This Destroys Your Relationships (FIX IT!) 

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Thank u very good explained i nedded that im full enough right here right know im not broken 🙏

Whoever opens up is ultimately at the receiving end of others perspectives and options. Good or bad that's life 🌟💫

That's gonna be hard af

Unconditional feeling is the way... 🙏

People need to know that men never cry because they are weak. If men cry it is because they are tired of being strong forever.

Yes, but no crying as a man has some very valid points. In studies they found out that no woman chooses a guy who crys a lot (surprise surprise 😅 ). Even the ones who say they find it attractive do not pick a man who crys out of desperation. But the women are not lying. They just imagine a guy which she already picked because she already found out the he is stoic, strong and manly. And that guy, she'd like to be emotional and would like him to cry.

⁠@@patmanpatmansonthat’s because women are traumatized too, especially out there people who aren’t into this inner work. the way they treat another person who’s crying is the way they treat themselves deep down and how they’ve been treated when they’re down and feeling out of sorts. many women are feeling very unsafe on a daily basis, so you gotta understand we act from that place of fear. and what do we hold on to? safety. but it’s a safety that we don’t really know, it’s what we imagine WOULD keep us safe…. so, maybe a person or a man in this. are that is stoic and has it all under control would make us feel safer. that is not a real relationship, everyone is trying to get something out of everyone because we’re all so terrified inside and are acting out of that place. i hope you can see that, and not internalize it when other people around you, whether women or not, shame you in any way (even subtly) about experiencing emotions or being human you know. try to find people who are into this inner work, so women who are into this work. you can build something different if they’re also working on freeing themselves from their own conditioning. but if you go to “regular people”, the dysfunction is very much there and there isn’t much we can do that would change it in one fell swoop. there just isn’t, the world is big and there’s lots of wills at play. we just gotta choose our crowd, people who also value authenticity like you do if you want that kind of relationship where you as a man crying is met with affection and kindness by the woman that is your partner.

@@robertzigo2520no one cries because they are weak. they cry because they’re hurting or sometimes because they’re overwhelmed with relief or happiness

Yes, MASSIVE respect to him! Takes a lot of courage and willingness! 🔥👊

All us men share a lot

Hi Jeffy!

For sure! Agreed! I can relate 😅😢

Yes, massive respect to him! 🔥🔥🔥

Me too, I think I need to talk to Julien

Isn't it a paradox that he is insecure about himself but once he opens up he gets so much respect? Just proving that insecurities are just stories we tell ourselves.

Oh, yeah! 🙏

That's how confidence always feels. Just comfortable.

@@Balloonbot Yes!

What's most personal is most universal! Never forget! 🙏

@@JulienHimself that's deep !

Seems like a cool-ass dude.

You know him but not even willing to watch the thing. The guy was right he just gives and no one cares.

@@guy7524 This may be true but if he does the internal work, he doesn’t need anyone to care. And people who’re authentic and do care will eventually be attracted to him. While people who can’t even watch a video of him (who know him) will become irrelevant as he sails right on past him 😊

​​@@guy7524yes but what does he get from people caring? if you put the feeling you want on other people you will never feel whole when u dont have it. and even if you get them to care now u fear losing it. people will care about you sometimes when they themselves want it for their own best interest. they are caring about themselves and when u care about yourself u can care about others. but by putting someone else caring about you over yourself caring about u u will never feel enough because everything external is always changing. one moment a person wants to marry you the next moment ignore everything you say. so why do it for them when u can just do it for u. and by doing it for you you stop setting the standard for everyone caring about u all the time and u can actually appreciate them caring about you. caring to get someone else caring is im down here and u can move me up. and after you make me move u up you have to stay or i feel miserable. thats like your mother saying i love you but only wheen u love me aswell or else i will make u the reason for feeling miserable. in the end they dont care for you they care for themselves.

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I understand the idea but when you give so much of yourself and receive nothing back but then you see people who give nothing and get so much love, it's a bit conflicting

@@chessoo Yea life is unfair this way. Even as kids some kids just accepted and appreciated in every way they exist, they just get simple lessons on why not to hurt others, steal etc and they're good to go. And some other kids are punished even for breathing. Giving is not so much about putting something in someone else's hands, but being someone that ppl like to be around. You may see they don't give anything to others, but there wouldn't be anyone around them if it'd be the case.

@@chessoo Learning to be okay with ourselves - with life, no matter if anyone likes or loves us back is true freedom. And in being okay with ourselves, we invite others to be okay with us too. I believe we come to earth all different soul ages and have different levels of challenges to undertake. Life looks quite unfair when a young soul has few lessons and someone who’s a much older soul has a seriously difficult life. We all came here to learn certain things. (If you believe this sort of thing 🙃😉

@@samanthamariah7625what u mean old souls?

The Buddha was not narcissistic. He's one who encouraged inconditional love, which was one of the perfections of character he himself developed to its full. He called it "metta", inconditional loving kindness.

@@johnwaters777 The only way someone can have unconditional love is by loving themselves so much that they do not allow others to take advantage of them. I guarantee Buddha did not allow others to take from him for their own self-interest in the name of unconditional love. And in that way, he could have unconditional love for everyone while also loving himself so unconditionally that he cared for his wellbeing. Having a full heart towards people and also saying “nope that won’t work for me” is ideal for loving oneself. And that is important bc if we don’t love ourselves as much as our neighbors, we have missed the mark.

Thank you! 🙏🙏🙏

Yes, I have no doubt he's going to crush it! 👊

If there’s no justifiable excuse does that mean you’re a bad person or something? What is the point in making this distinction? ‘Excuse’ and ‘reason’ are nearly synonymous words, the only distinction is that excuses are reasons people don’t accept. Or that’s how I’ve thought about it. I relate a lot to what you wrote but I don’t understand what the implication of not having a justifiable excuse is. What are you supposed to do if you realize you’ve done something unreasonable?

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or maybe return to the one and only real Self.

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You're welcome! Glad this was helpful! 🔥👊

Its npt free, you are giving him a view that will be changed to dollar asshole.

Right

Yes, he crushed it! 🔥👊

Why is it so hard to understand what you trying to say

I believe you have written something of value. But maybe go back and rework the writing bc I am unable to completely understand it 🤷🏼‍♀️

I did have that thought too like what if they are creating a problem to. Appease the prompt and owning it as there own problem hahaha.

You should check out Loving On Purpose as well by Danny Silk. They have some good stuff.

I agree 💯

Thank you! Glad it was helpful!

Amazing to hear! Glad my videos have been so helpful! 🙌

I guess this is still caring too much about others and what they think...

Yes! Massive respect to him! 🔥👊

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Thank you so much! 🔥👊

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