Dating Chinese Girls 

You know, the fact that you can hold attention for a long period of time and speak so fluid without using a script and a bunch of cuts and edits is very impressive.

As a Chinese, if you date with a Chinese girl and she brings two or three or four friends to meet you , I think she ‘s not wanna date you , they just want a free dinner :/

When I (a Chinese guy) studied in Beijing, my Swedish and German friends (both are exchange students) asked me one day, "why are Chinese girls so straightforward". I said, "Oh, they are never straightforward to me".

As a white American athlete, my dating experiences with Chinese women were very consistent. Looking back, I didn't enjoy it because of cultural differences. They were very "bossy" and demanding and my personality just doesn't click with that well. It's weird, because in the bedroom they were very excited and things went well, but everything outside of it just felt forced and a struggle, and this experience repeated itself with every girl; they seem to place a higher value on material things than I do. Eventually I just gave up because it was obvious our cultural differences couldn't be overcome. Granted, this is small sample size but it left a bad impression that I have no interest in repeating.

If relationships depends on how much money you can throw away in dates and gifts, I think it's safe to say you're going through a rip off rather than being in a real relationship.

That thing with the gifts is 200% accurate. One girl I dated went so far as to ask for the certificate of authenticity. That's some bullshit right there.

I "dated" a Chinese woman who was about 4 years older than me. She was literally the hottest woman I've ever been with. After about a month of messing around it turned out she was married to a cop and had a son. I've never felt like a bigger piece of shit. She acted completely nonchalant about the whole thing. She just wanted to keep having her affair. I regret the whole thing.

Me, a straight woman: let's watch a video about dating women from far away china 😂

This is just 20 minutes of 100% bro talk, i love it

Having lived in China, I think the follow up to this video should deal with family relationships, i.e. if things get serious, the whole family gets involved, and I mean EVERYONE...

Yeah, I met a Chinese girl during my study abroad in the UK and she told me her parents "forced" her to play piano, ping pong, read when she was 3. They also didn't allow her to watch television her whole childhood but she told me that she never made any friends either. Those activities aren't a bad thing, but it's the pressure put on an innocent child so young that gets to me. Depressing to think about.

Can I just say the one business relationship I had with a Chinese woman, she gave me a bunch of vegetables. She knew I was vegan and wanted me to try different veggies. Nicest client ever

My wife is from china. We have been married 13 years and have two beautiful daughters. My wife is the 3rd child, with two older sisters. Her father worked for the government and was given a fine with his second child and with my wife's birth, his retirement was slashed. I am grateful that when I asked him if he regretted having my wife's birth, he said he would do it again despite those consequences and that children are a blessing. Obviously I always have the utmost respect for him due to this. My wife's family are awesome and good people.

Interesting points. Don't date or marry someone who doesn't share your values, world view, and religious beliefs. It will only end badly for you.

The gift giving part is so true. This not only happen in China but also other Asian countries. My dad is Asian and my mom is white. He’s always been blunt about gifts he doesn’t like, and asked if there’s a receipt to return or exchange. He’s does it out of good intent to save us money, but my mom gets mad at him for that.😂

I don't know if you remember having dinner with my Fiancé Gavin Cannon in China a few years back but he spoke very fondly of you and we've been obsessed with Chinese videos on RU-vid again so he sent me to your RU-vid. Thanks for sharing the knowledge and talking honestly and openly.

If 6 people pull up and expect me to pay I'll walk right out the door

Man.... i lived in China for 10years and what Winston said is 110% true.

I really like watching your videos man, you seem like an extremely nice person. I’m glad you try to help people find a relationship that will last like yours. Keep it up with the videos, and NEVER change your attitude or personality because it SO great to see someone in the world that actually cares about other people more than just themselves.

Haha, sure glad I watched this one. I've been married to my Chinese (Dalian) wife now for 19 years, and I STILL managed to learn something from you. You hit the nail on the head about 'gifts". I was always puzzled why she could be so sweet about many things, but such an ingrate about receiving a gift. Your observations and explanations are spot on. So, after a few bent feelings, I decided to just giver her the stuffed red envelope, and that solved everything.

