The Antidote to ADHD Exhaustion | Burnout Intervention 

"I'm not a woo-woo person, I'm a woo and a half" This is an excellent phrase :3 x

Great video! The story you read brought tears to my eyes, it resonated so much. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 38 and it suddenly explained why I had been struggling my whole life just to function, and why I kept falling into burnout cycles. I would see so many of my friends who could just power through hard tasks or crappy jobs and I couldn't figure out why I wasn't able do the same. My body would literally rebel and I would either become sick or get steamrolled by crippling fatigue. I think my biggest challenge now is to feel ok about being as picky and as particular as I need to be to make sure I'm creating that very specific environment that I require in order to thrive. Often I feel like I'm excessively inconveniencing others or risking being labeled as "too needy" when I have to self advocate. This feels very scary, especially in the context of my profession and professional relationships where my livelihood could be at risk if people decide I'm too much of a hassle to work with. Working through that fear is definitely a journey. Anyway, thanks again for this video, it was my "ping" from the universe today (I'm also a woo and a half. 😉😄). Have a great New Year!

I got diagnosed with ADHD last week at 54. Your channel gave me the hope that I need.

I loved when you said, ‘we are built for the water’. Yes, absolutely. I love being near water whether it’s the sea, river, lake, stream, pond or big puddle. It’s calming and refreshing and there are times when I crave being near water. Thank you.

Diagnosed at 46. Corporate job changed to remote after Covid, got stuck in FL, all belongings still in storage up north. Living solo, my 2 pups passed backed to back, and so much more.. become completely paralyzed, physically unable to work complete tasks, walked away. Year later today, I found my pond. I’m in motion of creating a clay earring business and look forward everyday to create beautiful jewelry and attend vendor markets. Thank you for today’s and all your content. It has really helped me understand me and why and how to own it and best navigate my life despite the hard criticism I’ve recently received.

„IF YOU'RE TIRED, YOU DON'T NEED REST, YOU NEED STUFF YOU'RE EXCITED ABOUT.“

I was a teacher for 22 years because I felt joy being around kids but I wasn’t happy because being a classroom teacher was restrictive, demanding and hard with undiagnosed ADD. I left and started working for myself and I LOVE it! I am doing fun things to make money with several streams of income. I teach kids who are outside the box like me in evenings and during the day I go into schools with my hula hoop program and plan rests and days off when I need it. Find your passion and turn it into your job and you will thrive!

Awesome! I have ADHD and I live on water, on a boat! I also believe I may well be living the half-life told in the story. I live in a cycle of survive crash survive crash. I need to find my path to thrive but it’s scary stepping off a familiar path even if it’s harming you. Thank you, a brilliant video. ❤

As I’m lying on the couch at 9am crying because I don’t want to go to work anymore 🥹

The ENTIRE time I was listening to this, I was thinking, “easy for her to say all of these encouraging things when she has hair, that looks like that!” As I sit here, at 52, trying to get ready for work, and using all of my products to regrow hair that has been shedding since menopause started. 😢. You just made my whole day, and I need to find that person you were following, to normalize wearing a wig.

I would have never guessed you were wearing a wig. You are a gorgeous person inside and out! Thank you for making this content for all of us with ADHD, or with someone in our lives who has ADHD.

I was touched by the story of the swan. I am truly an orchid, and I need "my people", and without the right water and the right people, I do not thrive. Thank you for sharing your own story and before you said anything, I thought to myself, her hair is beautiful.

I used to have so much confidence to be my own person… but my current burnout cycle has caused me to completely 180 😢. The swan story spoke to me in a very profound way, so thank you!!!!

Just found your channel tonight - absolutely loving your content. I only discovered this year (at 59) that I may have ADHD after talking to some other women who have been diagnosed over 50. I loved the message of getting into the water - I really relate to this.

Hi Caren, thank you so much for sharing this poem. I completely relate and feel like the man in this story. I work a 9-5 and it feels worthless to me, especially lately. It’s not something I’m excited about or can easily feel like giving my wholeheartedness to. I feel like im burning out not from overdoing it, but from not thriving. However, I also have no idea what else to do which is the biggest struggle for me. I hope I figure it out! 😊

Love your video. I'm 70 and have been so sad I spent most my life not knowing what you have educated us on. I'm a survivor so will get through this. I take pain medication for pain , was diagnosed years ago but not one doctor, and I have many, ever pay any attention to it you are the only one who has opened my eyes. Thank you and god bless.

