chahiye. Unke paas already unki savings aur property hai. Youngsters ko apne paise apni "Wife" aur apne Future Plans ke liye sambhaal ke rakhne chahiye. Parents ne Youngsters ko bahut pareshaan kar ke rakha hai
Sahi bol rahe hai Parents don't trust kids but they are ready to take your salary and ask you. To trust them. They have Everything property, money and still they are insecure in trusting their kids U work in their house give time money and in return they say this is their house leave or stay as they like Better live on rent
You are absolutely right Sir, 12 year back my parent's did the samething , my younger brother has given money to my father, he has purchased plot on sister's name , now he is no more and sister need equal right in father's property and deny to sign on NOC, now she has more property then my brother , relation is too bad among us. Mother is supporting Sister. Ye sab raita parents ka failaya hua hai. Pehle unequality ki ek ko diya dusre ko nahi phir ab jo bacha hai usme bhi chayiye. Better club all asset and divide equally.
I want to add a little point here by giving a real example. My friend got a decent job in central government in West Bengal ( native Odisha). His salary was nearly ₹55,000/- per month. He never sent any money to his home because his family was rich enough. In course of time he accumulated a good sum of money. But the only mistake he did was he lent the money to his "local" friends in West Bengal with whom he used to play cricket in holidays. When he asked for his money, they delayed it for one year. After that when he asked money seriously, he went missing on that evening and his decomposed dead body was found hanging in neraby tower. I just want to say that parents should atleast know when and where their child is spending the money until he gets married .
Your friend is an adult and should know what is correct and what is wrong.If he took the decision to give money to friends then he should also take decision on how to wisely handle the decision. Don't expect parents to babysit a man baby.
My mom took away even last penny from my salary while marrying me off.. though my parents are financially strong and as such there was no short of money .. her words were "i gave my salary for my wedding and thats how it is done... you also have to do the same" I had no say on how my salary was spend on my wedding... 😢 I will never pass such a trauma n pain to my daughters... Wish this video was made earlier
😕. God bless you child , keep going 👍💕. The contribution will come back to you in ways you cannot imagine 🙏 Sometimes parents think they r doing good.Time will only say .Don't loose hope , remember parents had to make a lot of compromises to keep the pot boiling .Give her the benifit of doubt .🙏❤️
Don't aliniate from your parents .Be on their side , try to understand them . Time will only say things , they have their reasons for so doing .The main thing is if they r really concerned about your well-being. I don't know if you r their only child or you have a brother .If you have tell them from now about how they r thinking about their property dispersal after them . If they have thought nothing about you tell them they had no right to use your money in your marriage so now they have to think also about you .Then keep distance from them ..🙏💕
At least your parents married you off . My parents were enjoying the money of my sisters. I was posted out of my state. Since they were pensioners they hardly needed money I didnt send them the money. But my sisters were literally spending on all the upkeep and the parents couldn't leave the lifestyle they were enjoying. So they either made no effort or stalled their marriage. Ultimately they searched for their own match and got married. Parents didn't spend a dime. After I was posted back. They tried doing the same for me but I don't give I dime. So they are now trying to manipulate by showing the property lollypop. But this doesn't work on me , but my sisters are still crackheads. No amount of explaining works.
Lol, my husband funded 50% of a flat my mother in law bought on her name saying she will gift him on his wedding, now she refuses to transfer the flat on his name not even 50% of it, she says mere bad sab tumhara hai, he has 2 sisters also there's no will & they are so ready to ask for their share... At the time he was buying it i wasn't married to him but i kinda indirectly told him not to do this but indian society me aisi bat karne wali bahu chudail aur ghar todne wali hoti hai now he's seen the reality, anyway i am kinda happy atleast real faces to samne aae uske.
Same problem everywhere... My sister's mother-in-law always threatens my sister that she will divide the property equally between her 4 kids ( 1 son, 3 daughters)...
@@Crispr_cas9th see i don't have a problem with that it's their property they can divide in all children or even give it to anyone it's their hard work so we don't have any right to ask but where my husband's invested his money that should be given to him... That's all.
@@malvikamishra9545 no.. The problem here is that all her daughters keep visiting my sister's home and stay for 15-20 days.. And don't help my sister at all...Even when all of them are married they keep on asking for money and stuff... They interfere too much... If they want their share, they should take it and settle the matter permanently instead of creating nuisances.. And also if people have intentions to divide the property then they should not lie at the time of marriage that everything belongs to our son and take huge dowry... Its kind of a scam that u take dowry according to ur property and then after marriage u distribute it to everyone...
@malvikamishra9545, your husband 50% will also divide all his siblings. Pls don't mind, this will happen. So better keep yourself away to avoid any future losses.
