The #1 Thing Women Crave in Men that is Constantly Underestimated by Men

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Dominance. Men totally underestimate how important this is to women.
Most men do not seem to realize how this is first and foremost in women's minds and a HUGE part of how and why men are attractive to women.
Men are on to it for sure, but even so they are still glossing over how important it really is to women.
Women are assessing men for dominance all the time.
Women have a primal software which does this for them. I would never chose to do this because I find it judgmental, but I simply DO do this by instinct.
If you project enough of this quality, you will be considered as a sexual candidate. If not you will be instantly disqualified.
I say this so men can realize that it is ok to bring this part of themselves out more than they allow themselves to.
Most women are expecting a guy to take the lead totally. The more the guy takes the lead the more attractive he will probably be to a girl because women are secretly fantasizing about dominant guys. Even guys who are dominant, women are often wishing they would step up even more and be more so.
This is due to a primal software as I mentioned developed through thousands of years of evolution where women who were the best at picking the strongest mates had offspring that were most likely to survive. So now we all are very good at assessing this.
This is not something intrinsic that you either have or you don't though. A guy can very quickly become a sexual candidate simply by acting more dominant, confident and assertive.
Let me know what you think. please give me any feedback negative or positive and I will listen to the negative as well as the positive.
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@Wacko20111 3 года назад

My dad use to say, a man doesn't have to announce his presence, because a real man's presence is felt.

@dominicbrogsdale3348 3 года назад

Man.... There a woman on here named dneika marie and she said the same thing women know when there in the presence of REAL MEN!!!!

@jockamofeno7632 3 года назад

Yup. I finnaly figured this out. Now, I walk through the store or down the street, and all I have to do is make eye contact and women will smile and say hi, or blush and look down. Feels amazing and it self reenforces. This only came about after I began valuing my own opinion of myself to the exclusion of anyone else. This way of thinking is trained out of us from birth, and typically only sociopath types will retain thier own sense of self validation through the years of social conditioning. Hence, the "women love assholes" phenomenon. I slowly regained this sense of self assuredness by approaching and initiating interactions with hundreds of women and getting rejected ALOT. It made me stop giving any shots what any woman thinks about me; it deadend that nerve, like the skin on my knuckles from hitting the bag.

@MrsBuddevil 3 года назад

That's deep.

@erojerisiz1571 3 года назад

In a similar vein: The great man does not feel the need to put down other men. Instead, he helps them develop, because he is confident that nothing can threaten his position.

@Wacko20111 3 года назад

@@erojerisiz1571 Honestly I truly believe that's more of a problem between women. When an insecure male, is in the presence of a man who is self-assured and confident. The confident man will pretty much ignore the other, because he doesn't matter in the larger context. Unless the insecure man violates the confident man's space, emotional or physical. Even then there will be a warning and the confident man will either verbalize the warning in an assertive way. In addition, he will leave rather than escalate the conflict. There's a saying which states, "the louder mouth the scareder the man". This behavior can be seen in social settings whenever a man is loud and boisterous/attention seeking. As to your statement about putting down other men, men communicate very differently than women. What may appear to be a put down may just be a correction in their behavior or work ethic. Speaking from experience, I have three sons and each has a very independent personality. In raising these boys modeling behavior and correcting them is needed continuously and into adulthood. When my oldest challenged me as a teen, I corrected him and let him know he's not a man until he's taking care of the people he loves without selfishness. Putting others before self.

@GeneralLocooo 3 года назад

Fellas, dominance doesn’t mean be an asshole. As she said, be courageous and strong. A true leader. One that does not accept bullshit from anyone and stands up for what HE believes is right.

@GeneralLocooo 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife Thank you!

@plazmakeksjefull 3 года назад

Although someone can have most of those virtues and still be a bad person. Like "bad guys" some women are often attracted to. They are often strong and courageous.

@adriansingh6060 3 года назад

u got it inaccurate imo, is knowing WHEN to be an assole, Time and place. Also the line between assole and being a leader is often blurred.............

@pseunition6038 3 года назад

@@adriansingh6060 sup man, how are you doing?

@adriansingh6060 3 года назад

@@pseunition6038 fine bro

@MasalaMan 3 года назад

God, sometimes I feel like I was dominant by default and then sort of learned to be 'nice' through society and I guess general media and now I am finally undoing all that through your videos. Thanks!

@MasalaMan 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife @MyNonLeatherLife It's hard to say...because it was such a slow, gradual thing, you know? But it probably started somewhere near approaching my mid twenties(later twenties now) maybe it was just easier to be timid as I got older. Late teens and early twenties was probably when I was doing it right. I remember I used to love taking the lead and the girl would pretty much be like 'OK.' Haha.

@amorosogombe9650 3 года назад

Right. Our normal natural self was shamed out of us. I always felt in my heart that if this is wrong why does it feel so natural and all these other things we are being told we should be like feel so unnatural. How could all these billions of years of evolution have got it all so wrong? When all along it was toxic wokeness that's been the real problem destroying all that is natural, enjoyable and beautiful between men and women. When I was younger and went out to clubs and never had all these insecurities about being seen as a 'pervert' I had this thing about spanking girls I was dancing with. You know what I realised looking back? There wasn't a single time I can remember, looking back, that I went out, danced with a girl, spanked her and didn't get laid that very night. Not once. They couldn't get thier knickers off fast enough. Conversely every time I reigned myself in and tried to be all safe and risk free for them, yup, you guessed it. I went home alone. We need to stop shaming natural masculinity. Men and women exist for each other. We're symbiotes not enemies. We need each other just as we are and just as mother nature intended. Stop shaming it. It's doing massive harm to both sexes and to society.

@TheNightmareTroll 3 года назад

you can be nice and dominant happy and smiling and dominant asf

@Hombre_Astuto 3 года назад

@@amorosogombe9650 I think in America as a black male it’s even worse. If you show any perceived aggression outside of sports the cops comin. I’ve had a couple close calls at work. As soon as it’s sensed people( normally white females). start saying calm down and all that and I’m like huh. Me and this Italian guy I used to work with Always talked about this.

@unknowninfinium4353 3 года назад

@davy boy Is he legit? I saw a video on how AMS was exposed. With so many people lying left and right it's hard to believe who is right.

