You have no idea how much society needs a channel like yours. The manosphere has bred so much hatred and insecurity into young men because they listen to toxic coaches. But your channel is so welcoming and positive, and it's useful too. Thank you, know that the world thanks you for everything you do
As a woman I got lots from this too. It's known as common sence . There must be more like you. Toxic manhood means exactly what it says . Making the man poisonous .
1. Don’t try 2. Forget about happiness 3. You are not special 4. The value of suffering 5. You are responsible for everything that happens to you 6. You are wrong about everything 7. Failure is the way forward 8. Toxic vs. nontoxic relationships 9. The importance of saying no 10. When you say you’re going to do something, do it 11. And then . . . you die
Too true the more you become aware of death when you get older, the more you realise you must make the most of the time you've got. That doesn't mean trying to cram everything thing in every day. But doing the things you truly appreciate and value, which includes listening to your calm, collected delivery, but purposeful punchlines Lewis. 👏🏻🤗👍🏻
The concept of Amor Fati atleast touches most of these points and that to me is pretty crazy. Appreciate another amazing piece of teaching. Embracing one life philosophy like you said sounds impossible. I keep hopping from one belief system to the next. Settling down sounds like standing still..
I had a pendant with the words amor fati inscribed on it. This was before I became Christian and it was solid start to love fate before I started to love the fate giver. I wish you the best on building a solid worldview and belief system my friend.
I believe that an accommodater actually allows too much space for other people's *negativity* while hoping for their Positivity.... Remember, the people who you're trying to please have their own flaws they're trying to escape and a lot of people can't help but unload it onto anyone who's willing to listen. Pair one of those typical unloaders with a very empathetic accommodater and you'll find that the accommodater's load actually grows significantly - for an introvert, I can say that when all the outside noise quitens and you've had a lot of conversations with unloaders, you need something that demands your full attention to recentre yourself. Something physically and mentally invigorating is King. Thanks Lewis for this highly thought pricing video.
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Thank you for this bro. I'm 28 and I love that i still have my "inner child" - it keeps me happy and creative, and keeps spontaneity and joy in my life - but i do sometimes border on immaturity. I used to be in denial and say others were being "too serious" but over time I've learned to accept that i do have some immature traits. It's tought to try to grow while still maintining your inner child.
Reminds me of being in a remedial math class during my freshman year when fellow classmates laughed and made fun of me for not giving them the answer, because I told them to look for it themselves.
Thankyou I am ready to fail in my art 😊 Much better than failing to start again I'm afraid to fail . My fear stops my creativity from spontaneousness I love to create. My own judgement is hard on me
I want to add though, that you don't have to completely lose your inner child. A lot of people think that being an adult means you have to lose your curiosity about the world and abandon your happiness, when in reality it should be the most freeing time of your life to be able to do stuff which makes you happy. Of course, you need to be responsible and it's a bit weird to be watching Peppa Pig or whatever past the age of 5, but you don't need to be completely boring, bored, and miserable. That's the completely wrong idea on what adulthood and maturity is. Basically, learning the difference between immaturity (bad) and "having an inner child" (good) is the best thing you can do for healthy maturity. Also, so much random stuff is called "childish" for literally no reason --- especially if it's feminine. Why is pink "for kids"? Why are butterflies and animals in general "for kids"? Why are teddies and plushies "for kids" (unless it's Valentines, Mother's or Father's day --- _then_ adults can suddenly have them too)? Why are cartoons which don't swear or have shock "humor" every 5 seconds "for kids", when they were clearly made for everyone and sometimes even have subtle adult jokes as though it's intended to have adults also watching? I understand you need to let go of things which are _actually_ for kids (like a lot of cartoons are clearly just for teaching kids skills, counting, the alphabet, whatever), but a lot of the things we're scared of "being childish" are, again, the most random stuff with no logical basis whatsoever, oftentimes only meant to shame femininity or any desire to get away from the vulgar.
This is such an incredible video. It is the first I've seen that communicates my values in a way that can be understood. Im definitely writing each step down and putting it on my wall
I’m a people pleaser. Not because I want others to think positively about me. But because I want me to think positively about me. You think I need more assertiveness?
OH SHIT STILLNESS IS THE KEY I SEE THAT IN THE BACKGROUND!!! That book is AMAZING. Just discovered your channel, I'm all about positive masculinity. Cool to see you make these. Much love from Miami.
Ive read the book before so i was like wait that sounds familiar and its even chronologically in order, and i was about to say something till i watched till the end thanks for giving him credits this video is a great shortend version of it especially for people who don't like to read cause it's a really good book it was the first book I've ever read and the only one I enjoyed reading and this is perfectly summarized. I'd still recommend reading the book or at least giving it a try cause it has a lot more to say and to learn from. This video is still great to get a peak of it cause it has almost all of the important parts covered or just to rewatch to remember the things again but how we could already learn from this video you can always improve and grow and learn more about life and yourself
I'm afraid to say I lost my inner child at 20 (my current age), yet I'm looking to recover it. I lost my passion for filmmaking due to many factors, but my responsibility remains the same : I must come up with a plan, and my plan is to take a path linked to filmmaking. One reason I lost my passion was a classmate in filmmaking classes that seemed to have more practical experience than me. (Well, I admit it : he actually goes and searches for directing practicing everywhere he can, while I don't due to my lack of energy) But my only goal is now to keep persisting in university to pursue a career in film (as a crew member) or as a voice-over reader or narrator. Every time I talk in any language, the most repeated compliment I've ever had was that I speak like a narrator. I've heard this since I was 18, so I'll see if this voice-over thing could be a possible career.