Apke husband ka koi right nhi hai because marriage se pehle mother ko gift kiya hai. Ab ye mother ka right hai, wo kisko bhi de. Maine khud 7 years ki salary parents ko di hai aur ek built house bhi.
My parents became the bank since the time i went to college. And till today. I have told this exact argument with my parents. In return i got the answer that forever you have to repay. They will not put any figure bcz their want of return is unlimited. They will never ever understand. The argument reduced only after i started emotionally becoming distant from them. One instance also my mother asked me to gift a 20 k shoes. I gifted it. A few days later in an argument my mom exclaims that why do u think i asked u to gift ur dad that shoes, i was like why? And the answer just made me crumble into my bed literally.... As she said that in return of the gift i am going to get my father's ashirwaad. I thought parents blesssed us irrespective of gender, intelligence, or looks. But now i know that intellectual ability pe toh bachoan se hi inke blessings biased he, saath hi looks se bhi baised he, gender se toh sabko patah hi he kitna bais he ab paiso se bhi ashirwaad kharidne ke riwaaz chaalu ho gaye hen. Jis tarah mandiron mein business chalte he bhagwaan aur bhakton k beech ussi tarah ab parents bhi investment bankers ban rahe bache paida karke.
Bhaisaab…20K k shoes kaun pehen raha? Aapne kabhi Bhagwan ko kabhi itne mehenge joote chadaye hote toh shayad bada ashirwaad mil bhi jata😂 just Kidding…aap demand sunke hi mana kar dena chahiye tha…demands ki koi logical limit hoti hai bhai…
अरे सर हमने ऐसा देखा है कि माँ बाप बेटे के जीवन की सारी खुशियाँ खा गए। बेटे बहू को बसने ही नहीँ दिया ।इतना कंट्रोल किया। पर यह भी सच है कि सभी माता पिता ऐसे नहीं होते। बहुत से माता पिता अपनी ही संतानो पर सब लुटा कर भी अन्तिम समय में उनकी अवहेलना झेलते हैं।
Parents ko flawless dikhaaya Gaya hai Hamaare culture mein. People forget that parents are humans with flaws. And every individual has been put on this earth to survive and in a good way. Dusrin ke liye karna hai to sant ban jao. Kisi ne nahin Roka.
My father in law left 6 crore of loan We are repaying till now...still no respect....but i always sayto my husband we will never give one rupee loan to our children and ruin their life
I have suffered all my life because of this habit of my husband…he was a gazettd officer but I lived hand to mouth..in-laws gave that money to their Daughter..I wish this video was there 40 years ago
My father is retired gazetted officer and he's always asking for money everytime. I know of this habit and fortunately my salary when I started working wasn't enough for me so I couldn't give him anything. And when I started making some decent amount I questioned him how he spent his pension. He doesn't tell me anything. At the time of his retirement he hardly had anything in his account even though he didn't spend much on us when we were students. But his savings have become 4 times our entire saving and investments. Because he didn't spend a dime the day we started working. Not even on the children's marriages.
I fully agree with this and idea of giving medical insurance premium is superb. Sir, I request your video on one important topic. Husbands sometimes get exploited by wife....he is supposed to spend all salary for family but wife spends more for herself like on parties, trips and parlour. She should be equally reaponsible to run the family.
Sir.. In South India.. Many parents don't want to get their working daughters married.. Because... They want total control... Of their daughters... Salary
I faced the same situation. I buy groceries, pay bills , bought health insurance, still my mother ask for money and always compares me with my cousin telling like my cousins give x amount to their parents. My main regret is I revealed my salary to my parents and now they are like itna jyada kamate h itna bhi Nehi de sakta. Thanks for putting this issue into light. The life of a guy is very hard jitna bhi Karo last me sunne ko milte h Tune hamare liye kya kiya😢😢
When I got married, we lived with my in-laws, so actually divided the monthly expense and used to give our share to my in-laws. When we moved out of their house due to our jobs, neither they asked not we gave. As you said, we had taken medical insurance for them. When we went abroad for higher education, we did all the expenses without expecting any help from them. Now that we are doing good financially and being mother of growing son, I am clear that he would live separate after his marriage, this situation would never arise. Still thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Marvelous Content!! My parents have ripped me for show-off. Till I realized the back story, it was too late. Lost all relationships and am struggling broke!!
