The Chinese Girl who Came Running Back when I Had Money 

You and C milk hit the jackpot eventually with your wives...thanks to you both for sharing your experiences

I just wanted to say i love your channel.

Your adventures of travel hase helped me out a lot. I'm sure many others have also discovered that your experience has giving them an edge when wheeling n dealing in China. The cultural differences between different countries can sometimes be surprising & even difficult to understand or except. There isn't many people that have your experiences that are able to share it with such a large group of people. A valuable resource is your videos & stories. Thx.

This channel is one of most influencial and comprehasive personal anti-China propaganda, welcomed by 1+ million ppl. However, as Mr. Serpentza's wife is a chinese, I appreciated her by far much more.

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I'm sure deep down he knew something was off. But sometimes being a foreigner gets you girls for no reason other than being a novelty.

@TheMysteryDriver Seriously. You don't call ANY girl your "girlfriend" after only 3 days. Usually, you meet someone, hang out a few times, go on a few dates, talk on the phone, and see if you actually LIKE each other first.

@@TheMysteryDriver He have mutt chidren , destroyed his bloodline. Who the big fool , him .

Yet he couldn't get another female after his first "girlfriend" dumped him. Very odd. Also very odd that he took the "girlfriend" back. I've lost respect for him.

I mean maybe the woman likes white guys and wanted the D. Nothing wrong with that. But yeah I would have blocked her number and whatnot if she put herself in my orbit after I gained some wealth.

Hahaha at c!

Hypergamy has no borders!

That's a bro over there.

What a good ex- husband!!

@@pebblepod30 I didn't need to be convinced/warned...

There are two kinds of people, ones who like reducing everything into pithy aphorisms and those who don't 😂

@@Replicant-by1eh That's right. It makes it easier for most people understand

U can reduce that to 2. Also making the right reference to The good, the bad and the ugly. Because those who drop u in hard times (and therefor make things harder). There are only 2 kind of people in the world. The ones that helped you during your hard times. And those who dig.

Repay honour with honour, and treachery with treachery.

I love that, what a great thought.

Beware of foreign women. If you are American, all they need is a green card after three years, and they're gone.

"Married a Chinese"? You talk like you think you are better than her.

lmao so offended @@oh_k8

@oh_k8 are you a Chinese

Judging by the story he obviously was

I know quit a few girls in Europe that do that too...

Well .. thats not only a chinese thing.. the girls and woman in europe also do this trick...

@@Islandwaterjet Same for me. It's difficult finding genuine people these days.

Oh, imagine women being women. You need to accept it and adapt. Go look up the term "hypergamy". Women are hypergamous.

Rich Cooper says it well: " women don't care about your struggles, they wait at the finish line and bang the winners"...

Thanks mate, I don’t like scripting, especially since it’s a personal story, if someone is scripting their stories then you know it’s not genuine

He would be a better president for these united states

I think the video background and interesting topic n b-rolls helps

@@serpentza You're an important lighthouse, please don't lead us astray!

I had a lots of 18-19yr olds on rural China but man the big bush just wasn’t my thing. They wouldn’t even let me trim it down

Should've lied 😂

That would pertain to all races

Joke's on her; truckers can make good money and if you like lots of alone time, it really works out 😅🥰

@@Heavenlysky89 nah

You could have said "Materials Movement Manager" or "Freight Travel Director"

They don't like wasting money! Diamond rings are a western thing. At least some Viet girls think like that, maybe the more traditional ones.

can't grow shit with diamonds...🤣🤣🤣🤣

The diamond merchants in New York invented and marketed the idea of an engagement plus wedding ring, a diamond being a girl's best friend, and spending at least a month's salary on the ring. That was about 70 years ago. Advertising agents:go F yourselves.

Youre a lucky man. I hope a can find a wife like that 😄

And what is your ethnicity?

aha fancy seeing u here. ji

oh my god is this really karl rock here i never thought you would be watching other peoples vlogs(because you are already busy doing your own & person who spend most of the time doing adventures with police lol XD). But it was amazing knowing you do to like rest of us you both are my favourite vloggers who share really good information through their videos

O.o You're here!

Hey Guys, yeap, I’m here. Been a subscriber for a long time. China has always interested me because it’s kind of out there with that society credit system and alternative internet. It seems like another world. Plus they’re our neighbour in India.

@@KarlRock :D

ever think that those who would be ""fall in love" types would have been among the millions executed during the commy revolution and even more by the cultural revolution?!

Love is a modern myth anyways, and pursuit of it, is one of the major factors of the high divorce rate in western countries. Love is about duty and loyalty and people have forgotten that.