@amac0612 3 года назад

you're probably the most honest girl I've seen on internet

@amorosogombe9650 3 года назад

Roger that. I don't think I've ever seen any woman being this honest online.

@user-wm2tw 3 года назад

Ok . Now Foff.

@ruskinjetter5799 3 года назад

Amen, you rule with your honesty.

@pickledtesticles2870 3 года назад

Hey abdullah arent you supposed to be segragated from women you hypocrite

@kaano3770 3 года назад

More like the most honest woman ever

@antiherojourney6344 3 года назад

Refreshing to see a women vocalise this. Most women portray dominance as toxic not desirable

@perad1895 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife humans are weirdos aren't they

@petroglyph79 3 года назад

When women have to rely on men to protect them for survival then that makes the man dominant. Especially if she feels she wants to be dominanted

@MadaraUchiha-ly8wr 3 года назад

A lot of guys and girls can't just be friends, and those whom are friendzoned as brothers and sisters. Taking this straight off case there's a great deal of conception that girls always disrespect a BETA for an ALPHA. Adding more to the dating difficulties feminist and their dominate stand against men are killing the attraction. Even those women who live to leave false accusations against certain men.

@formallyknownasjojoemc3174 3 года назад

They've been conditioned by the media.

@vaughnamir.6457 3 года назад

it's reverse psychology. Women do this frequently to separate men who think for themselves, from men who are thought for. It's subconscious, but still.

@DavidGarcia-kw4sf 3 года назад

The most miserable and unhappy woman I ever met was also unwilling to ever give up even the slightest bit of control. Tells you something.

@eduardog9243 3 года назад

Yup, but never forget it's whoever man she was with whose at fault for letting it get to that point

@joshuastinson4642 3 года назад

Tells YOU something, apparently

@yellowmr1 3 года назад

What's that ?

@theeclectic2919 3 года назад

The modern woman has adopted all the traits of a man. And that's a HUGE turn off.

@mmestari 3 года назад

@@theeclectic2919 "The modern woman has adopted all the traits of a man. And that's a HUGE turn off." Not all the traits of man, only the worst traits of a man.

@rickybobby5950 7 месяцев назад

I see an HR department visit in my future! 😂

@bendonkin9449 3 года назад

Be Aragorn. Strong, brave, protective, nurturing, a leader. Be Aragorn.

3 года назад

But he dies in the story bro

@bendonkin9449 3 года назад

@ Aragorn dies? Are you talking about Boromir?

@Soulmaster187 3 года назад

@ literally all people die

@motherfuckingagorithimcomm6136 3 года назад

@ also has a happy wife with kids Dead But a dub in life

@steviepigford2356 3 года назад

TELL IT 👍😁 !!!!!

@marcgardner9865 10 месяцев назад

Why am I just learning all of this in my 40’s? Society has taught men to be submissive and nice which is the opposite of what women want. I’ve lost so much time and I’m pissed.

@mateaukalua4426 7 месяцев назад

At 40 something you can be a dominant DILF. Some women have fantasies about that kind of shyt. Anyways do you man.

@jaybrick8973 6 месяцев назад

If you aren't getting women just do the opposite of what you're doing 😂

@mateaukalua4426 6 месяцев назад

@@jaybrick8973 It's not that simple and as men a lot of times we aren't even aware of what we're doing.

@Karll541 6 месяцев назад

Same feelings

@masterandkerranginparticul4324 4 месяца назад

@@sp123wrong, the ones who have to knowledge to pass it on refuse to do so, ie. society = women

@Earlvis 3 года назад

Men have this fear that if he pins a woman up against the wall that he may go to jail for assault. It’s in the back of all of our minds.

@DJDAVINCI 3 года назад

Exactly

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

well u have to work up to this little by little don't just spring it on someone

@jeminigemi 3 года назад

To quote Louis CK: "You think i'm just gonna rape you on the off chance that hopefully you're into that shit?" Yes means yes, and no means no, except for the time it means yes. Clear as crystal. Guys aren't assertive as girls would like them to be because if they misinterpret the signals even just once, it's game over for them. I mean we can read signals sometimes but we're not freaking mind readers. Women want men to be perfect (strong, charming, popular, powerful, funny, wealthy, intuitive at reading her signals, assertive in just the right way without being an asshole, tall, etc), but they cant even communicate what they are actually looking for. Us guys will have to continue to work on striving for ultimate perfection, but can you girls at least meet us halfway and maybe start using your words? The already high expectations are already tough enough, expecting us read minds too is just straight up fantasy. No wonder why relationships are failing in the 21st century. The expectations are getting a little bit ludicrous.

@davidisrael5627 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife hahahah well spoken :)

@magnificencetv7424 3 года назад

@@jeminigemi ur words are gold my friend

@adikickass84 3 года назад

I love this chick's intros. She always starts off all formal like "Hello, it is I, Victoria" and then proceeds to spit some real down and dirty facts about sexuality. Good shit hahaha

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Lol

@hectormunoz7009 2 месяца назад

Brutal

@FASTECAUTO 3 года назад

Basically a guy that got his shit together....a guy who knows what he wants and goes for it... Simply an independent guy...I'm Telling you,until she's really really into you she doesn't need to know how important she is to you.

@RR-et6zp 2 месяца назад

lead, say facts, have strong frame, stuff like that

@teddaniels1270 3 года назад

After three marriages and 80+ years of fascination with women, it's still refreshing and terrific to get this wisdom. Huge thanks MNLL

@Shadow77999 3 года назад

Damn

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

oh wow so cool to hear that, thank you Ted

@mateaukalua4426 7 месяцев назад

Fascination with Bullshyt.

@mateaukalua4426 7 месяцев назад

@@donjoe1542 😂 Got to love old school LMFAO.

@doctordef324 7 месяцев назад

Damn, 😮 , 80 year olds and on the internet commenting... !🥴

@peachluck1050 2 года назад

For a woman, acceptable male dominance = confidence, assertiveness, and, most importantly, a man’s ability to impose appropriate boundaries in the relationship. Thank you for this great video.

@rohw0016 8 месяцев назад

So basically modern day misogyny.

@theskyizblue2day431 7 месяцев назад

So for a female we will have acceptable submissiveness = no 304 pics, no clubs, no girls night out, no solo gym/therapy/massage sessions

@ceooflonelinessinc.267 7 месяцев назад

How can I be dominant if I am disabled as a man?

