Jordan Peterson on how to integrate one's shadow, from his Biblical Lecture "Walking With God: Noah And The Flood" If you enjoyed this video, subscribe and check out the other content! www.edshimbo.com
What a man, dedicating his life to share deep knowledge with simplified dynamics for free for everyone. That's a hell of a mission, imagine how many people Jordan Peterosn helped and saved so far, and how many he will still help after he dies, it's incalculable
After much self observation I figured this out in my 20s. From there I spent hours observing and correcting my thoughts, saying self affirmations to the opposite of every negative or non-self serving thought. It took months of steady work for me to undo most of that programming we receive from ourselves since childhood. The results were astounding. My confidence, charisma, sense of self worth, courage and charm exploded, but it was all natural, no arrogance, no fakeness, to trying. It was like turning into a Jedi. I eventually lost all those gains as it is very easy to slip back into the old programs, and I am just now, many years later, practicing to get that back ... I have a lot of work to do, its amazing how easy it is to have self defeating thoughts and how hard it is to fully get rid of them.
I get what you're trying to say and I agree, mostly. You seem to be implying that we all have that charismatic out there charmer inside of us just waiting to burst forth. Do we all have to be that guy? Maybe we do and I'm just broken on the inside somehow, I don't know. Is there no room in life for the invisible man, the behind the scenes loner? Maybe there isn't.
@@philphilips1020 I don't think you really do get what I'm trying to say. If you go into this thinking this is a guide on how to be a "charming, charismatic guy" you have entirely missed the point. Its all about stripping the false identity that you and your environment has defined you as, and allowing yourself to be closer to your *true* self. The self you are before all those layers of almost exclusively fearful and negative definitions became applied. This process starts in childhood, and there is usually one main, often traumatic, experience in your life that has come to define you. Its about whether you want to be the best version of yourself, stripped of the defining layers that have been used to cover yourself up. Jordan I think kinda misses the aspect where most of these definitions are fear based, and do nothing but hold you back. To your point though, one also has to be completely happy with themselves as they are, this is important, but most, truly cannot be, inside the wardrobe of definitions they wear. EDit: added important punctuation to the last sentence.
@@WaspMedia3D First off, let me just say that I am not a troll nor am I trying to be argumentative for drama's sake like social media is constantly programming us to be. I'm just an anonymous guy searching for answers. Who are we, or better yet who am I, other than the sum total of my experiences? You are correct, there were several very traumatic experiences in my childhood. My mother walking out of the family when I was 5 was one of them. It was not pleasant but it's part of who I am today. I'm not saying that this is the way it is, I'm seriously asking because I don't know the answer. Aren't we like recipes, made up of multiple ingredients which are the experiences? And just like recipes, the more ingredients added the more complex the flavor. Some flavors are more pleasant than others. My life doesn't have a very pleasant flavor, but neither can those ingredients be un-mixed. They've melded together over time and have become who I am. Please, correct me if I'm wrong because I'd love to rinse my mouth of this particular flavor.
@@philphilips1020 No worries, I welcome discussion - it has become a lost art in a world fearful of offending those who may become offended for no reason. I sense that fear in you, but on to my response. Yes. You are a flavour. But that flavour wasn't crafted by you. Don't you think you should have some control over what flavour you have to offer? Peterson's video is in a way saying that 95% of your "flavour" is just crap that you tell yourself, and that the environment has projected on to you. And that is also what I am saying. Would you not rather prefer to have free choice over what flavour you express? Note that (speaking a bit in metaphor here) if you are not in control of what flavours you have to be able to express ... something or someone else does. Humans are easily manipulated through the definitions that they have acquired of themselves. In order to truly free the mind from these potential manipulations, no matter how subtle, one has to relax those definition. Take fear for example. People who have defined themselves as fearful - (which is pretty much everyone, even if disguised as "practicality"), through this process, can easily be manipulated as the a perceived path to _alleviate_ that fear, which is always sought, is laid before them - a path that perhaps serves others more than yourself. The goal is to not strip away your entire ego (which is this wardrobe of definitions we create for ourselves), but to be able to find that place where you no longer serve it, but rather, it serves you. Does that make sense? (Edited for clarity)
@@WaspMedia3D I also am a fan of reasonable discussion and I appreciate your willingness to have this discussion with me. And no, it's not the fear of offending that you hear in my "voice". I always try to be precise in my writing because I want to convey my thoughts accurately so maybe that's what you are sensing. Freedom of choice scares me, even terrifies me sometimes. Psychology probably has a word for this but I don't know what it is, I call it 'choice lock'. It's like when you have too many programs running on a computer at the same time, it locks up. For example, my company flew me to Kansas City a few weeks ago to pick up and drive a new company car back to Florida where I live. This is not a regular occurrence, in fact it's the first time I've ever done this. Halfway back around Nashville I had to stop and get a hotel room for the night. After about an hour I was still in 'choice lock'. In order to choose, the pros and cons had to be weighed, cost vs. location vs. nearby restaurants vs. breakfast options vs. etc etc etc. Too many variables in the equation equals choice lock. The point I'm trying to make is that freedom of choice has its downside. To me, too much choice equals no choice. I hope that made sense but, from my experience, it probably just left you baffled. Sorry.