@@incoherentturd Western women are not so different from China's women at all!!! They also go for $$$ and for "full-head-of-hair" and what part of the city he lives in, and job-title and ego evil power, and even if he has a yacht. Divorce rate comes from many factors, including a drop from any of those characteristics, and unforgiving stiff inflexibility of principles -- also about "status" and ego idolatry. The English language lumps too many versions or sub-definitions together into one overloaded word "Love". Love must include affinity though, or else your definition of "duty & loyalty" can be just an employment contract, or an abusive psych/social arrangement (eg- narcissist with a "supply"). Its not love if there is no positive *Affect* (not to be confused with Effect) or affinity happening 2-way traffic, or taking turns at "duty", not just a 1-way street.

lol tony never read any classic or ancient literature.

@@mtlicq Communism: the main reason for atheism's spread.

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Damn, that's a very true way to put it

Sometimes when you break up, you develop a wound that is difficult to heal. Then attempts to return (unsuccessful) make sense - they burn away the diseased tissue. You get a scar, but a healthy one. Then each time it becomes easier to never come back.

Gosh! What a metaphor. Surely, I will never forget that saying while alive...

Fact..never go backwards

They still love China as a country and a region of people. Whenever they talk, there is this underlying sadness of what's happening there. The government and the struggle of the people, combined with some culture dynamics produced an absolute hell hole and it's getting worse.

​@@KarttiboneIt's the Godless marxist society. It produces people who's only love is money and it results in all kinds of evil. Communism is a religion that worships money and power, and which accuses its opponent (Capitalism) of its own crimes.

That is a really good summary of these guy's story.

but that the same in America so its probably the same planet-wise. all cultures erode overtime or morphed into the concerns of the day.... we live in monetary economic times now, so money is the metric of good living. before, I'm sure, being a strong warior was. so being able to fight may have been the metric then, everyone was battling in those times. Perhaps in the future it will be something else but the principles dont change.....@@Karttibone

I am a Chinese who grew up in a foreign country. When I was young, I liked China very much and liked its history. Finally, when I came to China, I liked China and finally understood its true history, everything that happened in it, and its humanity. Finally I found it would be safer to stay away from China.

True, same thing.

Ya for a lesbian but not for a man dream come true

wat i dont understand

Agree. Chinese culture is too materialistic. Everything needs to involve money.

@@rollinghippo2940 A money obsessed culture stems out of a scarcity culture. If a nation is either very poor or rich but with very low social safety nets (high stakes culture), then life very easily becomes such where financial issues will always be the main issues to which everything else is subjugated. This money obsessed culture can last a long time after things in society change, since at that point it may have become just the general culture without any second thought about where it originally came from. If every day is a struggle and/or you are constantly reminded of how easy it is to lose everything and become dirt poor with extremely low quality of life, then it's really hard to genuinely enjoy your life, relationships or anything really. This is not a China problem, this is in varying degrees in many many countries. Maybe it's very visible in China, but the essence of this behaviour isn't unique at all.

That’s what I’m warning people about

@@serpentza I am married to a Chinese woman and not buying her birthday gift or anniversary gift is great. She doesn’t care.

@@serpentza a culture gap? I mean to be fair, there's two sides to this and i sort of question an industry where it might be implied white boy finds China exotic, white boy seeks to embrace China, white boy realises huge culture incompatibilities exist, white boy trashes China. I'm not saying not to make political or cultural criticism but is it fair to put women from a different culture on a pedestal of idealism and then knock them off again once they fail to be like us? Don't get me wrong, an analysis of economy-driven behaviour in intercultural or Chinese romance is fair enough. In another way, maybe what you're seeing is a culture that a) never went through second wave feminism but b) is in late capitalism but following massively accelerated growth from a communist economy. It's just not really an ordinary situation. Utility - look i'm at the start of the video, what i object to online is personal attacks on the reputations of individuals who have no way to defend themselves. If i were ever to have a date with you and you were just awful, i would never plaster up your image with your face pixellated out. I think that's out of order. I mean, certain Chinese customs may certainly seem rough/rude from the perspective of Western habits. But there's almost certainly a reverse of this. I wonder what Chinese expats think of white dudes fresh off the boat making it with all the local girls, do you know what i'm saying? I'm not attacking white dudes, i'm saying your own behaviour could seem rude, ungrateful or frustrating in ways where the perception of this possibility could be something you're unaware of, blind to. Culture gaps go both ways. The fact is that yes, Westerners may receive favour because of perceived utility. And, at the end of the day, this is how men have traditionally been assessed before second wave feminism, as the provider or bread winner. This element may be considered as or, as we see, far more important than romance. For you, this crushes your sense of romance: the woman only wants you for your wallet. But to her, she might not understand such offence, in that overall and in the new economy, in China, a country of billions, the need to find a reliable provider may be drilled into the heads of some people since day one. Should we judge this behaviour as ignorant and rude? I think it's more complicated than that, given that other aspects of this lifestyle quickly seduced you in direct comparison to the West. I dunno, i just question an industry of the turned China-fancier. I think that's what this is and i'm just not sure if it's fair because you may have exoticised China. A bunch of people have travelled there without much background knowledge on the history and culture whatsoever, but the idea there wouldn't be cultural gaps in a relationship betwedn a mainland Chinese lady and a Westerner, dude maybe it's neither of your faults if the average attempt meets some sharp stumbling blocks. Yes, we might find the Chinese relationship with economy somewhat alienating but again, not much need for a Pikachu face there either, i think what would be unusual is if you had no problems in your relationship of an economic nature. I also guess that _class_ would be a huge factor in a post-communist, totalitarian-capitalist China. The position of a woman whose parents are poor farmers who came to the city to work in a factory or something is going to be pretty different to a rich girl whose father is a doting merchant who happens to be doing very well. Just a devil's advocate to consider. As a woman i would strongly discourage you from using a pixellated image of a real person you're dissing in a thumbnail. Unless you are happy for your image to be used by others in such ways. Just saying. It's pretty rough. I assume it's not that she tried to murder you or anything but that she was greedy and ungrateful by your standards. I mean if everyone took this approach about people they dated who failed to impress them...