Maine apni ankho k samne dekha ki ek maa ne apne bete ko ye tak ginwa diya ki maine tera jab accident ho gya tha to 8 lakh lgaye ye kiya wo kiya....i was surprised to listen this.... baki ye to normal hi h north india me तू इतना बड़ा ऐसे ही हो गया, हमने तुझे पैदा किया and frustration itni hoti h bachhe ko ki isse achha to mat hi krte paida... palne ka b ehsan gate h maa bap, har din sun sun k bcahha पक jata h. It is highly logical n sensible❤ आप समाज के नाड़ी वैध हो। एकदम सटीक बताते हो सब।
His ability kitab karte hain aur agar lene ke time mehnge, branded saman chahiye aur Dene ke naam per purni, satin, unke pass useless pade hue bekar saman dekar apnapan dikhane ki koshishkarte hain.
Maine 2022 me may me 45000/- diya alag rehte hue. June me 15000/- uske baad october se fixed 55000/- ab tak continue hai And july me meri surgery hui, 2022 se aaj tak ginwate hain ki teri surgery me 30000/- lagaye the. Ye vo aaj tak main sunta hu.
My husband gave their 8 year income to their family before marriage, after marriage we faced so many financial problems but parents ab bhi happy nhi h😢
So deep n bold. Well said.👌🙏 My two sons earn good now but we parents never ask for money from them. As love n respect they sometimes spend on us on birthday s or etc as their duty because they stay with us. People ask do they give money, I say we don't need it, we live according to our income. They have to make up for their lives. Parents r all love, support n guidance for their children not banks. This way the relationship grows sweet not bitter. Parents should be self depending but this is not always the case.
Yeh budda chutia bana raha hai.. iske chaaker mai aapne parents se muh mat modna... they are the one who will stand with you in your worst time..... there is a world above money...
with my parents blessings me and my wife earns combined gross income of 80 lakhs.. and blessed that my parents stays with us... and we take care of them... financially... and otherwise... bawli gaand hai yeh budda tau...😅
Sir what your saying is ok but don't forget Raja Harishchandra ko bhi sub chod ke samshan me Kam karna pada tha for a noble cause aur vachan nibhane ke liay. There may be thousand reasons when parents land up in hand to mouth condition.Factory lockdown, BIFR , jobless, health setback etc .When they do all the best with all the limitations for the child boy or girl it becomes the duty of the child to take responsibility of the Parents .I hope the children don't learn to think only about themselves .Nor the parents asking money to show status , upgrade lifestyle or fulfillment of their expensive dreams .It's very important to understand the gravity of the situation for both parties .Being middle class , having a considerable standard , from a good family background does not secure the future of the parents too. I was at the brink and had financial crisis, jobless , poor paid teachers salary as only option , etc even being cheated of our rightful inheritance of family property of my husband after all this .Life is hard and it's important to stand by family.Parents or children ❤.🙏👍🕉️
Your parents are not your emergency money, your children are not your retirement fund. Build your own wealth. Unfortunately our previous generation was not familiar with this gyan. So, we have to support them. But, we should not expect the same from the next generation.
Definitely a true social reformer🙏, nobody can come up with this type of content, except you. You have to be working closely with Modiji to implement your thoughts, so that the entire country gets the benefits 👌👌
Yeh budda chutia bana raha hai.. iske chaaker mai aapne parents se muh mat modna... they are the one who will stand with you in your worst time..... there is a world above money...
Amit sir aaj ke zamaane ke swami vivekanand hai aaj kal ke baaki social , financial influencer bahot sari sponsorship leke, highly editing karke video banate hai lekin wo indian societal problem ke root tak nahi jaante wo log western problem ke root ko hi india pe chipkaate hai
Modi ji ko desh barbaad karne wale ideas chahiye...desh ko aage le jaane wale nahi..aur keval modi ji hi nahi har sarkar ka yahi system hai...warna IAS officero ke paas kam dimag to hoga nahi
Your best video ever. This thing has happened with me. When I got my first govt service, my father started taking 20% - 30% of my income as his spending, that too for unaccountable reasons. So after giving him around 2.5L in 2 years of time, i gathered courage and started asking for the reasons. Then he started shouting at me, and due to this our relation had touched the bottom. Then I took a step ahead and called him to live with me so that spends become less. Now everything has started going to be good. But Amitji, your words in this video are true and absolutely reasonable. Thanks.
The message in this video and few other videos is very layered it’s not to be taken at face value . Parents exploiting children or Wife taking big Alimony or Young generation taking advantage of parents money or boss exploiting or friends taking advantage it could be anyone. The subtle message in all this videos is simple “Be smart with your money , work smart , invest money, grow your wealth, be happy with your wife kids family “ Individual progress will lead to family progress hence leads to society and country’s progress Life mein sab hota hai but yet we have to come out as a winner always
Only one way- parents should have retirement fund intact, and property. Nominal education like graduation tak support karna chahiye parents ko "with a budget" warna laye hi kyun bacche? Paida karke child labour banane k liye?? Par higher education that child should do by taking education loan and on his/her own merit. Then parents bhi nagi keh paengi "tere liye itna kharcha kiya" and would stop looking at children as a bank or source of return on investment.
