Stop Chasing Relationships & Instead Do This!

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This is the #1 mistake people make when trying to find love... This video will show you how to fix it!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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Stop Chasing Relationships & Instead Do This!
Stop chasing love and relationships! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) opens up about his marriage and reveals the truth about love, relationships and finding the one... Discover how to make a relationship work and how to stop being needy!
This is the deep truth about relationships you must know, if you ever want to have a chance of maintaining a healthy relationship.
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@JulienHimself 11 месяцев назад

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@josueolivas6109 11 месяцев назад

Julian can anybody be complete without anything why not tell people to live homeless or something or is that not what you are talking about what are you talking about. how can someone not be attached to anything or anyone. how can i stop being less human the dumb human i am know to be the better person i am looking for. by the way none of these questions i asked are meant to be rhetorical am just asking you the questions i am having. i think to some extant i think i understand but please solidify this for me make it simpler if possible for me to understand

@FantasyCat1 11 месяцев назад

Masterfully said, Julien. 1. Love yourself and improve 2. You are not incomplete, the other person isn't your missing piece, you should aim to be a complete and content person and find synergy with the one you love. 3. Don't put up fronts or act perfect, if people only like you because of your facade, it will hurt you inside. THANK YOU ♥🧡🧡🧡

@dylanroyboy 11 месяцев назад

Julian pops up the at exact moment I'm thinking about the exact topic. My social skills are dead today going to try to revive them in a little bit.

@JulienHimself 11 месяцев назад

Glad my content resonates with you! 🔥👊

@dylanroyboy 11 месяцев назад

@JulienHimself you and Owen are my backbone for this social change. I'm trying to make you've been my refoucuser

@Vharl 11 месяцев назад

I don't even know how he does that. Exactly what I needed to hear and work with.

@guitardude1981 11 месяцев назад

Learn to be happy and content alone! Funny thing people think they need someone yet when they're together they're both on their phones not even paying attention to each other! Lol

@LynneMadison0731 11 месяцев назад

I havent been single since I was 17 years old. I am 32 now. The last 2 relationships i have been in were for 7 years and 6 years. I love your videos. Because they teach me how to put my emotions into words and my habits into question. I have always been a people pleaser and codependent as hell. "Attract, not pursue" really stuck with me. I can sense that you genuinely know what your talking about. You walked the walk sir! Keep doing what you are doing.

@satnamathwal1467 11 месяцев назад

U white folk are weird af

@IIIISai 11 месяцев назад

damm

@markmaz-sk7su 10 месяцев назад

You sound exactly same as me. Hope we get better.

@The.RenaissanceMan 11 месяцев назад

People go to the other extreme. Where they believe they must be totally independent. So they become guarded, afraid of connection, mistrusting of letting people meet their ‘needs’ Its not needy to have needs but there must be a balance. A collaboration and willingness to invest equally. The relationship is like building a house. If you invest more, you put in more work, its unbalanced, If you need more, you might be taking more, or expecting more. No one is ever complete. They always need more.

@cristianamocanu6412 10 месяцев назад

After a break up, i have realised my toxic patterns and this was the perfect video to clear up the mess i have struggled up until now to realise. Thank you so much for the video! 🤗

@jeaniedelaney4711 11 месяцев назад

That is the very best description of marriage and having kids that I have ever heard in my life. The video game that never stops. So true!!! ❤

@user-qu1rf9dx1b 11 месяцев назад

Yeah. It's awesome and surprisingly true. It's the magic that Julien brings to us to reframe our beliefs and change the narrative. 💙

@pacman5800 11 месяцев назад

I don't care if im alone or not ive been alone and single for 6 years. And yes it does kinda suck not having a trusting partner. But im just waiting for the right one.