OP, to be honest, i think some men would consider that scenario an absolute blessing! But i am not a man so cannot confirm. You mean you just never buy your wife gifts and she has been happy with that for over three decades? On an economic level, what is there to complain about? Maybe her parents were taught that gift giving was imperialist nonsense? Then if an economic token of personal affection is warranted, don't they usually give money? I suppose a person who may have been brought up with frugal ideals would hate waste. And if besides the matter of ritual, the truth was that a gift wasn't that suitable in reality - a frugal sort might rather you don't waste your money, and have been raised to believe that sacrificing the need for economic niceties is an act of love, and therefore romantic. So that's a different reading of the same norms. She can probably go without just as easily as you can live without having to celebrate Chinese New Year. Do you know what i mean? That's a ritual but it's unlikely to have quite the same import to you.

@@mothratemporalradio517 Wao. I would like to seat down and listen to you give a lecture. Your observation is quite frankly interesting. And insightful.

She’s better than most. Other than she is quite naive in thinking that selfishness could trade selflessness forever, she is quite clever. At least she gets to be a millionaire.

Quite revealing that she can be rich in money but it scorns her she can’t be in what you may have found

Boys let’s be real…most women, anywhere in the world are almost always the same. The relationship with women is where us men are the wallet, gopher, and bodyguard. The men who have the greatest need to seed will be their downfall. Be patient, be disinterested, and take your time assessing your lady’s personality. You must be diligent like MI-6 levels before you marry your mate. 😂good day and god bless.

Or just don’t get married

@@cubancigarman2687 this video has revealed that, too, for sure. But there are those who’ve chosen to embark on the warrior’s path and face the darkness within 😈

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Too bad we don't live in the world of Shrek

so basically, in movies only?😆

So 100% if you’re a Shrek fan?

LMAO, +1 for Shrek reference

my god 😂😂

Governments have an effect on peoples culture. Try Taiwan!

Remember, the Chinese are not a single unified race/ethic/ culture to be exact. It depends on the region. It should be obvious. Just look at the landmass. Do you think they are all the same? Heck, even though the US has only 200+ years of history, people speak slightly different dialects, and behave and think differently. Imagine what 2000+ years would be like, not to mention some Chiese cannot even speak Mandarin even within the "Huns". So are you still going to consider them "Chinese"? What is the definition of Chinese to be exact? Of coz you would adopt the CCP's definition because they want to tell the world and their own people that they are all the same, but nah, anthropology wouldn't allow that.

The Rapist School? 6:11 Didn't know they had schools for that. The Chinese guy in the pic was the headmaster?

Chi-nuh sucks

Thanks for speaking your mind, I'll keep my eyes peeled for this. I sort of hate christmas and gifts. People stare me and await a reaction from my slow-processing-ass. I will only know after a while if the thing is good or fun, I have to look at it thoroughly first for at least 5 minutes. I think I didn't buy almost anything for myself until after 24 years. Now I know what has value in my life. My neutral face is tired. I will never know what people think when they inspect my face when I inspect their gift.

Or they just don't like the gift that you bought them.

I laughed at that point too... haha

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Disgusting, superficial culture and people.

That's about every woman around the world

@@Gokusaiyan. yeah true but for almost 90% some 10% are exceptions !

Well, the best thing you can have with women is fun. Buying presents is ok but don't buy stupid expensive things for her or don't go out for dinner, it's a different thing if YOU like going out for dinner. Just have fun, go dancing, s*x, movie, explore nature, meet new people..... Live life the best you can. If you want a long relationship, that is your choice and if you want fun, go for it....

@@Gokusaiyan. hypergamy is a bitch.

Yes white man users don't classify like this guy giving his bullshit

Chinese people don't waste their time and bullshit they just tell u yes or no not white man bullshit if or maybe or not sure

"Women were SO loyal back then" "My Mother Married an American GI during the vietnam war." lmao.

Is that her in your profile picture? If yes, why are you still using her photo?

@@onlygameplay134 yeah she's cute. What's her OnlyFans?

@@xxpatrick204xx come on man, don't do this

These kind of actions require a special kind of personality.. universally they are called gold diggers.