Sir,,parents jab job mei the toh unki salary 900/- (1980s) hoti thi..aaj inflation has lead to change in this dynamic..and salary is 50000/-..they are in the impression ki humaare kharche hundreds mei hai aur kamaai thousands mei...and trust me this backfires big time..specially if you are a girl and helped parents create assets and now you cannot use them..BECAUSE YOU ARE A GIRL.!!
You won't be allowed to use the assets You helped create. I helped my father to buy real estate by giving nearly 50 percent share many times in my fathers name. I heard talks to the entire property being passed on to my brother and his wife for more than a decade now. Had lots of heartburn but have been talking to him and reminding him of my contributions which were never returned. Now, he has agreed to give me a small share
Sir meri saas meri shadi ke baad muje sunati thi ki me tumhare pati ki padhai ke liye apna FD tor di thi. Mere papa ne khafi dahej diya tha fir bhi muje sunati thi.😂 muje lagta tha jaise vo apna beta nhi padha rahi mere pati ko padha rahi thi. UP me jab ladke wale aate h arrange marriage karne to bolte h ki hamne apne bete ki padhai me itna lagaya h to itna dahej to milna hi chachiye. Raj to apki beti hi karegi 😂😂. UP ki saaso ko apni bahuo ka raj karne ka bahut dukh rahta h. 😂😂. Mere pati to apne maa baap ka kraj utarne ke liye apne chote bhai ka kharcha pure 11 saal uthae taki vo IAS ya PCS ban jaye lekin jab hame apni beti ko foreign bhejna tha to koi udhar bhi money nhi diya. Upar se mere husband ke bhai ne unpar aarop lagaya ki vo LIC ki kist bar rahe the kya jo ab paisa maang rahe h. Sab logo se anurodh h ki jinke maa baap bacho ki line laga kar apne bade beto per apne chote baccho ki jimedari daal dete h vo jimmedari mat uthaye. Vohi chota bhai kal ko aaka sabsa bada dusman ban jayega
आपको ये वीडियो 10 साल पहले बनाना था। कुछ माता-पिता ऐसे भी होते हैं जो पेंशन पर अच्छी लाइफ जी होते हैं, फिर भी आवारा बच्चों के लिए जान देते हैं और जो बच्चा लाइफ में अच्छा कर रहा होता है उसके ही जीवन में कलेश करते हैं।
Ekdum sahe ek ludke par sub luta dete hai beti par aur jo sedua sadha beta humesa help karta hai humesa help karta hai ysko ghar ka kuttta samujj lete hai aur ha baar baar lecture dete hai bhedvhaaw karenge aur jo aacha ludka rahega usko kabhi help naye karenge aur ye bahu aur uske buccho me bhi karenge aisa khub ek ludka pura burbaae karta hai enka paisa aur aur baadme bure waqt me jo beto ko inhone pucha nahe usi ko help karne aur pura ghsr lekar chalne ke baat karte hai
Such debates are need of hour. Indian parents exploiting their children. In my case, they didn't nothing for me. I got success due to my hard work but they always ask for money without any reason. Mostly, they spend on my nikame siblings or such activities which i don't like so it's unbearable. But, kuj nahi ho skta
Sir your content is amazing... today our generation is suffering coz parents act more of a bank than being a parent! Hope your video gets viral and many understand working towards clarity. We have to break this cycle! Not only sons but daughters are also treated badly and in a biased way too. Hats off to you for the clarity!
Not even 24 hrs ago my mom told me that we spent so much on your education and you are still not earning. You shud get married because if you're a woman and youre not an IAS or a Doc/Engg then you're worthless in this society. Not a single man will marry you and me and your dad cant keep taking care of you financially forever. Its our money which we earned through hardwork. Marry any 'rickshawallah' you can find and get off our chests. The fact that you mention the gender lens parents wear when they look at their kids....its like.... it opened my brain like...what the hell, Ive never thot about it that way.
Technically they are not wrong, if you are 18+, also a graduate and still not making money then you are liability on society in long term. You can start thinking about becoming independent by earning money. If you can't do that you can find a guy who does that for you and get married.