I’m only discovering like within the last couple weeks really and it hit me like a bombshell yesterday that I most likely have ADHD. I struggle with basic life management so hard and everybody thinks I’m just a hot mess but really I’m trying so hard. I found your channel last night and already I’m finding such insight I didn’t know about me. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Thank you for being so open and honest and real for people like me who need this reality.

I am so inspired by the way that you own your neurodivergence! Thank you for sharing your experiences and gifts with all of us! I’m going through the ADHD burnout cycle, as is my ADHD spectrum daughter. It’s a lot, for sure! But, your content, as well as a few others are really helping me validate how I am feeling, rather than pushing myself to the point of shingles. Btw- I L💜VE that you mentioned the number synch’s, straight away! As I watch, there are 6,633 views and I am the 444th like! Namaste 🙏 💜✨. 4:40

Great video, your transparency is so refreshing I can sadly totally relate to this, especially the burnout cycle. I realised a while ago, I have number if items I can manage in my life. When somthing new is added to the list, something else needs to go, if that makes sense. I keep my life as simple as I can; it's not a simple thing to do for a working Mammy & it's still very much work in progress . How you are embracing your ADHD strengths and weaknesses is really inspiring keep up your great work Sister . Love your hair. 💚 🦢🦢🦢💚

Coming to this one late and it hits hard. I KNOW what my pond is & if I didn't have bills to pay I would play in it all day - but it's nearly impossible to make a career so I always feel divided between what pays the bills & what I really want to be doing. And what pays the bills (freelance writing) is as close to what I want to be doing (novel writing) as I can get until a miracle happens - because in publishing you pretty much need a miracle to be successful. I've felt this way for the last three years & it has me dancing in and out of burnout & short of winning the lottery so I can just focus on my books, it feels like nothing will ever get me the rest of the way into my passion.

your hair looks amazing!

Great story to share. There’s a relief to back out of the sense of hyper-responsibility (sometimes my over-thinking self puts me in a false power spot), then I make sure I don’t descend into an equally unbalanced sense of shame or depression (also overthinking?)--bottom line--recover my sense of gratitude and devotion. Not just once a day, but kinda constantly! It’s hard!

I feel like I may have lost my whole heartedness and it's definitely contributing my exhaustion. Wow 😲 needed this so much. Thx

I'm too lazy/tired to type up everything I'm feeling Just to say, this hits the spot

Thank you my life finally makes sense ❤

Wowwww! You definitely pinged me! 🥰 I love this part: Falling in awkwardly and gracefully receiving those waters! (I was definitely burnt out at my day job so awkward and felt out of place. But since that gig has ended I can focus on my YT channel! I also just learned I have adhd sooo it feels really awkward getting in the water but also it feels right! 😅✨

This resonated immediately with me and I burst into loud tears. Thank you for sharing this.

Ugh, all of this. Love it. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. I wish I could voice note because I feel SO MUCH resonance around the insecurity with my hair after covid. It’s fried & has thinned out…like, the whole piece you talked about in regards to prepping for video content. I feel you, sister!

My 9-5 sucks up the time when I feel the most productive. Can't afford to quit or reduce time or we'll be out on the street. I have no clue what to do at this point. Not able to float. Drowning here.

Thank you so much for this video. As always i could really relate to this. Your hair is beautiful- wig or not! ❤️ -Priya

Wow! I’m glad you acknowledged the superficial barriers like appearance and going through all the steps to show up in the world as beautiful. I feel like I’m not showing up as myself in videos when my appearance isn’t aligned with my highest beauty. It’s not even about other people’s opinion as much as it is me feeling inauthentic, misaligned , and cringe on camera when I don’t fully have myself together… yet ALL THE STEPS to get myself together 😵‍💫 I will have to find a middle ground! Thank you so much! 💡🙂🙌🏾

I thought I seen a miniature coyote in the background lmao It was not in fact a miniature coyote

Years I've seen 11:11. I'm ADHD. I still don't know the meaning. I've read on it and very confused. I'm glad you helped clarify it.

You don’t come across as a believer in God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit BUT in Hebrew their numbers have meanings and -11.11 could mean open doors that He has opened for His people to go through or even a scripture. It also means transition. The Bible is full of numbers and they all mean something. Adding another layer to our understanding as we grow in Christ Jesus. The Bible says as we acknowledge Him He will direct our steps and because (as evidenced in all we see and hear and taste and feel) He has an unlimited imagination there are many ways He will endeavor to get our attention and reveal Himself as we keep following “the breadcrumbs “ He is worth the journey!!