These are by far the most unbiased videos, not only about china, but out of RU-vid and I’d even go as far as saying any means of media. Keep up the good work. Never go to either ends of opinion and spread hatred in this world. Objectivity is rare in modern society. - Supporter as a chinese south African that just moved to shanghai to study.

Very interesting. My wife wasn't like that at all. She wanted to save money and was very modest. Didn't expect me to order lots of expensive dishes etc. We also went out one on one when we first started dating. Also I bucked the trend and only found one Chinese girl. We are still married 11 years on :)

Followed your channel for a few years now Winston. As always, really great, honest content & needs to be heard. Fine work.

I love videos like this, honestly sharing the inner workings of another culture. Thanks.

You are so easy to watch and listen to. You demeanor is magnetic. Thank you for opening what is otherwise a challenging country to candidly learn about. Stay awesome always and cheers from California!

I've been dating a Chinese lady for about 6 weeks now and what you say is on point. They can be very blunt but also very caring.

That story about the chap from the UK really was a tearjerker ngl

Dude, I’m hooked on your videos. You seem very objective, well spoken, educated and honest. I’m going to continue to watch, but from someone who watches a lot of videos yours are great.

My wife is Chinese I met her on QQ,married for 7 years,our son is 7 years old.we have had our ups and downs,I did not have much money when we met.our marriage is not perfect we have communication problems sometimes.but I love my wife very much and would not change it for anything else. I always come home to her I dont drink or smoke not a party animal.she is not a gold digger,I do give her my salary every month she saves the money as we want to get an apartment in th e future. she really knows all my moods,what bands I like,the other day she bought a rolling stones t.shirt for herself,very cool.

Winston spilling the tea on dating behind the great firewall.

Very interesting and I like how accurately you choose the words not saying anything bad about people, but still getting the point

Thank you, I really enjoy watching your videos. I found this video to be very frank and honest and I am sure will help many people out there. Keep up the good work.

I love how honest you were about your experiences.. Like the gifts thing.. That's gotta hurt! I personally am a very appreciative person and couldn't ever imagine rejecting a gift from someone or saying I didn't like it, Unless they purposely made it very horrible!

11:40 That literally happened to me in the mountains of Vietnam, these tribal people have actual smartphones but take pictures of me as if I'm some sort of mythical creature.

Thank you for your honesty. Even though it hurts, it's the truth which is what needs to be heard

No cuts in videos are the best and most natural,lovw the content

Ah Winston, you do such a nice job with your videos. I'm enjoying my time teaching on the mainland in Nanjing. I watched a lot of your stuff prior to moving here. Love your insightful commentary. Stay Awesome my friend.

Enjoyed this video. Unlike the others where you’re finding fault in everything. Keep em coming. With all of the problems in the world, I think most of us are looking for good stuff to watch rather than the stuff that makes us depressed or helpless. So thumbs up!

I really appreciate your honesty and openness. So many youtubers talk too loud and over edit... maybe it’s an American thing.

I dated and eventually married a Korean girl (I'm from New Zealand). The whole food sharing thing was difficult at first but I soon got used to it and now enjoy the variety.

I love to hear this guy speak! Thanks for the info and keep up the great work.

I remember buying you a beer (online) back in the day.. stay awesome mate!

Amazing content mate! Cheers and keep up the great work. You are an amazing and genuine speaker!!

This is the guy that you'd want to have beers with and tons of stories for hours.

Fantastic video, one of your best really. Solid stuff from start to finish.