@peachluck1050 7 месяцев назад

@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 - Okay, ceo, try being the CEO of self-confidence, assertiveness, and creating appropriate boundaries. Your main disability may be the lack of these characteristics-they take patience and self-discipline. What cha got, bro?

@haskellbear 7 месяцев назад

@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 , it may be more difficult, but it basically means be completely secure in yourself. That means to like yourself like you would like a superhero who has both qualities and flaws. Be non-needy. Don't seek (too much) validation. Make an offer. If it's not answered, don't push it. Cultivate multiple sources of joy: A skill that you're good at and that maybe also brings money. A skill that you enjoy doing and that you keep polishing. Creative pursuits. This can be writing, playing an instrument or making electronic music, painting, photography. This will make it a lot easier to be non-needy. Learn to say "no". Basically, at the extreme you only do the things you want to do, not because you expect something in return. And, if you don't want to do something someone asks, you tell them.

@kaskynightblade8490 3 года назад

Thank you. I'm done being a beta. Ive tried being nice, and understanding. I'm done. I will go to my older self, that one in high school who didn't give a f about what ppl think about him. I need that guy back.

@joelhenry4643 3 года назад

How are you going to get that guy back? What have you started doing? thanks

@CryPHage 3 года назад

This comment spoke to my soul.

@mrfranks4730 3 года назад

@@joelhenry4643 don't being needy and doing your own things maybe?

@giorgikhutiashvili4774 3 года назад

@@joelhenry4643 this is a slow thought process. In my case it started with the fact that I was constantly feeling that i am not naturally a nice guy. I am not the one who is soft and easy. I was feeling from inside that back then when I was a kid, i was more natural and now I am some sort of scarcity bitch. First thing what you would notice about your current self is that you fear damn lot of things, right ? the Beginning and the end is to face all those artificial fears you created for those years, that is how you going back to your old self. Not an easy task But.. that is the price we sheep must pay for saying no to our true selves

@von6413 3 года назад

@@joelhenry4643 basically stop caring and just vibe. Don’t be like “oh I wonder what they think of me” etc etc. Soon as you stop caring TOO much about stuff like that, you’re on the right path.

@You-xt7xm 3 года назад

You have incredible insight and you take the time to explain your point of view. Although I'm a 61 old man and happily married there was a time when I dated many many women. So I happen to know women pretty well. What women really want are men who are not easily influenced; men who have drive, direction and confidence in themselves; men who, as Fredrich Nietzche would describe, are those that do not have a herd mentality by not simply following the crowd. Rather they carve out their own destiny in life. These men make their own luck, never blame others for their failures, but rather admit fault and learn from It. Women look for signs in men that correlate with these traits. This is why many women tend to seek out "bad boys". There are close similarities between the "Alpha" male (as described about) and bad boys who seem to elude confidence and ability to conquer life. However, bad boys normally have confidence until they meet their first real life challenge. Then they fold like a deck of cards and blame everyone around them for their failures but themselves. It is important women can discern the difference between the two characters. Also, although your advise is accurate for men, it is of vital importance that men really believe in themselves and not simply put on an act. Women will see through that eventually. Just as they will see their mistakes in dating "bad boys" with little internal true attributes or true confidence. You must work on yourselves internally. Once you've accomplished this internal work the outward manifestations of confidence will come pouring out. In other words don't fake it, truly live it with confidence. Never ever feel sorry for yourself or think the world is against you. Stay positive. Be true to who you really are. If you need to change then change yourself. I promise you at that point women will find you.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Agree with all of that, so well said. Thanks for gifting the comment section with ur wisdom, I hope guys read it and learn from it

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

I liked the point about the bad boys crumbling at the first challenge too, makes sense

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

How did you find my channel?

@Bubbles-od2tv 7 месяцев назад

You should start a channel :)

@PRINCEPOPMUSIC Месяц назад

Thank you ♥️ for this

@rbaraka1 3 года назад

Your video is on point. My wife was drawn to my assertiveness and willingness to take the lead. I believe when I was single it was a major factor when I was dating.

@TaxEvasi0n 3 года назад

The man is player 1, the woman is player 2. You don't play the womans game, she plays in yours. Don't be a door matt. Let her pick where to eat sometimes, but 90% of the time you must be making the decisions.

@1anre 3 года назад

Even if she’s the one bringing him the bacon? Slotted it there for some context

@KjvYaBoii 3 года назад

@@1anre yessir, its many career women who want to feel dominated because they are the ones calling the shots at work. They don’t want to have to call the shots at home too

@bromance3496 3 года назад

Can you please add some more context. I really understand why men should make most of the decisions? I'm so confused how choosing where to eat plays into this sorta stuff.

@doulayebangoura8318 3 года назад

@@bromance3496 Based off of my experiences dealing with women, they don’t know what they want have the time. Even if I ask a simple yes or no answer they’ll think too deeply on it.

@bromance3496 3 года назад

@@doulayebangoura8318 oh ok

@hurstdevin 3 года назад

There is only one thing wrong with her advise and videos: DANG I WISH I WOULD HAVE HEARD THESE YEARS AGO! I have spent so much time as a "Closet Dom" trying to conform to PC speech and sensitivity. I spent way to long curtailing that part of me! That doesn't mean I go Caveman in public. But to embrace that portion of my personality and run with it! Not just in the bedroom but in my practice and business affairs!! The encouragement IS SO PROFOUND!

@DiaboloZ 6 месяцев назад

dominance. it’s just taking lead. it’s just strength. it’s just power. it’s just a guy who can show he is not afraid of you and they can take on difficult situations as they occur.

@RR-et6zp 2 месяца назад

yeah but also in daily situations, she expects you to fix stuff

@Jay_Bless 3 года назад

Found you today and almost watched everything. These days, society has given us a very thin line between expression of our natural masculinity and sexual assault... it's so tricky. Your voice comes in so handy.

@Jay_Bless 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife Ofcourse. Please address that thin line. At what point does it become assault? We have a natural desire to express masculinity in a society of ladies that publicly say it's unjust yet secretly have a natural craving for it. How do we tread that line, from a lady's perspective?

@max-mtg 3 года назад

@@Jay_Bless huge facts great point Bro men have always been this way then society punished us for showing any sign of it.