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it's communism. look at the former soviet states.

@@motionpictures21 well china, Taiwan, Mongolia all boring countries, except for the fast rail South Korea and Japan are better

@@tiestokygoericprydz3963 That's true. Mainly it's the lack of morality and empathy.

Coming from a Taiwanese household now living in the US, there's still a few cultural overlaps where the Taiwanese are still somewhat utilitarian-focused when it comes to marriage. Love is at best secondary, but a stable income and being able to eat should always come first, and this shocked my westerner friends even till this day. I don't think all the wacky ideals happen solely because of awful CCP policies, but moreso we have learned to phase out some of the archaic cultural ideals over time especially after all the western influence. For example, the idea of cheating being "normal" has been an assumption and less of a shock because of fiction, folklore, and just that being the norms for many generations especially among the wealthy. There's always a saying where if a married man is wealthy, we automatically assume he would have mistresses because of the power he has. However, that is definitely frowned upon by the Taiwanese.

But you, after 5 visits, know more about China than they do after a dozen years of living? I'm not surprised, we also have arrogant ignorant people lecturing more experienced people.

Sorry to hear that. Hope things work out for you. I wonder if this is akin to 'i want to keep the relationship professional' feeling I and others have with work people? Things just go more smoothly without personal encumbrance in work relationships, IMHO.

@@CentristDad155 not exactly. there's a lot of passive aggression and racism added into the mix.

@@metricmoo I assume you are talking about Chinese people rather than dealing with people like me? 😉 Yeah, they are quite a bit more racially prejudiced than western people , middle of the bell curve people that is, so I imagine that would be a huge factor for some.

Westerners also worship money. Asians are just more ridiculously obvious about it.

You mean to say that relationships anywhere else are not transactions and based on finances? Its the same everywhere man !!

ouch. really? i hope you dont mean what i think you do.

Yes Simon is a great guy, there are a few like him in China, I have 2 friends there very similar to him.

@@jondo3817 whatchu think he meant?

And shout out to all virgins in the world for never cheating either

Gay?

NOT the 1st time I've heard that about Chinese women.

😂 just bang them ,who gets married these days

you probably mean 180, because 360 she would turn a full circle and be back to how she was

180*

"Talent is a pursued interest. Anything that you're willing to practice, you can do." Winston clearly shows that he wants to talk about things if said things could actually teach people about something.

and of course the money he gets for anti-Chinese propaganda...lol

Honest and smart

@@costamarques3900 spambot

South Africans are usually very direct

"you are almost 30 with no degree and do not own a house" sounds like the worst curse in China when you quarrel with someone, I can't even look at this sentence it's way too humiliating, we don't usually use this strong words.

@@ChenLinYu323 I understood the relationship wasn't going anywhere at that point. Never stay where you are no longer wanted. Life is too short.

you should of said why do I need a degree?

@@AlreadyShort I understood where she was coming from. Cultural differences and what not. It was still pretty fucked up, but I learned from it. Today I make almost 6 figures and still have no degree, yup... Good thing I am getting my chemical engineering degree in a year.

@@ChenLinYu323 pretty much par for the course in Australia given a literal hole in a ground can now cost millions. To be honest, foreign investment by mainland Chinese nouveau riche has been a pivotal factor in prices skyrocketing. It must be noted that our government is responsible for allowing it.

wow. crazy

Talk about a cat fight. Chinese women must despise each other.

How can any of them trust each other when everyone just cheats on one another?

@@Thesamurai1999 It's what those particular ladies are used to I guess. Perhaps you can call it a "norm" amongst those ladies.

That's horrifying. Cat fights must happen quite often then.

Edit. Incels and lazy ducks got mad in the comments😂 Honestly i would loose feelings too. Unless you have savings to support yourself while unemployed thats fine. Otherwise I cannot imagine paying for two people with my salary.

@@kattodoggo3868 Meanie. You should tell prospective partners that on your first dates.

I don't understand the Pikachu face and explained why in my other comments. In the West, yes. I would feel you. In China, no. They never had second wave feminism and have a completely dissimilar economic history and reality. There was never any gender role revolution per se. I think what a lot of dudes don't realise about feminism is where it benefitted men (including the introduction of "the pill"). Usually only its perceived detriment is noted. But in fact differing gender relations, for better or worse, led to a technically more egalitarian approach towards heterosexual relationships in the West. Even if elements of these changes also may have backfired in certain ways for both genders here. So, as reductive examples, in the West, the guy may be less likely to expect it's the woman's job to cook.. Altho stats suggest that women working hasn't necessarily take away trad housework or childcare expectations. Conversely, the woman may be less likely to expect the guy to be the breadwinner. More than that, economic changes have meant a male breadwinner is usually impossible in most Western households these days, except for the very wealthy. Because you often can't support two people, much less a family, on an average single wage these days. Jobs used to be much more secure. In the eyes of someone raised to narrow them about breadwinning - who was taught to privilege this attribute as a motive when selecting who to date and when - this job loss of yours was unfortunately likely perceived as "happening within only a few months of dating". And therefore was seen as the dreaded Red Flag, Zhongguo style. But, were there advantages to dating such a woman generally not connected with Western dating? Maybe this woman seemed to find your jokes terribly funny and to coo and massage your neck as soon as you come in from work, without fail, every time? It's perhaps just not an unconditional arrangement in reality.. and the illusion may have been that the more alluring treatment was nothing to do with money. I don't know as a woman how people feel when they act like that (conditional in that way) so i can't comment. But since i'm apparently playing devil's advocate, maybe it doesn't read as unromantic to them? They want economic security and are willing to go the extra mile for it, and associated behaviour might be ritualistic. They might still feel emotionally connected somehow as long as those circumstances act as a mechanism? I dunno. I couldn't be like that but i've been conditioned in our culture. Economic security is nothing to sniff at though.