I really needed to hear what you had to say in this video. I'm currently in that burnout phase and have lost all ability to appear/function as a neurotypical person. It's like I've been reverted back to when I was a child, just before my diagnosis and functioning at all is exponentially harder and requires vastly more energy. I'm floundering while trying to manage this full-blown ADHD and I know it. I currently feel like a pilot dropped into a machine that they've barely been taught how to use, yet is expected to operate said machine to the same degree as someone well-trained & fully experienced in operating it; all the pilot can do is sit there staring at the controls as panic, fear and a sense of overwhelm builds as they try to figure out what to do and how to do the task. During this period of burnout it's like I'm looking through someone else's eyes because I'm in someone else's body.

I feel like I don't know what my passion is anymore and i don't know how to find it. I feel like i'm ready to jump into something new but i don't have any direction.

WOAH this is possibly the most impactful video I have seen on RU-vid! Thank you for sharing the story (going to look it up) and your transparency about your hair journey. All the best!

At this point I'm fairly sure I've got it... I definitely relate to multiple symptoms from all the vids I've watched and general info I've read up. Some in a strong sense and a few in a kinda maybe sorta sense. I don't really struggle with punctuality too much but that's mostly being good at skirting the edge of lateness. I can sink hours and hours in a single sitting, zoned out to the world and ignoring my body, when something manages to pull me in. Leave things to the last minute routinely. "Bursts" of activity where I get a ton done in a few hours then fall back into a sort of mental drift space. Habitually starting projects and making some pretty solid progress very quickly then BAM... it's gone, onto the next distraction. Maybe, maybe. Or could just be me falling prey to Dr. Google, MD. Alas, budget and an extremely congested (not to mention... mixed quality) public health service have led me to rather pick up on what behavioural changes I can make to mitigate it. Not an extreme case I think, keeping down a fairly technical job and I'm doing alright socially, but the way it can feel like a physical wall holds me back from putting in the effort towards things I genuinely want to achieve is... frustrating. Still, I've found some tips and tricks that seem to help. Pomodoros somewhat help. Isolating yourself to a single device or task for a specific time can help establish a flow state. Getting some quick wins in beforehand. Building a habit of consciously checking the time when you've got something happening in the next few hours. Certain kinds of music work well as background to help concentrate. If you're struggling to get into focus or build momentum, take a 5 or 15 minute break but keep the problem in the back of your head while the rest of your thoughts are going. Ultimately it's about creating yourself a suitable environment to be productive in, and building up habits that take advantage of a given brain's strengths, as opposed to trying to conform its behaviour to an eternally moving norm.

Great Content Caren!!! I am about turning 51 on Friday and made the decision to finally address my ADHD. I'm curious how others addressed it. Medications? Diet? I need to do something..

This is great! I'm almost 38 and we have 3 (also neurospicy) kids (6,9 and 10) and I feel like I'm treading water and I'm exhausted. Your video put into words what I've been desiring but can't quite achieve. I keep telling myself I'm almost to the tipping point of finally "arriving" but I just have to keep pushing a bit longer. Well, it's been about 11 years, and I am mentally exhausted. I'm going to focus on steering towards my ideal environment and life and pushing harder than ever. I need to find my pond (no clue where or what that is going to be) but I can cut out what I know I want less of in life for now ❤

Been watching your videos im like look at her hair she doesn’t have any problems. Im glad you told us its a wig. i was like i really need to do something with my hair ughh her hair looks perfect . God bless

Great video. Thank you for sharing that story about the swan and your own story about cycling burn out in your life. I was never diagnosed with ADHD, but from first grade on the teachers always reported that I was creative but would daydream and not pay attention in class. My grandmother who raised me was an ER nurse, and her friends would say that I needed to be put on Riddlin and meds to make me less hyper. My grandmother didn't believe in using meds unless absolutely necessary, so she gave me tools to help. The night before school she would lay my clothes out to wear, so that I was not overwhelmed in the morning with choices. I would make my bed, so that I finished a task. She would have a daily planner for me and encourage me to finish homework or projects by settling a time limit on how long I would have to focus. She always encouraged fresh air and exercise. So Caren thank you for suggesting more tools that can help us be better.