@Arman-vz2bw 11 месяцев назад

Going through a divorce right now. This is truly chicken soup for the soul, lol. Appreciate you more than you know, Julien. 👊

@JulienHimself 11 месяцев назад

Sorry to hear you're going through that... Here are some other videos you may find helpful: ru-vid.com/group/PLeztx1--I_i8-57qrchk3-sXhhMU6UASo 🙏

@Arman-vz2bw 11 месяцев назад

@@JulienHimself You beautiful, beautiful man. Ha, thank you! 😊🙌 I'd like to add how it's both funny and ironic how terrible and unmotivated my performance at school was, yet when it comes to your lectures/people who merge their teachings, of their own personal life much less, with a genuine, charismatic, and caring attitude, I can study and take notes all day long. You'd think I was almost trying to make up for my public schooling. :P Haha. Have a good Sunday Julien, and everyone reading this. 👊 The fact that we are all here on a weekend morning, instead of watching Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles or something, shows that although our minds and external expressions may be in need of course correction, the strength and passion contained within our hearts never changed. ❤️

@aaronbell5994 11 месяцев назад

You're probably the best self-help leader I've ever seen. I've never seen someone drill as deeply into the subconscious as you, including Owen.

@OYP-93 10 месяцев назад

"Instead of being a half looking for another half, complete yourself" man that's so true, you'll never be alone again if you complete yourself first, women will come and go but it won't matter because you will be complete and loving yourself, respecting yourself, nice content man

@smokingcrab2290 9 месяцев назад

How do you complete yourself? If this was the case then nobody would ever be in any relationship

@OYP-93 9 месяцев назад

@@smokingcrab2290 by building your life and yourself physically and mentally

@shauryajain675 11 месяцев назад

As someone who learned the importance of letting go too late, i can vouch fot this. If you dont let go of shit, you get into toxic relationships

@Grassphobic 11 месяцев назад

A God send. Woke up feeling apprehensive about this very subject and this helped to remind me to really consider what it is I want in life and in a partner, or if I truly even want or "need" one.

@barefootjamie143 11 месяцев назад

Your videos are helping me see what needs to be tweaked within. It is a big deal, and serious fun to expand my mind. And to see how you explain the weird, silly, and sometimes toxic things most of us do explained is great ❤😅 Thank you for waking up this middle-aged sleeping fool with your excitement compassionate and thoughtful outlook

@miri6310 10 месяцев назад

I discovered you today and this is the second video I've watched of yours. Wow! This video covers so many fundamental, complex topics! Greatly summarized and presented! Thank you!

@waitingowl202 11 месяцев назад

Hey, I wanted to say thanks for helping me. I had a lot of metal problems over the years, but after the death of my mother I got a huge kick in the butt to do something about it. And thanks to you I now understand why I connect on a fundamental level with King Théoden from LotR (Core Identity). A broken man, ashamed of his existence and complete failure, tries to become worthy again, but only does so in a final act of heroism. I now understand that I am deeply ashamed of my own existance and every addiction and habit I have is to flee from that feeling, that I should not exist. My mother was great at implanting that idea in me, always reminding me how little my existence matters in her live, most of the time in a very passive-aggressive, indirect way. I now slowly allow myself to feel all that and nolonger try to kill/hide those feelings. It will take time to accept and let this feeling go, but I am very thankfull that you have helped me with this riddle that I was only able to solve now in my late 20s. Thanks!

@pipopipo1 11 месяцев назад

Hi Julien, I just want to say thanks for all of you did on RU-vid. I’ve been in self help content very long time but bump into your channel pretty recently. letting go videos helps me realize a lot about the nature of my state. Its very big discovery for me so I cant do nothing but give you big thanks🥰 P.s. Sorry for possible mistakes in sentences, English isn’t my native language, im from Russia

@johnarchluleta 11 месяцев назад

Great message. Thank you.

@Immort4llity 11 месяцев назад

This is soooo good, not only do you share some great baselines for a healthy self-development but also you're making me laugh. I'll try not to idealize you (:D), but you're a great guy. Also can tell you're genuinely enjoying this!

@deboyskyswuzzz 11 месяцев назад

this was deep not a lot of parents understand how to explain what it is like having children to people without children.

@JHproductions99 11 месяцев назад

The girl that stopped seeing me sent me this channel, makes it more sad that she knows this is me all over

@justinrosado5177 11 месяцев назад

Shes a real one for doing that. She cares

@andrew.gardiner 3 месяца назад

She did you a huge favor brother. Life will continue to put people & circumstances in your ‘path’ to show & teach you lessons, and to help you identify and understand where you are not ‘free’. Your only charge is to learn the lesson(s). Too, you will keep encountering different teachers for precisely the same lesson(s) until you truly learn the lesson. TBH - there will always be more lessons, hence more teachers. Count on that. XOXO

@liquid7315 11 месяцев назад

This is counterintuitive, and when you speak I can see clearly how easy it should be to let go,; yet theory is easier than action. love the content. the sincerity is appreciated.