“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” Lao Tzu Our only hope for growth of our spiritual selves is, that we can start, and then continue thinking beyond our reptilian stem. Thank You "SHIMBO" for this thought provoking work. Will
We can work on our thoughts. I have been in a situation with all help or resolve is withheld from me for 26 years. I don’t mind them knowing what I think of them! MLK said “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends”. David said if it had been my enemy I could have handled it but it was my own that I went to the temple with.
I watch my thoughts but I can't do anything about them because the I that is watching my thoughts doesn't exist and that means character is an illusion.
One thing I've realized is that being able to show some degree of vulnerability is extremely empowering. Accepting one's weaknesses while actively working to improve not only makes one less susceptible to attacks on one's character, but also makes one appear more likable, honest and strong. Putting up a front of perfection and invulnerability can give one tremendous power, but that power makes one incredibly vulnerable. We are bound to make mistakes as imperfect humans and if you have been pretending to be infallible all along, even the most insignificant mishap can cost you your persona. On the other hand, if you right off the bat show that you are comfortable with your flaws, people will be less critical of you and you might even find yourself getting away with minor mistakes. On the other hand, when you present yourself as perfect and strong from the start, you draw attention towards your every mistake and imperfections whereas if you are honest about your flaws from the offset you will be better at connecting with others and be less susceptible to personal attacks on your character.
What if you come off as "perfect" or damn near close and others attack you for it simply because that's how they see you? I'm just picking you're brain cause I like what you're saying
Wow. I went through something very similar to everything JP is describing in this video. He is soo good at saying what he means. It’s that commitment to truth.
You know I had that voice in me judging and criticizing and really didn’t know what to make of it. I went through something very traumatic a few months ago and at the moment I am trying to pick up the pieces that are left but in the process of putting back my identity, words and actions together I questioned everything. I questioned my values and foundational thoughts and really didn’t know which was the TRUE voice. I heard both of them as true. Heard the empowering and the Devils advocate voice in my head. Now with the help of this knowing I am not insane I can move forwards onto becoming better.
Videos like this are absolutely invaluable to mankind . We lost family , community, connection and meaning over decades of mental decay and PC narratives. This true , factual, solid wisdom is timeless and absolutely necessary now
This happened to me recently. One day I woke up and was very more consciously aware of myself, what I would say though out the day and how I would act. I’m more aware now and think before I speak. I listen slot more than I talk. Sometimes silence says a lot about someone
Word for word is align with what's going on with me right now in life and what I must do. Awesome graphics and message. Can't thank you enough for this brother. Thumbs up!
Yeah me to. I felt great after recapitulation so energetic but one must practice constantly even reminding myself when riding the fence and I am on the comfortable side of fence, but its tough when pushing the shadow to move for a little pain and uncomfortableness... Warrior Training on my on for 36 years started at age of 11. Thanks for having the knowledge and power of word. People need this ,I used this as a sort of slap on the mind and back. Self love is so beautiful and shows the natural world that we love it enough and respect and realize she is a part of oneself. Thank you ; Angel Finley ha banks
Yup. I have a podcast and used this approach. Had to get my true self aligned with what I spoke. It's simple and difficult at the same time, as you HAVE to look at yourself in third person as others do, in order to get out of your own rendition of yourself.
I loved the way Shimbo pinned a hate comment not caring if it influences the perception of the video negatively & drops the video views & engagement. That's the real masculine confidence. Loved the video & animation. Jordan is rocking!
I'm high functioning aspergic and can relate to his experience, in that there there is no desire or compulsion to 'impress' others, or 'conform to the herd, and as a result I've often been compared to monsters, and the disordered (sociopaths, narcissists, psychopaths), by what I now consider, 'sheep'. This has come with the conundrum of being aware, and inscenmtivized by others, to consider my true self as being something that should be oppressed, but I do not subscrube to this line of thinking, and instead, I embrace my true self/monster, and have nurtured it within others. Nowadays
That is beautiful. I have found you, a nugget of gold in the pool of silver that is this comment section, surrounded by a sea of feces. Learn to put on masks if need be, but know yourself at all times. Because nobody in the entire world can be YOU. If YOU are not YOURSELF, then who are you? If YOU are not YOURSELF, you are nothing. If YOU are not YOURSELF, you are not even dead - you simply DO NOT EXIST.
