20 year old college student... he’s literally explaining 95% of the dudes on my campus. Tony is confirming everything my parents have taught me . these dudes will really try to make you feel bad for having standards and a strong relationship with God . My 🍪 is staying in the box until marriage
Man chased me a whole year, no sex and I was curving him- took me on an intl trip, and had me meet his kids before I found out he was a narcissist. These grown boys hide it well! When men tell you you’re too good for them, believe em!
Exactly!! I had a guy off the bat buy my car tires, pay some of my bills, pay for trips. ALL without my request. Within months he started throwing it all in my face and began verbally, emotionally, and psychologically abusing me. They have masks… but eventually it starts slipping off.
Even the 90 day rule is too early. The best way to be safe is keeping your legs close. I know it’s easier to say than do, but it’s going to be worth it.
The longer u keep um close I’ve noticed the more u learn about them their true colors starts to show you can keep up an act for sooo long 😊before the real you comes out
@@victoriousqueen8503 the best time to have sex is marriage, but I would at least make him wait a year. A year is long enough for you to get to know someone. But I still would wait until marriage.
I gotta look into this guy not speaking stuff more I mean I'd see if it w a s not at all and hardly but definitely if when u speak he goes silent that would be ignoring to me I've met women who just want a man to handle business with them and be secured and a guy who communicates is more friend material and the she's too attention needy or a co dependant I guess answer us always to each his own
my dad whom I consider a great guy, many would, he was a fireman for 30 years, a good catholic man, he sat there and WATCHED it happening with me...tried to tell me it was worth it for the kids. but mostly because my mom died at age 9, and my new step mom did not want us (back) in the house.
I think God for my dad everyday! He also taught my brothers to pour into me. Grown boys will try there best to break you down. Every time I’ve been in a situation…my dad would look at me and say remember who you are! That’s your values, morals and what your expectations are. Stand tall ladies..we will get through this!
Literally going through this right now. He ghosted me then came back with "I miss you". I, in my stupidity, gave him a second chance. After a few weeks he did it again. Ladies, this man speaks the truth. Once a man does this, move on and save yourself! I will not entertain him.again and blocked his number.
I’m a man myself and I agree ☝️ I was most definitely a grown boy until just recently. The problem is us men aren’t taught this growing up and all of our friends and brothers live this way. So we don’t even know it’s wrong smh 🤦♂️
God bless you sister ..I'm sorry you had to go through that. Mental breakdown is one of the severest thing anyone can endure. Its truly horrifying ...I can relate ...glad you've come out of it.
This blessed me. I experienced that grown boy and God is still healing me and teaching me to forgive him. Waiting on God to make me whole again and waiting for the ONE God has for me. Ladies Abba is the true heart surgeron. Turn your mind, body, and soul to Christ, our first love and Lord.
Go ahead Bro Tony and break this message down about these grown boys. Lord , Bro Tony you teaching me .I speak highly about you to my family, my pastor, and on my Job. You're greatly appreciated 🙂
I literally just broke up with a grown boy. He got upset because I pulled away as soon as I was noticing he wasn't giving me the attention he used to, then I came back to explain and asked him if we could talk and literally he pulled EVERY SINGLE move you just mentioned in this video, told me he'd called, then he didn't.. then he rescheduled.. then when I confronted him for not calling me he called me he blames EVERYTHING on me and started texting me like a maniac. I can't handle men with ZERO emotional intelligence. gooebyeeeeeeeee, I feel quite relieved actually.
I've dealt wit a grown boy recently. He's bn rude n condescending 2 me. N I just laugh n laugh @ him cos his games don't work on me. He gets even "madder" whn I laugh @ him. The main reason is bcoz I won't sleep with him. Whn I say "no" I mean it. I don't care hw good he looks n hw nice his body is. Ima plead the blood of Jesus over me n keep it moving! He cn go 2 his other women 4 dat. Cos he ain't finna get me on my "bike"! Ahnt! Ahnt! N talk abt me 2 his boys! Nooo! I'm the friendly one, my sister the mean one! I never thought by being friendly, men would think ur easy.