I just yesterday signed up for your emails and was considering buying some of your products but this whole symbolism, angels, magical thinking, universe thing is making me rethink that. I really hope it's a joke!!!

Flip side of whole heartedness: I've never found work I enjoy. What makes it easier to stick with work for another hour/day/month, is two pieces of paper. The first is propped up where I can see it on the regular. "Happy, Motivated, Grateful for Work." Reading it helps my heart be more whole. The other is a list of every benefit of working this job. I read it when I think work is too much to suffer. Again, it helps flip the glass to half full.

Love this video! I’ve been feeling this message for a while. I’m still trying to figure out “my thing.” Thank you!

Hey?! WTF... I can't sit through a 15min video for the answers. Where are the cliff notes?!

What if you just don't know what it is that you want to do though

Your videos are providing me so much insight. Showing me which coping techniques I have been using already. Not even knowing they were coping techniques. Also, understanding why I find functioning in certain situations extremely difficult. Thank you for your work making the videos.🙏🙏🙏

This lack of whole heartedness co Celt is going to stick with me. I will mull it over and recognize pieces of my life that need to GO so I can focus on facets that make me whole

This is just soooo profound. I have a full time job and a side hustle and been lately procrastinating... The barrier was getting ready or getting started.

Wish i could like this vid more than once :) If only more of youtube could be as genuine, profound yet simple, positive and inspiring like this, thank you :)

SAME. OMG SAME. I was fortunate to have found my passion. However, I've still dealt with burnout. This week, I've been obsessively ruminating over whether my passion is what's burning me or if it's stuff in-general. And if it's the latter, then how I'd need to situate my life so that I can still thrive in times of burnout.

Late LATE diagnosis, in my 60s. You are the most relevant ADHD guide that I have found, and I have been seeking info everywhere!! Orchid analogy is beautiful. Thank you so much. And I LOVE that you went for a wig - a practical way to push past insecurity. So cool.

Before my major burn out.. I saw 911 all over the place and I was irritated because I didn’t get the memo yet. So I’m 100% woo-woo in believing that the Universe is always talking to us and getting our attention. I saw 11:11 am during my lunchtime. Everything is energy and remembering who we are at the core when we’re willing to let go all of our childhood conditioning. We are not our thoughts, body, and experience. We’re the observer of the whole experience. Burn out sucks and I’m slowly getting out of the fast and furious train. Slowing things down and being present in my body as I can easily live in my mind. 🤪 I’m sleeping like a rock lately especially when the full moon is coming up too. Following the phases of the moon is our connection to our feminine energy. We live in a society of constantly doing, hustling, and busy work. No wonder why we hit burn out especially with our ADHD brains. 🧠 🔥 May we have compassion when we fall of the wagon. “The antidote to exhaustion is wholeheartedness.” I love being in the water. Heck I’m proud Aquarius. ♒️ Love it!! Thank you for sharing. ❤

I relate 100% to so much of your content. I've been watching your videos periodically over the last few weeks, and you have been able to translate (into words) exactly how I feel, my struggles, my ideas, etc. I'm 44-years old, divorced, no children, and a healthcare provider who ironically "treats" ADHD, yet have never been diagnosed myself. I'm 100% positive of my diagnosis, but for some reason I have allowed shame or imposter syndrome or embarrassment prevent me from seeking help from another provider. I'm working on that... not quite there, have a lot of inner work to do. Anyways.... I never comment on videos, but just had to let you know how inspiring and relatable you have been for me. And a side note... I too am recently having issues with my hair, thinning, not growing, brittle, easily damaged. The stress of aging is beginning to affect me in ways I never expected. It takes me so long to get ready, I over analyze, and sometimes I'd just rather not get ready at all. I have considered wigs as a potential "assistant" when my ugly hair has me paralyzed, but I have no clue where to buy them and what to look for. Do you have recommendations on a website or store? Or educational resources about how to choose a wig? I don't have instagram or any social media, just watch utube from time to time. Thank you so much for everything you do, you are a true blessing.

dude,,, but im exhausted even when i want to do thing i like...

I love that you came up with a creative solution to your barrier and totally owned it. BRAVO!. I'll try and take a leaf out of your book.

not sure what i can do wholeheartedly, but thank you for the vid!

That's a beautiful poem, and amazing story. Lovely way to express the idea.