By the way, in case that sounds a bit cold, i'm sorry you had a hurtful experience. Better you found out relatively quickly while still young, rather than years into the relationship and needing to depend on her. It left you open for other more suitable relationships based on mutuality but might have rattled your confidence a bit, understandably. A learning experience, i guess.

@@kattodoggo3868 you dont know what love is I guess

"honor" in east asia is only applied in Japan. China and South Korea have no honor left, they can sell their parents for money. especially the girls. WIth the right amount, they ready to do everything for having their new louis vuitton bag and have their instagram pictures in fancy restaurants they can't afford..

they don't

Communism destroyed their culture.

That culture died with the birth of the People's Republic of China.

you are completely confusing China with Japan.

Id love to speak to him about Suits one day.

你很喜欢听他撒谎

Winston is very good at this. Never boring.

@@billchris3810 go home bot

@@billchris3810 他看到并体验过，他讲实话，只是你自己不知道。

Okay but how many relationships break down in the West when money becomes scarce or one party loses their job, etc? Maybe East Asian people are just more realistic

@@DessieTots Agreed. "Love" - haha. An invention of Hollywood. Okay - that's an exaggeration. But it does contain a kernel of truth. I would also argue that the mythos of western 'romantic love' is even more responsible for the breakdown of marriages than is economic hardship. Love wears off - the vast majority of the time. Five years later and it's a case of "what was I thinking???"

​@@Unfunny_Username_389 Well..... it´s complicated I guess. Maybe the rate of breakdown of marriages is a natural, yet conveniently ignored result of choosing a partner based on emotions, rather than economic factors and social rung of your own family and that of your future spouse. And maybe we should look more at the bright side: Despite the insecurities of changing emotions and personalities over time, approx. 50% of marriages stay together. Choice of partner based on emotions is less a result of Hollywood, and much more a result of changes in the socioeconomic fabric beginning in the sixties: Women were no longer dependent on their husbands to attain social standing and an attractive standard of living, and men no longer needed a wife to run the household and cook, something which required serious knowledge before the availability of fridges, microwave ovens, laundromats, vacuum cleaners, frozen food, etc. The term batchelor scurvy ring a bell? Though not precisely causative, the disconnect between sex and pregnancy was the icing on the cake in this development: The pill became available in the sixties, and Roe v Wade - well, you can understand why some of the news media speak of a seismic shift after the leaked draft of the SCOTUS re. abortions. On a sidenote re. the expected ruling on Roe v Wade: Once people begin to understand the far reaching socioeconomic ramifications I wouldn´t be surprised if the (g)rabbed (o)bedient (p)ussies will at some point begin to curse the decision to shake hands with the devil - meaning the evangelicals - based on a deal of evangelical votes in exchange for anti-abortion judges. What IS an invention of Hollywood (and the entire romance racket) is the conflation of the religious underpinning of marriage ("What God has joined together let no man put asunder") with personal emotions and feelings. For some odd reason humans seem to think that somehow their rush of emotions is so overwhelming that it must be divine in origin, or at the very least a stroke of fate, in the sense of: "It is meant to be". The irony is that before the sixties, the religious and socioeconomic straitjacket around marriage was meant to achieve what the lack of an emotional bond between partners couldn´t do to keep two people together, and after the sixties personal emotions and feelings were expected to replace this religious and socioeconomic straitjacket with the same amount of force and effectiveness. The latter notion was and is - shall we say: unrealistic?! At any rate, we humans seem to like the notion that choice of partner is something taken out of our hands and responsibilities because it is ordained by some ever so elusive higher force, when in fact it is deep down much more a form of negotiation between "What do I hope to get, and what opportunities (if any) have chance and coincidence currently dealt to me?". Finally: What is probably more important than the initial rush of emotions is the simple day to day workings of a relationship: Are you a good team? Are you loyal to each other? Do you support and complement each other? Etc....

@@pixelpusher1393 I appreciate you and the time you took to write this.

@@DessieTots love you until we die or your bank account runs out of money and/or whichever comes first

Really? How long?