@Gragon777 11 месяцев назад

Its totally not easy. It helped me to have a good reason for doing that. And after some months in i will never stop. I love it. And even now it’s always like jumping in a cold shower.

@joy_villa 10 месяцев назад

TRUTH! Thank you so much Julien, you're a light in this world.

@solutions4tenants141 10 месяцев назад

Julian you must have ESP… your video arrives in the algorithm just when I need to hear your teachings. Amazing. You are so tapped into the morphic resonance

@most_underrated2458 11 месяцев назад

Julian how do you find out who u truly are and how do you truly stop thinking negative thoughts of yourself that your mind tricks you into thinking other people think those negative things of you?

@JulienHimself 11 месяцев назад

A lot of deep inner work and letting go... Here's the process I take my clients through for this: application.julienhimself.com

@jokedeceuninck6968 11 месяцев назад

Very helpful! Thanks a lot ⭐

@neryjoe1 10 месяцев назад

Man, you're incredible! Thank you so much!

@aronhighgrove4100 2 месяца назад

So much truth, refreshing, especially around parenting.

@pinkpanther0001 11 месяцев назад

👌👌👌 a great reminder man. Thank you

@dianah.9905 9 месяцев назад

Thank you for the reminder. I’m feel full and complete now no need of a tel..

@bf6616 11 месяцев назад

Best analogy EVER!!!!!❤

@PrincessLoX0 7 месяцев назад

Dudeeeeeee. I’m new to your channel and you are friggin AWESOME 🙌🏾

@Jibbzz 10 месяцев назад

Healthy relationships are built on rules, not love. To be strong enough to respect their rules and hold your partner accountable to your rules is the key, and to do that you need to be okay with the fact that you may not be compatible, and that's OKAY. I'm really liking someone just...speaking like a normal human about all this shiz. Too many people, especially in the space of men, just shit on women. But it takes 2 to tango, we gotta put in the work too, and part of that is accepting that women aren't what the red pill OR blue pill ppl say they are, they're just.... other humans with different values, beliefs and wants just like us men, just like everyone else. I'm appreciate this guy's candor.

@benjamindupuis6740 10 месяцев назад

J'adore ce t-shirt. Merci pour toutes ces conférences.

@AtomicBl453 7 месяцев назад

Between these videos and learning how to become stoic it's a perfect marriage of self help.

@gyarmatthegreat6112 11 месяцев назад

So my question is: If i‘m good enough and letting go of desire, goals, improvements etc… How do i still achieve goals in my life without feeling „not good enough“ or lacking of something?

@dizzeeeeee123 11 месяцев назад

Love this!

@neverquit2470 10 месяцев назад

This is one of the most ever speech I have listened to about relationships. 😊

@NikkiElla622 8 месяцев назад

Ohhhh this was me so happy I found this. ❤

@dddavid132 9 месяцев назад

I'm going through this right now. I feel half empty as if someone could complete my other half but I've come to accept that I may never find that other person to complete my half and I should be able to live to my fullest by myself. I don't know if fomo created this void but it's such a natural pit that people fall into.

@NikkiElla622 8 месяцев назад

Ahhh thank you!

@snowleopard9907 10 месяцев назад

Desperations leads to desperate relationships

@lukeclaydon6670 11 месяцев назад

Good stuff great 👍

@nic2859 5 месяцев назад

Wow the first 19 seconds resonated so much that I felt a lifetime of tension release from my womb space. Sacral unlocked 🔐🧡

@mattea7808 11 месяцев назад

When Julien talked about the universe saying im going to be alone forever it brought tears to my eyes. My immediate reaction was no.

@GregtheGrey6969 9 месяцев назад

Thank you brother

@CsabaGamings 11 месяцев назад

I feel like a people pleaser and needy, but that's just how I am honestly lol. Not the best people pleaser, but I tend to favour friends and people I like more than randoms tbf. I learned how to say no too

@smashkin92 10 месяцев назад

Oh my god, the level at which I resonated with it, despite being a 31 y.o. single guy with no kids... CRAZY. Jsuis moi aussi un enfant riche déprimé, ça joue clairement dans l'équation 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@woodyswrld 11 месяцев назад

great vid Julien now I know why man of my relationships have failed no longer I say!