Oh girl this was awesome! Today was the first day I started searching RU-vid for how to actually work with my adhd after being diagnosed in 2007 & only taking a prescription & thinking that’s it. I have just started scratching the surface of understanding it. You & I are so similar it seems. Background in psychology, worked in corporate & speaking & some other things but as you were talking during this video & the last I just watched (I’m binging lol) I wrote down the things that light me up that I’m great at that could be career potential & in a few minutes I already had 15 things! Awesome but terrifying right? 😂 Also, it’s actually a deep down secret of mine that I want to do RU-vid as well & have for years. My entire excuse is after recovering from sickness the last 3 years I’ve gained weight (not pretty imo like I used to believe I was, my hair thinned as well & bc I had kidney failure my teeth have weakened and I have a few small chips visible up close & it could be a while before I could repair them. I realize how crazy this sounds bc I have fav channels where the person wouldn’t be considered “attractive” at all by society’s screwed up standards! My fear is like you mentioned, I’m always great on the creative end. Terrible on technical stuff. Hate it. So I fear I could lack discipline. Photography is another. I have everything & am very talented but can’t bring myself to set up a license and figure out a business plan etc. How do you also chose what lights you up that also pairs up well with the backend that’s not adhd. And with the 16 other things, how do you narrow them down? Or do you try to blend? I’m so happy I found your channel tonight!

I’m good with being a dandelion. Dandelions are healthy and have great medicinal purposes. So, dandelions are of great intrinsic value, n spit of not being a beautiful orchid.

Hey there, So first off great channel, I'm really inspired by your style and approach, so thanks! I also really enjoyed to this video and it got me thinking about my own experiences with feeling exhausted from being like a fish out of water or an orchid amongst dandelions. Something about your ending helped me to clarify an issue that has been bugging me for a while about the whole ugly duckling concept and adhd. So I thought I'd share my thoughts below. Note that as I may likely have misconstrued your own position on this, please ignore and just consider your video as inspiration for the following. Also note that the below was after some chatGPT cleanup of my original hot-mess draft. ***** Many people thrive like dandelions: hearty, versatile, widespread. On the other hand, there are those of us more akin to orchids-requiring specific, unique conditions to truly flourish. It's like being a fish out of water or a swan amidst ducklings. The challenge? Finding where we truly fit often means departing from familiar territories and social circles. And this departure, for the fish or the orchid, might equate to sheer social isolation. Recognizing my ADHD as this fish-out-of-water feeling or an orchid among dandelions can be validating. Yet, it doesn't negate the stinging reality of feeling like a "failure" due to not fitting into a predefined mold (and being able to thrive in my environment). I've spent years-driven perhaps by my ADHD mind's innate curiosity-searching and wandering, looking for that right environment. Picture an orchid traversing North America for a rainforest or a fish yearning for warmer seas. And if, by chance, we do stumble upon our ideal, like a displaced bird finding its flock, the choice to stay might mean leaving behind all we've ever known. In many cases, the perfect environment isn't just a mere shift in location. It's more elusive, akin to finding a lone mountain lake with the exact climate or a singular cloud forest. At times, it feels as if our ideal environment doesn't even exist in nature. But, here's the silver lining: We live in a world where we can mold our surroundings. We can grow orchids indoors, build koi ponds inside our homes, and dive into unknown territories with modern tools. While it's essential to recognize our orchid-like nature, it's equally vital to understand that with effort, we can shape an environment conducive to our growth. It's about creating our own niche-without the guilt, without the shame. This journey, though, isn't a cakewalk. Realizing our orchid identity might not offer immediate solace. However, it's a stepping stone, granting us permission to be different, to step away from the norm. We might not always fit seamlessly into society's mold, but by connecting, by building our own microcosm, we find a path to understanding and nourishing our unique needs. From my journey, every little adjustment, every small realization has gradually chipped away at my doubts. As I've progressively sculpted my environment, I've started to see that perhaps I'm not a "failed dandelion" but could slowly grow into a thriving orchid in my own right.