That's mint

that's like saying better rich than happy. Makes no sense

I'd rather laugh on the back or front of a bicycle. It's not even close.

@@miquelmarti6537 make sense or not. almost all the chinese women think that way

lol

Facts brother, I will use this quote in life. Thanks for this.

damn LOL

I will steal this also.

Well said

The same applies to indian women (only 10x worse)

@@RJ-dw4jw I don't know if they'd harass you this bad... they are very shallow though.

Omg what a stalker that girl is, so sorry you had to go through all of this

Ohhhh… as a gay dude mine was a Brazilian. They all want to get married to get their papers. I went on ONE date …. No sex… one date. We went to Greek fest , that’s it. I didn’t like the vibe so I texted him and said kindly , thanks but no thanks . I got text message calling me a fa$$ot. How I was a player, how I was ugly , how badly he needed the papers. CRAZY BITCH

China is the most populated country in the world, so I don't know where you get off trying to generalize so wildly after ONE date (that you didn't even have).. imagine what other countries could generalize about English men considering the population..

Even in the US, the first check box for a large percentage of women is how much money a person makes. You rank higher the more money you make and the more woman you can, to be blunt have sex with.

"Communist countries"?? 😂 What the f. does any of that have to do with the country being "communist"? It's about traditional Asian culture, not "communism".

Spot on. Especially concerning native mainland Chinese. With the heavy censorship there, overcoming the hive think can be overwhelming.

It is about communist countries. Not traditional culture. @@rv706

Get out.

I suppose the question is “how long should it be before there’s a reasonable expectation for of being healed?” unfortunately from my experience of other traumatized cultures and subcultures, the answer is at times “healing never happens to a far degree.” If that is the case here, then it leads to an even more unfortunate question which would be “if there’ll never be fully healed and it’ll always be like this, is there a point where it’s no longer a good enough “excuse” warranting such a level of understanding?”

@@yousaywhatnow2195 That's why decoupling from this country is the best course of action in the long term.

@@advicepirate8673 I hear you.

@@yousaywhatnow2195 Good point.

Never knew about this, thanks for helping me find my next rabbit hole.

"The privileges without the responsibility"

If you dished some brutal honesty do you think those women could handle it?

@@ashharkausar413 , oh, hell no.

@@ashharkausar413 yes Chinese men are very honest when they speak English . It’s weird with the women always wanting gifts

That’s just being rude honesty like no even honest it’s just rude if someone buys you a gift it’s having compassion and telling them yes thank you even if you do like then .

America is lucky to have Latinos. Much better than what Europe wound up with. China basically needs immigrants to power it's economy in the future but doesn't really have and immigration pool like America has with Latin America. Latinos are great people.

It’s also why Asian under free market economies are always rich and Hispanics are often poor. Asians are very practical and calculating. They plan ahead and scheme to optimize for their long term success. Hispanics live in the moment and enjoy life and that often leaves you poor.

China has only one god, money. Which is sometimes equal to social status.

Not just Hispanic women are like that.

Chinese women just thinking about money 💰.

The funny thing about that Chinese story is that it happens in Europe and the U.S. depending on if the female has some extensive gold digging tendencies and this guy is a traveler who barely speaks the local language... why is anyone surprised or generalizing? Lmaooo

@KrO Its not as though you can find a real relationship in the US anyway. They are ALL gold diggers. The only difference is women in the US are way more entitled than those in Asia and expect you to just put out and offer nothing in return. Whereas in Asia, you can at least get your money's worth if you know how to play your cards right.

@KrO Thailand is not "South China"

@@lagalaxy5537 They are pretty similar, once you scratch past the flashy paint job in Thailand.

@KrO I will be careful about dating with Thai women as well. Its better to just pump and dump.

Women are worse than men in this regard. They are wired to be attracted to the strongest of the species. That used to be the tallest and most muscular men but money is now seen as a source if strength as well. Women are wired to look for providers for them and their offspring. Men are visual because women with large breasts and hips are women who will breed healthy babies. It's not just about personal survival but survival of the human species.

I hope you get better. Your wife needs you.

truth

Well written. It may sound like I'm making it up but that last line brought tears to my eyes.

So true, wish you and your wife all the best.

My sense from having friends with HK parents is that the culture is completely different from mainland China despite still sharing some Han Chinese traditions. Different language, different religious orientation where relevant, different government, even a different sense if humour if you ask me, HK cinema often had a flair for wacky slapstick.. HK was never communist and so never snapped into accelerated totalitarian capitalism with growth of development outpacing other areas of life. HK though Chinese and overpacked is arguably much more attuned with certain Western sensibility including democracy and resistance to "communism". It has no impoverished rural areas although there's extreme poverty, so, there's many less daughters of poor farmers. I'm really glad you found a person who loves you for you. Congrats! And it's great you were not pressured by her family. I know less about that because some Confucian ideals could still apply in Asian culture outside mainland China, but this probably varies significantly.

