Women who "pull back" because you give off "boyfriend vibes" are women who aren't that into you or women who are for the streets. A man shouldn't worry about giving "boyfriend vibes". Decent women who are into you genuinely will embrace those vibes. Decent women want relationships, not casual encounters. Just stay on your purpose and have a strong backbone and let the chips fall where they may. Don't over-think it.
Not wanting a committed relationship at all times doesn’t make you for the streets like Dre said sure most women wanna be that one girl to one dude but nobody wants that at all times not even guys. sometimes you just want company or to chill and take shit slow. If you could get that company and companionship without the headache of a relationship why would you want to give boyfriend vibes? Especially if she hasn’t even shown any signs of wanting a boyfriend (what are we? Type questions) you just disqualifying yourself for the future when both of y’all might be ready for a relationship and delaying your chances at the box in the meantime bc she’s tryna play the saint role you have of her in your head.
RP and trauma taught me how to hide my true self from others because it wasn’t “masculine”. I saw you on FnF and I vibed with what you were saying. Being honest about boundaries is the way to go. It’s because I wasn’t honest and decided to ghost women, believing that they were up to no good, boosted my ego and satisfied my need to abandon before I got abandoned. But like you said, it decreases the amount of respect when you play games. Especially a “game” where the rules aren’t clear.
GOLD! My ex would pull back, then when she'd come back I'd pretend like nothing ever happened and I acted "like James Bond", but deep down inside I always felt like she would just do it again because there was no consequences, but now I know to communicate better for next time.
Being emotional is not a gift, bro. And it is not equivalent to being intuitive. Emotions and intuition, while they definitely have their place, aren't equal to rational, strategic thought. Black men should know that as we are at the bottom because of this misconception. Anyway, in most cases, a woman's emotions only get her into trouble and/or cause chaos around her. While a man should know how to soothe his woman, he should also make sure that she knows that her emotions will not dictate the tempo or the dynamic of the relationship. It's the same as this: With limited attention, a parent will listen to the grievances of his children but the child will also know that their feelings ultimately mean little. This is important because it ensures that the child will not create disturbances in the home every time he or she "feels" a certain way. The child will develop emotional discipline.
When a woman pulls away, you should be asking yourself if you’ve done what it takes to make staying with you worth the effort she’s required to put in. Are you selfish in bed? Are you a jerk when she wants to do something she wants (like, do you refuse to ever let her pick the movie or restaurant)? Are you trying to look nice for her, the way she’s trying to look nice for you? Are you treating her like a slave? Taking her for granted? Be honest with yourself.
I have a female I’m dealing with and we had sex for the first time 3 weeks ago and it was 🔥. Had her screaming and squirming to the point I had to pull out sometimes and cover her mouth. The next day She immediately pulled away and was getting worse as time went by to now not calling or texting me at all. It’s fkn with me a little bit but after she was short with me when I reached out twice ( and I’m just being cool no pressure) and not calling her out, I’m going no contact and holding my frame cause I like her but at the same time Im not fkn desperate or a thirsty buster either. She gave me $500 to help me buy business supplies before the pull back so I’m wondering am I wrong for falling back even after she looked out wit money? She’s friendly if I reach out, but just real short and never initiates anymore when she would do 80% of initiating before the sex happened. I think I gave her boyfriend vibes one time in the car while driving lol 🤷🏾♂️ idk.
she likes you but she ain't looking for nothing bro. could be multiple things: got hurt in the past, fresh out of a relationship, who cares. leave her alone. put your time where it matters and she'll either come back or you'll meet another one. there's too many out there to worry about one who isn't aligned with you
This same thing happened to me exactly bro, I hate to say it but she saw you as just fun and the boyfriend vibe always wigs out these types that are wild in bed , out, taking money from her was a mistake because that gave more bf vibes, the second they see you like them and want more they bolt, I don’t know why
@@tyeoutcalt2783 lol it’s a constant struggle smh, I’m on my purpose and I slip sometimes and forget there nature. I heard an OG pimp say fk with the girl that likes you and not the one you like because the one you like is gonna give you the most problems. The ones I didn’t really like was ready to drink my bath water no cap. 🤣
What if she pulls back bc you was the one that messed things up by questioning her , badgering her being insecure and shit ? Now she’s disrespectful and don’t trust me , is it reversible or lesson learned walk away from it ????
I have dated lots of women and I can tell you unequivocally you only get one Chan with a woman, we men give second chances , but women simply don’t give second chances if you show any any weaknesses like you like her more than she likes you
If a female "doesn't have a lot of love to give" it just means she's jaded/too experienced or that she's not really into you. A woman who doesn't have a lot of love to give is tantamount to a man who doesn't have a strong work ethic. This type of male or female is low-quality.
I can agree with a lot of these things... but to make it clearer... most women want a relationship but want to take it slow... we dont know if you r b/f or husband material in the beginning.
1:07:41 valid point because I had a women like this n I told her I was buying my house n I got my shit together but I just had to validate that point. Good looking
All this n that bs is ridiculous I’m not chasing no woman if I’m the only one reaching out I completely stop I’m not gonna be a pest & when I see them I still hug them & say hey you good I’m unfazed I won’t block em & still be their friend on social media & if they post something I like imma like it , meaning bros just go on with ya life effe everything else
No it’s not. Over stimulation over stimulation. That’s what I meant. Too much attention can be a different arena. You can give a woman too much attention but she may not be overstimulated. She just takes access to you for granted
@@kingdreism Based on the definition you provided in the video, a woman who is over-stimulated is a woman who is overwhelmed or over-satiated. The only thing that causes this is a man giving her too much attention. And even if you reject my perspective on this, the fact is that withdrawing from a woman or otherwise reducing the amount of attention you give her WILL solve the problem of her being over-stimulated. So it really is the same as giving her too much attention.
Women who adore you NEVER take time away or pull back. If a female pulls back it is always a negative thing. Either she's not that into you or there's another guy. If she pulls back as a strategy to manipulate you it still stems from her NOT being crazy about you and/or she's for the streets.