The bit Winston goes on about having the girl order food that was crazy expensive, I had a very similar experience. I had only been in China a couple weeks and a girl asked me out on a date. This was in Xiamen, Fujian province back in early 2000's. Went to a nicer seafood restaurant and because I didn't read Chinese at that time suggested she order. Now, I don't remember the mandarin name of this dish but it translated to something like 'Buddha jumps over the wall'. The story of this name is that Buddha or a monk was walking past a wall and the smell of this dish cooking on the other side drove his appetite mad so he jumped the wall to get some. The ingredients of this dish is basically every crazy expensive seafood animal you can think of made into a stew/soup. Sea cucumber, shark fin, abalone, etc, etc. Tasted terrible. Price tag was crazy. Think cafe in a Hermes or Fendi store price tag. Needless to say, the date with this girl didn't go very smoothly after I got the bill. Her not asking if something that extravagant was OK to order was what perturbed me.

That was a very insightful and accurate description of Dating in Asia. You articulate your experiences very well. I first saw you in a Video about the Housing crisis in China. It interested me how you get your information. So I decided to watch more of your videos. You can't imagine my surprise when I heard your story. How closely it resembles my own experience. Except of course how you ended up there and how I ended up there are quite different. The more I have heard of your experiences the more I am stunned how similar it is to my own. Not only similar experiences, but I also hold similar values as you do. With expat friends the same as you describe with your expat friends. Mine is not a success story though. It still weighs heavy on me many of the things that I experienced. I did spend quite some time in China and was also Engaged to a Chinese woman. But whilst I was back in Australia preparing for the Wedding she informed me she married a guy in Singapore. But the experience I am talking about acutally happened to me in Vietnam. I ended up in Vientam under strange circumstances and was robbed and left for dead. But I was determined not to let it defeat me. For almost a yeaar I had no idea where I was, no money, no computers, iPhones or technology. I had no money to get any. I had no grasp of the language and no one where I was could speak English. I will make it short. After almost a year a guy came to my little concrete room and asked me to teach Engliish at his school. He heard about what happened. I ended up staying for 5 years in Vientam. Through many trials and errors. I have found VIetnam now to be a second if not a first home for me. My story with Vietnam started in 2008 and continues to this day.

I love your videos, very informative, you provide a lot of information about Asian cultures.

I don’t even understand REGULAR women much less CHINESE women

I have been watching your videos for years and decided to subscribe today. You have a way about you, a je ne sais quoi, that makes your videos compelling. Keep up the good work. It's great to 'see' a China, that simply cannot be conveyed by reading articles, books or newspapers.

Man your content is so interesting and real

Very sensitive and humble. Thank you for your analysis of China and the Chinese. It's always great to watch your videos and those in common with laowhy. Cheers!

In the west, you see one guy eating dinner with 5 girls you assume he is gay. In China, you see that situation... first date bro?

Word on the cut Fella, damn straight up really smart and the best dating information, a guy needs to know about, if he's going to be dating a Chinese woman. Keep on Staying Awesome Winston.

Very interesting, been watching a lot of your videos recently as they're very educational / eye opening about China.

Your take on this subject is exactly like it is in Japan where I lived and worked for many many years.

Bless your candor, Winston. Too many people avoid discussing the gritty details of relationships that require a painful honesty and consequently, are not spoken of. Disconcerting as this is, a full diet of fluff pieces, never comes close enough to the truth to matter, when it should matter. When I need to listen to something meaningful, I can always turn to you or laowhy86. Good job as always. W

A window into China without all the political nonsense. Good content Serp, you are a stellar vlogger whose modesty is refreshing to listen to. You always are the good reporter who tells the facts as you see them.

Thanks very in-depth info on taboo topics in China.

This was so interesting. Thank you.

dude, I'm still getting used to seeing you with "long" hair, nice vid, thanks for sharing.

I just realized that I was unsubscribed to this channel... And I have been a subscriber for YEARS.

New subscriber here, really enjoying the content information. I have been dating a mainland Chinese woman for about 9 months, she is here studying English in the US, successful business woman. I am planning to visit China this summer with her to visit her family and it a bag of mixed feelings of excitement and nervousness. Will be watching more of your videos because they are both putting my mind at ease and showing me some of the real things I can expect. Thank you for doing what you do.