Tony when the 20,000 to 575,000 mostly women you have listening here, really HEAR you, the game is over! Men will grow up when we women STOP allowing ourselves to be disrespected, walked all over, be a "do girl", accept the lies from yes sometimes family, it's a BRAND NEW WORLD. Grown men with grown women!!!!!!
What about those grown boys who be getting engaged to these women who they disrespect, walk all over and giving their bodies to them after the first week? How can we compete with that. These men giving rings to the wrong ones.
Thank you Lord for Tony Gaskins. This journey of healing from a soultie has been difficult. These videos are speaking to my circumstances of knowing my worth.
My relationship with men would have been differently in so many levels if only my father would have taken a few minutes of his time to explain how men behave. Fathers be good to your daughters. 💗🤲🏽💗
The best advice ever in dating “Stay off yo back” TG I’ve ignored the inconsistency in the past but I had to learn they weren’t ready for anything real and commitment.
Men judge too harshly and unfairly. Can't see how their actions can affect women. It's like they have no compassion. Thank you for your insights, very much appreciated.
It’s videos/messages like this that help to validate your sanity. No, you’re not crazy. He’s a grown boy. Real men wouldn’t put you through the crap they do. Don’t put up with it. Move on.
My Ex has the Grown boy ego syndrome everything is a competition to him I really didn't understand how could the person. I cared about be in competition with me little did I know it stem from childhood trauma being insecure a narc and immature and plethora of other issues I blame myself for along time for his disrespectful behavior I was in low place at the time we met and he used that to his advantage. I've healed now and I'm in a much better place and he could never come close or be BLESSED with my presence ever again. New subbie here thanks for taking the time and giving a Real Man perspective on Relationships and life in general.
Tony you did it today with these multiple videos and I been on top of every one of them! Great messages. The truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth... Thank you for obeying God to be a blessing tothe ladies and bless your wife for sharing you with us!!
Love these Grown Boy videos. Wish there was more on life and healing after a grown boy relationship. Especially for some of us who invested years with one and truly loved them. The aftermath is devastating....
This video was right on time. When my ex and I broke up he never called to check up on me and that hurt me deeply. But I realized I wasn’t going to reach out either so we haven’t talked in over a year. We truly loved each other so I was confused but your video made it all make sense. Thank you Tony!
She went from Finding Nemo to Megaladon😂 🐠 🦖 You’re a comedian! This video came right on time as I had no idea this was a game and I almost fell into the random “how are you doing”text yesterday 😱 My ego is a little bruised that it’s been 2 weeks and I haven’t heard from him. Thank you for this on time video👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I am over here looking for the baby powder to slap myself. 👋🏾👋🏾👋🏾👋🏾Y’all don’t understand how many times I have played myself. Buttttt not no more!💯 Thanks Tony
The Grown Boy series is on point! They really help me through all the gaslighting I've been through. Looking forward to repeating this everyday. Thank you for addressing the Grown boys lifting you up and down - it really confused me in a past relationship and I thought it was my fault -- that why couldn't I be strong when he wanted me to but yet when I was strong he resented me? I replayed this so many times in my head. It is also confusing when it seems like his friends seem to normalize his behavior - that they must all think I'm crazy? It was especially hard with him being a trainer in the martial arts industry - where there is a majority of "alpha" men and the friends he would go out with to be promiscuous with women. It was a very tumultuous time. You and your family are a blessing, Tony! I can't thank you enough for being a part of my healing journey.