@mreverybody1150 3 года назад

@@Jay_Bless The thin line is defined by the artist drawing it. At work a comment from one guy is a compliment....but that same comment from another guy = HR office...

@Huey111 3 года назад

@@Jay_Bless I’ll still be masculine I don’t care about what the other people say

@Jay_Bless 3 года назад

@@Huey111 One day when you are presidential candidate, 3 ladies will claim you 'assaulted them 35yrs ago' and it won't be easy to pull off....

@nikolasissofokleous4091 3 года назад

When you talked about this truth in women, I felt my inner masculine power waking up... :)

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

wow so what were u feeling when that happened, that's so cool

@SHIVAMYadav-pw5uz 3 года назад

Exactly..... I do feel same..

@arsenal4444 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife I'd describe it as a flame of conviction and intent that men carry in their heart/chest, and you can tell when a man lets that flame fill their voice and eyes in the way they speak and look/focus, and their arms and legs in the way they move. You can also tell when it's missing or been beaten out of them as their eyes will lack a shine and a focus on something, but will give off a blank stare. I imagine this fiery flame 'look' could seem sexual or passionate from a woman's perspective, from another man's it's more a sense of someone dead set on a goal, who responds quickly to changing circumstances, with whom you'd be an instant friend or enemy, decided the moment your paths cross in any way, and depending on whether you were out to help them in a mutual goal or get in the way.

@Cameron-jk2uy 3 года назад

This is the most refreshing channel on intersexual dynamics I've ever come across. It's both brutally honest and yet also very life-affirming. Now I'm rummaging through all your previous videos and they're all gems. If you ever write a book (which you should), you have a written promise that I'll buy it.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

😂 wow cameronsito I'm really touched thank you

@miked2513 6 месяцев назад

uh, thought you were married?! @@mynonleatherlife ..."a touch too much"

@doovy3 3 года назад

You're so right~and most women will say the opposite; they'll say they want the nice guy who WON'T dominate them. A guy has to assert himself, or he'll be forever in the friend zone. Sexual attraction isn't about friendship, it's about excitement~and without conflict there's no excitement. I like the end of "An Officer and a Gentleman", where he walks into her work, and just carries her out the door.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

there is truth to that too though because it is something I think they want to play with in the bedroom and perhaps romantically but outside the bedroom I certainly want someone who won't dominate me but has alpha traits so that he has the skills to be able to succeed and protect and gain status when need be

@RR-et6zp 2 месяца назад

yeah but they cant tell you what they look for otherwise you arent authentic

@user-ro9qc2ye7o 3 года назад

All of your videos really hit the nail on the head I fear I'll be stuck watching you videos for several hours straight if I dont stop myself lmao

@TeachMeHowToDugy 3 года назад

I appreciate the straightforwardness of your messages. So many content creators today seem like they’re more focused on the editing and the production quality than the actual content itself ... but when I listen to you, I really feel connected to what you’re saying because it just feels more authentic than everything else out there.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

your comment is so thoughtful...thank u so much. It inspires me too cause I'm thinking now that I have more subscribers I should prob stop being like that crazy guy in the meme with string all around the pushboard--I hear it is charlie from always sunny in philadelphia.LOL but if I try too hard at anything in life it often blows up in my face so your comment is extremely encouraging to me, thank u

@TeachMeHowToDugy 3 года назад

Hahahaha the Charlie comment omg. That just solidified everything I already felt about you. You’re a real one indeed lol. Seriously though, best of luck with the channel. I stumbled upon your content just this past week, and judging from the other comments which seem to be recent, it seems you’re gaining traction. I’m not saying don’t try new things and do your best to hone your craft. If that’s what you need to do to grow and be sustainable then I understand that. But don’t dive so deep into that that you lose your authenticity and quality of your message. Because that’s really your bread and butter.

@XTheSpartanX7 2 года назад

Say it louder Jason!!!! Very much agreed.

@laylabug39 3 года назад

A light bulb just switched, I never realised it was dominance I was REALLY attracted to. I can feel my feminine energy vibrating through my body watching this haha. I’ve been binge watching your videos, please do more! ☺️

@alex47_in_downtown18 Год назад

Ngl I got hard reading your comment...I'm sorry but your feminine energy radiated from the screen...lol

@ZenPepperClub 7 месяцев назад

Does it make you feel a little bit wet😂😂😂

@Eczentrik 3 года назад

I always wondered why cant women ever be this honest about these things... in all the years alive on this earth... thank you sis...

@DarinDmarkovic1 3 года назад

Before I watch this video I just gotta say, I only watched one video of yours and your honesty is so appreciated, it all makes sense and thanks for the book recommendation "Mode one" I read it in a couple days.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Awesome! I’m very glad to hear that ur liking the vids and thank you for telling me and for your support. Did u like mode one?

@CommandoMaster 7 месяцев назад

Problem is when u first meet a girl, u don't know where her boundaries stand, and if u push too far, then she will reject u and u lose ur chance (u could also get reported/arrested).

@sven888 Месяц назад

That's why you can love a woman but don't forget the teachings of Jesus.

@johnny_sins_himself 7 месяцев назад

you have no idea how much I needed to hear this, and how many breakthroughs this is opening up for me. Thank you

@liamcurran5612 3 года назад

I didn't have luck with girls most of high school, I was shy. Then I tried out for the musical and got the lead role. It was Jekyll and Hyde. Not only was I singing most of the songs but I was also playing both a gentle man and an evil monster. Looking back on it I didn't know why I all of the sudden got so much female attention after that and a girlfriend but your videos are starting to make me understand why.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

omg that's so cool...wow so u think they were responding to your method acting or just the fact they saw u in that light in the play all of a sudden?

@liamcurran5612 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife Lol I think seeing me like that was part of it.. no one knew I could sing or anything like that. What I was also getting at is I think the girls were attracted to the dark and domineering performance I was doing in the play.

@liamcurran5612 3 года назад

@Carbon Campaign Well I was in my element and felt a lot more confident. Since then I got lost but I'm starting to remember what that was like.