@Aleks_Mechanics 11 месяцев назад

Notification squad Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥

@Bmoby1 11 месяцев назад

From an attachment theory point of view, sounds to me like he is saying one must move into an earned Secure attachment style before entering into a long term romantic relationship partnership

@ZapatosVibes 10 месяцев назад

Haven't heard a better definition of having kids yet, well said.

@satoro198 10 месяцев назад

That’s a great one

@lashmi193 10 месяцев назад

Thank u so much

@PowerfulVillain 10 месяцев назад

My parents used to fight so much. I can completely relate to the way you said it. I still am hopeless to find love. Just the thought of it makes me procrastinate and immediately make me think of the future and far future making me ultra stressed out and eventually give up. If you were to find someone with the maximum number of socio-psychological issues in a single body/mind, it'd have to be me. I'm a failure. Everytime I think of changing beyond the past, my body, appearances give in and I am back as my old self, clearly deteriorating with time. Man I so wish I was young enough like your audience to have actually given it a chance. Wouldn't be letting regrets eating me alive. Goal-less, spine-less, self-hating single 38 year old virgin man. Can't get worse.

@HannaStrycharczyk 10 месяцев назад

It's never too late. Just try now. It will be okay.

@questforwholeness 10 месяцев назад

Do semen retention and Take shrooms

@questforwholeness 10 месяцев назад

Do semen retention and Take shrooms

@JoseRRodriguez 11 месяцев назад

The first 3 minutes resonates a lot with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)

@JoseRRodriguez 11 месяцев назад

«Things going well is boring!»

@himathyjenkins 10 месяцев назад

I have manic depression and i agree

@sharma3226 11 месяцев назад

Hey Julien i like how you growing with different perspectives. If you really care for this world could you geniunely share things which goes wrong that you felt after your marriage or don't do tips or approach for people to have for healthy relationship and marriage in age where divorce rate is increasing. MY DOUBT- maybe its sounds normal to you but in your eastern world like India before this generation not influenced by western lifestyle etc there is not even people think that divorce is also a way if its not work, why there is so much understanding of evolutionary psychology, human behaviour and anthropology etc but still we are missing core pieces about relationship and marriage which specially out parents and grandparents got it. MY REQUEST- Sir in dating community I listen very selective people who speaks from deeper observation understanding and practically rather trash ideas from any books. I think if you really serious into self and dating world you could set golden names in this industry by filling gap by sharing major problems solution arising and facing by most population in this world. Love from India 🙏🏾.

@handsomethep 10 месяцев назад

I agree with certain talking points you mentioned within the video but the part we’re you mentioned to except a female for who she is I disagree with that because I believe if a woman is truly interested in a man to the point you’re someone she really wants the be with, she’s not going to expect you to except her for who she really is because she’s gonna do everything in her power to be the women who can adapt to the kind of man who you are if she’s value within you

@robertgann742 11 месяцев назад

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

@robertgann742 11 месяцев назад

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?

@robertgann742 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

@leanderdcruz6744 3 месяца назад

He is speaking about my current state

@doodoocaca3936 10 месяцев назад

hes so fucking real i needed this

@unicorngirl0369 11 месяцев назад

😹🙏🏻👏🏻❤️ You are brilliant. Love you Julian. Thanks for the good laughs.

@rohitbarman7642 8 месяцев назад

Who thought it raj & simran ❤❤ Inseparable pair ❤

@user-wy5gl5ic7c 11 месяцев назад

Thanks

@NovaSMHeilmann 10 месяцев назад

Woah 😳 everything starting to make sense to me 😮 like if I don't love myself now, when will I love myself? Like for real 😳🤯

@Studypointz714 10 месяцев назад

Wowo...julian this is best 👌 😊

@Belleame42 6 месяцев назад

Should a person have to change? I'm a quite person and working on being confident and more social but will always be more introverted does that mean I will never be good for an extroverted person?

@captainiceberg8637 10 месяцев назад

Fear leads to anger...anger leads to hate....hate leads to the Dark Side

@ik-125 8 месяцев назад

Bro, im fucking shocked. Thats the strongest phylosophy. Thank you a lot, Julien. That is priceless

@fallguy6196 10 месяцев назад

Forget sbout adults. This dude needs to go to middle achools and highschools even colleges. Where the issues begin for most people

@jofephclimber3104 11 месяцев назад

Love your videos. You are ENTP mbti

@newthing4913 7 месяцев назад

Men men men I loved it so much that is so brave.