Thank you, Caren, this video is rather helpful, profound and interesting as it is. Self help to self regulating I find to always be an uphill battle, as is finding the exact culprits that trigger certain areas or defines more specific ADHD/ADD problem zones. To me the wholeheartedness of ones direction of life as well as spreading yourself too thin struck very deep as I have been having thoughts around this already. But your video simply nailed it! And thank you for giving so much of yourself to us out here :o) Best wishes, Felix

You’re not gonna believe this but 11:11 came up a few hours ago and I have been suffering from these cycles ( just now learning about them) and chronic fatigue or what they call central fatigue all my life despite my outward appearance. And PING this video is here! Anyway, I don’t believe i am meant to do anything in particular- the goal is stability and consistency and mastery of these characteristics. TY for the VERY IMPORTANT INFORMATION that no one despite my seeking has ever been able to help me with since I was a teenager

Wigs are such a life saver! I have been wearing them for years now, but only the last 2 years for work. And while I do have long hair, my executive dysfunction sometimes makes it impossible for me to bleach, dye, and style my hair. It's honestly such a time saver you pretty much always have perfect hair! I have usually 2 pretty exact wigs I rotate through at a time, helps in between cleanings, in case of emergency. Highly recommend! Great ADHD/executive dysfunction/depression hack.

I was not a woo woo person either until last year when I went through a breakup, I kept seeing 111, 11:11, 1:11 and it led me down a spiritual journey. I ended up getting 111 tattooed on my arm

Thank you! It was helpful. And yes, I think "half" is killing me... I'm not just sure half of what... still some thinking to do. Thank you again.

I literally sent this to my mom saying “look mom, you could do this color and then transition to white” cause my mon is 62 😂. But since is a wig she would probably fry her natural hair

I just discovered your videos the other day they are beyond helpful and giving me what I need to get my ADHD under control

My heart just hurt hearing you talk about your hair. Something that helps give my fine hair the appearance of volume, texture & thickness is “Oribe Dry Texturizing Spray”. What it does for my hair is truly amazing. My hair has never looked better since switching over to Oribe products. I also use Oribe Magnificent Volume Shampoo & Oribe Magnificent Volume Conditioner. This must seem like a paid ad but I’m in no way affiliated w Oribe. I do however, stand by their products. They’ve made a huge difference for me, maybe they could for you too. You’re such a beautiful soul inside & OUT- you deserve to feel that way 🌷💗 Thank you for all that you do!

Wholeheartedness - OMG that made me all emotional here! That makes so much sense for me now!! I'm discovering some new hobbies very fulfilling and that is what describes the best what I feel when in those moments.

OMG the wig … I would never have guessed! As a thin hair person this is great. Lovely story. As a singer songwriter thanks for showing me where I’m being held up! The preparation… all the stuff I have to do to write , record… and then the overwhelm… 💞

You look fabulous Never guessed you’re wearing a wig I’m benefiting from your videos I certainly fit ADHD 😮 Can’t keep organized And a people pleaser

If only it were easy to make a living as a poet in this day and age, we'd all be golden. Fyi, I listen to your vids with my phone facedown on my desk so bossboi doesn't see. Messy hair's not a problem.

Wig or not, you still look great ( the politically will probably have me arrested for saying that ) . It was a wonderful video as it is your comments and your sharing that matter. As an ADHD who for reasons I don't understand have been going through periods of exhaustion. For my first 74 years I was remarkably health but unfortunately this past three years have had health problems which have sapped me of much of my energy. This sharing has helped look at what I've been doing. Spreading my limited resources much too thin, instead of concentrating on my strengths. Thank you.

This hit me on the head too. I so relate - thank you. 🙂

You are definitely a beautiful orchid. Listening to this story really resonated with me. I'm in a vicious weight cycle. I'm in so much pain most days, which detours me from exercise. I need to exercise to do what I used to love, rehab dogs. I know it's small steps but and that's where procrastination comes in. I need to take the time to schedule schedule my small steps. Thank you

I was diagnosed at 40…I’m now 51. Everyday is different and I never know what I’m going to feel like getting done/cleaning/enjoying. I hate it.

Exactly. When the subject is interesting and introduced in an interesting manner then someone with ADHD will take from listening about it much more than someone who is lacking ADHD. Just uninteresting stuff doesn't deserve attention. And only people with ADHD are born with that knowledge and the skills for ignoring bs and the ability to not pretend that boring people, boring subjects are not taking a lot of sacrifice to calmly sit through the boringly delivered boring content. Adhd won't sit through this. İf wasting other people's time was punishable we would have much better, hardworking teachers and so on. Why a child which reacts honestly to a teacher who doesn't really want to teach anybody anything only wants his monthly reward , is seen as naughty ? Should be seen as honest. As giving the truthful, without a scare of teacher's authority, feedback. Basically just give more, make your material interesting, work for your money, and everyone will be listening with pleasure and understanding. İt's not attention deficit. İts a lack of tolerance for boring important bs. Or not being able to sit calmly through badly delivered uninteresting content. Make it interesting and we'll catch all the details. Attention is there, don't you worry..