One day one colleague seems depressed so I asked him what happened, he told me he took & used all 5-6 years of saving to build house in home town now his father want to give 50% shares of house to his daughter also
My parents have not even asked for a single penny from me, they don't even know what my salary is. Even when I voluntarily gift something with my choice to them, they always feel bad that the gift is too expensive and money should not be wasted. 😅 They even ask me that if I need money, leave alone seeking any monetary help from me 😅
Very good video sir, i as a parent do not expect anything from my children once they become financially independent. I believe that we should save enough for our old age so that as parents we dont have to ask our children for money and they can live their own life on their own terms, burdenless..and if they want to give it should be from their own free will and not forced.
I think once u start earning comfortably, 1. Set aside a fixed percentage of your salary for your parents in case they require money (5/10/15/20% depending upon how much u earn) and pay them monthly, 2. Approval of your spouse is necessary for the same. 3. Take health insurance for parents (best investment) as health emergencies could cost you a fortune.
Spouse bhi bolegi ki mere bhi maa baap hai... Mai apna Paisa vha bhejungi. Then Husband ki permission bhi zaroori hai ? Kyuki Parents to dono ke hi hai... Farz to dono ka Banta hai. Simple way is.. Ladka apne parents ko apne hisab se de. Aur Ladki apne hisab se apne parents ko. Aur ek mutual understanding ho dono me is baat ko leke.
mai 19 ki age se job karna start kar di thi now 21 year old mai call centres mai kaam karti hu meri almost pura paisa ghr pe le lete hai or naahi meri study ke liye kuch karte mai chid ke apne gayi jagah job chodh di or har waqt mujhse paise mangte mere rakhe hue paise bhi mangte hai ab toh mere pass 500 bhi rehta hai toh usmai se bhi mangte hai mai tang aa chuki hu ekdum
Fortunately both my parents give me complete ownership over my money probably because of the mistake they learnt because of my grandfather's blunder who took complete ownership of my fathers salary My father owns a small grocery shop after his retirement and with that along with his pension amount he still manages all household expenses like fooding electricity water ....im the eldest and im still a PhD student although i earn around 40k per month as jrf/srf fellow and side income from investments and because i stay with my family after Covid 19 my expenses are very minor and even after saving and investment I'm always left with huge surplus every month which i love to spend on treating my family and buying sumptuous food items or decor items for our home but my father aways encourages me to invest and save further rather than contributing to our household expenses. Once our car got spoilt and we had no four wheelers anymore and when i decided to buy a car from my savings my father disagreed telling me to keep the saving and that he'll buy instead from his own money Sometimes i love to spend and give money to my mom and take my neices and cousins to shopping as these give me happiness but i know deep down my mother always tries to hide her desires in front of me once she was struggling to cut vegetables because of weak vision and i realized she's not changed her spectacle for long and when i told her let's go to optician she told me there's nothing wrong with her vision but i don't know if she was lying or not but deep down i realized she does not want to meddle with my earnings
Soo logical. I am the Parent of two kids. And totally agree with you. In future I will not becoming the bank. I will give a safe and free environment to both. Thank you for the clarity.
So my father working in a bank while having stock portfolio of a crore and a house on loan of crore, getting pension and hefty salary with stock got tripple. My elder brother is officer in army, while I am younger brother moved to Canada for studies for 3 years finance, for first year my father paid from his side, while the other i managed doing odd jobs, trading which around 20 lakhs while also taking care of my living expenses here in Canada, after course got finished but been laid off from my part time work, but never asked for single penny from my family who was enjoying at that time and for 9 months I was living on brink, currently with god grace I am got into corporate banking as a officer and my father asking me to pay him around 50lakh while sending him 1lakh every months despite been having enough to enjoy for everything. Sometime, I regretted that I able to took loan from bank instead of from family which is not that big.
Don't have much expectations. Just give 15k per month and that's all. Will keep it that way till it becomes 10% of my income. Currently it's 20%. Have medical insurance for them. But that's all. Nothing else. Needs and not wants.
I always give everything to my parents as they have gone through very tough time since my childhood but after few years I have observed that their expectations are increasing day by day 😮...and now I am feeling it is like burden for me I also don't find appreciation or satisfaction coz anything I do they became judgemental 😢...love between us vanished and there is only relation for money exists 😣
Correct sir it's their duty as if GIRLS Parents did not make their kids study .. my husband use to pay emi for the house which in-laws were staying & Father in law & husband had joint account when salary would hot the account we hardly had any money i always was confused that if we were newly married or their parents as I had to sacrifice a lot as I was also working at the time of marriage....even basic life also husband was not able to provide
Why only parents, elder siblings who have helped in building career of younger siblings, to whatever extent, they also expect lifetime returns and parents also keep reminding younger ones about it.
Why are you afraid of accepting the bitter truth? Be grateful to them not take them as enemy. They have given you so much in your required time this FACT, at the time when NO BANK WOULD HAVE GIVEN.