You don’t know me but your comment saved me finally from heartache that none of my family/therapist/friends/psychiatrist could help me see/understand. Leaving that relationship when they’ve broken you down so much/far and all you feel is guilt/useless/turmoil but yet knowing when they lift you up, it’s GOLDEN. I kept wanting to go back (emotionally) for so long because he toyed with my emotions/heart SO much and long that I truly and desperately didn’t know who I was walking away from that situation when I definitely knew who I was when I walked into it. His resentment for me started when I started sticking up for myself. That’s when I also started to notice his interest shift. Suddenly he wasn’t as willing to speak to me, hang out or do pretty much anything. I felt devastated so I ultimately tried to then give everything + more. I got nothing in return but I thought if I just keep giving and giving - I’ll EARN his validation / reassurance / affection. Instead, I get used for my body when I would’ve NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER allowed this before him. That’s exactly why I WAS single / distant. Because men KNEW they could not easily access me / my body. But that grown boy? He met me during a very vulnerable and emotional time (best friend betrayed me and I was getting over a heart break from six months prior) and when I tell you that I REGRET ever allowing him to see me vulnerable and making him my “safe space”…girl. Gave him my body too soon, it was so awful that I called him back to apologize the next day (it was my fault because I wasn’t actually INTERESTED in him, he made me feel FORCED to) and after that - everything Tony described is what I went through. I spent that ENTIRE relationship trying to prove myself. Trying to be worthy to him. To feel and be validated (like I did for him) and in the end I got used, silent treatment when I called out his absurd behavior and ultimately blocked. I kept holding on desperately because I felt like he took EVERYTHING from me while he gave me NOTHING (substantial) in return. I helped that grown boy through his mommy issues, sat up and let myself be emotionally abused, had sex because I was terrified when I would reject him (he’d get really angry and start acting like I was obligated to get him off), and gas lighted, manipulated and overall he cheated on me, TOLD on himself and my stupid low self esteem ass not only forgave him but he gaslight me so terribly into making me believe it was MY fault and I got silent treatment again and eventually I went crawling back apologizing for HIM cheating on me. I have never felt so humiliated, ashamed, resentful, regretful or psychotic before this relationship. I have had to see SIX therapists while In That relationship and out. Combined. That man has seen NONE. The abuse he does to women as Tony described will emotionally destroy someone like myself who was vulnerable and needy. Ladies, or anyone read this, PLEASE KNOW when to walk away and PLEASE KNOW you DO NOT have to ever ever EVER feel like you owe a man ANYTHING that he has not EARNED nor RESPECTS. I WISH my dad could’ve told me this. I felt like had my dad had these conversations with me, my self worth wouldn’t have plummeted to earths core to end up in an emotionally abusive and toxic relationship for three years. And the only thing my dad says is “she’ll see for herself”. Had he TOLD ME “baby girl if you keep this up, that man will take more than what you will ever have to offer and you’ll still never be good enough for him” I would’ve LEFT. I would’ve picked up my self respect!! But this comment - THANK YOU. You have finally free me and I cannot thank you enough. I can FINALLY move on and bring closure to that horrendous relationship and stop telling myself I have to feel guilty for ending what was NEVER going to be good for me. I needed this so much. Thank you.
With my ex, I remember saying oh well he wasn’t like that the first yr. Yes, that first year was amazing (this was his representative) after that mostly everything mentioned in these two videos were true. I finally broke free but I was not unscathed & quite the opposite. Anyone going through this please do better, you’ll thank yourself in the long run. I’ve dodged a FEW jokers from getting this knowledge. I live in a small town & seen these guys that I dodged running women through the mud. Tony knows what he’s talking about. Unfortunately, but nonetheless.
Tony Just finished a women's influence very good points. All women need this book on the night stand. Starting on make it work now. Stay HEAVENLY blessed...amen
I just received my book today I want to shout out Amazon for bringing a woman influence to me in peace and not pieces I am excited so far the book is excellent I hope and pray that God will continue to work through you Tony continue to teach us women !Tony I just want to let you know you’re amazing thank you for all your wisdom and advice I appreciate you and last but not least ! I want to thank your beautiful wife ! thank you Sheri Gaskins for sharing your husband with the world , Miss Gaskins You are truly a phenomenal woman thank you as well you’re also amazing and once again I appreciate you may God continue to bless your family may God continue to use you both to save women like myself keep up the good work ! God bless .This book is very accurate thank you once again Tony you & your beautiful wife the message is so good it’s timely and it’s relevant it’s spot on 💯 ❤️❤️❤️❤️ !! 🇧🇿
I met a guy online dating, great convo, chemistry, too good to be true... went on our first date and he invited me back to his place afterwards which I know better but I figured he could just hold me. Nope he was trying to have sex all night and then because I refused he ghosted me. A 42 year old man was perpetrating just to get laid and mad because I wouldn’t? So disappointing! But I’m soooooo glad he didn’t get me on my back. Listen to Tony ladies. There’s a lot of Grown Boys out here!!!