@BigBuddhaTV 3 года назад

@@liamcurran5612 acting is also a way of getting in touch with his own demons and emotions also while being vulnerable for the audience to judge. This is a thing not a lot of people are willing to do. You got my respect (Filmmaker/Actor). (you should also check out the Hammer Film Dr Jekyll and Sister Hyde)

@TheSpecialJ11 Год назад

Women seem to want a Dr Jekyll in the streets and a Mr Hyde in the sheets.

@vladimirchernikov4249 3 года назад

Your videos have been very educational for me. At work, or in my personal life, no one seems to want to tell me what I am doing wrong or what I'm not bringing out of myself--of how women perceive us. Much thanks!

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

awesome Vladimir...so do you think ur doing anything wrong and do u think u can adjust?

@antonthemanton3065 3 года назад

I tried taking the lead in approaching a woman for a relationship recently.... now i'm waiting for my day in court for sexual harassment....

@BIG_DRU 3 года назад

🤣🤣🤣 well keep that same confidence in jail....

@scorpionmk1595 3 года назад

@@BIG_DRU Amen

@truffle6082 3 года назад

Not all women are the same but never approach . With sexual dominace approach with masucline dominace

@southernlight6 2 года назад

@@truffle6082 Exactly right!

@lucasrodrigues9766 8 месяцев назад

I hope this was a joke

@danielfreeman649 3 года назад

I feel like you're in touch with your intuition in a deep way, that is fantastic. Thanks for sharing 👍

@hadyanalfaridzi12 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife A Woman who honest about her feeling and intuition with her self and even confess it, is an amazing Respectfull woman😁. Salute!!

@caucasianafrican1435 3 года назад

I appreciate your willingness to be honest with yourself and with others. That's *true* open-mindedness.

@raymondbakken8577 3 года назад

I belief you are correct... And, I belief it is hard for us men to find the right sexual balance in these «me too» days. In adition, as a guy, being the (only) one craveing for sex in a relationship, kind of makes you feel fussy, so after some rejections you stop. But then the women gets frustrated in the relationship, because she feels unwanted...

@AmarYahu 3 года назад

*I fux with you heavy, Victoria...keep dropping the science for these Fellas.* 💯💪🏿

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

haha thanks a lot, you made me laugh...I'm like bill nye the science guy out here. :)

@marklarochelle3175 3 года назад

I hope that you gain at least 100 million followers and subscribers. You are talking the MOST sense that I've heard in years. Thank you for your continued efforts, and well crafted content. I WILL recommend you to all of my friends. Well done. You nailed it down, yet again.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Wow thanks so much Mark, I really appreciate that. It means a lot as I get a bunch of negative comments as well that makes it hard to focus but comments like yours really inspire me to keep going

@marklarochelle3175 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife Your measured and methodical thoughtfulness is shining through via your desire to be earnest. Men and women... ALL of us need more of this. Thank you again. I am paying attention to your words.

@JoeJ-8282 3 года назад

VERY well said!... You are one of the most honest, direct, AND aware of herself and her true desires, and not afraid to tell it like it really is, girls on ALL of RU-vid, which is awesome!... More guys need to understand this stuff about the way women actually REALLY think and TRULY and very strongly desire from a guy as a sexual lover and partner!... Basically, Dominance is RAW, very direct, bold, assertive, even animalistic, a strong leader, but NOT dangerous OR in ANY way abusive OR manipulative, because those last traits are essentially narcissistic, which is NOT attractive to anyone!

@joz411no8 3 года назад

It’s not about being a jerk to a woman, but we’re animals. Never forget that.

@barunjena6171 3 года назад

Animals with conscience. Don't forget THAT.

@eduardog9243 3 года назад

We're not animals, we were created in the image and likeness of God. In fact all of this is literally in the first book of the bible Adam didn't protect the garden (his home/wife) from danger (satan) He went again God's commands and instead obeyed his woman (giving up on righteousness and being the leader) and going against his core beliefs The father's if the Church in fact tell us even though Eve did sin, Adam bore most of the responsibility as he was supposed to be in charge

@elijahrector2168 3 года назад

I ain’t no damn animal

@joshKirito 3 года назад

@@eduardog9243 see you are showing that guys need to be dominant and it's the way it was meant to be. If we are responsible for the girl too then yes we are going to be dominant

@joshKirito 3 года назад

@@eduardog9243 also in 4th grade science class I learned that humans are "the smartest animals" so that will always stick with me

@human1505 3 года назад

You are empowering men. Im so glad I found this channel .

@michaelfasher 7 месяцев назад

The most classic example of this is the "What restaurant do you want to eat at?" conundrum. This question is the bane of every man's life. Every man has asked this question of a woman and been met with "I dunno you choose." This drives men crazy but the solution is just not to ask and make a command decision and present it as a fait acompli.

@LawrenceDuffy477 3 года назад

Yes confidence is the first, abundance is the 2nd. Abundance isn't just "lots a fish in the sea" thing. It's a de attachment. Betas worry about "If I say this she might think that...." With an abundance mindset you are not locked into the "She might be the one" thing and get all nervous. I just walk up to a girl and get her to laugh, or whatever. Not a care in the world what she might say or think.

@The_Questionaut 7 месяцев назад

We all die anyway, who cares right?

@TerioTyrone 6 месяцев назад

Cold hard motherfuckin facts

@carlos002nz 3 года назад

You make me think about it, Victoria. Thanks so much. In presence I was always blocked with the idea of a girl / a woman feeling that she liked to me before saying " Hello,..." On the Internet I'm natural. I do not feel that pression. I haven't been dominant TILL NOW.

@veganm8918 3 года назад

Wow have not seen you in forever...as always your perspective is interesting and noteworthy! How are you?

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Hello vegan M, I have emerged from the crypt after 9 months lol. Preparing for my vegan thanksgiving tomorrow :) Thank u for longtime listening and commenting, it is much appreciated

@sirchristopherstephenwyndh9364 Год назад

Men walk a fine line with our actions and emotions with women, because we are one phone call away from losing our rights and being locked away, because of Karen. How women feel about us means very little compared to our actual freedom.

@sdrfgt 7 месяцев назад

Men need protecting from toxic emotionally abusive Women, and they're in abundance

@intricatic 3 года назад

I was brought up in private schools with class sizes of like 4. I was awkward as hell the first time I had sex, and the girl I was with was super-assertive and basically dragged me into a threesome with another girl while we were skipping class. I'm personally a switch - I can be super aggressive/assertive, but I absolutely appreciate the same quality in the women I'm with. It's a much rarer quality than the submissive/subservient type, which in excess can be a major turnoff.