This is the first time I've come across you, your channel and this video and I cannot bring myself to believe that another person out there has exactly the same second voice as mine. This is crazy. I'd initially considered it to be the way brains and their thoughts usually worked, and then slowly came to realise that it was just me. And now, I spot a kin.
When I was young I stoppt talking a lot, because I noticed if I talk a lot a lot of unnecessary words come out. Now in my twentys I have realised that thats not a good idea. People tent to be foolish and if you don't practice talking, you will not get good at it. My self-confidence was very low, because I wasn't good at connecting to people too then. I belive it is wise to think about what you say first. But it is not wise to restrict yourself to only things "you are allowed to say" because at some point you will break. We can only learn by making mistakes, say unnecessary words and regret then maybe. We only grow through pain and shame, I guess.
That's so interesting. I remember thinking and going through alot of this same process. I can remember distinctly remember seeing a tree one day that my brother dad and I cut all the branches off. It was a big dead tree. I remember seeing it like a year or two later and that tree had grown back bigger and stronger with all the dead branches off. I remember thinking that's what I need to do.. loose the dead branches I'm trying to hold up.. so they can grow back stronger..
What kind of tree was THAT???... I think 1/3 rd of a tree has to be intact for regrowth to happen. ALL branches were cut off? And in the 2nd year the tree was bigger??? I highly doubt that was possible. Were you speaking metaphorically?
I don’t like to use the word “fundamental” in any context, because institutions undermine themselves, but I guess I can call it the things that feel fundamental, and feeling like changing oneself at a fundamental level. That’s what it’s like to cut off your dead branches and make yourself into a more robust tree per se. This is unfortunately exponentially harder to do the more chaotic your life is, and it’s even more unfortunate to realize that it’s not that hard to find people with greater chaotic qualities.
keep making these types of videos. I’m not sure if you already have made a lot of videos familiar to this… but if you don’t. Then keep doing this. Its enjoyable
Pat on the back to all who are here trying to better themselves, trying to understand what life is all about. You could have been watching something else... we wil succeed in our efforts. Thank God for Jordan.
I'm there. 5% but never feel so much calm and in control of myself while my world just collapse. Never was so scared but this time I choose to be courageous and I dive into my shadow.
JP I had a similar occurrence. My neutral judging side was silencing an argumentative side. What’d happened was that I’d just wronged someone (won’t go into how), and my conscience caught me in the act. My argumentative side had a million justifications for why my actions and the way I handled myself were actually NOT wrong (or tolerable, at the very least). My conscience won, and it quickly came to me that my only outlet for inner peace was by righting the wrong I just did.
I think he described what self awareness is generally like. It can get really bad listening to the critic if you have neurotic tendencies, though, the critic can make you believe you're no good and you might as well give up and die. But healthy self awareness can evaluate your behavior and check to see if it lines up with your values, and it is aware of tendencies you don't like and want to improve upon.
Something about him saying being a good guy wasnt something inate, but that it took effort felt good. Never thought i was a good person, but i want to be and i do everything i can to be that person if only in others eyes. I get told by alot of people that im nice, kind, easy to talk to etc. People tend to like me well enough and people opening up randomly isnt uncommon, and i do lend an ear or shoulder when needed. But i do it because thats what a good person does, even if im not good i can pretend. I dont see that person they taek about when i look in the mirror, but hearing that being good isnt inate and that you only become good after all the work made me feel a little better.
Only discovered Peterson recently. I'm considered highly intelligent myself but this man is, in my humble opinion, one of the most intelligent minds on Earth right now. When he speaks, folks should listen. This isn't as "heavy going" as some of his talks, but useful nonetheless. I don't agree with him on everything, predominantly his views on Nietzsche who I think has been misrepresented in history. Even so I'd know better than to try to debate this man. Great Share; thanks!
Job considered this exact thing. in fact, he concluded this Job 23:10 [10]But He knows the way that I take; When He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold. I also find it hard to speak to my elders because I can see the majority of my plans falling apart, not only as I say them aloud but also when I hear their advice... this isn't always the case. However, if all you're left with is 5 percent, that's a whole lot better than a bunch of fluff. very well said mister Peterson
What makes me weak is that we have to live in this world that is never going to get better. I'm told, that I'm supposed to be strong and bottling up my emotions, but then I'm contradicted by this because now I'm told that I should express my emotioms and not bottle them up. Now I'm just plain confused 😕
Nicely done. Important. In Buddhism we say there are '10 Unvirtuous Deeds'. And 4 of those are speech: idle speech, harsh speech, divisive speech, and lying (video above is essentially about lying). So we train the mind in part by talking less. Just meditating won't cut it. We talk less, we text less... and this is a major path to power, and a better life. Bonus factoid: Buddhists aren't necessarily vegetarian. Nor is JP. Many myths about the Buddha and Buddhism exist.