Oh wait! Sorry, i wrote all that only to realise you said she actually comes from China anyway. Duh. Well that's interesting. Could it be that her familial background was mercantile or involved international business that included travelling or international dealings? I'm guessing there was at the minimum economic security in her background. I do like the maths test factor (: Btw, what was your thesis about? I might not understand well, i'm just curious (:

@@mothratemporalradio517 no worries. Yes she is entirely Chinese with no HK background or international travel before going to HK from China, and they are no wealthier than the average family in the cities, but were very academic. They even accepted that she became a Christian and we got married in church. They certainly wouldn't have accepted me however if they thought I wasn't good enough academically (she is extremely strong in maths).

@@thisismonitor4099 You are lucky. If you ever meet a woman, and the first thing she asks is how much you make, or if you live by yourself, then you should run away.

@@thisismonitor4099 Your case is the exception. Wealth will always be the priority for women no matter what culture they are from. It's a symptom of an ultra-competitive modern society.

Wow way to go homogenising East, West, South, Southeast, and Southwest Asians in one big "Asian" category. You literally lumped billions of people as though they're the same. Damn bro

@@gutenmorgen9626 When americans say asians they mean east asians (chinese, japanese, koeans) whereas when british people say asians they mean south asians (pakistanis, indians, nepalese, bengalis, sri lankans). no one actually menas all asians

@@overdose8329 I dunno if this is worse, erasing other Asians from the category because predominantly white people from Europe or America don't know these other Asians are also included in that very same "Asian" category. Seems pretty dumb and arbitrary tbh. Now how about studying geography for a start. 👍

Oh man! Dude! One things is to leave the partner, but their own child?????? Child over money is insane even for Chinese standards.

@@jia2001 Happened to someone I know. Left him and her boy.

How old were you when you joined?

@@wildones9339 33

@@abdiellawrence397 God bless you for having better life😊

Been two years there, personally South Korea is hell on earth. I can't trust korean girls anymore (and if i was girls also korean boys, i saw too many cheaters that pretend to not see the problems..), i discovered racism there, i saw a "rape culture" I never heard so many rapes in my life than in South Korea... And if you are a foreigner girl or man, know that in front the police or the justice you will automatically lose or they will try to protect the korean first. Being nationalist and protecting your people against foreigner, ok sure, But protecting the one that are rapists or lying abotu rape to take money from men?!! wtf is this police? wtf is this country? Do never tell me again SK is a democratic country. They have lot of money but they are not civilized like Japan for example. There mind is closer to chinese: Corruption, money over humanity, stupid nationalism that doesnt make any sense at some point, thinking they are the best in the world while they hate their life and drink like they wanna die from it... There life is sad as fuck, their mind is stuck in 1960, im so glad i wasn't born there. I will never go back there.

@@JohnnyGuitar50 I try 😊

Nah most chinese just tend to be too materialistic

Exactly.

More like a Japanese hostess

You are wrong, non massage parlor Chinese girls are the same

​@@cecillec2331these men are sad. Why would you throw away your heritage?

Thanks mate!

I have so many friends and colleagues who have ended up in similar situations. ..I'm afraid I have zero sympathy. They're idiots for being taken in by these girls ...they're ruthless

They deserve that because they always insult their own women and then go to poorer countries looking for a girl they can control... the girl always controls them though!

@@decorDD Yeah. I watched a couple of my cousins get on that train... The women didn't seem to realise, that it doesn't take that much money to present yourself as being well off for a few weeks in Thailand. So they were severely disappointed when they arrived, already married, and saw what kind of situation they were really going to live in. So it goes both ways... But I do feel sorry for the kids, though...

Wasn't there a recent movie where the gangster marries a Thai girl and then when she has children, she asks her brother to kill her husband and the gang? It was an emotionally brutal movie!

@@0anant0sounds like the plot of star wars

I agree. In fact, the same thoughts continue to cross my mind after a traumatic experience with a Chinese girl from the mainland: she didn't do herself a favour WHATSOEVER in letting me go. But she did it because she didn't get the short-term gains she "expected" from her man (her longterm prospects were excellent with me). So she decided to look for another guy. But her value on the market already started to go down (at age 33); and this market is governed by Nature and not by men; so, I ask my female readers her to get real and not blame us. The whole thing about heterosexual relations is quite messed up. We all could go on forever discussing this here, but in the end, some get lucky, the majority does not. Schopenhauer explained it all in his "Metaphysics of heterosexual love."

Second reference to Shopenhauer I've read in 30 minutes lol. Weird. Never heard the name before

@@TheREALTyreeSneed2 It's suddenly a hit and the manosphere thinks he's a genius for telling them what they already believe.

Wise advice. I'm learning that now.

@@j.r.r.tolkien8724 sms talaq, talaq, talaq and that muslim marriage is over. But you are right, many muslims and also many christians don't behave in the way chinese do.

CH is country code for Switzerland not China.