@seabass6811 11 месяцев назад

That outfit is dope.

@floridaspringhoppers.7354 11 месяцев назад

Yo this is crazy this video just popped up. I was seeing a girl and she started pulling away and I found myself being really manipulative. I thought I was the only one that did this kinda stuff so I really thought I was this evil person. I guess I’m not which is relieving.

@ceeIoc 11 месяцев назад

I’m 43 and really looking for the one. Can’t help but feel needy because time is running out :(

@Genis973 11 месяцев назад

My grandfather remarried in his 70s you got time

@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 11 месяцев назад

@@Genis973did he have children in his 70s either ?

@nilufaryasmin2429 11 месяцев назад

How to do this deep inner work?

@expandingedge7562 9 месяцев назад

Glory to God

@jamesmccloud7535 11 месяцев назад

Love the Jordan Peterson mention. In topics like psychology and self help he's helped millions of young men struggling in relationships and careers. I agree with everything you say here. Good video once again!

@birajsinghthapa9999 11 месяцев назад

So how to complete yourself?

@nick_nam3 11 месяцев назад

For a lot of people it is about having kids, and that's where it gets complicated when you're getting older and you know soon it might be too late for that. You're gonna tell that person, it's ok if she/he knows it's not?

@katieann9026 10 месяцев назад

Why isn't it OK? Why does she need kids to be complete?

@nick_nam3 10 месяцев назад

@@katieann9026 because that's how most human (women especially) are designed. That's why you have reproductive organs. I'm not stigmatizing people who don't have kids for this or that reason, but that's how nature works. People are supposed to reproduce.

@katieann9026 10 месяцев назад

@nick_nam3 Never in the history of any species has it been the case that every member of that species is required to reproduce. In fact in many species the social structure is such that only a few are selected to reproduce. For the same reason some members of the species to designed to be gay. Those members fulfill an evolutionary function beyond mere replication. We aren't bacteria.

@sams81 11 месяцев назад

Very interesting. Maybe its not the question for here. Julien, how do i know if she's the right one for me? I'm standing at a very important decision.. But i have doubts

@beewest5704 11 месяцев назад

Look ahead a year from now how would you like you life to look like. Then think 5 years from now how would you like your life to look. Then 10 years from now how do you imagine your life. Did she feature?

@sams81 11 месяцев назад

@@beewest5704 you mean if she fits in my imagination? Or she would support me?

@vishnuprasad8889 10 месяцев назад

your videos are insightful and inspiring🤩, but I have a genuine question🤔 , what kind of dress is presentable? should we choose based on what others think or what I think or what is comfortable for me? What is your perspective on this? @JulienHimself

@factsandworldknowledge2654 10 месяцев назад

If i am correct isn't this similar with being Stoic, just asking.

@mcanlsn2221 11 месяцев назад

That sounds so right in this day and age where we are formatted for selfishness and autonomy as glorious achievements. The humility of needing others to make a whole (very much present in nature itself) is so reduced in the first 30 seconds

@george7141 11 месяцев назад

@3:08 i felt that, and thought to myself, yes that is true, im probably gonna die alone

@ReasonAboveEverything 11 месяцев назад

Most of us will die alone.

@liebefriedenworldwide8780 11 месяцев назад

J. P.: "How do you define "kids"?" XD XD

@user-ik8wd9vm7r 10 месяцев назад

I don't know why I got this video suggested and why I'm writing here as my opinion might be unpopular based on the other comments. There is nothing wrong in searching for your other half and it's indeed important to do so, you can do everything alone but having a romantic life and a partner is actually good for you and for your soul. throughout history and all cultures humans know that love is the most important thing in life and more important above all is when you meet your partner as there lies your future life. In the western world it's so common to see this dating culture as if dating were something normal, it's ok but what for? I am not surprised of people suffering and the on top of that believing that they are the problem because they are not ready or because they should be able to be by their own first rather than be in a relationship (sounds familiar?, to me this sick society is the problem)

@klmrk9961 11 месяцев назад

So if you are totally content with being alone and you don't need somebody to make your life better, does that mean that you wouldn't care if your partner left you? Why would you try to meet a partner if you're totally fine and happy by yourself?