@lijh 2 месяца назад

"I'll take stuff that never happened for $1,000 Alex!"- Cool story Bro.

@nateo200 11 месяцев назад

I used to not see myself as being very dominant because most of the time I have a quiet type of dominance. I used to think of it as a physical thing, I go to the gym and I'm a pretty big guy so I assumed it was that but my close female friends said it had more to do with the fact that I had "quiet confidence" and this usually came out best when I stopped over thinking it.

@lijh 2 месяца назад

You're at best tall. Your photo is of a lean guy....cool story Bro.

@thatbme35 Месяц назад

Every time I over think or doubt my actions I find myself browsing your channel. I'm never too far off, nore you❤

@Brindlebrother 3 года назад

Absolutely true. Important video. It's unfortunate that the "dominance" angle is overly sexualized in our (at least American) culture and also kind of lost in the whole discussion of equality and how no one sex is superior and all that. But dominance does not mean unequal and dominance does not mean 'mean' or abusive.

@megatron6382 3 года назад

Let me explain which types of dominance women want in men.. Imagine,you run at 20kmph and a woman at 17kmph..since you are ahead so you stop putting effort in yourself for better performance but she keeps doing it and reach 20kmph..now you have been challenged,either you force yourself to come out of your comfort zone (tough) or pull her legs.. women love being dominated by us men but by our strength not by their weakness.. Here are examples 1-your was at 20,she was at 17,now you are at 20 and she is at 20..you pull her leg.. 2-you was 20,she was at 17..you are at 20,she is at 20..you compare yourself to her and put some effort to reach at 23 and then stop putting effort again.. 3-you were at 20,she was at 17..but you believe in constant improvement in yourself so you never went in comfort zone,you keep putting effort and the moment she reached at 20,you are at 28..difference is 8 now but here is a secret,this difference is not between you and her but between you of today and you of yesterday..you compare yourself to who you were yesterday,not someone today..

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

this is genius. great stuff. I totally agree...may be slightly unrelated, but I see some male dating gurus telling women to embrace their feminine, be weak and submissive and men expecting them to behave the "right" way...similar to your analogy of a man pulling their leg instead of men leveling up and improving themselves and their running speed. This is really good--guys learn from this. Meet the challenge and challenge yourself to gain strength, don't expect women to be weaker.

@megatron6382 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife ,i gave three different senario as examples and explain about three way of dominance..in first two senario(most people fall in this category), everyone will loose their mental peach because the core of this dominance is fear of loosing..in third senario, that's dominance came from the strength from within..full and deeper level of satisfaction..

@TheTuthur31 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife So, what we have to expect from a woman ? Because I feel like men have to be dominant, to be fearless, to be agressive, tall, strong, powerful, protective, successful, ... But what woman have to be ? What woman do ? If at least we can’t expect them to be feminine what the point ?

@catholicdad 3 года назад

What the fuck are you talking about?

@RyuThe3rd 2 года назад

@@catholicdad lool

@farhan3519 3 года назад

This is crazy. I always pictured my married self as the "nice and romantic all the time" guy. But you have opened my eyes to a totally different perspective, which seems to have existed since time immemorial. Come to think of it, the society i live in has actually conditioned me into disowning my raw and natural self.

@Phoenix-pm2qr 3 года назад

Same here!

@kevinsolove458 3 года назад

Feel ya...

@TheDobermannnn 3 года назад

I am flabbergasted by your honesty. You deserve more subscribers.

@steevewhitehead1416 3 года назад

Good chat, refreshing to here from the ladies.

@wingnutmcspazatron3957 3 года назад

Ever since I've taken back control of myself and realized "I'm a gorilla in a primal world" and have unleashed my cravings to be domineering and strong, my sex life has EXPLODED. My fucking GOD women love it, like they fricken NEED it to be satisfied. This is all 100% true and everyone in my life (including myself) is happier because of it.

@trailerkeller6760 2 года назад

STOP APPING AROUND !!!!

@kitschgod Год назад

Ur trolling

@Jukelikesgames 7 месяцев назад

Lol

@uncledodad 7 месяцев назад

Your probably still a virgin.

@georgebaber681 7 месяцев назад

Curb your language concerning God.

@TheEmosesnepho Год назад

Basically, Dont chase the women. Be a man of strong character, donot compromise your character for anyone. Character is the only thing you take withe you to the grave. Be yourself if they dont like it, move on. Donot give a shit about what others think about you. Donot fear death and you will fear nothing. This is the definition of a real man.

@gabrielchirino-melgarejo4313 3 года назад

Thanks I needed to hear this at a time when I’m trying to find myself . The best shot of confidence I needed

@warrioreon11 3 года назад

Once problem actually is that a lot of the time with the action sharing your thoughts and true feelings, there is also your reputation that is put on the line with whatever you decide to share. Once your reputation goes sour, there's little you can do to reverse it.

@beryosa 2 года назад

There are a lot of guys who like me but not many, almost nobody stands up for me against other guys. I mean, I never felt like I need someone. I can handle any guy myself. But there was this one guy who stood up and said actually the truth and wasn't afraid to stand up for me and PROTECT me even though I didn't even need it. It felt so good just to know that there is somebody who you don't have to be strong with, you can just be a "little girl" and he will protect you. I don't want to be that in life but it feels good to have this ONE MAN in your life you can be that "little girl" protected and safe.

@mynonleatherlife 2 года назад

❤️💯🙌

@danteshollowedgrounds 7 месяцев назад

This makes a lot of sense.

@barackobama3719 2 года назад

Women don’t care about us men, but this angel does.

@thegermanball9336 3 месяца назад

😂 lmao

@thegermanball9336 3 месяца назад

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@delazis421 3 года назад

Currently binge watching your channel!

@davin6175 3 года назад

I understand what you're saying and appreciate the honesty. But it is difficult to find a way to non verbally exude a masculine "dominance" without tipping over the line to something unattractive like egotistim, or worse yet later coming on as creepy or scary. "Reading" the signs has always been a difficult game, but these days it's only gotten more dangerous as well.

@mathedguy 3 года назад

Your deep honesty is truly wonderful. May God bless you. I wish I had heard you when I was young.