Your vids are always tagged with "Listenable" a rare quality thing on YT.

Winston, I could tell you countless stories about my 9 years in Hong Kong, so many that we'd need two days and many beers to get it all out on the table. Everything you said is true. One thing I learned fairly quick was that I wouldn't want to be a 'white guy' in Hong Kong. It would take you many days, even weeks, to figure out the woman's true motives and character. At least as a darker-skinned individual you know where you stand. Indians, Africans, Filipinos, Indonesians, Thais are looked down upon and treated accordingly. But if you have a US or British passport, and are white, or a teacher, then you get a lot more consideration. I was indeed fortunate to have found my Chinese relationship which lasted 9 years. Another fantastic video.

Not so much in big cities like Shanghai, You would find more independent women who hate relying on men for everything. That depends also on individual upbringing. Some families spoil their kids or teach them bad habits resulting in self-entitled childish grown-ups.

I appreciate all your knowledge. You are awesome.

I lived in Ningbo from 97-98. I taught English and had a great time. My biggest mistake was my laziness when it came to learning the language and was a barrier for myself. I dated several girls and I was surprised when they would give me a gift it would always be an expensive name brand item like sunglasses, clothes, or a watch. Back then restaurants were very cheap when I did dine out, but not very often. My salary was small and so were my expenses. When I left, new highways were being built with very few cars. Most people were riding on bikes and motorcycles and used public transportation. I'd be afraid to see the changes today.

It is very easy if you have a certain "look" . I have a blue/green eyed male Swedish friend who told me that a Asian or Hispanic (can't remember) female offered him money to sleep with her and make her pregnant and he wouldn't have to help her raise it because she just wanted her baby to have colored eyes. 1. He already had an Asian girlfriend. 2. He wasn't about to fall for that "you don't have to worry about raising it" okey doke. 🤣😂

You have a wealth of information to share with the west about china. Thanks as always for the video.

You're a cool dude Winston ... I thoroughly enjoy your videos!

I love your videos man, thanks

Thank you for this frank discussion whcih applies to all countries.

You look happier than you were in China Winston. I'm glad you got out.

That ves very helpful information. Respect you 🤗

Been binge watching your videos. I find them very interesting. I see you updated your tech from VHS to mini-Disc. :D

Only visited 7 times. Had a traditional mainland girl. All the Points are stop on! At first I thought she was crazy or heartless but quickly found out.. that’s just how they are. Especially the gift thing Mann.... imagine spending a lot of money for a gift and really plan a nice surprise, these girls will often just say “ I don’t like it “ it can make any man sink a bit. My tip would be to go after girls who have or is studying abroad. Some have family trouble but many I met has been very much against the traditional way of China. The best chinese girls are the ones who are in between Chinese and western in my opinion.

Having been to China and marrying a mainlander everything that Winston says is fact. Chinese women are a different breed compared to western women. In some ways good, in others not so good. The goods: 1.) They age astonishingly well compared to western women. They’re also more fit due to a better diet. 2.) They take relationships far more seriously compared to western women. 3.) They’re very blunt. While this can suck at times, you’re never left wondering. The bads: 1.) $$$. You will quickly figure out that money is the highest of priorities for Chinese women. If you ever doubt the existence of Hypergamy, a Chinese gal will cure you of that. 2.) See above. 3.) Family dynamics. If you marry a Chinese gal, you’re effectively marrying her parents too. This can be good or bad. Thankfully I get along very well with my in-laws so it isn’t an issue. But be warned, if you move her here, the parents will eventually follow.

Interesting topic, thanks for sharing your experiences.

