The BEST and WORST Mormon marriage advice! 

Best advice I got was from my dad. "Forget about the 51% rule. it's the 100% rule. Do whatever is in your power to do for your spouse. Serve, love and make them happy. if they're doing the same thing for you than that is a happy healthy marriage"

My marriage advice would be to ALWAYS LEARN AND GROW TOGETHER!! It doesn't have to be the same things but have an ultimate goal. Best "ultimate" goal for me and my husband is an eternal marriage and family and gaining exaltation together. Our journeys don't have to be exactly the same but they will intersect as long as your moving towards something together.

very upset you guys didn’t ask me to be on this episode.

The best marriage advise I can give is that in marriage you should always feel as if you are the lucky one and your spouse should feel the same about you. Don’t marry someone who you want to fix. Marry someone who you think is amazing. You’ll be so much happier in the long run.

I want you to redo this after you've had a few kids. I'm willing to bet your answers will change 😜 I'm so tired by 8 pm we schedule morning meetings to discuss important issues and going to bed angry isn't the worst. I need my sleep!

Trust is the biggest part of marriage, and if you don't have that, you have NOTHING!

I met my soul mate and married her in 3 weeks been together for 55 years,,,,,6 children 19 grandchildren 14 great grandchildren,,,,,so it did happen for me love at first sight! True about focusing on your spouse,,,,,,we did and now we love and respect each other and are as much in love as ever, it’s much stronger love because we always dated and had romance throughout our marriage,,,,,,yet we raised great children’s! Just saying!

I feel like when the "don't say anything negative about your spouse" advice came up, abusive relationships should have been brought up.

I can't wait to get married 🙂 it's something am looking forward to .😊🙂

In the MTC Elder Oaks told us that the philosophy of abjectly telling a spouse every single thing is simple-minded & demonstrates a naive comprehension of what is constructively helpful vs what is hurtful. He explained that disclosing everything to your wife can be harmful and an excuse to hurt them under the guise of just wishing to get something off of your chest! Made a lot of sense.

Love seeing your spouses and hearing how you complement each other. ❤🧡💚💜💙💛

In a sense, there isn't the one but sometimes the Lord gives you "the one" because he knows both of you are needed together to fulfill his plan for you and the world completely.

Yes! My husband and I play minecraft! And we're about to start a D&D solo campaign. I love it 😀 💕

Married 17 years in a few months.

Mimi and Eric arguing about whether to argue... Lol..

The best and worst marriage advice I usually get is to *GET MARRIED* 😐😂

No because I’m a fan,,,,,,I have been married 55 years, so you might be surprised about your fan base.....😇

My hubby is colorblind, he says one color is brighter than the other... He has to really pay attention!! Also, yeah, I am "older" so I am proof we watch your show!

The clip of the cheese rolling is near me! Yay the UK and our very weird and wild traditions!

The backpedaling made me lol

For the advice "Your spouse completes you" I like to look at it more like synergy, where together you can accomplish and do more than what you could do by yourself. So less about completion and more like a greater sum than what could be done alone. if that makes sense.

Hahahahaha listin Linda I love that kid. First time watching the show. My friend told me give this a try and I really am enjoying it so far!

I enjoy watching all your programs and I'm a little older than your demographic I'm getting up there at 48+ ish

Opposition in all things. There will be disagreements, but love conquers all.

been married 26 years. I am a morning person. we discuss big stuff late after the kids are in bed all the time...but...if it's obvious that i am getting tired and grumpier..it's better to just put me to bed. that also goes with "never go to bed angry". um. sometimes I'm just tired everyone argues...it's important to argue well...not attacking. forgive...as quick as you can. but trust will take a long time to rebuild. so forgive but that doesn't mean you trust them. I love your videos and share parts of them with my seminary class

Heavenly Father told my mother the first time she met my husband (as a missionary) He told her that he was the one I was going to marry. She didn’t tell me until I told everyone her that we were engaged. Because of this I think there are “one and onlys”, just not for everyone.

You Can argue, but it’s best to think it out and have a calm discussion because it’s also good to agree to disagree.

I think you must be a whole person inside, before marriage! Other wise it won't work out! No one should use another person to make them whole!!!

Are any of you in Utah? I wonder, is that like a LDS paradise for you, or is living in Utah socially challenging? I've heard Mormons say that it's sometimes not easy to be Mormon in Utah.

Me and my wife have COMPLETELY different hobbies. I feel no need (nor does she) that we have to merge them. We appreciate that we are different and that we have stuff that we like to do together, but also a good amount of things we like to do on our own.