@fandude7 3 года назад

You are one wise lady. Great insight and advice. Thank you for your videos.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Thank you fandude7

@johnfarley4201 7 месяцев назад

Bless you for commenting and posting. Very interesting

@killermouse877 18 дней назад

Informative vid, appreciate your willingness and courage to inform men. 👍

@whome6168 3 года назад

Yo I stumbled upon your channel and I really enjoyed your content, you're on to something big and I wish you and your channel as much growth as you can handle.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Thanks a lot Who Me...I appreciate that a lot. I like how you said “as u can handle” cuz ur on to something there

@elvnprince 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing this, especially for highlighting that women desire to be led sexually more often then they admit. I am a guy that women generally feel safe around because of how empathic and emotionally intelligent I am. So my main fear would be that she suddenly feels unsafe because I expressed interest in her sexually. I'm also interested in developing intimate friendships over a monogamous relationship, so I want to clearly communicate as well, which feels cumbersome a lot of the time. I hope to figure out how to articulate all that in fun and lighthearted ways that invitate without pressure.

@Lanzy4lee 3 года назад

This channel is on point and deserves more views and in time will grow.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Thank you

@Master_Chief_0_0 3 года назад

I might have to watch some more of you ! Its really helped me a lot.. thats it for today.. thanks so much !

@liamross7 3 года назад

This channel is about to blow up like crazy!

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

it kinda already has i'm amazed. before that 1 vid started being recommended so much by youtube i had under 1000 subs, now I am here in a couple of days

@onlyamir4ge 7 месяцев назад

An ex told me I looked like others could easily take advantage of me being skinny and that I needed to be more assertive. So yeah everything you're saying is true I just learned it the hard way.

@parsivulldielectric8177 3 года назад

Thank you for being so honest, and speaking the truth

@W0RLDP34CE 3 года назад

Good to see some open honesty

@liamross7 3 года назад

You have so much amazing content it's insane, thank you

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Thank u very much william, which of the content do u find the most helpful

@liamross7 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife It's knowing that I can be attractive to most women without the things that I thought I needed. It's the belief that I have of my own attractiveness that is most important. This is what your providing to men with your channel and it will makes all of the difference. I have studied pick up for years and never has anything hit me as hard as your perspective. I have the belief now that I can approach any women and have a real shot with them.

@j3ffn4v4rr0 3 года назад

I've been watching lot of Russian popular movies here on RU-vid....lots of them have English subtitles. It is SO typical in Russian romance stories for the man to be really really dominant. I mean, he takes what he wants....big time. Nothing will sway his path. He will take the woman from her husband, without a second thought. There's always a flip side, but it really goes to show how Russian culture still elevates traditional male/female dynamics. A fun one I watched last night was "Love Between Two Poles", where a woman falls for the ruthless (and super-masculine) gangster her (very boring and weak) police inspector husband is trying to put behind bars.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

haha wow so interesting. Reminds me of this one I watched recently 356 DNI but it was originally polish but had a very similar vibe. I didn't know it was a super popular theme to begin with. I could totally see that though. I love how strong russian women are and it makes sense that they want someone even stronger. I love how they never make themselves weaker...

@j3ffn4v4rr0 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife yup, that's the other side, the women are very strong but also extremely feminine...they defer to the strong men....but the weak men, they make their lives hell LOL They also (and I realize this is the movies not real life, but I'm sure it reflects the culture) the women wear high heels, different hairstyles every day, beautiful dresses for no particular reason, etc......the women are portrayed as constantly changing facets of beauty.....personally, I love it.

@MrRashef 3 года назад

it's not Russian, it's Polish, but anyway male/female dynamics in slavic countries are becoming less traditional everyday.

@MrRashef 3 года назад

@@j3ffn4v4rr0about that part of making weak men lives hell, I think it's actuall good side of women nature, because those men who realised they are being weak ,and are willing to change into the strong males as they were programmed by biology, the mindset is everything

@j3ffn4v4rr0 3 года назад

@@MrRashef Not sure what you mean, what is not Russian but Polish? Yes, I agree that the trend towards "balanced" male/female dynamics is affecting traditional countries, as well. Yet, there is still a stark cultural difference which can be seen in movies.

@jadenippersiel912 3 года назад

I really appreciate how you added in that it gets over complicated

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

do u agree?

@jadenippersiel912 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife yes, others make it sound like rocket science

@philipgilliam3400 Год назад

I love your videos. This one was SUPER helpful. 🎉

@miskelproducts41 3 года назад

Your content is great because it's simple but so profound...

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

thank you very much that is a huge compliment for me...I love simple yet profound things

@miskelproducts41 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife I subscribed to your channel cause, as a single man, it seems like these days women hate men and men wanna go live in the forest. Your content shows how we are connected at the deepest levels, which has not changed in thousands of years. Your commentary is honest and does not come from any contempt or hatred. Some of us are tired of fighting all the time. Thank you!

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

@@miskelproducts41 I really like what u wrote about how we actually are connected at the deepest level. Very profound and beautiful insight

@philosophyjunkies6693 3 года назад

RIP to the rocking chair, was never seen again after this video.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

lmao. It's in the room still.

@fp1965 7 месяцев назад

thanks for this video! thanks for this reflection and honesty!!

@AlchemicalTransfiguration 3 года назад

Thanks Victoria! Good to know.

@Mrmorlam1 3 года назад

I just love your honesty. I'd go out with someone for that if I'm attracted. I value it the most as a dominant guy. If a girl lies to herself and I see it, I'm instantly.turned off.

@erayvalois339 3 года назад

I dont want to be with a woman if i have to be something im not lmao. I'm self assured but I dont feel the need to dominate anyone. I prefer intellectual relationships tbh and i dont really want to act like a dominant guy when I dont see the point in it. I would rather be with a woman who is just as self assured in herself as i am in myself.

@dominicbrogsdale3348 3 года назад

Same nobody has time for the BS to much BS ill tell her she gone and when ik DONE IM DONE DONT COME BACK!!!

@russellklever9785 3 года назад

I'm. Wwith you buddy

@mugojr4766 2 года назад

It takes work, don't give up

@mateaukalua4426 7 месяцев назад

I am surprised no fake alpha dissed you in this thread. I agree being something you're not is exhausting. Trust me I have tried and it NEVER ends well.