Thank you for such a concise, clear, honest conversation. I intend to follow you for these qualities. FYI, I’m a very happily married old man

winston: "foreigners are exotic in china" me: **being asian born american** ಠ_ಠ

I am married to a chinese woman who was raised and lived most of her life in Beijing. It is true that for our first date she expected me to meet her at a restaurant. But she did not expect me to pay and did not order lots of food. She knew that I was not rich and did not try to make me feel that I should pay. She is a very loving woman who tries hard to make my life better. Of course, she expects me to do what needs to be done in the house as far as maintenance and repair, doing the garbage duty etc., and she expects gifts at her birthdays, on Valentine day and on new years, but she is very loving and is very good at cooking chinese food and make the house a warm place for us. Whenever we go out at a restaurant with her brother and sister-in-law, it is a fight when it comes to paying for the meal, he always insists on paying. She says it is the Chinese tradition to make a show at wanting to pay but one should play with it and insist back on paying. It becomes a mental tug of war and my wife tells me I should insist more and actually pay sometimes but let him win sometimes. That way, face is saved for both of us. At first I was always glad to let him pay but I found out that he expected me to make a fuss and was surprised to win so easily at first. So instead of actually saying : lets both pay each our way, we end up getting to the same end but in a round-about way. For the rest it is hard for me to relate because my wife had been a journalist who had travelled all over the world and we were both over 50 when we met.

You are a pandora box! Very useful u formation! Thank you!

Stay Awesome Winston!

I dated a chinese young woman about 26 years old when I was like 29. She and I got busy about 10 minutes into meeting the first time. That was a record for me. She later wanted to pay me 25k for marriage and I declined. She had a distinctive smell to her in that certain place, not horrendous just a bit unique. She had some fabulous skills if you know what I mean. After I got married for real she still pursued me with notes in the mailbox and a few phone calls. After like 3 rejections post marriage she finally left me alone.

Good evening Winston. My husband brought up an interesting question. As you explained the facts of dating from a males perspective, he was quite taken aback by some if the situations you described. Then he said "If that happens to the guys, I wonder what happens to business women that come there." He is a compassionate man and is truly concerned and even troubled by what their experience would be. Maybe another video answering this is in order. We have always loved and respected you and your work. Blessings of health, safety, happiness and breathable air to you and yours. Steven and Janice Washington state USA

I come here so often. Great video again.

You are very right, and I had the experience to visit China more than 10 times.

We need to know more about cultural differences

I live in New Zealand, and have been living with my Chinese girl friend for 2 years now. She's been here for 10 years, has very good English, and has become a lot more westernized. However, If i mention anything bad about china, she gets super butt hurt. I tried to show her this video, and she sat on the couch arms crossed, getting angrier and angrier. Now I was born in NZ, but i know it is far from perfect, I always mention things that could be improved, or issues with the country. It just really triggers me how blind Chinese people are to whats happening in their own country. No country/system is perfect, but acknowledging what is wrong without getting irrationally emotional is a start.

I love your sense of humor. goood content

Great info. Thank you

By foreigners he’s talking about white guys, everybody else is bottom tier

Back in the day, I had a gf from a traditional Chinese family. She was also 2 or 3 years older than me. We had to break-up and one reason was, her parents only *want* her to date (and eventually marry) someone who is also Chinese. Though we were together *(discreetly)* for not a very long time, I still remember her. That was the only time I've ever had such a relationship.

Normally i would have skipped past this vid, glad i didn't. Was really interesting

Awesome as always

I dated two Chinese guys, when I’m on the way to meet them they asked do u mind if I invite some of my friends? And on first date there were 11of his friends and on second date there were three . So the second guy said when u eat food there should be noice and excitement that’s why he invented friends. But I personally don’t like it.

I grew up in Michigan and now live in Utah. About eight years ago, I went back to visit, and went on a date with a Taiwanese med student from my Church. She was about four years older than me, and gladly paid for both of our meals even though I had invited her. The day before I left, she called me to wish me a safe and happy flight. Either I had an exceptional woman, or Taiwanese culture has diverged significantly from the mainland in terms of dating expectations.

So true on extra schoolwork and extracurricular eating up all free time...rarely saw my Chinese friends outside of class, aside from like a yearly birthday party

Love your videos! Keep it up!