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As someone who’s engaged to someone who isn’t quite Temple worthy yet, I would’ve liked to see some discussion on your opinions on circumstances like that.

I am almost 54 and watch your show. THE best marriage advice I can give is that every marriage relationship is different. What works for one marriage won't necessarily work for another. Find your own jam and do it. The amount of bad advice I've received from others is high, like they think my wife is going to respond like theirs would. Pff. Second best bit of advice is cliché, but oh so very true - it's better to do right than be right. Just say you're sorry and move on. I can barely remember all the things I was not guilty of that I have apologized for. Third best bit of advice: have a hobby you can enjoy that still.makes you interesting to your spouse. You don't have to have all common interests.

This video now hooked me on that "Diggy Diggy Hole" song from minecraft/Hobbit.

Married 12 wonderfully crazy years ❤

Hate to burst your bubble Meme but I’m 60 and have been watching and sharing your videos for ages now.

"I will always kiss you when asked" (marital vow)

2:10 has me laughing so hard 😂😂😂

“Running argue.exe” 😂😂

"Do everything without arguing or complaining"

Yes, we are watching! 😂😂

Spousal Loyalty is Paramount!! You should ONLY say loving, kind, uplifting things about your spouse to others, as you would pray they also do!! Q1 really bothered me, but not sure if you phrased/answered it correctly- whether or not to say anything negative ABOUT or TO your spouse!? It is incredibly telling that you are naive and lack wisdom!! 1st- keeping your spouses name safe in your mouth is a chief show of unconditional love & loyalty, and a thing you’d want as well! All marriages are difficult, all have many private faults. Being married exposes you to your partners weaknesses beyond what anyone else sees, so you have to decide how loyal a person you are. 2nd- trashing your spouse to others says WAY more about you than them. If someone gossips to me about anyone close to them- esp a spouse- content doesn’t matter, it makes me suspect of that person’s loyalty. UNLESS IT IS SOMETHING PHYSICALLY DANGEROUS/ABUSIVE! 3rd- trash talking your spouse will later come back to haunt you! If you share something hurtful your spouse did with your team/fam/friends, they’re generally/hopefully going to take your side and agree that your spouse was lame & awful POS! Later when you’ve forgiven & moved on, your team will still harbor resentments against your spouse and the waters will be poisoned whenever you meet up. That is not a place you want to be in. Grow up guys!! Ok, I watched a little more- you didn’t understand your own question. And yes, it is impossible to promise that you’ll never fall asleep mad… I have never once gone to sleep without kissing my wife & saying “I love you” no matter what!

Forgiveness is not the same as trust 💕 I like to think of forgiveness as kind of like the repentance for the person wronged. It's basically allowing yourself to be at peace, forgiveness is not about the other person at all. Now you can forgive someone and not trust them. I've forgiven family members for some terrible things, and I've had to work through trauma related to that, but they've shown me time and time again that they can't be trusted. I have forgiven them so that I can be at peace, but they aren't going to be welcome into my life just because I have forgiven them. And in that sense, you can view the trust part of it as relating to the never doing this in again part of repentance. Obviously people can earn your trust back; and be open to that; I just saw the cool parallel when I was thinking about it.

Your hair is beautiful

There's a difference between discussing and debate..... and arguing...arguing is heated and not good

I thought David was gonna say that his favorite hobby is church history research.

Married for 21 years almost 22....

"Do not discuss important issues after 10 pm." Here's the deal: you've been up and running all day. You are not at your best. If you have something important to discuss, it is okay, and even a good idea to table it until morning and talk about it over breakfast when you are both well rested and fed and running with all tanks full.

I forgot why both Wife and Husband need to get sealed in the Temple.? If no Temple near me can a Wife and Husband be sealed at a Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.?

I believe that marriage advice is just that, not an absolute truth, but if we don’t listen to those who’ve survived the test of time, we will not benefit. As a mid single, seeing friends divorce, some three times in a decade, often they were seeking for a spouse to be their constant self esteem lift, or your spiritual uplift (without them you’d not be in the Church), those are the causes of divorce, in the end. Being insecure you’ll marry someone who’s also probably insecure, may not succeed in a career, one divorce situation included a husband that never kept a job, then another was he stopped going to Church soon after marriage so sure going through with it would secure him to God and the work was done. Confidence and being whole on your own, then together you are a powerful force for good in the world and can make an incredible family, doing things a little differently for you.