Sir please make something for new parents. I am going to be a mother soon and sometimes I feel anxious by thinking about what kind of parent I'm going to be. I don't want to pass any trauma to my kids knowingly or unknowingly. I don't want them to feel the same things we face with our parents.
This is a very cogent video, i have a request if you can make a video on this and express your thoughts. Should daughters be given a fare share in the property. I say yes, but there are communities and areas in india which still doesn’t follow this. Would like to hear your take on this.
You're doing a great work Sirji 🙏🏻 There is also a common trend among parents, they put money into our studies and expect us to choose the career of their choice. And they always choose the obvious "UPSC" and pressurise us to give exam amd waste our life in it's pursuit. I myself has WASTED many years of my precious youth due to my parents and family pressure to go for UPSC. Can you please make a video on this topic, addressing parents of this country: "की भैया अब सरकारी नौकरी का मोह त्यागो". Your previous videos has helped me a lot 🙏🏻. Please continue making more such videos on UPSC and Govt jobs. When such videos will go out in the public, someday our society will be free from the clutches of "Govt Jobs" and "Exam Culture". Thanks again Sirji 🙏🏻
I think your idea to reform the Indian society toward the western way of life and thinking is great . The new generation of indians and the blame game parents /children you mentioned should smoothly disappear with assertiveness of the new generation. I feel sorry for these young couple living in very basic condition in Australia and still need to send money every month regardless they survive with their low pay wages otherwise they start getting txt message call from their elders regarding money.Your topic is very interesting.
My brother's also gave money to my father when he is alive for spend extra expenditure and my father was a pensioner...😂😂but my father deposited all money to Rd and fd coz he knew kids may not saving...
Hm teen bahi behan h M aj din tak jadge nahi kar paya hu ki perent hm teenon me se kise sab se jada pyar karte h Age chlkar m bhi esa hi perent banana chaunga Mj nahi pata h h wo tinon m se kise jada pyar karte aur na hi main janana chahta hun Love u maa paa ❤❤❤❤
Excellent video sir! I agree with every word you said. One should help parents when there is emergency, take out health insurance for parents but paying monthly emi is very expensive for couples with kids. For our parents in Mumbai the expenses are so high, paying 15-20k a month for both parents and in-laws is like paying to bank :) . It is very sensitive subject, most will disagree with you due to their emotions/love for parents. But truth is always bitter and mindset change is a must. Unless you know someday that money will return in some form, one should count and contribute for emergency or basic necessities. Anything beyond that make no sense. Also we have to prepare for our own emergencies , care for kids and retirement fund as no one is going to help us during our old age. Paying this monthly undisclosed emi is an unfortunate monthly stress to finances.
Parents should have helped their children only in emergency but not for regular expensive education and expensive demands of their children by sacrificing their whole life.
@@sunnyghosh7371 I see you are blinded by the emotions. Also that you are assuming everyone receives expensive education and places expensive demands. There are majority of people (including me) who have studied in government schools in small town not in city and have paid our student loan to complete 3 years of higher studies. More importantly where you see sacrifice I see greed for emotional support/love to live happy life. Parents gave birth to a child to fulfil sense of belonging and have more people around them who can love them to feel secure. Life becomes boring after 40 age if you do not have children so having a child is like filling the emptiness (Greed) . The moment as a Parent you decide and give birth to a child, the responsibility is solely with Parents to take care of child and give basic necessities. Children have not taken birth to serve parents thats like giving birth to slavery. Parents control what you can give and what not. to children. infact also what they study /learn. In return they receive love, care, support, fun time from children. So please don't bring the word sacrifice , it is rather Parent's greed. This cycle continues and every Child becomes parent one day and follows the same.
Sorry to say but i feel your message is good but it seems to have more negative vibes than positives. Its perfectly fine that we should not burden ourselves to meet demands of our parents if it is just for showing a social status , but saying that they shouldn't expect anything doesn't sound fair enough. Because its the tendency of a human being that it spoils the good rather than solving a issue. And there is a high possibility that the people will more tend to argue with older parents after listening the fact you told because such things are quite complex to understand unconditionally. Otherwise the same should be done both ways I mean we should follow completely same ideology when expects things from our parents. So more clear explanation with examples are expected. INDEED YOUR MESSAGE IS WISE. But not the way it is told !
Agree but its hard to convey this to in_laws that we want take care of them but not at the cost of our children's future. When you speak to them in this fashion where you refuse to honor their undue demands usually receive sentimental whatsup videos.