God bless you, Tony. You're my grandmother's dream, and an answered prayer for me. The truth you're telling is indicative of Christ indwelling in you. I pray in Jesus Christ's name for protection, favor, mercy, and wisdom (like Solomon), to be your family's song. Thank you for everything. Tell Sheri I love her. Blessings Gaskins family.
It’s a sad day. All these grown boys who aren’t worthy of a conversation, will continue to show up foul. For the mere fact there is more slits and tits on the internet than a 3rd world country. Women must understand the answers are within ourselves. Truly LESS is more. Leaving little for the imagination isn’t sexy or confident. These behaviors are signs of brokenness. Sin is rampant and through these lenses it’s hard to compete until you turn to God who all things are possible.
Loving the message Tony. 100% on point. I just dodged a bullet with a grown man in his 40s, he lied about his age because he knew I wouldn't have agreed to entertain him. I called him out and he gave a sloppy apology. That was the last time I heard from him. And I was like, I know what this is, Tony preached on it so many times. The grown boy is nursing his ego and thinking I'll call him🙄. Boy Bye!!
Thank you Tony , I’ve listen to every one of your videos today on Grown Boys. I’m so happy that I’m not in that place of dealing with them anymore. Right on point.
I’m about to be 30 and I’m still dealing with this.... I think my biggest mistake was sleeping with the guy so soon. This guy I been dealing with out me on ice for almost a month now and it’s really hurting me.
Thanks Tony it’s disgusting that grown boys are like this I thank you for helping women get through this and helping them come out of confusing. You definitely change my mind set because this is true you can be celibate for years and make that one mistake next thing you know rumors all around lies etc... I know my worth and the mistakes I made now I’m focus on myself my kids the Good lord and these blessings. You are a blessing to young women and older who didn’t have a father figure all my wisdom come from you about men. I have a baby boy and I’m definitely looking for these signs when he get older. He won’t treat women like this and won’t be around bad influences.
Thank you, Tony!! When I say that you are helping me, you just don’t know. But I Thank God that I heard about you and have been following you every since. Every thing you talk about, I have encountered. You should see how I handle things now. Gotta go!!! 😂😂😂
THANK YOU THANK THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU TAHNK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU TONI.... LADIES 🚺 PLEASE Listen to HIM... HE KNOWS WHAT HE'S TALKING ABOUT.... He Saved Me. THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR BOOKS @ YOUR TIME ⏲️ YOUR Messages are not falling on deaf ears ❤ Keep doing what you're doing.
“All the way good care of yourself” 🤦🏻♀️😭 Teen wolf, having standard arse 🥴🤣 TG-today’s teaching have been amazing. I had a brief “grown boy” encounter last year, lasted for 6 months and I’m matching much of my experience with your wisdom- I’m grateful for GRACE 🙏🏽
I have seen so many of these characteristics s and habits within my estranged husband of 30 years (27 years together, and almost 3 years apart). I have truly enjoyed this 3 part series, and can see how much I have grown and how well I recognize these signs thanks to therapy, your videos and the healing process. I am thankful God led me to your page. These videos and courses are confirming that I am headed in the right direction.
Tony you've dropped gems. I am currently dealing with this is dating life. I can't generalize that it is everyone, but there is an epidemic grown boys. I shut it down. You can't spoon feed maturity to adults by age.
All these beautiful women (inside and outside) seeking answers-trying to understand men-seems like we as women are doing all the heavy lifting....the men (in general) need to step it up otherwise we are fighting a losing battle 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Hello from Trinidad and Tobago listening to you for almost a year you have been a tremendous blessing and much blessings to you and your beautiful family 👏👏🔥🔥🔥🔥
IM ON MY DEEN I DON'T GET ON MY BACK IN YEAR'S FEELS GREAT TO WELL FOCUSED ON ME MORE LIFE N BLESSING'S FILLED WITH PEACE TO YOU ALL. YOU ARE TOTALLY CORRECT RESPECT TONY GASKINS CONGRATULATIONS ON EVERYTHING BLESSING'S TO YOU N YOURS