@@winkekatze5593 Yes...and there you don't have to eat many bad meals... You can start and taste something awesome❣ Was erwarten Maenner von Asiaten...👀 Dummheit wird leider oft bestraft. 🐑

They want an awful lot from a man, but can they offer the same amount, or is it a one way street? Well, it'll work out somehow. They'll either meet someone who fits the bill, or end up alone. Either way, the world keeps spinning. I just want to point out though that even the lower level 5 Cs that you listed are pretty damn shallow, except for "Commitment" and "Compassion".

Could u tell me the name of that poem?

This is his biogr

"The essence of Hell is the absence of love." Perhaps the "cold-hearted" woman, as you put it, truly was in love with Winston, but the social/cultural pressures resulted in resorting to doing what her culture had taught her--think back to how long she stayed with him as he was looking for work. With pressure building up behind her with every failed attempt. She's a human being and so are you, so please be careful with passing judgment before taking the time necessary to think through the situation. God bless.

Well China is taking over Africa. So, why would his family be safe in South Africa?

@@Cyric1983. The issue here is how cold hearted jmmoral to dump ghost sum1 after emotionally attached and invested in. That's wrong in most traditional societies, but modern Western ideals, feminism, and communism, have brainwashed most women into entitled behaviour, not about Survival, but about a moue luxurious opulent life. Most women leave, when they see that high life doesn't look like its gonna happen. But some good women don't think like that. They have traditional values of morals, ethics, character, integrity. These are rare these days. Women today always try justify their immoral behaviour with financial excuses. That's feminism. Cultural Marxism social engineering. Brain washed robots with no Empathy. They see men as always a exist, chauvinist, though they're not, and as the enemy, unless they serve the women's interests. This toxic attitude is backfiring though... As all the decent good men, will have nothing to do with these nasty minded whores. Hence going abroad for traditional women not affected by feminism and materialism. So in the end, women of that ilk lose, for being feminist. Materialism is incompatible with Morality. Gain vs Give .. Love is about Giving. Materialism is about Gain and Get. Women have lost sight of that fact. They think Hollywood romance is real, when it's just fantasy and never lasts, bcoz the woman sabotages the relationship, out of dissatisfied reality, when her fantasy is not realised, so leaves, looking elsewhere for the golden unicorn of luxury life, in the man who can give that to her... Only realising that, in the end, that vacuous empty selfish materialism has no meaning, depth, or truth and she destroyed all that really mattered in her brainwashed pursuit of that delusional fantasy thinking it would give her true happiness, when it just gives her temporary fixes of Dopamine, she's addicted to, and ends in misery, as materialism only feeds the monster, never satisfies the soul or heart, spirit or mind.

New vocabulary item for you. Autobiography.

Why do you need a "partner" like that?

It's not limited to China. Not by a long shot.

@Sean Lander essential is how much money you have for some. I personally didn’t consider myself as poor but for Shanghainese standards it was too little. That’s how some the women here evaluating men.

@Sean Lander I got ride of my ex wife. After experiencing some difficulties she turned on me in every ugly way. My financial problems only lasted a couple of months. Now I make money like never before. But I don't plan to get a women. I'm done with this. It's only me, my daughter (She lives with me), my father and mother, my siblings, my friends. No women will ever have the chance to interfere, disturb my life.

Ha! Yeah right.

Damn you missed your chance to have an actually exciting story. (Jk, I enjoyed what you had to say)

Bro almost became the protagonist of an ntr novel.

I lived in Qingdao for two years! All my girlfriends there looked our relationships as just a “good time” before they settled down with a “real man”, presumably a Chinese man. Crazy time!!!!!

@@rallelevin6102 🤣🤣

@@BlastinRope hahaha

Whoa. As a woman, that's not uncommon when it comes to dudes, but i don't know i've actually learned of a woman doing this before. Sorry you had that experience, dude.

@@mothratemporalradio517 I don't think that's fair to say it's only men cheating, history/statistics shows that there's plenty of it in both genders.

@@mothratemporalradio517 it's really common and I went along with it in Japan for quite a while

Why do you think this woman deside to tell you 3 monhts later that she was married?

You did blowjobs for 5 years in China? :O was SH an upgrade? What does it mean?

Yellow fever is a real disease.

Every country is different not about east and west

Adjustments ? Love of money is the root of all evil. The point is.. ? There's Natural laws, and Social programable laws by men/dictatorships. When a nation is raised Unbalanced to Natural law, of Creations order ? You have a Disfuncional Society based on Doctrination. Can't justify that dude. Society has learn not be Ideologically lead by forms of Artificial constructs to achieve a Righteous code, of lifestyle. Everyone wants peace, and prosperity. But at what coast ? And did you Qualify for that prosperity an peace. Most people are sheep. And afraid to agaisnt the conditioned norm. In which case ? True Peace will never be achieved out of fear an ignorance.

No, it's morally apprehensive no matter what.

and if men make pvssy their god, they are also doomed Don't be deceived. Chinese women are expert in manipulating men.