@mfawls9624 5 месяцев назад

@@mateaukalua4426 I'm on the other end of that. Dated 3 years. About two years into marriage my wife suddenly becomes comfortable being who she really is, not the girl I dated. Also having kids changed a lot of the dominance equation.

@markrice9773 4 месяца назад

Incredible educational and powerful !! I am 70 years old with 46 1/2 years of marriage, having raised four children, three of which are women. I am gobsmacked by the simplicity and wisdom of her perspective as a woman in this presentation! What an epiphany!! It strikes me as oddly counterintuitive to all the women's lib propaganda we have been presented with the whole of my life in our culture. And yet, it also strikes me as an honest and necessary prod for a realignment of our societal assumptions. I think she is explaining the importance of a particular dance of male-female courtship, relationship, and balance in that relationship! Sometimes the simplest and seemingly obvious observations, the ones that lay dormant till some genius among us can articulate them, raises that zeitgeist, and makes a wonderful realignment!

@rg3412 7 месяцев назад

So accurate, so insightful, thank you.

@frahohen 3 года назад

Dominance is very simple to explain in terms of a relationship in my eyes. It's basically taking control and making decisions for her. Most girls these days are not able to give thier control and ownership to guys, because of feminism. Sometimes it's also fear, but you have to give up control in certain aspects to fully express love in a relationship.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Why do u think u have to give up control to fully experience love

@frahohen 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife In my opinion trust consist of two factors and that is loyalty and control. The third factor in a relationship is surrendering. I personally realized that I am not able to bond with a girl and have sex if I cannot trust her, because both should give instead to receive. There is also a good short explanation by Abraham Twerski on youtube. It's called "True love explained | Abraham Twerski". If you love someone you are loyal and you are also giving up control of parts of the life you are used to. Most girls are not able to do this these days and want a relationship, but they want everything as it is or they are used to and therefore just expect to receive. If I truly love someone, like I did in the past, I like to give without any expectation and your significant other does the same. This is also a form of respect to each other. If both reach the stage of trust, emotions can flow and both have no problem to surrender to each other and this is when both are ready to create new life. I think that our society got sick over the years with feminism and this MGTOW movements on both sides of the gender.

@randychief4284 3 года назад

@@frahohen wow you hit out the park very well said feminism is the stumbling block women programmed by society to have it all the fairy tale all loving prince charming great listener , attentive etc and selfempowerment female energy we are just as good if not better than men,in equal measure which both qualities can't run side by side

@robertbowling1230 3 года назад

This is one time I can honestly say Go Girl!

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Thanks Robert

@JordiMuntada 8 месяцев назад

Thank you for your message! I think that some of the fears men carry for not being dominant is the fear of being called "machista" or sexist. I think the messages that have been spreaded on how men don't have to be sexist are mixed or confused with the dominance that men want to pour in but don't want to show that for fear of being called sexist. Gary Yourofsky also changed my life!!

@calories14 2 года назад

You have great content! Simple and to the point no BS. Thanks 👏

@angel1seven1 3 года назад

Your are sincere and true, In all that you say. Thank you for making us men understand , How women feel and think. And what they Crave.

@bluefig797 2 года назад

This is probably the best channel to learn the raw truth of female sexuality.

@Nykoooo1 6 месяцев назад

You're really spot on with your videos

@loyal4theway159 3 года назад

I can't thank you enough for this video Your content is priceless

@XTheSpartanX7 2 года назад

The absolute truth. It starts with fitness which most guys neglect. Having a solid chest, shoulder, slim waist combo will have 99% of women feeling intimidated/insecure around you. After that they are like putty.

@brichardson1080 7 месяцев назад

hit or miss on this 'i think'. some girls like the dad bod and some girls like a fit bod.

@XTheSpartanX7 7 месяцев назад

@@brichardson1080 all women like a fit body, some do settle* for the dad bod tho

@brichardson1080 7 месяцев назад

@@XTheSpartanX7 disagree

@MrSaphen 2 месяца назад

Disagree especially with the small waist thing. Boi

@GreelTheMindRaker 3 года назад

Just found your channel and I really appreciate your insight and perspective. Your channel and presence is incredibly authentic and genuine compared to most of RU-vid. Thank you for making good content that is actually helpful. I do have a question, what are your thoughts with men sharing their mental health struggles? When I talk about this with women and be open about my struggles with anxiety/depression and how I regularly see a therapist, it's always met with positivity and encouragement but part of me feels like it flips a biological switch in a womans head that says "weakness - ABORT". Is this something I should just keep to myself at first or just avoid entirely? I'm struggling with trying to be more open about mental health and destigmatizing it for men in general but its hard when women look for and desire a well-rounded and strong man, even though at some point we are all weak.

@mynonleatherlife 3 года назад

Thanks Oliver, well I think u have a great point and this is complicated. I don’t totally know the answer here, there’s definitely not nothing to what you’re saying but at the same time owning your problems can be confident and sexy too. Like u said everyone has weakness and at some point you have to share them and people who really love you will love you for your weaknesses too. I know everyone I love has had major weaknesses and I know that in the case of depression and anxiety both of which I’ve had our weaknesses are also our strengths like honest, sensitivity, self awareness, caring about others and other things like that. If I’m really being honest tho I don’t know how true this is for everyone or if this is just me but if u can demonstrate dominance in the bedroom then a girl won’t care too much about how many issues u have in the rest of your life. That’s honestly how I feel. Idk if I’m more unique in that tho. It also might depend on whether u want a relationship or a casual thing...like casual u might want to keep it under wraps for a bit while relationship be open about it from the beginning cuz the goals are different. What are your thoughts about any of that

@GreelTheMindRaker 3 года назад

@@mynonleatherlife I think you summed it up perfectly. I think I have a tendency to scare women away when its more of a casual thing, so that would make a lot of sense. I have always been a little insecure in the bedroom, but something to work on for sure. I sincerely appreciate your well-thought out and elaborate response.

@jimweights8908 4 месяца назад

Just to say thank you for making such incredible honest content. This is information many suspected but it is generally not clear. The only thing that would make it better would be a short bullet point summary on last side. I feel like you are creating a portal of information through to the other side of the universe- thank you again

@mynonleatherlife 4 месяца назад

Thanks Jim!