The Adult Guide to Shedding ADHD Shame (with Linda Roggli, PCC) 

Undiagnosed or late diagnosed ADHD is the new way to discriminate people

It's reassuring to have finally found someone else diagnosed at 52. A year or so ago, I mentioned the possibility of me having it (I surely checked all the boxes for symptoms) to my younger psychiatrist who studied for her profession in the early 2000's. She is the youngest doctor I've ever seeked help from for my mental health. After I brought it up, she questioned that I didn't seem hyper & that I did well in school when I was young. (!?!!) I was shocked and disappointed that so recently the profession wasn't recognizing and teaching those who are entering the mental health field about this disorder. After getting to know me better, and being witness to some of my condition-related near-disasters, she wholeheartedly agrees I have quite a severe case of it (although she officially wrote the diagnosis as ADD, which I thought was outdated- I DO have some hyperactivity that she's never witnessed). I assume she continues to study her profession, I think all M.D.'s have to keep up with everything. She really turned out to be a great doctor, willing to change her views and not stubbornly deny my problem. But really, both of you are so on point about the discrimination and about us "making stuff up". What I constantly and infuriatingly hear from others is that I'm "just full of excuses" for being consistently late for everything and all of my other "shameful" behaviors. People just look at you and you can see them trying hard not to roll their eyes in disbelief when you do attempt to explain your private health issues! It feels horrible and frustrating to TRY to navigate through even the simplest things in life!! 😫

​@@MTPT_Superior2427 One thing you can remind people of is that in schools there's one or two with ADHD in each class and once they're adults, they don't disappear, they just mask their symptoms and try to blend in. Everyone knows a few adults with ADHD, even if they aren't aware of it.Not all anomalies are visible.

I am 49. Suffer daily with adhd [I call it chronic adhd]. I was taking ritalin in 1982. Second grader, family doctor diagnosed me as a hyperactive child. It's 2024 and adhd impacts my life daily, mostly negative, with occasional super fun , out of this world fun and excitement. I have suffered addiction my entire life. It all started as the bad boy that ruined everyone's fun.

That hurts, whenever we are already feeling bad about ourselves.

I’m 36 and I can relate of what you’re going through. I’m grieving a separation as well and it’s nasty the feelings and thoughts I have of me being the reason to failed, but I know we will go through it.

don’t give up! There are so many of us. Keep looking for your ‘birds of a feather’ 🤗 🎉

I would be surprised if there were no others in your family with ADHD. With my daughter's recent diagnosis at 32 I'm realizing 2 of my 3 sisters have it and my mother had it! I'm quite sure my maternal grandmother too, given some of the stories my mother told (grandma lived abroad, I've only seen her twice).

It will get better Joe. Knowledge is power!

And I love it

Meh, don't be ashamed, drunk drivers need to feel that. You're a human being navigating your life as you're able and that's just fine 😉

So sorry about what you're going through brother. My wife just left me, sent me a text while I was at work, 11 years down the drain like it was all meaningless to her. We are worth more than we know, and it's important to get away from people that not only don't see your value, but make you feel even worse. It's been hard since she left. But a person the treats you bad or devalues you has no place in your life. Not telling you what to do, but try to be around people that actually value you and love you and lift you up. Anyone that makes you feel like shit doesn't deserve you in their life no matter how worthless you might feel. I know how you feel I KNOW. Seek help, get meds, get therapy, join a support group. You are worth it, I know you are.

All of the above

I'm a recovered alcoholic and checked it out. People with ADHD are 5 to 10 times as likely to suffer from addictions at some time in their lives. Yes very similar.

Or was it the other way around??? LOL anyway you get the idea

@@sandrainontario6710 Yes i have. I mean that alcohol is not my addiction but i feel that i treat other people like alcoholic in some way high (or middle) functioning but still

@@sandrainontario6710 Thanks for response

​@@AK-vx4dy Bit by bit you can work on what you'd like to improve. Tell yourself in front of the mirror every night that you're just fine and you're lovable. Remind yourself that you're able to do some things that others cannot and you're worthwhile just as you are.