I can recall discussing the same things with my husband 6 years back sitting in a crowded park and speaking slowly to avoid anybody hearing it as such things are not accepted by society. That time I myself was not sure whether I am thinking right but with time and maturity, I was able to evaluate my thoughts and started having a strong conviction in them. Thanks for sharing such useful content and coming from an experienced professional, it really means a lot.
Very practical and eye-opening video for the present society...Neither the parents nor the children should go out of their way to help each other for the sake of showing-off their contribution in future...Help should be totally unconditional from both ends without any expectations...Parents should understand that we children are not their retirement funds and since they have brought us into this world,it is their responsibility to take care of us...Also,we children should understand that our parents are not bound to fulfill our each and every desire and hence,we should respect whatever little things they are doing for us for our happiness and survival🙏🙏...
Very good content We r facing this situation from 40 years वो कहते हैं कि चाहे चोरी कर के दो लेकिन हमें तो चाहिए ही चाहिए , क्योंकि हमने तुम्हें पैदा किया है He has good pension , retired from a guzeted post हमने उनसे कुछ नहीं लिया है , We make house by ourselves He has a narcissistic personality
😊i am exactly with this thought. Not taking money from children though they are quite capable. When people say that you have successfull children so you may get financial support. My husband is no more and i was housewife officially still i want to remain financially independent and self sufficient. I don’t want to bother my children as I believe that they worked hard for their's success. I was only service provider. I bless them for their success ahead.
Sir plz make a video on the topic : 5 yrs bahut saas ke taane, abusive language , comparison with jethani sab saha ab 6 months se hum alag apne 3bhk me teh rahe hai , jeth jethani 2bhk me snd saas sasur jo 60 yrs ke around hai wo apne house me rehte hai 10km distance hai , same city. Mere husband ko guity feel hota hai ki wo maa papa ko sath ni rakh rahe ,mujhe ni relive karna wo sab firse, sabka khane ka time alag , no me time , taane marna , jhagde and lots of things which i dnt want my kid who is of 3 yrs to see, wo bhi fir waise hi behave karega mere sath how his grandparents behave and talk to me . Plz plz plz aisa ek video banaye mere husband aur unke jaise aur logo ke eyes open ho and thoda clearly bole ki unke dimag me ghuse , he want ki mai bus sehti rahu pehle jaise aur he says ki aisa hi hota hai sasural mai , meri jethani ko koi kuch ni bolta as they have 2bhk . She got blessing in disguise. Meri productivity kum hoti hai , i am a youtuber, newly content banana shuru kiya hai , in laws ke nakhre pure karte karte time hi ni milega kuch productive karne ke liye. Plz help sir .
Never thought I would hear this bitter truth. There is a shloka in Durga Saptashati which underlines this very selfishness of human beings. I also believe in this. I give analogy of birds who take care of their yong ones until they learn to fly and leave the nest to make their own. We humans should learn from them
Apply for the 5th order thinking and don't follow the advice blindly... Kabhi kabar paise maang liya aur tumhaari haisiyat hai, toh bejhijhak dedena... Paisa apno ko dena hai... Raah chalte insaan ya kamine doston ko nahin... It's common sense that money should not be given to juari/ sharaabi baap... Phir bhi dena chahte ho toh haq se dena, kyunki baap aur paisaa tumhara hai... Jo karna hai karo aur kush raho😁😇
This is exactly happened with me sirji. my parents kept on asking money 💰 🤑 and my father splurged and my mom gives people money on interest who don't pay her back. Basically they are using my hard earned money and wasting it and again they make faces that they are poor.
Very nice way of explanation.Aapki video main without fail dekhti hoon.But I have one question .I have seen so many children still expecting money from parents even after earning.Parents have sold their house to clear children's debts. How to deal with such children?
All parents love their kids… there are always exceptions all over India. Kids should offer money themselves to their parents out of respect and regard. There shouldn’t be asking or demands.
First of all, thank you from the bottom of my heart for bringing up this topic. Nobody I say nobody in India talks about these sensitive topics. They are like 'forgive your parents and all'. My father told me once 'I have spent 3 lakh almost to raise a kid like you'. I told him 'Who asked you to have me in the first place? You should have thought before marriage if you even want kids or not '. He came to beat me. My father is one of those who purposely badmouths about his daughter in the society. Mere father sabko bolte phire ki I don't give him money. Mother bhi waisi hai. I don't have any respect left for them. They only talk to me because they need money. Main jitna na burden bani unpe, woh mere pe burden baan e rahe aur aaj bhi hai.
Girl my sympathies for u. Create ur future with ur husband n kids as u r already financially independent n don't waste ur life thinking ur parents thinking will change. Wishing u happiness in life.❤
My father - mother and brother in laws are enjoying all the joint property excluding my husband. Then also they are demanding from our income more and more. I am also harassed by them severely 😢
Sir, your content is awesome. It is need of the day for all emotional dramas taking place in Indian families. Just one small suggetion try to get some translator and translate in South Indian languages.