What in this world does not change? Ideas change, philosophy changes, even facts change over time. If we place our focus on something that is always changing we will get ever confused and lost. Inside of us, inside the heart is a place that is infinite, does not change, if we put our focus on that, then we can start to live in peace, not in pieces. Our mind is always very noisy, full of doubts, questions, but the heart has no questions, it is where love is felt, beauty is experienced. Over time we have mixed up the two, we now think that if we fill our mind it will give us answers, but it only gives us unrest. The heart is real, it is our greatest asset, because it contains all the values of life. All the darkness in the universe cannot extinguish the smallest of sparks.
MashAllah this is incredible!!! Super on point and creative The details ooh and the message Right on man! S/o JP - Waswasa The ruh Consciousness Allahu3lam 99 names and attributes Peace
This is very difficult for me. Because i talk allot and think allot. My brain is a chaos. And almost everything that i think it will comes out of my mouth.. and that’s make me weak.. and maybe people will not take me serious or see me as a full-fledged person.
I can relate to this monster I didn't think was there. Somebody ruined my life and wanted to take there life I had a breakdown and lost my mind palace and inner narrator (as I was a budding writer) I also have a heart condition and cannot work in the fitness industry because of them. Also on top of that I lost the love of my life through them - The list goes on. I realised they were just a fool there puppet strings they gave to evil entities. They have always been a fool they will probably always be a fool ( there is no such thing as a harmless fool - they are all dangerous they just need the right opportunity to prove it) The conclusion I had was if I took revenge I would still be broken there violations had past who they were had been found out they could no longer do me any more harm. God would hold it against me if I did not forgive and showing mercy would be credited to me so it was inlightened self interest to let it go. The last person I had to forgive was myself for trusting when I should have been perceptive. Why should we be afraid of being weak as long as we can observe the truth without a hidden alterial motive to warp our perspective. The fear of saying something that makes you weak is weakness and limits your understanding of what you are trying to convery. It seems taboo in society to openly criticize yourself. Many have condecending said to me oh your so down on yourself you should have a higher opinion. Perhaps we should be self deprecating otherwise we will wonder the earth with an unheathly ego . When I self deprecate it makes people really uncomfortable they think I have low self esteem. I would argue that it is they that have low self esteem to be critical of self is an excercise in liberation - a shedding of the skin. If your so afraid of your psyche you have to except yourself fully and show strength at all times. Of course there is a flipside to this where if we are willing to deprecate we should be able to pat ourselfs on the back. However this too can invite the ego to be greedly fed. So what is the answer? Well just simply say what ever I am I am and whatever I am not I am not. I simply exist and the only compliment I should except is a genuine one that is outside myself as to be self congraulatory is a stumbling block you can know your abilities without being self congratulatory. I have noticed in some areas of the New Age movement some people will tell themselves they are God even using his very name to describe themselves. Biblically we are told we are dust and are only living through the breath of God our only function therefore is to honour God and submit to a life without sin. The ego lies and sin lies as it warps our true image. sin is an absence of love and respect. that is all sin is. If you are Proud your cutting yourself off from your roots. I have issues I don't need to be popular. I have had a taste of popularity in the past you can lose yourself in it. What I haven't had enough of is prestige as I have not achieved excelence in my field. One day I will taste prestige then I will know weather to embrace it or discard it - I stuggle with this as I have not lived up to my potential something is in the way perhaps. WOW - I REALLY RAMBLED ON THERE. I moved to a new City and haven't made any new friends so probably spend to much time on my own.
I was so sad when I heard Mr. J. P. Wasn’t a Christian because he was so smart and beautiful heart.. but.. He changed his mind about it and came out with it and was unapologetic. God bless you Mr. J.P. May God bless you all and the persecuted Christians and Jews. In Jesus name amen 🙏🏼
I believe he is heading down that path after him and his wife have struggled with their health the past few years. If you listen to some of his newer stuff he is starting to explore the Bible more. I felt the same way, there was a missing piece to some of what he says because he has left out a very important part human behavior, I can’t wait to hear God added in to his new speeches
@@tylnedriavalendorf You are not saved after death without Jesus to mediate before a righteous Creator for all the bad you have done in this life. None of us escapes death. None of us has lived a life without sin. The drama and suffering in life is all about man's quest for self determination and failing miserablly where the only hope is back to God through Jesus Christ. We are all the prodigal children in need of a Savior John 3:16.
Man, I was searching for someone to say this...it's no wonder that Jordan has discovered Jesus in the midst of his struggles in the last couple of years.
I admire many of the things Jordan Peterson says about various topics. His logic, reasoning and articulation are on point to my current knowledge. But this...this made very little sense to me. Trying to understand the mental dynamics he was going through is quite confusing. It seems that he benefitting for it but I don't see how that could help me in any way.