This a great video and channel in general, your work is great. For anyone that wants to look further healthy relationships i'd recommend checking out the drama triangle and healthy triangle. Since learning about it i have noticed improvement in my own relationships as i can catch when i'm engaging in unhealthy dynamics and then that means i can work towards a healthy one ❤
Dear Newel You made psychology of warrior Can you do magician, king, and lover? I searched on it but you gave the best explanation, and tips on how to access them
I definately dont try. I do my best . Happiness should come naturally . I have a disability that causes me pain. Eventually i got used . I dont envy the rich or the rest. I am satisfied with me . Thats it.
My handbag is very orderly. I am a woman. Wait, I don’t have a handbag. My backback is very orderly. Love you, Lewis. Stereotypes even in jokes are tiresome. Thank you.
Where i work there is not employee focused and nor should it be if i wanted to have a sense of order there needs to be a top down order that i feel i can rebel against. Basically im just an asshole they hired whose responsible for the money in the cash register. So yeah im just not gonna try to be anybody special, instead i can take charge of bad situations and increase my status as an employee who can handle situations... and become a manager.. then with extra money i can invest in bigger things.. in my free time i do thinfs with my hands like music or drawing. Theres always a creative way to take advantage of the situations we are in.
Sure, "you're not special" can mean you're not uniquely good or cool --- but I'd like to remind people it _also_ means they're not uniquely bad or useless. People have delusions of both extremes. A lot of people treat "you're not special" as some sort of dark, worrying realisation --- some sort of cruel lesson you need to learn as you grow up --- when in reality it's more _comforting_ than anything. It takes a lot of pressure off you. You let yourself learn new things and be a silly beginner. You stop being angry at yourself for mistakes which you don't mind other people doing. It's really not as bad as some people like to frame it.
(I like to save videos and then when something sticks out I make a note on why I saved the vid so ignore this comment) NOTES FOR ME: 1:52 social media perfection is a lie, 3:39 so choose problems wisely, when making a decision ask “does this add good or bad problems to my life?” 3:48 upgrade the quality of problems to better kinds of problems 4:43 no such thing as a personal problem. My problems are not special and specific to me becuase others have dealt with it even if I never met them yet. I may be the only one who is me and deals with this because no one else can be me, but I shouldn’t gloom on my problems to a narcissistic level like this 5:09 the universe isn’t out to get you then 5:37 choose what you want to suffer with 8:56 We think we are average at things while others can think we are great 11:08 is someone you love or know close is abusive or toxic, you will probably reflect the same behaviors without realizing it 13:22 lovers do not love because they like the same things, they love because they can respect each other’s interests and enjoy the happiness an interest gives to one another 15:39 difference between kids and adults: one is told discipline the other sets their own discipline to grow
I played in the youth levels of pro basketball teams as a teen and my best game by far was the one where I couldn't give two shits about playing. I had just gotten my wallet stolen and without ID you are not allowed to play, my coach told me I was going to play anyway 3 minutes before tipoff and I was on fire that day
6:57 "Things we have complete control over" Goes on to mention attitudes, thoughts and decisions. If you believe those are things a human being has *complete* control over aka free will, I have a bridge to sell...😂 I do agree on the responsibility (present tense) and fault (past tense) part, though. Fault is a treacherous concept (just like free will) which can lead you in circles.
You know, at times it's actually difficult to watch your videos - I need to get out of myself 100% of my awareness to understand atleast half of your video without pausing. The value is huge in this video, but for me atleast it is difficult to consume it on a one watch. Maybe that's because I am not as experienced in life - I am just 17. Well, I guess that is good for you, you will get more watch time out of me haha.
Hahaha! Thanks for sharing mate. The videos are quite dense, and at times I'm quite wordy. I think if you find the length of these videos too long, the ones I've done under 10 minutes are more easy going. Anyway thanks for your support comrade!
@@NewelOfKnowledge I sure do watch some of those 10 min videos, but I wanted to watch the video about maturity hahahaha! But It is alright, I watched it, took effort, but did it for what was worth the value of the knowledge.
Are you Muslim, by any chance? What you said there about death is exactly what Islam says, especially the sentence, “let us wait for death, anywhere”. Shivers
You’re close minded and immediately jump to a conclusion that negates the possibility of what hes saying being true, probably as a means to feel like you already have this aspect under control. It’s called the law of reverse attraction and its a real thing. Its obviously not about just giving up like you made it seem to be, but I know you know that.