You can tell these are newlyweds. No kids, mortgages, and other worries that befall the rest of us.

From someone who has been happily married over a decade: -I don't know why, but Mormons don't do a lot of premarital counseling. There are hundreds of questions you ought to know beforehand: Will your spouse lend money to family members? Will your in-laws be moving in down the road? Does mental illness run in your intended's family? And so on. Assume nothing. -Marriage isn't the law of sums, it is the law of averages. Two halves don't make a whole, they just average out to 50%, and that is failing. You must be complete BEFORE entering into a serious relationship. -Your spouse may not be doing it wrong, they might just be doing it differently. This applies to parenting style, personal habits, approaches to problems, anything. Only bring up stuff that is actually an issue. -Learn your love language and your spouse's love language. -Argue constructively. Say when something is bothering you. Apologize when you are wrong. Listen patiently without judgement. -If you find yourself married to someone who commits adultery, who is abusive/controlling in any way (verbally, emotionally, sexually, physically), or who belatedly determines they fall within the LGBT spectrum, get out. Seriously, GET OUT. If you can't get out, at least vacate for a few weeks while you talk to a LICENSED counselor who specializes in that area about how you should proceed.

Kenna should get more screen time

YES, put up red if you agree!! Lolololololol

Hey, can someone help me find that video with the cow/mool and that great comment?? hhahaha (15:40) in the video. Pleeeeaaasseee**** :)

i know this lady from tiktok

YYYAAASSSS!!!

It’s so neat to see married children behaving like adults. What fun !

“We da real hoes”

From the mouth of babes! U guys!...I love being mormon or I mean a member of the church of jesus christ of latter day saints. Kinda just rolls off the tounge.

God is as bad as I am in picking women for me. Back 50 years ago I went on a mission and I met a girl while I was out there. She was super cute, but only 15. We wrote back and forth the entire time I was on my mission and when I got home, she was just turning 16. I prayed about her, if I should wait till she was 18 and felt really good about her and decided to wait for her. I made the mistake of telling my mother about her and she went totally nuclear and told me to break it off because she was to young. A whole 5 years younger than me. I thought it was hypocritical of my mother because she met my father when he was 15 and she was 10. But I honored my parents, (Well my dad didn't say anything) and I broke it off with her. We both cried a lot about it. A few months later I started dating a girl I grew up with. She was 18 and I was 21. She wasn't a member but we loved each other, I baptized her and I felt like she was the one. I prayed to god and basically got a NO! feeling. We eventually split and last I heard she was active, in a great marriage and had several kids. I am glad for her but was not thrilled with god. I met a girl at a youth conference and we spent the whole three days together. We wrote and I even went up and visited her and then I got a letter telling me she was pregnant by her old boyfriend and she was marrying him. (Later I got a letter telling me she divorced and wanted me back.) I joined the military and since there were no member girls nearby, a bunch of us went to a nearby city where there were quite a few girls and we hung out with them. I was not impressed with the selection until two sisters smuggled their younger sister in the young adults group. She had just turned 16 and we hit it off and I ended up asking her to marry me when she just turned 17. She was awesome, super cute, super body, super everything. I prayed and got a big YES! feeling. She started pumping out babies and unfortunately she gained over 100 pounds with each one (We had 4) and kept it. I struggled with her weight. I just could not get turned on my her. The only reason we had 4 kids is after the first one, we talked to the Bishop and he got us working on our marriage and she got pregnant. Marriage encounter and she got pregnant. And the last one, I decided to bit the bullet and try and save the marriage and she got pregnant. After that no more sex and after 18 years of marriage I could take it no more, the kids were eighteen or close to it and I left and got a divorce. The thought of all those rolls of fat just turned me off and made me sick. I quit praying about women and ended up with a super beautiful woman who it turned out was an addict. We were living together and she OD'd. Nothing like waking up next to a corpse. I had dropped out of the church at this time. I was finally tracked down by the missionaries and became active again and I tried online dating. I met a woman and she seemed perfect. Once again I prayed and I thought I got an answer of yes. We married and then she told me that she started having sex at 14 and had over 100+ sex partners and she informed me that none of them had ever given her the big "O", she had to do it herself so she really didn't need me. She also said playing with her breasts did nothing for her and never had. So now I am married in another sexless marriage hating god and life. I go out and see all the beautiful women with awesome bodies and get depressed. Life sucks.

Lots of angry people going to bed huh lol

If you're a drug addict tell your wife!....