Man. Talk about burnout. I've been a college professor for about 25 years and was just diagnosed with ADHD. I am just soooo over it. LOL! I have no idea what I'm going to do. I'm 53 and am really ready for retirement.

Seeing patterns like numbers is a cognitive bias. I can’t recall the name of it, but you can look it up. Principle is that once you notice a pattern, you become more aware of finding it, which then inherently creates the illusion of meaning. It’s a self-perpetuating phenomenon.

I hope u see this. I think it is really important to find out how much rest time we need and accommodate for that it helps avoid burnout. Another thing: i love ur content but realize after usually 5-7 mins there is so much fast equal talking that i zone out and don’t finish watching or my thoughts drift of. It may be a very personal thing but perhaps some breathing breaks, a different tone of voice? I again want to say invery much appreciate ur content but perhaps it can make it even better❤

Thank you for the work you put out! I’ve struggled a lot in my early adult years and your content gives me hope and encouragement to keep growing and discovering myself.

I started wearing wigs durning Covid because it just helped!!!! It’s not someone else wig sheesh YOUR HAIR doesn’t look like a wig. I wore mine to doctors and she didn’t understand why I was complaining of hair loss I took it off and she was so shocked . 😮 She thought it was real too if you didn’t say anything we would think it’s growing out of your head. I love wigs because they allow me to change the colour based on my mood. 🎉🎉🎉🎉 or where I’m heading. Feels more safe that way.

This is exactly what wigs were made for. Can have everyday a different head of hair. Love of changing the looks Also some women are forced to have their hair shaved only because they got married. I won't even try to understand. Not interested. There wigs are like a dress, jacket, coat, it's part of their garderobe. So not only chemo. Also cosplay. Alopecia.

i love watching this vid because this is exactly how my brain processes and how i speak outloud

Those "Pings" are called synchronicities. I have a special notebook I write them down in when they happen. I can go back years from now and read them.

OMG thank you! I have not thought about a wig option and my hair is actually a big barrier for me recording stuff and after spending a fortune on a hairdresser, my hair is not any better! I'm going to amuse myself with wig search now ;-) By the way, this wig suits you perfectly

I also get burnout about every 2 years, every job I have had tends to last about two years before I need a change. Diagnosed at 50, only time I managed to stay in the same job for longer was when running my own company.

Wow your content is glorious! And you certainly don’t need no wig or make up. Imho it’s even distracting from the beauty of your words. Strict bun, glasses. Bam 😊 ❤

That was my barrier when I created FB lives and created jewelry as well. The work it took to get it all ready was my reason for ending the thing I loved to do most. I loved your transparency I am not alone, I am going to rethink how to get my groove back. Thank you.

Your hair is your beautiful wings to find your pond. But....your heart, is definitely your astonishing gift to the world. Thank you for sharing yourself with all of us. So we too may one day find our "pond"..... please comment back to me if you have a min. I know you must be very busy xo❤

Two more seconds in... the number I always see is 351 everywhere, I started taking photos to show a co-worker I was not nuts.

I was thinking how lovely your hair was😊. And need to comment that the swan is still paddling madly sometimes under the surface. I am exhausted sometimes from harnessing my attention for long periods of time.

Thank you so much for this video. I was looking into ADHD burnout for a while now but I never found anything more helpful than what you just said. I'm currently setting up my own RU-vid channel but keep procrastinating for the exact reasons you just talked about. Thank you again for the information.

I’ve just found you a few days ago and I swear you have looked into my life/mind and have described it to a T! Such an aha! I am now going to get tested, just for confirmation. I really don’t want to take anything for it so thank you for sharing your stories and systems.

I also have super fine hair, never thought of a wig. Also, super cute duppo in the background at 13:46 😂😊❤ thanks for your videos

We’re all probably artsy fartsy but because of so many things that need to be done around us is what keeps us from doing our passions, dreams, desires. The mundane things suck the energy out of us, drain our souls.

Also multiple crises and all the stress we somehow god only knows rise to the immediate challenge but burn out really quickly afterwards

Thank you! My wig would be a cleaning person - by no means i am well-off, but i do get tired of my messy flat, and - as soon-to-be-diagnosed-hdhd-er, I tend to neglect it and feel ashamed by it. well, it is time for me to use my wigg aka cleaning person without hesitation, thank you!