Many present day parents are using hardened money of IT emplyoed Son's in a very very Laxuarly way. This poor bachuars sending without questoing. A good advice for all. Thank you sir.
Depends on where you send your children for education. If you sent them to the best of schools and colleges, took loans to help them in their studies then shouldn't tbe child start repaying when he/she is working? I have one daughter and one son and let me tell you this छोरा - छोरी business doesn't happen in my family. My daughter is as important as my son to me. In fact more important.
How to go about a situation where the mothers being housewife dont feel financially secured, even if the father has comfortable money. As they dont have clarity and control over money How should earning children act in this situation. Because the issue is mental insecurity, giving money seems futile. But not giving money leaves mothers in the same state, dependent and at the mercy of their husband.
Aaj kal bachche selfless aur unconditionally pyaar karte hai parents se aur parents selfish ho gaye hai. Ladki achchi wife ho na ho achhi beti hoti hai aur ladka achha pati ho na ho achha beta hota hai. They can cheat (infedility) each other. They can leave each other for parents. Common dialogue heared these days from the kids - husband wife ka divorce ho sakta hai par bachcho ka parents se divorce nahi ho sakta. Spouse is replaceable but parents arent. Baghban ki opposite movie banane ki zarurat hai ab. Jaha ab husband wife ke relation ke value ki baat ho more than parents. Kartik Aryan monologues and luv Ranjan ke films gumrah kar rahe hai aaj ke youth aur 30s walo ko aur isiliye jyada divorces ho rahe hai. 90s ke zamane me divorces kam hote the kyunki middle class families jyada tar tab nuclear families me rehti thi. Hum 30s walo ke grandparents hamare parents par financially dependent nahi hote the. Unki govn job aur pensions hoti thi. Ye 90s wale parents jyada irresponsible the. Apna retirement beta paida karke secure karte the. Humare grandparents ne hamare parents ko bohot kuch inherit kiya tha isiliye unki izzat hoti thi. Par hamare parents ne daru juve aur irresponsible attitute se unki wealth to udai hi par hume bhi kuch inherit nahi kiya. And yes jaise jitni moti dowry ho utni izzat damad sasural walo ki karta hai vaise hi aagar sasur ne pati ko kuch inherit kiya ho toh bahu bhi izzat karti hai. Otherwise, sab lutakar bete par boj bano aur apna control na chala jaye bete ke upar se isiliye ghar me roz kalesh karvao aise parents bohot selfish hote hai. Maa agar financially bete pe dependent ho aur bahu aa jaye toh ghar ke kharche ke paise woh bahu ke hath me nahi jane deti, bete bahu me zagde lagwati hai, bahu agar dominance sehne wali na ho toh bete ka divorce tak kara deti hai. Use koi matlab nahi hota bete ko stress hoga aur bete ko aur milegi ya nahi, woh akela pad jaega par maa ka control uske salary aur ghar se nahi jana chahiye. Kyunki maine tujhe paida kiya hai aur pala hai. Aur bawakoof bachche apni selfish maa ke liye apni grahasti barbad kar rahe hai. Buddhe honge aur akele hoge tab samjhega life partner kya hota hai. Beta agar garib ho jaye to dusre amir bete ke pas bhag jati hai maa. Apna comfort nahi compromise nahi karti maa. Biwi har halat me sath deti hai in middle class scenario. Kisi bete ka zagda maa ya baap me se kisi ek se roz hota ho toh kya tumhare liye woh ek dusre ko chhod denge? Woh tumhe nikal denge. If u r above 18. Toh tum kyu chhodte ho apne partner ko unke liye?
Sir I was your admirer until now Deeply disappointed with your take on this delicate subject Yes some wonderful parents may have rogues for children and some wonderful children may have greedy parents It would be nice if you could accommodate the financial hygiene and propriety called for There are many advantages in saving with wise parents and some young people can be misguided
Truely 100% practical and unbiased approach. In Maharashtra we read "manache shlok" by Ramdas Swami which says "nako re mana dravya te pudhilanche" means dont expect money/property from next generation and old generation. Yes we should expect love/care from old and coming generation in return of love/ care from them. Truely eye opener for old age society. Sidhi baat no bakwas
Totally Lower level thinking . Unnecessarily u r analyzing things against social emotion . It depends on situation . Just to make happy to youth u r giving very bad message . Parents are the only persons in the world who love their children with out any conditions . One should not make video on each subject for TRP only .
